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do you respect the tie dear brothers
here in the hall
dear Sangha today is Mother's Day and I
would like to send my love to my mother
for supporting me all the time in so
many ways to be here right now all the
conditions she had prepared and was
there for me and I want to also thank
her mother and the mother of my mother's
mother I want to thank the ancestral
stream of my blood ancestors going far
back and I also want to thank our
teacher ty for nourishing me for being
such a transformative and meaningful
also mother to me with a lot of love and
care teaching me how to handle life how
to take care of myself and I would also
like to say thank you to Ty's teacher
and the teacher of Ty's teacher and the
stream of our spiritual ancestors going
far back to the Buddha who is sitting
here behind me very peacefully and
having my back literally and I feel safe
and at ease knowing that both my blood
ancestors we have an altar here for our
blood ancestors and my spiritual
ancestors on the other side with the
Buddha having my back I know I can be
very grateful
I want to share my story with you
mmm a classic Zen story about a man and
a horse and you might know it there is a
horse and this horse is galloping very
fast racing and the man on the horse it
looks like he needs to go somewhere very
important maybe his wife is giving birth
or he has an urgent message for the king
to deliver their racing and there is a
man standing at the side of the road
seeing that and as they come racing by
this man shouts hey where are you going
and the man on the horse replies I don't
know ask the horse off he goes and this
man stands there asked the horse ask the
horse so the title of the talk today I
chose his taming the tiger within and
you might ask why taming the tiger with
him well I don't know ask the tiger in
in Buddhist teachings the horse stands
for habit energies and the same as the
horsemen it just carries us away and we
don't know where it is going
these strong habit energies they take
the choice from us they are running
running us away and we don't know where
we will get to and the tiger stands for
strong emotions within us and the tiger
is a dangerous animal and so can be
strong emotions they can threaten us and
threaten the people around us
and I believe in these times where we
are staying more at home that our habit
energies show up more often and awesome
more strong being with people around us
for a longer time being closer with
family and I remember my dad telling me
when when I was a little kid he said
people are habitual animals they get
used to everything habitual animals
that's a German word and it translates
into creature of habit in English but in
German you say governor I'd steer
habitual animal and I remember I was
confused when he said that people are
habitual animals as I was confused I was
a kid of five or six how can a human be
an animal and just didn't sit right with
me but now I see the Horace a tiger
maybe he was referring to that and also
he said they're getting used to
everything and I see nowadays we are
getting used to everything they say stay
at home save lives we stay at home and
we save lives and some of us I got used
to go out and they struggle a little bit
but if it takes longer we will get used
to that too we got used to not going to
baseball games anymore
we got used to not going to rock
concerts anymore so
this metaphor of the horse as a strong
habit energy I found this a little bit
outdated I mean nobody has an urgent
message for the king anymore we don't
ride horses so I want to offer maybe a
more modern or a more accurate version
of that which is a moving walkway
imagine in the airports so you come
there with your trolley and you can walk
like the hundred-yard so you see there's
this walkway and that makes it much
easier for me so you go with you Charlie
you step on that walkway and it does
everything for you you don't need to
think you don't need to do anything no
to move your legs but also you cannot do
anything it will just take you basically
like the horse now you find yourself on
that walkway and you slowly are walked
forward and then you think I haven't had
a coffee maybe I'd like to buy a coffee
and sure enough on the right side of the
walkway there is a coffee shop but not
for you you are on the walkway there is
no exit then you you walk or you get
walked a little bit further you think
wow this is a long flight maybe I want
to buy a magazine or a book and yes
there is the bookshop to your right
passing by not for you maybe later and
you need to see the restroom really
urgent and the restroom is right there
but you cannot access it I mean you can
like jump over the handle but we know
it's not legal and it's also dangerous
and you could turn around and run or
walk against the walkway but if you ever
tried to walk or saw a kid walking
against the walkway you know that you
don't move if you stay at the same place
so we have to wait until that walkway
unloads us somewhere in the future we
have to be patient and without
control and choice until the end of the
walkway and I find this makes more sense
to me so as you can imagine it's going
to be in the direction of habit energies
today and let us have a closer look what
kind of habit energies we have we often
look at other languages all the
languages if we want to describe things
in sutras or or teachings because they
often offer us the roots of the word or
