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Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.55,0:00:20.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.24,0:00:52.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.66,0:01:22.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.07,0:01:42.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, good afternoon,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.26,0:01:48.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dear respected Thay, dear beloved \Nbrothers and sisters and friends
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.79,0:01:56.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today is Thursday, the 26th of July 2018
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.24,0:02:05.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are in the Still Water Hall, \Nmeditation hall of Upper Hamlet
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.25,0:02:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is the last Dharma Talk of the \Nthird week of our annual Summer Retreat.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.85,0:02:16.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's very hot.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.78,0:02:24.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for coming to sit here,\NI try to keep it short and sweet,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.19,0:02:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can all go out \Nand enjoy some fresh air after this.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:30.72,0:02:35.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today I'll be speaking \Nabout the four Brahmavirahas,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.70,0:02:41.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the four immeasurable minds \Nthat really are a guide
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.18,0:02:48.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to how we can respond \Nto life situations with love
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.01,0:02:50.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think it's a hot day,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.94,0:02:53.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so maybe we have to respond \Nwith love by keeping it short.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.59,0:03:01.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Today we celebrate the Full Moon festival\Ntogether, here in Upper Hamlet
Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.89,0:03:05.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's why we have \Nthe Dharma talk in the afternoon,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.18,0:03:13.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the friends from the New Hamlet don't \Nneed to ride the bus back and forth twice.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.48,0:03:16.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,An expression of love and understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.26,0:03:19.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A good start.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.25,0:03:24.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We started this week with a smile, \Ndo you remember?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.60,0:03:30.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sister Hoi Nghiem shared how \Nevery morning when she recites the ghata,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.57,0:03:33.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,waking up this morning I smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.80,0:03:36.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,24 brand new hours are before me,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.55,0:03:39.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I vow to live them fully each moment
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.58,0:03:42.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and look at all beings \Nwith the eyes of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:43.79,0:03:46.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when she notices \Nthat she forgot to smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.66,0:03:49.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she will lie down again \Nand start all over again.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.08,0:03:55.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my question is, how many times \Ndid you lie down again this week?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.17,0:03:58.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did you remember?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.30,0:04:04.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that story definitely brought \Na smile to our face, didn't it?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.13,0:04:08.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.46,0:04:18.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in case you missed the chance \Nto smile, we're waking up.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.69,0:04:24.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought, maybe we start by giving you \Na chance to smile
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.100,0:04:29.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to enjoy your smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.76,0:04:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A smile makes us feel better \Nstraight away.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.33,0:04:48.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether we're the ones who receive it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.79,0:04:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the ones who offer it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.98,0:04:53.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the ones who just smile \Nbecause, why not?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.71,0:04:56.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why would we not smile?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.66,0:04:58.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It makes us feel better straight away.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.36,0:05:05.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as we heard, \Nit's the best way to start the day
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.86,0:05:09.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A smile can even turn "Monday morning",
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.58,0:05:12.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if that still exists, nowadays \Nthat we work from home
Dialogue: 0,0:05:13.05,0:05:15.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Monday morning, not a too pleasant morning
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.32,0:05:21.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I hope that it can also turn\Na hot Thursday afternoon
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.80,0:05:23.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into a pleasant afternoon.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.76,0:05:30.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let's start with a short meditation \Nto bring our mind home to our body.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.61,0:05:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Make yourself comfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.87,0:05:42.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and let's bring some loving \Nkindness to ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.86,0:05:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by, during the meditation, \Ngoing through our body
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.51,0:05:54.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and whenever we encounter \Na feeling of tension,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.21,0:06:00.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the outbreath, to relax the tension, \Nto soften it
Dialogue: 0,0:06:01.02,0:06:04.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to smile to it, to say,\N{\i1}"I know you're there,{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.69,0:06:09.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}I love you too, you are also me.{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:06:13.34,0:06:16.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let's start by enjoying \Na sound of the bell.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.100,0:06:39.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.33,0:07:03.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let us become aware of the air \Nas it flows into and out of our body,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.23,0:07:08.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and smile to our inbreath and outbreath
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.50,0:07:17.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knowing that we are alive in this moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.82,0:07:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let us become aware of our body
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.04,0:07:32.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and scan our body from the top of our head
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.91,0:07:35.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the way down to the tip of our toes.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:38.97,0:07:44.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we sweep along any tension \Nwe may find on our way
Dialogue: 0,0:07:46.77,0:07:49.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe there's tension in our head,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.55,0:07:52.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe behind our forehead,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.97,0:07:59.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or around our eyes, behind our eyes,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.10,0:08:04.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,around our ears
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.95,0:08:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our jaws,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.05,0:08:14.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe our neck,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.08,0:08:20.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and on every outbreath, we smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.30,0:08:29.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which helps to soften \Nthe tension we encounter.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.59,0:08:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Become aware of our shoulders,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.96,0:08:42.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then sweep down into the arms,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.77,0:08:49.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our hands and our fingers.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:51.00,0:08:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On every outbreath, softening the tension
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.39,0:08:57.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by offering it a smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.41,0:09:07.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We sweep down our trunk
