The way we think about biological sex is wrong
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0:00 - 0:03[This talk contains mature content]
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0:04 - 0:05I have a vagina.
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0:05 - 0:07(Laughter)
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0:07 - 0:09Just thought you should know.
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0:09 - 0:12That might not come
as a surprise to some of you. -
0:12 - 0:13I look like a woman.
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0:14 - 0:16I'm dressed like one, I guess.
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0:17 - 0:19The thing is, I also have balls.
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0:20 - 0:22And it does take a lot of nerve
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0:22 - 0:26to come up here and talk to you
about my genitalia. -
0:26 - 0:27Just a little.
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0:28 - 0:31But I'm not talking
about bravery or courage. -
0:31 - 0:33I mean literally -- I have balls.
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0:33 - 0:35Right here,
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0:35 - 0:37right where a lot of you have ovaries.
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0:37 - 0:39I'm not male or female.
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0:39 - 0:40I'm intersex.
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0:41 - 0:45Most people assume that you're
biologically either a man or a woman, -
0:45 - 0:48but it's actually a lot more
complex than that. -
0:49 - 0:52There are so many ways
somebody could be intersex. -
0:52 - 0:55In my case, it means
I was born with XY chromosomes, -
0:55 - 0:57which you probably know
as male chromosomes. -
0:58 - 1:02And I was born with a vagina
and balls inside my body. -
1:02 - 1:05I don't respond to testosterone,
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1:05 - 1:08so during puberty, I grew breasts,
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1:08 - 1:12but I never got acne
or body hair, body oil. -
1:12 - 1:14You can be jealous of that.
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1:14 - 1:16(Laughter)
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1:16 - 1:18But even though I don't
actually have a uterus -- -
1:18 - 1:19I was born without one,
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1:19 - 1:23so I don't menstruate,
I can't have biological children. -
1:24 - 1:27We put people in boxes
based on their genitalia. -
1:28 - 1:31Before a baby's even born,
we ask whether it's a boy or a girl, -
1:31 - 1:34as if it actually matters;
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1:34 - 1:36as if you're going to be less excited
about having a baby -
1:36 - 1:38if it doesn't have
the genitals you wanted; -
1:38 - 1:43as if what's between somebody's legs
tells you anything about that person. -
1:43 - 1:46Are they kind, generous, funny?
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1:47 - 1:48Smart?
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1:48 - 1:50Who do they want to be when they grow up?
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1:51 - 1:53Genitals don't actually tell you anything.
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1:53 - 1:56Yet, we define ourselves by them.
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1:57 - 1:59In this society, we love
putting people into boxes -
1:59 - 2:01and labeling each other.
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2:01 - 2:03It kind of gives us a sense of belonging
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2:03 - 2:07and teaches us how to interact
with one another. -
2:07 - 2:10But there's one really big problem:
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2:10 - 2:13biological sex is not black or white.
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2:14 - 2:15It's on a spectrum.
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2:16 - 2:20Besides your genitalia,
you also have your chromosomes, -
2:20 - 2:22your gonads, like ovaries or testicles.
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2:22 - 2:24You have your internal sex organs,
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2:24 - 2:27your hormone production,
your hormone response -
2:27 - 2:32and your secondary sex characteristics,
like breast development, body hair, etc. -
2:33 - 2:38Those seven areas of biological sex
all have so much variation, -
2:38 - 2:40yet we only get two options:
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2:40 - 2:41male or female.
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2:41 - 2:43Which is kind of absurd to me,
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2:43 - 2:46because I can't think
of a single other human trait -
2:46 - 2:48that there's only two options for:
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2:48 - 2:51skin color, hair, height, eyes.
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2:52 - 2:56You can either have nose A or nose B,
that's it, no other options. -
2:57 - 3:00If there are infinite ways
for our bodies to look, -
3:00 - 3:02our minds to think,
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3:02 - 3:04personalities to act,
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3:04 - 3:06wouldn't it make sense
that there's that much variety -
3:06 - 3:08in biological sex, too?
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3:10 - 3:14Did you know that besides
XX or XY chromosomes, -
3:14 - 3:18you could have XX and XY chromosomes?
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3:18 - 3:20Or you could have an extra X -- XXY.
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3:20 - 3:22Or two extra -- XXXY.
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3:23 - 3:24Goes on from there.