the meaning of the word so we look into
Pali Sanskrit or Chinese and I looked up
habit in Chinese to see what what it
says and usually we have two characters
in Chinese different words that come
together as and build a new word and
from these two words you can see where
it came from so let me write down habit
in Chinese for you
I remember I don't write Chinese maybe I
should make the other habit but I know
someone who does
rather minion will you be so kind and
write habit in Chinese just here in the
upper middle please brother minion is my
roommate and he's excellent in Chinese
he's writing calligraphies and I see him
diligently studying studying amazing and
his name translated his brother kindness
and I find this is very kind of you to
help me out here in this situation
Wow this is habit huh okay that's good
enough for me
I wouldn't I wouldn't have seen the
difference thank you very much rather
minion so two characters what I do know
because I looked it up that the word
habit in Chinese consists of this
character here which means learning or
and receive training in that's pretty
clear and like goes into a certain
direction to learn something like a
habit we we learn something we receive
training and something practicing is
another translation the second word
means no I don't have too much space but
we will get around to be used to haha or
to be accustomed to accustomed to also
make sense for the world habit it's a
nice combination so we're learning to
get used to something we received
training in in to be accustomed to
something to learn a habit and to me it
sounds like little by little these
continuous drops where a stone little
strokes fell big Oaks right we learn
something and we get used to it so
we'll come back to that later
to that meaning what kind of habits do
we see or face in our daily lives and
when I look at my habits I see some of
them are like a ritual I'll make a
ritual out of it
dedicate a time and some are more
routine as we said to save time to save
energy like stepping on the walkway and
instead of walking I want to save energy
so we have ritual let's say versus
routine can you read that from over
there
and a ritual is something you practice
with awareness you're very awake let's
say awake versus asleep when you do a
routine and you do it just for the sake
of not wasting much thinking you don't
have to be really there so we can say
the first one is like mindfulness versus
forgetfulness from Ed fulness and to
give you an example like a ritual can be
like a tea ceremony and we all like to
drink tea and we know how much care and
these tiny little parts it demands and
having this wonderful roommate brother
kindness he doesn't only have Chinese
skills he also has Japanese skills
because he's a matrimony natural master
and it's amazing to watch him making tea
he takes only a little amount of this
green powder and he puts it there then a
little amount of water whisking not too
much and he really has to be there in
order not to do too much or too hard or
too
and and it becomes a ritual versus let
us say coffee tea and coffee everybody
knows I guess when you wake up in the
morning and you find your way to the
kitchen to where you assume the coffee
machine was yesterday half asleep and
you make your coffee and sometimes you
would feel the water into the bean
hopper or the coffee ground into the
container where the water goes because
you are still asleep the other day and
brother mignon was making matcha I
wanted to put the beans in my grinder
and I spilled it and they were
everywhere and I was like oh why is this
always happening before coffee you know
and the answer is because it is before
coffee after coffee these things
wouldn't happen you would be awake
mindful so this is a difference between
ritual and routine just to give you like
a example another kind of habit energy
there are good habit energies should I
continue just hear the word have it
already good habits versus bad habits
and because that sounds so bad let's say
we have helpful habits that contribute
to our well-being helpful habits versus
harmful they harm us and what do they
harm I mean we are talking in terms of
practice we are practitioners I guess
everybody who is watching Dhamma talk
has something to do with mindfulness and
is eager to develop its practice so
helpful whereas as harmful means to
establish a practice body more
mindfulness to go deeper
and what are good habits and bad habits
oops this God have it do you see then
God habit is surely a good habit so as
practitioners is the best habit as
practitioners let me get my energy cable
right here as practitioners for sure a
good habit to cultivate is to follow
your breathing first thing waking up you
know you wake up in the morning and if
you don't follow your breathing first
thing if my your mind might take over
like the horse and carry you somewhere
for example to the coffee maker saying
okay you know I have to get out of this
bed I have to go there make this right
turn left to the kitchen the coffee
maker I guess is somewhere there and if
this thinking kicks in you're basically
already lost from the very thing in the
morning so a good habit follow your
breathing follow your your belly rising
and falling your the air flowing in and
out naturally to your body and during
the day we can continue another good
habit during the day is what we do here
in practice centers is stopping to have
else of mindfulness to have reminders to
make a stop our thinking our actions
