[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:00.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.30,0:00:25.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.79,0:00:29.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had my brother in my hand and all of a sudden my hand was empty. Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.88,0:00:43.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.00,0:00:50.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Xzavier is now 8 and we call him X. He is to us the mighty X man. Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.16,0:00:57.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes. X as a little person, from the time that he hit the floor in the morning Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.61,0:01:02.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until you had to forcefully almost tie him down at night, Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.25,0:01:05.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he was running back and forth, back and forth, extremely energetic. Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.59,0:01:10.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He could call football plays. He loved the Green Bay Packers. Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.17,0:01:16.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can turn the game on and sit him in front of it and do house chores. Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.82,0:01:20.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know most people sit their babies in front of Sesame Street. Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.06,0:01:22.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could sit X in front of a game. Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.15,0:01:25.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.65,0:01:28.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He would have been an excellent athlete. Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.27,0:01:34.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was always looking forward to being in the stand screaming X, X, X, X, X. Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.24,0:01:38.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That was mom's dream, to be screaming from a football stands. Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.62,0:01:46.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.39,0:01:52.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's just arriving from school now. I got to have him back. Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.82,0:01:57.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got to know how school went. I got to know today's Friday, Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.30,0:02:01.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I need to know if he got 106 on his spelling test, which is almost always does. Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.90,0:02:06.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.41,0:02:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,X is paralyzed from the diaphragm down. Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.66,0:02:15.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the accident part of his spinal cord was dissipated. Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.100,0:02:28.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His legs are gone. His chair are his legs now. The use of his right hand is partial. Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.09,0:02:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He woke up actually from the coma a lefty and he went in a righty. Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.60,0:02:44.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She missed his brain stem by that much. X is on life support. Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.64,0:02:49.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The ventilator has to breathe for my son. Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.24,0:02:55.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.24,0:03:00.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most nights, I'm here on the couch listening for the ventilator. Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.58,0:03:08.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listening to, making sure all the breaths are right. That his PEEP doesn't change. Dialogue: 0,0:03:08.37,0:03:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That he doesn't need suctioning during the night. I hear everything. Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.86,0:03:20.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hear everything. I can hear the ventilator change cycles. Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.69,0:03:25.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could hear just the breath sounds different and run down the stairs Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.97,0:03:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the nurse goes, "He's good mom, He's good. Boy, you got good ears". Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.68,0:03:41.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.28,0:03:52.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are times when the pain is so bad I can't breathe. Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.28,0:03:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to say the worse thing that I can say to X, Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.00,0:04:01.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I used to be able to say all the time, "Go in the yard and play". Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.27,0:04:07.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't say that anymore. Because if we go play, Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.16,0:04:09.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need to take the suction machine, Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.71,0:04:12.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need to transfer him over to the ventilator before his chair, Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.71,0:04:19.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before we can do anything. We need to do that first. It's a production. Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.41,0:04:28.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I cant' say go play. Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.90,0:04:32.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.09,0:04:36.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Any mother understands. I can't say go play. Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.37,0:04:50.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.38,0:04:59.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He comes to life when she comes in the room. Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.93,0:05:04.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,X doesn't remember as well as both Aurie and I do . Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.60,0:05:10.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But Aurie was walking across the street with Xzavier on that October day. Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.64,0:05:16.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Beep...Beep...Beep.. Beep.. Beep.. Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.31,0:05:20.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We pray that that doesn't happen to another brother sister. Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.32,0:05:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We pray that another child doesn't get taken from a family member's hand. Dialogue: 0,0:05:23.90,0:05:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.99,0:05:34.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She came from this direction and at first, we didn't event see her. Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.03,0:05:37.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The cars on the other side of the stop sign, Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.69,0:05:43.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they stepped off the curb coming across the street and Aurie said he was gone. Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.53,0:05:48.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She took him from Aurie's hand. Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.56,0:05:52.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.67,0:05:55.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was not only speeding in the school zone Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.57,0:06:00.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she had also ran the stop sign because she was texting. Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.34,0:06:07.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The lady who hit X was texting. Texting. Her head was in her lap. Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.93,0:06:11.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She never even saw X in front of her. Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.04,0:06:13.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She actually came straight through the stop sign, Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.13,0:06:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there were no brake marks, no skid marks at all. Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.17,0:06:21.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She never stopped at a 4-way stop sign. Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.01,0:06:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She never stopped. You know, I 'm told the text was "I'm on my way". Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.10,0:06:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did she make it. Did she get to where she was going on time. Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.34,0:06:48.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That would be my question for her. Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.44,0:06:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.04,0:07:10.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.48,0:07:13.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like it was just a dream. Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.10,0:07:21.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.11,0:07:27.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for weeks it did. It felt I would wake up and I just think, Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.22,0:07:30.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did I dream that accident. Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.02,0:07:34.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.13,0:07:37.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just a guy, you know, I'm just young guy. I got a wife, Dialogue: 0,0:07:37.14,0:07:39.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know a daughter on the way. Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.46,0:07:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just a guy, this couldn't have happened to me, that can't be real. Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.78,0:07:44.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to have just dreamed that. Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.69,0:07:55.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.44,0:07:58.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Memories, you know, what you saw that day. Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.33,0:08:02.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, they come back at different points. Dialogue: 0,0:08:02.52,0:08:07.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I'll be somewhere and see an Amish family or see an Amish Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.31,0:08:10.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it will bring back memories of the accident. Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.84,0:08:20.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.08,0:08:23.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was the last text message I sent before I Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.56,0:08:28.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,caused an accident that killed 3 people. Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.26,0:08:32.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.56,0:08:38.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Amish family was on their way. 8:00 in the morning that day Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.46,0:08:43.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then the van was driven by a young man from Bluffton, Chandler Gerber. Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.57,0:08:48.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was on his way to a job. He cleaned carpets at the time Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.08,0:08:52.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he was traveling about the speed limit. Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.34,0:08:56.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We determined he was not speeding or anything like that, just traveling along. Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.12,0:08:59.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he overtook the Amish right over there, just right where my car is Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.78,0:09:03.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and basically hit the Amish buggy from behind. Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.08,0:09:10.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And just ended up all way to the point of where my car is about 400 feet, Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.78,0:09:15.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,430 feet where he ended up, where the van ended up. Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.32,0:09:21.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was heading east right into the sun rise, driving along. Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.34,0:09:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I was driving. I was texting back and forth with my wife. Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.24,0:09:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was texting and I think I was reading a text back at the time of the accident Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.30,0:09:37.