WEBVTT 00:00:10.597 --> 00:00:16.618 80 million, that's the number of children 00:00:16.618 --> 00:00:20.306 in the United States from ages 0 to 18. 00:00:20.306 --> 00:00:25.467 80 million gems waiting to blossom, to bloom, to be engaged, 00:00:30.237 --> 00:00:34.143 to be seen, to be known, to be put in the play. 00:00:35.903 --> 00:00:41.659 80 million gems. What's our vision for America's kids? 00:00:41.659 --> 00:00:44.654 Well you know what, we hardly ever talk about it. 00:00:44.654 --> 00:00:49.305 Is the vision to keep them safe? To keep them out of trouble? 00:00:50.795 --> 00:00:53.959 Is the vision to keep them in school? 00:00:53.959 --> 00:00:58.353 Those are all management and control ideas. 00:01:00.083 --> 00:01:02.026 Not very compelling. 00:01:02.026 --> 00:01:05.577 What is our vision for America's kids? 00:01:07.162 --> 00:01:11.255 So, because I love to go around and interview people 00:01:12.015 --> 00:01:14.557 is why everywhere I am in the world 00:01:14.557 --> 00:01:17.225 particularly in the United States, 00:01:17.225 --> 00:01:23.071 I do like to ask adults, what is your highest aspiration for our young? 00:01:25.061 --> 00:01:26.980 Some interesting things happen. 00:01:27.860 --> 00:01:30.060 No one has ever said, 00:01:30.070 --> 00:01:33.750 Oh, this child of mine my fondest wish 00:01:34.340 --> 00:01:39.491 is that they will ace statewide benchmark math and science test when they're 16. 00:01:40.837 --> 00:01:42.973 I've never heard anybody say, 00:01:42.993 --> 00:01:46.539 Oh, my fondest wish is that this young person 00:01:46.539 --> 00:01:50.485 will help make America more competitive in the global economy. 00:01:52.515 --> 00:01:56.277 No, when you actually listen, to people's statements 00:01:56.277 --> 00:02:00.736 about their dreams for our kids, you hear a very different language. 00:02:02.966 --> 00:02:05.784 Kids who experience joy, 00:02:05.784 --> 00:02:08.953 kids who are connected and engaged, 00:02:08.953 --> 00:02:14.308 kids who fall in love with their life and all of life, 00:02:14.308 --> 00:02:18.834 kids with kindness, and generosity, kids who are happy, 00:02:18.834 --> 00:02:20.718 kids who contribute. 00:02:21.068 --> 00:02:26.091 That, my friends, is the language of human thriving. 00:02:26.091 --> 00:02:29.058 And it's the language of quality, isn't it ? 00:02:29.058 --> 00:02:34.312 Not the language of quantity. Kids of joy, happiness, 00:02:34.312 --> 00:02:38.168 connection, engagement, fulfillment, kindness, 00:02:38.168 --> 00:02:41.318 compassion, generosity. 00:02:41.902 --> 00:02:44.821 The language of thriving. 00:02:45.436 --> 00:02:50.447 Here's something we know now, based on a series of scientific studies: 00:02:50.447 --> 00:02:54.932 That only one quarter of the 80 million, 00:02:54.932 --> 00:02:59.029 one quarter of kids, when they become high school students 00:02:59.029 --> 00:03:02.005 are on a pathway to human thriving. 00:03:02.005 --> 00:03:06.669 The other three quarters have fallen off that path. 00:03:06.669 --> 00:03:09.852 It's no longer about purpose and hope, 00:03:09.852 --> 00:03:13.035 and connectedness, and engagement, and joy, 00:03:13.985 --> 00:03:16.220 but it's about being alone, 00:03:16.220 --> 00:03:21.375 it's about being empty, it's about being medicated, 00:03:21.375 --> 00:03:26.030 it's about being confused and it's about being lost. 00:03:26.510 --> 00:03:33.477 Only a quarter of America's teenagers stay on a pathway to human thriving. 00:03:33.937 --> 00:03:36.728 And I think I know why this happens. 