what we are doing what we're feeling
just to check in calm down and get in
touch with ourselves again seeing if
we've been carried away if we've been on
a horse on a walkway and if necessary to
get off the horse or get off the walkway
and how we do that we come later come to
that later
that's one good that's a good habit to
another one and this is a funny one in a
in a Sangha meeting in an online sangha
meeting I asked the Sangha members to
exactly do a change a habit change a
habit like with a coffee machine and say
put in the evening your coffee machine
in another place just to change
something so when you come to the
kitchen in the morning asleep forgetful
as a routine and you don't find your
coffee machine because you're not
thinking and then you will wake up and
you will think and then you are awake
and you can do your coffee as a ritual
so Jim let's call him Jim right Jim said
he did it and he he placed his almond
creamer somewhere else so when he came
the very next morning and as it happens
again he was asleep he was forgetful he
was in that I know how to make coffee
thing it's an automatism is a it's an
algorithm going on this-this-this it
comes to the creamer and his creamer is
not in the cabinet where it used to be
he was really confused he said I looked
again still not still not in there he
looked maybe next door it was nowhere
next door and then he remembered and
said ah and that was this moment of
awakening aha
now I remember now I wake up I'm from my
routine yesterday I put it somewhere
else in order to come to this state of
mind but where where did I put it and he
forgot where he put it so he had to look
a little bit around but finally he found
and could enjoy his coffee with his
creamer and we have bad habits on the
opposite we also have everybody has bad
habits
nobody's free from that we try to make
our lives more easy without much
thinking or engaging save energy
and huh strange enough often a habit
energy is to to not being able to stop
thinking and to actually engage all the
time
which is to me not saving energy but it
can be so - I called that radio NST we
listen to our radio NST all the time and
NST is a station that means non stop
thinking radio non-stop thinking we
don't give us a break to come back to
our breathing to be and to come alive to
be there to be awake to be mindful but
this thinking keeps us going and now I
can do this and then I can do that and
what happened here what happened there
look at this and we engage ourselves all
the time that's a bad habit that's why
we have that good habit of stopping
during the day another bad habit could
be that we are not capable of taking
care of feelings or thoughts that come
up which are not very pleasant or
difficult to handle or to accept and we
tend to fight them put them away nope or
we ignore them what is there a problem I
don't see a problem or we cover them up
saying oops sadness no no I need a
peanut butter cake that makes me happy
or I need this piece of music and we
cover up by filling it filling in
something else which is not the original
thing that's a bad habit too because it
is harmful it doesn't help us to get to
know us and to get to lover ourselves we
try to stay away because we find it
unpleasant or discomfort discomfort and
then there are other bad habits average
bad habits
everybody knows simply being late
or being always right and we all know
people in our lives who are always late
or always right and no I'm not talking
to anyone specific here but you probably
know someone okay and then we have
another set of habit energies but no
more space on the board so I'll make
some maybe we do I just need to go down
a little bit and this is also very
meaningful because now we come to the
ancestral habit energy so when I go down
to my knees I go down and kneel down in
front of my ancestors so we have
ancestral let's just make clear that
this doesn't belong to this ancestral
habits verses it's called them personal
habits ancestral and this ancestral
that's enough and we also all have them
every family has inherited habit
energies from their from their father's
from their mothers and from their
fathers from your grandparents and we
need also know them and when we are
young we say oh my dad is like that I
will never become like my dad only like
two forty years later I see myself doing
exact the same thing and sometimes I
open my mouth and my mom comes out
saying you should wear socks you'll get
a cold my dear say mom what are you
doing here right so that there can be
very strong be going because it goes a
long way it goes our parents our
grandparents great the stream of all our
ancestors so we have two parents we have
four four grandparents we have eight
grand grandparents we have sixteen
second grade
grandparents and I looked it up by the
time we come to our 18th
great-grandparents they are 1 million
ancestors having our back and that's a
very strong stream there's a very strong
current and this stream of ancestral
habits carries helpful seeds and carries
harmful seeds to helpful seats just
cultivated by experience and by volition
and harmful habits because we were not
able to see our ancestors were not able
to see it or they didn't have a practice
to stop it so there was no recognition
maybe there was there no kept of the
capability of dealing with this and we
just passed them on and it is difficult
to say where it all started we can blame
our parents we can blame our
grandparents for doing it to my parents
