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Sangat ji, when I think about a woman 
who has become a change,

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or has brought change to womanhood 
in the Sikh Panth

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I think about Mata Khivi Ji.

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Mata Khivi Ji is the Mehl of 
Guru Angad Dev Ji Maharaj

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Mehl here means wife.

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In her life Sangat ji Mata Khivi Ji has shown
so much of strength.

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When I say strength I don't just mean 
physical strength, but mental strength.

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Her ability to go against the stigma
set by society.

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And what was that which we face even now?

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That is 'what will people say?'

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It's true Sangat ji, it was then back in her time
and it is also happening now in out time as well.

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We are so concerned about what people would say.

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We are so concerned about making people happy,

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about doing what people, all society, thinks is acceptable.

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But Mata Khivi Ji was not like that.

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For her, it was not important to make people happy.

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It was not important to make or do what people 
want her to do - what was accepted

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in the eyes of society.

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But it was important to her to do what was good,
what made Guru Sahib happy.

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What was accepted in the eyes of the Guru.

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When Guru Angad Ji Maharaj, then their name was
Bhai Lehna Ji

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told their wife that they wanted to go to 
Kartarpur Sahib to stay with Guru Nanak Dev Ji,

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to serve them, to learn from them on how one 
can do Bhagti while being a Grihst,

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Mata Khivi Ji never said no.

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Normally, now at this point of time if a husband or a 
wife, or any family member decides to

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perhaps leave the household and go to search 
for his life purpose,

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many parents or many family members would say no,
why are you leaving? Who is going to earn money?

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How are you going to survive?

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But, at that time Sangat ji, Mata Khivi Ji said
do as you wish, do what makes you happy.

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If this makes you happy to go and serve the Guru
and to learn the ways of doing Bhagti

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whilst being a Grihst, do so.

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But, oh dear husband, this is my Benti 
that when you come back

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I would like you to teach me the ways as well.

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Teach me on how I too can do Bhagti 
as a wife

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and how both of us, as husband 
and wife could do Bhagti together in this house.

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See how positive the reponse of 
Mata Khivi Ji was.

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Another quality of hers was acceptance.

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She accepted Hukam, which we call Bhana Manna/Hukam Manna

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Gurbani Says,

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To be able to obtain or get - Khasam here means Maharaj, Guru Sahib, Parmatma -

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When you Mann, when you accept the Hukam, then you are accepted as well.

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You are accepted in the palace of Parmatma, 
you are accepted in the house of the Guru.

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Just like I mentioned earlier, Khasmai Bhaavai - 
what is accepted in the eyes of Parmatma,

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So Kare - do so. Do that which is accepted in the 
house of the Guru.

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Then one, a soul bride, who does that, then all her
wishes are fulfilled.

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And that is what Mata Khivi Ji practised in her life.

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Now Sangat Ji, Guru Angad Dev Ji, Bha Lehna Ji has left to Kartarpur,

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who is going to take care of the house?

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Who is going to feed the 4 children?

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Who is going to make sure that
there is food on the table?

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All that responsibility went on the 
shoulders of Mata Khivi Ji.

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Not even once Mata Khivi Ji said
oh no or what has happened? Why has this happened?

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Not even once.

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Her whole life she learned to accept the 
Bhana, that whatever is happening is

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happening in the Hukam of Parmatma.

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But Sangat Ji, remember I mentioned about society?

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The place that she was staying in and the village,

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there was some woman who, I would say, 
tried to give fake sympathy,

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who would come and say 'what's happened here?',

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your husband has left you, all the responsibilities
are on your shoulders.

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Even now people do so as well - fake sympathy.

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And Mata Khivi Ji would not pay any heed to 
what this woman would say,

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because she knows that they are trying 
to break her spirit.

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She would just smile and

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She would do that.

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Which Sangat Ji, is something that we should practise
as well.

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We can't stop people from talking, but one thing
we can do is whatever is being put in one ear

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just take it out from the other.

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So that we do not dwell upon it,

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because then we start thinking about it,
we start stressing about it.

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Mata Khivi Ji's condition was

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That even if Parmatma gives me Sukh,
I will still remember Parmatma.

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Even in Dukh and times like this where I have
to take care of my whole family,

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I am alone with my children and all this society,

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the people are tying to provoke me,

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but even in Dukh I will still do Your Simran, 
I will still remember You.

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Guru Angad Dev Ji Maharaj, they say about woman 
in their Bani, they say

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Whenever there is Sukh there is happiness, joy, there is peace, enjoy your husband,

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but even in Dukh always remember your husband Lord,
always remember Parmatma.

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O' wise woman, this is the way you can be 
one with Vaheguru,

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The way you can unite with Parmatma.

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So Mata Khivi Ji kept on taking care of the family

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and time to time Bhai Lehna Ji would come back

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and they would share what Guru Nanak Dev Ji had taught them

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and they would share those teachings with Mata Khivi Ji

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and Mata Khivi Ji would practise Simran, Seva, 
Hukam Mann'na and all of the things

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Bhai Lehna Ji would come and tell her about 
Guru Nanak Dev Ji.

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Both of them had so much love for Guru Nanak Dev Ji.