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I remember driving and like my head just snapped up Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.23,0:09:45.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I saw the windshield just, glass broke and screeching and my head. Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.55,0:09:48.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It happened in about a second, I mean I had a thousand thoughts Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.92,0:09:51.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going through my mind and I start coming to a stop. Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.82,0:09:58.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I saw a body come down off the top of the van and I just thought Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.79,0:10:02.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"oh my gosh, what have I done?" "What have I done?" Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.88,0:10:10.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized I hit something and then I realized it was an Amish buggy. Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.05,0:10:18.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I jumped out of the van; Totally silent outside the van. Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.51,0:10:23.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At that second in time, there was no one else coming or going. Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.66,0:10:29.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I walked around back and I looked in the ditch Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.60,0:10:37.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there were bodies just laying there. I mean it was just silent, it was quiet. Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.24,0:10:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The only sound I hear was, only thing I saw moving was the horse. Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.90,0:10:47.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was severely wounded. It was kind of moving around on the ground a little bit. Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.62,0:10:53.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember the mother was laying, I believe, face down on her hands Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.72,0:10:58.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and knees like she's been sitting on a chair Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.18,0:11:01.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's just the force just hit her she didn't have time to move, Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.61,0:11:04.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was sitting in that same position on the ground. Dialogue: 0,0:11:04.17,0:11:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I just remember just staring and no one else around except me Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.76,0:11:15.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the family that was laying in the ditch and the horse and just silent. Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.17,0:11:21.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have all kinds of chaos here. Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.67,0:11:25.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the van that was driven by Chandler Gerber. Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.09,0:11:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As you can see, the front of the vehicle is just totally smashed here. Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.96,0:11:33.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was devastated. He was crying. He was just almost in a panic mode. Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.44,0:11:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew that I've been texting and driving. Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.06,0:11:43.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew that I've been around that time involved with Dialogue: 0,0:11:43.15,0:11:46.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,reading my phone or texting or what have you. Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.08,0:11:49.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was hysterical. I was I think I was probably in shock. Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.48,0:11:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was sitting in the van in the passenger seat Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.21,0:11:58.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,taking in as far as I can see straight ahead, just lights and sirens and people. Dialogue: 0,0:11:58.26,0:12:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I saw a hearse drive by and so right then Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.11,0:12:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had this sinking feeling that there was at least one dead person. Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.39,0:12:15.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They took 2 young children it was a 3 year old and a 5 year old. Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.04,0:12:19.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They took a 17 year son. Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.72,0:12:31.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I saw the youngest of the children, 3 year old Inis.. Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.03,0:12:35.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was laying face down in the ditch right here just to our side, Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.13,0:12:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right behind, right in front of me here actually. Dialogue: 0,0:12:38.25,0:12:42.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He looked like he was asleep until we rolled him over Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.41,0:12:45.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and saw all the injuries to his face. Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.03,0:12:52.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Injuries to his legs, they looked like they were both broken. It was very devastating. Dialogue: 0,0:12:52.68,0:13:10.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.70,0:13:14.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Shortly after the accident, it was pretty rough. Dialogue: 0,0:13:14.72,0:13:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of tears, a lot of why did this happen? Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.74,0:13:31.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.48,0:13:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This note was from Martin Swartz, the father of the children Dialogue: 0,0:13:36.16,0:13:39.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that had passed away from my accident. Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.61,0:13:44.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It says, Dear Ones, Trusting in God's ways, How does this find you? Dialogue: 0,0:13:44.31,0:13:47.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Hope all in good health and in good cheer. Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.15,0:13:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Around here we're all on the go and trying to make the best we can. Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.64,0:13:57.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I always wonder if we take enough time with our children. Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.92,0:14:01.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wishing you the best with your little one and the unknown future. Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.97,0:14:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think of you often. Keep looking up. God is always there. Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.77,0:14:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sincerely, Martin and Mary Swartz. Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.66,0:14:15.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:14:15.36,0:14:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just I wish, I wish so bad I can go back to that day and change my focus. Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.42,0:14:24.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wish I can go back and say, Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.96,0:14:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You know, I can do these texts when I get to my stop, when I get there. Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.14,0:14:33.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't have to do this right now while I'm driving." Dialogue: 0,0:14:33.85,0:14:37.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, there's just nothing that important. But at that point, Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.48,0:14:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, it was just, oh I can text and drive, it's no big deal. Dialogue: 0,0:14:40.90,0:14:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it is a big deal. Please, please don't do it. Please don't ever text and drive. Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.91,0:14:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's life, you get one chance and you live with the choice you make. Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.83,0:14:58.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.61,0:15:16.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.59,0:15:21.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She has no life really. Her balance is off, her arms don't work very well. Dialogue: 0,0:15:21.23,0:15:28.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She likes to watch the boats going up and down the river. She's got double vision. Dialogue: 0,0:15:28.29,0:15:35.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She can't see very well. It's very hard for her. She cannot leave this yard. Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.69,0:15:42.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We put up a fence in her backyard so she wouldn't roll down the bank into the river. Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.61,0:15:46.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.88,0:15:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She loves feeding her birds; taking care of the wildlife that comes around. Dialogue: 0,0:15:52.74,0:15:56.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had her life planned she was always planning everything. Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.37,0:16:00.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now she can't plan anything, because she can't remember anything. Dialogue: 0,0:16:00.88,0:16:06.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Debbie was very active, outgoing...she worked 60+ hours a week. Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.49,0:16:13.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She held a very good position, traveling all over the world. Dialogue: 0,0:16:13.12,0:16:19.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Going to Istanbul, Turkey and travelling to France and loving, working for her job. Dialogue: 0,0:16:19.27,0:16:23.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They love Debbie very, very much. Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.70,0:16:30.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now she's dependant on everybody: myself, my brother, friends... Dialogue: 0,0:16:30.27,0:16:36.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She cannot go into the front of the yard by herself because her vision. Dialogue: 0,0:16:36.01,0:16:42.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:16:42.09,0:16:56.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:16:56.57,0:17:00.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was a Sunday night, August 7th, approximately 9:15, Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.79,0:17:04.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my sister had come out of her house to get her mail. Dialogue: 0,0:17:04.80,0:17:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,By the big pine tree she was struck by a teenager texting and driving. Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.08,0:17:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The white mail box is where my sister was struck, Dialogue: 0,0:17:12.79,0:17:18.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was carried on the hood of the car, right over here, Dialogue: 0,0:17:18.29,0:17:23.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is where the neighbors found her. Dialogue: 0,0:17:23.31,0:17:28.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When she was in the hospital she was swollen from head to toe. Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.100,0:17:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had a shunt sticking out of her head right here to Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.98,0:17:36.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,relieve pressure in her brain because her brain was so swollen. Dialogue: 0,0:17:36.84,0:17:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her eyes, her right eye was swollen shut. Her face was swollen. Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.00,0:17:48.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her neck was broken. Both her arms were broken. Her ribs were broken. Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.30,0:17:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her pelvis was smashed. She had a broken ankle and a broken leg. Dialogue: 0,0:17:53.16,0:17:57.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her thumb ripped off...almost ripped off they sewed it back together. Dialogue: 0,0:17:57.54,0:17:58.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:17:58.32,0:18:02.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was terrible, it was heartbreaking. Dialogue: 0,0:18:02.82,0:18:08.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She was in her coma and I went up to her and I started talking to her. Dialogue: 0,0:18:08.34,0:18:11.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had her hand and she squeezed my hand, she knew I was there. Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.00,0:18:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told her, I said, "Debbie, I know you're in there Dialogue: 0,0:18:14.26,0:18:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I know you can't talk or anything but I know you're in there." Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.65,0:18:19.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She gave me another squeeze of my hand Dialogue: 0,0:18:19.61,0:18:23.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she knew I was talking to her. She could feel it. Dialogue: 0,0:18:23.21,0:18:42.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.32,0:18:47.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Her sentence was 30 days in jail. She got 5 months of house arrest, Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.28,0:18:52.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,500 hours of community service and that's about it. Dialogue: 0,0:18:52.60,0:18:57.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My sister doesn't want anything to do with her. Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.48,0:19:02.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's too angry right now and I don't think that anger Dialogue: 0,0:19:02.08,0:19:05.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is going to go away anytime soon. Dialogue: 0,0:19:05.21,0:19:09.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Charlie is the big chocolate lab right here. Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.58,0:19:19.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He was 11 years old when he was killed. Charlie was about 115 lbs... Dialogue: 0,0:19:19.74,0:19:20.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.97,0:19:28.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:19:28.94,0:19:33.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're working on my sister and then somebody said, "Where's Debbie's dog?" Dialogue: 0,0:19:33.28,0:19:37.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's when the search went out and they found him over there in the trees. Dialogue: 0,0:19:37.01,0:19:41.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The mail box, the blue mail box had been knocked out. Dialogue: 0,0:19:41.21,0:19:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We think he was thrown through the air and knocked that mailbox down. Dialogue: 0,0:19:46.32,0:19:48.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He took the full force of the car. Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.91,0:19:50.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(dog growls) Dialogue: 0,0:19:50.56,0:19:54.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He laid on the side of the road, the neighbors told us, Dialogue: 0,0:19:54.37,0:19:59.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wagging his tail while Debbie was being loaded up in the ambulance. Dialogue: 0,0:19:59.07,0:20:08.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:20:08.29,0:20:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Its just not right my sister's life has been changed forever. Dialogue: 0,0:20:12.40,0:20:20.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She went from being active to inactive. In a stroke of a second. Dialogue: 0,0:20:20.33,0:20:25.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's over. Her life as she knew it is over. She loved work. Dialogue: 0,0:20:25.88,0:20:30.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She helped me with my children, she was always there for me. Dialogue: 0,0:20:30.61,0:20:37.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's heartbreaking everyday to see my sister like this Dialogue: 0,0:20:37.17,0:20:41.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you knew how she was before. Dialogue: 0,0:20:41.35,0:20:55.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:20:55.80,0:21:06.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I love you. Dialogue: 0,0:21:06.52,0:21:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:21:15.22,0:21:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm very fond of telescopes. Dialogue: 0,0:21:17.48,0:21:22.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Its just a reminder of my father in the good times we used to have. Dialogue: 0,0:21:22.90,0:21:26.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The telescope is just another way I look at him Dialogue: 0,0:21:26.16,0:21:30.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being a scientist and the brilliant man he was. Dialogue: 0,0:21:30.63,0:21:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At night we would go out side and look at the stars Dialogue: 0,0:21:34.60,0:21:41.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he would tell me the different constellations and we would learn them. Dialogue: 0,0:21:41.31,0:21:44.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When there were meteor showers he would come Dialogue: 0,0:21:44.35,0:21:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and wake me up at 3 o clock in the morning Dialogue: 0,0:21:46.80,0:21:49.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he would take me outside and we would stare Dialogue: 0,0:21:49.61,0:21:52.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and watch the meteor showers for hours. Dialogue: 0,0:21:52.13,0:21:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just me and my Dad wrapped up outside in blankets. Dialogue: 0,0:21:55.36,0:22:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was just a phenomenal feeling, just good Father/Daughter time for us. Dialogue: 0,0:22:00.80,0:22:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The best father I could have ever asked for. Dialogue: 0,0:22:05.32,0:22:09.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Growing up I was pretty typical, played a lot of sports growing up, Dialogue: 0,0:22:09.89,0:22:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,played basketball, played football, played baseball, ran track... Dialogue: 0,0:22:14.26,0:22:16.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm quiet on the phone. I'm awkward on the phone. Dialogue: 0,0:22:16.87,0:22:24.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have always preferred to text or talk in person. Dialogue: 0,0:22:24.97,0:22:28.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm a cowboy I guess and I'm a child of the mountains. Dialogue: 0,0:22:28.59,0:22:32.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I recently took a trip out to the prairie and it was pretty Dialogue: 0,0:22:32.13,0:22:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm a child of the mountains and I need mountains around me. Dialogue: 0,0:22:35.66,0:22:40.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every morning I get up and watch the sun come up over this mountain to the east. Dialogue: 0,0:22:40.44,0:22:42.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a beautiful mountain and I watch the sun Dialogue: 0,0:22:42.95,0:22:46.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go down in the west over another pretty mountain. Dialogue: 0,0:22:46.48,0:22:49.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm not the much into technology as a blacksmith all your problems Dialogue: 0,0:22:49.60,0:22:53.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can be solved with a bigger hammer; the more heat and a bigger hammer. Dialogue: 0,0:22:53.73,0:22:57.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'm not much of a technology guy, and I never liked texting Dialogue: 0,0:22:57.05,0:22:59.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and since that day I liked it even less. Dialogue: 0,0:22:59.45,0:23:05.