which did it to us but it's very
difficult when you have after 18th
generation you have 1 million people who
to blame and you rather you rather take
care of what is now instead of going
back in the past and looking what went
wrong and who did it
there's an Italian saying in our Italian
brother used to say it's not about the
sinner it's about the sin so we don't
want to point fingers to something but
we want to do something in transform
something so I have in my family also
helpful and harmful habits and not
really a harmful but kind of a bad funny
habit in my family is food it's all
around food my family lost food and why
this is another this is another story
probably but when we go shopping my mom
my dad or me or my sister or together
pest together we buy a lot we buy a lot
of food and we say show me show me
buying like one more cabbage
maybe we need it yeah sure or better to
take two packages of this sure go ahead
you know and then of course we store a
lot of food at home and we have a big
pantry and a big storage and the
basement in the kitchen everywhere and
because there's this wish or you know
always to have a lot or enough or you
never know maybe guests are coming so we
cook a lot you know in case somebody
brings their friend home or you never
know so you better cook more than two
less and because we cook a lot we also
eat a lot we'd like to eat and I learned
later when I went to friends or in my
monastic life to two different lay
friends to their houses nobody eats as
much as my family and I had to share
this one day with my family yes and we
are eating too much so I said what do
you mean were you eating too much I said
well nobody eats as much as we do and
they couldn't believe me and because we
eat so much but we of course we are no
you see we are not like my parents are
not very big or strong so we have
leftovers we have also a lot of
leftovers and these leftovers we have to
freeze and yeah cook another day or warm
them up another day and I have inherited
this this habit energy when I was the
shopper here Deer Park I was exactly
like my mom I opened my mouth and my mom
spoke now let's take one more box
brother because you never know you know
how many people will come for the day of
mindfulness and the mind can come up
with a lot of different reasons why and
you can ask my cooking team here I'm
always cooking too much because I'm
staying there and I'm pouring in things
into my pots and I think will this be
enough like in counting the brothers
seeing they're all young they're all
strong they had working meditation I
better better one more and I pour it in
and fair enough I'm also eating too much
I'm standing in front of the serving
line
and I'm doing my contemplations and I
vow to be moderate and not to eat too
much not to take too much on my bowl
until I stand there with my bowl in
front of the tray or pot and I do one
spoon and two spoons I think it's only
half-full
I'm really hungry and I don't know what
fear comes up there will I starve today
is this the my last day because I didn't
take a third spoon it's ridiculous but
this is what is going on in me so I'm
taking two more just to be sure and just
to find out while eating no I'm full
already there's still a half bowl in
here exactly the amount I was I was
starting to consider not to take any
more and when we are cooking because I'm
cooking so much we also have leftovers
so now in a you know monastery with
cooking or rotation you have another
cooking team cooking the next day and so
one excuse for me could be and that the
cooking team next day has to cook less
and some brothers are happy they're
saying that's great cook as much as you
want because they know me so I have less
work the next day but others would also
like to offer a dish like I'm I really
love cooking and I really like offering
dishes to to the brothers and I'm taking
the chance for these brothers to cook
their own dish because they have to warm
up my leftovers so that's uh I call it
funny but it's a bad habit and I'm still
working on it on the other side my
family has wonderful habits my family
loves people
very generous to help when people I need
my family's just and engaged we had a
lot of in my family we had a lot of
monks priests from the Catholic side we
had mayors we had politicians my dad is
engaged my mother in the community my
dad in politics so really just I'm a
Buddhist monk and that's a beautiful
habit energy that we hope we can pass on
if not to my children then I can pass it
on by my actions
my deeds and words and personal habits
so the ancestral have this strong
current and personal habits are
something I develop and cultivate my own
life based on experiences or hurts I
have experienced or just ideas
ideologies that I take on and cultivate
a habit that forms my identity too so a
bad habit of mine which I have is money
you don't want to give me money I cannot
handle money and maybe this is a reason
I became a monk because we don't have
money we have a little bit of pocket
money and I cannot keep money with me I
just don't value it enough I never did
my mom when when I was a teenager I
started going out and I asked her if she
has some money for me and for the
weekend and she says how much do you
need and I said whatever and she gave me
she said for the whole weekend
okay I'll give you 100 so she gave me
hundred and she said don't forget to
bring back the change I said sure so
Sunday night I come back home and she
said where's the change and I said no
