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Sangat ji, when I think about a woman 
who has become a change,

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or has brought change to womanhood 
in the Sikh Panth

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I think about Mata Khivi Ji.

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Mata Khivi Ji is the Mehl of 
Guru Angad Dev Ji Maharaj

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Mehl here means wife.

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In her life Sangat ji Mata Khivi Ji has shown
so much of strength.

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When I say strength I don't just mean 
physical strength, but mental strength.

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Her ability to go against the stigma
set by society.

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And what was that which we face even now?

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That is 'what will people say?'

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It's true Sangat ji, it was then back in her time
and it is also happening now in out time as well.

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We are so concerned about what people would say.

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We are so concerned about making people happy,

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about doing what people, all society, thinks is acceptable.

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But Mata Khivi Ji was not like that.

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For her, it was not important to make people happy.

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It was not important to make or do what people 
want her to do - what was accepted

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in the eyes of society.

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But it was important to her to do what was good,
what made Guru Sahib happy.

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What was accepted in the eyes of the Guru.

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When Guru Angad Ji Maharaj, then their name was
Bhai Lehna Ji

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told their wife that they wanted to go to 
Kartarpur Sahib to stay with Guru Nanak Dev Ji,

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to serve them, to learn from them on how one 
can do Bhagti while being a Grihst,

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Mata Khivi Ji never said no.

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Normally, now at this point of time if a husband or a 
wife, or any family member decides to

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perhaps leave the household and go to search 
for his life purpose,

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many parents or many family members would say no,
why are you leaving? Who is going to earn money?

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How are you going to survive?

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But, at that time Sangat ji, Mata Khivi Ji said
do as you wish, do what makes you happy.

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If this makes you happy to go and serve the Guru
and to learn the ways of doing Bhagti

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whilst being a Grihst, do so.

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But, oh dear husband, this is my Benti 
that when you come back

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I would like you to teach me the ways as well.

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Teach me on how I too can do Bhagti 
as a wife

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and how both of us, as husband 
and wife could do Bhagti together in this house.

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See how positive the reponse of 
Mata Khivi Ji was.

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Another quality of hers was acceptance.

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She accepted Hukam, which we call Bhana Manna/Hukam Manna

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Gurbani Says,

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To be able to obtain or get - Khasam here means Maharaj, Guru Sahib, Parmatma -

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When you Mann, when you accept the Hukam, then you are accepted as well.

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You are accepted in the palace of Parmatma, 
you are accepted in the house of the Guru.

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Just like I mentioned earlier, Khasmai Bhaavai - 
what is accepted in the eyes of Parmatma,

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So Kare - do so. Do that which is accepted in the 
house of the Guru.

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Then one, a soul bride, who does that, then all her
wishes are fulfilled.

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And that is what Mata Khivi Ji practised in her life.

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Now Sangat Ji, Guru Angad Dev Ji, Bha Lehna Ji has left to Kartarpur,

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who is going to take care of the house?

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Who is going to feed the 4 children?

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Who is going to make sure that
there is food on the table?

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All that responsibility went on the 
shoulders of Mata Khivi Ji.

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Not even once Mata Khivi Ji said
oh no or what has happened? Why has this happened?

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Not even once.

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Her whole life she learned to accept the 
Bhana, that whatever is happening is

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happening in the Hukam of Parmatma.

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But Sangat Ji, remember I mentioned about society?