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【正直トーク】大人だって悩みは尽きない

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    Translation & Subtitles: thoseguiltyeyes | scandal-heaven.com

    Hello! RINA here.
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    Today's video is one where I'll be chatting at home for the first time in forever.
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    Hasn't it been a really long time?
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    Lately I've been filming vlogs of stuff I do when I go out,
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    so it feels like it's been a really long time since I've done this.
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    It feels kind of weird.
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    I asked people to send in stuff like what's been bothering them lately,
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    what they've been thinking about,
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    or any large or small problems.
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    I'll be selecting a few of those and talking about them.
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    A lot of them overlapped.
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    Like, there were a lot who were thinking the same thing,
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    or worrying about the same thing.
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    There were also a lot of things that I could relate to.
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    It made me think that everyone really does think the same kind of things.
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    I'll talk and answer them leisurely as we think together.
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    (Before that...)
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    A lot of my viewers are around my age.
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    I'll be turning 32 this August,
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    and mostly everyone is around that age.
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    I felt that the problems unique to my generation
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    and that the way you think changes with each generation.
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    I was like, "Yeah, I guess we do think of things like that now."
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    At any rate, I'll start reading from the first screenshot I took.
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    "This is my third year in the workforce. Every day is like a routine, and it seems like every year there's less and less fun things to do."
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    Right?
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    Like...
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    You have to go to work every day and come home.
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    I've always been in the music scene,
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    and I think it's a job that involves meeting new people
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    and doing things in new places relatively often.
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    If you look at it roughly, the process is very similar.
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    We make new music, promote it, tour,
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    tour while making new music,
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    and record that music after touring.
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    It's a very luxurious way of life,
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    but I totally understand [situations like the question asker].
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    So, if you ask people around you how to keep things fresh,
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    I think there'll come a time when they'll say it's difficult to do.
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    So I think the only way to do that is to learn something new,
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    or find something you like to do,
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    or study something new as an adult.
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    In that sense,
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    sometimes you have no choice but to renew yourself.
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    For me, how I should edit a video is different from what I'd do with music.
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    I'm not saying that it feels really fresh right now,
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    but when I went to French school,
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    it really felt like I was off to a new start.
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    Also, I did a video about this,
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    about how I've been doing Pilates to work out and refresh myself.
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    Every day, recently—it's really a recent thing—
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    I've been trying to spend an hour a day
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    studying something that has nothing to do with my lifestyle or work.
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    Maybe do something like that.
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    I think you have to get things going on your own.
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    It's impossible to have someone else provide you with a fresh environment every day.
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    It takes time,
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    but in the end, I think the only thing you can do
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    is to make new moves on your own.
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    On to the next question.
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    "I haven't had any feelings of love for a man for more than 5 years now."
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    I see.
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    It's like, "What does it mean to love, anyway?"
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    Love, huh.
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    The power of love is incredible.
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    It can make you do your best at anything.
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    The moment you fall in love with someone,
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    or the time frame when you do,
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    is really awesome.
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    But sometimes I think that if I could learn to make myself happy,
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    I would truly be invincible.
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    Some might think that sounds really lonely,
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    but at any rate, maybe I'm just trying to be someone
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    who can have fun on their own.
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    I think there are a lot of things I'm not doing well, though.
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    Maybe there's someone you'd have fun with and feel fulfilled by
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    and you'd like to be with them,
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    or maybe there's someone who's attracted to you.
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    If you're mentally open like that,
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    you might have a better chance of meeting someone.
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    But, well, as you get older,
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    it feels like you're less likely to have people that you're attracted to.
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    Or rather, the number lessens.
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    There's more and more to consider.
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    So it'd be nice if you could make yourself as happy as possible
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    and have good encounters and feelings of love
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    appear somewhere along the way, wouldn't it?
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    I totally get you.
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    I totally understand this situation.
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    "I often wonder how I and my family will live in the future. I'm filled with anxiety."
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    Family, huh...
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    Yeah...
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    I'm the eldest out of five kids.
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    My mom was a single mother.
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    I also played the father role in the family.
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    That's why I do a lot of thinking.
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    Like wondering how we can all ultimately be happy.
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    Since I love my job, there are times when I'm like,
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    "I need to work hard and earn money."
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    That's not the only thing, though.
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    There are definitely times when I feel anxious
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    because my family is one I have to support properly.
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    Since this person might not have the same circumstances as me,
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    they may be feeling a different kind of anxiety.
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    But I definitely feel that way sometimes, too.
