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When I was a child,
I knew I had superpowers.
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That's right.
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I thought I was absolutely amazing
because I could understand
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and relate to the feelings
of brown people, like my grandfather,
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a conservative Muslim guy.
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And also, I could understand
my Afghan mother, my Pakistani father,
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not so religious but
laid-back, fairly liberal.
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And of course, I could understand
and relate to the feelings of white people.
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The white Norwegians of my country.
You know, white, brown, whatever,
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I loved them all. I understood them all,
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even if they didn't always
understand each other,
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they were all my people.
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My father, though,
was always really worried.
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He kept saying that
even with the best education,
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I was not going to get a fair shake.
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I would still face discrimination,
according to him, and that they only way
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to be accepted by white people
would be to become famous.
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Now mind you, he had this conversation
with me when I was seven-years-old.
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So while I'm seven-years-old,
he said, look,
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so its either got to be sports,
or its got to be music.
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He didn't know anything about sports --
bless him -- so it was music.
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So when I was seven-years-old,
he gathered all my toys, all my dolls,
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and he threw them all away.
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In exchange, he gave me a crappy little
Casio keyboard and singing lessons.
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He forced me, basically, to practice
for hours and hours every single day.
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Very quickly, he also had me performing
for larger and larger audiences,
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and bizarrely, I became almost
a kind of poster child
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for Norwegian multi-culturalism.
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I felt very proud, of course.
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Even the newspapers were starting
to write nice things about brown people,
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so I could feel that
my superpower was growing.
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So when I was 12-years-old,
walking home from school,
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I took a little detour
because I wanted to buy
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my favorite sweets called Salty Feets.
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I know they sound kind of awful,
but I absolutely love them.
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They're basically these little salty
licorice bits in the shape of feet.
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And now that I say it out loud,
I realize how terrible that sounds,
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but be that as it may,
I absolutely love them.
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So on my way into the store,
there was this grown white guy
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in the doorway blocking my way.
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So I tried to walk around him,
and as I did that, he stopped me
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and he was staring at me,
and he spit in my face,
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and he said, get out of my way
you little black bitch,
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you little Paki bitch,
go back home where you came from.
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I was absolutely horrified.
I was staring at him.
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I was too afraid to wipe
the spit off my face,
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even as it was mixing with my tears.
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I remember looking around,
hoping that any minute now,
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a grown-up is going to come
and make this guy stop.
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But instead, people kept hurrying past me
and pretended not to see me.
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I was very confused
because I was thinking,
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well, my white people, come on!
Where are they? What's going on?
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How come they're not
coming and rescuing me?
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So, needless to say,
I didn't buy the sweets.
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I just ran home as fast as I could.
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Things were still okay, though, I thought.
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As time went on, the more successful
I became, I eventually started attracting
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harassment from brown people.
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Some men in my parent's community
felt that it was unacceptable
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and dishonorable for a woman
to be involved in music
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and to be so present in the media.
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So very quickly, I was starting to become
attacked at my own concerts.
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I remember one of the concerts,
I was onstage, I lean into the audience
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and the last thing I see is
a young brown face
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and the next thing I know
some sort of chemical is thrown in my eyes
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and I remember I couldn't really see
and my eyes were watering
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but I kept singing anyway.
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I was spit in the face in the streets
of Oslo, this time by brown men.
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They even tried to
kidnap me at one point.
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The death threats were endless.
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I remember one older bearded guy
stopped me in the street one time,
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and he said, the reason
I hate you so much
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is because you make
our daughters think
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they can do whatever they want.
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A younger guy warned me
to watch my back.
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He said music is un-Islamic
and the job of whores,
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and if you keep this up,
you are going to be raped
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and your stomach will be cut out so that
another whore like you will not be born.
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Again, I was so confused.
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I couldn't understand
what was going on.
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My brown people now starting
to treat me like this -- how come?
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Instead of bridging the worlds,
the two worlds, I felt like I was
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falling between my two worlds.
I suppose for me, spit was kryptonite.
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So by the time I was 17-years-old,
the death threats were endless
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and the harassment was constant.
It got so bad, at one point my mother
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sat me down and said, look,
we can no longer protect you,
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we can no longer keep you safe,
so you're going to have to go.
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So I bought a one-way ticket to London.
I packed my suitcase, and I left.
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My biggest heartbreak at that point
was that nobody said anything.
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I had a very public exit from Norway.
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My brown people, my white people,
nobody said anything.
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Nobody said, hold on, this is wrong.
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Support this girl, protect this girl
because she is one of us.
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Nope. Nobody said that.
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Instead, I felt like,
you know at the airport, on the baggage
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carousel you have these different
suitcases going around and around
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and there's always that one suitcase left
at the end, the one that nobody wants,
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the one that nobody comes to claim.
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I felt like that. I'd never felt so alone.
I'd never felt so lost.
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So, after coming to London,
I did eventually resume my music career.
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Different place but unfortunately
the same old story.
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I remember a message sent to me
saying that I was going to be killed
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and that rivers of blood were going
to flow and that I was going to be raped
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many times before I died.
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By this point, I have to say,
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I was actually getting used
to messages like this,
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but what became different was that
now they started threatening my family.
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So once again, I packed my suitcase,
I left music and I moved to the US.
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I'd had enough. I didn't want to have
anything to do with this anymore.
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And I was certainly not
going to be killed for something
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that wasn't even my dream --
it was my father's choice.
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So I kind of got lost.
I kind of fell apart.
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But I decided that what I wanted to do
is spend the next however many years
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of my life supporting young people
and to try to be there in some small way,
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whatever way that I could.
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I started volunteering for various
organizations that were working
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with young Muslims inside of Europe