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We might have the feeling that...
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we are shaky,
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we are not solid—
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we have too much fear in us.
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And that is the complex of...
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inferiority—low self-esteem.
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And of course, we would like
to look for something solid,
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something we can take refuge in,
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so that we can diminish our fear
and our uncertainty.
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And that is why, looking for refuge,
you have to be careful.
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You should only take refuge
in someone that is solid.
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You should take refuge only
in something that is solid.
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Suppose you take refuge in the sun.
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The sun is something
that keeps its promise.
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It will rise every morning.
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It will never miss to be there
for you in the morning.
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So taking refuge in the sun,
that is good.
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Whether there is rain,
or not...
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there's cloud or not,
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the sun will be there
for you in the morning.
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So there is stability,
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there is...
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certainty.
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So you should rely on the sun.
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You should rely on the Earth.
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A farmer relies on the Earth
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and he has faith in the Earth.
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The fisherman
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has confidence in the ocean
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because...
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he knows
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the direction of the ocean.
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Every time he goes to that direction,
he will meet the ocean.
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And the ocean is the source of...
for his life.
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He can fish. He can...
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support his family.
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So the ocean is his refuge.
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The ocean always responds to his...
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his need.
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The mountain also.
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If you know a mountain, and if...
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you want to meet the mountain,
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you just go and you see the mountain.
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The mountain will never disappear.
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If you go in the right direction,
you'll see the mountain.
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So, looking around, you can see...
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one person, two persons, three persons,
who are like...
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the sun,
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or ocean,
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or the mountain.
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He is always there for you
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if you go in his or her direction.
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Don't pick up someone who
doesn't have that kind of stability,
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that solidity.
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Because in the person
that has stability and solidity,
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there is the Buddha,
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there is the Dharma,
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and there is the Sangha
in him or in her.
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Because it is...
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the strength—the energy, of the Three Gems
that make him or her stable and solid.
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And in the beginning,
you might take refuge in him or in her.
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And when you look at him,
you look at her deeply,
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you find out what kind of...
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elements, what kind of practice,
that have helped him or her
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(be) stable and solid.
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You can count on him.
You can count on her.
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She is somehow like a sun.
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And if you want to go into her direction,
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she is always there for you.
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Maybe she's silent.
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She does not do much.
She does not make any declaration,
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but she's there like a mountain,
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he's there like ocean.
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Even if you don't go to him or to her,
you just think of him or her,
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you have a comfortable feeling.
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And then you take refuge in him or in her.
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That does not mean that
you have to make a declaration.
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"Dear Brother, dear Sister,
I take refuge in you."
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You don't have to do that.
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When you look deeply into that person,
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you see the seeds that
help him or her to be like that.
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You see the practice that can
help him or her to be like that.