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I text often...daily I keep in touch with friends and family. Dialogue: 0,0:23:05.05,0:23:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The car doing the texting was going this direction. Dialogue: 0,0:23:08.49,0:23:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The two engineers were heading out this way Dialogue: 0,0:23:12.90,0:23:16.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as they passed they brushed each other, Dialogue: 0,0:23:16.68,0:23:20.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which spun the little blue car with the engineers... Dialogue: 0,0:23:20.24,0:23:29.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,spun it around this way into the path of an oncoming pickup. Dialogue: 0,0:23:29.11,0:23:33.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's about a 15 or 16 mile stretch of highway 30 going to Logan. Dialogue: 0,0:23:33.26,0:23:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,From the time we started on that stretch of road headed towards Logan, Dialogue: 0,0:23:39.28,0:23:41.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the driver ahead of me was distracted Dialogue: 0,0:23:41.36,0:23:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he crossed over the center line multiple times. Dialogue: 0,0:23:46.05,0:23:51.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was early in the morning, It was still fairly dark outside. Dialogue: 0,0:23:51.67,0:23:53.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:23:53.36,0:23:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was raining pretty bad and I'm on the way to work, texting, Dialogue: 0,0:23:58.12,0:24:04.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reading messages and I go across the center line and I hit another car. Dialogue: 0,0:24:04.21,0:24:06.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't remember what I was texting. Dialogue: 0,0:24:06.72,0:24:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't remember what the message said. That's how important it was. Dialogue: 0,0:24:11.34,0:24:14.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I saw him cross over the center line Dialogue: 0,0:24:14.50,0:24:20.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at that moment things going into slow motion and you can just see... Dialogue: 0,0:24:20.29,0:24:23.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought, man, this is going to be bad. Dialogue: 0,0:24:23.29,0:24:26.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember the sound of the cars hitting: Dialogue: 0,0:24:26.49,0:24:30.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,glass breaking, brakes, and tires squealing. Dialogue: 0,0:24:30.12,0:24:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He just side swiped it and sent it into a skid and I had the definite recollection Dialogue: 0,0:24:36.04,0:24:41.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I knew right then that I was going to collide with that car. Dialogue: 0,0:24:41.13,0:24:46.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just thought, "Oh, this is going to be bad." I knew right then and there. Dialogue: 0,0:24:46.04,0:24:49.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The question on my mind was, "How bad is this going to be?" Dialogue: 0,0:24:49.62,0:25:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My truck...hit the passengers side of the car and basically scooped the car up Dialogue: 0,0:25:03.83,0:25:06.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and carried it off into the ditch with us. Dialogue: 0,0:25:06.27,0:25:11.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had braked and was trying to stop and avoid it and obviously I couldn't. Dialogue: 0,0:25:11.25,0:25:15.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My pickup went halfway through that car. Dialogue: 0,0:25:15.80,0:25:20.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got out of my car and I ran back towards the accident Dialogue: 0,0:25:20.51,0:25:24.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and...there was a man on the phone, Dialogue: 0,0:25:24.67,0:25:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I heard him say there were two men in the car that... weren't breathing. Dialogue: 0,0:25:41.50,0:25:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The two people that were killed were inside the blue car. Dialogue: 0,0:25:45.78,0:25:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This other one shows what the car looked like after the accident. Dialogue: 0,0:25:51.94,0:26:29.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...I look at that picture... Dialogue: 0,0:26:29.36,0:26:37.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:26:37.09,0:26:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all I can think about is those families, those two men. Dialogue: 0,0:26:46.80,0:26:49.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While I was driving I decided that texting Dialogue: 0,0:26:49.66,0:26:58.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and driving was more important to me than those two men and their families. Dialogue: 0,0:26:58.52,0:27:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:27:03.11,0:27:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...and how selfish that was of me to make that decision to text and drive. Dialogue: 0,0:27:12.79,0:27:17.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:27:17.10,0:27:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Knowing everyday...that you killed two people, is Dialogue: 0,0:27:29.20,0:27:34.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of the hardest things you can live with. Dialogue: 0,0:27:34.52,0:27:42.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have night terrors all the time about my Dad's car accident that come in waves Dialogue: 0,0:27:42.31,0:27:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...It could be just me standing on the side of the highway where it happened. Dialogue: 0,0:27:48.96,0:27:54.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just watching the accident happen and not being able to move, I can't go try Dialogue: 0,0:27:54.51,0:27:59.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and stop the accident from happening. I can't go see if my fathers okay. Dialogue: 0,0:27:59.76,0:28:03.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't save my father, I'm just standing on the side of the road, Dialogue: 0,0:28:03.69,0:28:06.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't do anything... Dialogue: 0,0:28:06.42,0:28:16.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To I've been...Reggie, the one texting while driving that hits the car. Dialogue: 0,0:28:16.07,0:28:21.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just being the one that causes the accident... Dialogue: 0,0:28:21.68,0:28:28.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To I've been the driver of the truck that t-boned my Dad. Dialogue: 0,0:28:28.65,0:28:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just sitting in the seat, killing my own father. Dialogue: 0,0:28:37.96,0:28:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I ended up with some herniated discs in my back Dialogue: 0,0:28:41.38,0:28:44.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my knees took a pretty big beating in the dash. Dialogue: 0,0:28:44.37,0:28:50.