AttitudeLive - My Deaf Parents
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0:08 - 0:11(cartoons playing)
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0:12 - 0:15Are you finished? Sorry about that.
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0:15 - 0:18(Narrator) Monica and Steven
are deaf parents. -
0:18 - 0:20With hearing children.
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0:22 - 0:25Most parents struggle to get
their kids' attention. -
0:26 - 0:27(Monica) Good boy.
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0:27 - 0:29(Narrator) It's an even bigger
challenge if you're deaf! -
0:31 - 0:32Good boy.
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0:36 - 0:37Good boy.
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0:38 - 0:41Up, down, the sides.
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0:41 - 0:44♪ (music) ♪
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0:57 - 0:59$$(Monica Leach):
I'm a mum, first of all, -
0:59 - 1:00$$and a step-mum as well.
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1:01 - 1:03$$I've got three boys.
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1:03 - 1:06$$Their names are Felix, he's fifteen,
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1:08 - 1:10♪ (music) ♪
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1:11 - 1:12Felix...
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1:12 - 1:13Wake up!
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1:14 - 1:15Come on.
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1:17 - 1:19Time to get up, Felix!
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1:19 - 1:22Dad needs a hand with the tow bar,
and you need some breakfast, okay? -
1:25 - 1:26Can you help, please?
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1:27 - 1:31(Felix Ovens-Leach):
It's kind of a...love-hate relationship. -
1:32 - 1:34$$I mean sometimes I love them,
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1:34 - 1:36$$sometimes I hate them.
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1:40 - 1:41That's how it is.
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1:43 - 1:46I do worry about sex and
things like that, you know, -
1:46 - 1:48because he's a teenager.
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1:49 - 1:52And we have to keep an eye
on what he's getting up to. -
1:52 - 1:54(cartoon noises)
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2:00 - 2:04And the next one is my son Oliver,
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2:04 - 2:06and he's six.
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2:07 - 2:09Oliver! Oliver.
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2:09 - 2:11You know you boys have a
star chart for your eating. -
2:12 - 2:13Jack?
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2:13 - 2:15And the third one is Jack.
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2:15 - 2:17And he's four.
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2:18 - 2:19Jack!
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2:20 - 2:23Did you boys eat your lunch
at school this week? -
2:23 - 2:25Oh, well that's an improvement.
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2:27 - 2:29Your eating's getting
much better. -
2:29 - 2:31(cartoon noises)
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2:34 - 2:36Mum? Mum, Mummy.
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2:36 - 2:38Mummy!
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2:38 - 2:41You forgot to do that one!
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2:42 - 2:44You haven't eaten enough vegetables.
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2:45 - 2:48- Yes, they've been different every day!
- Ah, okay. -
2:48 - 2:51Okay so you ate carrots, peas...
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2:52 - 2:54I remember Jack eating them,
did you eat them as well? -
2:54 - 2:55Okay, good boy.
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3:05 - 3:06Look at that!
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3:07 - 3:10Wow. Good boys.
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3:10 - 3:12Mummy and Daddy are
very proud of you. -
3:14 - 3:17Mummy, that's what I want.
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3:20 - 3:23So my room is downstairs from the house.
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3:23 - 3:25♪ (music) ♪
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3:26 - 3:28I like having my own space.
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3:29 - 3:30♪ (music) ♪
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3:33 - 3:35I bring mates here often.
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3:36 - 3:39When they come here,
we're just in this room, -
3:40 - 3:41and we can be as loud as we want.
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3:42 - 3:45Except, of course, Monica
can't hear anything, -
3:45 - 3:48so she has to come in here every
five minutes. -
3:48 - 3:51She always wants to check up on us.
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3:51 - 3:56And wants me and her to go to the park
with my two little brothers. -
3:56 - 4:01My stepson Felix gets bored really easily
with the younger kids, so... -
4:01 - 4:04sometimes I let him stay
at home by himself -
4:04 - 4:07and I might take the younger
kids to the park, -
4:07 - 4:09or to their friends,
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4:09 - 4:12or we might go swimming, or skating,
or go to the beach. -
4:13 - 4:18But I do also try to get Felix to agree
on things that we can all do together. -
4:19 - 4:21♪(music)♪
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4:21 - 4:23Ugh! What about these guys!
