In praise of slowness
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0:01 - 0:03What I'd like to start off with is an observation,
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0:03 - 0:05which is that if I've learned anything over the last year,
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0:05 - 0:07it's that the supreme irony
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0:07 - 0:09of publishing a book about slowness
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0:09 - 0:11is that you have to go around promoting it really fast.
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0:12 - 0:14I seem to spend most of my time these days
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0:14 - 0:17zipping from city to city, studio to studio,
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0:17 - 0:19interview to interview,
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0:19 - 0:21serving up the book in really tiny bite-size chunks.
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0:21 - 0:23Because everyone these days
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0:23 - 0:25wants to know how to slow down,
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0:25 - 0:28but they want to know how to slow down really quickly. So ...
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0:28 - 0:30so I did a spot on CNN the other day
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0:30 - 0:33where I actually spent more time in makeup than I did talking on air.
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0:34 - 0:36And I think that -- that's not really surprising though, is it?
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0:36 - 0:38Because that's kind of the world that we live in now,
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0:38 - 0:41a world stuck in fast-forward.
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0:41 - 0:43A world obsessed with speed,
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0:43 - 0:46with doing everything faster, with cramming more and more
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0:46 - 0:48into less and less time.
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0:48 - 0:50Every moment of the day feels like
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0:50 - 0:52a race against the clock.
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0:52 - 0:54To borrow a phrase from Carrie Fisher, which is
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0:54 - 0:56in my bio there; I'll just toss it out again --
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0:56 - 0:59"These days even instant gratification takes too long." (Laughter)
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0:59 - 1:01And
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1:01 - 1:03if you think about how we to try to make things better, what do we do?
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1:03 - 1:06No, we speed them up, don't we? So we used to dial; now we speed dial.
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1:06 - 1:09We used to read; now we speed read. We used to walk; now we speed walk.
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1:09 - 1:12And of course, we used to date and now we speed date.
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1:12 - 1:15And even things that are by their very nature slow --
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1:15 - 1:18we try and speed them up too.
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1:18 - 1:20So I was in New York recently, and I walked past a gym
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1:20 - 1:22that had an advertisement in the window for a new course, a new evening course.
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1:23 - 1:26And it was for, you guessed it, speed yoga.
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1:26 - 1:29So this -- the perfect solution for time-starved professionals
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1:29 - 1:31who want to, you know, salute the sun,
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1:31 - 1:33but only want to give over about 20 minutes to it.
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1:34 - 1:36I mean, these are sort of the extreme examples,
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1:36 - 1:38and they're amusing and good to laugh at.
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1:38 - 1:40But there's a very serious point,
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1:40 - 1:43and I think that in the headlong dash of daily life,
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1:43 - 1:46we often lose sight of the damage
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1:46 - 1:49that this roadrunner form of living does to us.
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1:49 - 1:52We're so marinated in the culture of speed
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1:52 - 1:54that we almost fail to notice the toll it takes
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1:54 - 1:56on every aspect of our lives --
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1:56 - 1:58on our health, our diet, our work,
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1:58 - 2:01our relationships, the environment and our community.
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2:01 - 2:03And sometimes it takes
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2:03 - 2:05a wake-up call, doesn't it,
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2:05 - 2:08to alert us to the fact that we're hurrying through our lives,
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2:08 - 2:10instead of actually living them; that we're
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2:10 - 2:12living the fast life, instead of the good life.
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2:12 - 2:14And I think for many people, that wake-up call
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2:14 - 2:16takes the form of an illness.
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2:16 - 2:19You know, a burnout, or eventually the body says,
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2:19 - 2:21"I can't take it anymore," and throws in the towel.
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2:21 - 2:23Or maybe a relationship goes up in smoke
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2:23 - 2:25because we haven't had the time, or the patience,
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2:25 - 2:27or the tranquility,
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2:27 - 2:29to be with the other person, to listen to them.
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2:29 - 2:31And my wake-up call came when I started
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2:31 - 2:34reading bedtime stories to my son,
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2:34 - 2:36and I found that at the end of day,
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2:36 - 2:39I would go into his room and I just couldn't slow down -- you know,
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2:39 - 2:41I'd be speed reading "The Cat In The Hat."
