Mis-fit: Why we aren’t thriving at work and what to do about it | Moe Carrick | TEDxSanJuanIsland
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0:16 - 0:17So, I'm curious.
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0:18 - 0:22How many people out there
have ever felt that pit -
0:22 - 0:26of dread and anxiety
in your stomach on Sunday night -
0:26 - 0:29when you're getting ready
to get back to work on Monday? -
0:29 - 0:31A show of hands.
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0:32 - 0:35And has anyone here ever had a job
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0:35 - 0:37that you actually hated?
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0:38 - 0:39A show of hands.
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0:41 - 0:42I can relate.
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0:44 - 0:46I remember a job that I had
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0:46 - 0:49where the cubicle where I worked
in the office building -
0:49 - 0:51looked out over a marina.
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0:52 - 0:55I was a training specialist
for a large cellular company -
0:55 - 0:57on the shores of Lake Washington,
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0:57 - 0:58and on sunny days,
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0:58 - 1:01people would often wander about the docks
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1:01 - 1:03on a break or on a day off.
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1:03 - 1:06I would sometimes pull myself
away from my work -
1:06 - 1:08and watch them.
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1:09 - 1:12I made up stories about them in my head.
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1:12 - 1:15I imagined where they lived -
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1:15 - 1:16I know it's kind of odd -
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1:16 - 1:21their families, and most of all,
their work situation. -
1:22 - 1:24I would project onto their happy faces
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1:24 - 1:27the kinds of work that happy people did.
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1:28 - 1:32I imagined them with bosses
that they respected, -
1:33 - 1:35colleagues whom they trusted,
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1:35 - 1:38and doing work that mattered.
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1:39 - 1:42Eventually, I'd have to pull my eyes away
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1:42 - 1:46from the bucolic scene
in front of me, back to my work. -
1:47 - 1:48And I would often notice
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1:48 - 1:51the big white wall clock above,
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1:51 - 1:55and I would watch the minute hand slowly
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1:55 - 1:58tick forward towards quitting time.
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2:00 - 2:04I was very unhappy at that job.
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2:04 - 2:06And the contrast between what I imagined
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2:06 - 2:10the people at the marina's lives to be
and what my life had actually become -
2:10 - 2:13was stark and vast.
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2:16 - 2:19I was very unhappy at that job.
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2:19 - 2:21I think my work was probably shoddy,
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2:21 - 2:25and I spent a lot of time in hiding
that I'd be caught out as a slacker. -
2:27 - 2:30That job might have been perfect
for someone else, -
2:30 - 2:33but it was making me miserable.
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2:33 - 2:37I was completely and totally mis-fit.
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2:39 - 2:42I'm an organizational
development consultant, -
2:42 - 2:47which means that I study people
in systems, mostly work, -
2:47 - 2:50and I've often asked myself the question:
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2:50 - 2:53What would be possible if everyone,
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2:53 - 2:56and I do mean everyone,
in every job around the globe, -
2:56 - 2:59actually loved their work?
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3:01 - 3:03The answer to that question,
with any luck at all, -
3:03 - 3:08might permanently alter the relationship
between employer and employee. -
3:10 - 3:16In the past 30 years, I have heard
story after story of job misery. -
3:17 - 3:19People like Mischa who said,
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3:19 - 3:24"It hurt to start a job
with such hope and optimism -
3:24 - 3:27only to find myself feeling
undermined, unsupported, -
3:27 - 3:30and feeling corrected at every turn."
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3:31 - 3:34Or Hank who said,
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3:34 - 3:40"Hating your job sucks,
and it consumes you." -
3:41 - 3:44When we're simply getting by at work,
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3:44 - 3:48our goodness and our gifts
stay completely hidden. -
3:49 - 3:53Work matters to us in so many ways
beyond our paycheck. -
3:53 - 3:58It impacts our identity,
our physical and emotional wellbeing, -
3:58 - 4:00our family relationships,
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4:00 - 4:04even our ability to interact
with our community in a healthy way. -
4:06 - 4:10And it's not just individuals
who suffer when we're mis-fit. -
4:11 - 4:17Undermotivated, unconnected
and unengaged employees -
4:17 - 4:21cost companies globally
billions of dollars in accidents, -
4:21 - 4:25errors, rework, and lost productivity.
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4:26 - 4:30Our global economy demands
that organizations grow -
4:30 - 4:34and sustain themselves over time,
and those that don't will fail. -
4:35 - 4:38The companies in every sector that make it
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4:38 - 4:42need people who come
to work there every day alive. -
4:46 - 4:49Nonetheless, despite
our collective knowing -
4:49 - 4:51that we as human beings simply do better
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4:51 - 4:53when we're happy and thriving at work,
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4:53 - 4:55workers today are really not feeling it.
