A Speech on Integrity, Purpose, and Romantic Relationships [Full]

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transitioning into what i want to talk
about

uh... i've been studying

this kind of this whole topic of success
with women for about

half a decade now five years five years
of my life to spending a lot of time and

energy and focus

ob

on the building myself

more in that area

and

this past year

business or the phasing out of my life
the way that

the way that usually you guys probably
know about in the way that it's been for

me for five years because it's very much

we're all in this we're all here for

were some some point like

we've all been in the community

right we can agree that we know the
forums

we we know probably materials we listen
to all the stuff that all that knowledge

the people of from for us

and it's really good

and

it has to take us through

a certain journey you know you start
going out to star meaning a lot of girls

you learn some

how displaying different beliefs
different not some not so much anymore

tactics but ways to talk to people
support that nor you test it out

and

while we're learning this we should have
a goal we have in this picture of what

we want to be we have

we have a lot of the really awesome
instructors for all the dating companies

that arts or like role models for us

but out what i realized you know after a
while now but i'm sort of

i wouldn't really call my cell part of
the

part of the community

seen anymore because

it's not for my focus anymore

and what i realize is that these role
models is guys that our instructors

it's the usually only ten through
represent

one aspect of their life which is this
like dating a success with women

and the rest of their life which refers
you know foreign rich iv

if they're while rummaging being is x

tends to go

on talked about

so what i really want to talk to you
guys about was how

two really important aspects of my life

have been

severely influenced by my journeying for
my my ears to really consciously studies

success with women

and how my life is affected today after
on

no longer actively you know reno forums
going out and much stuff like that

map and the stuff that i've really
learned

this might sound like

when i made a speech

i really want to worry and ford's many
guys that are a couple of the more

advanced there

been doing this for a while their talent
coming out of finding themselves

but i think even as a newbie when you
start out to have these concerts in mind

will

sort of such a compass

you know on the right path so you don't
have to

maybe going too

a whole bunch of

really destructive negative stuff like
entry talked about you know going out

night after night learning something
that's not really going to help you not

give me what you want all your life

so i think everybody has something to
take away from it

him

i would also want to say that all the
stuff i'm talking about i've

the raj my own life experiences so it's
not really tailored to like

a lot of people

but i hope that everybody can get
something out of it

uh... i

i had an awesome power point but i can
show if you saw him

on these in

the two areas that i really want to talk
about

all relationships

relationships after you vote

and successful women

and lifestyle

lifestyles a pretty broad topic

and i'll explain how uh...

how this transfers

you know to what i do with my life

but up

madhya that's going to be pretty
self-explanatory

some of the stuff to make sense to you

well i'm going to talk about that

you have certain know where i'm coming
from and who i am in my life so you can

understand

studying successful women has given me

a really big aspect i'm going to boil
this down it's not exactly land but

these three aspects of are because my
life and i think the really represented

in the way

the first aspect of who i am

is i've tried to define this in many
different ways but

the only way i can say it is on the
lumber women lover of the feminine

and i think

all of those guys that are here studying
no successful women in were all

in some way

more than other guys we love women you
know and we

we want to learn ways to

have more women in our lives to take in
tracking them better to make them

happier by becoming better guys you know
so we're all on some level we are lovely

lovers when

i didn't really realize this throughout
my life but

when i'm always like girls were just

uh...

it's hard to say i don't really want is
that

girls girls throughout my life and
always been giving me gets

you know in one way and one way or
another and i think

than girls

give all guys gifts but it's hard to see
that my mom

when you really focused on you know
trying to learn game

and what i mean by that is

before i really learn like about the
community

i was kind of shied

hi was really nervous around women

i was going to be depressed cuz

i wouldn't have a lot of choices about
the girls

who ended up with me

i felt rejected a lot of time i felt a
lot a lot

uh...

and that's really how are you know saw
the effect of women in my life ends very

very negative i was very negative person
at the time

years now afterwards but i realize is
that

and that's one of my life when i was
getting from women was

you know super valuable because women
motivated me

begin your vision

begin the purpose they gave me drive to
actually improve myself god knows

where i would've been today if i hadn't
actually try to step up and become a

better person

because i wanted to get this error malai
panel

school than really motivate me grades
are in terrible my grades

money dash service cool but

lungs you had your

note little bit of food in your friends
who cares was really motivated by money

status

i can live without it was cool battered
but i could totally without it

the only part of my life right teamwork
like i wasn't getting what i wanted

and i was unwilling to accept it was
girls

and the president alf undertake air this

an

if anybody's able and this time of

undertake think it's a nice trip

and so it really dromi and it's changed
all other aspects of

it

during my development

in the community

the

the role of women in my life changed

for motivation visions of like that

too

is going to some terrible like these
humanizing hurt

whatever but the chase and sort of a

measuring stick for my progress

you know i would go out and

i would read about stuff you know it

be confident become thing dot and i
would read about and i'm like ok i'm

very confident that i am uncalled for
now

i noticed works

and i'm going to behavioral ability

hi mornings dion and i would realize
that they are not confident

so something's still wrong i would have
to go and just something and uh... and

fix it

how la howls when i wouldn't that would
have known

that out but i was making the right
progress or

but i was making progress at all

if it wasn't for having girls in my life

you know and at that time also there was
a lot of ventures you go out bolat

clubs

you meet a lot of different people
institutes crazy enriches your life

and again i was in corpus because

you know intro me even when i was tired
and when i had to school

even when i haven't

hundreds of other things to do still
went out and i still did this just

because i was so motivated

and driven by the fact that you know
i've been one except a life of mediocre

like a romance

now that i'm sort of

now that

you know i'm no longer actively learning

like i used to

a couple years ago

the role of what i get from women has
changed again

so

the way

and functions now is that i have women
in my life

and it's no longer i'm not measuring
myself up against them you know

instead

i'm using them as feedback to

to improve my swing prove all myself as
a person

in relation to them

before walls i was going out

in was a really good about the girl that
was in front of me 'cause you know all i

really was the experience are really was

with

the reaction of her her as a person than
really matter that much in this kind of

interchange will because

you know you got supplements very
impersonal

but when you start getting a little like
deeper

and u

start creating relationships

than all the sudden it forces you to

interact another person and

you know in really exposes those parts
of you that

that it's hard for your secure blind
spots once was the problem

you can really see these things

and when you have another person alive
relationship

in really like it becomes glaring we
obvious something is wrong in this

relationship

you can choose to say like wall it's her
it's her fault or

you know how was i supposed to know that
but

there are a lot of points
reindustrialize

maybe this is an insecurity that i have
and

if i want this working to drop it

and to be honest aside all the it's on
the romantic relationship do this

uh...