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4:23 - 4:26Mummy, that was for our egg hunt!
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4:26 - 4:29- Oh, for this afternoon!
- (Felix) Hey... -
4:29 - 4:31- Okay, well, it's all gone now.
- (Oliver) He ate all of it! -
4:31 - 4:33- Hey, I already gave them some.
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4:39 - 4:42(Narrator) Monica's keen to
have quality family time, -
4:42 - 4:44so she's planned a family boating trip.
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4:45 - 4:46♪ (music) ♪
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4:46 - 4:49Come upstairs and have breakfast!
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4:49 - 4:51(Narrator) Whether Felix likes it or not.
(knocking on window) -
4:52 - 4:53Get up, please!
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4:54 - 4:55Come on.
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4:57 - 4:59(Oliver) I'm glad I'm not on that!
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5:00 - 5:03(play-fighting roar)
(knocking persistently on window) -
5:08 - 5:11(more knocking)
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5:11 - 5:12(knocking)
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5:12 - 5:14Get up, please, come on!
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5:15 - 5:17I'm not getting dressed
in front of the camera. -
5:17 - 5:19Yes, yes, get up!
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5:20 - 5:23It's nice to get away and do
things together as a family. -
5:23 - 5:25It's really lovely.
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5:25 - 5:27And my boys love computers so much,
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5:27 - 5:28and they're always on them,
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5:28 - 5:31and it just eats up all their time.
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5:32 - 5:34♪ (music) ♪
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5:42 - 5:46(Narrator) Monica's determined to
maintain strong lines of communication, -
5:46 - 5:48but admits there are frustrations.
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5:48 - 5:51Things happen at school
where I can't be involved -
5:51 - 5:54because they don't provide
the interpreters, so I do miss out. -
5:54 - 5:56And it's challenging for me,
say, at rugby, -
5:56 - 5:59when the parents are talking on the sideline
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5:59 - 6:01and then the speeches afterwards.
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6:01 - 6:02So there are barriers there.
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6:02 - 6:03Sometimes I just have to sit back.
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6:04 - 6:05♪ (music) ♪
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6:05 - 6:09She doesn't want her children to feel
they have to take responsibility -
6:09 - 6:10for their deaf parents.
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6:10 - 6:12Oliver, go!
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6:13 - 6:15[Inaudible] you can drive?
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6:15 - 6:18One interesting story is,
one time when we flew -
6:18 - 6:21the cabin crew, they were coming,
they knew we were deaf, -
6:21 - 6:24and they were saying, "Are you okay,
do you need an interpreter?" -
6:24 - 6:26They were just overly eager to help.
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6:26 - 6:29And we had to say, "No no we're fine,
you don't have to help us." -
6:29 - 6:32But Oliver looked up and got
the impression we need help, -
6:32 - 6:34and we had to reassure him
that, "No, we don't." -
6:34 - 6:36I'm the driver!
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6:37 - 6:41My dad is going to swim all the way.
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6:41 - 6:44- And I'm the driver.
- What did you say, Oliver? -
6:44 - 6:50I'm the driver, Dad swim all the...
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6:50 - 6:53-...way.
- Way, yes, yes. -
6:55 - 6:58Children of deaf adults
are known as CODA kids. -
7:01 - 7:04CODA usually grow up with sign language
as their first language, -
7:04 - 7:08and sometimes need extra support
when they start school. -
7:08 - 7:10♪ (music) ♪
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7:19 - 7:20[inaudible] cheese, tasty.
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7:22 - 7:25(Narrator) Monica's frustrated by the lack
of resources for deaf parents. -
7:25 - 7:28She's helped organize a camp for
CODA families. -
7:30 - 7:34The reason we set up the camp
was to support deaf parents, -
7:35 - 7:37because there aren't any
services out there -
7:37 - 7:39to support deaf parents
in raising their children. -
7:40 - 7:43They're often not even aware that
they can ask for interpreters -
7:43 - 7:46for meetings at their childrens' school.