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How much of the damage from them in the accident? Dialogue: 0,0:28:50.05,0:28:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know. Horseshoeing is a very physical occupation. Dialogue: 0,0:28:53.18,0:28:55.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's hard on your back anyway Dialogue: 0,0:28:55.63,0:29:02.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to suddenly end up with some herniated discs...your life horseshoeing is over. Dialogue: 0,0:29:02.05,0:29:14.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:29:14.18,0:29:22.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Its been almost 7 years in September and it is still very difficult for me. Dialogue: 0,0:29:22.23,0:29:28.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That accident was preventable. There's no other way to look at it. Dialogue: 0,0:29:28.92,0:29:33.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I put my phone away and I save those two men's lives. Dialogue: 0,0:29:33.11,0:29:36.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's that simple. It's that simple, for me, Dialogue: 0,0:29:36.68,0:29:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now looking back and when I speak to others I share the same message. Dialogue: 0,0:29:44.27,0:29:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say, "Its now that easy for you going forward to save someone's life. Dialogue: 0,0:29:49.30,0:29:51.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You put the phone away while you drive Dialogue: 0,0:29:51.92,0:29:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're safer behind the wheel and everyone else is Dialogue: 0,0:29:55.26,0:29:57.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,safer on the road around you." Dialogue: 0,0:29:57.85,0:30:01.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want people to look at me and look at what I did Dialogue: 0,0:30:01.38,0:30:08.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what I caused and say, " I don't want to be that guy." Dialogue: 0,0:30:08.26,0:30:16.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:30:16.68,0:30:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first time I saw Reggie in court, my feelings were just pure hatred. Dialogue: 0,0:30:23.55,0:30:29.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was appalled at the fact that this kid my age had killed my Dad... Dialogue: 0,0:30:29.16,0:30:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,taken him away from me. Dialogue: 0,0:30:31.40,0:30:35.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On my sentencing date, the families had a chance to get up Dialogue: 0,0:30:35.29,0:30:37.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and address me and speak to me. Dialogue: 0,0:30:37.94,0:30:41.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All I can do is just look at him and hate him Dialogue: 0,0:30:41.88,0:30:45.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and wish how much he would die and that it was him Dialogue: 0,0:30:45.99,0:30:49.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was dead instead of my Dad. Dialogue: 0,0:30:49.15,0:30:58.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Megan got up and she talked about her wedding and she had just gotten married... Dialogue: 0,0:30:58.34,0:31:07.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she talks about her father wasn't there to walk her down the aisle... Dialogue: 0,0:31:07.98,0:31:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she looked at me and she said because you took that from me... Dialogue: 0,0:31:16.40,0:31:24.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she was absolutely right. Dialogue: 0,0:31:24.07,0:31:29.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to think that my Dad is somewhere in the universe. Dialogue: 0,0:31:29.35,0:31:33.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I go outside at night and sit on my balcony when I'm really upset Dialogue: 0,0:31:33.90,0:31:40.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I stare at the sky and whenever I'm super upset, I always see a shooting star. Dialogue: 0,0:31:40.83,0:31:48.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like to think that's my Dad's way of communicating with me. Dialogue: 0,0:31:48.82,0:31:55.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt that my Dad would not have wanted me to be mad at him for the rest of my life Dialogue: 0,0:31:55.56,0:31:59.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I knew my Dad had forgiven him. Dialogue: 0,0:31:59.38,0:32:04.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew that and that he would want me to try and move on Dialogue: 0,0:32:04.13,0:32:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and forgive him and even get to know him. Dialogue: 0,0:32:09.20,0:32:19.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Forgiveness is...something that I see from Megan. Dialogue: 0,0:32:19.79,0:32:26.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I see that forgiveness, I feel it. I'm grateful for it. Dialogue: 0,0:32:26.91,0:32:35.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I reached out to Reggie to tell him that my Dad forgives you, I forgive you. Dialogue: 0,0:32:35.17,0:32:51.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to help you through, you trying to make a difference in this whole thing. Dialogue: 0,0:32:51.04,0:32:53.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was once told that to be a good member of society, Dialogue: 0,0:32:53.63,0:32:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to give back more than you can take. Dialogue: 0,0:32:56.96,0:33:03.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can never give back those two men's lives ever Dialogue: 0,0:33:03.92,0:33:15.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:33:15.56,0:33:22.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would just like to say for anybody out there who has a cell phone, Dialogue: 0,0:33:22.02,0:33:26.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,focus while you're driving, pay attention while you're driving, Dialogue: 0,0:33:26.94,0:33:29.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't take your eyes off the road while you're driving. Dialogue: 0,0:33:29.62,0:33:34.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things can happen so quick that will change your life forever. Dialogue: 0,0:33:34.95,0:33:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will say it over and over and over again, don't text and drive...It can wait. Dialogue: 0,0:33:45.18,0:33:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would tell America to please don't text and drive, Dialogue: 0,0:33:50.76,0:33:55.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how many other people are going to have to be killed? Dialogue: 0,0:33:55.01,0:34:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many other people are going to be like my sister Debbie? Dialogue: 0,0:34:01.12,0:34:05.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's nuts, It's crazy, Dialogue: 0,0:34:05.56,0:34:09.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know why people don't' want to talk to each other anyway. Dialogue: 0,0:34:09.39,0:34:36.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(music) Dialogue: 0,0:34:36.32,0:34:55.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,, Dialogue: 0,0:34:55.47,0:35:05.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,