1 00:00:16,974 --> 00:00:20,924 Sangat ji, when I think about a woman who has become a change, 2 00:00:20,924 --> 00:00:24,192 or has brought change to womanhood in the Sikh Panth 3 00:00:24,192 --> 00:00:27,010 I think about Mata Khivi Ji. 4 00:00:27,010 --> 00:00:31,636 Mata Khivi Ji is the Mehl of Guru Angad Dev Ji Maharaj 5 00:00:31,636 --> 00:00:33,327 Mehl here means wife. 6 00:00:33,327 --> 00:00:38,827 In her life Sangat ji Mata Khivi Ji has shown so much of strength. 7 00:00:38,827 --> 00:00:44,079 When I say strength I don't just mean physical strength, but mental strength. 8 00:00:44,079 --> 00:00:49,129 Her ability to go against the stigma set by society. 9 00:00:49,129 --> 00:00:52,980 And what was that which we face even now? 10 00:00:52,980 --> 00:00:55,681 That is 'what will people say?' 11 00:00:55,681 --> 00:01:03,815 It's true Sangat ji, it was then back in her time and it is also happening now in our time as well. 12 00:01:03,815 --> 00:01:07,378 We are so concerned about what people would say. 13 00:01:07,378 --> 00:01:10,862 We are so concerned about making people happy, 14 00:01:10,862 --> 00:01:17,338 about doing what people, all society, thinks is acceptable. 15 00:01:17,338 --> 00:01:20,364 But Mata Khivi Ji was not like that. 16 00:01:20,364 --> 00:01:23,866 For her, it was not important to make people happy. 17 00:01:23,866 --> 00:01:30,249 It was not important to make or do what people want her to do - or what was accepted 18 00:01:30,249 --> 00:01:31,517 in the eyes of society. 19 00:01:31,707 --> 00:01:39,077 But it was important for her to do what was good, what made Guru Sahib happy. 20 00:01:39,077 --> 00:01:42,277 What was accepted in the eyes of the Guru. 21 00:01:42,277 --> 00:01:47,675 When Guru Angad Ji Maharaj, then their name was Bhai Lehna Ji 22 00:01:47,803 --> 00:01:53,492 told their wife that they wanted to go to Kartarpur Sahib to stay with Guru Nanak Dev Ji, 23 00:01:53,492 --> 00:01:58,677 to serve them, to learn from them on how one can do Bhagti while being a Grihst, 24 00:01:58,677 --> 00:02:01,111 A Grihst means a householder. 25 00:02:01,111 --> 00:02:03,544 Mata Khivi Ji never said no. 26 00:02:03,659 --> 00:02:11,361 Normally, now at this point of time if a husband or a wife, or any family member decides to 27 00:02:11,361 --> 00:02:16,945 perhaps leave the household and go to search for his life purpose, 28 00:02:16,945 --> 00:02:23,647 many parents or many family members would say no, why are you leaving? Who is going to earn money? 29 00:02:23,647 --> 00:02:25,296 How are you going to survive? 30 00:02:25,296 --> 00:02:34,633 But, at that time Sangat ji, Mata Khivi Ji said do as you wish, do what makes you happy. 31 00:02:34,633 --> 00:02:40,798 If this makes you happy to go and serve the Guru and to learn the ways of doing Bhagti 32 00:02:40,798 --> 00:02:43,016 whilst being a Grihst, do so. 33 00:02:43,016 --> 00:02:47,783 But, oh dear husband, this is my Benti that when you come back 34 00:02:47,783 --> 00:02:50,850 I would like you to teach me the ways as well. 35 00:02:50,850 --> 00:02:55,218 Teach me on how I too can do Bhagti as a wife 36 00:02:55,218 --> 00:03:01,254 and how both of us, as husband and wife could do Bhagti together in this house. 37 00:03:01,254 --> 00:03:05,187 See how positive the reponse of Mata Khivi Ji was. 38 00:03:05,187 --> 00:03:08,055 Another quality of hers was acceptance. 