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7:47 - 7:49And it's also about networking,
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7:49 - 7:53because a lot of the parents
out there are quite isolated. -
7:54 - 7:58Monica's invited an American mum
to offer advice at the camp. -
7:58 - 7:59(airport crowd)
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7:59 - 8:02She's brought her sixteen-year-old son.
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8:04 - 8:07Monica hopes he'll be a
good influence on Felix. -
8:08 - 8:10- Hi!
- Hi! -
8:12 - 8:14- Nice to meet you!
- Nice to meet you too! -
8:14 - 8:16-Hi!
-Hello! -
8:16 - 8:19- How was your flight?
- Great. Fantastic. -
8:25 - 8:27$$ (Monica) So my son's almost fifteen,
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8:27 - 8:29$$and your son's almost sixteen,
is that right? -
8:29 - 8:31$$- Yes, sixteen.
- Oh, teenagers, eh? -
8:31 - 8:34$$Yeah, they're tough. They're really tough.
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8:34 - 8:37Communication is difficult,
just being able to trust them, -
8:37 - 8:39and believing what they say.
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8:40 - 8:43Really it depends on me.
And that's the way I was raised. -
8:45 - 8:48I have high morals, and high
standards for my children. -
8:50 - 8:52My son was born in America.
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8:53 - 8:56I wasn't, I was born in India.
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8:56 - 9:00I came all the way to America,
and my mindset was completely different. -
9:02 - 9:04I struggled with my teenagers,
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9:04 - 9:07and then I started to understand
how others talked to their parents, -
9:07 - 9:11and I realized, "Oh,
that's the same thing." -
9:11 - 9:13I thought I was the bad mother.
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9:13 - 9:14No, I wasn't.
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9:15 - 9:16It's the teenager.
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9:17 - 9:19I've never played before, so...
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9:19 - 9:21- Go down, just fall down?
- Yep. -
9:21 - 9:23- Do I blow it up?
- No. -
9:24 - 9:26So when do I start blowing up stuff?
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9:26 - 9:28(Zach) Oh, wow, this is
powerful stuff. Oh. -
9:28 - 9:31(video game noises)
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9:31 - 9:32- Did I kill it?
- Yep. -
9:32 - 9:36- Oh it's coming towards me. What do I do?
- Yep. You just do that. -
9:37 - 9:39(offscreen applause)
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9:40 - 9:43(Zach) I never play this, I usually
play the Wii, so... -
9:43 - 9:45More of a workout kind of person.
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9:46 - 9:48In my days things were
completely different! -
9:48 - 9:52We always had strict homework, and had to
be involved in sport and things like that. -
9:52 - 9:56Teenagers these days can't be bothered
with getting out and getting involved; -
9:56 - 9:59it's a struggle to get them to do their homework.
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9:59 - 10:00You have to be firm with them.
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10:00 - 10:03It was very different in my day,
they're much more interested in -
10:03 - 10:05doing nothing now than being active.
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10:05 - 10:07And so much of their life is online!
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10:07 - 10:09They collect so many friends on Facebook,
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10:09 - 10:11but I don't know who they are,
they don't come to the house. -
10:11 - 10:13It's a whole new world out there.
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10:13 - 10:16And sometimes I'm worried about
who he's talking to, it could be anyone! -
10:16 - 10:19Same thing with my son, same thing.
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10:19 - 10:24But I explain to him...
that I am your mother. -
10:25 - 10:29Which means you live under my roof.
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10:29 - 10:31You have to follow my rules.
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10:32 - 10:36When you become eighteen
and live on your own, fine. -
10:36 - 10:39But here in my house, you follow my rules.
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10:40 - 10:43(video game sounds)
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10:46 - 10:49(Narrator) Monica had hoped
the boys would bond. -
10:49 - 10:51Oh right, okay.
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10:51 - 10:54We use the term CODA here in New Zealand but
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10:54 - 10:56there hasn't been much training around it.
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10:57 - 11:01So, you can put your presentation
at quite a basic level, really. -
11:02 - 11:05But try and keep the kids engaged, okay?