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2:41 - 2:43I'd be -- you know, I'd be skipping lines here,
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2:43 - 2:45paragraphs there, sometimes a whole page,
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2:45 - 2:48and of course, my little boy knew the book inside out, so we would quarrel.
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2:48 - 2:51And what should have been the most relaxing, the most intimate,
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2:51 - 2:53the most tender moment of the day,
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2:53 - 2:56when a dad sits down to read to his son,
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2:56 - 2:59became instead this kind of gladiatorial battle of wills,
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2:59 - 3:01a clash between my speed
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3:01 - 3:04and his slowness.
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3:04 - 3:06And this went on for some time,
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3:06 - 3:08until I caught myself scanning a newspaper article
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3:08 - 3:10with timesaving tips for fast people.
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3:10 - 3:12And one of them made reference to a series of books called
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3:12 - 3:14"The One-Minute Bedtime Story."
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3:14 - 3:17And I wince saying those words now,
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3:17 - 3:19but my first reaction at the time was very different.
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3:19 - 3:21My first reflex was to say,
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3:21 - 3:23"Hallelujah -- what a great idea!
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3:23 - 3:26This is exactly what I'm looking for to speed up bedtime even more."
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3:26 - 3:28But thankfully,
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3:28 - 3:30a light bulb went on over my head, and my next reaction was very different,
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3:31 - 3:33and I took a step back, and I thought,
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3:33 - 3:35"Whoa -- you know, has it really come to this?
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3:35 - 3:37Am I really in such a hurry that I'm prepared
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3:37 - 3:40to fob off my son with a sound byte at the end of the day?"
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3:41 - 3:43And I put away the newspaper --
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3:43 - 3:45and I was getting on a plane -- and I sat there,
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3:45 - 3:47and I did something I hadn't done for a long time -- which is I did nothing.
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3:47 - 3:50I just thought, and I thought long and hard.
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3:50 - 3:53And by the time I got off that plane, I'd decided I wanted to do something about it.
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3:53 - 3:56I wanted to investigate this whole roadrunner culture,
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3:56 - 3:59and what it was doing to me and to everyone else.
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3:59 - 4:01And I had two questions in my head.
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4:01 - 4:04The first was, how did we get so fast?
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4:04 - 4:06And the second is, is it possible,
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4:06 - 4:09or even desirable, to slow down?
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4:09 - 4:11Now, if you think about
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4:11 - 4:14how our world got so accelerated, the usual suspects rear their heads.
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4:14 - 4:16You think of, you know, urbanization,
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4:16 - 4:19consumerism, the workplace, technology.
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4:19 - 4:21But I think if you cut through
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4:21 - 4:24those forces, you get to what might be the deeper
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4:24 - 4:27driver, the nub of the question,
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4:27 - 4:29which is how we think about time itself.
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4:29 - 4:32In other cultures, time is cyclical.
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4:32 - 4:35It's seen as moving in great,
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4:35 - 4:37unhurried circles.
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4:37 - 4:39It's always renewing and refreshing itself.
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4:39 - 4:41Whereas in the West, time is linear.
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4:41 - 4:43It's a finite resource;
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4:43 - 4:45it's always draining away.
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4:45 - 4:47You either use it, or lose it.
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4:47 - 4:50"Time is money," as Benjamin Franklin said.
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4:50 - 4:52And I think what that does to us psychologically
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4:52 - 4:54is it creates an equation.
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4:54 - 4:56Time is scarce, so what do we do?
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4:56 - 4:58Well -- well, we speed up, don't we?
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4:58 - 5:00We try and do more and more with less and less time.
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5:00 - 5:02We turn every moment of every day
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5:02 - 5:04into a race to the finish line --
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5:04 - 5:07a finish line, incidentally, that we never reach,
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5:07 - 5:09but a finish line nonetheless.
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5:09 - 5:11And I guess that the question is,
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5:11 - 5:13is it possible to break free from that mindset?
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5:13 - 5:15And thankfully, the answer is yes, because
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5:15 - 5:17what I discovered, when I began looking around, that there is
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5:17 - 5:20a global backlash against this culture that
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5:20 - 5:23tells us that faster is always better, and that busier is best.