00:03:36.728 --> 00:03:39.306 There's probably a lot of reasons, of course, 00:03:39.306 --> 00:03:41.364 but here's one key one. 00:03:41.364 --> 00:03:44.322 About two thousand years ago, 00:03:44.322 --> 00:03:49.053 Plutarch, a Greek philosopher, I've forgot what his first name is, 00:03:49.583 --> 00:03:53.587 I think it was Frank Plutarch - (Laughter) 00:03:55.997 --> 00:04:00.974 Plutarch gave us one of the key axioms of human development, 00:04:00.974 --> 00:04:05.971 and that is that youth are not vessels to be filled 00:04:05.971 --> 00:04:09.194 but fires to be lit. 00:04:09.194 --> 00:04:12.417 Fires to be lit. 00:04:12.417 --> 00:04:15.642 What he is talking about, and what we know in human development, 00:04:15.642 --> 00:04:21.976 is that the best of development is from the inside out, not the outside in. 00:04:22.846 --> 00:04:26.492 In this nation, we've forgotten that, by and large, 00:04:26.492 --> 00:04:28.722 and we are do an awful lot of development, don't we, 00:04:28.722 --> 00:04:31.506 from the outside in. 00:04:31.506 --> 00:04:35.362 Fill the empty vessel with information, factoids, 00:04:35.372 --> 00:04:39.276 ideas, ideals, values, expectations and demands. 00:04:41.236 --> 00:04:44.119 Some of that's ok. 00:04:44.119 --> 00:04:49.022 But the real question of human development is letting 'this' emerge. 00:04:51.142 --> 00:04:55.507 in life... and what is 'this'? What is this fire ? 00:04:56.340 --> 00:05:00.940 The core idea in human thriving is the identification of that fire, 00:05:03.170 --> 00:05:07.467 that inner light, that human spark. 00:05:08.236 --> 00:05:12.496 I've been working in this space now, for about ten years. 00:05:12.496 --> 00:05:16.331 My team of scientists and I at Search Institute, 00:05:16.331 --> 00:05:19.226 have been creating a science of human thriving 00:05:19.226 --> 00:05:22.650 with a particular eye to children and teenagers. 00:05:24.280 --> 00:05:29.103 Thriving begins with the idea of the human spark. 00:05:29.103 --> 00:05:34.020 It's the metaphore I use to define that animating engine, 00:05:34.420 --> 00:05:38.370 that thing about a young person that gives them joy and energy, 00:05:38.820 --> 00:05:43.907 the reason why some will seek to actually get up in the morning and get moving, 00:05:44.047 --> 00:05:49.030 something that gives their life hope and direction and purpose. 00:05:49.650 --> 00:05:54.467 Spark by the way is very akin to the idea of spirit. 00:05:54.467 --> 00:06:01.400 Spirit is from the latin spiritus, and you know what that means: my breath. 00:06:01.900 --> 00:06:06.485 My breath, put into the world with vigor and courage. 00:06:07.425 --> 00:06:11.063 My breath, it's the ultimate question to ask each other 00:06:11.063 --> 00:06:14.111 and particularly to ask our young. 00:06:14.731 --> 00:06:19.310 What is your breath? What is your spark? 00:06:20.220 --> 00:06:23.184 You in the audience, mostly adults, 00:06:23.354 --> 00:06:26.758 you know what life is like when spark is alive. 00:06:27.458 --> 00:06:31.553 When you can name and claim some animating energy, 00:06:31.793 --> 00:06:36.523 some capacity that gives your life direction, hope and purpose, 00:06:37.103 --> 00:06:40.601 you know what life is like with spark and we also know 00:06:40.641 --> 00:06:44.139 what it's like when spark dies. 00:06:44.479 --> 00:06:47.979 We know what that emptiness feels like. 00:06:49.669 --> 00:06:53.084 We've conducted a series of national 00:06:53.104 --> 00:06:57.780 representative sample studies in the last few years, 00:06:57.780 --> 00:07:03.419 numbering six or seven thousand middle school and high school kids, 00:07:03.419 --> 00:07:07.799 to inquire about their spark and the biography of their spark 00:07:08.469 --> 00:07:12.179 and does anybody know and care 00:07:12.179 --> 00:07:16.561 and does anybody actually nourish this spark. 00:07:17.431 --> 00:07:21.945 The initial question goes something like, 00:07:21.945 --> 00:07:26.899 Tell me what it is about you, that gives you joy and energy? 