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He says - now follow this.
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You have to be discerning.
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And I know I've read
this thing 3 or 4 times,
-
so sometimes you don't catch everything
-
in the first time you read it.
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"I want to live for Christ
-
with all that is in me..."
-
Okay. You get that far...
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Again, love assumes the best.
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And you take him at his word.
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"I attended a youth group
-
which I no longer attend.
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And the youth pastor sent
me a long message."
-
So this is the youth pastor
-
to one of the young
men that was attending.
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"In it, he said I was a Pharisee.
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He called me stubborn.
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He called me judgmental, rude,
-
cruel, toxic, and prideful."
-
I mean, to even get one of those words
-
is not good,
-
but when a pastor gives
you all those words...
-
"He said this was feedback
-
he received from others."
-
And then the guy admits,
-
"those who aren't Christians
have told me things like this."
-
So this isn't the first guy
that's told him this.
-
And then he admits this too:
-
"I'm sure there are just as many
Christians who think this..."
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about him.
-
And then he says this,
-
"Obviously, there is a disconnect here.
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I've watched you guys at I'll Be Honest.
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I read the Puritans.
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I read ten chapters a day of Scripture."
-
And then he says this:
-
"I don't see how someone
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could be saturated with so much truth
-
and yet be accused of things like this."
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If you're discerning, I hope you recognize
-
there's something really wrong with that.
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"I love God.
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I love His Word.
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And my life has drastically changed
-
since my conversion."
-
And then he admits this:
-
"Prayer is a weak area in my life.
-
So maybe my problem is there.
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If not, where else could it be?
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I bear marks of truly being saved,
-
and those who are calling
me all these things
-
don't deny that I'm saved.
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But, could it be that I'm still lost?
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I don't want to be bringing
-
so much dishonor to God with these things,
-
so please help."
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Mario, what do you tell him?
-
(from the room)
-
That's tough.
-
Because, those people could be
-
testifying to right things in his life,
-
but they could also be resisting truth.
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Tim: Let me just ask this question.
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Is it likely that multiple
people telling you -
-
because he admits that other people
-
have told him similar things.
-
When you have multiple people telling you
-
that you are Pharisaical, stubborn,
-
judgmental, rude, cruel,
toxic, and prideful,
-
is it likely that there's not
a shred of truth to it?
-
(from the room)
-
Sounds like a cage-stager.
-
Tim: Sounds like what?
-
(from the room)
He's in a cage stage a little bit.
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Tim: Cage stage?
-
(from the room)
In Calvinism, when you first learn
-
about Calvinism or truths, it's very easy
-
to be obnoxious about it
-
and basically beat everybody around you.
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Tim: Now, he doesn't
bring that out specifically.
-
(from the room)
the fact he said those
-
who aren't Christians
have told me these things -
-
to me, that holds even more
weight than the Christians.
-
That unbelievers are telling
him these same things -
-
that he's judgmental, stubborn, toxic...
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Tim: But let's pick up on this.
-
How many of you were, in the beginning
-
when you came to kind of embrace
-
the doctrines of grace - if you have -
-
maybe some of you haven't;
-
but how many of you were
-
somewhat obnoxious with it?
-
Okay, so we've got hands,
but let me ask you.
-
Even... and so was I.
-
Even in that state
-
as obnoxious as you were,
-
did people say this about you?
-
Did they call you Pharisaical, stubborn,
-
judgmental, rude, cruel,
toxic, and prideful?
-
(from the room)
Not all at the same time.
-
Tim: Well, see, I actually don't remember
-
anybody using those words to describe me.
-
(from the room)
I just got told that I'm preaching
-
another Gospel.
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Tim: Well, right. That was more the thing.
-
Well, it can't be true.
-
Somebody told me,
-
"I hope you'll be happy
in heaven by yourself."
-
Because it seemed so narrow.
-
(from the room)
You told me I was judgmental.