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5:23 - 5:26Right across the world, people are doing the unthinkable:
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5:26 - 5:28they're slowing down, and finding that,
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5:28 - 5:31although conventional wisdom tells you that if you slow down, you're road kill,
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5:31 - 5:33the opposite turns out to be true:
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5:33 - 5:35that by slowing down at the right moments,
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5:35 - 5:37people find that they do everything better.
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5:37 - 5:40They eat better; they make love better; they exercise better;
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5:40 - 5:43they work better; they live better.
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5:43 - 5:46And, in this kind of cauldron
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5:46 - 5:49of moments and places and acts of deceleration,
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5:49 - 5:52lie what a lot of people now refer to as
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5:52 - 5:54the "International Slow Movement."
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5:54 - 5:57Now if you'll permit me a small act of hypocrisy,
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5:59 - 6:02I'll just give you a very quick overview of
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6:02 - 6:05what's going on inside the Slow Movement. If you think of food,
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6:05 - 6:07many of you will have heard of the Slow Food movement.
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6:07 - 6:09Started in Italy, but has spread across the world,
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6:09 - 6:11and now has 100,000 members
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6:11 - 6:13in 50 countries.
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6:13 - 6:16And it's driven by a very simple and sensible message,
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6:16 - 6:19which is that we get more pleasure and more health
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6:19 - 6:21from our food when we
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6:21 - 6:25cultivate, cook and consume it at a reasonable pace.
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6:25 - 6:27I think also the explosion of
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6:27 - 6:30the organic farming movement, and the renaissance of farmers' markets,
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6:30 - 6:33are other illustrations
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6:33 - 6:36of the fact that people are desperate to get away from
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6:36 - 6:38eating and cooking and cultivating their food
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6:38 - 6:40on an industrial timetable.
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6:40 - 6:43They want to get back to slower rhythms.
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6:43 - 6:46And out of the Slow Food movement has grown something
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6:46 - 6:49called the Slow Cities movement, which has started in Italy,
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6:49 - 6:51but has spread right across Europe and beyond.
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6:51 - 6:53And in this, towns
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6:53 - 6:56begin to rethink how they organize the urban landscape,
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6:56 - 6:59so that people are encouraged to slow down
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6:59 - 7:01and smell the roses and connect with one another.
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7:01 - 7:03So they might curb traffic,
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7:03 - 7:06or put in a park bench, or some green space.
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7:06 - 7:09And in some ways, these changes add up to more than the sum of their parts,
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7:09 - 7:12because I think when a Slow City becomes officially a Slow City,
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7:12 - 7:14it's kind of like a philosophical declaration.
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7:14 - 7:17It's saying to the rest of world, and to the people in that town,
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7:17 - 7:19that we believe that in the 21st century,
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slowness has a role to play. -
7:23 - 7:25In medicine, I think a lot of people are deeply disillusioned
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7:25 - 7:27with the kind of quick-fix mentality
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7:27 - 7:29you find in conventional medicine.
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7:29 - 7:31And millions of them around the world are turning
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7:31 - 7:34to complementary and alternative forms of medicine,
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7:34 - 7:36which tend to tap into sort of
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7:36 - 7:39slower, gentler, more holistic forms of healing.
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7:39 - 7:42Now, obviously the jury is out on many of these complementary therapies,
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7:42 - 7:45and I personally doubt that the coffee enema
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7:45 - 7:48will ever, you know, gain mainstream approval.
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7:48 - 7:50But other treatments
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7:50 - 7:53such as acupuncture and massage, and even just relaxation,
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7:53 - 7:55clearly have some kind of benefit.
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7:55 - 7:57And blue-chip medical colleges everywhere
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7:57 - 8:00are starting to study these things to find out how they work,
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8:00 - 8:02and what we might learn from them.
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8:02 - 8:04Sex. There's an awful lot of fast sex around, isn't there?
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8:04 - 8:07I was coming to --
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8:07 - 8:10well -- no pun intended there.
