1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:09,440 [rhythmic drum music] 2 00:00:09,440 --> 00:00:13,438 [Top-left male] It's really important to understand what giving sexual consent actually means; 3 00:00:13,438 --> 00:00:17,068 emotionally and physically - [Top-right female] and knowing what laws are here 4 00:00:17,068 --> 00:00:20,448 to help protect you and keep you safe. [Woman] Imagine asking your partner to have sex 5 00:00:20,448 --> 00:00:23,408 is like asking to use their mobile phone. [bottom-right male] Can I use your phone? 6 00:00:23,544 --> 00:00:25,604 [Top-left male] What might they say? [Top-right female] You'd think there was 7 00:00:25,604 --> 00:00:30,484 only two answers, right? Yes or no. [left male] Well, it's a bit more complicated 8 00:00:30,484 --> 00:00:34,304 than that. But first, let's deal with the simple part. [right male] So can I use 9 00:00:34,304 --> 00:00:36,974 your phone? [left-female] No. [right-female] That's pretty easy to understand, 10 00:00:36,974 --> 00:00:40,604 they don't want you to use their phone. You might feel a little bit upset 11 00:00:40,604 --> 00:00:43,834 that they don't want you to use their phone now or any time soon, 12 00:00:43,834 --> 00:00:46,674 [male] but worse things have happened, you'll just have to wait until they're 13 00:00:46,674 --> 00:00:49,564 ready to let you use their phone. [left male] And you shouldn't pressurize someone 14 00:00:49,564 --> 00:00:53,564 into letting you use it. [right male] Give me your phone. [left female] No!. 15 00:00:53,564 --> 00:00:56,394 [right female] But if they say - [left female] Yeah! This is where things 16 00:00:56,394 --> 00:00:59,384 get a bit more complicated. [Right female] They might say - 17 00:00:59,384 --> 00:01:01,404 [left female] Sure you can use my phone to make a call... [female] This might come 18 00:01:01,404 --> 00:01:04,384 with conditions like - [left female] You can only use it if it's to make 19 00:01:04,384 --> 00:01:07,574 a short call. [right male] What if I send a text message? [right female] Or look 20 00:01:07,574 --> 00:01:10,864 at your photos, [right male] Or show your photos to my mate? 21 00:01:10,864 --> 00:01:13,584 [female] Doesn't mean that you can use their phone whenever you want without asking. 22 00:01:13,584 --> 00:01:16,664 [male] Giving you permission to use their phone for a quick call does not mean 23 00:01:16,664 --> 00:01:19,714 that you can use their phone however you want or whenever you want. 24 00:01:19,714 --> 00:01:22,634 [male] And sexual consent is exactly the same. [Right female] So if somebody 25 00:01:22,634 --> 00:01:25,984 says yes to something like a kiss, this doesn't mean 26 00:01:25,984 --> 00:01:29,034 they're saying yes to anything else. [Left Female] And having sex once does not 27 00:01:29,034 --> 00:01:33,034 mean you can demand sex again whenever you want without asking. [female] And if 28 00:01:33,034 --> 00:01:38,994 your partner can't give you an answer for any reason, this never means yes, 29 00:01:38,994 --> 00:01:41,824 [Left female] And not saying no does not mean yes. You wouldn't just take someones 30 00:01:41,824 --> 00:01:45,124 phone if they hadn't said yes, would you? Hey! [Right male] So when you 31 00:01:45,124 --> 00:01:48,994 think of it like that, there are similarities between asking to have sex 32 00:01:48,994 --> 00:01:52,094 and asking to use someones phone. [Male] And the best way to understand 33 00:01:52,094 --> 00:01:55,364 what your partner is happy with is to talk about it. [Right female] It might 34 00:01:55,364 --> 00:01:59,784 feel a little bit awkward at first; you might get excited or nervous or worried 35 00:01:59,784 --> 00:02:03,974 [female] but it does get easier. And remember, not as many people are doing it 36 00:02:03,974 --> 00:02:08,194 as you might think. [male] it is so much better when you both know what you think. 37 00:02:08,194 --> 00:02:12,194 [male] Remember, when someone answers you, it's up to you. 38 00:02:12,194 --> 00:02:17,644 [rhythmic drum outtro music]