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.67,0:09:11.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our back and our front.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.77,0:09:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then the lower part of our body,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.89,0:09:23.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the buttocks and the abdomen.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.76,0:09:32.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Softening any tension we may find\Nin the buttocks or in the abdomen
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.11,0:09:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by offering it a smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.98,0:09:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then we sweep down into the legs,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.12,0:09:51.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the way down into the feet,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.61,0:09:54.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the tip of the toes.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.27,0:10:03.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And here too, softening any tension\Nwe may encounter,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.35,0:10:08.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and offering it a smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.17,0:10:20.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now become aware that we have arrived
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.89,0:10:23.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on our chair or on our cushion
Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.63,0:10:26.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or on the ground, \Nif you're sitting on the ground.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.16,0:10:36.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our body is here \Nand our mind is in the now,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.03,0:10:38.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the present moment.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.76,0:10:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Body and mind, relaxed.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.93,0:11:12.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we like to allow \Na smile to be born on our lips.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.74,0:11:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.66,0:12:32.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We usually smile when we want \Nto acknowledge the presence of someone,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.55,0:12:35.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of someone we meet,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.87,0:12:38.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is very common to smile then.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.09,0:12:43.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we walk around \Nthe grounds of Plum Village
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.92,0:12:47.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're bound to meet people, \Nbecause there are many of us, here,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.96,0:12:51.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have a lot of opportunities \Nto smile throughout the day.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.05,0:12:59.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A smile or a nod of the head,\Nsomething like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.15,0:13:03.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In some cultures they do that, \Nnot a smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.37,0:13:10.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At home, when we walk in the streets\Nand we meet a neighbor,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.66,0:13:14.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we also smile, even if they're \Non the other side of the street
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.34,0:13:17.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe we wave as well,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.99,0:13:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but often, we just smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.39,0:13:23.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To let them know, "I see you,"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.02,0:13:28.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I've seen you, \NI acknowledge your presence,"
Dialogue: 0,0:13:30.37,0:13:32.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is very important.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.44,0:13:44.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody needs love, needs to be loved,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.03,0:13:48.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everybody has a need to love as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:49.39,0:13:51.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But very often, the way we love
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.04,0:13:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ends up imprisoning the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:01.97,0:14:04.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:05.35,0:14:10.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how can we love and be free\Nat the same time?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:24.58,0:14:28.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What may happen when we meet somebody\Nand we offer them a smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:29.100,0:14:31.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tears come to their eyes.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:32.94,0:14:37.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they have a feeling \Nthat they haven't been seen
Dialogue: 0,0:14:38.85,0:14:42.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or acknowledged in their being, \Nfor a long time.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:44.38,0:14:45.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We may live with other people
Dialogue: 0,0:14:47.52,0:14:48.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we're so busy,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.68,0:14:52.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we watch many things,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.53,0:14:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we look at many things, but \Nwe don't look at the people we live with.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.39,0:15:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We already heard it this week,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:01.74,0:15:06.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it also strikes me every time \NI travel, for instance,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:07.40,0:15:12.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm in the departure lounge,\Nthere are many people,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.62,0:15:16.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're all sitting \Nwith their gadgets,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:17.98,0:15:20.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Last time, when I came into the lounge,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:21.34,0:15:25.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tried to guess who was with who.\NThat was quite difficult!
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.90,0:15:29.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they're sitting with their \Nback to each other, doing this,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:29.08,0:15:31.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought, \NI don't think they came together.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:32.25,0:15:34.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when it is time to board, \Nthey speak to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:15:34.84,0:15:37.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they go off together to board.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.03,0:15:41.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "apparently \Nthey did come together."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.98,0:15:44.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's difficult to tell.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.64,0:15:50.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Usually I can tell \Nif children and parents are together,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.39,0:15:53.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they sit together \Nand they may say something,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.00,0:15:56.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're also quite...
Dialogue: 0,0:16:02.94,0:16:06.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,immersed in whatever \Nthey're doing with their gadgets
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.29,0:16:09.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is such a pity,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.05,0:16:14.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the most precious thing we can \Noffer each other is our true presence.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:16.28,0:16:22.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we sit in a departure lounge,\Na waiting room,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.58,0:16:27.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have nowhere to go and nothing to do\Nuntil we board the plane.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:28.75,0:16:31.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a very good opportunity\Nto be there for each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.75,0:16:35.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to just offer each other's presence.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.28,0:16:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay gave us a mantra that says\N"I am here for you."
Dialogue: 0,0:16:47.65,0:16:52.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not a mantra in Sanskrit \Nor some other language,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.00,0:16:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is a mantra in colloquial language,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:57.87,0:16:59.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am here for you."
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.74,0:17:01.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In French, "Je suis là pour toi,"
Dialogue: 0,0:17:02.52,0:17:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can translate it \Ninto your own language.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.79,0:17:08.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to go to our loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.14,0:17:13.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,first, bring our mind home to our body,\Nas we did just now.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:14.22,0:17:19.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be truly present, and then say:\N"Darling, I'm here for you."
