[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.100,0:00:10.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I was 20, I was on top of the world. Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.79,0:00:13.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was an East Asian studies major, Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.13,0:00:15.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had just won Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.05,0:00:18.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a prestigious fellowship\Nfrom the Japanese government. Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.20,0:00:22.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would spend a year in Tokyo, Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.60,0:00:25.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,studying language and culture, Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.59,0:00:28.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all expenses paid. Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.09,0:00:34.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a financially strapped kid like me,\Nthat was like winning the lottery. Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.64,0:00:39.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One day on campus,\Nthere was a health fair, Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.61,0:00:44.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just for the heck of it,\NI got my blood pressure checked. Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.67,0:00:50.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to my surprise,\Nit was startlingly high. Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.78,0:00:55.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the nurse sent me off\Nto the school clinic for more tests, Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.47,0:00:58.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they found protein in my urine. Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.26,0:01:02.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was not a good sign, Dialogue: 0,0:01:03.61,0:01:07.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I rushed off to see a specialist, Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.55,0:01:08.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and within a few weeks, Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.88,0:01:10.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I found myself diagnosed Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.100,0:01:15.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with an incurable autoimmune disease\Nthat was attacking my kidneys. Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.06,0:01:20.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the doctor’s best guess\Nwas that I had five years left. Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.54,0:01:22.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In an instant, Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.39,0:01:28.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it felt like my life\Nwas tumbling into darkness. Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.84,0:01:34.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized what was worse\Nwas that I had to give back the fellowship Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.73,0:01:36.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.36,0:01:40.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to stay in Ohio, where I live,\Nfor medical treatment. Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.52,0:01:46.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After the initial shock passed, Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.17,0:01:50.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I looked around at my classmates. Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.05,0:01:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were throwing frisbees, Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.36,0:01:53.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,partying, Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.75,0:01:55.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,getting drunk, Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.36,0:01:58.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I got pissed Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.27,0:02:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was 20 years old Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.53,0:02:06.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was dying. Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.36,0:02:11.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Intellectually, Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.53,0:02:17.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I knew that anger and resentment\Nwere not a way forward. Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.42,0:02:22.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the bigger question was,\NHow was I going to deal with it? Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.54,0:02:28.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my mind kept coming back\Nto a favorite documentary Dialogue: 0,0:02:28.16,0:02:29.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the journey of the hero. Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.09,0:02:34.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this is a kind of universal theme Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.06,0:02:41.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that revolves around a central character\Nwho is thrown out of his comfortable world Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.23,0:02:47.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by a call to undertake a perilous quest. Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.47,0:02:50.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if that quest was successful, Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.75,0:02:53.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it results in growth, transformation, Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.70,0:02:55.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and renewed life. Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.81,0:02:58.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I thought to myself, Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.12,0:03:02.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Could kidney disease be that call?" Dialogue: 0,0:03:05.32,0:03:06.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I began to realize Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.77,0:03:11.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I could approach this illness\Nas an inner spiritual challenge Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.92,0:03:13.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in addition to a medical one. Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.43,0:03:16.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But again, how? Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.91,0:03:21.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It wasn’t like I could call my doctor\Nand get a prescription. Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.22,0:03:24.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,However, Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.49,0:03:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if on cue, Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.94,0:03:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my religion professor\Nintroduces me to a classic book Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.40,0:03:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on how to practice Zen meditation. Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.54,0:03:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In Japan, historically,\NZen was the practice of warriors, Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.64,0:03:44.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they would use its intense focus Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.20,0:03:49.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to transform fear and other emotions\Nthat came from facing mortality. Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.34,0:03:57.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was intuitively attracted to the idea\Nthat I could be a warrior Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.19,0:04:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and face this illness\Nwith Zen as my weapon. Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.67,0:04:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, night after night, Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.49,0:04:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in my sweltering attic apartment, Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.40,0:04:11.