39 00:03:08,055 --> 00:03:12,370 She accepted Hukam, which we call Bhana Manna/Hukam Manna 40 00:03:12,370 --> 00:03:14,088 Gurbani Says, 41 00:03:18,738 --> 00:03:24,690 To be able to obtain or get - Khasam here means Maharaj, Guru Sahib, Parmatma - 42 00:03:26,357 --> 00:03:31,575 When you Mann, when you accept the Hukam, then you are accepted as well. 43 00:03:31,575 --> 00:03:36,007 You are accepted in the palace of Parmatma, you are accepted in the house of the Guru. 44 00:03:45,506 --> 00:03:52,127 Just like I mentioned earlier, Khasmai Bhaavai - what is accepted in the eyes of Parmatma, 45 00:03:53,596 --> 00:03:58,473 So Kare - do so. Do that which is accepted in the house of the Guru. 46 00:04:01,495 --> 00:04:06,735 Then one, a soul bride, who does that, then all her wishes are fulfilled. 47 00:04:06,735 --> 00:04:10,220 And that is what Mata Khivi Ji practised in her life. 48 00:04:10,220 --> 00:04:15,460 Now Sangat Ji, Guru Angad Dev Ji, Bha Lehna Ji has left to Kartarpur, 49 00:04:15,460 --> 00:04:17,372 who is going to take care of the house? 50 00:04:17,464 --> 00:04:19,573 Who is going to feed the 4 children? 51 00:04:19,573 --> 00:04:21,989 Who is going to make sure that there is food on the table? 52 00:04:21,989 --> 00:04:25,672 All that responsibility went on the shoulders of Mata Khivi Ji. 53 00:04:25,672 --> 00:04:35,484 Not even once Mata Khivi Ji said oh no or what has happened? Why has this happened? 54 00:04:35,484 --> 00:04:36,725 Not even once. 55 00:04:36,725 --> 00:04:42,419 Her whole life she learned to accept the Bhana, that whatever is happening is 56 00:04:42,419 --> 00:04:43,976 happening in the Hukam of Parmatma. 57 00:04:43,976 --> 00:04:48,260 But Sangat Ji, remember I mentioned about society? 58 00:04:48,260 --> 00:04:51,694 The place that she was staying in and the village, 59 00:04:51,694 --> 00:04:56,521 there was some woman who, I would say, tried to give fake sympathy, 60 00:04:56,521 --> 00:04:59,461 who would come and say 'what's happened here?', 61 00:04:59,461 --> 00:05:03,829 your husband has left you, all the responsibilities are on your shoulders. 62 00:05:03,829 --> 00:05:07,296 Even now people do so as well - fake sympathy. 63 00:05:07,296 --> 00:05:13,259 And Mata Khivi Ji would not pay any heed to what this woman would say, 64 00:05:13,259 --> 00:05:16,897 because she knows that they are trying to break her spirit. 65 00:05:16,897 --> 00:05:19,898 She would just smile and 66 00:05:24,988 --> 00:05:26,930 She would do that. 67 00:05:27,014 --> 00:05:30,367 Which Sangat Ji, is something that we should practise as well. 68 00:05:30,367 --> 00:05:39,252 We can't stop people from talking, but one thing we can do is whatever is being put in one ear 69 00:05:39,252 --> 00:05:41,085 just take it out from the other. 70 00:05:41,085 --> 00:05:43,517 So that we do not dwell upon it, 71 00:05:43,517 --> 00:05:48,017 because then we start thinking about it, we start stressing about it. 72 00:05:48,017 --> 00:05:51,054 Mata Khivi Ji's condition was 73 00:05:54,933 --> 00:06:00,453 That even if Parmatma gives me Sukh, I will still remember Parmatma. 74 00:06:00,610 --> 00:06:08,378 Even in Dukh and times like this where I have to take care of my whole family, 75 00:06:08,378 --> 00:06:12,120 I am alone with my children and all this society, 76 00:06:12,120 --> 00:06:15,848 these people are tying to provoke me, 77 00:06:15,848 --> 00:06:22,032 but even in Dukh I will still do Your Simran, I will still remember You. 78 00:06:22,032 --> 00:06:27,750 Guru Angad Dev Ji Maharaj, they say about woman in their Bani, they say 79 00:06:36,686 --> 00:06:45,628 Whenever there is Sukh there is happiness, joy, there is peace, enjoy your husband, 80 00:06:48,488 --> 00:06:54,117 but even in Dukh always remember your husband Lord, always remember Parmatma. 81 00:07:03,577 --> 00:07:10,613 O' wise woman, this is the way you can be one with Vaheguru, 82 00:07:10,613 --> 00:07:13,793 The way you can unite with Parmatma. 