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3:24 - 3:27And for those "normal"
people with XX or XY, -
3:27 - 3:28what does that mean?
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3:28 - 3:30I have XY chromosomes.
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3:30 - 3:33If my DNA is found
at the scene of a crime -- -
3:33 - 3:36not saying it will,
but, you know, we'll see. -
3:36 - 3:38(Laughter)
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3:38 - 3:42If my skeleton is discovered
thousands of years from now, -
3:42 - 3:43I'll be labeled male.
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3:44 - 3:45Is that the truth?
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3:46 - 3:47My balls would say so.
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3:48 - 3:50But what about the rest of me?
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3:51 - 3:55And what if a woman has ovarian cancer
and has to have her ovaries removed? -
3:55 - 3:57Does she still qualify as a woman?
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3:58 - 4:01What about other intersex people
who are born without balls or ovaries -
4:01 - 4:04or with just one
or a combination of the two? -
4:04 - 4:06Where do they go?
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4:07 - 4:09Do you have to have a uterus
to be a woman? -
4:09 - 4:11There's a lot of us
who are born without one. -
4:12 - 4:15And everyone's favorite part, genitalia:
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4:15 - 4:17you either have one or the other, right?
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4:17 - 4:20You either have a six-inch-long penis
that's exactly this thick, -
4:20 - 4:22jutting straight out of the body
at a 90-degree angle, -
4:22 - 4:25or you have a vagina
that's this wide internally -
4:25 - 4:28and a clitoris that's half an inch
above the vaginal opening -
4:28 - 4:31and labia that look exactly
like they're supposed to look like, -
4:31 - 4:34according to that one porn video
you watched that one time. -
4:34 - 4:35You know the one.
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4:35 - 4:38If you've been with more than one
sexual partner in your lifetime, -
4:38 - 4:40and you line them up, one by one,
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4:40 - 4:44I guarantee you can identify them
just by their genitalia. -
4:44 - 4:45(Laughter)
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4:45 - 4:46Think about it.
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4:46 - 4:47Go on.
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4:47 - 4:49(Laughter)
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4:49 - 4:50I see you.
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4:50 - 4:51No judging.
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4:52 - 4:54Just notice.
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4:54 - 4:55All different, right?
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4:57 - 5:01The sex and gender binary
are both so ingrained in our society, -
5:01 - 5:03that we never stop to think about it.
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5:03 - 5:07We just automatically place each other
into one box or the other, -
5:07 - 5:09as if it actually matters.
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5:09 - 5:13Until somebody comes along
to make you question it. -
5:14 - 5:20And if you're thinking that
I'm the exception, an anomaly, an outlier: -
5:20 - 5:24intersex people represent
around two percent of the population. -
5:25 - 5:28That's the same percentage
as genetic redheads. -
5:29 - 5:33It's about 150 million people, roughly,
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5:33 - 5:35which is more than
the entire population of Russia. -
5:36 - 5:40So there's a lot of us, needless to say.
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5:41 - 5:42We're not new or rare.
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5:43 - 5:44We're just invisible.
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5:46 - 5:49We've existed throughout
every culture in history. -
5:49 - 5:51Yet, we never talk about it.
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5:52 - 5:55In fact, a lot of people might not know
that they're intersex. -
5:56 - 5:59Have you had a karyotype test
to determine your chromosomes? -
6:01 - 6:04What about a full blood panel
for all of your hormone levels? -
6:04 - 6:08A friend of mine found out
last year, in his 50s. -
6:08 - 6:10The executive director of interACT,
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6:10 - 6:14which is the leading organization
for intersex human rights here in the US, -
6:15 - 6:17she found out she was intersex at age 41.
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6:18 - 6:21Her doctors found out when she was 15,
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6:22 - 6:23but they didn't tell her.
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6:24 - 6:27They lied and said that she had cancer,
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6:27 - 6:29because that seemed like an easier option
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6:29 - 6:32than finding out
she wasn't "fully" a woman. -
6:33 - 6:35This kind of thing happens a lot,
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6:35 - 6:39where intersex people are lied to
or kept in the dark about our bodies, -
6:39 - 6:41which comes as a surprise
to a lot of people. -
6:41 - 6:46But we live in a society that doesn't talk
about sex or bodies at all, -
6:46 - 6:48unless it's to mock or shame each other.
