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(Bell)

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(FRENCH)
Why do I sometimes feel
everyone is against me?

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(ENGLISH)
Why do I sometimes have the feeling
that everyone is against me?

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That is only a feeling.

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(Translate for her.)

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That is only a feeling.

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(FRENCH)
That is only...a feeling.

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(FRENCH)
(Sister Tong Nghiem will translate for you.)

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That feeling may be born from
a wrong perception.

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We imagine that people don't like us,
are against us.

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But the fact may be the opposite.

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The fact may be that everyone likes you

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and sees you as a beautiful flower
in the garden of humanity.

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So if we are her friends,
we should say it out loud:

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"I like you, I love you,
you are a beautiful flower."

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But...

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Something can be done about this,

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while waiting for the people to say
they do not dislike you, they like you.

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You have to learn to like yourself.

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You have to learn how to love yourself.

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This is very important,
to accept yourself.

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In order to accept yourself,
you have to practice.

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And this does not only count for young
but also for old people.

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Sometimes we do not like ourselves.

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We think we are not good enough.

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But in fact there are
many good things in us,

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that have been transmitted to us
by our parents and ancestors.

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We may not have seen them.

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That is why we may have an
inferiority complex.

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Among our ancestors there are
people who are very talented,

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who have great virtues like
beauty, understanding, compassion.

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They have transmitted to us the seeds of
beauty, understanding, love, forgiveness.

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And we have them, but we don't know
that we have them.

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So when you breathe in and out mindfully,
you might recognize these seeds in you,

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because you know you are capable
of understanding, forgiving and being happy.

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And if you recognize
these good things in you,

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you don't have the complex anymore.

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And you can accept yourself
and you can love yourself.

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The teaching of the Buddha says that
everyone has the capacity

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to love and to understand,

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that everyone has the Buddha Nature
in himself or herself.

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The Buddha Nature is
something very beautiful.

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And you have it in yourself.

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So if you believe and see that,
you will accept yourself easily.

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And you know that you can
help people to suffer less.

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When another person is unhappy,
you can very well do or say something

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to make him or suffer less.

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You have that capacity.
And you have done that in the past.

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You have helped one person,
one child to suffer less.

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When you see someone get hurt
you can help that person to feel better.

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And that is the Buddha Nature in you.

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And if you see the Buddha Nature in you,

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if you can see the beauty,
the stability, the freshness in you,

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then you can accept yourself,
you can love yourself.

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It is very important to accept oneself,
to love oneself.

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If you don't accept and love yourself,
how can you expect others to do so?

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That is why to accept oneself
is very important.

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And Thay has practised
and Thay has been able to accept himself.

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So he has a lof of peace and joy
because he was able

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to accept himself and like himself.

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That is a good question.
That has helped many of us.

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Thank you for asking the question.

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