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Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.21,0:00:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hi.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.93,0:00:14.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, right here,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.86,0:00:18.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are my issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.98,0:00:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right? These are my issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.00,0:00:23.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean, we all have them.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.97,0:00:26.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The people sitting out here,\Nright next to you,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.91,0:00:28.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we all have issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.91,0:00:31.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You guys have issues up there too, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.76,0:00:36.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the problem is they get in the way.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.02,0:00:40.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They get in the way\Nof us relating to one another,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.30,0:00:43.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.18,0:00:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm working too, you know.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.60,0:00:52.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't speak to my mother \Nfor five years.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.45,0:00:54.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not something I'm proud of.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.42,0:00:58.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've lost a lot of time\Nthat I wish I could have now,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.13,0:01:00.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I'll never get back.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.13,0:01:03.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it was because of issues.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.13,0:01:08.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was because I had issues,\Nshe had issues too,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.50,0:01:11.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even some of her issues \Nshe gave to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.100,0:01:15.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we were sharing our issues\Nand they were in the middle.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.89,0:01:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't talk to her,\Nbut she also didn't talk to me.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.74,0:01:21.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fortunately, though,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.75,0:01:28.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fortunately, we were able to reconcile.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.04,0:01:32.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Fortunately, we have a wonderful,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.37,0:01:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,healed and whole relationship today.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.36,0:01:38.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm very, very happy about that,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.22,0:01:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I'm also a mother\Nand a grandmother
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.28,0:01:42.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I couldn't even bear the thought
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.55,0:01:46.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of being separated from my children\Nand my grandchildren
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.13,0:01:48.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for five years.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.31,0:01:52.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, some of these issues are personal
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.86,0:01:55.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and some of them are institutional.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.79,0:01:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of them we can deal with,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.40,0:02:03.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my mother and I dealt with\Nbecause we had a relationship,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.04,0:02:06.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we had an association, we were connected
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.26,0:02:10.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, because of that initial connection,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.18,0:02:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we could reconnect and rehabilitate
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.38,0:02:15.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.18,0:02:18.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had an affiliation.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.77,0:02:20.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem with these issues
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.92,0:02:25.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you look at the institutional brand,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.55,0:02:27.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like racism, like sexism,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.98,0:02:31.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that they're way bigger\Nthan the individual.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.54,0:02:35.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the way we tend\Nto sometimes want to deal with them
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.31,0:02:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is on an individual basis,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.34,0:02:39.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, we get all offended, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.98,0:02:42.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We get all offended,\N"The race card." Right?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.87,0:02:44.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We get all offended \Nand we take it personal
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.93,0:02:47.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the minute something comes up.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.09,0:02:50.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Men and women do it with one another,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.21,0:02:52.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,racist people do it with one another,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.90,0:02:57.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the problem\Nis we don't have a relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.22,0:03:01.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, this idea of reconciling,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.56,0:03:05.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,settling, compromising,\Nhaving a reunion --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.49,0:03:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mother and I have a reunion\Nevery time we get together.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.34,0:03:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's because\Nwe have a relationship, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.16,0:03:14.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even with the issues,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.80,0:03:17.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can step over them
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.34,0:03:20.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and deal with one another,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.00,0:03:21.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we have that relationship.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.82,0:03:25.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our problem \Nwith our institutional issues --
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.50,0:03:27.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this really came to me too:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.21,0:03:30.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's like you cannot redo something
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.50,0:03:33.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until you have first done it.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.26,0:03:38.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can't reconcile\Nif you haven't first "conciled", right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.47,0:03:41.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And conciliation is the process
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.88,0:03:45.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of winning over from a state of hostility.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:45.16,0:03:50.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we have to first have a recognition
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.06,0:03:53.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we've got issues between us,\Nand guess what?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.83,0:03:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you're talking about race,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.88,0:03:57.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and racism and sexism,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.86,0:04:00.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're talking about legacy,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.25,0:04:02.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're talking about historic legacy,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.65,0:04:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're talking about issues\Nyou don't even know you have,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.74,0:04:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're talking about issues\Nthat were passed on to you
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.84,0:04:12.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just because of the ground\Nyou're standing on.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.01,0:04:15.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't even know about them,\Nbut the idea is
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.17,0:04:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that, unless you recognize them,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.91,0:04:22.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,accept them, respect that we have\Nthose issues between us,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.84,0:04:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether they're our fault\Nor not our fault --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.17,0:04:27.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're still between us --
Dialogue: 0,0:04:27.50,0:04:30.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of denying that they exist,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.42,0:04:32.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of not believing my story,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.77,0:04:35.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of when I say,\N"That hurt me and this is why",
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.72,0:04:37.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"No, it didn't."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.81,0:04:39.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, it did.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.26,0:04:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It did because of our historic legacy.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.22,0:04:46.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we have to first get to know\None another,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.70,0:04:48.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to first "concile",
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.47,0:04:52.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bring those desperate pieces\Nback together, you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.95,0:04:55.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to gather for the first time,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.11,0:04:57.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that we can then have a relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:04:57.78,0:05:00.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that then, if issues come up,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:00.24,0:05:03.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we can have a reconciliation.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.77,0:05:08.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But first, we have to have a conciliation.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.31,0:05:11.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to sort of put it into\Na context, using a story.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.79,0:05:15.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a West African fable
Dialogue: 0,0:05:15.09,0:05:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's called\N"The Truth and The Lie." Right?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.82,0:05:21.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, one day,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.62,0:05:25.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Truth went down to the river bank
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.74,0:05:30.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to bathe in the cool,\Nrefreshing river water with The Lie.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.60,0:05:33.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, Truth was always \Na little bit cautious
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.70,0:05:36.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whenever she was \Nin the presence of The Lie,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:36.61,0:05:38.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, on this particular day,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.91,0:05:41.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Sun was out in all its glory.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:41.62,0:05:43.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, she went.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.47,0:05:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, while Truth was down bathing\Nin the cool, refreshing river water,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.08,0:05:51.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she didn't realize that The Lie
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.87,0:05:54.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,had stolen away with all her clothes.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.97,0:05:57.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, while Truth was\Nin the middle of the river
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.17,0:05:59.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,trying to figure out what to do,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.63,0:06:03.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Lie was parading\Naround the marketplace,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.54,0:06:06.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dressed up like The Truth.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.83,0:06:11.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now finally, when Truth\Ngot up enough courage
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.26,0:06:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to run down to the marketplace\Nwearing nothing but the truth...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.54,0:06:18.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.27,0:06:22.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...no matter how hard she tried\Nto tell all the people
Dialogue: 0,0:06:22.00,0:06:26.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that she was The Truth and he was The Lie,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.59,0:06:30.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the people were so embarrassed
Dialogue: 0,0:06:30.07,0:06:34.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to look upon the naked Truth
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.17,0:06:40.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they believed The Lie dressed up\Nin Truth's clothes instead.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.26,0:06:44.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is still the same to this day.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.96,0:06:48.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The truth may be difficult to look upon,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.10,0:06:52.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it remains the truth, nonetheless.\NYeah?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.63,0:06:55.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, if you really care about\Nthis common unity
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.85,0:06:57.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we have going on today,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.100,0:06:59.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've got to do the work
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.85,0:07:03.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and "concile",
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.52,0:07:08.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you can some day\Nreconcile, all right?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.85,0:07:11.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I'm just going to take my issues
Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.22,0:07:13.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and go on, off the stage. (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.67,0:07:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.02,0:07:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)