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6:50 - 6:52I found out I was intersex at age 10,
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6:52 - 6:56and for the most part,
I was fine with that information. -
6:56 - 6:57It didn't really faze me;
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6:57 - 7:00I was still developing
my understanding of the world. -
7:01 - 7:03It wasn't until I got older
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7:03 - 7:07and realized I didn't fit
society's expectations of me, -
7:07 - 7:11that I didn't belong, that I was abnormal.
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7:11 - 7:13And that's when the shame started.
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7:14 - 7:16How many times have you seen kids
play with the "wrong" toys -
7:16 - 7:18for their gender?
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7:18 - 7:19Or try on the "wrong" clothes?
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7:20 - 7:21All the time, right?
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7:21 - 7:24Kids don't have these ideas
about gender norm, -
7:24 - 7:27they don't have shame
about who they're supposed to be -
7:28 - 7:30or what they're supposed to like or love.
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7:32 - 7:34They don't care about any of this stuff.
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7:34 - 7:37They don't have shame
until we put it on them. -
7:39 - 7:41I also had doctors lie to me.
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7:41 - 7:45At age 10, they told me
that I would also get cancer -
7:45 - 7:47unless I removed my balls.
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7:48 - 7:51Then they proceeded
to tell me that every year. -
7:51 - 7:54Until today, there are still doctors
who want me to remove them. -
7:55 - 7:57But there's literally no reason.
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7:58 - 8:03If a typical XY male,
like yourself, has testicles, -
8:03 - 8:05and one is undescended,
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8:05 - 8:07there's a high chance of it
becoming cancerous -- -
8:07 - 8:10or a higher chance
of it becoming cancerous. -
8:10 - 8:11They need to thermoregulated.
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8:11 - 8:15So they drop down
away from the body to cool off, -
8:15 - 8:17or they shrink back up to get warm.
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8:18 - 8:19Mine don't need to do that.
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8:19 - 8:23They're not responding to testosterone,
they're not producing sperm. -
8:23 - 8:26They're fine right here inside my body.
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8:26 - 8:30Yet, because there's such a lack
of information about intersex people, -
8:30 - 8:32my doctors never understood
the difference. -
8:32 - 8:34They never really understood my body.
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8:35 - 8:37As I got older,
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8:37 - 8:40I had another doctor tell me that
I needed to have surgery on my vagina. -
8:41 - 8:45She said that until I had an operation,
until she operated, -
8:45 - 8:50I would not be able to have
"normal sex" with my husband one day. -
8:50 - 8:51Her words.
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8:53 - 8:56I didn't end up going through
with the operation, -
8:56 - 8:58and I'm incredibly grateful for that.
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9:00 - 9:02I'm not here to talk about my sex life.
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9:02 - 9:03(Laughter)
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9:03 - 9:06But let's just say it's fine.
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9:06 - 9:08(Laughter)
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9:09 - 9:11I'm fine, my body is fine.
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9:11 - 9:13You actually wouldn’t be able
to tell the difference -
9:13 - 9:16between me and another person
unless I told you; -
9:16 - 9:20you wouldn't be able to tell
that I was intersex unless I told you. -
9:20 - 9:24But again, because of the lack
of understanding about bodies, -
9:24 - 9:26my doctor didn't understand
the difference. -
9:27 - 9:29And for the most part,
my sex life is fine. -
9:30 - 9:32The only issue that really comes up
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9:32 - 9:37is that sometimes, sexual situations
bring up memories of doctors touching me, -
9:37 - 9:40over and over again since I was 10.
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9:41 - 9:45I've been really lucky to escape --
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9:45 - 9:48I didn't think I would get emotional --
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9:48 - 9:52I've been really lucky to escape
the physical harm -
9:52 - 9:54that comes from these
unnecessary surgeries. -
9:56 - 10:00But no intersex person is free
from the emotional harm -
10:00 - 10:04that comes from living in a society
that tries to cover up your existence. -
10:06 - 10:09Most of my intersex friends
have had operations like these. -
10:10 - 10:13Oftentimes, they will remove
testes like mine, -
10:13 - 10:19even though my risk of testicular cancer
is lower than the risk of breast cancer -
10:19 - 10:24in a typical woman with
no predisposition, no family history. -
10:25 - 10:28But we don't tell her
to remove her breasts, do we? -
10:30 - 10:34It's rare to meet an intersex person
that hasn't been operated on. -
10:36 - 10:41Oftentimes, these surgeries are done
to improve intersex kids' lives, -
10:42 - 10:44but they usually end up
doing the opposite, -
10:44 - 10:48causing more harm and complications,
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10:48 - 10:50both physical and emotional.