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8:10 - 8:13I was making my way, let's say, slowly to Oxford,
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8:13 - 8:15and I went through a news agent, and I saw a magazine,
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8:15 - 8:17a men's magazine, and it said on the front,
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8:17 - 8:20"How to bring your partner to orgasm in 30 seconds."
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8:20 - 8:22So, you know, even sex
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8:22 - 8:24is on a stopwatch these days.
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8:24 - 8:26Now, you know,
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8:26 - 8:28I like a quickie as much as the next person,
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8:28 - 8:31but I think that there's an awful lot to be gained
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8:31 - 8:33from slow sex -- from slowing down in the bedroom.
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8:33 - 8:36You know, you tap into that -- those deeper,
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8:36 - 8:39sort of, psychological, emotional, spiritual currents,
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8:39 - 8:42and you get a better orgasm with the buildup.
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8:42 - 8:44You can get more bang for your buck, let's say.
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8:44 - 8:47I mean, the Pointer Sisters said it most eloquently, didn't they,
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8:47 - 8:50when they sang the praises of "a lover with a slow hand."
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8:50 - 8:52Now, we all laughed at Sting
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8:52 - 8:54a few years ago when he went Tantric,
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8:54 - 8:57but you fast-forward a few years, and now you find couples of all ages
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8:57 - 8:59flocking to workshops, or maybe just
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8:59 - 9:02on their own in their own bedrooms, finding ways
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9:02 - 9:05to put on the brakes and have better sex.
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9:05 - 9:07And of course, in Italy where -- I mean, Italians always seem to know
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9:07 - 9:09where to find their pleasure --
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9:09 - 9:12they've launched an official Slow Sex movement.
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9:13 - 9:15The workplace.
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9:15 - 9:17Right across much of the world --
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9:17 - 9:19North America being a notable exception --
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9:19 - 9:21working hours have been coming down.
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9:21 - 9:23And Europe is an example of that,
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9:23 - 9:26and people finding that their quality of life improves
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9:26 - 9:28as they're working less, and also
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9:28 - 9:30that their hourly productivity goes up.
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9:30 - 9:32Now, clearly there are problems with
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9:32 - 9:34the 35-hour workweek in France --
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9:34 - 9:36too much, too soon, too rigid.
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9:36 - 9:39But other countries in Europe, notably the Nordic countries,
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9:39 - 9:41are showing that it's possible
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9:41 - 9:43to have a kick-ass economy
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9:43 - 9:45without being a workaholic.
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9:45 - 9:47And Norway, Sweden,
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9:47 - 9:49Denmark and Finland now rank
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9:49 - 9:52among the top six most competitive nations on Earth,
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9:52 - 9:54and they work the kind of hours that would make the average American
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9:54 - 9:56weep with envy.
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9:56 - 9:59And if you go beyond sort of the country level,
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9:59 - 10:01down at the micro-company level,
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10:01 - 10:02more and more companies now are realizing
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10:02 - 10:04that they need to allow their staff
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10:04 - 10:06either to work fewer hours or just to unplug --
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10:06 - 10:09to take a lunch break, or to go sit in a quiet room,
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10:10 - 10:13to switch off their Blackberrys and laptops -- you at the back --
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10:14 - 10:16mobile phones,
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10:16 - 10:19during the work day or on the weekend, so that they have time to recharge
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10:19 - 10:21and for the brain to slide into that
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10:21 - 10:24kind of creative mode of thought.
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10:25 - 10:28It's not just, though, these days,
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10:28 - 10:30adults who overwork, though, is it? It's children, too.
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10:31 - 10:34I'm 37, and my childhood ended in the mid-'80s,
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10:34 - 10:36and I look at kids now, and I'm just amazed by the way they
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10:36 - 10:38race around with more homework,
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10:38 - 10:40more tutoring, more extracurriculars
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10:40 - 10:43than we would ever have conceived of a generation ago.
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10:43 - 10:45And some of the most heartrending emails
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10:45 - 10:47that I get on my website
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10:47 - 10:50are actually from adolescents
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10:50 - 10:52hovering on the edge of burnout, pleading with me
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10:52 - 10:54to write to their parents,
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10:54 - 10:57to help them slow down, to help them get off this
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10:57 - 11:00full-throttle treadmill.