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.14,0:17:26.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I leave it up to you\Nto discover what happens after that,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:27.25,0:17:29.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you can let us know next year.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.04,0:17:32.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm truly here for you.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:37.03,0:17:43.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To hear, to listen, to understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:47.14,0:17:49.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,True Love comes from understanding,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.14,0:17:52.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in order to understand,\Nwe need to listen carefully.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:54.00,0:17:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We need to listen to what's being said\Ninbetween the lines
Dialogue: 0,0:18:00.42,0:18:04.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the beginning of the week, \Nwe chanted {\i1}Namo Avalokiteshvaraya,{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:18:05.73,0:18:10.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we invoked the name \Nof the Bodhisattva Avalokitha,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:10.88,0:18:12.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who has the capacity to listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.77,0:18:18.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, also, to hear what's being said\Nand what is left unsaid.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:20.16,0:18:25.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To really listen, \Nbecause our loved one, or our friend,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.92,0:18:27.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our parent or our child,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:27.88,0:18:29.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,may be saying something in words,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:30.98,0:18:33.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,may be saying one thing in words,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.57,0:18:36.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but their eyes may be saying \Nsomething else.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:38.95,0:18:43.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, being present and looking into \Ntheir eyes, maybe their body language,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.64,0:18:48.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we will be able to hear \Nwhat's being left unsaid,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:49.11,0:18:51.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what actually wants to be heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:52.71,0:18:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What wants to be heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:03.35,0:19:08.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let us enjoy a sound of the bell,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:08.84,0:19:12.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and offer ourselves our true presence \None more time.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:12.99,0:19:14.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bringing our mind home to our body.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:18.16,0:19:20.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hello body, I'm here for you",
Dialogue: 0,0:19:21.40,0:19:24.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,making ourselves present for ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:35.93,0:19:47.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:20:17.60,0:20:19.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I wake up in the morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:20.97,0:20:24.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like my sister,\NI don't always remember to smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:25.98,0:20:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I remember smiling in the morning,\Nbetter,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:29.68,0:20:33.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I remember to smile \Nbefore I go to sleep.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:34.30,0:20:37.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, if you didn't remember to smile\Nin the morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:37.86,0:20:40.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,try smiling at night,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:40.07,0:20:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you may also remember better.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:43.73,0:20:45.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then, when I get to the bathroom,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:46.26,0:20:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I see a mirror.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:48.26,0:20:51.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I first came to Plum Village,\Nwe didn't have so many mirrors,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:51.60,0:20:53.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but now we have more mirrors,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:53.32,0:20:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I have a chance to see myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:57.34,0:21:00.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of you who have been \Ncoming for a long time, remember this.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:04.31,0:21:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't have any hair, I don't need \Nto put on make up and things like that
Dialogue: 0,0:21:10.00,0:21:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I look in the mirror and I think,\Nwhy should I look in the mirror?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:13.60,0:21:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh, I could smile at myself, why not?\N
Dialogue: 0,0:21:16.17,0:21:17.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Hello!
Dialogue: 0,0:21:19.63,0:21:23.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good morning, how are you?"\NWhy not?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:23.02,0:21:24.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's what I do.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:25.42,0:21:30.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I forget to smile when I wake up,\NI remember when I look into the mirror.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:31.23,0:21:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Try it. It's bit kind of awkward \Nin the beginning, smiling at yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:21:35.80,0:21:37.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's worth the while.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:37.94,0:21:40.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we practise, \Nif we're talking about true love
Dialogue: 0,0:21:41.09,0:21:43.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe we can start by loving ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:44.23,0:21:47.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the least we can do, \Nis offering ourselves a smile.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:49.37,0:21:53.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And saying, ok, I know you're there,\Nand I'm so happy.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:54.32,0:21:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How are you today?
Dialogue: 0,0:21:59.59,0:22:00.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:03.76,0:22:06.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the gatha, we smile to a new day.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:08.42,0:22:12.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the gatha, that's the little poem \Nthat the sister recited,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:12.60,0:22:14.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}waking up this morning, I smile{\i0},
Dialogue: 0,0:22:14.94,0:22:18.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a little poem that we recite \Nwhen we wake up in the morning.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:19.29,0:22:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we wake up in the morning,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:22:20.89,0:22:24.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we want to water \Nthe seed of compassion in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:25.24,0:22:27.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To look at all beings with compassion,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:28.40,0:22:32.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought, well, since I'm \Nthe first being to meet this morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:33.27,0:22:34.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why not smile to myself?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:37.14,0:22:40.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we wake up \Nand we can smile to the new day.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:41.75,0:22:43.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a new day.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:46.27,0:22:49.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We could reflect,\Nhow did I live my day yesterday?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:50.79,0:22:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a new day.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:22:52.54,0:22:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can live it \Nwith a little bit more compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:22:57.70,0:22:59.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for myself and for others.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:01.94,0:23:06.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We smile to the people around us,\Nour loved ones, and smile to nature.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:06.44,0:23:08.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it seems much easier
Dialogue: 0,0:23:08.93,0:23:12.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to smile to a singing bird \Nor to a tree or to a flower
Dialogue: 0,0:23:12.72,0:23:14.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than to the person who's right next to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:17.04,0:23:21.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,However, the person who's right next to us\Nis also a flower.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:22.88,0:23:27.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And our smile will make her, \Nhim, them, bloom.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:29.95,0:23:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we can practice smiling to nature
Dialogue: 0,0:23:35.42,0:23:40.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to develop \Nthe capacity of smiling.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:43.39,0:23:46.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can also smile to our joy,\Nas well as our suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:47.96,0:23:51.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then we can just smile\Nfor the joy of smiling.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:53.08,0:23:54.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:57.12,0:24:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this was before I ordained,\Nbut I already knew of the practice,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:02.72,0:24:04.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was walking down the street,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:04.68,0:24:07.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all of a sudden somebody stopped\Nand turned around,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:07.29,0:24:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought, \NOh, maybe I know this person,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:09.61,0:24:11.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I turned around and said:\N"Do I know you?"
Dialogue: 0,0:24:12.39,0:24:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He said: "No - such a beautiful smile,"\Nand I said: "Oh? Ok."
Dialogue: 0,0:24:16.63,0:24:19.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I thought, \NI didn't even know I was smiling,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:19.50,0:24:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I was smiling \Nfor no reason whatsoever,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:24.53,0:24:30.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just smile because I was feeling well, \NI guess.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:31.11,0:24:31.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:32.16,0:24:33.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was smiling.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:33.48,0:24:37.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we don't need a specific \Nor a particular reason to smile,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:38.58,0:24:40.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can smile just like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:46.29,0:24:51.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay said: "Sometimes our smile \Nis born from love,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:52.18,0:24:55.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes love \Nis born from our smile."
