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(Annoyed grunt)

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(Narrator) Tonight on Supernanny

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(Screaming)

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(Narrator) In a Supernanny first

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(Jo) Hello!

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(Narrator) Jo works with two deaf parents,

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(Narrator) who have four children that can hear.

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(Daughter) Well-

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(Mother) Stop it.

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(Narrator) The three youngest kids take advantage of their parents' disability.

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(Daughter) Yes papa.

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(Narrator) Pushing them to the breaking point.

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(Screaming)

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(Interpreter) I swear it is. It's just too much stress.

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(Daughter) That's not my problem.

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(Narrator) And forcing the teenager to act as a third hearing parent.

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(Teen Daughter) You can leave, but you're going to 
bed early and you're not getting no snack.

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(Narrator) But the pressure and responsibility is tearing her apart.

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(Teen Daughter) You want my help only if 
I'm babysitting or to clean the house.

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(Teen Daughter) To be your maid or something.

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(Teen Daughter) When I'm home, I don't get treated

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(Teen Daughter) with respect.

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[Censored]

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(Jo) Melissa?

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(Melissa) Get off of me.

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(Narrator) Can Jo help this family communicate?

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(Jo) Melissa?

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(Jo - recorded) She doesn't know.

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(Narrator) Or, will they fall to pieces?

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(Dramatic musical sting)

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[Theme Song: 'Be Good Johnny' by Men At Work]

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[Background guitar music]

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(Jo) Well, I'm here in Papillion, Nebraska, and 
there's a family that needs my help.

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(Jo) So let's take a look.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) Hello! We are the Baulisch family.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) I'm Dorthy.

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(Kip's Interpreter) And I'm Kip.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) And we have four children.

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(Melissa) Hi, I'm Melissa. I'm 18.

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(Melissa) I have three little sisters.

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(Melissa) Jessica is the oldest.

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(Melissa) Jennifer - 7.

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(Screaming)

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(Melissa) and Kristin - 5.

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(Kristin) I don't like that!

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) And all four of our children are hearing.

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(Jo) Well, this is going to be an experience for me.

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(Jo) Working with deaf parents who have hearing children.

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(Annoyed grunt)

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) Jennifer is very, very explosive. She's angry.

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(Jennifer-shouting) No!

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(Melissa) Jessica, she's not as bad as Jennifer.

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(Jessica) No!

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(Melissa) But, she's very sneaky.

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(Jessica) You pull hair all the time.

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(Melissa) Kristin, she's the baby of the family.

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(Melissa) Of course, the baby always gets what they want.

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(Screaming)

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(Melissa) Sometimes I feel like my sisters take advantage 
of my s- of my parents being deaf.

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(Kristin) You put it back.

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(Dorthy) No. You put it back at dinner.

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(Kristin) That's not my problem.

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(Melissa) My mom, she disciplines, but, I don't think she disciplines 'em...

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(Melissa)...that well.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) Because they're devils!

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) They don't listen!

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) All three of the girls, they think 
that because we're deaf, they can be wild.

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(Kip's Interpreter) I've got wild kids on my hands here.

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(Kip's Interpreter) It's very stressful.

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(Jo) Cheeky.

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(Kip) Kristin, go to bed.

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(Kristin) No!

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(Melissa) At bedtime, my sisters are crazy. They don't-

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(Melissa) go to sleep on time.

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(Jessica) Kiss my butt.

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(Jennifer) You are so a brat!

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(Jennifer) Shut up!

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(Kip) No.

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(Jo) What kind of bedtime is this?

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(Jennifer) No!

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) We do have challenges with communicating.

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(Melissa) Jessica knows some sign language, but it's not fluent.

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(Melissa) fluent cause my mom talks.

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(Kristin shouting)

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(Kristin crying)

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(Jo) This is crazy.

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(Jo) These parents are not even teaching their kids American sign language.

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(Jo) How can they communicate properly?

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(Melissa) There's a little bit of a strained relationship between me and Kip.

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(Melissa) He's my step-dad. Sometimes we just stay away from each other.

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(Melissa) It's like he's not really involved in what I'm doing.

