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Bearded Lady Beats The Bullies

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    HARNAAM: This is who I am, I'm different and
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    I've learnt to accept it fully.
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    COMM: Meet the incredible 23-year-old woman,
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    Harnaam Kaur who's been growing a beard since
    the age of 16. And she says she's never felt
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    more feminine.
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    HARNAAM: It's the way that God made me and
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    I'm happy with it.
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    COMM: Harnaam from Slough has polycystic ovary
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    syndrome which can cause excessive hair growth.
    She was just eleven when it sorted appearing
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    on her face.
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    HARNAAM: I would hide it by talking to people
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    with my hands over my face. I used to wax
    it and that became really painful so I would
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    just shave it or use different sorts of creams.
    Um I used to bleach it too.
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    COMM: Harnaam endured bullying at school and
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    stares from people on the street.
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    HARNAAM: The names that people would call
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    me were things like beardo instead of weirdo,
    um she-man, she-male.
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    COMM: She's even received death threats after
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    posting videos about female facial hair on
    YouTube.
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    HARNAAM: I have had people telling me that
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    they're gonna burn me and that they're gonna
    throw brick at me.
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    COMM: At her lowest point she began self harming,
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    and even considered taking her own life.
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    HARNAAM: I would lock myself in my room, I
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    didn't want people to see me because I knew
    that would lead to more stares.
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    COMM: At the age of sixteen, everything changed
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    for Harnaam, when she took the decision to
    be baptised as a Sikh.
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    HARNAAM: We need to keep our bodies intact
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    the way it was given by God. It was literally
    at the point where I had enough of people
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    bullying me, me feeling down, me having suicidal
    thoughts, me self harming, I just had enough.
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    COMM: The decision proves controversial, even
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    Harnaam's own family were against it at first.
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    HARNAAM: The concerns that my mum and dad
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    had were I won't have a normal life "normal
    life"I say, as a young girl should have. I
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    won't get married, there were concerns about
    me getting job, how there was no employers
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    out there that will employ a bearded lady
    and such.
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    COMM: But she's found support in her 18-year-old
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    brother Gurdeep, and friend Surrinder.
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    GURDEEP: She's happy living her life, does
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    what she wants to do, so it's really good
    for her, as long as she's happy that's all
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    I really care about.
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    SURRINDER: For me to see her without the beard
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    no I think it would be a shock, it would;t
    be the same person, I so I think having the
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    beard has probably given her a lot of strength
    etc. to be who she wants to be, to say what
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    she wants to say, and y'know just be happy.
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    COMM: Harnaam still has to endure stares in
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    the street, and is often mistaken for a man.
    But she's learnt to accept it.
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    HARNAAM: I do play around with it a little
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    bit because sometimes when I go to the public
    toilets and someone goes to me um "Oh this
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    is the women's" and I actually put on a deep
    voice and I say no this is for men's. SO I
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    kind of play around with it and it's funny
    because we all end up laughing.
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    COMM: Today things are looking hop for Harnaam,
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    she works as a primary school teaching assistant,
    and she's received dozens of messages from
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    women and men around the world, who say they
    love her beard.
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    HARNAAM: One guy saw my picture and he goes
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    to me, will you marry me?
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    COMM: And she hopes her story will encourage
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    other women to be more body confident.
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    COMM: This is me, this is who I am, it's my
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    inner beauty, it's my outer beauty, it's my
    oneness, it's my wholeness. I'm different
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    and I've leant to accept it fully.
Title:
Bearded Lady Beats The Bullies
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03:41

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