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11:00 - 11:02But thankfully, there is a backlash there in parenting as well,
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11:02 - 11:04and you're finding that, you know, towns in the United States
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11:04 - 11:07are now banding together and banning extracurriculars
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11:07 - 11:09on a particular day of the month, so that people can,
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11:09 - 11:12you know, decompress and have some family time, and slow down.
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11:13 - 11:16Homework is another thing. There are homework bans
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11:17 - 11:19springing up all over the developed world
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11:19 - 11:22in schools which had been piling on the homework for years,
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11:22 - 11:24and now they're discovering that less can be more.
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11:24 - 11:26So there was a case up in Scotland recently
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11:26 - 11:28where a fee-paying, high-achieving private school
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11:28 - 11:30banned homework
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11:30 - 11:32for everyone under the age of 13,
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11:32 - 11:34and the high-achieving parents freaked out and said,
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11:34 - 11:36"What are you -- you know, our kids will fall" -- the headmaster said,
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11:36 - 11:39"No, no, your children need to slow down at the end of the day."
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11:39 - 11:42And just this last month, the exam results came in,
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11:42 - 11:45and in math, science, marks went up 20 percent
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11:45 - 11:47on average last year.
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11:47 - 11:49And I think what's very revealing is that
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11:49 - 11:52the elite universities, who are often cited as the reason
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11:52 - 11:54that people drive their kids and hothouse them so much,
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11:54 - 11:57are starting to notice the caliber of students
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11:57 - 12:00coming to them is falling. These kids have wonderful marks;
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12:00 - 12:03they have CVs jammed with extracurriculars,
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12:03 - 12:05to the point that would make your eyes water.
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12:05 - 12:07But they lack spark; they lack
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12:07 - 12:09the ability to think creatively and think outside --
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12:09 - 12:12they don't know how to dream. And so what these Ivy League schools,
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12:12 - 12:14and Oxford and Cambridge and so on, are starting to send a message
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12:14 - 12:17to parents and students that they need to put on the brakes a little bit.
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12:17 - 12:20And in Harvard, for instance, they send out
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12:20 - 12:23a letter to undergraduates -- freshmen --
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12:23 - 12:26telling them that they'll get more out of life, and more out of Harvard,
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12:26 - 12:28if they put on the brakes, if they do less,
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12:28 - 12:31but give time to things, the time that things need,
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12:31 - 12:33to enjoy them, to savor them.
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12:33 - 12:35And even if they sometimes do nothing at all.
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12:35 - 12:37And that letter is called -- very revealing, I think --
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12:37 - 12:40"Slow Down!" -- with an exclamation mark on the end.
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12:40 - 12:43So wherever you look, the message, it seems to me, is the same:
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12:43 - 12:45that less is very often more,
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12:45 - 12:48that slower is very often
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12:48 - 12:50better. But that said, of course,
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12:50 - 12:52it's not that easy to slow down, is it?
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12:52 - 12:54I mean, you heard that I got a speeding ticket
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12:54 - 12:56while I was researching my book on the benefits of slowness,
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12:56 - 12:58and that's true, but that's not all of it.
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12:58 - 13:00I was actually en route to a dinner
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13:00 - 13:02held by Slow Food at the time.
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13:02 - 13:05And if that's not shaming enough, I got that ticket in Italy.
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13:05 - 13:08And if any of you have ever driven on an Italian highway,
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13:08 - 13:10you'll have a pretty good idea of how fast I was going.
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13:10 - 13:13(Laughter)
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13:13 - 13:15But why is it so hard to slow down?
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13:15 - 13:17I think there are various reasons.
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13:17 - 13:20One is that speed is fun, you know, speed is sexy.
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13:20 - 13:23It's all that adrenaline rush. It's hard to give it up.
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13:23 - 13:25I think there's a kind of metaphysical dimension --
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13:25 - 13:27that speed becomes a way of walling ourselves off
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13:27 - 13:29from the bigger, deeper questions.
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13:29 - 13:31We fill our head with distraction, with busyness,
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13:31 - 13:33so that we don't have to ask,
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13:33 - 13:36am I well? Am I happy? Are my children growing up right?
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13:36 - 13:39Are politicians making good decisions on my behalf?
