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Pat Mitchell: Your first time back on the TEDWomen stage.

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Sheryl Sandberg: First time back. Nice to see everyone. It's always so nice to look out

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and see so many women.

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It's so not my regular experience, as I know anyone else's

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PM: So when we first started talking about maybe the subject wouldn't be social media,

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which we assumed it would be, but that you had very much on your mind

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the missing leadership positions, particularly in the sector of technology and social media.

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But how did that evolve for you as a thought, and end up being the TED Talk that you gave?

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Right. So I was really scared to get on this stage and talk about women,

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because I grew up in the business world, as I think so many of us do,

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you never talk about being a woman, because someone might notice that you're a woman, right?

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They might notice. Or worse, if you say "woman", people on the other end of the table

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think you're asking for special treatment, or complaining,

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or worse, about to sue them. And so I went through -- (laughter)

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Right? I went through my entire business career, and never spoke about being a woman,

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never spoke about it publicly. But I also had noticed that it wasn't working.

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I came out of college over 20 years ago, and I thought that you know, look,

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all of my peers were men and women, all the people above me were all men, but that would change,

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because your generation had done such an amazing job fighting for equality,

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equality was now ours for the taking. And it wasn't.

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Because year after year, I was one of fewer and fewer, and now,

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often the only woman in a room. And I talked to a bunch of people about,

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should I give a speech at TEDWomen about women, and they said, oh no, no.

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It will end your business career. You cannot be a serious business executive

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and speak about being a woman. You'll never be taken seriously again.

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But fortunately, there were the few, the proud -- like you -- who told me I should give this speech,

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and I asked myself the question Mark Zuckerberg might --

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the founder of Facebook and, you know, my boss --

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asked all of us, which is what would I do if I wasn't afraid?

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And the answer to what would I do if I wasn't afraid is I would get on the TED stage,

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and talk about women, and leadership. And I did, and survived. (applause)

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PM: I would say, not only survived. I'm thinking of that moment, Sheryl,

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when you and I were standing backstage together, and you turned to me,

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and you told me a story.

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And I said -- very last minute -- you know, you really should share that story.

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SS: Oh, yeah.

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PM: What was that story?

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SS: Well, it's an important part of the journey. So I had -- TEDWomen --

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the original one was in DC -- so I live here, so I had gotten on a plane the day before

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and my daughter was three, she was clinging to my leg, "Mommy, don't go."

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And Pat's a friend, and so, not related to the speech I was planning on giving,

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which was chock full of facts and figures, and nothing personal,

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I told Pat the story. I said, well, I'm having a hard day. Yesterday my daughter was clinging to my leg,

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and "don't go." And you looked at me and said,

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you have to tell that story. I said, on the TED stage? Are you kidding?

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I'm going to get on a stage and admit my daughter was clinging to my leg?

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And you said yes, because if you want to talk about getting more women into leadership roles,

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you have to be honest about how hard it is.

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And I did. And I think that's a really important part of the journey.

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The same thing happened when I wrote my book. I started writing the book. I wrote a first chapter,

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I thought it was fabulous. It was chock-full of data and figures,

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their sociological patterns -- my husband read it.

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And he was like, this is like eating your Wheaties.

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No one -- and I apologize to Wheaties if there's someone -- no one, no one will read this book.

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And I realized through the process that I had to be more honest and more open,

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and I had to tell my stories. My stories of still not feeling as self-confident as I should,

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in many situations. My first and failed marriage. Crying at work.

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Felling like I didn't belong there, feeling guilty to this day.

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And part of my journey, starting on this stage, going to Lean In, going to the foundation,

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is all about being more open and honest about those challenges,

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so that other women can be more open, honest,

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and all of us can work together towards real equality.

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PM: I think that one of the most striking parts about the book,

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and in my opinion, one of the reasons it's hit such a nerve and is resonating around the world,

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is that you are personal in the book, and that you do make it clear that,

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while you've observed some things that are very important for other women to know,

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that you've had the same challenges that many others of us have,

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as you faced the hurdles and the barriers and possibly the people who don't believe the same.

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So talk about that process: deciding you go public with the private part,

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and then you would also put yourself in the position of something of an expert

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on how to resolve those challenges.

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SS: After I did the TED Talk, what happened was --

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that even though half the students in his med school classes were women,

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and it still didn't work.

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the women knew the answers just as well or better,

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and he was able to go back to them and tell them that. And then, you know,

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but that TED Talk inspired her to go to her school and fight for a better teacher for her child.

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And I guess was part of finding my own voice.

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And I realize that other women and men could find their voice through it,

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which is why I went from the talk to the book.

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PM: And in the book, you not only found your voice, which is clear and strong in the book,

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but you also share what you've learned --

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the experiences of other people in the lessons.

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And that's what I'm thinking about in terms of putting yourself in a --

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you became a sort of expert in how you lean in.

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So what did that feel like, and become like in your life?


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To launch not just a book, not just a best-selling, best-viewed talk,

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but a movement, where people began to literally describe their actions at work as

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SS: I mean, I'm grateful, I'm honored, I'm happy, and it's the very beginning.

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So I don't know if I'm an expert, or if anyone is an expert. I certainly have done a lot of research.

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I have read every study, I have pored over the materials,

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and the lessons are very clear. Because here's what we know:

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what we know is that stereotypes are holding women back from leadership roles all over the world.

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It's so striking. Lean In's very global, I've been all over the world,

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talking about it, and -- cultures are so different.

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they' re so different. Except for one thing: gender.

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we think men should be strong, assertive, aggressive, have voice,

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we think women should speak when spoken to, help others.

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women are called "bossy." There is a word for "bossy,"

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for little girls, in every language there's one.

