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I am very protecttive of the people 
I am close to, like family and friends.

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And I know that I must be compassionate
to all people,

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but I have a harder time forgiving 
somebody that is harmful to one of them,

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instead of to me or to myself.

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I am not sure whether you have any
recommendations on how to deal with that.

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Dear Thay, dear Sangha,

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our friend, Chad, he feels very protective
towards those he loves,

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his family and his friends.

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And when someone else done something 
that harms his family or his friends,

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he has a hard time practicing compassion, 
feeling compassionate towards that person.

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He would like some guidance

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on how he could be more compassionate
in those situations.

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In fact, compassion is a kind 
of protection

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and the most effective protection
that you have.

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If you don't have compassion, 
you allow fear, anger to express,

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and that will draw attention to you and
makes them afraid of you

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and they will attack you 
because they are also afraid.

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That is why, with compassion,
with understanding,

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because understanding is possible.

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But when you look at the aggressive 
people, you see that they suffer.

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They have violence in them, 
they have anger in them.

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They don't have much joy and compassion,

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that is why, they suffer.

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And when they suffer, they make 
other people around them suffer too.

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And when we have time to look at them,
we will understand

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and naturally, compassion 
will arise in us.

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We are not afraid of them anymore, 
we do not hate them anymore.

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In fact, we want to do something or to say
something, to help them suffer less.

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And if you know how to generate 
compassion and joy,

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we can find skillful means 
in order to help them to do the same.

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And if they are joyful and compassionate,
they will become harmless.

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And that is the best way 
to protect ourselves.

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So, generate compassion in our own self,

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and help to generate compassion
in another person,

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is the best way to protect ourselves,
to be in true security.

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