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[rhythmic drum music]

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[Top-left male] It's really important to understand
what giving sexual consent actually means;

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emotionally and physically - 
[Top-right female] and knowing what laws are here

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to help protect you and keep you safe. 
[Woman] Imagine asking your partner to have sex

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is like asking to use their mobile phone. 
[bottom-right male] Can I use your phone?

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[Top-left male] What might they say?
[Top-right female] You'd think there was

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only two answers, right? Yes or no. 
[left male] Well, it's a bit more complicated

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than that. But first, let's deal with 
the simple part. [right male] So can I use

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your phone? [left-female] No. [right-female]
That's pretty easy to understand,

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they don't want you to use their phone. 
You might feel a little bit upset

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that they don't want you to use
their phone now or any time soon,

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[male] but worse things have happened, 
you'll just have to wait until they're

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ready to let you use their phone. [left male]
And you shouldn't pressurize someone

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into letting you use it. [right male] 
Give me your phone. [left female] No!.

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[right female] But if they say - 
[left female] Yeah! This is where things

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get a bit more complicated. 
[Right female] They might say -

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[left female] Sure you can use my phone 
to make a call... [female] This might come

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with conditions like - [left female] 
You can only use it if it's to make

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a short call. [right male] What if I send 
a text message? [right female] Or look

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at your photos, [right male] Or show 
your photos to my mate?

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[female] Doesn't mean that you can use their
phone whenever you want without asking.

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[male] Giving you permission to use 
their phone for a quick call does not mean

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that you can use their phone 
however you want or whenever you want.

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[male] And sexual consent is exactly 
the same. [Right female] So if somebody

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says yes to something like a kiss,
this doesn't mean

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they're saying yes to anything else. 
[Left Female] And having sex once does not

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mean you can demand sex again whenever
you want without asking. [female] And if

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your partner can't give you an answer
for any reason, this never means yes,

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[Left female] And not saying no does not
mean yes. You wouldn't just take someones

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phone if they hadn't said yes, would you? 
Hey! [Right male] So when you

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think of it like that, there are 
similarities between asking to have sex

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and asking to use someones phone. 
[Male] And the best way to understand

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what your partner is happy with is 
to talk about it. [Right female] It might

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feel a little bit awkward at first; you 
might get excited or nervous or worried

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[female] but it does get easier. And 
remember, not as many people are doing it

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as you might think. [male] it is so much 
better when you both know what you think.

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[male] Remember, 
when someone answers you, it's up to you.

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[rhythmic drum outtro music]