What happens when we win? The story of gay liberation | Simon Fanshawe OBE | TEDxBrighton
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0:12 - 0:16I'd like to talk to you
about what happens to who we are -
0:17 - 0:19when we start to win.
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0:19 - 0:21I'm going to use the example
of gay liberation, -
0:21 - 0:23but I want to make a bigger point.
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0:24 - 0:27What happens to how we identify
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0:27 - 0:29when, as in our case,
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0:29 - 0:33you go from being illegal
to being in the closet, to being married? -
0:35 - 0:37And why does that matter
in today's politics? -
0:37 - 0:40Now, Brighton has always been
a fabulous home for gay people. -
0:40 - 0:43Brighton is a city that's half made up
of people who ran away -
0:43 - 0:46and half made up
of the people who took us in. -
0:47 - 0:50And the history of being gay
has always been, for hundreds of years, -
0:50 - 0:51the history of running away.
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0:51 - 0:52And we ran away,
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0:52 - 0:55we ran away to the seaside
and the seasonal employment -
0:55 - 1:00and the hundreds of soldiers that were
billeted here during the Napoleonic wars. -
1:00 - 1:01(Laughter)
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1:02 - 1:06And we ran away to the fashionable
permissiveness of the Prince Regent, -
1:06 - 1:09and together with other people,
we created a city of difference. -
1:09 - 1:12We made Brighton into a stick of rock,
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1:12 - 1:15but a stick of rock that didn't say
the same thing all the way through. -
1:15 - 1:17But we were illegal.
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1:17 - 1:19It was only in 1835,
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1:19 - 1:22which is five years after
the Prince Regent died, -
1:22 - 1:26that the last person in England
was hanged for sodomy. -
1:29 - 1:30And our -
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1:32 - 1:33But life carried on,
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1:34 - 1:35you know?
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1:35 - 1:37Gay life flourished in Brighton.
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1:37 - 1:39On the surface, so suburban,
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1:39 - 1:41but underneath, at dark,
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1:41 - 1:44life veered dangerously and unpredictably
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1:44 - 1:49between sex and love
and violence and prison and arrests. -
1:49 - 1:53And our gay identity was forged
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1:53 - 1:58as we internalized that criminality
and that rejection by society. -
1:58 - 2:01Our solidarity was born
not out of something positive, -
2:02 - 2:05but out of oppression by a cruel world.
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2:05 - 2:08It's not easy to feel too proud
about who you are -
2:08 - 2:11when you're forced
to live your lives in the shadows. -
2:11 - 2:14And then, 1967 happened.
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2:14 - 2:17I know it was only
partial decriminalization, -
2:17 - 2:20but suddenly, we weren't illegal.
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2:20 - 2:21We could be visible,
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2:21 - 2:25and visibility is pretty much
all gay people have got, politically. -
2:25 - 2:29It is the big difference
between being gay and being black, -
2:29 - 2:32as if you're black,
you don't have to tell your mother. -
2:32 - 2:34(Laughter)
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2:40 - 2:42And so we started to campaign,
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2:42 - 2:46we started to argue for what we wanted.
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2:46 - 2:50And the thing about solidarity
movements in their early days -
2:50 - 2:53is that they're well-served
by solidarity. -
2:54 - 2:56Our differences are submerged
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2:56 - 3:01under the shared experience
of the insult to our liberty. -
3:02 - 3:06We know exactly
who we are and what we want. -
3:06 - 3:10So when the twelve of us started
Stonewall in the late '80s, -
3:10 - 3:13we were really clear
about what we were campaigning for. -
3:13 - 3:16We wanted equality, pure and simple.
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3:16 - 3:21We just wanted to be treated equally,
under the law, with everybody else. -
3:21 - 3:25And as we fought these battles,
something strange started to happen. -
3:25 - 3:26We started to win,
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3:28 - 3:31not only first in the court
of public opinion - -
3:32 - 3:34I can't remember how many times
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3:34 - 3:37we lost the vote on the age
of consent in Parliament, -
3:37 - 3:41but I coined at the time
this rather Maoist-sounding phrase, -
3:41 - 3:44which was, "Every defeat is a victory."
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3:44 - 3:47Because every time we lost, nonetheless,
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3:47 - 3:50ordinary members of the public
were won round -
3:50 - 3:52to the simple justice of our cause.
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3:52 - 3:54And then we started to win legally.
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3:54 - 3:57So the age of consent was equalized at 16.
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3:57 - 4:01So then, we did gain the ability
to foster and adopt children. -
4:01 - 4:03And then, the military ban,
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4:03 - 4:07the ban on lesbians and gays
serving in the armed forces, was lifted. -
4:07 - 4:09And that gave rise
to some fantastic arguments. -
4:09 - 4:11I remember once being
in a television studio -
4:11 - 4:14with a very senior military man,
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4:14 - 4:19who said to me, "We can't possibility have
homosexual soldiers in the army -
4:19 - 4:23because the other soldiers will be forced
to share the showers with them, -
4:23 - 4:27and that will make them feel
nervous and anxious." -
4:27 - 4:29And I remember saying to him at the time,
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4:29 - 4:33"Look, if what makes you feel
nervous and anxious -
4:33 - 4:36is another guy thinking
you've got a really cute butt, -
4:37 - 4:40I'm not sure the army is the job for you."