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11:05 - 11:07And working together as a group.
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11:07 - 11:08Okay.
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11:08 - 11:12The plan doesn't need to be too rigid,
you can be flexible -
11:12 - 11:14- ...and go with whatever happens.
- Yeah, cool. -
11:14 - 11:18I think the fact you're from America and
you're proud of being a CODA -
11:18 - 11:21will be such a great eye-opener for them.
- Yeah, cool. -
11:21 - 11:24♪ (music) ♪
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11:28 - 11:30(Narrator) More than fifty families are
attending the weekend camp -
11:30 - 11:33in the Port Hills near Christchurch.
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11:36 - 11:39It's a rare chance for both parents and kids
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11:39 - 11:41to meet others with the same challenges.
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11:42 - 11:45Okay, I'd like everybody to stand up
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11:45 - 11:48in a great big circle around the room.
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11:49 - 11:52It's an opportunity to get to know each other,
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11:52 - 11:54get to know the neighbors...
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11:57 - 11:59Hi everybody, my name's Claire,
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12:01 - 12:03and I'm a CODA.
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12:04 - 12:06Hi, my name's Dwayne,
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12:07 - 12:11and I'm from Auckland!
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12:13 - 12:16Hi everyone, my name is Kavita,
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12:16 - 12:18I'm from America, from California!
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12:19 - 12:22Oh sorry, I'll have to get a New Zealand
sign language interpreter. -
12:22 - 12:25(Narrator) Kavita uses
American Sign Language, -
12:25 - 12:28so it needs translating into
New Zealand Sign Language. -
12:31 - 12:34Sorry, this is the American sign for California.
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12:37 - 12:40Monica is in her element as a camp leader.
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12:41 - 12:44I'm responsible for the finances and the bedding.
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12:44 - 12:47and also making sure the program runs on schedule,
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12:47 - 12:50so be aware if you're late
for breakfast, too bad! -
12:50 - 12:53because I'm sticking to the schedule. Alright!
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12:54 - 12:57♪ (music) ♪
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12:58 - 13:01(Narrator) But Felix is out of
his comfort zone. -
13:05 - 13:08Okay, so where are you boys going to sleep?
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13:08 - 13:11Are you gonna sleep on this bed, Jack?
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13:14 - 13:15(kiss)
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13:18 - 13:22I'll see you later! Bye bye bye. Bye!
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13:26 - 13:29♪(music)♪
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13:32 - 13:35The next morning, the teenagers
split off into their own group. -
13:38 - 13:40Felix isn't buying into it yet.
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13:40 - 13:44(Felix) The first circle,
which was "art therapy," -
13:45 - 13:48I don't know if everyone
took that seriously, but... -
13:48 - 13:50you know some people did,
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13:50 - 13:53and it was just about putting
your thoughts onto a piece of paper. -
13:53 - 13:55I know I didn't take it seriously.
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14:00 - 14:03(Narrator) Monica's wrecked. It's all going to plan.
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14:05 - 14:06It's been lovely!
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14:06 - 14:09A lot of the parents were a bit
uncertain at first how it would go, -
14:09 - 14:12but it's lovely to see the families,
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14:12 - 14:15especially the teenagers,
just getting along so well together. -
14:16 - 14:18So it's just going really well so far,
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14:18 - 14:22and to see everyone getting along...
it's just great! Yeah. -
14:23 - 14:26(Narrator) The adults now have a chance
to share their parenting issues. -
14:27 - 14:31It really is important to
read with your child. -
14:31 - 14:35It doesn't matter if it's about cooking,
or whatever, okay? -
14:35 - 14:36It's important.
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14:36 - 14:39So I'm open to all of your ideas,
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14:39 - 14:41any details that you may have,
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14:41 - 14:44so I'll gather the details here at the conference.
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14:45 - 14:46I'll write it down,
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14:46 - 14:48and I'll take it back to the ministry,
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14:48 - 14:50and we'll try to action that.
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14:51 - 14:54What action will occur I don't actually know,
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14:54 - 14:56but we'll do what we can.
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14:59 - 15:02My name is Josanna, from Australia.