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The time came Sangat Ji when Bhai Lehna Ji has been 
give the Guru Gaddi.

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They have become Guru Angad Dev Ji

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and Guru Nanak Dev Ji tells them to move to 
Khadoor Sahib

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to shift there and to start a Dharamsala there.

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And now Guru Angad Dev Ji comes to Khadoor Sahib

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Now imagine Sangat Ji, where it used to only be you, 
your husband and your 4 children,

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now your house has been transformed into 
a Dharamsala where Sangat come daily

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to have Darshan of Guru Angad Dev Ji

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and you can't leave this Sangat on their own.

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You can't make this Sangat go back empty-handed,
empty stomach. You have to feed them.

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Mata Khivi Ji took the responsibility of cooking Langar
for these Sangat.

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And Sangat Ji, what was the quantity at that time?

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10, 20, 30 and on some days even up to 100s.

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Maybe a group of Sadhus would come.

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And she was always on her toes. She accepted the Hukam that now my husband has become the Guru,

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the second Guru of the Sikhs.

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Her daily routine changed. Now she serves her husband, she takes care of the children,

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but she also takes care of the Sangat.

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She feeds the Sangat, she starts cooking langar for 
the Sangat.

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At that time Sangat Ji again the society, at that point the time of Guru Nanak Dev Ji

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the time of Guru Angad Dev Ji, the woman they used to cover their faces.

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They used to cover their faces with their Dupatta, whenever they go out,

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or even in their house.

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But Mata Khivi Ji, now that her house has become a Dharamsala, she has to use both her hands to work

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and she has to be on her toes at all times, 
whenever Sangat comes, she has to serve them.

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So there is no time to cover her face.

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It was all about practicality. She took off the scarf and now she is doing seva alongside men.

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And cooking Langar.

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She takes these men as her brothers, as her sons
and she's working together hand in hand to cook Langar

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in bulk amount for Sangat.

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The women in the village, at first they started talking about it, 'What has Khivi Ji done here?'

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Now she's removed her veil as well, 
now she's working with men,

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but Mata Khivi Ji again she did not pay any heed to what these people were saying,

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because for her what was more important was doing
Seva of the Sangat,

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just as Guru Nanak Dev Ji has told.

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And making sure that these Sangat were comfortable
and that Guru Angad Dev Ji could focus on the Sangat,

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whilst she could focus on the food, on the Langar part.

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She served her husband in the morning, 
because Guru Angad Dev Ji would not eat

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form the Langar served for the Sangat.

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Their food was very simple and Mata Khivi Ji 
would serve her husband in the morning

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and then go to to cook Langar for the whole day.

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And in the afternoon when Guru Angad Dev Ji 
would be teaching Gurmukhi to the children

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Mata Khivi Ji would also do the same with 
Baba Buddha Ji,

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they would also teach Gurmukhi to the children.

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This was the life of Mata Khivi Ji.

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Slowly, slowly, because she kept on doing - this is where Sangat Ji actions speak louder than words

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these women, they other people, the other ladies in the Village they started seeing that there is so much

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Seva going on, there's so many Sangat coming to have Darshan of Guru Angad Dev Ji.

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Mata Khivi Ji, with so much dedication, is doing Seva
for the Sangat.

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Why don't we too join her?

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This was the first legacy of Mata Khivi Ji.

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The preacher of woman liberation.

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To remove the khund. Where other women started
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also started doing Seva in the Langar.

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Now they could serve more people.

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The second legacy of Mata Khivi Ji, which is now
in Guru Granth Sahib Ji,

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her mention in Guru Granth Sahib Ji, 
by Sataa and Bhai Balwand.

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What did they say?

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That Mata Khivi Ji is a pious woman, she is a wise
woman, she is a good lady.

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And her nature, she is so cool she is so calm. 
Just like a tree that gives shade to people.

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Mata Khivi Ji is like that, her nature is cool and so calm.

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She has no anger, she is no ego towards anybody.

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Her nature, what she would do daily, is to 
serve Langar, to help people in need.

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And her legacy was the Kheer - the rice pudding - that Mata Khivi Ji would make daily

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and it tasted like Amrit.

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So Guru Angad Dev Ji, would be giving the Bhojan of Naam to the Sangat

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and on the other hand Mata Khivi Ji would be giving the Bhojan of Kheer, of Amrit, to the Sangat.

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And Sangat would come from far to meet Guru Angad Dev Ji, but also to eat in the langar by Mata Khivi Ji.

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Even after 30 years of the passing of Guru Angad Dev Ji, Mata Khivi Ji still continued to serve Langar.

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She still continued to Seva and acceptance in Hukam
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given the Guru Gaddi.

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She never cared for once that the Guru Gaddi should be give to my children.

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That Bhai Datu Ji and Bhai Dasu Ji deserve to be the Guru.

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She accepted that Guru Amar Das Ji is the next Guru.

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She Matha Tek to Guru Amar Das Ji,

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she told her children you too must accept 
Guru Amar Das Ji as the Guru.

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When Bhai Datu Ji went against Guru Amar Das Ji 
and kicked them and they fell from the Takht,

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When Mata Khivi Ji learnt about this Sangat Ji, she was
so upset