WEBVTT 00:00:00.000 --> 00:00:09.440 [rhythmic drum music] 00:00:09.440 --> 00:00:13.438 [Top-left male] It's really important to understand what giving sexual consent actually means; 00:00:13.438 --> 00:00:17.068 emotionally and physically - [Top-right female] and knowing what laws are here 00:00:17.068 --> 00:00:20.448 to help protect you and keep you safe. [Woman] Imagine asking your partner to have sex 00:00:20.448 --> 00:00:23.408 is like asking to use their mobile phone. [bottom-right male] Can I use your phone? 00:00:23.544 --> 00:00:25.604 [Top-left male] What might they say? [Top-right female] You'd think there was 00:00:25.604 --> 00:00:30.484 only two answers, right? Yes or no. [left male] Well, it's a bit more complicated 00:00:30.484 --> 00:00:34.304 than that. But first, let's deal with the simple part. [right male] So can I use 00:00:34.304 --> 00:00:36.974 your phone? [left-female] No. [right-female] That's pretty easy to understand, 00:00:36.974 --> 00:00:40.604 they don't want you to use their phone. You might feel a little bit upset 00:00:40.604 --> 00:00:43.834 that they don't want you to use their phone now or any time soon, 00:00:43.834 --> 00:00:46.674 [male] but worse things have happened, you'll just have to wait until they're 00:00:46.674 --> 00:00:49.564 ready to let you use their phone. [left male] And you shouldn't pressurize someone 00:00:49.564 --> 00:00:53.564 into letting you use it. [right male] Give me your phone. [left female] No!. 00:00:53.564 --> 00:00:56.394 [right female] But if they say - [left female] Yeah! This is where things 00:00:56.394 --> 00:00:59.384 get a bit more complicated. [Right female] They might say - 00:00:59.384 --> 00:01:01.404 [left female] Sure you can use my phone to make a call... [female] This might come 00:01:01.404 --> 00:01:04.384 with conditions like - [left female] You can only use it if it's to make 00:01:04.384 --> 00:01:07.574 a short call. [right male] What if I send a text message? [right female] Or look 00:01:07.574 --> 00:01:10.864 at your photos, [right male] Or show your photos to my mate? 00:01:10.864 --> 00:01:13.584 [female] Doesn't mean that you can use their phone whenever you want without asking. 00:01:13.584 --> 00:01:16.664 [male] Giving you permission to use their phone for a quick call does not mean 00:01:16.664 --> 00:01:19.714 that you can use their phone however you want or whenever you want. 00:01:19.714 --> 00:01:22.634 [male] And sexual consent is exactly the same. [Right female] So if somebody 00:01:22.634 --> 00:01:25.984 says yes to something like a kiss, this doesn't mean 00:01:25.984 --> 00:01:29.034 they're saying yes to anything else. [Left Female] And having sex once does not 00:01:29.034 --> 00:01:33.034 mean you can demand sex again whenever you want without asking. [female] And if 00:01:33.034 --> 00:01:38.994 your partner can't give you an answer for any reason, this never means yes, 00:01:38.994 --> 00:01:41.824 [Left female] And not saying no does not mean yes. You wouldn't just take someones 00:01:41.824 --> 00:01:45.124 phone if they hadn't said yes, would you? Hey! [Right male] So when you 00:01:45.124 --> 00:01:48.994 think of it like that, there are similarities between asking to have sex 00:01:48.994 --> 00:01:52.094 and asking to use someones phone. [Male] And the best way to understand 00:01:52.094 --> 00:01:55.364 what your partner is happy with is to talk about it. [Right female] It might 00:01:55.364 --> 00:01:59.784 feel a little bit awkward at first; you might get excited or nervous or worried 00:01:59.784 --> 00:02:03.974 [female] but it does get easier. And remember, not as many people are doing it 00:02:03.974 --> 00:02:08.194 as you might think. [male] it is so much better when you both know what you think. 00:02:08.194 --> 00:02:12.194 [male] Remember, when someone answers you, it's up to you. 00:02:12.194 --> 00:02:17.644 [rhythmic drum outtro music]