you know altman female friends

just feminine energy in your life and i
can totally

the uh... mera bree walker

and help you know this up as a person

so that is a that is a huge aspect of
who i am a lover of women

with two other aspects of who i am on
the student

hope

by a lot less esoteric and a lot less a

you know cool but i come from a very
academic family

and everybody my uh... you know

education was salvation right came from

and everybody was very very good score
granddad when i was growing up except me

uh... i just sort of lagged on i was
ever family stuff but

i was the play the black sheep

him

and then i wanted to make one more point

about who i am today

and i chose the word

entrepreneur

ros-lehtinen

nose like innovator

leader

happened all these things on a spider

to these things and one day god willing
i will be all these things but it's more

being an aspirin or something you do
being a leader something to do being

innovators something you do

so i'll just came down to being in that
for me

i'm a man and

unsung you know i was born this way and
some of the the vessel and i can be

so those of the background about

who i am today

but first topic

is relationships

what i noticed myself as i was uh...

as it was sort of

in getting more and more experienced
women

was that and one from this guide them
really really want to grow from

to realizing that while holed up now i
can can get like grow friends i can't

meet girls all the time

you know hang out with them why would i
want just one girlfriend

well you know what's the point of that
was the role of one woman in my life i

should be meeting girls all the time

and uh... uh

one-on-one monogamous relationships or
the role that fell away i just couldn't

understand that

i've been in a relation from vienna

so obviously that's changed

by still talked a lot of my friends that
met through

through this sort of feel the knowledge

and allot of them all

i see it in them they just don't
understand

what the point of having a woman in your
life

you know what is the point of that

not everyone

not everyone god knows that there are
supplies that will start reading up on

our little bit about this they will find
the first us curled that you know

likes what they have to say and they
will be out of here faster than you know

you can blink

and that's fine too in on these guys
obviously

everybody's going to do with they want

but

i think there's something in handling
wrong if you don't know what the role of

a woman in your life is

you know if you just uh... if you can
understand you get there glazed-over

look you like

lan one monogamous relation was one

and that's really what i wanted to us

i did talk a little bit about that now

one of the really really departs of
having

a girl in your life is that you forces
you to be a better man

how does this manifest

how does how does

having a woman in your life

force you to be of there man

the way i noticed it is

you know just like we're guys and we're
here we're trying to learn from be the

best as we can be

a lot of the times

what i would say it would we

ideally with a really really competent
guy can get a woman

is the gift of appreciation you know
girls are something of the club to get

really pretty

they they look really attractive

and they do this because they want
bastrop reshaping that's certainly give

the weekend

you know it's been talked about

lately in the community intent the best
way to really you know approach girls as

with intent to guys if you

if u

if you see that on the ocean and is a
great way if you can start harnessing

your intent for women let them know
drill inside and 'cause raymond when i

really appreciate this

fun

as opposed to the old model of life
knowing data showed this interest and

and then

make them chasing

which i'm sure works too but

the thing though is that some guys
including me including probably a couple

yourselves

we don't really know how to give

appreciation naturally it gets sort of

on the way up to gets distorted and it
comes out through median s

so this is a sort of like appreciation
that was supposed to be a woman in that

like lets them know that there

really attractive and hot and then
they're really good people comes out as

i don't need to color like ten times a
day and let her know that she's the only

one even though

meaningful platform

five minutes

and that's just creepy

emily's sorted

named nobody wants that's a very
unattractive thing

him

and you know that you know then leaving
us nothing kills attraction like

likeness

but it's somewhere inside you know that

you know if she can just

if you feel

the stuff that i'm feeling for her

than why would she want to be with any
other guy because you know she's like i

know album from the special she is it
just doesn't make logical sense

i like a so much why would she like me
back

the thing is if you don't know how to
really give appreciation is like sort of

esoteric pure form

then it's going to come out

very bad and wrong

the same way as

sometimes the guy doesn't really know
how to be a guy on a per cent

women will always know how to be women
hundred-percent

so

you know her personal contributions you
is that she is supposed to be

you know by being with you shes was me
making a better guy day by day

and so

a really good one wall you contributors
to very naturally unnoticed

you'll feel the new one step up

you want to be that guy you uh...

you want to be the best you can be

but sometimes doesn't always come out
and it's natural cure lovely form

too

aching to monitor a distorted to

and

what i've notice to talking to a lot of
guys

i'm

i've been in about a relation for a year
now some in no way shape or form and say

that i'm like married

but i what i seem to does that i've
talked to and out

and just of you know my parents they've
been together for so long

hi guys will come to be like

why should blowing small stuff out of
proportion why she

nagging me to do these little things
that don't really matter

lay for example

typical i guess if you're married

needed throughout the trash

as she flips out she's ugly cellular
fraud the trash for a while you are

doing this right

and as a guy thing it's not that big a
deal

you know whatever its

is very blood it's not going to change
anything if i throughout freshen up

but it's not really about the trash

it's the fact that you are not

you know she can somehow sense that
she's supposed to be

contributing something to you to make
you better to make you know

more focused to dislike us and make your
betterment and she doesn't know always

how to do that

so when it comes out

it comes out in ways that you
misinterpreted you misinterpret hurt

some contributions you as nagging or
dislike and understand what you're

saying shes such leeches being an
emotional woman

i can understand this it out and

that has to push gaza way

just like medium estas bush went away

but the thing is the way reason i want
to highlight this to you guys and let

you know about it you know i kiss

this isn't didn't occur to me while i
was

was concern in the midst of

release us women

i think a lot of guys when they become
attracted to woman

the feelings of press that they feel
they

into maybe not show ur life how much
they like ur

or support not and of course there is

eliminate don't need to be creepy

but it is a very natural feeling and you
should come to terms with a nation

really

really

realize that that is what your that is
like your biggest contributions when

and at the same time

even if you

stubblefield girl you might be
interested in

and it doesn't go all that well

you know if you don't get that

sort of uh... feeling or all men i liked
your mission like me enemies and so

angry

i think a part of

a party just when you realize that

this is as a guide this is what i'm
supposed to be you know

philly for a woman

a bit of the negativity falls away

you you no longer blamed them for

you know uh... why it was a she want to
be with me why

like and i

make her understand about how to how
cool guy

you know you don't get that anymore

and i know a lot of has a very very
angry

with girls because they feel like they
don't understand them and we can control

them

round

and this probably

milken stem from a lot of things but

one thing is i think that you don't know
with the role of women in your life is

parole in a woman's life is

uh...

