Mardon Ka Aalmi din - Javed Ahmed Ghamidi

International Men's Day
- Javed Ahmed Ghamidi

[Hassan Ilyas] A few days ago

at an international level

in fact, international men's day
is celebrated every year

but it is not acknowledged widely

nor do people pay much attention to it

those people who are now
seriously studying this matter

they say that whatever happened with women

their rights and their oppression

it has been understood and highlighted by
the global conscience to a large extent

but the psychological
challenges that men face

their emotional conditions and issues

not only it is not understood
at an international level

but whenever topics like
these are discussed

then it is said that it is a
patriarchal society

and that they have come to
subjugate us once again

so in your view

what is the way to achieve balance?

that we acknowledge men's rights

their international day

care for their mental health

respect for their emotions

and their value and their contributions

accepting them

this is also indispensable for
a healthy society

[Javed Ahmed Ghamidi] Men, women,
children, elders

all of them deserve such attention
according to their personalities

however, what happens is that
on some occasions

a class of people is really oppressed

and as a result of that
there is a reaction

this reaction as you have seen
in the past two hundred and fifty years

that it gives birth to -isms

while commenting on this I had said

that they always become the basis
for the rise of extremist attitudes

we have Allah's Deen with us

it has in the very first stage brought
to us that instruction of Allah

in which we have been given a balanced
point of view for everything

that is, what is the status of men?

what is their contribution?

what emotions should we have towards them?

what are their responsibilities?

what are their rights?

in the same way, what is
the psychology of women?

what positions do they occupy?

what are the responsibilities
related to them?

what responsibilities does
nature assign them?

and what should be our attitude
towards them in that regard?

these things have been clarified in
Allah's book and by Allah's messenger

same is the case of children as well

and in case of elders

as you know parents with
regards to their old age

they have been discussed in great
detail in the Quran and Hadees

our mutual relationship and ties

in the same way whatever
we earn and consume

what is everyone's share in it?

how will the wealth be divided
after our death?

all of this guidance has been
given for this very reason

so that man does not get
afflicted with such imbalance

so if you look at it with
respect to the world

then it is a good thing

that if a voice was raised for
the rights of women

or that now people are raising voice
for men's issues as well

it should be praised

however, we are not
'without guidance and a divine law'.

we have Allah's book with us

and if you just read Allah's book
beyond your own emotions and wishes

and if you want to know how
Allah ta'la has guided us

then in my view

we do not need any 'ism' nor do we
need any such campaign

it is enough to take the right
invitation of Deen to people

and to give correct knowledge
of Deen to people

we have in our entire lives
never felt the need to

as a husband

as a father

or with regard to our relation with
our kith and kin,

we have never felt the need to
look towards someone else

nor we will have to in future, Inshallah

and that is because we have
Allah's book with us

and the light and guidance
that it contains

what is that?

is that an emotional thing?

it is this very light and guidance

which teaches us the
correct balance in life

it clarifies the value of every thing

it keeps everything in its right place

this is what has been described
by our Creator in this way

that I have made this world and universe

so I have placed a balance in it

and I have given you this lesson

allaa tatgaw fil meezan

you must not disturb this balance of Allah

so this is the teaching, which
if you keep before yourself

then there is no doubt

you will not fall prey to mistakes

but when people ignore this teaching

if they live their life as if there was no
guidance and divine law for them,

then that imbalance comes into existence

about which women have complained

and which gave rise to the
movement of feminism

and about which men complain as well

and in many matters they do
complain about genuine issues,

now in this there are two ways

one is that you adopt different extremes

there is a dialectic

from which you can create a synthesis
or some union,

and this method of trial and error,

you can keep wasting your time on this

or you can turn towards Allah's book

and accept its guidance

take that light and guidance from it

after that there is no
need to look at anything else