83 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:17,683 So Mata Khivi Ji kept on taking care of the family 84 00:07:17,683 --> 00:07:20,799 and time to time Bhai Lehna Ji would come back 85 00:07:20,799 --> 00:07:23,967 and they would share what Guru Nanak Dev Ji had taught them 86 00:07:23,967 --> 00:07:27,451 and they would share those teachings with Mata Khivi Ji 87 00:07:27,451 --> 00:07:34,751 and Mata Khivi Ji would practise Simran, Seva, Hukam Mann'na and all of the things 88 00:07:34,751 --> 00:07:37,486 Bhai Lehna Ji would come and tell her about Guru Nanak Dev Ji. 89 00:07:37,486 --> 00:07:41,853 Both of them had so much love for Guru Nanak Dev Ji. 90 00:07:41,853 --> 00:07:46,470 The time came Sangat Ji when Bhai Lehna Ji has been give the Guru Gaddi. 91 00:07:46,470 --> 00:07:48,513 They have become Guru Angad Dev Ji 92 00:07:48,513 --> 00:07:52,271 and Guru Nanak Dev Ji tells them to move to Khadoor Sahib 93 00:07:52,271 --> 00:07:55,939 to shift there and to start a Dharamsala there. 94 00:07:55,939 --> 00:07:59,322 And now Guru Angad Dev Ji comes to Khadoor Sahib 95 00:07:59,322 --> 00:08:07,008 Now imagine Sangat Ji, where it used to only be you, your husband and your 4 children, 96 00:08:07,008 --> 00:08:13,809 now your house has been transformed into a Dharamsala where Sangat come daily 97 00:08:13,809 --> 00:08:16,492 to have Darshan of Guru Angad Dev Ji 98 00:08:16,492 --> 00:08:21,226 and you can't leave this Sangat on their own. 99 00:08:21,226 --> 00:08:28,128 You can't make this Sangat go back empty-handed, empty stomach. You have to feed them. 100 00:08:28,128 --> 00:08:34,178 Mata Khivi Ji took the responsibility of cooking Langar for these Sangat. 101 00:08:34,178 --> 00:08:38,687 And Sangat Ji, what was the quantity at that time? 102 00:08:38,687 --> 00:08:42,880 10, 20, 30 and on some days even up to 100s. 103 00:08:42,880 --> 00:08:45,579 Maybe a group of Sadhus would come. 104 00:08:45,579 --> 00:08:53,440 And she was always on her toes. She accepted the Hukam that now my husband has become the Guru, 105 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:55,698 the second Guru of the Sikhs. 106 00:08:55,698 --> 00:09:02,809 Her daily routine changed. Now she serves her husband, she takes care of the children, 107 00:09:02,809 --> 00:09:06,017 but she also takes care of the Sangat. 108 00:09:06,017 --> 00:09:11,007 She feeds the Sangat, she starts cooking langar for the Sangat. 109 00:09:11,007 --> 00:09:19,157 At that time Sangat Ji again the society, at that point the time of Guru Angad Dev Ji 110 00:09:19,157 --> 00:09:22,166 the time of Guru Nanak Dev Ji, the woman they used to cover their faces. 111 00:09:24,013 --> 00:09:28,433 They used to cover their faces with their Dupatta, whenever they go out, 112 00:09:28,433 --> 00:09:31,069 or even in their house. 113 00:09:31,069 --> 00:09:40,291 But Mata Khivi Ji, now that her house has become a Dharamsala, she has to use both her hands to work 114 00:09:40,567 --> 00:09:46,017 and she has to be on her toes at all times, whenever Sangat comes, she has to serve them. 115 00:09:46,017 --> 00:09:48,784 So there is no time to cover her face. 116 00:09:48,784 --> 00:09:58,169 It was all about practicality. She took off the scarf and now she is doing seva alongside men. 117 00:09:58,169 --> 00:09:59,470 And cooking Langar. 118 00:09:59,470 --> 00:10:07,437 She takes these men as her brothers, as her sons and she's working together hand in hand to cook Langar 119 00:10:07,437 --> 00:10:09,454 in bulk amount for Sangat. 