so that idea sort of hit me

is sort of hit me

com

while upm

while i was going to tell

women on a deeper level

in my life

and what i really realize this

revelations like this i'd couldn't have
learned on my own

and i talked about this briefly a couple
weeks back

uh... i said

when you're learning game and you're
learning how to talk to women

when you're learning how to interact
with girls you know what to say what to

do

by compass if i got

you're actually learning

about yourself even though we call it a
success with women

you know like body of knowledge

it is actually more about how're you
relate to women

you're not actually learning so much
about women as

how you react to women

and you know what the internal processes
about you are

if you think about it

you all probably know about like field
reports

keeping a journal checking your progress
these are all very very

and

you know reflective

tools

because it's all about you you have to
see

why do i get nervous around women

why can i talk to them why why this why
that why my day

feeling as one of my belief like this

and you learn allot about yourself are
written you react to the world

this is great i think a lot of people

donor through the time in their life to
really get to know themselves

and makes you know

it does make for a poor person somebody
that has been taking that confident

respectively look at themselves

will be richer for it

but you're not going to be learned so
much about women

and think about it what's the what's the
old like dogma

about in the community you have to go
out

everynight go out to the club andy fifty
women

uh... have ethnic

is it like like every day he went out
for like six months anne just

interchangeably met the whole bunch of
women

it's not about to go

that's in front of him it was about him

how he's the only constant in that
equation housing reacting to to the girl

everything else is every night this
continue one

as i think we all like i said are lover
women

you know if emphasis we want to know
more about what we want to learn

intuitively

how they think how they hubby act would
make some happy will make sense that

and uh...

if learning game

is learning about yourself

being in a relationship is undoubtedly
that learning about women part

to expand on this

dear worship is learning about women

so you could argue

no itn_ and learning about women mum
out and no gaming 'cause i've learned

that women have an attraction trigger
too confident guys

you know they there

man

their evolutionary program to like on
thing dot so i i know female psychology

that's true

a conference comes in a lot of forms

and you can be confident biding by a guy
that steps up to you you know if some of

these bother your unocal them by
stepping up you know a push in like away

and then jumping into the ground as some
women will find that as confident

they're like loud so conferences

is they shipped from nobody

might think that ism insults you when
you have the confidence to walk away

and not be violent that's really like
the circumference

that turns them on

if you just sort of have a big concert
like when the like on thank god but you

never actually take the time to

get to know what is confidence and
woman's eyes and i can't you know you're

not really learning again about

what they like you're running about what
you want to express

so i thought that was a great sample
because we hear a lot of great concepts

in in this successful farming community

how you know

were supposed to acton

andy and his yourself amusement

all this but he comes in a lot of
different

shapes and forms

and ultimately until you find another
partner than you can

get to know on a deeper level

it's always going to be

so is going to be about you

so think about it

i like to do a lot of comparisons i like
fared in game two fellowships up with

them

and i do not want

uh... i

i talk about this also

and my must sort of previous beach a
couple weeks ago but i i really

i really think is important i want to
spend on it for all you guys if you can

catch it

the consular of having with with

wide

versus having depth

zoo concerts that

you can hear being thrown around you
know when people describe other people

he's a really wide guy

or is really deep guide

what occurred to me was that

when you set the stage in your life when
you haven't had a lot of spirit ends

with girls and even shot maybe just

you know in high school you decided to

belief of starting school instead of
being social

you don't have that with

with the the female species

so when you start going out

it sorta like your relationship of women
is very very uh... or example

it goes for everyone you go on and you
get more more experience you need more

women

you learn

more about

how diesels

unusual mechanisms worked

and it makes you really really white
person

you get of lot of experiences you need a
lot of people you probably make a lot of