change okay so next week I asked again
and she said how much and I said
whatever she says last time I gave you a
hundred this time I give you fifty now
bring back the change
Sunday evening she says is there any
changes there's no change the following
week so he gave me 20 and then no change
so my mother said I better give you
nothing because I give you ten or
hundred you spend it all like that's a
gift but but I when I had a hundred I
would treat my friends and if I had ten
my friends would treat me so that that's
the deal right but I you don't want to
make me the treasurer of the Sangha the
shopper was borderline already but I
also have good habits
I have good habits I wonder what are my
flowers I recently cultivated a habit
which I find is very sweet and helpful
here in the monks residence we have a
bathroom for them for the brothers and
we have slippers so when you go into the
bathroom they are waiting slippers and
you do what you have to do and when you
go out you leave them and leave the
bathroom so what I'm doing in the last
time I'm walking backwards out of the
bathroom like a scuba diver so that the
slippers would be in the right direction
if the next brother comes he sees the
slippers and he just slips in and
continues to go and and does whatever he
wants to do when he steps out like going
against the direction but the other day
I saw Fabio a we the two of us were in
the bathroom and he exited earlier I
came actually I was outside wanted to
enter the bathroom and he just exited
and turned around like a scuba diver and
went out and we looked at each other and
he gave me a big smile and it warned my
heart so much and I thought wow this is
so lovely I'm doing it to make the life
of the brother behind me a little bit
more beautiful and it was infecting
brother Hawaiian and sometimes I forget
sometimes the brothers do it sometimes
not and it doesn't matter it just gives
me joy when I step out of the bathroom
like a scuba diver opening the way for
the brother just to make his life a
little bit easier so this is what I
found
concerning habit energies doing a little
bit research within and without but I
think the most important thing is to to
look and to see if and how our habit
energies are contributing to our
well-being or
if they give us choice not like being on
the walkway or on the horse the Freedom
and choice or even joy like the slipper
thing really gives me joy and peace and
if not how to break a bad habit
maybe we can enjoy one sound of the Bell
now
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how to break bad habits YouTube is full
of it 10 best tips to break bad habits
slaughter your dragon fight your enemy
and I thought I'm in an action movie and
I thought that movies mirror life but it
seems like life mirrors movies in the
meantime and we build our literacy
around action movies so why should we
break habits now looking at what we have
discovered so far we can just like
change the course of the ancestral
stream for example divert it or we can
stop the horse or tame the tiger we
don't need to kill the tiger or the
horse slaughter or break it it's really
not needed and when I say tame taming
the tiger
I remember the book the little prince do
you know the book the little prince if
you don't know it you got to read it
it's a must read it's a very sweet
poetic manual for life and people you
meet in your life very beautiful so in
that book the little prince meets the
Fox and he wants to become the friends
the fox's friend but the Fox says if you
want to be my friend you need to tame me
you need to tame me and the little
prince doesn't know and ask how do I
tame you and he says you have to come
every day to the same place here at the
same time every day a little bit closer
so I get used to you I become accustomed
to you and then one day when this
happens a lot
learning receiving training studying
practicing
after repetition then we are friends and
the Fox also says one only understands
what one tames and that's also very
eye-opening like if we want to
understand something we need to tame it
and taming meaning coming closer to it
becoming accustomed to it learning about
it let's say becoming intimate close
which is a complete different approach
than breaking or slaughtering it's much
more gentle and I wonder how ty
approaches habit energies what would I
say
when habit energies arise and I found it
this is what I says to his habit
energies we know this is so typical time
dear habit I see you I see you I'm here
with you I'm here for you I'm your
friend we can tame each other I can tame
you you can tame me we become close I
see you there's this energy of
mindfulness in Thai in a magazine they
called him the father of mindfulness
it's like the mother and he's the father
of mindfulness he brings in and shines
the light of mindfulness concentration
and insight on that habit energy
recognizing it and dealing in it with it
very gently and kindly knowing that
these habit energies these strong
emotions or strong energies are nothing
outside of us which we can just kill and
then they are dead or we can cut them
off but no they're inside of us and we
have to attain them we have to transform
them accept them
and be with them in the right here and
right now
dear habit energy I see you so time when
he's speaking about transforming habit
energies changing the chorus or strong
emotions he always uses the image of a
mother taking care of her baby again the
mother comes today and why does he do