Dialogue: 0,0:24:57.36,0:24:58.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:04.76,0:25:06.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So true love has four aspects,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:07.13,0:25:09.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these four aspects \Nare within ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:10.11,0:25:12.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are within ourselves \Nin the form of a seed.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:13.88,0:25:15.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We already heard about seeds this week,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:16.30,0:25:17.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our store consciousness,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:18.15,0:25:20.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that need to be watered in order to bloom,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:20.83,0:25:21.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into a flower.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:22.16,0:25:24.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is to say, a seed is a potential.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:25.34,0:25:30.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have the capacity to love,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:30.84,0:25:33.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have loving kindness in our heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:33.71,0:25:36.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have the capacity to be compassionate.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:36.92,0:25:39.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have the capacity to feel joy,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:39.87,0:25:45.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have the capacity to feel equanimity\Nand to be inclusive.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:46.61,0:25:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's in seed form, the potential,\Nand when it's watered,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:51.56,0:25:53.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when the seed gets water,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:56.20,0:25:59.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then it manifests as a mental formation,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:59.91,0:26:02.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or in other words, as a state of mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:04.51,0:26:08.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So these four aspects of love, \Nwe call them:
Dialogue: 0,0:26:10.36,0:26:15.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Four Immeasurable States of Mind,\Nthe immeasurable minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:16.81,0:26:23.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they're immeasurable \Nbecause we can extend these aspects
Dialogue: 0,0:26:23.96,0:26:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to all beings and to everything that is,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:27.91,0:26:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,including Mother Earth.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:29.98,0:26:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have no limit,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:32.22,0:26:34.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the unlimited minds.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:37.07,0:26:42.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're within us, so it's not \Nsomething we have to get somewhere,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:43.47,0:26:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they are in us in potential.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:46.47,0:26:48.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's a matter of watering them.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:49.30,0:26:54.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can water the seeds by practising \NDeep Looking and Deep Listening
Dialogue: 0,0:26:57.30,0:27:03.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first aspect is Maïtri, \Nalso called Loving Kindness
Dialogue: 0,0:27:04.47,0:27:07.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or, here in Plum Village, \Nwe sometimes call it Love.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:07.51,0:27:08.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just Love.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:11.51,0:27:16.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is the intention \Nand the capacity to love.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:17.78,0:27:21.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We may have an intention, but that doesn't\Nmean we have the capacity.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:22.08,0:27:24.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The capacity, we develop.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:27.19,0:27:31.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the capacity to love \Nstems from understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:37.41,0:27:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The capacity to offer joy and happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:46.77,0:27:52.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to offer happiness to others,\Nwe have to understand them.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:52.34,0:27:55.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have to know their aspirations,\Ntheir dreams,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:58.39,0:27:59.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their hopes.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:01.20,0:28:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is it they hope for in their lives?\NWhat is it?
Dialogue: 0,0:28:07.45,0:28:12.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes our parents have had dreams\Nfor their own future, as a young person,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:12.83,0:28:16.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but maybe conditions were not sufficient\Nfor them to realize it.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:17.40,0:28:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then they hope, they wish so much
Dialogue: 0,0:28:19.84,0:28:26.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that their children will be able \Nto realize their dreams,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:27.24,0:28:31.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we may have our own dream\Nwhich may not be the same,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:32.27,0:28:35.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and although our parents \Nwant the best for us,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:36.40,0:28:40.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,actually, we suffer a little bit.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:42.20,0:28:43.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We suffer a little bit.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:48.28,0:28:52.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here in Plum Village, Thay teaches us \Nthat we as elders need to look deeply
Dialogue: 0,0:28:53.06,0:28:58.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to understand the aspirations and the joys\Nand the suffering of our younger siblings.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:59.80,0:29:01.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have to listen to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:03.82,0:29:08.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sometimes I encourage \Nmy younger sisters in the Dharma
Dialogue: 0,0:29:08.94,0:29:13.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to do things that I think will help them \Nto make progress on the Path.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:14.79,0:29:16.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that can cause them suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:19.47,0:29:25.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So as a practise as an elder, \NI'm practising looking and listening
Dialogue: 0,0:29:25.78,0:29:28.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to understand \Nwhat their dreams are
Dialogue: 0,0:29:29.26,0:29:33.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see what would be \Nthe next step on their path,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:33.43,0:29:35.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how can I offer support.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:46.46,0:29:51.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this is my practise \Nof making progress on the path,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:51.90,0:29:54.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is, to listen to my younger ones.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:55.58,0:29:57.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Here in Plum Village, \Nwe celebrate Christmas,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:58.68,0:30:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's an opportunity to offer a gift\Nto one of our sisters
Dialogue: 0,0:30:05.84,0:30:09.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A few years ago I went shopping \Nwith another sister
Dialogue: 0,0:30:10.49,0:30:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who had just arrived,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:13.15,0:30:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then she looked \Nat what I put in the basket
Dialogue: 0,0:30:16.54,0:30:18.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she said "Sister Dieu Nghiem,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:18.88,0:30:21.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is not your taste at all, \Nwhy do you buy those things?"
Dialogue: 0,0:30:22.72,0:30:25.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I said: "Because this is \Nwhat my sister likes."
Dialogue: 0,0:30:29.19,0:30:30.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I realized,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:32.27,0:30:37.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe in the past I have offered things \Nto friends, to my siblings, that I like,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:38.43,0:30:42.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this would be a wonderful present,\Nbecause it's so beautiful, you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:30:43.01,0:30:47.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I give it to them, \Nand now in hindsight, I think, hm....
