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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.61,0:00:01.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hello, I'm Doctor Alan Wolfelt,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:02.44,0:00:06.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I serve as the Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition
Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.36,0:00:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Colorado.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.19,0:00:12.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've had the privilege of walking with and learning from thousands of
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.34,0:00:15.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people like yourself who've had the death of someone in their life.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.11,0:00:19.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I, too, have had many people in my own life that have died.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.00,0:00:22.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one central truth that I've come to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.24,0:00:24.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that when words are inadequate,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.12,0:00:26.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need ceremony.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.11,0:00:30.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ceremony is not about closure. It's really about a good beginning.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.99,0:00:38.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I often say that funerals or gatherings help us know
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.83,0:00:41.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what to do when we do not know what to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.54,0:00:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Since the beginning of time and across cultures, when somebody in our life dies,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.25,0:00:52.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we as human beings come together to acknowledge a new reality that someone, in fact,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.41,0:00:54.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who we have given love to and
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.26,0:00:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,receive love from has died,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.16,0:01:01.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to recall their life, to begin to shift from presence to memory.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.84,0:01:04.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As someone, in fact, beautifully said, "death ends a life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.88,0:01:07.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It does not end a relationship."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.22,0:01:12.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We come together to activate support of our extended family, our friends, 
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.97,0:01:15.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our body of community to let them know that,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.96,0:01:19.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in fact, we do have special needs. And one of those is to invite you into our world
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.00,0:01:23.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to provide support at a time when words are inadequate.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.03,0:01:26.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And certainly, expression is a part of why we have
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.40,0:01:29.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,funerals and have since the beginning of time because we take,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.64,0:01:31.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how that loss impacts our heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.44,0:01:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,impacts our head.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.24,0:01:37.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We take that grief that's within us and we find ways to take it outward.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.17,0:01:42.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, mourning means the shared social response to loss
Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.51,0:01:44.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or grief gone public.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.49,0:01:46.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By having a funeral in a public forum and
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.82,0:01:49.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,inviting people to come in to gather with you,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.56,0:01:53.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you allow people to give you love at a time when you certainly deserve it.