WEBVTT 00:00:03.690 --> 00:00:07.750 [Music] 00:00:18.900 --> 00:00:23.020 do you respect the tie dear brothers 00:00:21.670 --> 00:00:28.689 here in the hall 00:00:23.020 --> 00:00:32.730 dear Sangha today is Mother's Day and I 00:00:28.689 --> 00:00:37.270 would like to send my love to my mother 00:00:32.730 --> 00:00:41.590 for supporting me all the time in so 00:00:37.270 --> 00:00:46.030 many ways to be here right now all the 00:00:41.590 --> 00:00:47.710 conditions she had prepared and was 00:00:46.030 --> 00:00:53.499 there for me and I want to also thank 00:00:47.710 --> 00:00:58.809 her mother and the mother of my mother's 00:00:53.499 --> 00:01:02.710 mother I want to thank the ancestral 00:00:58.809 --> 00:01:07.720 stream of my blood ancestors going far 00:01:02.710 --> 00:01:13.479 back and I also want to thank our 00:01:07.720 --> 00:01:18.479 teacher ty for nourishing me for being 00:01:13.479 --> 00:01:22.060 such a transformative and meaningful 00:01:18.479 --> 00:01:27.340 also mother to me with a lot of love and 00:01:22.060 --> 00:01:31.299 care teaching me how to handle life how 00:01:27.340 --> 00:01:36.280 to take care of myself and I would also 00:01:31.299 --> 00:01:41.020 like to say thank you to Ty's teacher 00:01:36.280 --> 00:01:46.810 and the teacher of Ty's teacher and the 00:01:41.020 --> 00:01:51.609 stream of our spiritual ancestors going 00:01:46.810 --> 00:01:55.229 far back to the Buddha who is sitting 00:01:51.609 --> 00:01:59.530 here behind me very peacefully and 00:01:55.229 --> 00:02:05.020 having my back literally and I feel safe 00:01:59.530 --> 00:02:08.200 and at ease knowing that both my blood 00:02:05.020 --> 00:02:10.479 ancestors we have an altar here for our 00:02:08.200 --> 00:02:14.920 blood ancestors and my spiritual 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:18.070 ancestors on the other side with the 00:02:14.920 --> 00:02:20.940 Buddha having my back I know I can be 00:02:18.070 --> 00:02:20.940 very grateful 00:02:21.950 --> 00:02:28.790 I want to share my story with you 00:02:25.099 --> 00:02:33.800 mmm a classic Zen story about a man and 00:02:28.790 --> 00:02:36.260 a horse and you might know it there is a 00:02:33.800 --> 00:02:41.959 horse and this horse is galloping very 00:02:36.260 --> 00:02:45.680 fast racing and the man on the horse it 00:02:41.959 --> 00:02:49.280 looks like he needs to go somewhere very 00:02:45.680 --> 00:02:53.060 important maybe his wife is giving birth 00:02:49.280 --> 00:02:59.410 or he has an urgent message for the king 00:02:53.060 --> 00:03:01.900 to deliver their racing and there is a 00:02:59.410 --> 00:03:05.660 man standing at the side of the road 00:03:01.900 --> 00:03:09.410 seeing that and as they come racing by 00:03:05.660 --> 00:03:12.470 this man shouts hey where are you going 00:03:09.410 --> 00:03:20.510 and the man on the horse replies I don't 00:03:12.470 --> 00:03:27.410 know ask the horse off he goes and this 00:03:20.510 --> 00:03:32.290 man stands there asked the horse ask the 00:03:27.410 --> 00:03:38.049 horse so the title of the talk today I 00:03:32.290 --> 00:03:42.440 chose his taming the tiger within and 00:03:38.049 --> 00:03:49.930 you might ask why taming the tiger with 00:03:42.440 --> 00:03:53.359 him well I don't know ask the tiger in 00:03:49.930 --> 00:03:56.900 in Buddhist teachings the horse stands 00:03:53.359 --> 00:04:00.950 for habit energies and the same as the 00:03:56.900 --> 00:04:02.600 horsemen it just carries us away and we 00:04:00.950 --> 00:04:06.139 don't know where it is going 00:04:02.600 --> 00:04:08.870 these strong habit energies they take 00:04:06.139 --> 00:04:13.130 the choice from us they are running 00:04:08.870 --> 00:04:17.209 running us away and we don't know where 00:04:13.130 --> 00:04:21.049 we will get to and the tiger stands for 00:04:17.209 --> 00:04:24.440 strong emotions within us and the tiger 00:04:21.049 --> 00:04:27.680 is a dangerous animal and so can be 00:04:24.440 --> 00:04:31.450 strong emotions they can threaten us and 00:04:27.680 --> 00:04:31.450 threaten the people around us 00:04:31.900 --> 00:04:39.100 and I believe in these times where we 00:04:34.540 --> 00:04:44.500 are staying more at home that our habit 00:04:39.100 --> 00:04:49.780 energies show up more often and awesome 00:04:44.500 --> 00:04:53.650 more strong being with people around us 00:04:49.780 --> 00:04:58.600 for a longer time being closer with 00:04:53.650 --> 00:05:02.310 family and I remember my dad telling me 00:04:58.600 --> 00:05:06.070 when when I was a little kid he said 00:05:02.310 --> 00:05:10.060 people are habitual animals they get 00:05:06.070 --> 00:05:14.770 used to everything habitual animals 00:05:10.060 --> 00:05:20.350 that's a German word and it translates 00:05:14.770 --> 00:05:22.020 into creature of habit in English but in 00:05:20.350 --> 00:05:25.060 German you say governor I'd steer 00:05:22.020 --> 00:05:27.400 habitual animal and I remember I was 00:05:25.060 --> 00:05:29.770 confused when he said that people are 00:05:27.400 --> 00:05:34.330 habitual animals as I was confused I was 00:05:29.770 --> 00:05:37.570 a kid of five or six how can a human be 00:05:34.330 --> 00:05:44.460 an animal and just didn't sit right with 00:05:37.570 --> 00:05:49.210 me but now I see the Horace a tiger 00:05:44.460 --> 00:05:51.070 maybe he was referring to that and also 00:05:49.210 --> 00:05:54.460 he said they're getting used to 00:05:51.070 --> 00:05:57.790 everything and I see nowadays we are 00:05:54.460 --> 00:06:00.010 getting used to everything they say stay 00:05:57.790 --> 00:06:04.510 at home save lives we stay at home and 00:06:00.010 --> 00:06:08.170 we save lives and some of us I got used 00:06:04.510 --> 00:06:10.120 to go out and they struggle a little bit 00:06:08.170 --> 00:06:13.720 but if it takes longer we will get used 00:06:10.120 --> 00:06:15.550 to that too we got used to not going to 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:19.150 baseball games anymore 00:06:15.550 --> 00:06:26.290 we got used to not going to rock 00:06:19.150 --> 00:06:29.860 concerts anymore so 00:06:26.290 --> 00:06:33.760 this metaphor of the horse as a strong 00:06:29.860 --> 00:06:36.340 habit energy I found this a little bit 00:06:33.760 --> 00:06:38.260 outdated I mean nobody has an urgent 00:06:36.340 --> 00:06:42.100 message for the king anymore we don't 00:06:38.260 --> 00:06:44.680 ride horses so I want to offer maybe a 00:06:42.100 --> 00:06:48.840 more modern or a more accurate version 00:06:44.680 --> 00:06:53.590 of that which is a moving walkway 00:06:48.840 --> 00:06:56.800 imagine in the airports so you come 00:06:53.590 --> 00:06:59.110 there with your trolley and you can walk 00:06:56.800 --> 00:07:00.550 like the hundred-yard so you see there's 00:06:59.110 --> 00:07:03.460 this walkway and that makes it much 00:07:00.550 --> 00:07:05.530 easier for me so you go with you Charlie 00:07:03.460 --> 00:07:07.210 you step on that walkway and it does 00:07:05.530 --> 00:07:10.060 everything for you you don't need to 00:07:07.210 --> 00:07:13.570 think you don't need to do anything no 00:07:10.060 --> 00:07:16.300 to move your legs but also you cannot do 00:07:13.570 --> 00:07:20.500 anything it will just take you basically 00:07:16.300 --> 00:07:24.370 like the horse now you find yourself on 00:07:20.500 --> 00:07:28.390 that walkway and you slowly are walked 00:07:24.370 --> 00:07:31.450 forward and then you think I haven't had 00:07:28.390 --> 00:07:33.940 a coffee maybe I'd like to buy a coffee 00:07:31.450 --> 00:07:37.180 and sure enough on the right side of the 00:07:33.940 --> 00:07:40.060 walkway there is a coffee shop but not 00:07:37.180 --> 00:07:46.030 for you you are on the walkway there is 00:07:40.060 --> 00:07:47.620 no exit then you you walk or you get 00:07:46.030 --> 00:07:49.630 walked a little bit further you think 00:07:47.620 --> 00:07:52.270 wow this is a long flight maybe I want 00:07:49.630 --> 00:07:53.790 to buy a magazine or a book and yes 00:07:52.270 --> 00:07:59.040 there is the bookshop to your right 00:07:53.790 --> 00:08:01.840 passing by not for you maybe later and 00:07:59.040 --> 00:08:04.080 you need to see the restroom really 00:08:01.840 --> 00:08:09.130 urgent and the restroom is right there 00:08:04.080 --> 00:08:12.610 but you cannot access it I mean you can 00:08:09.130 --> 00:08:15.240 like jump over the handle but we know 00:08:12.610 --> 00:08:20.410 it's not legal and it's also dangerous 00:08:15.240 --> 00:08:22.840 and you could turn around and run or 00:08:20.410 --> 00:08:24.610 walk