00:07:27.329 --> 00:07:31.407 What's going on in those moments when life feels 00:07:31.427 --> 00:07:35.566 the richest and the fullest with purpose and hope? 00:07:36.766 --> 00:07:41.245 What is your spark? I'm dying to know. 00:07:41.995 --> 00:07:45.060 Let me tell you some things that are incredibly fascinating 00:07:45.060 --> 00:07:48.125 about America's young people. 00:07:48.125 --> 00:07:51.191 100% of middle school and high school students 00:07:51.191 --> 00:07:54.099 get the idea of spark in a heart beat. 00:07:54.099 --> 00:07:59.028 They may not have used that word before but once we tear it up they know 00:07:59.048 --> 00:08:01.990 what it is we are talking about. 00:08:02.380 --> 00:08:04.980 And they'll often times interrupt the interviewer, 00:08:04.980 --> 00:08:07.503 and say, I know what it is, I know what that feels like, 00:08:07.513 --> 00:08:09.176 I know what that looks like. 00:08:09.186 --> 00:08:12.079 I can walk you into the cafeteria of my high school 00:08:12.109 --> 00:08:16.818 and I can point out the kids with spark and the kids without. 00:08:16.818 --> 00:08:22.543 You can see it in the face and in the body posture. 00:08:23.393 --> 00:08:25.618 A hundred per cent of kids get it, 00:08:25.618 --> 00:08:30.453 and then they say this, nobody has ever asked me this before. 00:08:30.453 --> 00:08:33.355 You really want to know what my spark is? 00:08:33.355 --> 00:08:37.552 Usually social scientists come in and they want to know about our drug use, 00:08:38.665 --> 00:08:44.857 our sexuality, our predilection to violence, our approach to school. 00:08:44.857 --> 00:08:49.753 Nobody has ever asked me to define my spark. 00:08:50.743 --> 00:08:52.673 A 100% get it. 00:08:52.673 --> 00:08:58.297 Two thirds of America's young people can name at least one spark. 00:08:58.297 --> 00:09:02.414 A few can name two, and a few can name three. 00:09:02.414 --> 00:09:04.962 But two thirds can quickly name one. 00:09:06.678 --> 00:09:09.690 Interesting that another 20% or so, 00:09:09.690 --> 00:09:14.389 can name their spark with a little nudge from a caring adult, 00:09:14.389 --> 00:09:18.985 a counselor, a teacher, a parent, a grandparent, a neighbour, 00:09:18.985 --> 00:09:21.011 a youth program worker, 00:09:21.011 --> 00:09:23.903 can pull it out of you, what is it about you 00:09:23.903 --> 00:09:28.065 that gives you joy and energy and animates your life. 00:09:28.085 --> 00:09:32.478 There is three kinds of sparks as young people define them. 00:09:32.478 --> 00:09:37.902 For some kids it's a skill or a talent: I love to make music. 00:09:39.802 --> 00:09:42.236 It's when life is the best. 00:09:42.246 --> 00:09:48.252 I love to draw, I love to write, I love to lead, to study archeology. 00:09:49.472 --> 00:09:53.343 For some kids, it's a commitment: my spark, it's surprising 00:09:53.343 --> 00:09:57.934 how many kids say, my spark is social justice, 00:09:57.934 --> 00:10:02.526 my spark is a commitment to the stewardship of the Earth. 00:10:03.096 --> 00:10:06.040 Some kids, the third category, it's a quality: 00:10:06.040 --> 00:10:09.554 my spark, I'm a person of empathy. 00:10:09.554 --> 00:10:13.068 That's what I do, that's when life is the best. 00:10:13.068 --> 00:10:18.274 I'm the one other people go to, to listen to them, awesome! 00:10:18.274 --> 00:10:20.703 First of all, right here. 00:10:20.733 --> 00:10:25.972 If you ever discover and name a kid's spark, say it back to them. 00:10:26.882 --> 00:10:32.013 Tell them you see it and hear it. Thank them for possessing it. 00:10:32.013 --> 00:10:37.112 Because the spark in almost all cases is good and beautiful 00:10:38.222 --> 00:10:41.261 and useful to the world. 00:10:41.291 --> 00:10:47.311 But we never talk to our kids about seeing the human spark. 00:10:47.311 --> 00:10:53.857 There are at least 220 kinds of sparks that we have now categorized in America. 