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4:57 - 5:01For example, a recent Towers Perrin
study of 35,000 employees -
5:01 - 5:07showed that just a mere 17%
felt actively engaged in their jobs. -
5:10 - 5:13Gallup's most recent data revealed
that 90% of people they surveyed - -
5:13 - 5:15that's 9 out of 10 people -
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5:15 - 5:20said they were either disengaged
or actively disengaged with their work. -
5:20 - 5:24And millennials were
the least engaged of all. -
5:26 - 5:29The Energy Project's recent
Quality of Life survey -
5:29 - 5:33revealed that 50%
of the people they spoke with -
5:33 - 5:37felt emotionally depleted,
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5:37 - 5:39physically drained,
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5:39 - 5:45mentally distracted, and lacking
in meaning and purpose. -
5:48 - 5:51We can do better, and it's time.
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5:53 - 5:57In the 1700s, Scotsman Adam Smith,
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5:57 - 6:01considered by many to be the founder
of modern industrial economics, -
6:01 - 6:02professed that most of us as people
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6:02 - 6:05were motivated mostly
out of self-interest. -
6:05 - 6:07But I disagree.
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6:07 - 6:09I think as human beings
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6:09 - 6:12there's so much more
that motivates us than our pay. -
6:12 - 6:14Of course, we need to be compensated.
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6:14 - 6:18But I like the way Barry Schwartz
said it in his book "Why we work": -
6:18 - 6:21"Most of all, we want work
that's meaningful - -
6:22 - 6:26that makes a difference
to other people and ennobles us -
6:26 - 6:29at least in some small way."
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6:32 - 6:36It's important to remember
that most of the time -
6:36 - 6:40we don't receive any training
for how to find a great work-fit. -
6:41 - 6:43I mean, we're taught
how to write a resumé -
6:43 - 6:46or how to do networking,
but oftentimes - -
6:46 - 6:49I don't know about you,
but when I receive a job offer, -
6:49 - 6:52I just breathe a sigh of relief
at being wanted, -
6:52 - 6:55quickly check the offer,
and set a start date. -
6:57 - 7:00Even though often when we take a job,
we think of it as lasting a lifetime, -
7:00 - 7:02that's not really how it works.
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7:02 - 7:05The needs we have for work-fit
change significantly -
7:05 - 7:07over the course of our lives.
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7:07 - 7:10What matters in our 20s
is vastly different -
7:10 - 7:12than what matters to us
in our work in our 50s. -
7:13 - 7:16What if we started thinking
about our work experience -
7:16 - 7:21as more of a dynamic journey
to multiple destinations, -
7:21 - 7:24rather than a Mecca
that we visit only once? -
7:25 - 7:27In fact, most of our children
and grandchildren -
7:27 - 7:30aren't going to have
one or two cornerstone careers, -
7:30 - 7:34they're going to have 12 or 15
or more job opportunities. -
7:36 - 7:39The imperative for being able
to assess work-fit, -
7:39 - 7:41a place that brings out
our absolute best, -
7:41 - 7:42has never been higher.
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7:44 - 7:49But happiness at work is not
the magical result of getting lucky, -
7:49 - 7:53although that is often how it feels
when we find a job we love. -
7:54 - 7:57Our research has shown
two key elements to finding work-fit, -
7:57 - 7:59and the first one is you.
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8:00 - 8:01Self-awareness.
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8:02 - 8:07The second ingredient to work-fit
is your ability to assess a workplace -
8:07 - 8:09as being one that's right for you.
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8:09 - 8:11It seems straightforward, right?
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8:12 - 8:14These two things, self-awareness
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8:14 - 8:17and the ability to assess
an organization from the outside, -
8:17 - 8:20is what adds up to a great work-fit.
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8:21 - 8:24So, let's start by looking at you.
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8:24 - 8:26Self-awareness.
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8:27 - 8:30This sounds easier than it actually is.