against the walkway but if you ever 00:08:22.840 --> 00:08:26.260 tried to walk or saw a kid walking 00:08:24.610 --> 00:08:28.290 against the walkway you know that you 00:08:26.260 --> 00:08:32.580 don't move if you stay at the same place 00:08:28.290 --> 00:08:37.330 so we have to wait until that walkway 00:08:32.580 --> 00:08:40.209 unloads us somewhere in the future we 00:08:37.330 --> 00:08:44.709 have to be patient and without 00:08:40.209 --> 00:08:47.439 control and choice until the end of the 00:08:44.709 --> 00:08:55.029 walkway and I find this makes more sense 00:08:47.439 --> 00:08:56.679 to me so as you can imagine it's going 00:08:55.029 --> 00:09:01.629 to be in the direction of habit energies 00:08:56.679 --> 00:09:05.800 today and let us have a closer look what 00:09:01.629 --> 00:09:07.149 kind of habit energies we have we often 00:09:05.800 --> 00:09:10.839 look at other languages all the 00:09:07.149 --> 00:09:15.910 languages if we want to describe things 00:09:10.839 --> 00:09:20.110 in sutras or or teachings because they 00:09:15.910 --> 00:09:22.300 often offer us the roots of the word or 00:09:20.110 --> 00:09:26.350 the meaning of the word so we look into 00:09:22.300 --> 00:09:30.399 Pali Sanskrit or Chinese and I looked up 00:09:26.350 --> 00:09:32.860 habit in Chinese to see what what it 00:09:30.399 --> 00:09:35.829 says and usually we have two characters 00:09:32.860 --> 00:09:37.720 in Chinese different words that come 00:09:35.829 --> 00:09:40.660 together as and build a new word and 00:09:37.720 --> 00:09:45.459 from these two words you can see where 00:09:40.660 --> 00:09:48.299 it came from so let me write down habit 00:09:45.459 --> 00:09:48.299 in Chinese for you 00:09:56.030 --> 00:10:08.240 I remember I don't write Chinese maybe I 00:10:05.480 --> 00:10:09.380 should make the other habit but I know 00:10:08.240 --> 00:10:13.730 someone who does 00:10:09.380 --> 00:10:17.960 rather minion will you be so kind and 00:10:13.730 --> 00:10:22.340 write habit in Chinese just here in the 00:10:17.960 --> 00:10:26.230 upper middle please brother minion is my 00:10:22.340 --> 00:10:29.840 roommate and he's excellent in Chinese 00:10:26.230 --> 00:10:37.820 he's writing calligraphies and I see him 00:10:29.840 --> 00:10:40.730 diligently studying studying amazing and 00:10:37.820 --> 00:10:44.150 his name translated his brother kindness 00:10:40.730 --> 00:10:48.490 and I find this is very kind of you to 00:10:44.150 --> 00:10:48.490 help me out here in this situation 00:11:01.240 --> 00:11:07.959 Wow this is habit huh okay that's good 00:11:07.240 --> 00:11:10.060 enough for me 00:11:07.959 --> 00:11:14.260 I wouldn't I wouldn't have seen the 00:11:10.060 --> 00:11:18.250 difference thank you very much rather 00:11:14.260 --> 00:11:21.100 minion so two characters what I do know 00:11:18.250 --> 00:11:28.720 because I looked it up that the word 00:11:21.100 --> 00:11:36.520 habit in Chinese consists of this 00:11:28.720 --> 00:11:44.830 character here which means learning or 00:11:36.520 --> 00:11:49.089 and receive training in that's pretty 00:11:44.830 --> 00:11:53.440 clear and like goes into a certain 00:11:49.089 --> 00:11:58.120 direction to learn something like a 00:11:53.440 --> 00:11:59.770 habit we we learn something we receive 00:11:58.120 --> 00:12:02.260 training and something practicing is 00:11:59.770 --> 00:12:06.339 another translation the second word 00:12:02.260 --> 00:12:13.079 means no I don't have too much space but 00:12:06.339 --> 00:12:24.010 we will get around to be used to haha or 00:12:13.079 --> 00:12:27.370 to be accustomed to accustomed to also 00:12:24.010 --> 00:12:29.920 make sense for the world habit it's a 00:12:27.370 --> 00:12:31.480 nice combination so we're learning to 00:12:29.920 --> 00:12:34.720 get used to something we received 00:12:31.480 --> 00:12:37.870 training in in to be accustomed to 00:12:34.720 --> 00:12:42.959 something to learn a habit and to me it 00:12:37.870 --> 00:12:48.250 sounds like little by little these 00:12:42.959 --> 00:12:51.190 continuous drops where a stone little 00:12:48.250 --> 00:13:00.180 strokes fell big Oaks right we learn 00:12:51.190 --> 00:13:00.180 something and we get used to it so 00:13:00.330 --> 00:13:07.810 we'll come back to that later 00:13:02.500 --> 00:13:13.750 to that meaning what kind of habits do 00:13:07.810 --> 00:13:16.870 we see or face in our daily lives and 00:13:13.750 --> 00:13:21.040 when I look at my habits I see some of 00:13:16.870 --> 00:13:22.240 them are like a ritual I'll make a 00:13:21.040 --> 00:13:24.790 ritual out of it 00:13:22.240 --> 00:13:27.970 dedicate a time and some are more 00:13:24.790 --> 00:13:29.860 routine as we said to save time to save 00:13:27.970 --> 00:13:33.780 energy like stepping on the walkway and 00:13:29.860 --> 00:13:42.150 instead of walking I want to save energy 00:13:33.780 --> 00:13:47.380 so we have ritual let's say versus 00:13:42.150 --> 00:13:48.870 routine can you read that from over 00:13:47.380 --> 00:13:52.120 there 00:13:48.870 --> 00:13:55.390 and a ritual is something you practice 00:13:52.120 --> 00:14:03.910 with awareness you're very awake let's 00:13:55.390 --> 00:14:06.730 say awake versus asleep when you do a 00:14:03.910 --> 00:14:10.600 routine and you do it just for the sake 00:14:06.730 --> 00:14:13.630 of not wasting much thinking you don't 00:14:10.600 --> 00:14:21.240 have to be really there so we can say 00:14:13.630 --> 00:14:29.050 the first one is like mindfulness versus 00:14:21.240 --> 00:14:33.060 forgetfulness from Ed fulness and to 00:14:29.050 --> 00:14:36.310 give you an example like a ritual can be 00:14:33.060 --> 00:14:39.280 like a tea ceremony and we all like to 00:14:36.310 --> 00:14:44.190 drink tea and we know how much care and 00:14:39.280 --> 00:14:47.260 these tiny little parts it demands and 00:14:44.190 --> 00:14:50.020 having this wonderful roommate brother 00:14:47.260 --> 00:14:52.840 kindness he doesn't only have Chinese 00:14:50.020 --> 00:14:55.060 skills he also has Japanese skills 00:14:52.840 --> 00:14:58.660 because he's a matrimony natural master 00:14:55.060 --> 00:15:01.120 and it's amazing to watch him making tea 00:14:58.660 --> 00:15:03.220 he takes only a little amount of this 00:15:01.120 --> 00:15:05.170 green powder and he puts it there then a 00:15:03.220 --> 00:15:08.050 little amount of water whisking not too 00:15:05.170 --> 00:15:10.600 much and he really has to be there in 00:15:08.050 --> 00:15:11.490 order not to do too much or too hard or 00:15:10.600 --> 00:15:18.540 too 00:15:11.490 --> 00:15:21.720 and and it becomes a ritual versus let 00:15:18.540 --> 00:15:23.879 us say coffee tea and coffee everybody 00:15:21.720 --> 00:15:25.559 knows I guess when you wake up in the 00:15:23.879 --> 00:15:29.100 morning and you find your way to the 00:15:25.559 --> 00:15:33.679 kitchen to where you assume the coffee 00:15:29.100 --> 00:15:38.749 machine was yesterday half asleep and 00:15:33.679 --> 00:15:41.670 you make your coffee and sometimes you 00:15:38.749 --> 00:15:44.160 would feel the water into the bean 00:15:41.670 --> 00:15:46.009 hopper or the coffee ground into the 00:15:44.160 --> 00:15:50.850 container where the water goes because 00:15:46.009 --> 00:15:52.970 you are still asleep the other day and 00:15:50.850 --> 00:15:55.319 brother mignon was making matcha I 00:15:52.970 --> 00:15:56.610 wanted to put the beans in my grinder 00:15:55.319 --> 00:16:01.740 and I spilled it and they were 00:15:56.610 --> 00:16:04.110 everywhere and I was like oh why is this 00:16:01.740 --> 00:16:07.709 always happening before coffee you know 00:16:04.110 --> 00:16:10.139 and the answer is because it is before 00:16:07.709 --> 00:16:11.399 coffee after coffee these things 00:16:10.139 --> 00:16:15.959 wouldn't happen you would be awake 00:16:11.399 --> 00:16:19.290 mindful so this is a difference between 00:16:15.959 --> 00:16:24.839 ritual and routine just to give you like 00:16:19.290 --> 00:16:30.420 a example another kind of habit energy 00:16:24.839 --> 00:16:32.579 there are good habit energies should I 00:16:30.420 --> 00:16:37.879 continue just hear the word have it 00:16:32.579 --> 00:16:42.110 already good habits versus bad habits 00:16:37.879 --> 00:16:45.660 and because that sounds so bad let's say 00:16:42.110 --> 00:16:53.959 we have helpful habits that contribute 00:16:45.660 --> 00:16:59.160 to our well-being helpful habits versus 00:16:53.959 --> 00:17:01.290 harmful they harm us and what do they 00:16:59.160 --> 00:17:05.370 harm I mean we are talking in terms of 00:17:01.290 --> 00:17:07.230 practice we are practitioners I guess 00:17:05.370 --> 00:17:09.679 everybody who is watching Dhamma talk 00:17:07.230 --> 00:17:14.309 has something to do with mindfulness and 00:17:09.679 --> 00:17:16.409 is eager to develop its practice so 00:17:14.309 --> 00:17:18.689 helpful whereas as harmful means to 00:17:16.409 --> 00:17:22.089 establish a practice body more 00:17:18.689 --> 00:17:27.929 mindfulness to go deeper 00:17:22.089 --> 00:17:32.520 and what are good habits and bad habits 00:17:27.929 --> 00:17:36.970 oops this God have it do you see then 00:17:32.520 --> 00:17:40.870 God habit is surely a good habit so as 00:17:36.970 --> 00:17:44.799 practitioners is the best habit as 00:17:40.870 --> 00:17:50.500 practitioners let me get my energy cable 00:17:44.799 --> 00:17:55.149 right here as practitioners for sure a 00:17:50.500 --> 00:17:58.840 good habit to cultivate is to follow 00:17:55.149 --> 00:18:01.570 your breathing first thing waking up you 00:17:58.840 --> 00:18:03.460 know you wake up in the morning and if 00:18:01.570 --> 00:18:07.990 you don't follow your breathing first 00:18:03.460 --> 00:18:11.289 thing if my your mind might take over 00:18:07.990 --> 00:18:14.110 like the horse and carry you somewhere 00:18:11.289 --> 00:18:16.149 for example to the coffee maker saying 00:18:14.110 --> 00:18:18.549 okay you know I have to get out of this 00:18:16.149 --> 00:18:20.289 bed I have to go there make this right 00:18:18.549 --> 00:18:25.179 turn left to the kitchen the coffee 00:18:20.289 --> 00:18:28.090 maker I guess is somewhere there and if 00:18:25.179 --> 00:18:29.860 this thinking kicks in you're basically 00:18:28.090 --> 00:18:32.289 already lost from the very thing in the 00:18:29.860 --> 00:18:34.870 morning so a good habit follow your 00:18:32.289 --> 00:18:37.539 breathing follow your your belly rising 00:18:34.870 --> 00:18:43.000 and falling your the air flowing in and 00:18:37.539 --> 00:18:44.950 out naturally to your body and during 00:18:43.000 --> 00:18:47.470 the day we can continue another good 00:18:44.950 --> 00:18:50.559 habit during the day is what we do here 00:18:47.470 --> 00:18:53.890 in practice centers is stopping to have 00:18:50.559 --> 00:18:56.820 else of mindfulness to have reminders to 00:18:53.890 --> 00:18:59.020 make a stop our thinking our actions 00:18:56.820 --> 00:19:01.929 what we are doing what we're feeling 00:18:59.020 --> 00:19:05.110 just to check in calm down and get in 00:19:01.929 --> 00:19:07.360 touch with ourselves again seeing if 00:19:05.110 --> 00:19:12.399 we've been carried away if we've been on 00:19:07.360 --> 00:19:16.090 a horse on a walkway and if necessary to 00:19:12.399 --> 00:19:19.600 get off the horse or get off the walkway 00:19:16.090 --> 00:19:21.210 and how we do that we come later come to 00:19:19.600 --> 00:19:24.800 that later 00:19:21.210 --> 00:19:27.650 that's one good that's a good habit to 00:19:24.800 --> 00:19:29.900 another one and this is a funny one in a 00:19:27.650 --> 00:19:32.720 in a Sangha meeting in an online sangha 00:19:29.900 --> 00:19:36.170 meeting I asked the Sangha members to 00:19:32.720 --> 00:19:37.880 exactly do a change a habit change a 00:19:36.170 --> 00:19:39.680 habit like with a coffee machine and say 00:19:37.880 --> 00:19:43.220 put in the evening your coffee machine 00:19:39.680 --> 00:19:44.510 in another place just to change 00:19:43.220 --> 00:19:47.980 something so when you come to the 00:19:44.510 --> 00:19:53.000 kitchen in the morning asleep forgetful 00:19:47.980 --> 00:19:54.290 as a routine and you don't find your 00:19:53.000 --> 00:19:57.500 coffee machine because you're not 00:19:54.290 --> 00:20:00.440 thinking and then you will wake up and 00:19:57.500 --> 00:20:03.610 you will think and then you are awake 00:20:00.440 --> 00:20:09.020 and you can do your coffee as a ritual 00:20:03.610 --> 00:20:13.250 so Jim let's call him Jim right Jim said 00:20:09.020 --> 00:20:17.570 he did it and he he placed his almond 00:20:13.250 --> 00:20:19.970 creamer somewhere else so when he came 00:20:17.570 --> 00:20:23.390 the very next morning and as it happens 00:20:19.970 --> 00:20:25.790 again he was asleep he was forgetful he 00:20:23.390 --> 00:20:29.090 was in that I know how to make coffee 00:20:25.790 --> 00:20:32.810 thing it's an automatism is a it's an 00:20:29.090 --> 00:20:34.340 algorithm going on this-this-this it 00:20:32.810 --> 00:20:36.820 comes to the creamer and his creamer is 00:20:34.340 --> 00:20:40.790 not in the cabinet where it used to be 00:20:36.820 --> 00:20:44.510 he was really confused he said I looked 00:20:40.790 --> 00:20:46.910 again still not still not in there he 00:20:44.510 --> 00:20:50.180 looked maybe next door it was nowhere 00:20:46.910 --> 00:20:53.450 next door and then he remembered and 00:20:50.180 --> 00:20:55.280 said ah and that was this moment of 00:20:53.450 --> 00:20:59.330 awakening aha 00:20:55.280 --> 00:21:01.400 now I remember now I wake up I'm from my 00:20:59.330 --> 00:21:03.710 routine yesterday I put it somewhere 00:21:01.400 --> 00:21:10.100 else in order to come to this state of 00:21:03.710 --> 00:21:12.050 mind but where where did I put it and he 00:21:10.100 --> 00:21:14.000 forgot where he put it so he had to look 00:21:12.050 --> 00:21:15.880 a little bit around but finally he found 00:21:14.000 --> 00:21:21.020 and could enjoy his coffee with his 00:21:15.880 --> 00:21:23.750 creamer and we have bad habits on the 00:21:21.020 --> 00:21:24.260 opposite we also have everybody has bad 00:21:23.750 --> 00:21:26.300 habits 00:21:24.260 --> 00:21:30.410 nobody's free from that we try to make 00:21:26.300 --> 00:21:36.130 our lives more easy without much 00:21:30.410 --> 00:21:40.809 thinking or engaging save energy 00:21:36.130 --> 00:21:44.500 and huh strange enough often a habit 00:21:40.809 --> 00:21:46.960 energy is to to not being able to stop 00:21:44.500 --> 00:21:47.500 thinking and to actually engage all the 00:21:46.960 --> 00:21:49.950 time 00:21:47.500 --> 00:21:56.140 which is to me not saving energy but it 00:21:49.950 --> 00:21:58.840 can be so - I called that radio NST we 00:21:56.140 --> 00:22:02.289 listen to our radio NST all the time and 00:21:58.840 --> 00:22:06.070 NST is a station that means non stop 00:22:02.289 --> 00:22:10.210 thinking radio non-stop thinking we 00:22:06.070 --> 00:22:14.590 don't give us a break to come back to 00:22:10.210 --> 00:22:19.480 our breathing to be and to come alive to 00:22:14.590 --> 00:22:21.220 be there to be awake to be mindful but 00:22:19.480 --> 00:22:23.260 this thinking keeps us going and now I 00:22:21.220 --> 00:22:25.059 can do this and then I can do that and 00:22:23.260 --> 00:22:28.030 what happened here what happened there 00:22:25.059 --> 00:22:31.360 look at this and we engage ourselves all 00:22:28.030 --> 00:22:32.980 the time that's a bad habit that's why 00:22:31.360 --> 00:22:37.570 we have that good habit of stopping 00:22:32.980 --> 00:22:42.090 during the day another bad habit could 00:22:37.570 --> 00:22:45.039 be that we are not capable of taking 00:22:42.090 --> 00:22:48.880 care of feelings or thoughts that come 00:22:45.039 --> 00:22:53.830 up which are not very pleasant or 00:22:48.880 --> 00:23:00.090 difficult to handle or to accept and we 00:22:53.830 --> 00:23:03.490 tend to fight them put them away nope or 00:23:00.090 --> 00:23:07.690 we ignore them what is there a problem I 00:23:03.490 --> 00:23:10.780 don't see a problem or we cover them up 00:23:07.690 --> 00:23:12.429 saying oops sadness no no I need a 00:23:10.780 --> 00:23:16.090 peanut butter cake that makes me happy 00:23:12.429 --> 00:23:18.850 or I need this piece of music and we 00:23:16.090 --> 00:23:21.159 cover up by filling it filling in 00:23:18.850 --> 00:23:24.909 something else which is not the original 00:23:21.159 --> 00:23:31.720 thing that's a bad habit too because it 00:23:24.909 --> 00:23:36.100 is harmful it doesn't help us to get to 00:23:31.720 --> 00:23:38.470 know us and to get to lover ourselves we 00:23:36.100 --> 00:23:41.640 try to stay away because we find it 00:23:38.470 --> 00:23:45.490 unpleasant or discomfort discomfort and 00:23:41.640 --> 00:23:46.419 then there are other bad habits average 00:23:45.490 --> 00:23:49.149 bad habits 00:23:46.419 --> 00:23:52.539 everybody knows simply being late 00:23:49.149 --> 00:23:55.059 or being always right and we all know 00:23:52.539 --> 00:24:00.190 people in our lives who are always late 00:23:55.059 --> 00:24:03.070 or always right and no I'm not talking 00:24:00.190 --> 