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    I hope we can keep the band going for as long and healthy as possible,
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    but I wonder how I would be able live my life
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    if something difficult happened to me, such as my health declining.
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    It's no good if I can't look after my family.
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    What I should do at that time...
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    This is not a negative thing in terms of the band at all,
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    but something I think about level-headedly as a human being.
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    Sometimes it's hard to find the answer,
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    and I get anxious and scared.
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    But in the end, I feel like I have no choice but to do what's in front of me.
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    But I totally get that about family.
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    It's because you care about them so much that you're worried.
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    I understand.
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    I also play the father figure financially.
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    I've been paying for my sisters' tuitions all this time.
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    I pay all the rent and living expenses at my parents' house.
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    Sometimes I feel like it's hard to talk about money with others.
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    I think that instability there would have a huge impact on one's mental health.
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    For me too...
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    But there's no choice but to work hard, ultimately.
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    There's no choice but for me to do it.
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    I think that's why I've been able to stay motivated and try all kinds of things.
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    Sometimes I wonder if I'd be able to work this hard if it was just for me.
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    Sometimes it can be an anxiety factor.
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    I think that knowing there's something you need to protect can be motivating.
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    "Human relations and communication in the workplace are difficult, aren't they?"
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    They are difficult.
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    In my case...
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    The band's been together since we were young.
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    We have a very special bond.
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    So it's a very difficult relationship to explain in words.
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    But each one of us is an individual person,
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    and although we're friends who have been playing music together as a band for a long time,
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    we are also our own person.
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    I think it's good to be involved
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    while maintaining a good sense of distance and emotional space.
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    That's why we've been able to support each other
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    and be a band for such a long time.
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    In that way...
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    I think I've been adjusting and thinking about it a lot more since we've grown up.
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    But the relationship between us is a bit too special,
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    so this may not be helpful to others.
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    Also, we have close relationships to those at our management office and record label.
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    I think that's the main thing about interpersonal relationships at work in my case.
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    But that might also be a special case.
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    I think it depends on the office,
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    but in our case, we are very close, like a family.
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    At this time, I really want to separate and cherish my private life, in a good way,
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    so, honestly, I think there are more things we don't mention or talk about with each other than before.
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    Not that there's anything wrong with that.
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    That's why I think our relationships keep changing.
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    You yourself change as well.
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    It'd be good if we could all communicate what we need to convey,
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    maintain a good distance,
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    and build relationships at work while protecting ourselves.
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    I've never really experienced what it's like to have a boss and subordinates like in a company,
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    so I probably don't understand all of that properly.
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    I don't think I know anything about it.
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    I can imagine it, but I'm sure there are things you won't understand unless you're there experiencing it,
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    so I don't think I can say anything adequate.
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    I'm sure it must be hard.
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    It's really commendable. It really is.
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    I think that's impressive.
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    We also speak really casually to the head of our office.
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    That's what it's like [where we are].
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    That's how close we are.
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    But I'm sure that doesn't happen very often.
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    That's why there are so many things that I can't even imagine.
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    But there's a part of me that believes that if you truly convey something properly,
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    it will get through to everyone.
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    Yeah.
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    It'd be nice to be involved without it being too difficult.
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    Here's a cute question.
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    "I'm going to Tokyo Disneyland for the first time in forever. I'm so unsure what to eat at the park."
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    That's so cute.
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    So tranquil.
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    Disney's great.
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    I also went recently with a friend.
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    It might have been a while ago, actually.
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    It was fun.
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    I always have to have a churro.
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    It's delicious.
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    Please have fun!
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    They might have already gone.
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    "I get emotional easily and regret it later."
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    I get you.
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    I totally get you.
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    Because you value something and have passion for it...
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    Your words become strong, fast, and sharp.
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    Because, you know...
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    I don't think it's possible to be emotional without passion.
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    You know you'll regret it,
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    and you'll probably hate yourself for being that way.
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    I think it's great to be able to change things in creative ways,
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    but I think it's really great to have something you're passionate about,
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    something you can put your heart and soul into,
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    to the point where it's something really emotional for you.
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    I'm totally the same way.
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    I'm totally like that when I talk about the band.
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    Yeah.
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    There are lots of times when I wonder why I said something in a certain way,
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    or how I could have communicated it better.
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    That's why sometimes I try talking about that topic one more time.
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    Yeah, there are many times when you can't apologize properly.
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    That's when you reaffirm that you are passionate about it.
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    It's been a long time.
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    But yeah, in that way...
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    I think it's great when there are things that you can really get emotionally attached to.
