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Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.82,0:00:20.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A cosy television evening for two\Non the couch comes to an end.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.19,0:00:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The movie wasn't really a highlight.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.18,0:00:28.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The woman says good night\Nand goes to bed:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.46,0:00:32.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Honey, I'm not staying up late tonight.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.65,0:00:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't have to count on me."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.28,0:00:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He takes the chance, says good night,\Nand enters the study:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.78,0:00:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Darling, it doesn't matter,\NI still have a little work to do anyway."
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.05,0:00:47.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As soon as they're both undisturbed,\Nthey dedicate themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.95,0:00:50.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the actual highlight of the evening.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.20,0:00:53.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He checks a pair of business e-mails
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.80,0:00:58.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then switches relatively quickly\Nto his favorite --
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.90,0:01:01.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,exactly -- porn and sex pages.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.86,0:01:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What he doesn't know is that\Nat the same time
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.32,0:01:09.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she spoils herself\Nwith the sex toy of her choice,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.65,0:01:14.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and within minutes she is\Norgasmically melting away.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.46,0:01:20.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Both sleep deeply relaxed\Nside by side before midnight.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.74,0:01:25.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you think this ritual\Nis rare in our country,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.85,0:01:27.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I'm afraid\NI have to disappoint you --
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.52,0:01:31.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is everyday life in many places.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.99,0:01:33.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And who doesn't know that?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.39,0:01:36.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a partner you love
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.48,0:01:39.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and still find somewhat attractive,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.62,0:01:42.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then there is everyday life\Nlaying itself over the lust.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.47,0:01:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then there are so many possibilities\Nto have a good time as an alternative.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.56,0:01:50.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just a little embarrassing\Nto talk about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.29,0:01:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you don't want to offend\Nor irritate your partner persistently.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.84,0:01:59.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One thing is certain:
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.64,0:02:03.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the number of orgasms without a partner,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.08,0:02:06.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least without a binding partner,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.57,0:02:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did increase massively\Nin the last few years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.38,0:02:15.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listlessness is one of the main topics
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.15,0:02:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in my practice\Nfor couple and sexual therapy.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.90,0:02:24.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But are we really\Nso "overworked" and "underfucked",
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.11,0:02:25.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we always pretend?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.66,0:02:30.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or are we not perhaps\Na little "oversexed"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.45,0:02:32.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and thus maybe "underworked"?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.75,0:02:37.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we take a closer look\Nat this listlessness,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.11,0:02:38.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's easy to tell
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.43,0:02:40.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's no general listlessness,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.64,0:02:42.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but a partner-related one.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.35,0:02:47.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is, among other things,\Nthe so-called Coolidge effect.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.82,0:02:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here is a little story:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.42,0:02:55.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Calvin Coolidge was an American president,\Nwho visited 100 years ago a chicken farm
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.22,0:02:57.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with his wife Grace.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.68,0:02:59.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After a separate guided tour,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.95,0:03:02.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his wife came in excited and said:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.26,0:03:08.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Calvin, imagine,\Nthe cock does it 12 times a day."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.45,0:03:14.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He answered: "Grace, my darling,\Nbut not always with the same hen."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.42,0:03:22.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sexual weariness,\Ndecreasing sexual functions,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.59,0:03:28.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this effect unfortunately occurs\Nnot only for animals
Dialogue: 0,0:03:28.56,0:03:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the same partner all the time,\Nbut also with us humans.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.23,0:03:36.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's a kind of dilemma:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.71,0:03:43.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,love needs closeness,\Nbut eroticism needs distance.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.26,0:03:48.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We long for commitment,\Nfor being well cared for, for closeness.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.100,0:03:51.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then we long to see something new,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.43,0:03:53.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,adventure and excitement.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.70,0:03:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can that be even compatible?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.18,0:04:02.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyday life is not a good canvas\Nfor our sexual fantasies.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.68,0:04:06.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're doing a little experiment now.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.82,0:04:10.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please close your eyes for a moment
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.34,0:04:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and think of the most beautiful\Ntriviality of the world, sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:18.65,0:04:19.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.49,0:04:24.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And for once, be curious.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.42,0:04:30.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What kind of pictures will come\Nbefore your inner eye
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.51,0:04:37.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what kind of feelings?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.98,0:04:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what will these pictures\Nand feelings do to you?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.51,0:04:52.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.50,0:04:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm going to assume that very few people
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.84,0:04:58.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were thinking of the act of procreation,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.26,0:05:00.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the conception of a child.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.66,0:05:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, I'm assuming that now...