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because if a little boy leads, there's no negative word for it,

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it's expected. But if a little girl leads, she's bossy.

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If you're a man, you'll have to represent your gender.

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Please raise your hand if you've been told you're too aggressive at work.

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(laughter) There's always a few, it runs about 5%. Okay, get ready, gentlemen.

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If you're a woman, please raise your hand if you've ever been told you're too aggressive at work.

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(laughter) That is what audiences have said in every country in the world,

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and it's deeply supported by the data.

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and a lot of the character traits that you must exhibit to perform at work, to get results, to lead,

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are ones that we think, in a man, he's a boss,

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and in a woman, she's bossy.

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And the good news about this is that we can change this by acknowledging it.

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One of the happiest moments I had in this whole journey

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is, after the book came out, I stood on a stage with John Chambers, the CEO of Cisco.

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He read the book. He stood on a stage with me, he invited me in front of his whole management team,

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men and women, and he said, I thought we were good at this. I thought I was good at this.

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And then I read this book, and I realized that we -- my company --

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we have called all of our senior women too aggressive,

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and I'm standing on this stage, and I'm sorry.

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And I want you to know we're never going to do it again.

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PM: Can we send that to a lot of other people that we know? (applause)

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SS: And so John is doing that because he believes it's good for his company,

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and so this kind of acknowledgement of these biases can change it.

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And so next time you all see someone call a little girl "bossy,"

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that little girl's not bossy. That little girl has executive leadership skills. (laughter)

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I mean, let's just put it out there, face the fact that women are --

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are still not getting to the leadership positions.

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in which Lean In focused on that and said,

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and look at ourselves. What has changed?

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But what really matters to me, and I think all of us, is action.

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So everywhere I go, CEOs, they're mostly men, say to me,

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you're costing me so much money.

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asking for more help at home, asking for the promotions they should be getting at work,

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and importantly, believing it themselves. Even little things.

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literally sitting on the side of the room, which they are,

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it can be 10, it can be however you want, which meet once a month.

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I would have hoped that by now, we'd have about 500 circles. That would've been great.

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SS: And these are people who are meeting every single month.

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I met one of them, I was in Beijing.

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A group of women, they're all about 29 or 30, they started the first Lean In circle in Beijing,

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several of them grew up in very poor, rural China.

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because they are not yet married,

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and the process of coming together once a month at a meeting

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is helping them define who they are for themselves.

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What they want in their careers. The kind of partners they want, if at all.

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and they all said their names and where they're from,

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and I said, I'm Sheryl Sandberg, and this was my dream.

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And I kind of just started crying.

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Right, which, I admit, I do. Right? I've talked about it before.

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But the fact that a woman so far away out in the world, who grew up in a rural village,

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who's being told to marry someone she doesn't want to marry,

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can now go meet once a month with a group of people and refuse that,

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and find life on her own terms.

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That's the kind of change we have to hope for.

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put them out in the open, have the dialogue about it,

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but that it's really for women who are that. Doing that. Pursuing the corporate world.

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PM: What part of that has surprised you, and perhaps led to a new perspective on your part?

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SS: The book is about self-confidence, and about equality.

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And it turns out, everywhere in the world, women need more self-confidence,

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because the world tell us we're not equal to men.

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Everywhere in the world, we live in a world where the men get "and,"

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and women get "or."

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I've never met a man who's been asked how he does it all. (laughter)

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Again, I'm going to turn to the men in the audience:

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please raise your hand if you've been asked, how do you do it all?

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Men only.

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Women, women. Please raise your hand if you've been asked how you do it all?

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We assume men can do it all, slash -- have jobs and children.

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We assume women can't, and that's ridiculous,

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because the great majority of women everywhere in the world, including the United States,

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work full time and have children.

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And I think people don't fully understand how broad the message is.

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There is a circle that's been started for rescued sex workers in Miami.

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They're using Lean In to help people make the transition

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back to what would be a fair life, really rescuing them from their pimps, and using it.

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There are dress-for-success groups in Texas which are using the book,

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for women who have never been to college.

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And we know there are groups all the way to Ethiopia.

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And so these messages of equality -- of how women are told they can't have what men can have --

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how we assume that leadership is for men, how we assume that voice is for men,

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these affect all of us, and I think they are very universal.

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And it's part of what TED Women does.

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It unites all of us in a cause we have to believe in,

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which is more women, more voice, more equality.

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PM: If you were invited now to make another TEDWomen talk,

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what would you say that is a result of this experience, for you personally,

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and what you've learned about women, and men,

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as you've made this journey?

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SS: I think I would say -- I tried to say this strongly,

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but I think I can say it more strongly --

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I want to say that the status quo is not enough.

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That it's not good enough, that it's not changing quickly enough.

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Since I gave my TED Talk and published my book, another year of data came out from the U.S. Census.

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And you know what we found?

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No movement in the wage gap for women in the United States.

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77 cents to the dollar.

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If you are a black woman, 64 cents.

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If you are a Latina, we're at 54 cents.

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Do you know when the last time those numbers went up?

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2002.

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We are stagnating, we are stagnating in so many ways.

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And I think we are not really being honest about that,

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for so many reasons. It's so hard to talk about gender.

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We shy away from the word "feminist," a word I really think we need to embrace.

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We have to get rid of the word bossy and bring back --

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I think I would say in a louder voice, we need to get rid of the word "bossy"

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and bring back the word "feminist," because we need it.

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PM: And we all need to do a lot more leaning in.

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SS: A lot more leaning in.

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PM: Thank you, Sheryl.

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Thanks for leaning in and saying yes.

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SS: Thank you.

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