00:10:54.807 --> 00:11:00.544 Here's something I wish for every city we come from: that at some point 00:11:00.544 --> 00:11:05.893 there would be a census of the sparks of our kids, 00:11:05.893 --> 00:11:11.735 and that census would flood the media, to put the story out 00:11:11.735 --> 00:11:17.687 into our cities about the rich ways that kids define their human spark. 00:11:18.007 --> 00:11:22.944 It gives us a whole another lens. It draws us toward them, 00:11:22.944 --> 00:11:26.865 rather than the images we have now of our kids, 00:11:26.865 --> 00:11:32.820 which are so often things that frighten us and push us away. 00:11:32.820 --> 00:11:35.667 Here are some of the leading categories of sparks: 00:11:37.435 --> 00:11:39.904 helping, serving and volunteering. 00:11:40.507 --> 00:11:42.292 Leading. 00:11:42.808 --> 00:11:47.862 Learning a particular subject matter, like archeology, physics, French. 00:11:51.369 --> 00:11:54.543 Service to the globe, 00:11:54.543 --> 00:11:59.868 that is stewardship of the Earth, the preservation of the natural world. 00:12:00.288 --> 00:12:04.800 Athletics. And the creative life. 00:12:05.350 --> 00:12:08.262 And the winner in all these categories 00:12:08.272 --> 00:12:15.474 is the creative life: art, music, drama, dance, movement 00:12:15.643 --> 00:12:21.856 is the largest category in which sparks fall for America's kids. 00:12:21.856 --> 00:12:27.248 Interesting. That's the arena in which most kids say, I'm my best self. 00:12:27.948 --> 00:12:31.378 That's the arena in which most kids will say, 00:12:31.378 --> 00:12:35.292 this is where life is the fullest and the most hopeful. 00:12:35.752 --> 00:12:38.076 How are we doing in America? 00:12:38.076 --> 00:12:41.500 In supporting art, music, drama, dance, movement. 00:12:41.550 --> 00:12:43.613 It's not that we want all those kids 00:12:43.633 --> 00:12:46.546 to necessarily become professionals in that field. 00:12:46.546 --> 00:12:50.421 It's about right now. Human development is about today, 00:12:50.421 --> 00:12:56.472 it's about how I awaken, how I am seen, how I am known and how I am embraced. 00:12:59.695 --> 00:13:03.259 Have I mentioned my grandson Ryder yet? 00:13:03.259 --> 00:13:06.505 Ryder is seven now, but when he was four, 00:13:07.115 --> 00:13:10.143 he taught us a very important thing about the human spark. 00:13:10.403 --> 00:13:13.208 He reminded us that the spark 00:13:13.208 --> 00:13:17.059 is not necessarily the same thing as the work you do. 00:13:17.059 --> 00:13:19.500 So Ryder was on our deck, and he says, 00:13:19.520 --> 00:13:23.827 you know what? - as he is holding up his hand. 00:13:23.857 --> 00:13:26.528 I am an artist, 00:13:26.548 --> 00:13:31.729 I don't know if it's the work I will do some day, but I am an artist. 00:13:33.449 --> 00:13:35.402 I am. 00:13:35.402 --> 00:13:41.608 Spark is a life orientation, it's an approach, it's a way of being present 00:13:41.608 --> 00:13:45.856 in the world, it may touch work, it may be work, it may be outside of work. 00:13:45.856 --> 00:13:48.654 It's not the same thing as vocational planning. 00:13:49.214 --> 00:13:53.614 It's about nurturing and naming what is in here. 00:13:54.324 --> 00:14:00.227 This mum is Lea Adler, when her son was eight - 00:14:00.227 --> 00:14:03.964 This is a story, by the way, that spark is not always pretty. 00:14:03.964 --> 00:14:07.229 When her son was eight, he cut off the head of a doll, 00:14:07.679 --> 00:14:10.494 put it on a plate of lettuce, 00:14:11.074 --> 00:14:13.761 brought it into his mother in the family room and said, 00:14:13.761 --> 00:14:16.840 Isn't this cool? Doesn't this look great? 00:14:17.460 --> 00:14:20.381 When he was twelve he boiled a pot of water, 00:14:20.381 --> 00:14:24.889 put six cans of unopened cherries and then waited for them to explode 00:14:25.427 --> 00:14:29.126 and then filmed the cherries and the juice 00:14:29.156 --> 00:14:32.527 rolling down the walls of that kitchen. 