00:24:07.089 to anyone specific here but you probably 00:24:03.070 --> 00:24:09.639 know someone okay and then we have 00:24:07.089 --> 00:24:12.099 another set of habit energies but no 00:24:09.639 --> 00:24:15.039 more space on the board so I'll make 00:24:12.099 --> 00:24:19.509 some maybe we do I just need to go down 00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:21.279 a little bit and this is also very 00:24:19.509 --> 00:24:23.830 meaningful because now we come to the 00:24:21.279 --> 00:24:27.039 ancestral habit energy so when I go down 00:24:23.830 --> 00:24:30.269 to my knees I go down and kneel down in 00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:33.849 front of my ancestors so we have 00:24:30.269 --> 00:24:38.969 ancestral let's just make clear that 00:24:33.849 --> 00:24:45.029 this doesn't belong to this ancestral 00:24:38.969 --> 00:24:55.649 habits verses it's called them personal 00:24:45.029 --> 00:25:01.629 habits ancestral and this ancestral 00:24:55.649 --> 00:25:04.899 that's enough and we also all have them 00:25:01.629 --> 00:25:08.589 every family has inherited habit 00:25:04.899 --> 00:25:12.339 energies from their from their father's 00:25:08.589 --> 00:25:16.089 from their mothers and from their 00:25:12.339 --> 00:25:18.429 fathers from your grandparents and we 00:25:16.089 --> 00:25:20.529 need also know them and when we are 00:25:18.429 --> 00:25:24.009 young we say oh my dad is like that I 00:25:20.529 --> 00:25:26.499 will never become like my dad only like 00:25:24.009 --> 00:25:30.460 two forty years later I see myself doing 00:25:26.499 --> 00:25:32.589 exact the same thing and sometimes I 00:25:30.460 --> 00:25:35.259 open my mouth and my mom comes out 00:25:32.589 --> 00:25:38.529 saying you should wear socks you'll get 00:25:35.259 --> 00:25:42.999 a cold my dear say mom what are you 00:25:38.529 --> 00:25:45.129 doing here right so that there can be 00:25:42.999 --> 00:25:48.070 very strong be going because it goes a 00:25:45.129 --> 00:25:50.830 long way it goes our parents our 00:25:48.070 --> 00:25:53.769 grandparents great the stream of all our 00:25:50.830 --> 00:25:58.149 ancestors so we have two parents we have 00:25:53.769 --> 00:26:01.389 four four grandparents we have eight 00:25:58.149 --> 00:26:03.030 grand grandparents we have sixteen 00:26:01.389 --> 00:26:06.460 second grade 00:26:03.030 --> 00:26:08.760 grandparents and I looked it up by the 00:26:06.460 --> 00:26:11.440 time we come to our 18th 00:26:08.760 --> 00:26:17.230 great-grandparents they are 1 million 00:26:11.440 --> 00:26:19.840 ancestors having our back and that's a 00:26:17.230 --> 00:26:24.280 very strong stream there's a very strong 00:26:19.840 --> 00:26:27.670 current and this stream of ancestral 00:26:24.280 --> 00:26:30.760 habits carries helpful seeds and carries 00:26:27.670 --> 00:26:34.780 harmful seeds to helpful seats just 00:26:30.760 --> 00:26:39.970 cultivated by experience and by volition 00:26:34.780 --> 00:26:42.190 and harmful habits because we were not 00:26:39.970 --> 00:26:45.430 able to see our ancestors were not able 00:26:42.190 --> 00:26:49.570 to see it or they didn't have a practice 00:26:45.430 --> 00:26:51.610 to stop it so there was no recognition 00:26:49.570 --> 00:26:54.040 maybe there was there no kept of the 00:26:51.610 --> 00:26:59.620 capability of dealing with this and we 00:26:54.040 --> 00:27:01.270 just passed them on and it is difficult 00:26:59.620 --> 00:27:02.890 to say where it all started we can blame 00:27:01.270 --> 00:27:05.290 our parents we can blame our 00:27:02.890 --> 00:27:07.810 grandparents for doing it to my parents 00:27:05.290 --> 00:27:11.830 which did it to us but it's very 00:27:07.810 --> 00:27:14.800 difficult when you have after 18th 00:27:11.830 --> 00:27:18.940 generation you have 1 million people who 00:27:14.800 --> 00:27:21.370 to blame and you rather you rather take 00:27:18.940 --> 00:27:24.430 care of what is now instead of going 00:27:21.370 --> 00:27:26.820 back in the past and looking what went 00:27:24.430 --> 00:27:29.590 wrong and who did it 00:27:26.820 --> 00:27:31.540 there's an Italian saying in our Italian 00:27:29.590 --> 00:27:34.330 brother used to say it's not about the 00:27:31.540 --> 00:27:35.830 sinner it's about the sin so we don't 00:27:34.330 --> 00:27:37.390 want to point fingers to something but 00:27:35.830 --> 00:27:46.090 we want to do something in transform 00:27:37.390 --> 00:27:52.840 something so I have in my family also 00:27:46.090 --> 00:27:55.270 helpful and harmful habits and not 00:27:52.840 --> 00:27:57.370 really a harmful but kind of a bad funny 00:27:55.270 --> 00:28:00.760 habit in my family is food it's all 00:27:57.370 --> 00:28:03.310 around food my family lost food and why 00:28:00.760 --> 00:28:06.940 this is another this is another story 00:28:03.310 --> 00:28:09.400 probably but when we go shopping my mom 00:28:06.940 --> 00:28:12.460 my dad or me or my sister or together 00:28:09.400 --> 00:28:14.500 pest together we buy a lot we buy a lot 00:28:12.460 --> 00:28:16.240 of food and we say show me show me 00:28:14.500 --> 00:28:19.929 buying like one more cabbage 00:28:16.240 --> 00:28:22.990 maybe we need it yeah sure or better to 00:28:19.929 --> 00:28:26.110 take two packages of this sure go ahead 00:28:22.990 --> 00:28:29.080 you know and then of course we store a 00:28:26.110 --> 00:28:30.760 lot of food at home and we have a big 00:28:29.080 --> 00:28:34.470 pantry and a big storage and the 00:28:30.760 --> 00:28:37.390 basement in the kitchen everywhere and 00:28:34.470 --> 00:28:39.820 because there's this wish or you know 00:28:37.390 --> 00:28:41.470 always to have a lot or enough or you 00:28:39.820 --> 00:28:44.380 never know maybe guests are coming so we 00:28:41.470 --> 00:28:46.300 cook a lot you know in case somebody 00:28:44.380 --> 00:28:49.000 brings their friend home or you never 00:28:46.300 --> 00:28:52.929 know so you better cook more than two 00:28:49.000 --> 00:28:55.750 less and because we cook a lot we also 00:28:52.929 --> 00:28:59.620 eat a lot we'd like to eat and I learned 00:28:55.750 --> 00:29:01.360 later when I went to friends or in my 00:28:59.620 --> 00:29:04.540 monastic life to two different lay 00:29:01.360 --> 00:29:09.100 friends to their houses nobody eats as 00:29:04.540 --> 00:29:10.660 much as my family and I had to share 00:29:09.100 --> 00:29:13.000 this one day with my family yes and we 00:29:10.660 --> 00:29:14.500 are eating too much so I said what do 00:29:13.000 --> 00:29:16.950 you mean were you eating too much I said 00:29:14.500 --> 00:29:20.290 well nobody eats as much as we do and 00:29:16.950 --> 00:29:23.920 they couldn't believe me and because we 00:29:20.290 --> 00:29:26.650 eat so much but we of course we are no 00:29:23.920 --> 00:29:29.679 you see we are not like my parents are 00:29:26.650 --> 00:29:31.030 not very big or strong so we have 00:29:29.679 --> 00:29:33.880 leftovers we have also a lot of 00:29:31.030 --> 00:29:37.240 leftovers and these leftovers we have to 00:29:33.880 --> 00:29:41.350 freeze and yeah cook another day or warm 00:29:37.240 --> 00:29:46.120 them up another day and I have inherited 00:29:41.350 --> 00:29:48.429 this this habit energy when I was the 00:29:46.120 --> 00:29:51.040 shopper here Deer Park I was exactly 00:29:48.429 --> 00:29:54.760 like my mom I opened my mouth and my mom 00:29:51.040 --> 00:29:57.010 spoke now let's take one more box 00:29:54.760 --> 00:29:59.170 brother because you never know you know 00:29:57.010 --> 00:30:00.580 how many people will come for the day of 00:29:59.170 --> 00:30:04.110 mindfulness and the mind can come up 00:30:00.580 --> 00:30:07.120 with a lot of different reasons why and 00:30:04.110 --> 00:30:08.650 you can ask my cooking team here I'm 00:30:07.120 --> 00:30:11.110 always cooking too much because I'm 00:30:08.650 --> 00:30:13.870 staying there and I'm pouring in things 00:30:11.110 --> 00:30:16.090 into my pots and I think will this be 00:30:13.870 --> 00:30:17.830 enough like in counting the brothers 00:30:16.090 --> 00:30:19.660 seeing they're all young they're all 00:30:17.830 --> 00:30:23.309 strong they had working meditation I 00:30:19.660 --> 00:30:26.710 better better one more and I pour it in 00:30:23.309 --> 00:30:29.020 and fair enough I'm also eating too much 00:30:26.710 --> 00:30:29.950 I'm standing in front of the serving 00:30:29.020 --> 00:30:33.070 line 00:30:29.950 --> 00:30:35.590 and I'm doing my contemplations and I 00:30:33.070 --> 00:30:38.100 vow to be moderate and not to eat too 00:30:35.590 --> 