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    So I think it would be good if we could talk about the things we want to change,
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    even if it's just a little bit at a time,
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    or about the things we think we did wrong that we can make up for later,
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    even if it's after the fact.
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    I'm sure there will be times when they'll understand,
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    and you'll feel better, too.
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    "I'm tired of comparing my life with my friends' all the time."
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    Looking at social media, right?
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    You subsciously compare things.
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    Isn't that the same for everyone?
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    If there are accounts that make you feel bad when you see their posts,
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    I think it's fine if you mute them.
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    In regards to social media, that is.
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    I wonder if there are times when they do comparisons during conversations.
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    Because everything in your life is something you've experienced yourself,
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    I think there are times when you feel like there are no improvements in your life.
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    I feel like there are so many cases where someone's life is insanely special from someone else's perspective.
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    You're like, "That's not what my life's like."
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    I'm sure there's a lot of things you don't realize,
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    like the parts that other people envy and think are amazing.
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    I think you'll realize that your life is impressive.
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    "I'm a 24-year-old woman. I'm going out with someone 12 years older than me, and it's hard to keep up because my money sense differs."
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    Maybe you should talk to them about this.
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    You're dating, after all.
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    It's better that the two of you talk about it.
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    For the long run, as well.
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    I think it'd be a good idea to honestly talk about what you wrote to me.
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    "I'm going overseas for a year soon for work, and I'm wondering if I should go out with someone I like right now."
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    You mean it'd end up being a long-distance relationship, right?
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    I think it's fine to go out with them.
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    A year actually goes by so quickly.
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    They could also go overseas if they want.
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    You can call each other and stay in touch.
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    Maybe I'm the type of person who doesn't think of distance as a problem.
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    I think it's a good thing when two people like and are attracted to each other.
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    Although it might not be as easy to meet each other
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    as when you're living in the same country.
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    However, I think there's a possibility it'll become a special time
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    that you can say afterwards was a good time.
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    I think it's really cool when women work hard for a year overseas like this.
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    Ah, I got one of these questions.
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    "Now that I'm at the age where I have friends who are getting married or living together, I feel anxious even though I've never been in a relationship."
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    Yeah.
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    Almost all of the questions I got are this kind of type.
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    When I ask for questions, most of them are like this.
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    There's really no way to solve this.
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    Everyone is different, so there's no need to worry.
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    But it is true that when you think about your body and such,
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    it's natural that you feel like you're counting backwards, especially for women.
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    I'm sure there will be a lot of things to think about, like whether you'd have a baby or not.
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    I get it.
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    I'm wondering what's going to happen to me too, really.
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    With that in mind...
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    But there's always so much to do in front of me.
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    Just because I might take a break doesn't mean I'm getting married.
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    I've been in my band for a long time.
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    Yeah, no one knows.
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    But my married friends say that it's all about timing.
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    A lot of people say they never thought it would be like this,
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    and I also think that's how it must be.
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    So, to rewind a bit,
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    I'm the type of person who thinks it's better to have a foundation where I'm fine even if I'm alone.
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    I'd like to be able to live a normal and happy life on my own
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    before I go out with someone or not, get married or not.
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    We'll have new kind of fun when we're together.
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    That's what I feel right now.
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    That's what I'm feeling now.
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    But I get you.
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    Isn't it the same for everyone?
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    So don't think you're the only one.
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    Make yourself happy by thinking that you're not in any particular hurry.
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    It doesn't have to be fun all the time, though.
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    I think it would be nice to have that,
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    to be able to live your life in a good way.
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    Marriage is not the ultimate goal.
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    There are a lot of new and difficult things [after you get married].
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    "This is about interior design preferences. I just moved, so I'm unsure of what to do. RINA, what theme do you have at your place?"
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    Oh, they moved? It's fun to design new places.
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    I like antique vibes.
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    I go to flea markets.
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    I got that mirror in back of me at a flea market.
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    I've bought antiques in Europe,
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    like that picture frame next to [the mirror].
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    I've bought stuff from vintage shops in Osaka.
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    I go to stores like that when we go overseas on tour.
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    I've bought lamps and such.
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    Hold on a sec.
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    This one.
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    I bought this recently.
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    I bought this in Paris recently.
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    I collect stuff from various places while traveling.
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    Something like that.
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    Also, my sofa is beige.
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    My tables are also mostly beige.
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    Beige might be my go-to color.
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    Beige.
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    Beige in color.
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    Ah, this one...
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    "If I can't congratulate my bias on their marriage, would I be semi-disqualified as a fan because I love them too much?"