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13:40 - 13:42Another reason -- although I think, perhaps, the most powerful reason --
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13:42 - 13:45why we find it hard to slow down is the cultural taboo
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13:45 - 13:48that we've erected against slowing down.
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13:48 - 13:50"Slow" is a dirty word in our culture.
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13:50 - 13:52It's a byword for "lazy," "slacker,"
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13:52 - 13:54for being somebody who gives up.
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13:54 - 13:56You know, "he's a bit slow." It's actually synonymous
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13:56 - 13:59with being stupid.
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13:59 - 14:01I guess what the Slow Movement -- the purpose of the Slow Movement,
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14:01 - 14:03or its main goal, really, is to tackle that taboo,
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14:03 - 14:06and to say that yes,
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14:06 - 14:08sometimes slow is not the answer,
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14:08 - 14:10that there is such a thing as "bad slow."
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14:10 - 14:12You know, I got stuck on the M25,
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14:12 - 14:14which is a ring road around London, recently,
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14:14 - 14:16and spent three-and-a-half hours there. And I can tell you,
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14:16 - 14:18that's really bad slow.
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14:18 - 14:20But the new idea,
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14:20 - 14:22the sort of revolutionary idea, of the Slow Movement,
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14:22 - 14:24is that there is such a thing as "good slow," too.
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14:24 - 14:26And good slow is, you know, taking the time
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14:26 - 14:29to eat a meal with your family, with the TV switched off.
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14:29 - 14:32Or taking the time to look at a problem from all angles
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14:32 - 14:34in the office to make the best decision
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14:34 - 14:36at work.
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14:36 - 14:38Or even simply just taking the time
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14:38 - 14:40to slow down
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14:40 - 14:42and savor your life.
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14:42 - 14:45Now, one of the things that I found most uplifting
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14:45 - 14:48about all of this stuff that's happened around the book
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14:48 - 14:51since it came out, is the reaction to it.
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14:51 - 14:53And I knew that when my book on slowness came out,
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14:53 - 14:55it would be welcomed by the New Age brigade,
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14:55 - 14:58but it's also been taken up, with great gusto,
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14:58 - 15:00by the corporate world -- you know,
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15:00 - 15:02business press, but also
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15:02 - 15:04big companies and leadership organizations.
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15:04 - 15:07Because people at the top of the chain, people like you, I think,
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15:07 - 15:09are starting to realize that there's too much
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15:09 - 15:11speed in the system,
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15:11 - 15:14there's too much busyness, and it's time to find,
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15:14 - 15:18or get back to that lost art of shifting gears.
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15:18 - 15:20Another encouraging sign, I think,
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15:20 - 15:22is that it's not just in the developed world
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15:22 - 15:25that this idea's been taken up. In the developing world,
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15:25 - 15:27in countries that are on the verge of making that leap
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15:27 - 15:29into first world status -- China, Brazil,
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15:29 - 15:31Thailand, Poland, and so on --
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15:31 - 15:34these countries have embraced the idea of the Slow Movement,
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15:34 - 15:37many people in them, and there's a debate going on
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15:37 - 15:39in their media, on the streets.
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15:39 - 15:41Because I think they're looking at the West, and they're saying,
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15:41 - 15:44"Well, we like that aspect of what you've got,
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15:44 - 15:46but we're not so sure about that."
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15:46 - 15:48So all of that said, is it,
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15:48 - 15:51I guess, is it possible?
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15:51 - 15:54That's really the main question before us today. Is it possible
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15:54 - 15:56to slow down? And
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15:56 - 15:58I'm happy to be able to say to you
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15:58 - 16:00that the answer is a resounding yes.
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16:00 - 16:03And I present myself as Exhibit A,
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16:03 - 16:06a kind of reformed and rehabilitated
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16:06 - 16:08speed-aholic.
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16:08 - 16:10I still love speed. You know, I live in London,
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16:10 - 16:12and I work as a journalist,
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16:12 - 16:14and I enjoy the buzz and the busyness,
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16:14 - 16:16and the adrenaline rush that comes from both of those things.
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16:16 - 16:18I play squash and ice hockey,
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16:18 - 16:21two very fast sports, and I wouldn't give them up for the world.