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would sit cross-legged\Nwith my eyes closed Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.92,0:04:14.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and do battle, Zen-style, Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.30,0:04:18.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the darkest parts of my life. Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.72,0:04:21.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one by one, Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.36,0:04:23.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would face inner demons, Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.09,0:04:28.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as I observed and accepted them, Dialogue: 0,0:04:29.76,0:04:31.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,little by little, Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.20,0:04:34.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they began to shrink, Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.97,0:04:37.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and little by little, Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.39,0:04:40.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in their place grew Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.11,0:04:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very slowly Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.68,0:04:45.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a sense of calm. Dialogue: 0,0:04:47.17,0:04:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The focus of Zen Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.58,0:04:52.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gave me something to do with my mind Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.96,0:04:57.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because at that point in my life,\Nit was the only thing I could manage. Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.18,0:04:59.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A year went by, Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.60,0:05:01.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then two, then four, Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.51,0:05:04.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I got on with the business of living. Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.90,0:05:06.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I made a deal with myself Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.56,0:05:10.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I would only do\Nwhat I was passionate about. Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.28,0:05:14.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my passions led me to graduate school, Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.02,0:05:19.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I found a lab that was run\Nby an eminent psychologist Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.01,0:05:22.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who studied flow experiences. Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.59,0:05:26.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And flow experiences \Nare those moments of intense focus Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.62,0:05:29.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we feel vital and alive. Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.64,0:05:34.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he found that people \Nwho could manage their minds into flow Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.86,0:05:38.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were connected to themselves and others, Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.76,0:05:42.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a sense of meaning\Nand purpose and to life. Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.82,0:05:49.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Flow showed me, through science,\Nwhat I had only begun to learn in Zen. Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.09,0:05:54.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We eventually moved the lab Dialogue: 0,0:05:54.65,0:05:57.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from a department of psychology\Nto a school of management. Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.97,0:06:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there I had the opportunity\Nto study successful professionals Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.20,0:06:05.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who were long-term practitioners \Nof something called mindfulness. Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.85,0:06:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mindfulness, like Zen,\Nwas a way of training the mind, Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.83,0:06:12.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one thing that mindfulness does Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.33,0:06:16.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is return you from being stuck in the past Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.32,0:06:18.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or fixated on the future Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.56,0:06:21.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to what’s going on right here, right now. Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.29,0:06:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These professionals\Nhad all kinds of backgrounds. Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.14,0:06:28.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were Fortune 500 CEOs, Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.68,0:06:33.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,world famous architects, filmmakers, \Nartists, musicians, writers, Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.82,0:06:35.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would ask them, Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.03,0:06:38.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"So, you know, what do you think\Nyour life would be like Dialogue: 0,0:06:38.28,0:06:40.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you didn't have this practice?" Dialogue: 0,0:06:40.88,0:06:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they'd say, Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.38,0:06:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My life is so complex. Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.23,0:06:52.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I’m being pulled\Nin so many directions at once Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.62,0:06:58.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that if I didn’t have this to keep me\Ncentered, grounded, and sane, Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.79,0:07:01.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think I’d be dead." Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.49,0:07:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then it hit me: Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.04,0:07:09.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was something missing\Nfrom management, Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.03,0:07:10.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that management education Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.82,0:07:14.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,had focused almost entirely\Non what happens outside you Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.96,0:07:17.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there was precious\Nlittle, if anything, Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.21,0:07:19.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that spoke about leadership\Nfrom the inside. Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.89,0:07:22.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I sensed that was an opportunity. Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.02,0:07:25.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So with my school’s blessing, Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.59,0:07:31.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I created a course that put executives\Nthrough a series of grueling challenges. Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.57,0:07:34.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They would have to learn\Nhow to focus their mind Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.63,0:07:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a world of distraction. Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.17,0:07:40.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They would have to rigorously observe\Ntheir emotional reactions. Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.44,0:07:42.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they'd have to face unflinchingly Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.96,0:07:44.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their own ego. Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.58,0:07:47.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was not for the faint of heart, Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.66,0:07:50.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to my surprise, Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.49,0:07:52.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people signed up! Dialogue: 0,0:07:54.07,0:07:57.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one CEO drove three hours\Nto take the class. Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.67,0:08:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My coworker warned me\Nthat he was a "very difficult man." Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.82,0:08:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my colleagues were intimidated\Nby his hard glare and short fuse. Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.18,0:08:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they smugly wished me, Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.79,0:08:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the youngest guy\Non the faculty at that time, Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.27,0:08:17.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Good luck." Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.44,0:08:21.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like I was\Nbeing thrown to the lions. Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.80,0:08:23.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The CEO sat right up front, Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.38,0:08:26.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for a while he was quiet. Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.59,0:08:29.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But as time passed, he began to open up. Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.60,0:08:32.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he confessed that\Nhe was completely overwhelmed Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.61,0:08:37.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by endless email and customers' demands\Nfor instant responses. Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.39,0:08:41.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Constant multitasking\Nmade his life frenetic, Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.14,0:08:45.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and pressures to increase the bottom line\Nescalated his stress. Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.98,0:08:49.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But as he began to awaken, Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.39,0:08:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he admitted to me Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.98,0:08:53.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that perversely, Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.37,0:08:59.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he enjoyed playing the role of victim. Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.64,0:09:03.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, that might not sound like much, Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.94,0:09:07.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but for a CEO to admit that, Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.80,0:09:10.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that turned into a turning point for him. Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.53,0:09:14.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As time went by, Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.97,0:09:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he started to see how hardened\Nand indifferent he had become to others, Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.76,0:09:24.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how his management style\Nwas to fly off the handle Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.12,0:09:28.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and lose control and get caught up\Nin a swell of his own emotions. Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.15,0:09:30.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He wrote to me saying, Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.16,0:09:37.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I’m beginning to see\Nmy own obsession with me, Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.03,0:09:40.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my own pride, vanity, and greed." Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.18,0:09:42.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what was surprising to him Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.73,0:09:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that when he was open, \Nunguarded, and vulnerable, Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.48,0:09:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he felt stronger and free. Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.52,0:09:51.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Maybe," he says, Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.09,0:09:56.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Maybe I’m beginning to know\Nwhat compassion means." Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.38,0:10:02.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the end of the class,\Nhis eyes smiled more. Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.08,0:10:05.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I asked him how had the class\Naffected his personal life. Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.23,0:10:07.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he says, "You know, Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.25,0:10:13.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized that I haven't had\Na personal life in 35 years. Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.69,0:10:16.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But back then\Nmy hair was a lot longer, Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.81,0:10:20.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was interested\Nin consciousness and spirituality. Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.94,0:10:22.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then we got married, Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.53,0:10:23.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we had kids, Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.84,0:10:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I realized\NI had to support this family. Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.28,0:10:30.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I went to work, Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.28,0:10:33.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I never stopped. Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.63,0:10:38.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And all of those longings\Nquietly faded away." Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.66,0:10:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And with tears streaming down his face, Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.01,0:10:44.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My wife says to me the other day, Dialogue: 0,0:10:44.99,0:10:46.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'I don’t know what’s happened to you, Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.95,0:10:50.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you’ve turned back\Ninto the man I married.'" Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.04,0:10:56.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That moment, for me,\Nwas like being hit by lightning, Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.76,0:11:01.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see such a profound shift\Nin this "difficult man" Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.96,0:11:05.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,showed me the path\Nthat I had to take for my life. Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.36,0:11:10.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I quit a promising\Nresearch career to do this work, Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.93,0:11:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I felt like is what I needed to do. Dialogue: 0,0:11:15.41,0:11:17.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He, In a decade of teaching, Dialogue: 0,0:11:17.69,0:11:22.