Dialogue: 0,0:30:49.65,0:30:53.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe that was a present that came \Nfrom a lot of love
Dialogue: 0,0:30:54.35,0:30:56.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a little lack of understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:59.19,0:31:03.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I remember \Nthey all accepted it very gracefully,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:06.87,0:31:11.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so, they may have realized \Nit was a good intention.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:14.64,0:31:16.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maïtri is also friendship.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:17.46,0:31:21.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's the word Mitra \Nthat's connected to Maïtri,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:22.08,0:31:23.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it means Spiritual Friend.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:26.16,0:31:31.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A friend is somebody, a heart friend,\Nsomebody that understands us,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:32.39,0:31:34.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who understands our dreams \Nand our aspirations,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:34.92,0:31:36.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our joys and our sufferings,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:37.31,0:31:39.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with whom we can share from our heart
Dialogue: 0,0:31:41.64,0:31:45.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with whom we can share our joys \Nand also our suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:31:47.48,0:31:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who will listen \Nwithout judging or reacting
Dialogue: 0,0:31:51.98,0:31:53.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and who will not give advice.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:56.50,0:31:57.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You know what you should do"
Dialogue: 0,0:32:03.68,0:32:07.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But also, it's on the path in our life,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:08.04,0:32:12.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's also that they can point out to us
Dialogue: 0,0:32:15.39,0:32:17.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something that we don't see.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:18.48,0:32:22.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they can point that out to us \Nin a way that we can hear it.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:23.72,0:32:29.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, to be a true friend,\Nto be a friend on the spiritual path,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:32.29,0:32:36.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it needs Deep Looking and Deep Listening,\Nand some understanding,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:36.78,0:32:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to point something out in a way \Nthat it can be received.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:45.18,0:32:47.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also noticed on my path,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:48.51,0:32:53.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have given some input and...
Dialogue: 0,0:32:56.27,0:32:58.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it wasn't in a way it could be received.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:59.41,0:33:01.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although I gave it \Nwith the best of intentions
Dialogue: 0,0:33:03.22,0:33:08.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I'm becoming more and more mindful
Dialogue: 0,0:33:09.26,0:33:13.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of how I give some encouragements.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:14.98,0:33:19.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,However well meant, it needs to be \Nin the right way at the right time
Dialogue: 0,0:33:22.66,0:33:26.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we may have a spiritual friend \Nwho we know very well.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:28.08,0:33:29.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She can say a little bit more,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:29.97,0:33:32.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we have this friendship \Nthat holds all this
Dialogue: 0,0:33:33.81,0:33:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she can say, \Nlike one of my sisters said,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:38.04,0:33:42.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"well, you could look at the habit energy.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:43.40,0:33:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of your habit energies is, \Nsometimes you're quite impulsive.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:48.69,0:33:50.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You react spontaneously to something,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:51.72,0:33:54.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it may not always be \Nthe right thing to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:55.72,0:33:58.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I said, "Thank you, \NI will look into that."
Dialogue: 0,0:33:59.27,0:34:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know it came from her care.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:02.89,0:34:06.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, having a good friend with whom \Nwe can share, so that we can grow.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:09.17,0:34:12.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our heart can become larger,\Nwe can embrace more,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:13.60,0:34:15.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can find more happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:34:16.76,0:34:18.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for ourselves and for others
Dialogue: 0,0:34:21.09,0:34:25.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, to give some feedback,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:26.09,0:34:28.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to be aware of
Dialogue: 0,0:34:28.71,0:34:31.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from where we are giving that feedback.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:34.89,0:34:38.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes someone in our community \Nmay be passing through a difficult time,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:39.77,0:34:43.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,therefore also cause some difficulties, \Nsome suffering to others
Dialogue: 0,0:34:46.41,0:34:53.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm becoming more and more aware\Nof what this touches in me.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:54.54,0:34:56.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it touches a kind of annoyance,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:57.78,0:35:01.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, can she not take better care \Nof her suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:02.09,0:35:04.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of causing others also to suffer?
Dialogue: 0,0:35:06.76,0:35:12.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then, not so long ago, I thought,\Nwait a minute.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:13.72,0:35:17.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I were suffering, and somebody wanted\Nto point something out to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:18.38,0:35:20.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how would I like to be approached?
Dialogue: 0,0:35:23.98,0:35:26.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then I thought, with kindness.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:27.69,0:35:28.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With some love.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:30.10,0:35:34.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I took some time to be with my sister,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:35.32,0:35:37.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be able to touch her suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:38.92,0:35:40.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is her suffering?
Dialogue: 0,0:35:40.56,0:35:43.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The little I know about the roots, \Ncan I just touch it?
Dialogue: 0,0:35:45.74,0:35:47.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I could interact with her,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:47.98,0:35:50.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a big smile came up on her lips,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:51.72,0:35:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought, yes, that was \Nbecause I came with love in my heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:58.64,0:36:01.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with compassion, and not with annoyance.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:02.76,0:36:05.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought just kindness,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:06.41,0:36:08.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just plain kindness,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:11.11,0:36:12.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how much does it take,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:13.07,0:36:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I asked myself, why does it take me \Nso long sometimes?
Dialogue: 0,0:36:19.69,0:36:24.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized, it takes long \Nbecause I'm not very kind to myself.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:26.13,0:36:28.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I be kind to others \Nif I'm not kind to myself?
Dialogue: 0,0:36:29.32,0:36:31.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Can I have a little bit more kindness
Dialogue: 0,0:36:31.14,0:36:33.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a little bit more compassion \Nto watch myself?
Dialogue: 0,0:36:38.18,0:36:43.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So lately I've been practising to look \Nat myself with the eyes of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:36:46.26,0:36:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see, \Nwhy do I think the way I think,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:52.17,0:36:54.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why do I speak the way I speak?