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10:53 - 10:56I'm not saying that
doctors are bad or evil. -
10:56 - 11:01It's just that we live in a society
that causes some doctors to "fix" -
11:01 - 11:04those of us who don't fit
their definition of normal. -
11:06 - 11:09We're not problems that need to be fixed.
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11:09 - 11:13We just live in a society
that needs to be enlightened. -
11:14 - 11:16One of the ways I'm doing that
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11:16 - 11:19is by creating a genderless
puberty guidebook -
11:19 - 11:22that can teach kids
about their bodies as they grow up. -
11:23 - 11:25Not their girl bodies
or their boy bodies -- -
11:25 - 11:26just their bodies.
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11:27 - 11:31We often place unrealistic expectations
on the things that our bodies do -
11:31 - 11:32that are outside of our control.
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11:33 - 11:36I mean, if one man can grow
a full, luxurious, hipster beard, -
11:36 - 11:40and the other can only grow
a few mustache hairs, -
11:40 - 11:42what does that mean
about who they are as men? -
11:43 - 11:45Nothing.
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11:45 - 11:47It literally, most likely, just means
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11:47 - 11:50that their hair follicles
respond to testosterone in different ways. -
11:51 - 11:55Yet, how many times have you heard
a man ashamed about something like this? -
11:59 - 12:02Imagine a world where
we could live in a society -
12:02 - 12:05that teaches us not to have shame
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12:05 - 12:08about the things
that our bodies do or do not do. -
12:12 - 12:17I want to change the way that we think
about biological sex in this society -- -
12:17 - 12:19which is a lot to ask for.
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12:20 - 12:22You could say it's ballsy, I guess.
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12:22 - 12:24(Laughter)
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12:25 - 12:28But eventually we accepted
the world as round, right? -
12:29 - 12:32We no longer diagnose gay people
with mental disorders -
12:32 - 12:34or women with hysteria.
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12:35 - 12:39We don't think epilepsy is caused
by the devil anymore, so that's cool. -
12:39 - 12:40(Laughter)
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12:40 - 12:44We constantly change and evolve,
the more we understand as a society. -
12:45 - 12:47And biological sex is on a spectrum.
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12:47 - 12:49It's not black or white.
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12:49 - 12:52Not only could that knowledge
save intersex kids -
12:52 - 12:54from physical and emotional harm,
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12:54 - 12:56I think it would help everyone else, too.
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12:58 - 13:01Who here has ever felt
inadequate or ashamed -
13:01 - 13:05because you weren't girly enough,
you were too girly, -
13:05 - 13:07you weren't manly enough, or too manly?
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13:08 - 13:11We constantly shame people
for not fitting into a box, -
13:11 - 13:12but the reality is,
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13:12 - 13:16I think we shame others
because it prevents them from seeing -
13:16 - 13:19that we don't fit
inside our boxes, either. -
13:20 - 13:24And the truth is that
nobody actually fits in a box, -
13:24 - 13:25because they don't exist.
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13:26 - 13:32This binary, this false male-female facade
is something we constructed, -
13:32 - 13:33we built ourselves.
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13:33 - 13:35But it doesn't have to exist.
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13:37 - 13:38We can break it down.
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13:38 - 13:41And that's what I want to do.
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13:42 - 13:43Will you join me?
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13:45 - 13:46Thanks.
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13:46 - 13:51(Applause)
- Title:
- The way we think about biological sex is wrong
- Speaker:
- Emily Quinn
- Description:
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Did you know that almost 150 million people worldwide are born intersex -- with biology that doesn't fit the standard definition of male or female? (That's as many as the population of Russia.) At age 10, Emily Quinn found out she was intersex, and in this wise, funny talk, she shares eye-opening lessons from a life spent navigating society's thoughtless expectations, doctors who demanded she get unnecessary surgery -- and advocating for herself and for the incredible variety that humans come in. (Contains mature language)
- Video Language:
- English
- Team:
- closed TED
- Project:
- TEDTalks
- Duration:
- 14:01
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Libor Supcik
What silly cretin is able to put a talk against labelling into an adult box? Vagina or penis are medical not adult language terms.