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(Jo) This is really sad to see.

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(Melissa) I feel that I have a lot of responsibilities on me.

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(Melissa) Mom, how is it my responsibility? You're the mother, not me.

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(Melissa) I'm kind of like the hearing mother in a way.

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(Jessica) Ow!

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(Melissa) Stop! Kristin! Knock it off.

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(Jo) These parents need to take responsibility of what's theirs.

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(Melissa) I feel like sometimes that I didn't really live a normal teenage life.

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(Melissa) I had to grow up really fast.

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(Melissa) You can leave, but you're going to bed 
early and you're not getting no snack.

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(Jessica) I do not like it no more.

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(Melissa) You can pick. I'll let you pick.

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(Melissa) I just want to be this sister.

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(Melissa) I want to be there for them, not their mother.

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(Jo) This just isn't fair for this poor girl.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) I just feel like, uh, giving up.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) With them. With the rules and disciplining. We need help.

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(Jessica groans)

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) We need your help Supernanny!

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(Jo) Well, these parents certainly need my help.

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(Jo) I better get on my way.

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[Music becomes light and upbeat]

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[Ding-Dong]

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(Jo and Dorthy) Hello!

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(Jo) Pleased to meet you.

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(Dorthy) Nice meeting you.

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(Jo) Pleased to meet you.

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(Dorthy) Come on in.

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(Interpreter) When I first saw Jo, and she 
came into my home, I felt relieved

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(Interpreter) to see her when she got there.

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(Jo) So, I'll come up.

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(Jo) I was welcomed very warmly.

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(Jo) And I was very pleased to see that 
the interpreter was there already to help me.

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(Jo) be able to have full communication with this family.

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(Jo) Who do we have here?

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(Kristin) Kristin.

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(Jo) I'm Jo-Jo, and how old are you?

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(Kristin) Five.

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(Jo) Five.

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(Jessica) I'm Jessica.

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(Jo) You're Jessica. And how old are you Jessica?

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(Jessica) Eight.

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(Jo) You're eight. And you're...

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(Jennifer) Jennifer.

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(Jo) Hi Jennifer, pleased to meet you.

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(Jo) You're Melissa. <i>Laughs</i>

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(Melissa) Hi.

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(Jo) Hi Melissa. Pleased to meet you.

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(Melissa) Nice to...

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(Melissa- cutaway) When I first saw Jo, I 
couldn't believe that it was really happening.

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(Dorthy's Interpreter) My husband.

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(Jo) Hi! Pleased to meet you.

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(Melissa) That's Kip.

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(Jo) So, today, I'm gonna be observing your family.

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(Jo) So please, just carry on.

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[Intense Piano Music]

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(Jo) I wasn't in the house long when I saw a 
clear example of how the children ignore their own mother.

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(Jo) They don't look at her facial expressions or her signs.

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(Jo) The girls completely ignore their Mom.

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(Jo) She asked them to put their shoes 
away, and they just walked on by.

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(Dorthy) Jessica!

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(Dorthy) Where are you going?

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(Jennifer) It's easy to get away, because-

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(Jennifer) with stuff because my Mom and Dad are deaf.

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(Girls laughing)

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(Jo) What were they doing down there?

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(Interpreter) Jennifer's sister and... whispers and I can't see what she's talking.

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(Interpreter) Jennifer, I- I can't hardly read her 
lips cause she covers her hands, see.

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(Dorthy) I don't like for them to be talking behind my back like that.

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(Jo) Some kids do speak behind their parents backs.

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(Jo) But because these parents are deaf, their 
kids do it right underneath their nose.

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(Jessica) No!

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(Jo) And I think that's just disrespectful.

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(Jo) And it's not just the older girls that disrespect mom.

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(Jo) The younger girl, Kristin, does the same.

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(Kristin laughs)

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(Interpreter) You want some lunch?

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(Girl off-screen) I'm thirsty.

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(Jo) Did you understand what your mom was saying?

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(Jo) No.

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(Jo - cutaway) You know, not only do 
these kids choose to ignore their parents,

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(Jo - cutaway) but they don't know enough American Sign Language either.