-
But that was after about a year
and a half of being a Christian.
-
So we don't know much about this pastor.
-
He might be solid on
the same page doctrinally.
-
Tim: Oh, he could be.
-
(incomplete thought)
-
(from the room)
Did you mention the kids age?
-
Or did you skip that?
Tim: I skipped it.
-
(from the room)
To me, that's interesting too.
-
Tim: He's 14.
-
That softened people.
-
I purposely left it out for that reason.
-
But at 14, you're that proud, obnoxious,
-
toxic? I mean that word!
-
That's a bad word.
-
What's that?
-
(from the room)
Would it be easier for him
-
to fall into that because he's so young?
-
Tim: Perhaps.
-
(from the room)
If he was 24, he'd have ten more years
-
of maturing as a person.
-
Tim: But here's one of the things he says.
-
"I watch you guys on I'll Be Honest.
-
I read the Puritans and I read
-
ten chapters a day of Scripture."
-
Now that's kind of
Pharisaical right there.
-
It's like throwing out there:
-
"I read ten chapters a day."
-
And then to say, "I don't see how
-
someone could be saturated
with so much truth
-
and yet be accused of things like this."
-
Well, see, that's lacking discernment.
-
That's very ignorant.
-
(from the room)
He's just immature.
-
But I think he's trying
to protect himself.
-
He's 14 in this world.
-
I don't know what kind
of school he goes to,
-
but I think if he goes to public school,
-
I can see myself trying to
wrap myself in the Word
-
and just standing on it.
-
So he's immature, but at the same time,
-
I think he's trying to
stand for what is right.
-
That's a lot of negative
words in one sentence.
-
Tim: He's 14. He's a baby.
-
So we don't excuse it,
-
but maybe we are a little softer.
-
He needs guidance. Okay.
-
What guidance are we going to give him?
-
Because he's probably watching.
-
Or he probably will watch
if James puts this up.
-
(unintelligible)
-
Tim: Well, surrounding himself
-
with those who are very gracious
-
would be a good influence;
-
it would be a good starting point.
-
And you know, there's a possibility
-
that he doesn't have saved parents.
-
He was converted maybe
not through family means.
-
(Incomplete thought)
-
He doesn't talk about
his parental situation.
-
But is there anything in Scripture
-
that would lead us to believe
-
that we become like those we hang around?
-
Can anybody quote some place?
-
(unintelligible)
-
Well, that's the negative,
-
but how about the positive?
-
(unintelligible)
-
He who walks with the wise is wise.
-
(unintelligible)
-
Yeah, it's definitely a biblical reality.
-
And there's the reality of imitation.
-
We're to imitate the faith of people.
-
And we're very much called
-
to imitate those who imitate Christ.
-
We're very much called to find people -
-
you know, it's kind of
the leaven principle.
-
Leaven leavens the lump.
-
But it's amazing when
you have godly people -
-
you know how often people
-
came away from just
sitting for a little bit
-
and talking to Martyn Lloyd-Jones?
-
They said you just felt a
greater nearness to God.
-
I remember Charles and Mona said
-
that they were in Wales,
-
and a friend of Lloyd-Jones -
-
and I can't recall his name right off,
-
was it McMillan?
-
They spent a little time with him
-
and they said it was like
-
the fragrance of Christ
stayed with them for awhile.
-
There's impact in being around people.
-
I noticed at the Denton conference -
-
you know, I'd look around
-
and I'd look to see where Jared was.
-
It wasn't really that I was
looking to see where he was;
-
it was just I would notice,
-
hey, there's Charles. There's Jared.
-
Hey, there's Geoffrey Thomas.
There's Jared.
-
The guy's walking around
with all the preachers.
-
Well, you know there's something to that.
-
And if we surround ourselves
-
with the godliest people that we can,
-
it's really going to have
an impact on our life.
-
That would be one thing to tell him.