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15:02 - 15:05And I agree, reading is most important.
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15:06 - 15:08I grew up with deaf parents,
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15:08 - 15:10and when I was young I used to read a lot,
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15:10 - 15:14and now I'm absolutely
passionate about reading. -
15:14 - 15:17I went to high school, I graduated,
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15:17 - 15:19and I did really well in a hearing school.
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15:19 - 15:21I was a top student.
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15:21 - 15:23But I'm actually deaf!
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15:23 - 15:28So I want to let you know that it's great
to develop that bond with your children. -
15:28 - 15:33To do homework with them, etcetera,
and keep communicating with them, -
15:33 - 15:35I think it's really powerful.
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15:35 - 15:38I had a great bond with my parents.
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15:38 - 15:40We communicated well together,
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15:40 - 15:42we talked about homework and everything.
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15:42 - 15:45It was really, really exciting!
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15:45 - 15:47My parents made it like that for me,
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15:47 - 15:49which meant I achieved.
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15:50 - 15:53And I'm sure that you can do that as well.
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15:56 - 15:58So the teacher called me in for a meeting
and I went down to the school, -
15:58 - 16:00wondering, how is my daughter in trouble?
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16:04 - 16:06And I came into the classroom and the teacher says,
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16:06 - 16:08"Hey, your daughter, her speech isn't right."
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16:10 - 16:12"She's not pronouncing the words right."
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16:14 - 16:16And the teacher forgot that I was deaf.
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16:17 - 16:19She tried to explain to me that,
"You're not teaching your daughter -
16:19 - 16:21how to speak right, and all this stuff."
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16:21 - 16:23I looked at the teacher
and I'm like, "Oh, okay," -
16:24 - 16:27and what I did was I thought positive, I reversed it.
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16:28 - 16:30I wasn't having her be all negative on me,
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16:30 - 16:32I was like, "Oh, thank you
for letting me know. -
16:32 - 16:34But you know I'm deaf, I can't hear."
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16:35 - 16:37"I know that my daughter will
make mistakes speaking, -
16:37 - 16:39but why don't you help me?
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16:39 - 16:41Why don't you teach her
how to speak better?" -
16:41 - 16:45And the teacher looked at me,
"Oh, me teach her? Oh." -
16:46 - 16:49And she thought positive, not negatively.
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16:49 - 16:51You'd expect the other teachers
to do the same thing with your children. -
16:51 - 16:53There's nothing wrong with you.
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16:55 - 16:57And now my daughter, she's beautiful,
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16:57 - 16:59she speaks amazing, and so does my son.
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17:01 - 17:03So I was just giving you some kind of tips.
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17:03 - 17:06Positive feedback to the teacher
and all that stuff. -
17:07 - 17:08Cool.
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17:09 - 17:10(playful shriek)
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17:13 - 17:15♪ (music) ♪
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17:18 - 17:22As the day goes on, Felix slowly
gets involved with his group. -
17:24 - 17:26Put that on for safety, right.
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17:28 - 17:29(Felix) Whoa!
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17:41 - 17:43[laundry, outdoor auditorium]
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17:44 - 17:46(Narrator) Zach's busy
mentoring the younger kids. -
17:46 - 17:48I want to share a story with all of you.
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17:49 - 17:51Growing up in America,
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17:51 - 17:54me and my sister we've
shared our room my whole life. -
17:55 - 17:58When I was younger, my bedtime,
to go to bed, was 9:00pm. -
17:59 - 18:02So my dad comes in, he checks everything,
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18:02 - 18:05makes sure the TV is off
and all this stuff. -
18:05 - 18:09And then, when he's done, he'll leave,
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18:09 - 18:12I can hear him walking down the hallway from my bed,
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18:12 - 18:14and I'll hear him go into his room,
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18:14 - 18:17so me and my sister, what we did,
is that we would turn on the TV, -
18:18 - 18:19and we'll watch TV
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18:19 - 18:22and we would have the sound all the way up!
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18:22 - 18:26But one night my dad had a feeling
that something was weird. -
18:26 - 18:30so he comes and he says,
"Hey, why do you guys have the TV on?" -
18:30 - 18:32And both of us, we just pretended to fall asleep,
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18:32 - 18:34because we could hear him coming.