friends

you

i know for facts how many guys go out
like a regular basis

yeah so you know probably like after a
couple months you know all the clubs

you know exactly where to be able to say
if you want to go out

you might even know a lot of the like
the bouncers you'll have a lot of

friends that you can

you know you'll be back guide that i was
going out

of

binoculars from

matt everybody knows matt

alumni guys such a funny guy

pennies your wife

i think pride in being white

i think i know

a city like i've learned a lot of places
a steady lyle languages in oakland

keynote i'd think it's a great thing

but if you have allot of with

but no depth as a person

you're going to be that got the cycle
yeah

matt i love him you know what do you
know bomb at received

knows the bouncer at

spy bar if you can get me in

with

investigative that's all you know about
matt than

that's not really all that inventing the
person you know

if you go home

and that calls you up he's like a man
you know i'm really tired tonight duan's

doggett abeer see a movie like

no you know i don't really know you like
that if you wanna go to a club

yet comida but

otherwise

people have a hard time relating to

two people

to going out a lot getting a lot of
experience

you have a lot of with

where sample

when you realize that you come the point

huh

we start feeling that

you know i know a lot of people but i
don't know really you know

a lot of people

that's women might be time for you to
shift from going in a horizontal give

direction to go in a vertical erection

which means that

instead of going out

every night

meeting somebody new

you take the person that you're with
right now in in this moment

and you ask yourself not to my what

how can i get more spirit would be more
people you have to self

from this experience what is how can i
make this

the most

potent experience

right now my book and i learn from this
moment right now

how can i make a

academic this the best moment by
possibly can

and you start getting depth

you know you start

experiencing

more of an emotional connection

because

if you see two people talking

and it's a very shallow conversation of
talking about the weather

there's a lot of ethnic composition

if you start talking on a more deeper
level than als and emotions get involved

and you start realizing rome and maybe

maybe i'm still really scared of

you know talking to people because i'm
not really feeling confident of

prolonged unloading this person

and ivory feels wrong you know it
doesn't feel good

and if they personally

that i didn't have a lot of death

when i was going out

this hit me sir like a brick wall
because

and one point my life i was comes in the
change sooner than lightning

in amsterdam great city and

in the beginning of the year the first
three months i when i was so much but

you know just go not like to have the
most amazing social skills ever

everybody knew me everybody thought was
also people like honestly

it was crazy is a very very good time

by the end of that exchanger i felt so
lonely and i felt like i mean so little

real connections with people that i was
like one of the lies

this i thought these people my friends i
thought this is what

you know being social was about

and then

it just made me realize that

if you don't actually take the time to

make the experience you have with the
person right in front of you

the best that it can be

and you don't put yourself into that
experience

you're going to losing accused aspect

of the social spectrum

and i had to sit down i had to learn
that

just like i learned going out

and that it's okay for me maybe approach
grow at a club

it's okay for me to start conversations
okay for me to be a little chicky

flirt now visa so that i had to learn

i has also learned to

calm the come flocking down when i was
going out you know this

maybe be playing chess in my head all
the time about what's going to happen

next but just

enjoyed the situation for what it is

no matter how it turns out

this is a learned

him

a large scale

and just like going on with women you
know

you need to probably sit down buckle
down learn this too

make my point

i'm talking about relationships

i'm talking specifically about what

roles correlation plays in your life is
as guys everyone learns to sex

with women

this is

visit

it's hard to argue that there is a
better way to get more depth as a person

than being a relationship or you really

do your best to open yourself up to the
person and be as forthcoming as you can

and i can imagine that as guys that
costly will improve the want to be the

best you can be that you want to be guys
that have been you know you didn't you

don't want to be desired babbitt has
nothing go on for himself except that he

goes up the club of harmony knows a lot
of people

so to delve into the dog is really deep
sense of

no connection to other people

being a relationship

something else that i noticed in people

that were

you know in this sort of a m

body of knowledge two sets of women was
that

than usual intend to come from mom not
all but

i can say myself included that would
tend to come from a spectrum where they

would be hypersensitive to what women
have to say

if the woman sort of been like you

it would really emotionally affection or

you would get crushes that we're really
based on anything just saw her

for thirty seconds and then you talk
yourself into thinking that you're in

love with a random would

you know the pressing for days on that
you would just get emotionally crippled

so what does deal is they tend to

train themselves to become really
emotionally distant from women

the learn how to not be affected by
women

this is a great thing if you are if you
don't have the proper emotional

responses to

to relation you need to think that time
to sort of distance yourself realize

which you're about

you don't know that it's not that big a
deal

shows like you you live

but what i see happening

is that

guys will numbers are so much to the
point of when they have a girl in my

life

they won't know what her purposes of the
like

i don't feel anything

she's just taking up time

i can go do something else whom i found
the does most list and let me

because

because i don't really know i don't
really feel anything this doesn't really

give me anything

cigs a terrible thing

you know this is a

in my opinion in police what i want out
of uh...

you know when i say success with women

hi in my head it's really learning of
well-rounded

romantic

life with women in it

and i think if you're not of emotionally
affected by women that you're actually

missing out on the biggest

on dealing with a girl

you're supposed to be a mostly affected
by women

as a guide to see when you were built
for

if i go back to talking about

what a woman gives you in your life

those are motions you know she supposed
to make you

feel like angry at times

happier times

one and if you do stuff

want to make you step up you'll feel
really appreciated these are the motions

that

the women are supposed to get it

and sometimes

through

negative emotions rejection

filed

depression whatever

she makes you stronger person

if you're not feeling these things for

for a woman in your life vent your
really missing out on

a lot of what it is to be a man

add some more highlights here about
uh... comparing different kinds of

relationships items from a fairly
quickly

a horizontal was vertical because of
more experience purses the best

experience

though of the other one one is of
results oriented any results and you

know when you are meeting more women i
want

how can i see that i'm improving well
with five coca before girls than the

means of getting lumbering

walls the other ones is more than the
other one is

the girls that i am looking of with how
good of the like i've been with hammer

having with them

quantity versus quality

so these are really really important
points to think about

if you can't

imagine yourself

getting in a relationship or you know

you know what the plan one is think
about it in our think about these

why are you here

you know why they why you want to give
battle for and why do you

why do you go out

so many nice in the week

and talk to some of them

of course

of course is a primal physical marriage

for

intimacy i don't know how much i can say
oh

of course you wanna have sex with women

brasileiro

that's what drives its a biological

biological

biological need

and it's one of the most like the primal
things driving

but if that's the only thing that drives
you you go realize that

anthony shallow

a lot of times if you can learn a
harness

if you can learn the hard part that you
can only harness

shelhah motivations in your life

you're going to be also new rochelle of
things and you know one

throughout your life you're never
actually got a do anything with yourself

that

took that really digging deep down

at the bottom out like anthony you know
you can't of about this convention

if anthony only had shelhah motivations
that he would they like you know i was a

nice idea but

i guess

it's not going to happen

learning how to harness these really
really deep emotions is

if it's going to come like we're going
to take away from the success with women

community

and really implemented in the other
areas of your life

uh... i'll ideally

you should be coming out of this with
more than just

you know how to go to a club known how
to open a girl

it's a dinner home

because let's face it

you don't you're not going to want to be
gone the clubs

five nights a week

for the rest of your life

you just not

you

at some point

if you don't develop these sort of
internal

pointers

then you're going to come out of this

and you know you probably you can put
the without

mass amount of one of throughout your
journey

but then on the other and you come out
and you still don't really know how to

pull the mind regular conversation
outside of a club that is a ship hyped

up and

you know full of

whatever label

uh... huh

nonsense

nonsense

venam

unifil really jaded

in feel let down by this you know it

there was a promise to you that one day
you could be you know you can have a

life had you have the samples and you
come out and

you're going to really angry problem
yang and not always but

i see a lot of guys that they blame

the

the success with women

you know body of knowledge for the fact
that they're not happy

there was a question

posting a couple of weeks ago

forgot as you have to go through this

deepened sense journey with not you know
having any success women to having a lot