00:14:32.527 --> 00:14:35.220 Now, most parents what would we be doing? 00:14:35.220 --> 00:14:39.159 Seeking professional help, thinking of a reform school. 00:14:39.159 --> 00:14:42.961 Not Lea Adler, she is the mother of Steven Spielberg. 00:14:43.007 --> 00:14:48.162 And she cut him some slack, didn't she? She went with it. 00:14:48.482 --> 00:14:51.031 She went with the flow. 00:14:52.577 --> 00:14:57.923 Well the real problem in America, the real challenge is this issue of spark. 00:14:58.443 --> 00:15:00.942 "No one has asked me." 00:15:00.942 --> 00:15:03.247 Nobody knows what my spark is. 00:15:03.247 --> 00:15:05.208 That happens over and over again. 00:15:05.208 --> 00:15:11.490 You ever heard a kid say, See me, you never see me? 00:15:13.040 --> 00:15:16.571 What are they saying? It isn't about the external, is it? 00:15:16.571 --> 00:15:21.536 It is about, see what I am bringing to the human party. 00:15:23.152 --> 00:15:27.629 Thriving requires more than spark, we've worked to develop 00:15:27.629 --> 00:15:31.580 a scientifically grounded model of human thriving. 00:15:31.964 --> 00:15:38.534 That is spark plus three spark champions, preferably somebody in family, and school 00:15:39.684 --> 00:15:45.028 and in community, who is a spark champion. They see it in you. 00:15:45.028 --> 00:15:48.111 They name it, they affirm it, they run interference, 00:15:48.111 --> 00:15:50.254 they find you opportunities. 00:15:50.274 --> 00:15:54.279 They talk about you and your human spark. 00:15:54.279 --> 00:15:59.134 And then the critical nature of opportunity to express the spark. 00:15:59.514 --> 00:16:03.029 Great things happen my friends, when kids experience 00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:06.524 these three ingredients. 00:16:06.544 --> 00:16:10.821 And the science is really profound: spark + champions + opportunity, 00:16:10.821 --> 00:16:13.596 school success skyrockets, 00:16:13.596 --> 00:16:19.374 engagement in school skyrockets, compassion for others rises, 00:16:19.727 --> 00:16:23.151 a sense of purpose rises, violence decreases. 00:16:23.151 --> 00:16:25.689 How could it be otherwise? 00:16:25.689 --> 00:16:31.198 We are talking about the process of human thriving in the world. 00:16:31.198 --> 00:16:33.785 Now here is where it falls apart. 00:16:34.748 --> 00:16:39.143 Do kids have three champions? Not very often. 00:16:39.945 --> 00:16:44.068 Barely one half of our kids in America say 00:16:44.068 --> 00:16:48.395 their family knows and nourishes the spark. 00:16:48.395 --> 00:16:56.476 Only a third say anybody in their school names, knows and nourishes the spark. 00:16:56.476 --> 00:16:59.878 And in the broader community of congregations, synagogues, 00:16:59.878 --> 00:17:03.280 youth programs, playgrounds and neighborhood, 00:17:03.280 --> 00:17:06.682 only a quarter of kids say anybody knows my spark. 00:17:06.682 --> 00:17:10.220 And then there's the opportunity gap, that's huge. 00:17:10.220 --> 00:17:16.537 The mismatch between how kids name spark, particularly in the creative life 00:17:16.546 --> 00:17:20.404 and the opportunities for that to be nourished in community. 00:17:20.984 --> 00:17:25.527 There's an anthem for this idea of human thriving. 00:17:27.987 --> 00:17:32.263 This is cyclon fence looking out on a baseball diamond. 00:17:32.263 --> 00:17:36.923 The anthem is by John Fogerty of Creedence Clearwater Revival. 00:17:36.923 --> 00:17:38.663 It goes something like, 00:17:38.683 --> 00:17:43.143 "Put me in coach, I am ready to play, today!" 00:17:44.463 --> 00:17:48.235 And the word today is critical, not tomorrow, but today. 