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[Top-left male] It's really important to understand what giving sexual consent actually means;
emotionally and physically - [Top-right female] and knowing what laws are here
to help protect you and keep you safe. [Woman] Imagine asking your partner to have sex
is like asking to use their mobile phone. [bottom-right male] Can I use your phone?
[Top-left male] What might they say? [Top-right female] You'd think there was
only two answers, right? Yes or no. [left male] Well, it's a bit more complicated
than that. But first, let's deal with the simple part. [right male] So can I use
your phone? [left-female] No. [right-female] That's pretty easy to understand,
they don't want you to use their phone. You might feel a little bit upset
that they don't want you to use their phone now or any time soon,
[male] but worse things have happened, you'll just have to wait until they're
ready to let you use their phone. [left male] And you shouldn't pressurize someone
into letting you use it. [right male] Give me your phone. [left female] No!.
[right female] But if they say - [left female] Yeah! This is where things
get a bit more complicated. [Right female] They might say -
[left female] Sure you can use my phone to make a call... [female] This might come
with conditions like - [left female] You can only use it if it's to make
a short call. [right male] What if I send a text message? [right female] Or look
at your photos, [right male] Or show your photos to my mate?
[female] Doesn't mean that you can use their phone whenever you want without asking.
[male] Giving you permission to use their phone for a quick call does not mean
that you can use their phone however you want or whenever you want.
[male] And sexual consent is exactly the same. [Right female] So if somebody
says yes to something like a kiss, this doesn't mean
they're saying yes to anything else. [Left Female] And having sex once does not
mean you can demand sex again whenever you want without asking. [female] And if
your partner can't give you an answer for any reason, this never means yes,
[Left female] And not saying no does not mean yes. You wouldn't just take someones
phone if they hadn't said yes, would you? Hey! [Right male] So when you
think of it like that, there are similarities between asking to have sex
and asking to use someones phone. [Male] And the best way to understand
what your partner is happy with is to talk about it. [Right female] It might
feel a little bit awkward at first; you might get excited or nervous or worried
[female] but it does get easier. And remember, not as many people are doing it
as you might think. [male] it is so much better when you both know what you think.
[male] Remember, when someone answers you, it's up to you.
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