120 00:10:09,454 --> 00:10:16,230 The women in the village, at first they started talking about it, 'What has Khivi Ji done here?' 121 00:10:16,230 --> 00:10:20,247 Now she's removed her veil as well, now she's working with men, 122 00:10:20,247 --> 00:10:24,589 but Mata Khivi Ji again she did not pay any heed to what these people were saying, 123 00:10:24,589 --> 00:10:29,073 because for her what was more important was doing Seva of the Sangat, 124 00:10:29,073 --> 00:10:31,041 just as Guru Nanak Dev Ji has told. 125 00:10:31,041 --> 00:10:37,808 And making sure that these Sangat were comfortable and that Guru Angad Dev Ji could focus on the Sangat, 126 00:10:37,808 --> 00:10:41,401 whilst she could focus on the food, on the Langar part. 127 00:10:41,401 --> 00:10:46,161 She served her husband in the morning, because Guru Angad Dev Ji would not eat 128 00:10:46,161 --> 00:10:49,003 form the Langar served for the Sangat. 129 00:10:49,003 --> 00:10:54,695 Their food was very simple and Mata Khivi Ji would serve her husband in the morning 130 00:10:54,695 --> 00:10:57,912 and then go to to cook Langar for the whole day. 131 00:10:57,912 --> 00:11:02,587 And in the afternoon when Guru Angad Dev Ji would be teaching Gurmukhi to the children 132 00:11:02,587 --> 00:11:06,429 Mata Khivi Ji would also do the same with Baba Buddha Ji, 133 00:11:06,429 --> 00:11:09,331 they would also teach Gurmukhi to the children. 134 00:11:09,331 --> 00:11:11,648 This was the life of Mata Khivi Ji. 135 00:11:11,648 --> 00:11:19,914 Slowly, slowly, because she kept on doing - this is where Sangat Ji actions speak louder than words 136 00:11:19,914 --> 00:11:26,543 these women, these other people, the other ladies in the Village they started seeing that there is so much 137 00:11:26,615 --> 00:11:30,815 Seva going on, there's so many Sangat coming to have Darshan of Guru Angad Dev Ji. 138 00:11:30,815 --> 00:11:34,799 Mata Khivi Ji, with so much dedication, is doing Seva for the Sangat. 139 00:11:34,799 --> 00:11:36,960 Why don't we too join her? 140 00:11:36,960 --> 00:11:41,500 This was the first legacy of Mata Khivi Ji. 141 00:11:41,500 --> 00:11:46,201 The preacher of woman liberation. 142 00:11:46,201 --> 00:11:52,861 To remove the khund. Where other women started coming, being inspired by Mata Khivi Ji, 143 00:11:52,861 --> 00:11:55,436 also started doing Seva in the Langar. 144 00:11:55,436 --> 00:11:58,121 Now they could serve more people. 145 00:11:58,121 --> 00:12:03,613 The second legacy of Mata Khivi Ji, which is now in Guru Granth Sahib Ji, 146 00:12:03,613 --> 00:12:08,984 her mention in Guru Granth Sahib Ji, by Sataa and Bhai Balwand. 147 00:12:08,984 --> 00:12:10,926 What did they say? 148 00:12:20,928 --> 00:12:29,427 Bhai Balwand Ji says, that Mata Khivi Ji is a pious woman, she is a wise woman, she is a good lady. 149 00:12:32,812 --> 00:12:41,446 And her nature, she is so cool she is so calm. Just like a tree that gives shade to people. 150 00:12:41,446 --> 00:12:46,005 Mata Khivi Ji is like that, her nature is cool and so calm. 151 00:12:46,005 --> 00:12:49,247 She has no anger, she is no ego towards anybody. 152 00:12:52,797 --> 00:12:58,130 Her nature, what she would do daily, is to serve Langar, to help people in need. 153 00:13:00,504 --> 00:13:06,887 And her legacy was the Kheer - the rice pudding - that Mata Khivi Ji would make daily 154 00:13:07,264 --> 00:13:09,039 and it tasted like Amrit. 155 00:13:09,039 --> 00:13:14,614 So Guru Angad Dev Ji, would be giving the Bhojan of Naam to the Sangat 156 00:13:14,614 --> 00:13:22,793 and on the other hand Mata Khivi Ji would be giving the Bhojan of Kheer, of Amrit, to the Sangat. 