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8:30 - 8:32To deeply know ourselves,
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8:32 - 8:36we have to examine our strengths
and our brutal weaknesses. -
8:37 - 8:40We have to look at
our motivations and our fears. -
8:41 - 8:46It takes vulnerability,
it takes courage, and it takes time. -
8:47 - 8:52I remember a blinding newsflash moment
in my own life, of self-awareness. -
8:52 - 8:55I was in university,
I was studying to be a journalist, -
8:55 - 8:58I wanted nothing more
than to work for a daily periodical. -
8:59 - 9:02And I got a job for the school newspaper,
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9:02 - 9:06and with my Steno pad in hand
I started scooping stories. -
9:06 - 9:10I wrote well, and the feedback
I got was very positive. -
9:11 - 9:15The problem I had
was the whole deadline thing. -
9:15 - 9:17(Laughter)
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9:17 - 9:20I'm kind of hardwired
to be a procrastinator, -
9:21 - 9:24and I have a serious case
of FOMO most of the time. -
9:25 - 9:29So a great story idea for me on Friday,
by Monday often was boring. -
9:30 - 9:34My editor was always writing me
about deadlines. -
9:36 - 9:39Despite how painful it was
to let go of a dream I had -
9:39 - 9:42for a number of years
of working for a daily paper, -
9:42 - 9:46I had to admit that
a deadline-sensitive career, -
9:46 - 9:48where deadlines ruled,
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9:48 - 9:51was probably not going to be
the best place for me. -
9:53 - 9:58That critical moment really helped me
make some better decisions at a young age. -
9:59 - 10:01It was a self-awareness moment.
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10:02 - 10:06Remember that when we're mis-fit
at work, it's not that we're broken. -
10:06 - 10:08Although it often feels that way.
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10:08 - 10:11What's often happening
is simply that the alchemy -
10:11 - 10:16between us, or you,
and your workplace, is mis-fit. -
10:18 - 10:21Remember that just because
a job works really well -
10:21 - 10:24at Google or Apple for someone
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10:24 - 10:27doesn't mean that you're going
to find a great fit there. -
10:29 - 10:32So let's look at part two
of finding a great work-fit: -
10:32 - 10:35the ability to assess
a workplace from the outside. -
10:36 - 10:39Our research has identified six elements
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10:39 - 10:42that matter to most of us
when it comes to work-fit, -
10:42 - 10:43and we'll look at them one at a time.
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10:44 - 10:46These elements aren't presented
in any particular order, -
10:46 - 10:48and even in the course of my life,
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10:48 - 10:51the elements have shifted
very much in terms of priority. -
10:51 - 10:56You'll probably recognize that
depending on what age group you represent. -
10:56 - 11:00The first element we have discovered
is the element of work-fit -
11:00 - 11:01that we call meaning.
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11:02 - 11:05Meaning has to do
with the extent to which you feel -
11:05 - 11:09that what you do matters
to someone or something. -
11:11 - 11:15Job fit is the extent to which
your skills and experience -
11:15 - 11:18are well-matched to the job
responsibilities that you have -
11:18 - 11:20and to your background.
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11:22 - 11:26Culture fit happens
when our values and beliefs -
11:26 - 11:30really sync up with the professed
and practiced values and beliefs -
11:30 - 11:32of the organization where we work.
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11:34 - 11:38The fourth is relationship fit,
which is when we actually like -
11:38 - 11:42and respect the people
that we work for and with. -
11:44 - 11:48Lifestyle fit is that magical
thing that happens -
11:48 - 11:50when the way we dream of our life being
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11:50 - 11:55actually is supported by the policies
and practices of our employer. -
11:56 - 12:01And finally, financial fit
is when we feel we're paid fairly, -
12:01 - 12:03and we can make ends meet.
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12:04 - 12:08When I graduated from college,
the two elements we talked about the most -
12:08 - 12:11were job fit and financial fit.
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12:11 - 12:14If you could find a job that paid,
that was a good thing. -
12:14 - 12:18But in the past 30 or more years,
the currencies have really shifted, -
12:18 - 12:23with culture, meaning, relationship,
and lifestyle elevating in importance. -
12:24 - 12:27Let's look at a couple of examples
of how these elements might interplay -
12:27 - 12:29during a different stage of life.
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12:30 - 12:33Early in my career,
I worked for Christine. -
12:33 - 12:37She was well-renowned in our field,
and I respected her greatly. -
12:37 - 12:40At first, our relationship
was a match made in heaven - -
12:40 - 12:43I was eager to please
and she liked the output. -
12:43 - 12:46But over time, cracks
appeared in our relationship. -
12:47 - 12:50Her perfectionism
created a culture of fear. -
12:51 - 12:54Even newbie mistakes that I made,
she was harshly critical of. -
12:54 - 12:58It was just a matter of time before
I noticed I was scanning the want ads -
12:58 - 13:00on Sundays - it's how
we did it back then - -
13:00 - 13:02to find a different job.
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13:03 - 13:08In that situation, that job met
my financial needs in my early 20s. -
13:08 - 13:10It had a lot of meaning for me.
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13:10 - 13:13I was a drug and alcohol counselor,
and that mattered. -
13:15 - 13:19And the lifestyle perfectly suited
the stage of life I was in. -
13:19 - 13:22The problem was
my relationship with Christine, -
13:22 - 13:24which became broken and fragmented,
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13:24 - 13:26that ultimately meant I had to leave.