-
Being in a church where you have
-
those kind of elders;
-
men whose faith is worth imitating.
-
What else would you tell him?
-
(from the room)
I would say something that I learned
-
earlier in my walk.
-
He mentioned the fact that
he reads a lot of Puritans.
-
(unintelligible)
-
Maybe sometimes you need
to lay off those books
-
and go to Scripture and see how
-
you're supposed to be a Christian.
-
That helped me because I got into
-
reading all this, and
Mack told me one day,
-
hey, brother, how about you
just lay off those books
-
and just focus on the Bible itself
-
and that greatly helped me.
-
Tim: And he says, "I don't see how
-
someone could be saturated
with so much truth
-
and yet be accused of things like this."
-
I would say to him
-
you can be saturated with a lot of truth,
-
but if you're not living the truth;
-
if you actually are being mean and cruel
-
and toxic and rude and Pharisaical,
-
that's why you're being accused of it.
-
How much intake of Puritans
-
or how much intake of Scripture
-
isn't the issue.
-
Because there is a knowledge,
-
there's a gaining of intellect
that simply puffs up.
-
It produces pride.
-
One of the things that can happen
-
is we gain information, and
we become judgmental.
-
We judge other people.
-
Or we look down on other people
-
because they don't know what we know.
-
But, what we want to aim for
-
is to be transformed by this truth.
-
And then he does admit this too.
-
He admits that his
prayer life isn't very good.
-
See, that's another indication of pride,
-
because desperate people,
-
needy people pray.
-
Proud people don't need the Lord.
-
They don't need to pray.
-
When people know:
-
"Lord, I can't do this without You,"
-
you find them out in the field praying
-
or in their closet praying.
-
People who can bypass prayer,
-
that is a real evidence of weakness,
-
immaturity, pride,
self-sufficiency, independence.
-
Anybody say anything else?
-
(from the room)
-
I mean, that balance is difficult.
-
That balance that James and yourself
-
were talking about last Sunday.
-
That's a difficult thing.
-
And we need a lot of help
from the Holy Spirit
-
to find balance. It's tough.
-
Tim: One of the things
-
that we need to remember too -
-
he's not actually saying
that this has to do
-
with embracing the sovereignty of God
-
or the doctrines of grace.
-
But I will say this,
-
it's very interesting to me,
-
when I was studying -
-
I did a number of messages,
-
six messages here at GCC
-
on hyper-Calvinism several years back,
-
and what was very interesting to me
-
is that Calvin in his "Institutes" -
-
he started by having election first
-
and then the doctrine of justification.
-
Now think about it -
-
that's the order in which they happen.
-
In eternity past, God chooses.
-
In the course of time, we believe
-
and are justified by
faith in Jesus Christ.
-
So he put them in ordo salutis fashion.
-
But you know what he recognized?
-
He recognized the doctrine of election
-
is a stumbling block for the lost.
-
And he changed the chapters.
-
He put justification by
faith before election.
-
There's a lot of wisdom to that.
-
A lot of people come
across the doctrines of grace
-
and you know what they want to do?
-
They want to lost grandma
-
and start talking Romans 9.
-
That's not what you want to do.
-
You want to go to the text you went to.
-
"Whoever thirsts..."
-
You want to preach the Gospel to them.
-
Banging people over the head
with election doesn't save them.
-
People need to trust Christ.
-
You need to show them Christ.
-
You need to show them
the beauties of Christ.
-
You need to put Him up as
the only hope of mankind.
-
Because really, when it comes
to the responsibility of men,
-
their responsibility is: God commands
all men everywhere to repent.
-
That's their responsibility.
-
Because what happens is
-
I thank the Lord,
-
I was not bogged down by election
-
and predestination.
-
I came across "The Gospel
According to Jesus,"
-
and I was hit full blast with the Gospel
-
out of Matthew's Gospel primarily.
-
I didn't know those things
-
and so they weren't a stumbling block;
-
they weren't a snare to me.