157 00:13:22,793 --> 00:13:30,814 And Sangat would come from far to meet Guru Angad Dev Ji, but also to eat in the langar by Mata Khivi Ji. 158 00:13:31,593 --> 00:13:38,742 Even after 30 years of the passing of Guru Angad Dev Ji, Mata Khivi Ji still continued to serve Langar. 159 00:13:38,742 --> 00:13:48,026 She still continued to do Seva and acceptance in Hukam was shown when Guru Amar Das Ji was 160 00:13:48,026 --> 00:13:49,025 given the Guru Gaddi. 161 00:13:49,025 --> 00:13:54,585 She never cared for once that the Guru Gaddi should be given to my children. 162 00:13:54,585 --> 00:13:58,942 That Bhai Datu Ji or Bhai Dasu Ji deserve to be the Guru. 163 00:13:58,942 --> 00:14:04,158 She accepted that Guru Amar Das Ji is the next Guru. 164 00:14:04,158 --> 00:14:06,085 She Matha Tek to Guru Amar Das Ji, 165 00:14:06,085 --> 00:14:10,110 she told her children you too must accept Guru Amar Das Ji as the Guru. 166 00:14:10,110 --> 00:14:17,861 When Bhai Datu Ji went against Guru Amar Das Ji and kicked them and they fell from the Takht, 167 00:14:17,861 --> 00:14:23,240 When Mata Khivi Ji learnt about this Sangat Ji, she was so upset with her son 168 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:28,847 that she brought her son to Guru Amar Das Ji to ask for forgiveness. 169 00:14:28,847 --> 00:14:35,564 And she herself fell in the feet of the Guru and said forgive me, as a mother I could not educate my son. 170 00:14:35,564 --> 00:14:43,381 I could not give them these virtues, these qualities, that they could see the Guruship in You. 171 00:14:43,381 --> 00:14:45,633 That they could see the Pamatma in You. 172 00:14:45,633 --> 00:14:46,783 Please forgive me. 173 00:14:46,783 --> 00:14:51,783 That was how Mata Khivi Ji was, acceptance and Hukam. 174 00:14:51,783 --> 00:14:55,596 Sangat Ji, what I am going to tell you now is so important, 175 00:14:55,596 --> 00:14:59,258 especially to my sisters out there who have become wives, 176 00:14:59,258 --> 00:15:02,218 or are going to become a wife one day. 177 00:15:02,218 --> 00:15:10,586 Mata Khivi Ji as a mother she gave valuable teachings to Bibi Amro Ji, her daughter. 178 00:15:10,586 --> 00:15:16,037 When Bibi Amro Ji was going to get married in the house of Guru Amar Das Ji, 179 00:15:16,037 --> 00:15:19,354 because Bibi Amro is married to the nephew of Guru Amar Das Ji. 180 00:15:19,354 --> 00:15:29,172 When Mata Khivi Ji was going to send her daughter off, she gave 3 advice to Bibi Amro Ji. 181 00:15:29,172 --> 00:15:36,358 I call out to all my sisters out there, that these advice, you can call it marriage advice, 182 00:15:36,358 --> 00:15:38,023 it is so important. 183 00:15:38,023 --> 00:15:44,955 But maybe perhaps now we have lost these values, we have lost the meaning of even these advice 184 00:15:44,955 --> 00:15:46,930 that I am going to share with you. 185 00:15:47,073 --> 00:15:53,505 The first advice that Mata Khivi Ji gave to her daughter was, take the support of Gurbani. 186 00:15:53,505 --> 00:15:58,589 Make sure you read Gurbani daily, before starting any work. 187 00:15:58,589 --> 00:16:02,408 In the morning, when you wake up read Gurbani. 188 00:16:02,408 --> 00:16:05,304 When you are doing your work, when you are cooking, when you are cleaning the house 189 00:16:05,304 --> 00:16:07,790 when you are serving you in-laws, read Gurbani. 190 00:16:07,790 --> 00:16:14,992 The second advice that Mata Khivi Ji gave, was that treat your in-laws as your own family. 191 00:16:14,992 --> 00:16:20,378 If, you want love you have to be able to give love. 192 00:16:20,378 --> 00:16:24,760 But to be able to give love Sangat Ji, we have to be full of love. 193 00:16:24,760 --> 00:16:28,260 And Gurbani speaks a lot about love. 194 00:16:28,260 --> 00:16:35,596 I have spoken about this in this series, in the sakhi of Bebe Nanaki Ji in the last video, about love. 195 00:16:35,596 --> 00:16:44,424 Bibi Amro Ji accepted, she said it is true, if I want love from my in-laws I have to treat them as my own family. 