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.68,0:05:07.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe a few more\Nwere thinking about making love,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.26,0:05:10.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like sex in a partnership.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.50,0:05:13.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most of them, however,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.65,0:05:16.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were thinking about the impulsive side\Nof sexuality,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.100,0:05:20.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going along with adventure,\Npassion, excitement,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:20.13,0:05:23.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this unbelievable\Ngood feeling in the stomach.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.65,0:05:30.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Reproduction, love and instincts\Nare the three dimensions of sex.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.22,0:05:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the sexual revolution,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.58,0:05:40.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the reproduction was\Ndecoupled from sexuality
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.24,0:05:45.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of the introduction of the pill\Nand impunity for abortion.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.19,0:05:51.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sex could be enjoyed freely,\Nchildbearing could be planned,,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.44,0:05:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the slogan at the time was:\N"Make love, not war."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:57.93,0:06:03.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's happening today is an essentially\Nmore explosive social development.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.64,0:06:07.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today the instincts\Nare separated from love
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.88,0:06:10.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by means of an enormous suction\Nto the outside.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.38,0:06:15.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today we have porn running 24 hours a day
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.91,0:06:18.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the most adventurous genres,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:18.36,0:06:20.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in 3D worlds,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.75,0:06:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now also in 4D worlds, in virtual worlds
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.63,0:06:28.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a fitting full body suit.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.06,0:06:31.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have sex toys,\Ngetting more and more interactive.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.06,0:06:36.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can sit in Timbuktu today and\Nhave sex with someone at the North Pole.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.91,0:06:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In addition, there are millions of people
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.31,0:06:42.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,using these numerous apps and hubs
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.16,0:06:47.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for non-binding and purchasable\Nsexual offers.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.36,0:06:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many of them within\Nbinding partnerships, by the way,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.80,0:06:55.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everything initiable from\Nthe comfort zone of your home.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.25,0:06:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the agony of choice these days.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.12,0:07:00.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sex traffic moved
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.14,0:07:05.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into the high-speed data highways\Nof the internet
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.60,0:07:10.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and provides for an even calmer traffic
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.23,0:07:12.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,within the partnership.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.53,0:07:19.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we look at the slogan\N"Make love, not war",
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.16,0:07:26.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hasn't it eventually changed into\N"Make sex, not love"?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.55,0:07:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what about love?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.28,0:07:33.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pretty lonely.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.00,0:07:38.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Does love stand any chance at all\Nin these turbulent times?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.09,0:07:44.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all make use of this freedom\Nand experiment with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.78,0:07:52.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this freedom affects us all,\Nsooner or later, directly or indirectly,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.29,0:07:55.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our partnership, in our family,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.42,0:07:57.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or in our circle of friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.51,0:08:00.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this freedom changes gradually
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.82,0:08:04.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our sexual fantasies, our scripts,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.14,0:08:06.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what we want,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:06.43,0:08:09.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what we are still able to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.37,0:08:11.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The bar is very high.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.51,0:08:16.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've been working as a neurologist\Nand a psychotherapist for 25 years
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.10,0:08:19.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and of course I do see more often\Nthe other side of the coin.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.34,0:08:24.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the last 10 years\NI've been observing significant changes
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.81,0:08:28.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the topics that my clients\Nbring to my practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.47,0:08:30.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are four main topics.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.26,0:08:36.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, old sexual dysfunctions\Nin a new guise.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:36.80,0:08:40.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Young men come to me\Nwith potency disorders
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.64,0:08:42.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Viagra in the pocket.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.19,0:08:45.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It works great with porn,\Nbut with their partner, nothing at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.29,0:08:53.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Orgasm delay and orgasm inhibition\Nis paradoxically on the rise.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.60,0:09:00.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the men emancipate\Nthemselves in listlessness,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.85,0:09:03.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you know it already:\Nnot a general listlessness,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:03.77,0:09:05.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only a partner-related one.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.41,0:09:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Secondly, there are quantitative changes.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.84,0:09:13.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The gap continues to grow\Nbetween those untouched,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.46,0:09:16.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with an outstanding\Nself-supply via the Internet
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.59,0:09:19.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who already know \Neverything in theory,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.63,0:09:21.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but have no practical experience at all,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.82,0:09:25.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and those who are tindering\Nfrom bed to bed,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.20,0:09:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,restlessly and unceasingly.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.20,0:09:31.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The WHO has classified\Ncompulsive sexual disorder
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.39,0:09:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a mental illness by now.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.58,0:09:38.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In Germany alone,\Naccording to conservative estimates,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.67,0:09:41.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have half a million\Nporn and sex addicts.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.72,0:09:44.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In addition to that,\Napproximately the same number
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.46,0:09:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of indirectly affected\Npartners and children.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.47,0:09:49.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a serious development.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.05,0:09:54.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thirdly, we have qualitative changes.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.32,0:09:58.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What used to be hardcore,\Nis vanilla sex today.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.79,0:10:02.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Special exceptional practices,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.43,0:10:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like voyeurism, exhibitionism,\Nfetishism and BDSM
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.40,0:10:10.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are now cultural assets,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.59,0:10:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,part of the mainstream,\Nnothing out of the ordinary anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.19,0:10:19.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the topics couples come up with\Nare very much about the smartphone,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:19.29,0:10:23.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the notion of loyalty\Nseem more blurred than ever.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.48,0:10:26.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can have sex with others today\Nand still be faithful.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.38,0:10:28.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We just need to agree to that in advance.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.48,0:10:31.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we can also\Nlie beside our partner in bed
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.03,0:10:32.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and cheat on him online.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.07,0:10:36.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I can see that\Nthe concept of loyalty shifts
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.59,0:10:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from "I'm faithful to you"\Nto "I'm true to myself".