of success women

and nam

that was a great question

no you don't

you don't have to go through the jury
some guys dicey

he took a boot camp they come in and
they're all willy nilly guns ablaze in

the club

and they get the girls that it's really
easy and i liked lake

i'm happy for you man

sir and and i am you know there's really
matter because interest

took devoted as a longer

the thing is you know

these are the guys ill who cover the few
girls

and a little bit later this bill like
though still not happy

you know i'm not happy

it's i thought this would make me happy

there must be something wrong with the
content

the commuter like this success when the
knowledge is letting me down

onto the next thing

the guys that you don't have the initial
success they have the intruder a little

bit little by little little by little

uh... those other guys in a stick and
for the long run

and to really get to that point where it

you know you have an abundance

of girls work in whatever shape

that line that is in your life this is a
lot of women or if it's one woman or

whatever

there's going to gaza develop a lot of
these skills likes hanging in there you

know digging deep

even when you feel like you're never
going to get this just keep going

and ultimately that's what you want

you know that's the kind of

that's the kind of stuff do you want to
learn

and i you're not gonna learn it

unless you are

unless you really go

into the stuff on a deeper level than
just going out the club's and a m

and need a whole bunch of them

so that was my little

sort of segment on

one-on-one relationships

enclosing

i want to say i don't think there is an
old allot of guys if you're like

what if i have multiple long-term
relationships you know with my primary

will blind and hooking up with

another girl on the weekend

every other weekend and that's great

you know i've nothing does that if you
want to do that you should totally do

that

and umm

i think a lot

they could be a lot of happy people
involved in one of those relationships

but if you don't know about being a
one-on-one monogamous relationship

and just megan at work

and then all the sudden you'd like to
take the lead to having a harem

then you're not going to really be able
to know how to handle those girls and

it's just if you're going to start
resenting them

they're gonna start resenting you and
the whole relations ten toxic

so if you want that multiple long-term
alicia byrd you want to for real

not just alike impress your friends or
whatever

then

we'll start with

so with longer i'll see if you can make
it work and then if at some point you

realize

i need more

the move on

first of all

so that's what i a m

does that say about that of missing
memberships

uh... i hope that i owe

some said something that you cannot

you can learn from and it may be made
you think o

even though maybe you're not ready for a
list of right now you're still not

favoring his party a lot and a lot of
people that

uh... at the end of the tunnel maybe the
next up

will be defining

now something a little more stable

how many longtime at

suite

the next thing i want to talk about

was a lifestyle

and

when of the stuff that was planning on
talking about serb interweaving

interviewed itself

relationship

now i realize

because know-how

how you do one thing in life

is how you do everything in life at
least that's how i feel

nam how you track of women

ideally should be how you interact with

everything else in your school work are
you

how you work everything

un

that being said

i did have some

some stuff that i've been that i've
really realize now that five years along

the road that i didn't really

c starting out

and now one of them was

goals and what you're supposed to do
with them

on my last week to talk about goals
every single

my friend

uh... once called me the like the
self-help poster child

because i've island him

i love learning about stuff i would like
obsessively breed

like time management manuals and

all sorts of things

and i would income even when it was in

really working out the best way no man
ahl alike are going to work it's just me

anything more dedicated focus

and goals

god knows like everybody tells you how
to have goals you go to should have laws

if you don't have goals you know where
you're going

something of that

people neglected to tell me or that i
didn't realize or maybe i was just too

young i hadn't really achieve anything
big in my life was that

there's a lot of

there's a lot of the canal comes

and i think people when they see a goal

we think it's either achieved

what's failed

miss elders to it

but it's not like that

him

as you go on

and you start having success in anything
you do a life mayan might be you note

success women or

something else a sport starting a
business whatever is that when you start

realizing

while on actually moving towards
achieving my goals

you start realizing that the vision when
you have been beginning

isn't really what you want

it's not

it's not what you want it's what you
thought you wanted because external

factors are circumstances

but as you move closer towards it

these goals are dissolving

you you realize that

maybe i didn't need that my life

and i think in great example liken the
pick one better if i tried was when and

things up here

and he set out

you know i bygones path

of trying to

training for my life when

and i don't really of our when u yeah

filed

yeah thank you

i didn't really

i didn't really feel that i did cheated
one two percent but it doesn't matter

because i moved on other things that is
a prime example of how anthony

he thought he wanted something he went
for and at some point he just dissolve

it is like you know what

and maybe i don't need to walk into a
club

anytime any moment

see a supermodel

and pick her up even though that's like
what he started out with his like i'm

not gonna stop until i can get any girl
i want to any club

which we start realizing these these
things that you thought where your what

your real true goals

we're just more maybe

maybe a result of

you feeling an emotional pain anyone
life changes and you think that

having the sort of outcomes

will change it

and what's really important is that

when you reach you know when you reach a
point

we start feeling what are your goals
even being achievers human being

resolved

the worst thing to do is release like
try it out

hammered out like no one will not going
to give up on the same pushed through

this with the sheer force because that's

i don't think that's a natural widowed

to go about these things

you know and think one guy actually told
me he was like why do some negative by

telling people they can achieve what
they want

you know why uh...

why do you need to be sitting down there

if that's how i come across at college i
think that's not a all what i want in a

city guys i think you should cycles we
should go from one percent

once you realize that

youth you note you can really achieve

quick or anything that you've set your
mind too

cliche but it was really understand what
i have like what it takes to make stuff

happen but it does take a massive amount
of energy time unfocused and

you know it's not or walk on roses then
you start being very very discreet like

discriminating with your goals

you know one maybe uh... i a how-to goal
of being like a super millionaire but

now that i realize that

isn't in years of hard work paid in

you know just ups and downs and not
really knowing then you go

honest are focusing on something else

and mike the journey and the dl highs
and lows in the paisa never going to go

away

when you get a lot more focus in on what
it is you really want

what it is that makes you happy

and you start going forward

everybody's i can be a bullet xiv
everything just cuz

you know there's a shoot there's a time
limit physically time live in iraq and

lived to be to a new year's all you can
do anything everything

but i definitely think that

you know any individual

something to really take and they really
go for it

can make it happen

and extraordinary things

another thing actually but i think a lot
about

complain a lot of after speech now he
said you had to be an original thinker

you have been a religion original
thinker and not be

swayed by influences

and i agree with us

and he had his own version about how he
it she this by you know

isolating himself and really you know
being self reflective

i see this in a different fashion

i've seen this actually through

starting to

achieve stuff in my life that i wanted

realize that a lot of the stuff that i
thought i want to in the past was wasn't

something i wanted all that it was
influenced by my parents

society around me my friends

stuff like that

when i realize these things assert
started to unplugged from

what other people want to four me and i
started thinking for myself well i want

for me

uh...