196 00:16:44,424 --> 00:16:49,998 I have to treat my mother-in-law as my own mother, my father-in-law as my own father. 197 00:16:49,998 --> 00:16:56,850 And the third advice that Mata Khivi Ji gave and Guru Angad Dev Ji gave as well to Bibi Amro Ji, 198 00:16:56,850 --> 00:17:00,867 that not to return back home unless you are called for. 199 00:17:00,867 --> 00:17:09,234 This is very difficult advice for us to follow, but back then that was what the parents of Bibi Amro Ji 200 00:17:09,234 --> 00:17:12,252 asked of her, not to return until you are called for. 201 00:17:12,252 --> 00:17:17,722 Because now you are duty is for your in-laws. Serve them as you would have served your own family. 202 00:17:17,722 --> 00:17:23,980 And Sangat Ji, look at the effect of these advice given by Mata Khivi Ji. 203 00:17:23,980 --> 00:17:30,532 Which is why it is so important for a woman, it is in our hands that we could build a family 204 00:17:30,532 --> 00:17:35,987 based of the virtues, the values of Sikhi, or we can even break a family as well. 205 00:17:35,987 --> 00:17:40,879 It is in the hands of a woman, it is in the hands of a mother or of a wife, 206 00:17:40,879 --> 00:17:46,363 to be able to give their family Gursikhi Jeevan. 207 00:17:46,363 --> 00:17:52,099 And how did that happen? Bibi Amro Ji, daily she would recite Gurbani, 208 00:17:52,099 --> 00:17:58,899 when she wakes up, when she will be cooking and it was that one day where Guru Amar Das Ji, 209 00:17:58,899 --> 00:18:01,465 before they became a Guru, when they were called a Nigura 210 00:18:01,465 --> 00:18:06,325 that was the day when they came home and they heard their daughter-in-law reciting Gurbani. 211 00:18:06,325 --> 00:18:11,033 And that one day Guru Amar Das Ji asked, 212 00:18:11,033 --> 00:18:15,652 O' daughter, whose Bani is this you are reading? 213 00:18:15,652 --> 00:18:20,351 And Bibi Amro Ji then says this is the Bani of Guru Nanak Dev Ji 214 00:18:20,351 --> 00:18:23,536 and now my father, Guru Angad Dev Ji is sitting on the Gaddi. 215 00:18:23,536 --> 00:18:32,080 And imagine Sangat Ji, it was from that day, because of the advice given by Mata Khivi Ji 216 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:35,438 to Bibi Amro Ji, and her practising it daily. 217 00:18:35,438 --> 00:18:40,705 One day it came where Guru Amar Das Ji found the Guru, through Bibi Amro Ji. 218 00:18:40,705 --> 00:18:43,007 How amazing is that Sangat Ji? 219 00:18:43,007 --> 00:18:46,856 And then, what happens next? 220 00:18:46,856 --> 00:18:48,873 Guru Amar Das Ji themself, seeing the life of Mata Khivi Ji 221 00:18:48,873 --> 00:18:56,191 how she became a change and brought change to the women in her village, 222 00:18:56,191 --> 00:18:57,075 in her community. 223 00:18:57,075 --> 00:19:01,943 Guru Amar Das Ji then goes on to work on upliftment of woman. 224 00:19:01,943 --> 00:19:08,640 How? By removing the Parda completely, by removing the practice of Sati completely. 225 00:19:08,715 --> 00:19:12,428 By making women Prachriks. 226 00:19:12,428 --> 00:19:14,529 Giving them Manjia 227 00:19:14,529 --> 00:19:18,720 and one of those woman Prachariks was Bibi Bhani Ji, their own daughter. 228 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:20,808 How amazing is that? 229 00:19:21,031 --> 00:19:27,590 Guru Amar Das Ji, they uplifted women so much in Sikh society. 230 00:19:27,590 --> 00:19:31,662 And I would say that this credit goes to Mata Khivi Ji as well. 231 00:19:31,662 --> 00:19:38,165 For giving those advice to Bibi Amro Ji and we can see how this becomes a chain reaction. 