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18:34 - 18:37See that's the thing about being a CODA.
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18:38 - 18:41When your parents are deaf, they don't know.
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18:41 - 18:42So that's a cool thing.
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18:42 - 18:45Even though they're deaf it doesn't matter.
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18:45 - 18:49It's just the fact that we're
all related to each other. -
18:50 - 18:52That's what it's all being about.
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18:52 - 18:54Being a CODA, having that
bond with someone. -
18:54 - 18:57(Narrator) CODA kids are
often misunderstood -
18:57 - 18:59and considered loud and boisterous.
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19:02 - 19:06There's little understanding that
sign language is an expressive language. -
19:07 - 19:09What's your favorite thing about having deaf parents?
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19:09 - 19:15Slamming the doors and my mum can't feel it.
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19:15 - 19:17I like being loud
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19:17 - 19:23And I like screaming really loud
that my mum gets a fright. -
19:23 - 19:25CODA's gonna be part of your life forever.
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19:25 - 19:27It's not only when you're here at camp.
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19:28 - 19:30It lives with you 24/7.
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19:30 - 19:33So I want you all to remember
all the good things -
19:33 - 19:35and the positive things about
being a CODA. -
19:35 - 19:37(applause)
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19:37 - 19:40♪ (music ) ♪
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19:41 - 19:44(Narrator) Lunch provides a chance
to make new connections. -
19:49 - 19:52Monica makes sure conversation flows.
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20:04 - 20:07At last the ice is broken,
and the teenagers realize -
20:07 - 20:09they share a lot in common.
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20:09 - 20:11All of you are involved in two different worlds!
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20:12 - 20:14You've got your friends at school
your teachers, -
20:14 - 20:18or that sort of extended family,
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20:18 - 20:20and then you've got the other
world that you live in. -
20:20 - 20:22Perhaps sometimes that's a [inaudible].
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20:22 - 20:25Some of my friends when I'm talking
to my mum at home, -
20:25 - 20:27they look like I'm weird,
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20:27 - 20:29and why am I using my hands to talk to her?
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20:29 - 20:31Like they think I can just sit there
and talk to my mum, -
20:31 - 20:33like she will understand me,
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20:33 - 20:34but I need to use my hands.
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20:35 - 20:37And that's weird because
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20:37 - 20:39they seem real stiff and awkward like...
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20:40 - 20:41it's weird.
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20:42 - 20:44(Narrator) Even Felix is opening up.
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20:44 - 20:46When I go to school and then
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20:46 - 20:48everyone finds out my parents are deaf,
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20:48 - 20:50they're always very interested,
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20:50 - 20:51and they want to learn sign language,
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20:51 - 20:55but mostly, they want to learn the
swear words in sign language. -
20:55 - 20:56(laughter)
-
20:56 - 20:59A whole lot of people have come up
and wanted to learn sign language -
20:59 - 21:01but then when I teach them,
-
21:01 - 21:03all they do is mock.
-
21:03 - 21:05And often they get a...
-
21:06 - 21:09I don't know, a hail of swear words from me
-
21:09 - 21:11in English, not in sign,
-
21:11 - 21:15because they just don't want to know!
It's all persecution, really. -
21:18 - 21:20Because they don't understand.
They're all [inaudible], they are. -
21:20 - 21:24I mean they don't understand
what it's like to have deaf parents. -
21:24 - 21:26It's one of those things:
-
21:26 - 21:29They'll never understand us and
we'll never understand them! -
21:29 - 21:32It's simple. They are ignorant.
-
21:32 - 21:36And it's their loss, not yours!
Their loss. -
21:37 - 21:41Because they will never have access
to the language you have. -
21:42 - 21:45As CODAs, you do have to build bridges.
-
21:46 - 21:48Like Joshua was talking about before,
-
21:48 - 21:51you have to think about,
from your perspective, -
21:51 - 21:54what you can do to change their attitudes.