-
But I've seen people get
so ensnared by that.
-
But it's a non-issue.
-
You say why? If I'm not
chosen, I can't be saved!
-
Technically speaking, yes, that's true.
-
But, the reality of Scripture
-
is that if you come to Christ,
-
He's not going to cast you out.
-
If you thirst, drink.
-
That's what Scripture says.
-
Whosoever... if you're thirsty, drink.
-
So you don't want to hit people
-
with this thought -
-
and you know what Jared was just saying?
-
This last Sunday he preached out of John 7
-
and when he was all done,
-
a woman came up and said,
"I didn't like that message,
-
because you didn't emphasize
the fact that God chooses us."
-
See, that is the hyper-
Calvinism right there.
-
Because you know what happens?
-
You tell the sinner,
-
"Well, you can only
be saved if you're elect."
-
And so you know what they do?
-
Now they're going to sit there
-
and they're going to wait
to see if they're elect.
-
And they're going to think it's useless
-
to do anything else
-
until I can figure out if I'm elect.
-
But they're never going to
figure out if they're elect.
-
When the reality is,
Jesus didn't come along
-
and say you've got to
figure out if you're elect.
-
He came along and He said,
"repent and believe the Gospel."
-
And we appeal to man's responsibility,
-
not to God's sovereignty,
-
not when we're preaching the Gospel.
-
And it's a snare.
-
I think Calvin was absolutely
right in doing what he did.
-
So we need to be careful.
-
We come to these doctrines;
-
we come to the doctrine of
the sovereignty of God.
-
But what that ought to do
-
is not be this club to beat
people over the head;
-
it ought to fuel your confidence
-
that when you take the
Gospel and preach it,
-
it's going to be the power
of God unto salvation.
-
People are going to get saved.
-
Because God's going to see
to it that people get saved.
-
But they're going to get saved
-
as you lift up Christ.
-
Remember what Christ said.
-
It's just like out there
in the wilderness,
-
you've got all these fiery serpents
and they're biting people
-
and what happened?
-
Moses, make a brazen serpent.
-
And he lifted it up on a pole,
-
and as many as looked -
-
and He said in the same way,
-
the Son of Man is going to be lifted up,
-
and whoever looks on Him and believes,
-
they're going to be saved.
-
That's what we want to show people.
-
Christ is your only hope.
-
Scripture does not say
election is your only hope.
-
Christ is your only hope.
-
(incomplete thought)
-
Yes, in a way, I know you could argue,
-
well, election does bring hope.
-
And it does.
-
It brings certainty to the reality
-
that our Gospel is going to produce fruit.
-
(from the room)
-
Brother, I heard Lloyd-Jones in his book,
-
"What is an Evangelical?"
-
And he boldly stated,
"yes, I'm a Calvinist,
-
but I wouldn't put predestination
-
and election under the essentials."
-
He said it's not essential.
-
It's the resurrection, being born again,
-
that's what essential.
-
Tim: Any other word for young Zechariah?
-
Okay.
-
You'd warn him against pride.
-
(from the room)
-
Maybe take him the
Scripture about being humble.
-
Isaiah 66.
-
"This is the one to whom I will look,
-
he who is humble and contrite in spirit
-
and trembles at My Word."
-
Tim: The problem with
pride is that it's blind.
-
The problem with pride
is that it exalts self.
-
And when you're exalting yourself,
-
you're right in your own eyes.
-
And so, that's the difficulty.
-
(from the room)
-
I'd probably ask him if he's gone
-
to his youth pastor
-
and asked him why he said those things.
-
(unintelligible)
-
Tim: Well, I have a feeling
-
there is definitely weight behind it.
-
There's truth behind it.
-
And I guess that's one
of the things I'd say to him
-
is take these things as being true,
-
and humble yourself.
-
Repent of these things.
-
Humble yourself before the Lord.