Dialogue: 0,0:36:55.34,0:36:57.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why do I act the way I act,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:59.06,0:37:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in my interactions with others.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:03.47,0:37:05.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is happening for me?
Dialogue: 0,0:37:10.07,0:37:14.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when I look and I see my shortcomings,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:16.54,0:37:19.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe a little impatience,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:22.78,0:37:26.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lack of understanding of myself also,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:28.61,0:37:31.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think, can I just accept myself as I am?
Dialogue: 0,0:37:32.80,0:37:37.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am as I am, because of \Nmany causes and conditions
Dialogue: 0,0:37:41.71,0:37:44.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All the seeds that were watered in me\Nduring my lifetime,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:45.89,0:37:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I have allowed to be watered \Nin me, during my lifetime,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:50.98,0:37:53.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe seeds I have inherited \Nfrom my ancestors
Dialogue: 0,0:37:55.41,0:37:58.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want something to be solved quickly,\NI'm very efficient.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:59.45,0:38:03.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that's not always the best way \Nto approach an issue
Dialogue: 0,0:38:06.76,0:38:08.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes you need time.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:09.61,0:38:11.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One time I went to Thay and I said:
Dialogue: 0,0:38:11.27,0:38:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Thay, I'd like to address this issue \Nwith one of the sisters."
Dialogue: 0,0:38:15.56,0:38:17.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Thay said: "Too soon.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:18.53,0:38:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Too soon, you have to wait."
Dialogue: 0,0:38:21.48,0:38:24.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay told me: "Sometimes Thay also \Nhas to wait for six months."
Dialogue: 0,0:38:25.99,0:38:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I thought, ok, let me walk \Nin the footsteps of my teacher,
Dialogue: 0,0:38:30.59,0:38:31.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and practise waiting.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:32.46,0:38:34.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Six months at least,
Dialogue: 0,0:38:35.78,0:38:37.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll see when the time is right.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:37.67,0:38:40.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realized time needs to be right in me.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:42.07,0:38:46.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I can approach with loving kindness\Nas a spiritual friend
Dialogue: 0,0:38:47.34,0:38:51.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I can approach with compassion,\Nthen the time may be right.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:52.16,0:38:54.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not only the time \Nfor the other person,
Dialogue: 0,0:38:55.32,0:38:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but for me, I have to be ready.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:59.99,0:39:01.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, to offer time.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:04.78,0:39:08.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second aspect of True Love \Nis Karuna, compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:09.17,0:39:13.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means the intention and the capacity\Nto relieve the suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:14.71,0:39:16.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,First of all, our own suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:17.23,0:39:22.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of our suffering is caused by \Nwrong perceptions, as we already heard.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:24.29,0:39:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's always good to go \Nand check our perceptions
Dialogue: 0,0:39:28.69,0:39:32.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"the other day, you said this; \Ncan you tell me why you said that?"
Dialogue: 0,0:39:36.06,0:39:39.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the beginning I said,\N"You said that!"
Dialogue: 0,0:39:41.57,0:39:42.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,quite unkindly.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:43.49,0:39:44.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why did you say this?"
Dialogue: 0,0:39:45.66,0:39:50.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I realize it doesn't inspire \Nthe other person to reply
Dialogue: 0,0:39:52.00,0:39:55.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because there is already \Na criticism in there,
Dialogue: 0,0:39:55.91,0:39:58.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the tone of my voice, the words I use.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:59.86,0:40:04.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, to ask, to check my perceptions,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:04.85,0:40:09.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also need to come from a place \Nof really wanting to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:40:10.70,0:40:14.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to give the other person\Nthe benefit of the doubt.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:18.71,0:40:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I also am unskillful at times,\Nnot necessarily on purpose,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:25.59,0:40:29.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I also appreciate when somebody \Ngives me the benefit of the doubt.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:33.32,0:40:36.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, trust the other person,\Nwe'll then be able
Dialogue: 0,0:40:38.30,0:40:42.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to understand that sharing with us,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:43.17,0:40:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why we said something,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:44.74,0:40:47.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will help relieve the suffering in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:56.10,0:41:00.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we find it difficult\Nto be with the suffering of someone else,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:00.74,0:41:04.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we like it to go away,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:06.50,0:41:10.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because their suffering makes us suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:10.84,0:41:12.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We suffer because they suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:13.59,0:41:16.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have the intention \Nto help relieve their suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:17.64,0:41:23.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but actually, underneath, there's the wish\Nthat if they don't suffer anymore,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:23.78,0:41:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I feel better.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:25.60,0:41:27.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we're doing it with a self-interest.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:29.14,0:41:33.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My experience is, when I do this,\Nit doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:34.64,0:41:35.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It just doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:37.63,0:41:40.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think, when we suffer, \Nwe're very sensitive
Dialogue: 0,0:41:40.20,0:41:43.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to with what kind of energy \Nsomeone approaches us.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:44.56,0:41:46.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they want us not to suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:46.49,0:41:49.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because our suffering \Nis causing them difficulties,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:49.70,0:41:51.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is causing them suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:51.68,0:41:55.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so, "stop suffering please, \Nso I can be happy",
Dialogue: 0,0:41:56.30,0:41:57.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't work like that.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:00.44,0:42:03.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we listen in order to help \Nrelieve the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:03.01,0:42:07.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's with the sole purpose \Nthat we would like the other person
Dialogue: 0,0:42:08.90,0:42:10.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be relieved of their suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:11.03,0:42:12.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not because of us.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:13.44,0:42:17.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we find it difficult to be \Nwith their suffering, we have to look,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:18.16,0:42:21.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why is it difficult to be \Nwith the suffering of the other?