00:17:48.235 --> 00:17:52.118 I want to be in there today, I am a leader, put me in. 00:17:52.118 --> 00:17:55.674 I am a helper, put me in, know me. 00:17:55.874 --> 00:18:01.562 I am a giver, I am a protector of the world, know me and put me in. 00:18:03.262 --> 00:18:06.241 You shall know them by their sparks, probably, 00:18:06.291 --> 00:18:09.180 ought to be the most significant mantra 00:18:09.850 --> 00:18:12.631 and mandate for all of us in the world. 00:18:13.491 --> 00:18:16.509 And you shall know them by their sparks. 00:18:16.509 --> 00:18:21.932 I as a developmental scientist am amazed at how easily we forget 00:18:21.932 --> 00:18:25.601 about how young people bring to our world 00:18:25.601 --> 00:18:28.171 a special capacity or gift, 00:18:28.211 --> 00:18:33.240 that our world desperately needs and we so easily snuff it out. 00:18:33.780 --> 00:18:37.143 And as a citizen I am amazed how rarely 00:18:37.143 --> 00:18:40.599 we remember that innovation largely comes 00:18:40.599 --> 00:18:44.950 from the inside out, not the outside in. 00:18:46.103 --> 00:18:50.222 There's a bunch of things I'd do now to change 00:18:50.222 --> 00:18:52.310 and transform how we do business in America. 00:18:52.310 --> 00:18:57.931 I would make knowing kid's sparks, at the very center of school life. 00:18:58.461 --> 00:19:01.503 In fact, I'd put it right at the front. 00:19:01.503 --> 00:19:04.897 I don't know how you can engage and connect 00:19:05.447 --> 00:19:08.291 and bond kids to the institution called school 00:19:08.752 --> 00:19:11.376 without knowing their spark. 00:19:11.376 --> 00:19:16.378 I would teach families the process of the spark dialogue 00:19:16.378 --> 00:19:19.628 and how to name, affirm and be a champion. 00:19:20.208 --> 00:19:24.105 I'd make the first parent-teacher conference of the year 00:19:24.105 --> 00:19:27.282 to be about the spark of a kid. 00:19:28.002 --> 00:19:31.900 Let's talk that through and we'll get to the rest of the stuff. 00:19:32.200 --> 00:19:35.560 I would do a census in cities about sparks 00:19:35.590 --> 00:19:38.890 and put it out into the ether of community. 00:19:38.920 --> 00:19:43.040 And then I would map our after school programs against sparks 00:19:43.440 --> 00:19:48.586 and begin to realign opportunity with the expression of spark. 00:19:49.466 --> 00:19:53.862 My friends, this is really important stuff in the annals of development. 00:19:55.152 --> 00:20:01.373 As you drive home tonight I wish you would reflect some of your own spark biography, 00:20:01.373 --> 00:20:07.165 get used to that vocabulary and discourse: What is your spark? 00:20:07.165 --> 00:20:09.575 What was it ? What was it when you were sixteen? 00:20:09.605 --> 00:20:11.685 What was it when you were 26 and 36? 00:20:11.715 --> 00:20:15.176 Did it change, did it mutate, is it the same? 00:20:15.696 --> 00:20:18.581 Because in dialogue with kids they're going to want to know... 00:20:19.611 --> 00:20:21.956 Tell me your spark. 00:20:21.986 --> 00:20:24.792 They're going to turn the tables back on you. 00:20:25.592 --> 00:20:29.958 When you get home tonight if you have a partner, a spouse, 00:20:29.958 --> 00:20:32.620 practice the spark dialogue. 00:20:32.620 --> 00:20:36.564 What is your spark? Who knows it? How can I help? 00:20:37.424 --> 00:20:41.998 Where do you express it? What gets in your way? What is your spark? 00:20:41.998 --> 00:20:46.689 And then tomorrow, find a young person, in your family 00:20:46.739 --> 00:20:51.426 or somebody else's family and start the process. 00:20:52.126 --> 00:20:55.099 What is your spark? I am dying to know. 00:20:56.639 --> 00:21:01.694 We've got this power, my friends, in America if we could mobilize our people, 00:21:02.144 --> 00:21:05.709 to see differently, to know differently, 00:21:05.709 --> 00:21:11.933 and as we do that we move toward our youngs rather than away from them. 00:21:12.210 --> 00:21:15.226 Thank you very much. (Applause)