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    Ah, but...yeah...
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    It is shocking,
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    when fans are suddenly informed like that.
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    We're all human, of course.
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    Even if you understand that your bias is in love and has a private life,
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    it's still shocking, I'm sure.
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    You've been supporting them with your time and money for a long time.
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    I don't think that disqualifies you as a fan.
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    I'm sure there are people who feel that way, though.
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    But things like that aren't something you can control.
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    The artists as well.
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    It's someone's life, and they are free to choose to do things as they see fit.
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    But I totally understand.
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    I get it.
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    I wonder if fans would congratulate me if I got married.
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    All of the questions from here on are basically about marriage.
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    "Can I be happy without getting married?"
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    "I don't think I need to get married, but everyone I know is in a rush to get married."
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    "After meeting more than 30 people on a dating app, no matter how much I think about it, I prefer my ex-girlfriend. I'm already heartbroken."
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    But you worked really hard.
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    You made a change and took action.
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    That's impressive.
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    Meeting over 30 people.
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    It takes a lot of strength to meet people, doesn't it?
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    You're meeting someone for the first time,
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    and you've repeated it 30 times.
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    That's impressive.
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    I see.
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    Your ex-girlfriend.
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    This is difficult.
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    If you have high expectations, you might end up hurting yourself.
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    But why not try talking [to your ex] just once?
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    If this is possible.
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    You could just meet up.
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    If you really think you can't hold it in anymore, why not confess your feelings?
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    I really feel like that could help sort some things out.
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    I feel like just properly conveying your feelings would make a difference.
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    I hope you meet someone good.
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    "I'll be quitting my job tomorrow. I'm in the process of looking for a new job, but I'm not sure if I'll find a good one."
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    Wow.
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    I have a girl friend who recently decided to change jobs.
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    We're about the same age.
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    She doesn't have a clear idea of what she wants to do next,
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    so it's difficult for her to choose a company.
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    She's single,
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    but I've heard that there aren't many companies that'll hire a woman in her 30s
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    who might get married soon and quit, or who might get pregnant and quit.
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    That's also tough.
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    I was just thinking how difficult that is.
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    She applied to a lot of places
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    and finally found a job where she thought she might be able to do well.
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    Before that happened, I got a call from her.
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    She was crying, asking what she should do.
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    I was also panicking.
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    But I listened to her, and she told me all of this.
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    So I know it's a real pain.
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    The more proactive you are, the more chances you have.
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    That's what I thought after seeing what she went through,.
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    So I hope you can get through this and do your best now
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    so that your future self can feel at ease.
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    I don't know what a good job would be like for you,
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    but...
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    I hope you find a company where you can demonstrate your full potential and feel at ease.
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    "I started playing the drums this year but can't play them very well."
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    Oh, nice.
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    Then you've been playing for a little over half a year.
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    It's normal to have trouble drumming well at first, so it's okay.
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    An instrument is something you have to practice for your whole life.
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    If you stop even for a bit, you'll decline.
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    [The drums] are really interesting and a lot of work,
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    since the sound comes directly from them.
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    Keep having fun as you continue playing.
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    I hope you continue having fun while making changes, such as covering your favorite songs,
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    playing louder, or changing your settings up.
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    "What do you think about one's boyfriend hanging out with other girls?"
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    "I'm a little tired of my friends and boyfriend being in contact with each other so much."
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    There were a lot of questions from people having trouble with their partners.
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    Just talk about it with each other, really.
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    You're in a relationship,
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    so you want to be able to talk about
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    the good things and the bad things with the person you're with.
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    I mean, it's because you love them that you don't like when things like that happen, right?
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    I think it's best to convey that with love.
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    It's better to talk about it than deny it.
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    You don't like it, and it makes you feel jealous.
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    I think that's all.
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    How long have I been talking?
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    It's been over 40 minutes.
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    How will I put it all together?
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    It was a lot of fun to be able to talk about everyday life with you guys.
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    It's nice.
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    Even if we can't reply back and forth,
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    just being able to talk to people like this, even if it's through a screen, is nice.
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    I really felt like we're living in the same era and in the same way.
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    Everyone worries about similar things.
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    You're not alone,
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    so don't worry too much about things like that, or panic, or feel anxious.
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    On the contrary, good things will happen, of course.
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    I hope we can keep conversing like this.
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    At any rate, if you can weather through it, you'll be fine.
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    Thanks so much for watching to the end!
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    See you in my next video!
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    Bye bye!
Title:
【正直トーク】大人だって悩みは尽きない
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