00:30:40.510 much not to take too much on my bowl 00:30:38.100 --> 00:30:43.360 until I stand there with my bowl in 00:30:40.510 --> 00:30:45.880 front of the tray or pot and I do one 00:30:43.360 --> 00:30:46.779 spoon and two spoons I think it's only 00:30:45.880 --> 00:30:50.230 half-full 00:30:46.779 --> 00:30:52.570 I'm really hungry and I don't know what 00:30:50.230 --> 00:30:54.490 fear comes up there will I starve today 00:30:52.570 --> 00:30:56.980 is this the my last day because I didn't 00:30:54.490 --> 00:30:59.529 take a third spoon it's ridiculous but 00:30:56.980 --> 00:31:01.840 this is what is going on in me so I'm 00:30:59.529 --> 00:31:05.049 taking two more just to be sure and just 00:31:01.840 --> 00:31:07.000 to find out while eating no I'm full 00:31:05.049 --> 00:31:10.360 already there's still a half bowl in 00:31:07.000 --> 00:31:12.220 here exactly the amount I was I was 00:31:10.360 --> 00:31:16.809 starting to consider not to take any 00:31:12.220 --> 00:31:20.639 more and when we are cooking because I'm 00:31:16.809 --> 00:31:24.220 cooking so much we also have leftovers 00:31:20.639 --> 00:31:25.899 so now in a you know monastery with 00:31:24.220 --> 00:31:30.460 cooking or rotation you have another 00:31:25.899 --> 00:31:33.549 cooking team cooking the next day and so 00:31:30.460 --> 00:31:35.230 one excuse for me could be and that the 00:31:33.549 --> 00:31:36.700 cooking team next day has to cook less 00:31:35.230 --> 00:31:38.590 and some brothers are happy they're 00:31:36.700 --> 00:31:40.510 saying that's great cook as much as you 00:31:38.590 --> 00:31:43.929 want because they know me so I have less 00:31:40.510 --> 00:31:46.510 work the next day but others would also 00:31:43.929 --> 00:31:48.250 like to offer a dish like I'm I really 00:31:46.510 --> 00:31:52.240 love cooking and I really like offering 00:31:48.250 --> 00:31:54.700 dishes to to the brothers and I'm taking 00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:56.230 the chance for these brothers to cook 00:31:54.700 --> 00:32:00.730 their own dish because they have to warm 00:31:56.230 --> 00:32:03.610 up my leftovers so that's uh I call it 00:32:00.730 --> 00:32:05.350 funny but it's a bad habit and I'm still 00:32:03.610 --> 00:32:07.659 working on it on the other side my 00:32:05.350 --> 00:32:08.940 family has wonderful habits my family 00:32:07.659 --> 00:32:12.159 loves people 00:32:08.940 --> 00:32:17.350 very generous to help when people I need 00:32:12.159 --> 00:32:19.269 my family's just and engaged we had a 00:32:17.350 --> 00:32:22.690 lot of in my family we had a lot of 00:32:19.269 --> 00:32:25.269 monks priests from the Catholic side we 00:32:22.690 --> 00:32:27.580 had mayors we had politicians my dad is 00:32:25.269 --> 00:32:31.000 engaged my mother in the community my 00:32:27.580 --> 00:32:34.029 dad in politics so really just I'm a 00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:38.220 Buddhist monk and that's a beautiful 00:32:34.029 --> 00:32:41.799 habit energy that we hope we can pass on 00:32:38.220 --> 00:32:43.900 if not to my children then I can pass it 00:32:41.799 --> 00:32:52.140 on by my actions 00:32:43.900 --> 00:32:55.240 my deeds and words and personal habits 00:32:52.140 --> 00:32:56.950 so the ancestral have this strong 00:32:55.240 --> 00:32:59.380 current and personal habits are 00:32:56.950 --> 00:33:03.340 something I develop and cultivate my own 00:32:59.380 --> 00:33:05.770 life based on experiences or hurts I 00:33:03.340 --> 00:33:09.340 have experienced or just ideas 00:33:05.770 --> 00:33:15.640 ideologies that I take on and cultivate 00:33:09.340 --> 00:33:18.310 a habit that forms my identity too so a 00:33:15.640 --> 00:33:22.300 bad habit of mine which I have is money 00:33:18.310 --> 00:33:24.730 you don't want to give me money I cannot 00:33:22.300 --> 00:33:28.120 handle money and maybe this is a reason 00:33:24.730 --> 00:33:30.310 I became a monk because we don't have 00:33:28.120 --> 00:33:34.330 money we have a little bit of pocket 00:33:30.310 --> 00:33:36.910 money and I cannot keep money with me I 00:33:34.330 --> 00:33:39.190 just don't value it enough I never did 00:33:36.910 --> 00:33:43.240 my mom when when I was a teenager I 00:33:39.190 --> 00:33:44.470 started going out and I asked her if she 00:33:43.240 --> 00:33:45.910 has some money for me and for the 00:33:44.470 --> 00:33:49.030 weekend and she says how much do you 00:33:45.910 --> 00:33:50.710 need and I said whatever and she gave me 00:33:49.030 --> 00:33:53.410 she said for the whole weekend 00:33:50.710 --> 00:33:54.790 okay I'll give you 100 so she gave me 00:33:53.410 --> 00:33:57.360 hundred and she said don't forget to 00:33:54.790 --> 00:34:00.370 bring back the change I said sure so 00:33:57.360 --> 00:34:02.140 Sunday night I come back home and she 00:34:00.370 --> 00:34:06.070 said where's the change and I said no 00:34:02.140 --> 00:34:07.510 change okay so next week I asked again 00:34:06.070 --> 00:34:10.450 and she said how much and I said 00:34:07.510 --> 00:34:13.419 whatever she says last time I gave you a 00:34:10.450 --> 00:34:14.790 hundred this time I give you fifty now 00:34:13.419 --> 00:34:17.050 bring back the change 00:34:14.790 --> 00:34:19.600 Sunday evening she says is there any 00:34:17.050 --> 00:34:24.000 changes there's no change the following 00:34:19.600 --> 00:34:27.340 week so he gave me 20 and then no change 00:34:24.000 --> 00:34:29.919 so my mother said I better give you 00:34:27.340 --> 00:34:33.370 nothing because I give you ten or 00:34:29.919 --> 00:34:35.679 hundred you spend it all like that's a 00:34:33.370 --> 00:34:37.990 gift but but I when I had a hundred I 00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:40.810 would treat my friends and if I had ten 00:34:37.990 --> 00:34:43.899 my friends would treat me so that that's 00:34:40.810 --> 00:34:46.919 the deal right but I you don't want to 00:34:43.899 --> 00:34:53.710 make me the treasurer of the Sangha the 00:34:46.919 --> 00:34:55.200 shopper was borderline already but I 00:34:53.710 --> 00:34:58.380 also have good habits 00:34:55.200 --> 00:35:02.750 I have good habits I wonder what are my 00:34:58.380 --> 00:35:10.010 flowers I recently cultivated a habit 00:35:02.750 --> 00:35:12.570 which I find is very sweet and helpful 00:35:10.010 --> 00:35:14.460 here in the monks residence we have a 00:35:12.570 --> 00:35:18.240 bathroom for them for the brothers and 00:35:14.460 --> 00:35:20.160 we have slippers so when you go into the 00:35:18.240 --> 00:35:22.320 bathroom they are waiting slippers and 00:35:20.160 --> 00:35:25.410 you do what you have to do and when you 00:35:22.320 --> 00:35:28.230 go out you leave them and leave the 00:35:25.410 --> 00:35:31.500 bathroom so what I'm doing in the last 00:35:28.230 --> 00:35:35.250 time I'm walking backwards out of the 00:35:31.500 --> 00:35:36.599 bathroom like a scuba diver so that the 00:35:35.250 --> 00:35:38.940 slippers would be in the right direction 00:35:36.599 --> 00:35:40.700 if the next brother comes he sees the 00:35:38.940 --> 00:35:47.040 slippers and he just slips in and 00:35:40.700 --> 00:35:49.020 continues to go and and does whatever he 00:35:47.040 --> 00:35:51.810 wants to do when he steps out like going 00:35:49.020 --> 00:35:54.810 against the direction but the other day 00:35:51.810 --> 00:35:56.849 I saw Fabio a we the two of us were in 00:35:54.810 --> 00:35:58.920 the bathroom and he exited earlier I 00:35:56.849 --> 00:36:00.480 came actually I was outside wanted to 00:35:58.920 --> 00:36:02.910 enter the bathroom and he just exited 00:36:00.480 --> 00:36:05.250 and turned around like a scuba diver and 00:36:02.910 --> 00:36:08.490 went out and we looked at each other and 00:36:05.250 --> 00:36:10.829 he gave me a big smile and it warned my 00:36:08.490 --> 00:36:13.859 heart so much and I thought wow this is 00:36:10.829 --> 00:36:16.740 so lovely I'm doing it to make the life 00:36:13.859 --> 00:36:20.460 of the brother behind me a little bit 00:36:16.740 --> 00:36:24.030 more beautiful and it was infecting 00:36:20.460 --> 00:36:25.859 brother Hawaiian and sometimes I forget 00:36:24.030 --> 00:36:27.900 sometimes the brothers do it sometimes 00:36:25.859 --> 00:36:31.619 not and it doesn't matter it just gives 00:36:27.900 --> 00:36:33.420 me joy when I step out of the bathroom 00:36:31.619 --> 00:36:35.760 like a scuba diver opening the way for 00:36:33.420 --> 00:36:42.569 the brother just to make his life a 00:36:35.760 --> 00:36:43.609 little bit easier so this is what I 00:36:42.569 --> 00:36:47.130 