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(FRENCH)[br]Why do I sometimes feel[br]everyone is against me?

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(ENGLISH)[br]Why do I sometimes have the feeling[br]that everyone is against me?

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That is only a feeling.

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(Translate for her.)

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That is only a feeling.

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(FRENCH)[br]That is only...a feeling.

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(FRENCH)[br](Sister Tong Nghiem will translate for you.)

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That feeling may be born from[br]a wrong perception.

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We imagine that people don't like us,[br]are against us.

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But the fact may be the opposite.

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The fact may be that everyone likes you

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and sees you as a beautiful flower[br]in the garden of humanity.

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So if we are her friends,[br]we should say it out loud:

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"I like you, I love you,[br]you are a beautiful flower."

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But...

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Something can be done about this,

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while waiting for the people to say[br]they do not dislike you, they like you.

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You have to learn to like yourself.

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You have to learn how to love yourself.

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This is very important,[br]to accept yourself.

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In order to accept yourself,[br]you have to practice.

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And this does not only count for young[br]but also for old people.

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Sometimes we do not like ourselves.

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We think we are not good enough.

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But in fact there are[br]many good things in us,

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that have been transmitted to us[br]by our parents and ancestors.

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We may not have seen them.

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That is why we may have an[br]inferiority complex.

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Among our ancestors there are[br]people who are very talented,

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who have great virtues like[br]beauty, understanding, compassion.

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They have transmitted to us the seeds of[br]beauty, understanding, love, forgiveness.

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And we have them, but we don't know[br]that we have them.

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So when you breathe in and out mindfully,[br]you might recognize these seeds in you,

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because you know you are capable[br]of understanding, forgiving and being happy.

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And if you recognize[br]these good things in you,

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you don't have the complex anymore.

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And you can accept yourself[br]and you can love yourself.

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The teaching of the Buddha says that[br]everyone has the capacity

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to love and to understand,

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that everyone has the Buddha Nature[br]in himself or herself.

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The Buddha Nature is[br]something very beautiful.

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And you have it in yourself.

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So if you believe and see that,[br]you will accept yourself easily.

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And you know that you can[br]help people to suffer less.

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When another person is unhappy,[br]you can very well do or say something

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to make him or suffer less.

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You have that capacity.[br]And you have done that in the past.

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You have helped one person,[br]one child to suffer less.

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When you see someone get hurt[br]you can help that person to feel better.

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And that is the Buddha Nature in you.

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And if you see the Buddha Nature in you,

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if you can see the beauty,[br]the stability, the freshness in you,

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then you can accept yourself,[br]you can love yourself.

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It is very important to accept oneself,[br]to love oneself.

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If you don't accept and love yourself,[br]how can you expect others to do so?

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That is why to accept oneself[br]is very important.

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And Thay has practised[br]and Thay has been able to accept himself.

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So he has a lof of peace and joy[br]because he was able

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to accept himself and like himself.

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That is a good question.[br]That has helped many of us.

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Thank you for asking the question.

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