so developing this sort of

origin or thinking path

came through the process of achieving

you know you go i'd use of his goals and
out you go for them

i'm completely switched into a new field
now him

i'm trying to start a business without a
start

sort of like a known for their ship
thing and i'm going into this thing cold

turkey

or

and it's sort of the same thing off all
over again

with starting out

with learning how to pick up girls

you come into it

internal anything ideally

and you just

hammer away and you take it and

it's been invaluable for me going
through this process of

oven for myself as a guide learning
weapon like uh...

learning success women

is now

now that i think of his other projects
are know that i have the skills to

to actually

get tangible results

and if you look if you look a lot of
guys that are that are doing this

you'll notice that you'll start off
working with stuff that that's really

about you

you're going to something you wanted a
more women ul but un bla bla bla bla

you want to do a lot of stuff

once you really

feel sort of batao that sense of while i
can do this

it starts transferring into i want to
give to other people i want to make

stuff that

helps other people

because

once you have any internal like you
you've set yourself unhappy with who i

am

and i can just take it from there

then you start realizing that i
concerned take what i have on the inside

and

try to do something for other people

devalue has uh... and bigger context

anthony's donut through this convention

i'm doing it through my own my endeavors
no woman one of my biggest goals is that

i wanna sell out now with its kinda
cheezy but up

make sort of like an on from there
should think well it's so fun i'm done

with my friends and out

you know hard work but

still putting my own twist to it

and getting a value my own way

solo album

that's come all throughout to achieving
absolving goals

to wrap it up

annulled

there's another question posed to me by
gathered last though

can analyze what if

can anybody really do this can anybody
uh... jet

success with women in general was ross

nectar american romantic life handled

and at the time i don't really want to
be very harsh

but i thought about it and now

what i realize my life is there are no
guarantees

about anything

i had a lot of really big

big things i want to do with my life and
i realize that

if i do achieve these things it's so

avg

so unlikely that i will add that i will
achieve these things

that if i started thinking that i'm
entitled to them

i would become very bitter because of
the albums no feel likewise in why am i

doing wrong entitled to

and at the same way is

when you start realizing that you're not
entitled to

no nothing's going to be given to do you
have to step up enough to take it for

yourself

than a lot of that

not line up pressure on you or that

you know trying to live up to something
that you're not

kana drops away makes the whole process
allot more enjoyable

sab

so i guess it's might kind of a
juxtaposition it's depressing runway but

also

very liberating in another way

that's not the point i want to make

i know i really want to talk about

relationships and how does that mean and
hopefully

shed some light on for you and also arm
one of the show some light on

how coming out of this has affected

my view on the everything that i do in
life

that being said

since i'm not gonna get a chance of the
up here again

you know in orlando

i do

regardless on when i don't think anthony
for giving me the chance to be appear

i would think of my friends in the us
and sweden for coming out supporting

means than really great really what i
think my family my mom my dad my sister

for making me

cradling her

conferred

for me in the for uh... i mean the guy i
am can we had about the cause of that

out

benefits of why the fifth

so that service latin sale because in
the west beach and

the instrument dua

quite a few months

does anybody have any questions

uh...

colombo eliza u

uh... he said you you first need to have
uh... one oh one monogamous relationship

if you want to come for them believable
to working political polygamous

demonstration

uh... i have the troubles with uh... a
monogram australasia one-on-one

but i'd like to approach and it was
about by the fourth with my parents

often ivanova operation would woman and
worked out but

their own case that doesn't need to do
you have flown over they ship one-room

are not aba monogamous relation at home
and you had overreached

and had periods in my life where win
actually label it as a relationship but

i was reporter currency dating a lot of
women man

and one time so

i have that

for one months on end i would be seeing
the same couple girls for maybe like two

months for the group within the little
revision yeah whenever whenever actually

you know

mood

hes starting with a complicated
complicated now william whenever label

if as a polygamous relationship but i've
been in situations where i am than with

more than one

girl at a time

http my point of view is that

you can have ah...

promoted them as well as you about

i don't think it's the first is a more
than it was written and then the

bulletins i think the other way around
than residences which one is it's very

tough for these people for myself and
for the most guys is very tough to

bother you

writing for adjusting

twelve allows choice affair noted
adelaide

so and over alleged visit that they
deserve it around in a phone call from

and then two of my life

i have a point zero nine having this
this discrepancy in how we are reviewing

pulling this relation i do agree with
you on the fact that you do need to have

choices and uh... i don't like i said
with you for me necking in the shape of

going out a lot meaning a lot of the
world's

man

i'm not so much into those is bringing a
girl home for one night and then you

know

nominate so i would often see the girls
that i i would need out i would open

mike stay with them that's how i got my
him

my sort of

choices will know my girlfriend came in
after

my current girlfriend i was sort of
uh...