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[Birds Tweeting]

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(Jo) Because Melissa's very good at sign language, it means 
that her parents rely on her all the time.

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(Jo) She becomes their interpreter 24/7.

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[Clanging]

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(Melissa) Stop hitting, Jessica. Jessica stop. Right now.

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(Melissa) Do I have to put these away?

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(Jessica) No!

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(Melissa) Pick this up.

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(Jennifer) That's not mine.

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(Melissa) Whose is it? Jessica?

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(Melissa) Come here

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(Jessica) Why?

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(Melissa) Because I said 'come pick this up'

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(Jo) I can see that Melissa's in a very difficult situation.

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(Jo) So I wanted to have a little talk with 
her just to see how she's holding up.

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(Jo) What does it feel like for you, as an 18 year old,

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(Jo) having the responsibility of taking care of your three younger sisters?

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(Melissa) I just feel bad because they don't listen 
to my Mom, but they'll listen to me.

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(Jo) But I'm interested in what it makes you feel.

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(Melissa) I get- I get overwhelmed.

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(Melissa) sometimes.

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(Jo) Let's talk about this in your room.

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(Jo) Melissa's had a responsibility of a third parent,

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(Jo) and that's a lot for her to handle

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(Jo) As a young adult. I mean she's 18 years old.

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(Melissa) I just think it'd be, like, it'd be really 
good for us to be able to communicate,

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(Melissa) if we're all on the same page.

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(Melissa) you know.

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(Jo) So the biggest thing that your parents could 
give you right now would be what?

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(Melissa) Just take care of my sisters and- I 
just want what's best for my sisters.

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(Jo) But what's-

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(Melissa) but like, help me out too in a way, you know?

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(Melissa) Just be there for me when I need them.

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(Melissa) I don't even have time to be 
a kid anymore. Like, that's over now.

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(Jo) So what- what- what you're really saying,

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(Jo) even though that you're an 18-year old woman, and you 
hold down two jobs, and you earn your own dollar,

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(Jo) Inside, there's just still this little girl that wants to be held, huh?

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(Jo) Really? Huh? Seriously? Huh? As an 18-year old?

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(Jo) Hmm?

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(Melissa) Yeah.

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(Jo) You still want to be able to reach out to 
your mom and go, 'Mom, this is how I'm feeling'

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(Jo) Huh?

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(Melissa) Yes.

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(Jo) Hm?

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(Jo) Well we're gonna work on this.

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(Jo) Together.

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(Narrator) Coming up on Supernanny

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(Jennifer) Well!

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(Dorthy) Stop it.

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(Narrator) Things go badly at bedtime.

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(Interpreter) Please, please, please. I just need your help.

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(Narrator) And later...

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(Interpreter) I know we're parents, but I think being deaf-

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(Jo) That doesn't make you any less a parent because you are deaf.

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(Narrator) Jo's not in the mood to hear excuses.

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(Jo) It's your responsibility, not Melissa's.

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(Narrator) When Supernanny returns.

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[Snippet of 'Be Good Johnny' by Men at Work]

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[Slow gloomy background music]

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(Jo) Kip has been Melissa's step-father for nine years.

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(Jo) And for those nine years, it's been very strained.

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(Jo) I wanted to talk to him and find out more.

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(Jo) You have a relationship with Melissa that...is-

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(Interpreter) No, I really don't.

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(Jo) You don't have one.

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(Interpreter) We just don't get along.

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(Interpreter) She says she hate me. Yet it hurts me.

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(Interpreter) I gotta admit. You know, I have see- I can sit alone 
and- and even cry about it because there's no relationship between us.

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(Interpreter) I do love her. I love Melissa.

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(Interpreter) But...she needs...we need to- our relationship, our family, and our future.

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(Interpreter) We just need to improve all of this.

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(Jo) I appreciate that.

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(Jo) Thank you.

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[Brass March Music]

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(Jo) It was in the afternoon when I got to talk to Kip,

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(Jo) And I realized that the kids treat 
him just like they do their mother.

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(Jo) Nobody listens.

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(Kristin) No!

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(Kristin shouting)

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(Interpreter) I didn't give her perm-