found 00:36:43.609 --> 00:36:51.000 concerning habit energies doing a little 00:36:47.130 --> 00:36:53.490 bit research within and without but I 00:36:51.000 --> 00:36:57.540 think the most important thing is to to 00:36:53.490 --> 00:36:58.950 look and to see if and how our habit 00:36:57.540 --> 00:37:03.050 energies are contributing to our 00:36:58.950 --> 00:37:03.050 well-being or 00:37:03.759 --> 00:37:11.349 if they give us choice not like being on 00:37:09.039 --> 00:37:16.809 the walkway or on the horse the Freedom 00:37:11.349 --> 00:37:20.369 and choice or even joy like the slipper 00:37:16.809 --> 00:37:26.460 thing really gives me joy and peace and 00:37:20.369 --> 00:37:29.529 if not how to break a bad habit 00:37:26.460 --> 00:37:31.769 maybe we can enjoy one sound of the Bell 00:37:29.529 --> 00:37:31.769 now 00:37:49.320 --> 00:37:58.050 [Music] 00:38:31.720 --> 00:38:39.789 how to break bad habits YouTube is full 00:38:36.829 --> 00:38:45.109 of it 10 best tips to break bad habits 00:38:39.789 --> 00:38:48.490 slaughter your dragon fight your enemy 00:38:45.109 --> 00:38:52.640 and I thought I'm in an action movie and 00:38:48.490 --> 00:38:55.249 I thought that movies mirror life but it 00:38:52.640 --> 00:38:57.349 seems like life mirrors movies in the 00:38:55.249 --> 00:39:00.259 meantime and we build our literacy 00:38:57.349 --> 00:39:05.569 around action movies so why should we 00:39:00.259 --> 00:39:08.930 break habits now looking at what we have 00:39:05.569 --> 00:39:12.440 discovered so far we can just like 00:39:08.930 --> 00:39:15.289 change the course of the ancestral 00:39:12.440 --> 00:39:19.759 stream for example divert it or we can 00:39:15.289 --> 00:39:21.140 stop the horse or tame the tiger we 00:39:19.759 --> 00:39:26.119 don't need to kill the tiger or the 00:39:21.140 --> 00:39:32.990 horse slaughter or break it it's really 00:39:26.119 --> 00:39:33.769 not needed and when I say tame taming 00:39:32.990 --> 00:39:37.910 the tiger 00:39:33.769 --> 00:39:40.309 I remember the book the little prince do 00:39:37.910 --> 00:39:42.950 you know the book the little prince if 00:39:40.309 --> 00:39:46.239 you don't know it you got to read it 00:39:42.950 --> 00:39:51.739 it's a must read it's a very sweet 00:39:46.239 --> 00:39:54.140 poetic manual for life and people you 00:39:51.739 --> 00:39:58.009 meet in your life very beautiful so in 00:39:54.140 --> 00:40:01.549 that book the little prince meets the 00:39:58.009 --> 00:40:05.329 Fox and he wants to become the friends 00:40:01.549 --> 00:40:08.230 the fox's friend but the Fox says if you 00:40:05.329 --> 00:40:12.230 want to be my friend you need to tame me 00:40:08.230 --> 00:40:14.660 you need to tame me and the little 00:40:12.230 --> 00:40:16.900 prince doesn't know and ask how do I 00:40:14.660 --> 00:40:22.910 tame you and he says you have to come 00:40:16.900 --> 00:40:24.559 every day to the same place here at the 00:40:22.910 --> 00:40:27.559 same time every day a little bit closer 00:40:24.559 --> 00:40:31.430 so I get used to you I become accustomed 00:40:27.559 --> 00:40:33.079 to you and then one day when this 00:40:31.430 --> 00:40:36.349 happens a lot 00:40:33.079 --> 00:40:38.080 learning receiving training studying 00:40:36.349 --> 00:40:43.810 practicing 00:40:38.080 --> 00:40:48.810 after repetition then we are friends and 00:40:43.810 --> 00:40:53.320 the Fox also says one only understands 00:40:48.810 --> 00:40:56.440 what one tames and that's also very 00:40:53.320 --> 00:40:58.810 eye-opening like if we want to 00:40:56.440 --> 00:41:01.720 understand something we need to tame it 00:40:58.810 --> 00:41:04.240 and taming meaning coming closer to it 00:41:01.720 --> 00:41:09.660 becoming accustomed to it learning about 00:41:04.240 --> 00:41:09.660 it let's say becoming intimate close 00:41:10.680 --> 00:41:18.550 which is a complete different approach 00:41:13.120 --> 00:41:22.180 than breaking or slaughtering it's much 00:41:18.550 --> 00:41:24.430 more gentle and I wonder how ty 00:41:22.180 --> 00:41:25.170 approaches habit energies what would I 00:41:24.430 --> 00:41:31.710 say 00:41:25.170 --> 00:41:35.470 when habit energies arise and I found it 00:41:31.710 --> 00:41:40.020 this is what I says to his habit 00:41:35.470 --> 00:41:45.820 energies we know this is so typical time 00:41:40.020 --> 00:41:51.010 dear habit I see you I see you I'm here 00:41:45.820 --> 00:41:55.030 with you I'm here for you I'm your 00:41:51.010 --> 00:41:57.520 friend we can tame each other I can tame 00:41:55.030 --> 00:42:00.850 you you can tame me we become close I 00:41:57.520 --> 00:42:06.280 see you there's this energy of 00:42:00.850 --> 00:42:08.560 mindfulness in Thai in a magazine they 00:42:06.280 --> 00:42:11.110 called him the father of mindfulness 00:42:08.560 --> 00:42:15.670 it's like the mother and he's the father 00:42:11.110 --> 00:42:17.500 of mindfulness he brings in and shines 00:42:15.670 --> 00:42:19.770 the light of mindfulness concentration 00:42:17.500 --> 00:42:24.400 and insight on that habit energy 00:42:19.770 --> 00:42:27.190 recognizing it and dealing in it with it 00:42:24.400 --> 00:42:28.930 very gently and kindly knowing that 00:42:27.190 --> 00:42:32.080 these habit energies these strong 00:42:28.930 --> 00:42:34.330 emotions or strong energies are nothing 00:42:32.080 --> 00:42:37.150 outside of us which we can just kill and 00:42:34.330 --> 00:42:39.760 then they are dead or we can cut them 00:42:37.150 --> 00:42:44.500 off but no they're inside of us and we 00:42:39.760 --> 00:42:47.440 have to attain them we have to transform 00:42:44.500 --> 00:42:51.609 them accept them 00:42:47.440 --> 00:42:53.339 and be with them in the right here and 00:42:51.609 --> 00:43:01.450 right now 00:42:53.339 --> 00:43:06.040 dear habit energy I see you so time when 00:43:01.450 --> 00:43:10.569 he's speaking about transforming habit 00:43:06.040 --> 00:43:16.869 energies changing the chorus or strong 00:43:10.569 --> 00:43:21.670 emotions he always uses the image of a 00:43:16.869 --> 00:43:25.030 mother taking care of her baby again the 00:43:21.670 --> 00:43:28.480 mother comes today and why does he do 00:43:25.030 --> 00:43:31.540 that taking the example of the mother 00:43:28.480 --> 00:43:35.319 and her baby because that relationship 00:43:31.540 --> 00:43:37.930 of the mother and her baby implies so 00:43:35.319 --> 00:43:40.480 much implies the unconditional love 00:43:37.930 --> 00:43:42.190 from the mother for her baby there is 00:43:40.480 --> 00:43:44.500 not much thinking this unconditional 00:43:42.190 --> 00:43:47.290 love there is compassion 00:43:44.500 --> 00:43:52.450 there is this care of a mother for her 00:43:47.290 --> 00:43:57.960 baby which in best case if we want to 00:43:52.450 --> 00:44:00.970 cultivate helpful awake mindful habits 00:43:57.960 --> 00:44:04.780 how to treat ourselves and how to be 00:44:00.970 --> 00:44:07.619 with ourselves is the way to go 00:44:04.780 --> 00:44:12.160 to go with compassion towards ourselves 00:44:07.619 --> 00:44:15.099 let me erase this quickly and then we 00:44:12.160 --> 00:44:18.630 will go through the process of the 00:44:15.099 --> 00:44:18.630 mother taking care of her child 00:44:22.030 --> 00:44:34.370 continuous drop cleans the Board 00:44:26.260 --> 00:44:39.670 continues wipes make it shine you see 00:44:34.370 --> 00:44:42.890 how resistant habit energies can be like 00:44:39.670 --> 00:44:45.650 like hear these words you really have to 00:44:42.890 --> 00:44:49.670 put yeah energy in it it's not like I 00:44:45.650 --> 00:44:52.940 just wish them to be away and they are 00:44:49.670 --> 00:44:56.630 away no I have to take care of them love 00:44:52.940 --> 00:44:59.720 and scrub them here a little bit left 00:44:56.630 --> 00:45:00.200 and right it's good enough thank you my 00:44:59.720 --> 00:45:07.250 dear 00:45:00.200 --> 00:45:16.400 I see you so ty uses the example of a 00:45:07.250 --> 00:45:20.510 mother taking care of a baby mother and 00:45:16.400 --> 00:45:22.910 let's say the mother is somewhere in the 00:45:20.510 --> 00:45:26.090 house and the baby is somewhere else in 00:45:22.910 --> 00:45:27.770 the house and it starts crying so the 00:45:26.090 --> 00:45:32.210 mother being on another place here's the 00:45:27.770 --> 00:45:34.730 baby crying and recognizes the suffering 00:45:32.210 --> 00:45:36.860 hearing suffering recognizes the crying 00:45:34.730 --> 00:45:39.890 of the baby hearing that it needs 00:45:36.860 --> 00:45:45.560 attention so that's always our first 00:45:39.890 --> 00:45:50.710 step right