-
21:54 - 21:56When my friends come over,
-
21:56 - 21:59they always wanna know,
"What's 'Thank you' and what's 'Please?' " -
22:01 - 22:04They're very interested in
learning sign language. -
22:04 - 22:07But I've never really had
any negative things. -
22:08 - 22:10And whenever, at the start
of an English exam, -
22:10 - 22:13they ask what language you speak at home,
-
22:13 - 22:15I always put down "other,"
-
22:15 - 22:16instead of English.
-
22:17 - 22:21We copy the language we learnt from birth.
-
22:21 - 22:23So who taught us to speak?
-
22:25 - 22:28Our mother and father.
And how did we learn? -
22:28 - 22:30We copied the way they talk.
-
22:30 - 22:33I still sign the same as my mother.
-
22:34 - 22:35I'm 54!
-
22:36 - 22:38and I'm still a CODA,
-
22:38 - 22:40and my CODA part is very strong.
-
22:41 - 22:45Because I'm very proud
of my mother and father. -
22:45 - 22:46And they taught me a lot.
-
22:47 - 22:49So that's why it is really important
to think about that part. -
22:49 - 22:53And which part, and how much of that
do I want in my life. -
22:54 - 22:58We were relating about how
the public treats our parents. -
23:00 - 23:02Like they're ignorant,
they don't know really -
23:02 - 23:04what being deaf is about.
-
23:04 - 23:07And just being a CODA,
-
23:07 - 23:09the jobs of being a CODA,
-
23:09 - 23:12I would have never expected
that that would be my favorite part. -
23:13 - 23:16I would have thought, "Ah,
I'll just walk away from the groups, -
23:16 - 23:17go do the activities."
-
23:17 - 23:19But yeah, it was good.
-
23:22 - 23:24I met lots of new people here
-
23:24 - 23:25that I haven't met before,
-
23:25 - 23:27I'll keep in touch with a lot of them.
-
23:28 - 23:31It's made me think about
the people who have -
23:31 - 23:34had some struggle with having deaf parents,
-
23:34 - 23:36because I've never had any bullying
-
23:36 - 23:39or teasing about having
deaf parents, but... -
23:39 - 23:41there are some of the other kids that have,
-
23:41 - 23:43and it's made me think, "Wow."
-
23:44 - 23:47No matter where you are,
no matter who you're with, -
23:47 - 23:51the only person that will
be able to understand you -
23:51 - 23:53are these people in this room.
-
23:53 - 23:57(Felix) I didn't enjoy that I got asked
to be on the panel by my step-mum, -
23:58 - 24:02But after today I wish that I was on the panel,
-
24:02 - 24:04I could talk about stuff
-
24:04 - 24:06yeah definitely, I'll do that next year.
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24:07 - 24:10- ♪ (Everywhere we go) ♪
- (Kids) ♪ (Everywhere we go) ♪ -
24:10 - 24:14- (Zach) ♪ (People wanna know) ♪
- (Kids) ♪ (People wanna know) ♪ -
24:14 - 24:18(Zach) ♪ (We are the CODAs) ♪
(Kids) ♪ (We are the CODAs) ♪ -
24:18 - 24:22(Zach) ♪ (The mighty mighty CODAs) ♪
(Kids) ♪ (The mighty might CODAs) ♪ -
24:22 - 24:25♪ (music) ♪
- Title:
- AttitudeLive - My Deaf Parents
- Description:
-
Hearing Children of Deaf Parents: A look into the world of families with deaf parents and hearing children (CODA kids) and the unique experiences of CODAs as they relate to other children their age. Families with deaf parents gather at a camp to share their experiences with each other.
- Video Language:
- English
- Duration:
- 24:41
Claude Almansi edited English subtitles for My Deaf Parents | ||
Darren Bridenbeck (Amara Staff) edited English subtitles for My Deaf Parents | ||
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Retired user edited English subtitles for My Deaf Parents | ||
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Kenzie Slottow edited English subtitles for My Deaf Parents | ||
Kenzie Slottow edited English subtitles for My Deaf Parents | ||
Kenzie Slottow edited English subtitles for My Deaf Parents |
Retired user
Great subtitling, just made some small changes in the sync of it.