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13:27 - 13:28Let's look at one more example.
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13:29 - 13:31In mid-career, I worked
for an organization -
13:31 - 13:34that professed to have
very strong family values. -
13:34 - 13:39But when I came back
from the birth of my first child, -
13:39 - 13:43the long work hours, inflexibility
around start and end times, -
13:43 - 13:48and a virtual desert of storytelling
about parents that had succeeded there, -
13:48 - 13:51left me feeling very self-conscious
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13:51 - 13:52and mis-fit.
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13:53 - 13:57My son's first illness required
heartbreaking compromises -
13:57 - 14:00to the kind of mother that I wanted to be.
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14:00 - 14:04I had felt very fit there
before I was a parent -
14:04 - 14:07and completely mis-fit, culturally, after.
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14:08 - 14:12That job was perfectly suited
to my experience and my education, -
14:12 - 14:15I loved and respected
my boss and my colleagues, -
14:16 - 14:18and the financial fit was very high.
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14:18 - 14:21But ultimately, the culture
of that organization -
14:21 - 14:25did not match the kinds
of needs that I had -
14:25 - 14:29and what mattered to me at that stage
of my life as a young mother. -
14:33 - 14:37Think about your assessment
of an organization from the outside -
14:37 - 14:39as like a detective exercise.
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14:39 - 14:42It's a sleuth-like effort to figure out,
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14:42 - 14:46can my gifts actually show up here?
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14:47 - 14:50Pay attention to how they do things
at that organization, -
14:50 - 14:52talk to everyone you can.
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14:53 - 14:55Notice how they do things,
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14:55 - 14:57and if you think -
against those six elements - -
14:57 - 14:59your best would be activated there.
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15:01 - 15:04Pay attention as if
your life depended on it -
15:04 - 15:08because, after all, the quality
of your life actually does. -
15:09 - 15:12I continue to be amazed
at how many people, -
15:12 - 15:14when I tell them
what I'm working on with work-fit, -
15:14 - 15:16are eager to tell me their story,
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15:16 - 15:19often of mis-fit but sometimes of fit.
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15:19 - 15:21I love hearing the success stories.
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15:21 - 15:23Take John, for example.
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15:23 - 15:25John was a professional athlete,
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15:26 - 15:28and he also worked
in high-tech in California. -
15:29 - 15:33Imagine his delight when he was able
to negotiate with his boss -
15:33 - 15:37a way to flex his schedule
so that he could train in the mornings -
15:37 - 15:41and work in his field
in the afternoons and evenings, -
15:41 - 15:42still supporting his family.
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15:43 - 15:46Or take Joanne as an example.
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15:46 - 15:50After 25 years in the field
of accounting, working for a big firm, -
15:50 - 15:53she was laid off due to downsizing.
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15:53 - 15:55It was a devastating blow.
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15:55 - 15:59It precipitated a couple of months
of painful self-reflection. -
15:59 - 16:03But ultimately, Joanne was able
to find a job for a local nonprofit, -
16:03 - 16:05still in financial services,
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16:05 - 16:08but they had a mission
that she could really get behind. -
16:09 - 16:11She did have to take a small cut in pay,
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16:11 - 16:15but it was the perfect
career-capping move for her. -
16:17 - 16:18Here's the thing.
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16:19 - 16:24Organizations are what they are,
and they're going to do what they do. -
16:24 - 16:28In fact, most of them
organically evolve over time. -
16:29 - 16:32What makes one company versus another
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16:32 - 16:36a great place for you to work
is all about the extent to which -
16:36 - 16:42they facilitate you bringing
your absolute best every day. -
16:44 - 16:48Now, imagine.
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16:50 - 16:54Instead of hustling to prove
to an employer that we're worthy, -
16:54 - 16:57that we elevate the importance of work-fit
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16:57 - 17:01so that we can thrive
rather than just survive, -
17:03 - 17:07I'd invite you to think about then,
what would actually be possible -
17:07 - 17:13if every worker, from front-line
to mid-management to senior executive, -
17:13 - 17:18actually woke up every day
loving their work? -
17:21 - 17:27As Kahlil Gibran once said,
"Work is love made visible." -
17:28 - 17:29Let's get to work.
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17:30 - 17:33(Applause)
- Title:
- Mis-fit: Why we aren’t thriving at work and what to do about it | Moe Carrick | TEDxSanJuanIsland
- Description:
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How can you discover a job that really matches your needs? A job that provides meaning to your life? Moe Carrick discusses how to find a job that feeds your spirit, your mind, and your heart, and provides options if you find yourself in a company or job where you are misfit.
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- English
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- Duration:
- 17:33