i was sort of phasing out loaded from
from going out so aggressively and i i

was in delhi looking anymore and for
dislike over and over meeting more girls

and then they just sort of

we met

and uh... it was sort of right timing
for the both of us

because i was sort of coming down from
the hardcore partying scene and so was

she

and i it just sort of clicked between us

yeah i'm showing you saying i think what
i'm trying to point out is that if you

want those of and you might you might
have this you might have to say i'm calm

only thing for myself but the monotonous
or the polemic polygamous relationships

that are really like bill to last and
you know

maybe you can have a girl miss living
with you and you know you're going to

have kids but then you still have

circularly

yadda yadda yadda bluntly but still like
to make it up and motion early

comfortable for everyone

year dishonesty or

right and i think that comes from may be
learning

i think it's easier to learning with

one woman out of time

just because big gives you your whole
focus on her

but that being said

you know to each his own

teaser poses for a for a brutal

was living on the theory of reroute
clear ans to self looking right with the

soviet as runs this over there you go
beyond the store yeah most guys in the

mood in the early on the status of the
not very that tends to be

i think that is a reflection of you know
it's all scary

opening yourself up merely showing where
you are

perforce and

like you said that it does this is a
learned trade being honest to yourself

something you learn who is something i
had to learn

ego doesn't build into other viewed in
your mind you a few you'll which one

natalie comfortable with it got you for
and

benefit that you can't use whatever you
want love like them one of those routes

or a boom

believe right whatever whatever reflect
a mess moldable multiples wonderful food

man

you're right and something that i
realize was that i

i kept trying to entrance to manag this
relation to the really one next explore

that part

and i kept

i can mean girls that

i wasn't really

clicking with but it was really working
out with no i was thinking why my

meetings girls at

really all that attracted to it and i
realized as i was really being myself i

was really being

open one of the same time

and then so i would meet these girls
that would

become interested abid

for the person who i wasn't

and then did tutors are worked out

good knows

right

mold spore canal

them yet

palestinian stand you collected some
sort of balance i mean you put it first

that it's more like

the votes

in a in one respect night

uh...

and height they're still with nights at
the same time ameen

and the yard and that i think

and being

of it on that level that i have some
sort of that sort of when

just one of the more constable with
myself and like

the

more myself in anyway yeah

so you think maybe but you up

you have the the little bit of with
metal deaf but you would prefer to work

on one like you want little bit more of
the with

known

yeah yeah no it is hard to sending us
topic the to speak about that

religious won't work on on

and being more more myself

that's the way

and that

i think will be that you're in period of
your life where you need to learn more

about yourself

and success like the whole community

learning game

like a citizen

excellent way to learn about yourself

uh...

i think primarily we're all here because
we win you know we want more

more with more

with more than going out meaning a lot
of women

but i think

very easily gets overshadowed like

more more with

gets priority over depth

and so

if europe or in your life we need to
meet more women totally should do that

but just remember at some point

you're probably going to want to shave
into deepening your relationships love

and war

so you got to do whatever you feel is
right for you

well that's one of the feel like it's a
very big topic then

decide to put

concrete progressive

absolutely

you know i think it's interesting that
you point out that for you what are the

rules of woman in the relationship is

uh... mission you about a man do you
have any at sent those hal

on taking out the trash that was in a
development that europeans because it

doesn't really great question actually i
want to talk about other my speech but

it's an indefinite foreign

about what it

by

it was it was fun 'cause ice oregon for
relation right when my friend

going through a ship and i remember were
both come looking for jobs

at the time and it was hard for both of
us

member

were both chana six frogs is hearty of
being a political hard thing to do

what i was hearing sometimes

op

what happened

was that from

his desert

and that's exactly what i a one is okay

yeah i was like oh my god on the start
talking about him and his

whatever here it was uh...

that she would be sort of like

on some k bb you'll find a job tomorrow
above lines like i'm not really getting

it like i want her to be more firm with
me i want her to really make me step up

and the like

getting that from her

dot

and then as sort of

sought in my own

mile relations where

pdf

the girl down with doesn't necessarily
put words on she doesn't ever liking say

take out the trash or

you know suck it up and they'll get a
job but it's sort of like

i know how it feels between us when
we're having a really good time and when

everything is

when everything's like really going
really well

and then if i

if i somehow start playing mind games in
my head and i'm not being the best i can

be that sort of

chemistry between us

will go flat

and when he goes flat i i can just
intuitively sounds like a lawyer why

army connecting is like we used to

and

the most

you know the most

glaring example for me was i remember at
one point i was having all these legal

mind is rose thinking

i'm not my clothes on like conscience
which my shirt because the shirt is a

nice

my hair isn't like that and so i my hair

and then

by just realize that i was thinking this

no visible shit

anita drop drop his knuckle head games
right now

and i drop them and i sort of just felt
like

the spark

reignite

and i'm like while look at that

you know when i actually take the time
of the stuff open mind drop all this

ambiguity in this nonsense the satellite

being less than i am

vent

it's it's enough feels a lot better for
me and you know i can't speak for her

but

i knew our relation lot more

and that's really like the guiding
compass within their relations sort of

feeling between you

you know and

sometimes i notice that sometimes i
noticed when i'm playing a game

sometimes i don't

but what i have notice is that like a
become a lot less self-conscious and

with

you know lessened in us with who i am

because of hanging out with her and then
realizing

of some things off

and then realizing that i am

not stepping up

skill sorry to say that should be comes
like camille you know yes some that's

not that's a perfect where

which is a very very of

she's like a mere

and it's not like a near where she says
that you're not doing that right or she

is saying something to lakeland no
specifically but it's a sort of more

light you can feel that

it's not all that it could be

you know i'm very conscious of this i
think about the stuff and i think for

another guy if he doesn't know

maybe he hasn't really thought about
this

you might think that all that

you know she's

something's wrong with her something
wrong with something's wrong with me

here

you know he might blame it included a
number of factors and who knows it may

be you know maybe i have done this right
but it just

it just makes so much more sense to me
that

when it's not really on a percent
between you and your girlfriend

them out

then the best thing that you can do is
really check yourself

looks look into that mere

and check yourself and see mi playing
some sort of head games

and i really being like the goddam
supposed to be

very good question

because nobody else well

fight

okay and i wonder if you could say
something about ah... what what do you

think that the purpose alot

the having with space

so i will explain that little bit as
uh... as i heard you say you said like

jordan journey

became from very very little

with and

adept yeah and then ye un through a
period where you you had a lot of

experience and you experienced width
their and then you said suddenly

felt like you were kind of the shell a
person who wanted that

c went for that and

and you got the depth

padam sewing then do you realize that
going out to having like parking ever

night in everything morse not liked

the end digvijay then arizona right so
its peak you don't want to do that your

whole life right

analysts say that you already field you
have had a long relationship with him

and that you feel you have

certain amount of depth orthodontics
let's say

but you'd feel that you want day width

and uh...