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4:40 - 4:42(Laughter)
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4:44 - 4:46(Applause)
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4:49 - 4:50So we started to win,
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4:50 - 4:52and as we won these legal battles,
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4:52 - 4:56then there were more gay pop stars
and politicians and journalists -
4:56 - 5:01and the occasional business person
and sportsperson. -
5:02 - 5:07But as we won, something happened
to our coherence as a group. -
5:07 - 5:14That coherence started to be accompanied
by a diversity amongst us, -
5:14 - 5:18and that diversity was born
of our new freedom. -
5:18 - 5:21And that diversity enabled us
not just to be gay -
5:21 - 5:26but to pursue our individual
ambitions and aspirations. -
5:27 - 5:29So, who had we become?
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5:29 - 5:32Our world had fundamentally changed.
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5:32 - 5:34Homophobia wasn't over,
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5:34 - 5:37but while prejudice was still
an everyday event, -
5:37 - 5:39it was no longer an all-day event.
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5:40 - 5:42So how had we changed?
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5:43 - 5:47Identity in the context of changing
freedoms is a very complicated thing. -
5:50 - 5:52What that freedom does is it means
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5:52 - 5:55that even though when something
hits you in the face, -
5:55 - 5:58metaphorically or literally,
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5:58 - 6:00you're still just a pouf.
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6:00 - 6:04For the rest of your life,
you're Simon, who's also gay. -
6:04 - 6:09And here's the thing:
being gay is not very interesting. -
6:09 - 6:10(Laughter)
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6:10 - 6:11It just is!
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6:12 - 6:15Growing up gay is interesting
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6:15 - 6:18because that's the question
about what contribution it makes -
6:18 - 6:21to the many-faceted person
that you have become. -
6:22 - 6:26So identity in growing freedom
is complicated. -
6:26 - 6:30I have a friend who is a judge,
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6:30 - 6:31and she is black,
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6:31 - 6:34and she sits on the family bench.
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6:35 - 6:36Because she sits on the family bench,
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6:36 - 6:40in court she's God
because she can take your kids away. -
6:40 - 6:42But walking home,
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6:43 - 6:47she's just a black woman
on the streets of South London. -
6:47 - 6:49She and I have talked about this a lot:
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6:49 - 6:50what does being black mean
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6:50 - 6:54at all those different parts
of the day and of her life. -
6:54 - 6:58Being black is always
absolutely essential to who she is, -
6:58 - 7:00but so is being a judge, a barrister,
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7:00 - 7:03and so is being Margot.
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7:03 - 7:07Now, my husband is Nigerian.
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7:07 - 7:10And you know, I still love saying
the word "husband." It's gorgeous. -
7:11 - 7:13My husband is Nigerian,
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7:14 - 7:16and I'm, you know, British.
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7:16 - 7:20And so, he's African and I'm European,
so he's black and I'm white. -
7:20 - 7:22And he's religious,
and I'm not religious at all. -
7:22 - 7:25In fact, he's a Muslim,
and I am definitely not a Muslim. -
7:25 - 7:28And we're 26 years apart,
and whenever I tell people that, -
7:28 - 7:30they always say the same thing.
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7:30 - 7:32They say, "How do you deal
with the age gap?" -
7:32 - 7:34(Laughter)
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7:38 - 7:41But those are just our headlines.
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7:41 - 7:45As anybody who's in a relationship
or been in a relationship knows, -
7:45 - 7:50the real journey is not just
understanding the headlines, -
7:51 - 7:53but it's understanding each other
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7:53 - 7:57as two different, separate,
individual human beings. -
7:57 - 8:00It's exploring our differences
that bring us together, -
8:00 - 8:04and it's sharing our values
that keep us together. -
8:05 - 8:07And my fear at the moment
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8:07 - 8:11is that when we overfocus
on identity politics, -
8:11 - 8:14it drives us into a political dead end.
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8:15 - 8:19Because people are using their identity
to form their politics, -
8:19 - 8:24but then, dangerously, they're using
their identity to defend those views -
8:25 - 8:29and invalidate any challenge
to those views from anybody else. -
8:30 - 8:33We're living in what I call
the "as a" phase of politics: -
8:33 - 8:37"as a gay man," "as a black woman,"
"as a person with disabilities" - -
8:37 - 8:39"As a middle-class wanker."
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8:39 - 8:41(Laughter)
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8:43 - 8:44(Clapping coming from the audience)
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8:44 - 8:46Don't clap too much, please.
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8:46 - 8:48(Laughter)
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8:48 - 8:50It's my sister.