232 00:19:38,165 --> 00:19:41,398 So this is for us to contemplate as well. 233 00:19:41,398 --> 00:19:44,307 That why was families back then so strong? 234 00:19:44,307 --> 00:19:48,699 It was because of the woman, their Sikhi was strong. 235 00:19:48,699 --> 00:19:52,425 Their mental and physical strength was strong. 236 00:19:52,425 --> 00:19:56,033 But now I ask this question, 237 00:19:56,033 --> 00:20:00,969 Are we becoming weaker? 238 00:20:00,969 --> 00:20:08,834 Which is why it is in the hands of the woman Sangat Ji to build a family based on Sikhi. 239 00:20:10,508 --> 00:20:15,651 Give those values, those teachings, those advice to our sons and daughters, 240 00:20:15,651 --> 00:20:20,167 on how they can become Gursikhs themselves. 241 00:20:20,167 --> 00:20:23,786 Just like how Mata Khivi Ji did to Bibi Amro Ji. 242 00:20:23,786 --> 00:20:30,704 And if we want to bring change to society, we first have to become that change. 243 00:20:30,704 --> 00:20:33,288 Just like how Mata Khivi Ji became that change. 244 00:20:33,288 --> 00:20:39,221 And then just as the Pangti I mentioned earlier. 245 00:20:48,091 --> 00:20:54,080 And until now Mata Khivi Ji is remembered every time we read Guru Granth Sahib Ji, 246 00:20:54,353 --> 00:21:01,096 every time we read the Bani of Bhai Sataa and Bhai Balwand Ji, we are reminded of Mata Khivi Ji. 247 00:21:01,096 --> 00:21:03,546 We are reminded about her nature. 248 00:21:03,546 --> 00:21:07,630 Just like a tree, if you look at the qualities of a tree Sangat Ji, 249 00:21:07,630 --> 00:21:09,481 think about it. 250 00:21:09,872 --> 00:21:13,571 A tree is upright, the roots are so strong. 251 00:21:13,571 --> 00:21:19,800 No wind can just bring a tree down, the roots are so strong. 252 00:21:19,800 --> 00:21:24,373 The leaves, they give out oxygen, they give shade to people. 253 00:21:24,373 --> 00:21:29,429 Even when a person comes and cut down that tree, 254 00:21:29,429 --> 00:21:35,481 the tree does not complain, does not cry, does not curse the person. 255 00:21:35,481 --> 00:21:42,857 Still after being chopped down, the tree still serves its purpose. 256 00:21:42,857 --> 00:21:49,032 Gives us paper, gives us fruit, gives us flower. 257 00:21:49,032 --> 00:21:53,784 This is the nature of a tree, this is also the nature of Mata Khivi Ji. 258 00:21:53,784 --> 00:21:57,374 Which is why she has been referred to as such in Gurbani. 259 00:21:57,374 --> 00:22:03,169 So Sangat Ji, I hope that we have been inspired by the life of Mata Khivi Ji. 260 00:22:03,169 --> 00:22:07,903 That to bring a change into our society, that we first become the change, 261 00:22:07,903 --> 00:22:10,430 then action will speak louder than words. 262 00:22:10,430 --> 00:22:16,985 And then as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter, pass on these virtues to our own sisters 263 00:22:16,985 --> 00:22:21,164 our own daughters, so that they too one day when they become a wife, 264 00:22:21,284 --> 00:22:25,202 when they go to another family, they can then continue giving those advice, 265 00:22:25,202 --> 00:22:28,835 to the future generation as well. 266 00:22:28,835 --> 00:22:37,870 The next woman, the next Mata Ji, the next personality that we are going to explore is Bibi Bhani Ji 267 00:22:37,870 --> 00:22:44,871 and how Bibi Bhani Ji has done such a big Parupkaar to Khalsa Panth. 268 00:22:44,871 --> 00:22:47,704 And I will share this in the next video. 269 00:22:47,704 --> 00:22:51,406 So I hope you enjoyed this video on Mata Khivi Ji. 270 00:22:51,406 --> 00:22:54,594 Please forgive me for any mistakes I have made.