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[Top-left male] It's really important to understand[br]what giving sexual consent actually means;

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emotionally and physically - [br][Top-right female] and knowing what laws are here

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to help protect you and keep you safe. [br][Woman] Imagine asking your partner to have sex

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is like asking to use their mobile phone. [br][bottom-right male] Can I use your phone?

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[Top-left male] What might they say?[br][Top-right female] You'd think there was

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only two answers, right? Yes or no. [br][left male] Well, it's a bit more complicated

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than that. But first, let's deal with [br]the simple part. [right male] So can I use

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your phone? [left-female] No. [right-female][br]That's pretty easy to understand,

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they don't want you to use their phone. [br]You might feel a little bit upset

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that they don't want you to use[br]their phone now or any time soon,

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[male] but worse things have happened, [br]you'll just have to wait until they're

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ready to let you use their phone. [left male][br]And you shouldn't pressurize someone

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into letting you use it. [right male] [br]Give me your phone. [left female] No!.

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[right female] But if they say - [br][left female] Yeah! This is where things

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get a bit more complicated. [br][Right female] They might say -

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[left female] Sure you can use my phone [br]to make a call... [female] This might come

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with conditions like - [left female] [br]You can only use it if it's to make

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a short call. [right male] What if I send [br]a text message? [right female] Or look

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at your photos, [right male] Or show [br]your photos to my mate?

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[female] Doesn't mean that you can use their[br]phone whenever you want without asking.

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[male] Giving you permission to use [br]their phone for a quick call does not mean

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that you can use their phone [br]however you want or whenever you want.

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[male] And sexual consent is exactly [br]the same. [Right female] So if somebody

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says yes to something like a kiss,[br]this doesn't mean

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they're saying yes to anything else. [br][Left Female] And having sex once does not

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mean you can demand sex again whenever[br]you want without asking. [female] And if

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your partner can't give you an answer[br]for any reason, this never means yes,

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[Left female] And not saying no does not[br]mean yes. You wouldn't just take someones

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phone if they hadn't said yes, would you? [br]Hey! [Right male] So when you

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think of it like that, there are [br]similarities between asking to have sex

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and asking to use someones phone. [br][Male] And the best way to understand

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what your partner is happy with is [br]to talk about it. [Right female] It might

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feel a little bit awkward at first; you [br]might get excited or nervous or worried

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[female] but it does get easier. And [br]remember, not as many people are doing it

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as you might think. [male] it is so much [br]better when you both know what you think.

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[male] Remember, [br]when someone answers you, it's up to you.

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