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.45,0:10:44.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Problems are inevitable.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.52,0:10:47.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now the question of all questions:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.62,0:10:50.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how can we integrate this new freedom
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.73,0:10:55.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into our lives and enjoy it,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.58,0:11:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that both we and our partnership\Nremain healthy?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.52,0:11:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what sets apart\Nsex gourmets from sexaholics,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.04,0:11:08.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who can't find the off switch?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.76,0:11:13.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A juicy tiramisu and a wet orgasm
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.71,0:11:15.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,aren't that different.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.66,0:11:20.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nutrition and sexuality\Nhave a lot of similarities.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:20.71,0:11:24.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you probably know\Na lot about nutrition,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.86,0:11:28.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you read about it and you can apply that.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.06,0:11:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And today I would like to add \Na little something to this analogy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.53,0:11:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which you can implement directly,\Nunder the motto of "Act, Change, Now".
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.32,0:11:47.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First, knowledge is the basis\Nfor changing our behavior.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:47.04,0:11:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we know what kind of food\Nwill keep us healthy in the long term,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.85,0:11:57.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we can resist the many temptations\Nof the food industry,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.11,0:12:02.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that make us sick and fat,\Nand rather say no.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.05,0:12:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the same\Nwith the sexual superstimuli.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.68,0:12:07.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I know and inform myself...
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.27,0:12:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we know a lot by now, there\Nare many research studies about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:11.42,0:12:15.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cool books and a lot of information\Non the Internet.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.59,0:12:19.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Take a look and absorb that knowledge,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.82,0:12:24.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because this will be a key resource\Nto position yourself accordingly.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:24.90,0:12:27.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many are wandering in this grey area
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.44,0:12:29.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would wish for you all
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.67,0:12:33.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you won't only wake up\Nwhen you're already sick from it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.63,0:12:40.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Second, stay receptive\Nfor natural stimuli.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.52,0:12:45.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you keep ingesting\Nchocolate, Coke, junk food,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.15,0:12:48.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someday apples and\Nvegetables won't taste good anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:48.43,0:12:50.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the same with sexuality.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.07,0:12:52.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You will get blunt someday.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.85,0:12:56.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Ever heard of sex fasting,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.94,0:12:59.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the voluntary renunciation\Non sexual super incentives,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:59.76,0:13:02.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least for a trial for a while?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:04.27,0:13:07.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Admittedly, that doesn't make you slim,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.20,0:13:10.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but more sensitive again\Nfor natural stimuli.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.26,0:13:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not bad at all that\Nso much is available today,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.38,0:13:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pornography, sex toys,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.65,0:13:21.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're stimulants, like candy.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.49,0:13:26.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we'll experience side effects, \Nif we consume too much of it.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.40,0:13:31.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Also for sexuality,\Nquality comes before quantity.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:31.30,0:13:34.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And today, maybe less is more.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.13,0:13:38.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, next time when \Nyou're going checks mails,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:38.13,0:13:42.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just skip the porn,\Nleave the sex toy in the drawer,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:42.57,0:13:45.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at the next one-night stand\Njust ask:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.42,0:13:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will it take me any further personally?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.19,0:13:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And last but not least:\Ntalk to each other,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.17,0:13:59.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,start a dialogue,\Na real qualitative dialogue
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.52,0:14:00.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with your partner.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.18,0:14:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is important and\Nit takes effort and courage.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.96,0:14:11.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Talk about your needs,\Nbut also about your fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:12.59,0:14:14.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Partnerships need limits,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.68,0:14:17.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's what makes them different\Nfrom what's out there.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:17.95,0:14:20.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you establish a bond,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.16,0:14:23.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you should stick to it.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.86,0:14:28.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the "no" has\Na very special meaning today.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:28.28,0:14:32.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because what's a "yes"\Nactually worth without a "no"?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:34.60,0:14:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Love gives sexuality meaning and depth
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.76,0:14:46.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our relationship is quite crucial\Nfor the quality of our life.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.78,0:14:51.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A gentle touch from a partner\Nthat's really close to your heart
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.64,0:15:00.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can be much more intimate\Nthan the 3,286th canned orgasm.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.29,0:15:07.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With everything that's happening today,\Nwith all the freedom we got:
Dialogue: 0,0:15:09.10,0:15:11.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,think of love, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.72,0:15:12.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.09,0:15:17.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(applause)