and when i hear you saying like okay

you have the depth of edwidge liked the
encode may not them not beyond all

nobody's wanna well-rounded and balanced
but you still feel acting did with so

you go back to me fixed it with

and then you and then you find out ok
untill i want over to the death of

jilted ahead scl so so what about the
width in that kind of scenario

jinsoon

uh... i was sort of uh... what i've been
getting for is a beard sir lacking

balance indifferent like balancing the
through out

uh... i

the with the way that i did i
interpreted is that with comes from

workspaces

if you go out

and you live in a lot of countries and
these people are languages you play a

lot of instruments that we will be able
to connect with a lot of people

surface you know very on a shallow level

man

but you're not going to be

you know they're going to maybe talk to
you by the way i punishment too and you

can have a little chat about instruments

but you're not going really like really
be able understand how they feel about

you know what they do and how a lot

how they are

how to do it

and i think the balance comes in

you know who knows

who knows if

i have

it's you always have to work at this
time probably going to go up out of

balance at some point mylife again no is
justice in journey

but up

but it's as maintenance things
maintenance thing

you go out

and then you find a partner that sort of

you know cheese

a balanced person as well and then you
just do your best to maintain an

overtime if you fear self getting to
like to narrow than you go out and you

do some more stuff and if you feel
yourself

getting to shallow

than you know sir focusing on them
partylite

butted it's kinda like this now is like
a set-aside goal it's going to be like

na line the altman balanced person

it's always going to be

lifelong journey of working at it

some of you going to be in a
relationship sometimes

in our community worship

as you know a lot of stuff and sometimes
are not going to do so much

yeah i agree

i think that the like the

you want to do with for some and you
don't you left the bathroom and went for

the death and then you kind of

reached a situation where have
girlfriend one-on-one right so to speak

and the

and i think it's important to have

you you can have that relations dispute
between a startup that relationship one

one-on-one it's a great relationship you
have everything you have the deputy talk

freely trip to go memnoch thing

but you still have their

uh... i think antony said like the dark
clouds or follow yale you don't really

have the choice or something lacking
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but you want but the menu go further
with them and can come back to the death

of the it's an insurgency art of living
balancing it out leading a balanced life

it out

is there any person that's

balance completely an

i think that's one we all should on
you'll be working for

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persons will serve

have bought their goals

the things like he used to death

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uh... when you have a goal then your
life in your working really hard towards

it

you can just sense that out you're like
a sort of enriched

with a greater meaning in life things
are better

vote on it

even when you're done with something and
you don't or like you like a senate is

all that you no longer involved with it

you're going to go through these periods
of ambiguity when you don't know what

you want to do but even within that and
you did as i was in goal of

the site

eventually

finding the next ought to want to be
like that next thing next thing next

thing but even in that in ambiguity

you know that sooner or later

something's going up

pop in your life that you really want to
work on that you really want to focus on

and

nation

think back on just

when relax and not done forces

is how live

you know dot lit in the past

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most of the invective do you have

because you thought but with the depth
of inability made tonight are you get

that that's

uh...

how to get that i guess that's that's a
good point and the really touch on that

with the sort of saying that

that'd be clear but

website like i said briefly comes from
the more use of the most up to do

more with you get more people out where
you know that comes from morow

when you stop focusing on i mean more
experiences and something more stuff

and you start focusing on the experience
that i have a right now high command

arrived as much as i possibly can from
and how can i make this experience right

now

the most with

you know pleasurable the most

if it's a negative stories are going to
the most up

how can i learn the most from it how can
i really

instead of

instead of thinking about what you would
be next like on scared because this is

going to or on the you know i can't wait
to get this is boring

east are really focusing on

the thing that you're doing it and

you know in our context says this is
more like geared toward success with

women obviously i

describe it to a relationship that is
that of allot of women

you focus on how can i make this the
best possible moment with one woman

and that's really i found gives that
depth when you try to

when you try to gain the most you can
out of the experiences you have instead

of having more experienced than the navy
you know

not really in the running everything you
could

putting during the relationships

to get more tax

it's a big wanted

from under such of

i wouldn't want to label myself as any
sort of relations will relate ordering

month-end close done but up what you do
in a relationship because of the

individual from person a person

but what you do when lake

how you feel about that relationship if
you're bored

the something's wrong if your

you know if it's not working out with
business to you something is wrong and

so

looked like looks was yourself why do
when i think the white one my thinking

this my board 'cause on all of you know

and my board because

i feel that i need more more more all
the time because you know how this is a

black

or am i

and i'm not happy because

you know it could be a lot of reasons
but generally what you relation

arkansas you markedly when you should be
in relation

at a really like i haven't really
thought about that

to gain the depth of though

you should really start looking at more
one of my feeling right now and if

you're not like having an awesome time

with than if you're not having like

feeling good emotions than generally
something's not working out their

knowing you're not getting everything
they can or if you're not

you know on the flip side

positive motions on the flip side of
that is if you're not learning and

growing into a better person

venireman something someone off gone
right there

right

yeah elephants could be open bunch

yeah julia m

that as you said

you know when you mentioned

mian might products

like i felt like when i didn't have a
job i really wanted to be firm with me

and forced to step up a command because
like a lack of political issues that are

just really like come with the woman
like off

what's going to be right you'll find
something soon you're such a good

personal

and i really wanted more if you can yes
right i wanted her forced me into that

poll but the masculine just go get 'em
right

the act on it

and to herd

statement complimentary opposite

indeed the woman instead of

communicates so maybe something like
that thank you

no i want her forced me into the
masculine

speed nothing without ten seconds
statistics numeric walk-through of the

late missed out in the beginning of a
sudden like the won't woman's

contribution from and isn't she

she forces into to improving self upon
itself and you know maybe she wasn't

which was in doing that

i think it's very feminine trait you
know might sound masculine but i think

that's the finance role

we can we talk about that in matter off
the aaa unless you something so

i'll be guys got something from this
maybe a little big sometimes there have

been really them up on across but i hope
that

you learned from uh... from what i have
sayin again and really have to

and sense of the property