that taking the example of the mother
and her baby because that relationship
of the mother and her baby implies so
much implies the unconditional love
from the mother for her baby there is
not much thinking this unconditional
love there is compassion
there is this care of a mother for her
baby which in best case if we want to
cultivate helpful awake mindful habits
how to treat ourselves and how to be
with ourselves is the way to go
to go with compassion towards ourselves
let me erase this quickly and then we
will go through the process of the
mother taking care of her child
continuous drop cleans the Board
continues wipes make it shine you see
how resistant habit energies can be like
like hear these words you really have to
put yeah energy in it it's not like I
just wish them to be away and they are
away no I have to take care of them love
and scrub them here a little bit left
and right it's good enough thank you my
dear
I see you so ty uses the example of a
mother taking care of a baby mother and
let's say the mother is somewhere in the
house and the baby is somewhere else in
the house and it starts crying so the
mother being on another place here's the
baby crying and recognizes the suffering
hearing suffering recognizes the crying
of the baby hearing that it needs
attention so that's always our first
step right recognizing then we have more
space here I need a bit more space
mother
recognizing
recognizing so what the mother does is I
hear you I see you and I will be here
for you the mother will probably put
down whatever she was doing right now
and go to the other room and hold the
baby so the thing is hearing crying baby
recognizing the suffering putting down
what I'm doing going to the suffering
and I come to the room where the baby is
crying and the mother would immediately
take the baby in her arms and take care
of it saying my dear baby but would not
look right away as the first thing why
does the baby cries it like to bride is
it too dark is it took hold is the music
of the neighbors too loud that all has
time the most important thing is now the
suffering of the baby I want to be here
for the baby and she holds it and she
rocks it and maybe she hums a song mmm
it's it's fine it's gonna be fine baby
I'm here I'm here for you I see you so
that's embracing the baby embracing the
pain embracing our strong energy our
habit energy to be there with it may it
be difficult
may it be painful may be loud when a
baby cries and doesn't stop it can be
nerve killing like if it doesn't stop
for half an hour you might be good
rocking it for 5 minutes hoping that it
will fall asleep again but it does not
I'm really embracing it so the mother
would hold the baby
hold the baby and while the mother is
rocking the baby is there and taking
care of it and you see this tender image
of the mother and that's exactly what we
need to do with our habits with our
strong emotions with feelings when they
come up and they are not pleasant they
are painful that's exactly what we can
do being there and it is painful it is
loud but I'm gonna do it and while
mother is doing that she's looking
deeply and she says why is baby crying
and then she starts investigating around
seeing is it too bright here in the room
is it too dark was baby just alone or
maybe it is hungry are the diaper is
full and it's invested it's
investigating so looking deeply looking
deeply this marker is slowly not looking
deeply anymore okay that's better
and she's investigating investigating
baby suffering
babies suffering
and just as I investigated what is the
reason for these words not being so so
bold I got an insight
I got an insight that I'm may change the
marker and it will be better so the
mother gets an insight to investigating
also holding the baby in her arm
rocking it humming to it and then
looking deeply what could it be what
what is it what it is what baby needs
what it is what I am needing right now
you're automatically investigating
things within and without again and
you're checking the forehead as a
temperature giving it a little finger
and see if it sucks if it's hungry
you're tapping the the diapers and sure
enough looking deeply you will get an
insight you will get an insight of what
it is as a fruit of your investigation
there is insight
so the mother checking checking
different possibilities fields oh my god
yes the diapers are loaded right let's
write this down see it brings us joy
diapers loaded and with that insight the
mother sets herself free from the
suffering the mother has a choice you
know from all that stream here we are
looking deeply and now we have a choice
and that choice is our transformation
transformation and it's also liberating
liberating us from being caught in that
current in that stream of that emotion
of that suffering and what we do is in
this case we change the diapers and end
the baby suffering suffering
so from recognizing suffering happening
by hearing something feeling something
seeing something we go and take care of
it that's the first thing and the only
thing we want to do we don't want to
know why the house burned down there's
often we have this example of a burning
house when you come to you back to your
house and you see it in flames the first
thing you want to do is to find water
and and how do you say distinguish the
fire and not the first thing you want to
do is run around saying who put my house
on fire I want to see and talk to that
person what's happened here why is that