recognizing then we have more 00:45:45.560 --> 00:45:53.710 space here I need a bit more space 00:45:50.710 --> 00:45:53.710 mother 00:45:55.510 --> 00:45:58.510 recognizing 00:46:05.720 --> 00:46:14.070 recognizing so what the mother does is I 00:46:10.710 --> 00:46:16.830 hear you I see you and I will be here 00:46:14.070 --> 00:46:18.780 for you the mother will probably put 00:46:16.830 --> 00:46:21.359 down whatever she was doing right now 00:46:18.780 --> 00:46:35.270 and go to the other room and hold the 00:46:21.359 --> 00:46:35.270 baby so the thing is hearing crying baby 00:46:37.820 --> 00:46:45.710 recognizing the suffering putting down 00:46:42.270 --> 00:46:48.180 what I'm doing going to the suffering 00:46:45.710 --> 00:46:51.300 and I come to the room where the baby is 00:46:48.180 --> 00:46:54.810 crying and the mother would immediately 00:46:51.300 --> 00:46:59.010 take the baby in her arms and take care 00:46:54.810 --> 00:47:02.580 of it saying my dear baby but would not 00:46:59.010 --> 00:47:04.770 look right away as the first thing why 00:47:02.580 --> 00:47:07.440 does the baby cries it like to bride is 00:47:04.770 --> 00:47:10.349 it too dark is it took hold is the music 00:47:07.440 --> 00:47:12.089 of the neighbors too loud that all has 00:47:10.349 --> 00:47:14.490 time the most important thing is now the 00:47:12.089 --> 00:47:17.310 suffering of the baby I want to be here 00:47:14.490 --> 00:47:20.550 for the baby and she holds it and she 00:47:17.310 --> 00:47:22.890 rocks it and maybe she hums a song mmm 00:47:20.550 --> 00:47:27.089 it's it's fine it's gonna be fine baby 00:47:22.890 --> 00:47:31.680 I'm here I'm here for you I see you so 00:47:27.089 --> 00:47:36.740 that's embracing the baby embracing the 00:47:31.680 --> 00:47:42.450 pain embracing our strong energy our 00:47:36.740 --> 00:47:43.230 habit energy to be there with it may it 00:47:42.450 --> 00:47:46.200 be difficult 00:47:43.230 --> 00:47:51.050 may it be painful may be loud when a 00:47:46.200 --> 00:47:53.790 baby cries and doesn't stop it can be 00:47:51.050 --> 00:47:55.050 nerve killing like if it doesn't stop 00:47:53.790 --> 00:47:56.970 for half an hour you might be good 00:47:55.050 --> 00:47:59.280 rocking it for 5 minutes hoping that it 00:47:56.970 --> 00:48:03.599 will fall asleep again but it does not 00:47:59.280 --> 00:48:07.609 I'm really embracing it so the mother 00:48:03.599 --> 00:48:07.609 would hold the baby 00:48:09.960 --> 00:48:16.360 hold the baby and while the mother is 00:48:14.380 --> 00:48:20.020 rocking the baby is there and taking 00:48:16.360 --> 00:48:22.390 care of it and you see this tender image 00:48:20.020 --> 00:48:25.120 of the mother and that's exactly what we 00:48:22.390 --> 00:48:27.010 need to do with our habits with our 00:48:25.120 --> 00:48:28.540 strong emotions with feelings when they 00:48:27.010 --> 00:48:30.580 come up and they are not pleasant they 00:48:28.540 --> 00:48:34.330 are painful that's exactly what we can 00:48:30.580 --> 00:48:37.090 do being there and it is painful it is 00:48:34.330 --> 00:48:41.680 loud but I'm gonna do it and while 00:48:37.090 --> 00:48:44.620 mother is doing that she's looking 00:48:41.680 --> 00:48:49.710 deeply and she says why is baby crying 00:48:44.620 --> 00:48:52.300 and then she starts investigating around 00:48:49.710 --> 00:48:57.150 seeing is it too bright here in the room 00:48:52.300 --> 00:49:00.370 is it too dark was baby just alone or 00:48:57.150 --> 00:49:03.430 maybe it is hungry are the diaper is 00:49:00.370 --> 00:49:11.790 full and it's invested it's 00:49:03.430 --> 00:49:19.060 investigating so looking deeply looking 00:49:11.790 --> 00:49:23.290 deeply this marker is slowly not looking 00:49:19.060 --> 00:49:31.920 deeply anymore okay that's better 00:49:23.290 --> 00:49:35.160 and she's investigating investigating 00:49:31.920 --> 00:49:41.820 baby suffering 00:49:35.160 --> 00:49:41.820 babies suffering 00:49:42.329 --> 00:49:52.569 and just as I investigated what is the 00:49:47.470 --> 00:49:54.880 reason for these words not being so so 00:49:52.569 --> 00:49:59.020 bold I got an insight 00:49:54.880 --> 00:50:00.970 I got an insight that I'm may change the 00:49:59.020 --> 00:50:04.000 marker and it will be better so the 00:50:00.970 --> 00:50:05.650 mother gets an insight to investigating 00:50:04.000 --> 00:50:08.619 also holding the baby in her arm 00:50:05.650 --> 00:50:09.970 rocking it humming to it and then 00:50:08.619 --> 00:50:12.220 looking deeply what could it be what 00:50:09.970 --> 00:50:14.970 what is it what it is what baby needs 00:50:12.220 --> 00:50:17.440 what it is what I am needing right now 00:50:14.970 --> 00:50:20.319 you're automatically investigating 00:50:17.440 --> 00:50:22.809 things within and without again and 00:50:20.319 --> 00:50:25.329 you're checking the forehead as a 00:50:22.809 --> 00:50:27.780 temperature giving it a little finger 00:50:25.329 --> 00:50:33.369 and see if it sucks if it's hungry 00:50:27.780 --> 00:50:35.650 you're tapping the the diapers and sure 00:50:33.369 --> 00:50:38.530 enough looking deeply you will get an 00:50:35.650 --> 00:50:42.329 insight you will get an insight of what 00:50:38.530 --> 00:50:46.170 it is as a fruit of your investigation 00:50:42.329 --> 00:50:46.170 there is insight 00:50:48.890 --> 00:50:55.610 so the mother checking checking 00:50:52.160 --> 00:51:00.830 different possibilities fields oh my god 00:50:55.610 --> 00:51:03.850 yes the diapers are loaded right let's 00:51:00.830 --> 00:51:13.130 write this down see it brings us joy 00:51:03.850 --> 00:51:14.870 diapers loaded and with that insight the 00:51:13.130 --> 00:51:18.230 mother sets herself free from the 00:51:14.870 --> 00:51:21.410 suffering the mother has a choice you 00:51:18.230 --> 00:51:23.870 know from all that stream here we are 00:51:21.410 --> 00:51:29.110 looking deeply and now we have a choice 00:51:23.870 --> 00:51:37.780 and that choice is our transformation 00:51:29.110 --> 00:51:41.810 transformation and it's also liberating 00:51:37.780 --> 00:51:44.270 liberating us from being caught in that 00:51:41.810 --> 00:51:49.280 current in that stream of that emotion 00:51:44.270 --> 00:51:58.270 of that suffering and what we do is in 00:51:49.280 --> 00:52:08.020 this case we change the diapers and end 00:51:58.270 --> 00:52:08.020 the baby suffering suffering 00:52:08.330 --> 00:52:14.720 so from recognizing suffering happening 00:52:11.480 --> 00:52:18.020 by hearing something feeling something 00:52:14.720 --> 00:52:20.210 seeing something we go and take care of 00:52:18.020 --> 00:52:21.830 it that's the first thing and the only 00:52:20.210 --> 00:52:26.390 thing we want to do we don't want to 00:52:21.830 --> 00:52:28.160 know why the house burned down there's 00:52:26.390 --> 00:52:29.720 often we have this example of a burning 00:52:28.160 --> 00:52:32.240 house when you come to you back to your 00:52:29.720 --> 00:52:34.970 house and you see it in flames the first 00:52:32.240 --> 00:52:38.420 thing you want to do is to find water 00:52:34.970 --> 00:52:40.040 and and how do you say distinguish the 00:52:38.420 --> 00:52:41.810 fire and not the first thing you want to 00:52:40.040 --> 00:52:44.000 do is run around saying who put my house 00:52:41.810 --> 00:52:46.610 on fire I want to see and talk to that 00:52:44.000 --> 00:52:48.710 person what's happened here why is that 00:52:46.610 --> 00:52:50.480 fire here you want to take action and 00:52:48.710 --> 00:52:53.360 this is what the mother does and this is 00:52:50.480 --> 00:52:55.880 what we shall do the first thing when we 00:52:53.360 --> 00:52:58.600 experience suffering this being there 00:52:55.880 --> 00:53:01.970 for the suffering for ourselves 00:52:58.600 --> 00:53:04.910 rocking ourselves comforting us saying 00:53:01.970 --> 00:53:07.340 I'm here I'm here for you I see you I 00:53:04.910 --> 00:53:12.290 hear you we are here together and shine 00:53:07.340 --> 00:53:16.490 as ty the light of mindfulness onto this 00:53:12.290 --> 00:53:19.700 emotion Ty's inviting another seed to 00:53:16.490 --> 00:53:23.720 that seed of of suffering he's inviting 00:53:19.700 --> 00:53:28.220 the seed of mindfulness of compassion of 00:53:23.720 --> 00:53:32.480 presence so that seed of sadness is not 00:53:28.220 --> 00:53:35.900 alone and they are a Sangha they become 00:53:32.480 --> 00:53:37.610 a Sangha and our sadness cannot be that 00:53:35.900 --> 00:53:41.720 strong because the mindfulness is there 00:53:37.610 --> 00:53:44.810 I am here my awareness is there and by 00:53:41.720 --> 00:53:46.490 doing so we're then we then we have time 00:53:44.810 --> 00:53:49.400 to let it sink in and see what is 00:53:46.490 --> 00:53:51.800 happening here why is that happening and 00:53:49.400 --> 00:53:54.740 we look deeply into our actions into our 00:53:51.800 --> 00:53:56.450 thinking into the environment and we 00:53:54.740 --> 00:54:00.260 become an insight and see yeah sure 00:53:56.450 --> 00:54:05.690 because I did that I find myself here 00:54:00.260 --> 00:54:11.020 now and then I am free then I'm free to 00:54:05.690 --> 00:54:11.020 act and liberate myself from that stream 00:54:11.130 --> 00:54:23.099 now how does that look like with habit 00:54:16.559 --> 00:54:25.499 energies the topic we are here for how 00:54:23.099 --> 00:54:28.559 do we translate it into habit let's take 00:54:25.499 --> 00:54:31.890 my example of the food to have a 00:54:28.559 --> 00:54:35.279 concrete example so let's say it's my 00:54:31.890 --> 00:54:40.529 cooking day and I'm making spaghetti I'm 00:54:35.279 --> 00:54:43.380 making great spaghetti and I'm carrying 00:54:40.529 --> 00:54:47.400 spaghetti from the cabinet to the 00:54:43.380 --> 00:54:50.609 counter and something feels wrong 00:54:47.400 --> 00:54:52.739 I have a sense something is wrong like 00:54:50.609 --> 00:54:56.369 the mother hearing something but I hear 00:54:52.739 --> 00:54:59.609 it internally and then I think there's a 00:54:56.369 --> 00:55:03.210 lot of spaghetti here in my hand so I 00:54:59.609 --> 00:55:08.269 see I see something I see my suffering I 00:55:03.210 --> 00:55:10.130 see let's say a lot of spaghetti a lot 00:55:08.269 --> 00:55:14.759 spaghetti 00:55:10.130 --> 00:55:16.309 well this markers they are definitely 00:55:14.759 --> 00:55:20.099 not my family 00:55:16.309 --> 00:55:29.670 is that going to not a nice dream oh 00:55:20.099 --> 00:55:31.920 this one is good spaghetti a lot so now 00:55:29.670 --> 00:55:35.309 I hear something within I feel a concern 00:55:31.920 --> 00:55:37.920 something doesn't feel it's odd so I go 00:55:35.309 --> 00:55:41.940 to the counter put them down and I start 00:55:37.920 --> 00:55:44.309 I start stopping I start being there for 00:55:41.940 --> 00:55:46.710 myself I'm not continuing and opening 00:55:44.309 --> 00:55:49.890 all those packages something is odd and 00:55:46.710 --> 00:55:59.640 I want to be with it so what I'm doing 00:55:49.890 --> 00:56:03.180 is I will stop and start breathing start 00:55:59.640 --> 00:56:07.609 breathing and being there for myself and 00:56:03.180 --> 00:56:12.630 looking inside of me what is happening 00:56:07.609 --> 00:56:15.029 rocking my baby and by rocking my baby I 00:56:12.630 --> 00:56:18.809 also have the chance to look more deeply 00:56:15.029 --> 00:56:21.010 and see what is it why is it so so much 00:56:18.809 --> 00:56:26.130 spaghetti here in front of me 00:56:21.010 --> 00:56:28.420 and then I might investigate and see 00:56:26.130 --> 00:56:30.520 yesterday the brothers ate really a lot 00:56:28.420 --> 00:56:34.270 so maybe this is why I'm intuitively 00:56:30.520 --> 00:56:35.590 taking out more or I investigate is 00:56:34.270 --> 00:56:38.350 there a lot of leftover from yesterday 00:56:35.590 --> 00:56:43.420 or is there no leftover and I think I 00:56:38.350 --> 00:56:45.880 have to make more or is it at the end 00:56:43.420 --> 00:56:49.240 for coming from inside of me and it is 00:56:45.880 --> 00:56:53.290 my my ancestral habit energy to always 00:56:49.240 --> 00:56:55.240 cook too much ping and the same as for 00:56:53.290 --> 00:56:56.800 the mother at one point it resonates 00:56:55.240 --> 00:56:58.990 with you and you know what it is to get 00:56:56.800 --> 00:57:04.450 an insight so looking deeply is 00:56:58.990 --> 00:57:15.150 investigating - investigating of the 00:57:04.450 --> 00:57:23.070 causes and the inside is my ancestral 00:57:15.150 --> 00:57:29.260 habits the diapers are loaded I got them 00:57:23.070 --> 00:57:33.730 so with this insight this insight is my 00:57:29.260 --> 00:57:36.609 choice and now I have the choice to take 00:57:33.730 --> 00:57:40.060 two or three packs of spaghetti back to 00:57:36.609 --> 00:57:42.400 the cabinet or I can still cook them all 00:57:40.060 --> 00:57:44.440 but I have a choice I'm not caught in 00:57:42.400 --> 00:57:49.780 that stream in that current that pushes 00:57:44.440 --> 00:57:52.930 me and gives me no choice so now I would 00:57:49.780 --> 00:57:56.020 just say choice because now it's up to 00:57:52.930 --> 00:58:01.690 me I can transform it at least I have 00:57:56.020 --> 00:58:04.710 the power to do so and tie using 00:58:01.690 --> 00:58:09.490 mindfulness concentration and insight 00:58:04.710 --> 00:58:16.210 applied to this uses mindfulness to 00:58:09.490 --> 00:58:20.100 recognize and embrace a suffering to be 00:58:16.210 --> 00:58:22.720 there to be able to stop and be with it 00:58:20.100 --> 00:58:23.490 now we say where there's mindfulness of 00:58:22.720 --> 00:58:26.740 something 00:58:23.490 --> 00:58:31.240 there's concentration because when I'm 00:58:26.740 --> 00:58:34.540 mindful of my baby my mind concentrates 00:58:31.240 --> 00:58:37.180 on that baby and not why it 00:58:34.540 --> 00:58:39.580 Christ but my mind is concentrated on 00:58:37.180 --> 00:58:42.130 the suffering of the baby so it already 00:58:39.580 --> 00:58:46.570 starts here and goes into licking 00:58:42.130 --> 00:58:50.530 looking deeply here we go 00:58:46.570 --> 00:58:53.290 concentration and when you have 00:58:50.530 --> 00:58:54.820 mindfulness and concentration you're 00:58:53.290 --> 00:58:57.220 mindful of something you generate 00:58:54.820 --> 00:58:59.080 presence and awareness your mind is 00:58:57.220 --> 00:59:02.230 focus on that one thing you're able to 00:58:59.080 --> 00:59:02.710 look deeply and to see the root of your 00:59:02.230 --> 00:59:04.900 suffering 00:59:02.710 --> 00:59:08.590 so there's inside arising and from that 00:59:04.900 --> 00:59:12.160 insight you have the choice to liberate 00:59:08.590 --> 00:59:19.240 yourself to be transformed so from 00:59:12.160 --> 00:59:24.190 looking deeply we have the inside that 00:59:19.240 --> 00:59:26.800 helps us to set us free and that's the 00:59:24.190 --> 00:59:29.890 power of mindfulness that we don't have 00:59:26.800 --> 00:59:38.710 to wait for anyone to save us from who 00:59:29.890 --> 00:59:42.300 we are and by that the walkway and this 00:59:38.710 --> 00:59:44.950 moving walkway becomes more a freeway 00:59:42.300 --> 00:59:50.200 with this with the help of mindfulness 00:59:44.950 --> 00:59:53.170 concentration and insight and a freeway 00:59:50.200 --> 00:59:55.300 with many exits right we are on that 00:59:53.170 --> 01:00:00.610 stream with other cars and as many exits 00:59:55.300 --> 01:00:03.630 so each time an insight occurs an exit 01:00:00.610 --> 01:00:06.340 occurs imagine you're on that moving 01:00:03.630 --> 01:00:09.160 walkway and you have an insight and 01:00:06.340 --> 01:00:10.420 there would a door appear at that move 01:00:09.160 --> 01:00:12.550 and you could get out and get your 01:00:10.420 --> 01:00:16.180 coffee or your newspapers or go to the 01:00:12.550 --> 01:00:17.980 restaurant so each time we have an 01:00:16.180 --> 01:00:20.650 insight we have an exit we have the 01:00:17.980 --> 01:00:22.960 chance to get out of that cycle of that 01:00:20.650 --> 01:00:25.090 stream that is carrying us somewhere 01:00:22.960 --> 01:00:29.980 where we don't have a choice where we 01:00:25.090 --> 01:00:33.880 maybe don't want to even be so to 01:00:29.980 --> 01:00:40.240 conclude I want to summarize what we 01:00:33.880 --> 01:00:42.660 have gathered here today so first habit 01:00:40.240 --> 01:00:42.660 energies 01:00:44.010 --> 01:00:55.890 habit energies can be strong our stream 01:00:51.830 --> 01:01:02.520 don't give us choice but are not 01:00:55.890 --> 01:01:05.990 necessarily bad secondly there's nothing 01:01:02.520 --> 01:01:10.830 to kill or to cut off but rather to 01:01:05.990 --> 01:01:13.440 divert or stop or tame transform or 01:01:10.830 --> 01:01:20.850 liberate it's much more gentle and much 01:01:13.440 --> 01:01:24.030 more resonating and so third we need to 01:01:20.850 --> 01:01:28.140 learn how to be gentle and kind to 01:01:24.030 --> 01:01:30.690 ourselves in this very moment and 01:01:28.140 --> 01:01:38.609 cultivating mindfulness concentration 01:01:30.690 --> 01:01:41.600 and insight to create exits to liberate 01:01:38.609 --> 01:01:41.600 us and to set us free 01:01:52.130 --> 01:01:56.189 [Music] 01:02:01.720 --> 01:02:03.780 you