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8:50 - 8:51(Laughter)
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8:52 - 8:54Or it's my husband, I think.
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8:54 - 8:55(Laughter)
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8:55 - 8:59"As a" is used to make people's politics,
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8:59 - 9:03but it's then used to repel any challenge.
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9:04 - 9:10When Donald Trump banned trans people
from serving in the armed forces, -
9:10 - 9:12it wasn't about trans people.
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9:14 - 9:15He was playing to his base.
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9:15 - 9:18He was just using trans people
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9:19 - 9:22as the latest political punchbag.
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9:23 - 9:25But too many people took the bait,
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9:25 - 9:30and in defending trans rights,
they diverted the argument. -
9:30 - 9:34The point of the campaign wasn't to argue
about the ins and outs and ups and downs -
9:34 - 9:38and whether-or-not-bes
of trans people serving in the army. -
9:38 - 9:43The issue at stake was
that the president of the United States, -
9:43 - 9:44the commander-in-chief,
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9:44 - 9:50was banning a group of citizens from one
of the fundamentals of citizenship, -
9:50 - 9:55which is the opportunity to volunteer
to serve in defense of your country. -
9:55 - 9:58I saw a guy protesting it,
and he had a placard, -
9:58 - 10:04and on the placard, it said,
"Pro trans rights, anti-war." -
10:04 - 10:07And I thought, "How egotistical!"
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10:08 - 10:11"This isn't about
what you think about war." -
10:11 - 10:16That's getting in the way,
that's stopping us mounting a campaign, -
10:16 - 10:20a huge alliance of people
around the idea of citizenship, -
10:20 - 10:26and fighting Donald Trump's attack
on the very idea of citizenship itself. -
10:29 - 10:33If we're going to find a way
of creating utopia, -
10:35 - 10:38we have to find a way
like we did with Stonewall. -
10:38 - 10:41We won because we made alliances.
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10:41 - 10:43We won because we convinced people,
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10:43 - 10:46our mothers and fathers
and brothers and sisters -
10:46 - 10:50and uncles and aunts and cousins
and colleagues and friends and neighbors. -
10:50 - 10:52We convinced people of a vision
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10:52 - 10:56of a country in which all of us,
them and us, could be equal, -
10:56 - 11:00a country which was not
just a gay country, -
11:00 - 11:02not still a straight country,
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11:02 - 11:05but a country in which equality
flourished for all of us. -
11:06 - 11:10The historic imperative
of politics at the moment -
11:11 - 11:13is for us to reach across boundaries
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11:13 - 11:19so we can unite around a principle
which the vast majority of us agree on. -
11:20 - 11:24It is not to strengthen
the sectional interests of the tribes, -
11:24 - 11:28but to build alliances between them
in the greater good. -
11:28 - 11:32And it's complicated.
Identity is complicated. -
11:32 - 11:34When people say to me -
Sorry, correction - -
11:34 - 11:36When white people say to me,
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11:36 - 11:41"Oh, I don't see race;
I just treat everybody equally," -
11:41 - 11:43I say to them,
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11:43 - 11:47"If you don't see race,
you're really missing out on something." -
11:48 - 11:52But if you only see race,
you're also missing out on something. -
11:52 - 11:55And that's true whether
you're talking about race, -
11:55 - 11:57or sexual orientation, or gender,
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11:57 - 12:00or any of the other big identity groups.
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12:01 - 12:03In my life, I'm Simon,
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12:03 - 12:05I'm gay,
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12:05 - 12:06I'm a citizen,
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12:06 - 12:10and those things overlap and intersect.
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12:12 - 12:14And if we're going to build a utopia,
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12:14 - 12:18we need to seek to understand
each other's lives -
12:18 - 12:22and each other's experiences
and each other's differences -
12:22 - 12:27in order to collaborate to build a society
that we all can live in. -
12:28 - 12:30If the personal really is the political,
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12:31 - 12:34then we need to see difference,
value difference, -
12:34 - 12:37understand difference
and embrace difference, -
12:37 - 12:40of individuals and of groups,
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12:40 - 12:44in order to build a world
that's fit for all of us. -
12:45 - 12:46Thank you very much.
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12:46 - 12:48(Applause)
- Title:
- What happens when we win? The story of gay liberation | Simon Fanshawe OBE | TEDxBrighton
- Description:
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Simon looks back over the history of being gay in Brighton and how the battles have changed as victories have been won and what happens when gays become "citizens" rather than "a minority."
Simon co-founded Stonewall, the UK lesbian and gay lobby and has recently co-founded The Kaleidoscope Trust which supports LGBTI activists abroad. He was an award-winning comic for ten years, Chair of Sussex University for six, has been a journalist and columnist for several national newspapers, broadcasts regularly and seven years ago co-founded Diversity by Design, the ground-breaking consultancy, that works with organizations in original ways to make real progress in diversifying staff rather than just talking about it.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDxTalks
- Duration:
- 14:35