fire here you want to take action and
this is what the mother does and this is
what we shall do the first thing when we
experience suffering this being there
for the suffering for ourselves
rocking ourselves comforting us saying
I'm here I'm here for you I see you I
hear you we are here together and shine
as ty the light of mindfulness onto this
emotion Ty's inviting another seed to
that seed of of suffering he's inviting
the seed of mindfulness of compassion of
presence so that seed of sadness is not
alone and they are a Sangha they become
a Sangha and our sadness cannot be that
strong because the mindfulness is there
I am here my awareness is there and by
doing so we're then we then we have time
to let it sink in and see what is
happening here why is that happening and
we look deeply into our actions into our
thinking into the environment and we
become an insight and see yeah sure
because I did that I find myself here
now and then I am free then I'm free to
act and liberate myself from that stream
now how does that look like with habit
energies the topic we are here for how
do we translate it into habit let's take
my example of the food to have a
concrete example so let's say it's my
cooking day and I'm making spaghetti I'm
making great spaghetti and I'm carrying
spaghetti from the cabinet to the
counter and something feels wrong
I have a sense something is wrong like
the mother hearing something but I hear
it internally and then I think there's a
lot of spaghetti here in my hand so I
see I see something I see my suffering I
see let's say a lot of spaghetti a lot
spaghetti
well this markers they are definitely
not my family
is that going to not a nice dream oh
this one is good spaghetti a lot so now
I hear something within I feel a concern
something doesn't feel it's odd so I go
to the counter put them down and I start
I start stopping I start being there for
myself I'm not continuing and opening
all those packages something is odd and
I want to be with it so what I'm doing
is I will stop and start breathing start
breathing and being there for myself and
looking inside of me what is happening
rocking my baby and by rocking my baby I
also have the chance to look more deeply
and see what is it why is it so so much
spaghetti here in front of me
and then I might investigate and see
yesterday the brothers ate really a lot
so maybe this is why I'm intuitively
taking out more or I investigate is
there a lot of leftover from yesterday
or is there no leftover and I think I
have to make more or is it at the end
for coming from inside of me and it is
my my ancestral habit energy to always
cook too much ping and the same as for
the mother at one point it resonates
with you and you know what it is to get
an insight so looking deeply is
investigating - investigating of the
causes and the inside is my ancestral
habits the diapers are loaded I got them
so with this insight this insight is my
choice and now I have the choice to take
two or three packs of spaghetti back to
the cabinet or I can still cook them all
but I have a choice I'm not caught in
that stream in that current that pushes
me and gives me no choice so now I would
just say choice because now it's up to
me I can transform it at least I have
the power to do so and tie using
mindfulness concentration and insight
applied to this uses mindfulness to
recognize and embrace a suffering to be
there to be able to stop and be with it
now we say where there's mindfulness of
something
there's concentration because when I'm
mindful of my baby my mind concentrates
on that baby and not why it
Christ but my mind is concentrated on
the suffering of the baby so it already
starts here and goes into licking
looking deeply here we go
concentration and when you have
mindfulness and concentration you're
mindful of something you generate
presence and awareness your mind is
focus on that one thing you're able to
look deeply and to see the root of your
suffering
so there's inside arising and from that
insight you have the choice to liberate
yourself to be transformed so from
looking deeply we have the inside that
helps us to set us free and that's the
power of mindfulness that we don't have
to wait for anyone to save us from who
we are and by that the walkway and this
moving walkway becomes more a freeway
with this with the help of mindfulness
concentration and insight and a freeway
with many exits right we are on that
stream with other cars and as many exits
so each time an insight occurs an exit
occurs imagine you're on that moving
walkway and you have an insight and
there would a door appear at that move
and you could get out and get your
coffee or your newspapers or go to the
restaurant so each time we have an
insight we have an exit we have the
chance to get out of that cycle of that
stream that is carrying us somewhere
where we don't have a choice where we
maybe don't want to even be so to
conclude I want to summarize what we
have gathered here today so first habit
energies
habit energies can be strong our stream
don't give us choice but are not
necessarily bad secondly there's nothing
to kill or to cut off but rather to
divert or stop or tame transform or
liberate it's much more gentle and much
more resonating and so third we need to
learn how to be gentle and kind to
ourselves in this very moment and
cultivating mindfulness concentration
and insight to create exits to liberate
us and to set us free
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