Coming out of your closet: Ash Beckham at TEDxBoulder
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Not SyncedI am going to talk to you tonight
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Not Syncedabout coming out of the closet.
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Not Syncedand not in the traditional sense,
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Not Syncednot just the "gay" closet.
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Not SyncedI think we all have closets
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Not Syncedyour closet may be telling someone
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Not Syncedyou love her for the first time.
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Not SyncedOr telling someone you're pregnant.
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Not SyncedOr telling someone you have cancer.
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Not SyncedOr any of the other hard conversations we have
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Not Syncedthroughout our lives.
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Not SyncedAll the closet is, is a hard conversation.
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Not SyncedAnd although our topics may vary tremendously,
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Not Syncedthe experience of being in and coming out of the closet
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Not Syncedis universal.
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Not SyncedIt is scary, and we hate it,
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Not Syncedand it needs to be done.
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Not SyncedSeveral years ago, I was working at the Southside Walnut Café,
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Not Synceda local diner in town,
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Not Syncedand during my time there,
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Not SyncedI would go through phases of militant, lesbian, intensity.
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Not SyncedNot shaving my armpits,
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Not Syncedquoting Ani DiFranco lyrics as gospel
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Not Syncedand depending on the bagginess of my cargo shorts,
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Not Syncedand how recently i'd shaved my head,
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Not Syncedthe question was often sprung on me
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Not Syncedusually by a little kid:
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Not Synced"Mmmm, are you a boy, or are you a girl?"
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Not SyncedAnd there would be an awkward silence at the table,
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Not SyncedI'd clench my jaw a little tighter,
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Not Syncedhold my coffee pot with a little more vengeance,
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Not Syncedthe Dad would awkwardly shuffle his newspaper,
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Not Syncedand the Mom would shoot a chilling stare at her kid.
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Not SyncedBut I would say nothing,
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Not Syncedand I would seethe inside.
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Not SyncedAnd it got to the point that everytime
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Not SyncedI walked up to a table that had a kid
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Not Syncedanywhere between 3 and 10 years old,
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Not SyncedI was ready to fight.
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Not SyncedAnd that is a terrible feeling.
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Not SyncedSo I promised myself that the next time
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Not SyncedI would say something.
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Not SyncedI would have that hard conversation.
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Not SyncedSo in a matter of weeks, it happens again:
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Not Synced"Are you a boy, or are you a girl?"
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Not SyncedFamiliar silence.
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Not SyncedBut this time, I am ready.
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Not SyncedAnd I am about to go all Woman Studies 101 on this table.
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Not SyncedI've got my Betty Friedan quotes,
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Not SyncedI've got my Gloria Steinem quotes
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Not SyncedI even got this little bit from Vagina Monologue
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Not SyncedI'm gonna do,
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Not Syncedso I take a deep breath, and i look down,
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Not Syncedand staring back at me
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Not Syncedis a 4-year old girl in a pink dress.
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Not SyncedNot a challenge to a feminist duel,
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Not Syncedjust a kid, with a question:
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Not Synced"Are you a boy, or are you a girl?"
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Not SyncedSo I take another deep breath,
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Not Syncedsquat down next to her and say:
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Not SyncedHey, I know it's kind of confusing,
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Not Syncedmy hair is short like a boy's,
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Not Syncedand I wear boys' clothes,
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Not Syncedbut I'm a girl
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Not Syncedand you know how sometimes you like to wear a pink dress,
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Not Syncedand sometimes you like to wear your comfie jammies,
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Not Syncedwell, I'm more of a comfie jammies kind of a girl.
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Not SyncedAnd this kid looks me dead in the eye
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Not Syncedwithout missing a beat and says:
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Not Synced"My favorite pajamas are purple
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Not Syncedwith fish, can I get a pancake please?"
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Not SyncedAnd that was it, just:
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Not Synced"Oh, OK, you're a girl. How 'bout that pancake?"
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Not SyncedIt was the easiest hard conversation I have ever had.
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Not SyncedAnd why?
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Not SyncedBecause Pancake Girl and I
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Not Syncedwe were both real with each other.
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Not SyncedSo, like many of us,
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Not SyncedI've lived in a few closets in my life,
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Not Syncedand yeah, most often, my walls happen to be rainbow.
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Not SyncedBut inside, in the dark,
- Title:
- Coming out of your closet: Ash Beckham at TEDxBoulder
- Description:
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Ash discusses the current state of homophobia in our culture challenging even the word "homophobia" itself. There is no fear, just loathing. Hating things we don't understand, people we don't know or anything that is different than our day to day. "Homophobic" people are not scared of anything. We all have a responsibility to live our lives as active activists not passive ones when it comes to protecting our fellow humans from hate of any kind.
Videography credits
Jenn Calaway, Enhancer
Michael Hering, Lodo Cinema
Sarah Megyesy, Side Pocket Images
Satya Peram, Flatirons Films
Sean Williams, RMO Films
Anthony Lopez, Cross Beyond
David Oakley - Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 10:57
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Ivana Korom
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Mel Teruz
Hi Ivana, I can't edit the title and description because the spanish version "needs approval". We will have to wait until that's done.
Ivana Korom
Hi Mel, the task was actually returned to the reviewer of the original transcript. And in this case, English is original, and itćs the other way around - Spanish cannot be edited until English is approved, but English can and should be improved.