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16:22 - 16:25But I've also, over the last year or so,
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16:25 - 16:27got in touch with my inner tortoise.
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16:27 - 16:28(Laughter)
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16:28 - 16:30And what that means is that
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16:30 - 16:33I no longer
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16:33 - 16:36overload myself gratuitously.
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16:36 - 16:39My default mode is no longer
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16:39 - 16:41to be a rush-aholic.
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16:42 - 16:44I no longer hear
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16:44 - 16:46time's winged chariot drawing near,
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16:46 - 16:48or at least not as much as I did before.
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16:48 - 16:51I can actually hear it now, because I see my time is ticking off.
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16:52 - 16:54And the upshot of all of that is that
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16:54 - 16:57I actually feel a lot happier, healthier,
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16:57 - 17:00more productive than I ever have.
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17:00 - 17:02I feel like I'm living
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17:02 - 17:05my life rather than actually just racing through it.
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17:06 - 17:08And perhaps, the most important
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17:08 - 17:10measure of the success of this
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17:10 - 17:13is that I feel that my relationships are a lot deeper,
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17:13 - 17:15richer, stronger.
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17:15 - 17:18And for me, I guess, the litmus test
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17:18 - 17:20for whether this would work, and what it would mean,
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17:20 - 17:23was always going to be bedtime stories, because that's sort of where
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17:23 - 17:26the journey began. And there too the news is
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17:26 - 17:28rosy. You know,
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17:28 - 17:30at the end of the day, I go into my son's room.
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17:30 - 17:32I don't wear a watch. I switch off my computer,
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17:32 - 17:34so I can't hear the email pinging into the basket,
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17:34 - 17:37and I just slow down to his pace and we read.
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17:38 - 17:41And because children have their own tempo and internal clock,
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17:41 - 17:43they don't do quality time,
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17:43 - 17:45where you schedule 10 minutes for them to open up to you.
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17:45 - 17:48They need you to move at their rhythm.
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17:48 - 17:50I find that 10 minutes into a story, you know,
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17:50 - 17:52my son will suddenly say, "You know,
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17:52 - 17:54something happened in the playground today that really bothered me."
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17:54 - 17:57And we'll go off and have a conversation on that.
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17:57 - 18:00And I now find that bedtime stories
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18:00 - 18:02used to be
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18:02 - 18:05a box on my to-do list, something that I dreaded,
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18:05 - 18:07because it was so slow and I had to get through it quickly.
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18:07 - 18:09It's become my reward at the end of the day,
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18:09 - 18:11something I really cherish.
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18:11 - 18:13And I have a kind of Hollywood ending
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18:13 - 18:15to my talk this afternoon,
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18:15 - 18:17which goes a little bit like this:
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18:17 - 18:20a few months ago, I was getting ready to go on
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18:20 - 18:23another book tour, and I had my bags packed.
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18:23 - 18:26I was downstairs by the front door, and I was waiting for a taxi,
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18:26 - 18:28and my son came down the stairs and
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18:28 - 18:30he'd made a card for me. And he was carrying it.
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18:30 - 18:32He'd gone and stapled two cards, very like these, together,
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18:32 - 18:35and put a sticker of his favorite
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18:35 - 18:37character, Tintin, on the front.
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18:37 - 18:39And he said to me,
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18:39 - 18:41or he handed this to me, and I read it,
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18:41 - 18:43and it said, "To Daddy, love Benjamin."
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18:43 - 18:46And I thought, "Aw, that's really sweet.
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18:46 - 18:49Is that a good luck on the book tour card?"
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18:49 - 18:51And he said, "No, no, no, Daddy -- this is a card
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18:51 - 18:53for being the best story reader in the world."
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18:53 - 18:56And I thought, "Yeah, you know, this slowing down thing really does work."
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18:56 - 18:57Thank you very much.
- Title:
- In praise of slowness
- Speaker:
- Carl Honoré
- Description:
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Journalist Carl Honore believes the Western world's emphasis on speed erodes health, productivity and quality of life. But there's a backlash brewing, as everyday people start putting the brakes on their all-too-modern lives.nscript.flv
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 18:57
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