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he became the first\Nof a long line of "difficult people" Dialogue: 0,0:11:23.17,0:11:26.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who were fundamentally\Nexistentially frustrated. Dialogue: 0,0:11:26.88,0:11:30.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They had used all their talent,\Nskill, and intelligence Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.52,0:11:32.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for external achievement, Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.98,0:11:34.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they enjoyed it. Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.07,0:11:36.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in the end,\Nthey found it unsatisfying. Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.79,0:11:41.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But they didn’t know what to do. Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.31,0:11:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that’s why they were frustrated. Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.64,0:11:45.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are told Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.69,0:11:48.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the unexamined life\Nisn't worth living, Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.57,0:11:51.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we’re never told how to examine it. Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.24,0:11:56.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think the secret\Nis cultivating mindful attention Dialogue: 0,0:11:56.97,0:11:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that creates self-awareness. Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.31,0:12:02.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the self-awareness creates\Nthe opportunity for change. Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.81,0:12:06.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that can lead to self-transformation. Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.41,0:12:12.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a society, we don't pay\Nenough attention to "attention." Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.54,0:12:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don’t take care of it,\Npreserve it, grow it. Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.47,0:12:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to take care of attention! Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.69,0:12:21.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when are we going to realize Dialogue: 0,0:12:21.93,0:12:26.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that a meeting where everyone\Nis staring at their laptop Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.10,0:12:28.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn’t really a meeting. Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.87,0:12:31.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And shouldn’t memories\Nof Grandma and her blackberry Dialogue: 0,0:12:31.100,0:12:33.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,be about a pie, Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.02,0:12:34.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not a phone? Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.56,0:12:36.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter) Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.74,0:12:40.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Quality of attention is quality of life. Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.26,0:12:41.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s quality of relationship, Dialogue: 0,0:12:41.79,0:12:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quality of work! Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.02,0:12:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Attention is the secret ingredient\Nthat connects us to ourselves and others. Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.65,0:12:53.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And mindfulness and Zen\Nare ways of enhancing attention Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.97,0:12:56.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can live with more flow. Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.64,0:12:59.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'd like to think Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.07,0:13:04.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that my practices helped me live\Nbeyond the five-year diagnosis. Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.100,0:13:07.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But after years of teaching, Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.41,0:13:11.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fatigue, gout, and undeniable lab results Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.04,0:13:13.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all pointed to the fact I was dying. Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.02,0:13:18.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But since 16 years had passed\Nsince the original diagnosis, Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.19,0:13:21.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my doctor believed that\Na kidney transplant could save my life, Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.16,0:13:25.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this presented another problem. Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.35,0:13:28.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would have to ask for help. Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.75,0:13:33.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the idea was like\Nthrowing a birthday party Dialogue: 0,0:13:33.97,0:13:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a secret fear\Nthat no one was going to show up. Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.85,0:13:40.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, like the CEO, Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.99,0:13:46.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to look at my own fear,\Npride, and vulnerability Dialogue: 0,0:13:46.47,0:13:47.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to live. Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.67,0:13:53.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so when 25 people\Ncame forward as organ donors Dialogue: 0,0:13:53.43,0:13:56.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 13 of whom were my former students, Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.55,0:14:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got more help than\NI could have ever imagined. Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.73,0:14:03.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And luckily, Dialogue: 0,0:14:04.30,0:14:07.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one was a positive match. Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.21,0:14:09.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here I am. Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.81,0:14:10.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It’s not done. Dialogue: 0,0:14:10.89,0:14:12.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause) Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.50,0:14:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used to think that pain was a negative, Dialogue: 0,0:14:22.08,0:14:28.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I learned, with the right tool\Nit could become fuel for growth. Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.84,0:14:35.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it led me down a path\Nof strength, courage, and love. Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.12,0:14:42.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe that we all have\Nthe capacity within us Dialogue: 0,0:14:42.27,0:14:45.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to make our minds beautiful. Dialogue: 0,0:14:46.95,0:14:53.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my wish is that we become\Nwarriors of our own journey. Dialogue: 0,0:14:54.64,0:14:56.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because when we do, Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.92,0:14:58.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we change our heart, Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.60,0:14:59.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our mind, Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.91,0:15:01.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our future. Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.59,0:15:03.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you. Dialogue: 0,0:15:03.84,0:15:05.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)