Dialogue: 0,0:42:22.86,0:42:23.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to understand,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:26.25,0:42:28.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to look after ourselves in a way
Dialogue: 0,0:42:29.34,0:42:34.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we can take care of our suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:34.64,0:42:37.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then, maybe we're able \Nto be with their suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:41.17,0:42:44.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At times, when we are \Nwith somebody who suffers,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:44.88,0:42:46.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we just need to be with them.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:47.20,0:42:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just sitting next to them, breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:50.11,0:42:52.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not being overwhelmed by their suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:52.85,0:42:54.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not being carried away by their suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:56.41,0:42:59.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe just an arm around their shoulders.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:01.12,0:43:03.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just to know that we are there for them.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:03.86,0:43:05.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's all.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:10.77,0:43:12.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:17.54,0:43:21.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lived in a small center \Nwith some other monastics,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:22.90,0:43:28.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we had a neighbor, \Nand the wife was ill, she was dying.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:29.74,0:43:32.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whenever he wanted to go shopping,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:32.97,0:43:36.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he came to our door to ask \None of us to be with his wife.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:38.39,0:43:44.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we would sit at her side\Nand breathe, and just be there.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:44.73,0:43:45.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe hold her hand.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:47.17,0:43:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not really saying much.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:53.01,0:43:54.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One day, he came again,\Nand he said:
Dialogue: 0,0:43:54.95,0:43:57.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Sorry, I always come to ask one of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:58.28,0:44:04.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because Lucie is so calm and peaceful\Nwhen one of you is there."
Dialogue: 0,0:44:06.44,0:44:09.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I spoke to the other sister and said:\N"What do you do?"
Dialogue: 0,0:44:10.18,0:44:12.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said: "Nothing. I just sit there."
Dialogue: 0,0:44:13.28,0:44:14.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said: "So do I."
Dialogue: 0,0:44:14.66,0:44:17.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I asked her: "Are you afraid?"\Nand she said: "No."
Dialogue: 0,0:44:18.26,0:44:19.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said: "Neither am I."
Dialogue: 0,0:44:20.76,0:44:24.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we could be with her fear.\NWe could just be there.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:25.64,0:44:27.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We didn't need to say much.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:28.44,0:44:32.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she was peaceful, and at ease.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:35.87,0:44:37.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we don't always need words.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:39.38,0:44:43.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our true presence is already here,\Nand soothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:46.17,0:44:48.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe we can enjoy a sound of the bell,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:50.99,0:44:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bring our mind home to our body,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:56.29,0:44:58.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can make ourselves truly present
Dialogue: 0,0:44:59.12,0:45:01.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,especially present for ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:04.69,0:45:09.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and maybe we don't need \Nto say anything to ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:10.04,0:45:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but just be there.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:11.88,0:45:15.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be with whatever is present in us.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:24.89,0:45:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:46:03.67,0:46:05.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Boddhisatva
Dialogue: 0,0:46:06.66,0:46:09.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I was sitting here, I was saying,\N"just be with the heat,"
Dialogue: 0,0:46:09.89,0:46:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then, "but look \Nat the people in front of me,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:12.41,0:46:14.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's much hotter there."
Dialogue: 0,0:46:14.56,0:46:17.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're surrounded by 37°, many
Dialogue: 0,0:46:18.24,0:46:19.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have a fan.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:37.64,0:46:40.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One time, one of my sisters\Ncame to share her suffering with me,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:41.06,0:46:42.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I jumped into action,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:43.25,0:46:45.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I came up with a number of solutions.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:46.64,0:46:50.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said: "But Sœur Dieu,\NI just want you to listen to me."
Dialogue: 0,0:46:51.93,0:46:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought: "Oh yes, of course."
Dialogue: 0,0:46:54.80,0:46:58.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's all. \NThat's more precious than anything else,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:59.43,0:47:02.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my solutions are my solutions, not hers.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:04.97,0:47:06.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, let's imagine,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:08.90,0:47:13.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we're faced \Nwith a difficult situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:18.37,0:47:20.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How would we like to be approached?
Dialogue: 0,0:47:21.80,0:47:27.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What kind of action or non-action \Nwould help us to embrace our suffering?
Dialogue: 0,0:47:29.06,0:47:31.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It could be a bigger or smaller suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:32.100,0:47:36.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe it's something \Nthat you can offer yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:36.99,0:47:40.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, maybe we'll just close our eyes\Nand have another sound of the bell,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:40.33,0:47:41.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and let's just go to ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:43.72,0:47:48.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how would I like to be approached?
Dialogue: 0,0:48:09.59,0:48:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:48:52.01,0:48:56.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I said before, what came up for me\Nthis time again, is the question,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:56.35,0:48:58.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do I understand you enough?
Dialogue: 0,0:48:58.90,0:49:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do I understand myself enough?
Dialogue: 0,0:49:04.96,0:49:06.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What can I offer myself?
Dialogue: 0,0:49:08.38,0:49:13.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The third aspect of True Love is Muditha,\Nit means joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:14.30,0:49:16.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Muditha, it means joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:26.49,0:49:28.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Joy and happiness, born from letting go.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:32.55,0:49:35.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Many small things can bring joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:37.32,0:49:39.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Coming back to the present moment,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:39.50,0:49:41.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can nourish our joy \Nwith the beauty around us,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:42.33,0:49:45.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can nourish our joy with the presence\Nof our loved ones around us.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:50.68,0:49:53.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We feel the gratitude and the joy\Nof their presence in our lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:57.34,0:50:03.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the joy that is an immeasurable mind,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:03.95,0:50:07.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the joy that is filled \Nwith peace and contentment.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:08.05,0:50:10.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's not the joy that has excitement
Dialogue: 0,0:50:10.81,0:50:13.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it is this peace and contentment.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:15.94,0:50:18.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we feel this joy for ourselves\Nand for others.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:22.24,0:50:23.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's also the joy,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:31.87,0:50:33.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when someone we love is happy,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:34.11,0:50:36.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when someone we love \Nmaybe went through a difficult time
Dialogue: 0,0:50:37.38,0:50:38.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then is happy.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:38.95,0:50:40.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We feel this joy for them.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:41.03,0:50:42.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm so happy for you."
Dialogue: 0,0:50:43.48,0:50:44.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That kind of joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:46.20,0:50:50.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We rejoice in the well-being of others,\Nthat kind of joy.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:51.60,0:50:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In our daily life we'll see \Nthere are more opportunities than we think
Dialogue: 0,0:50:57.48,0:51:01.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have joy and to rejoice \Nin the happiness of others.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:13.23,0:51:18.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The last aspect of True Love is Upeksha.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:19.63,0:51:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Upeksha.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:25.14,0:51:26.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means inclusiveness.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:30.19,0:51:34.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means "we love everyone equally."
Dialogue: 0,0:51:41.12,0:51:46.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The ones we find easy to love and \Nthe ones we find more difficult to love.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:50.08,0:51:54.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I said, we have the potential\Nto do this already, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:51:55.00,0:51:57.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It needs to be watered,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:57.36,0:52:01.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that seed needs to be watered\Nin order to manifest as a state of mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:02.28,0:52:03.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If, at the moment, we say:
Dialogue: 0,0:52:03.100,0:52:08.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"To love everybody, to be inclusive,\NI'm not there yet",
Dialogue: 0,0:52:08.90,0:52:12.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's alright, \Nbecause we're still practising,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:13.58,0:52:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're going in the direction.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:18.10,0:52:24.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To love everyone equally\Nalso stems from compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:52:28.52,0:52:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can we be compassionate
Dialogue: 0,0:52:30.14,0:52:36.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to somebody who behaves in a way\Nthat causes suffering to other people?
Dialogue: 0,0:52:44.36,0:52:48.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we try to put ourselves \Nin the skin of that person,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:50.43,0:52:52.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and try to imagine,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:56.23,0:53:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what was the kind of family \Nthis person may have been born into?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:02.48,0:53:04.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What was the childhood like?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:04.27,0:53:06.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What was their environment\Nwhen they grew up?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:07.64,0:53:10.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What were the people they interacted with?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:12.75,0:53:15.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What kind of education did he have?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:17.19,0:53:19.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The environment forms us,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:19.57,0:53:21.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so what is the environment \Nthey grew up with?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:22.42,0:53:25.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Was it an environment that was\Nfull of understanding and love,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:26.08,0:53:29.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or was it an environment where \Nthere was hatred and violence?
Dialogue: 0,0:53:29.66,0:53:31.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If there was hatred and violence,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:31.80,0:53:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the seed of hatred and violence \Nwas watered in them
Dialogue: 0,0:53:39.66,0:53:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The seeds of discrimination \Nwas watered in them.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:44.38,0:53:47.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, no wonder they are the way they are.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:49.51,0:53:52.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we can really put ourselves \Nin the skin of the other,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:54.20,0:53:57.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understand how they came \Nto be as they are,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:58.09,0:54:02.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we can include them in our love.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:06.40,0:54:08.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because we have compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:09.79,0:54:13.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Compassion does not mean \Nthat we condone the act,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:14.98,0:54:17.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what they did is not right,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:19.02,0:54:22.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we can understand \Nwhat brought them to that point
Dialogue: 0,0:54:23.98,0:54:30.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what kind of mental food did they get,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:32.14,0:54:33.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to what were they exposed?
Dialogue: 0,0:54:35.57,0:54:39.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay says: "If we were born\Nwhere they were born,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:40.51,0:54:42.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the family, in their environment,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:45.45,0:54:47.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we would do exactly the same."
Dialogue: 0,0:54:48.48,0:54:49.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[alarm clock sounds]
Dialogue: 0,0:54:50.80,0:54:52.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is my alarm.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:54.81,0:54:57.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We would do exactly the same.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:57.84,0:54:59.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the beginning I thought,\Nno, I won't.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:02.07,0:55:03.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I thought, ah!
Dialogue: 0,0:55:07.85,0:55:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that means, I'm not putting myself\Nin the skin of the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:16.98,0:55:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I haven't looked deeply enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:21.09,0:55:25.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And, there is compassion and there is pity
Dialogue: 0,0:55:25.92,0:55:28.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pity doesn't go anywhere,
Dialogue: 0,0:55:29.80,0:55:35.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but compassion motivates us \Nto do something, to act.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:39.22,0:55:43.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe that person who does something \Nto cause suffering to others
Dialogue: 0,0:55:43.84,0:55:46.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,needs our help, \Nbecause there's a lack of understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:46.69,0:55:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do suffering to the others,\Nyou're doing it to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:52.18,0:55:55.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you think, causing suffering to \Nsomebody else is bringing you happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:55:56.05,0:55:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:59.01,0:56:01.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe they don't know,\Nand we need to help them.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:02.39,0:56:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's our engagement,\Nand Thay is very engaged.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:06.53,0:56:09.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thay has spoken to politicians,\Nto business people.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:13.22,0:56:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In many countries Thay has adressed issues
Dialogue: 0,0:56:16.92,0:56:19.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that were happening in the country,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:20.92,0:56:26.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to help the politicians \Nunderstand, and the people to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:56:29.34,0:56:30.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what we can do,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:31.74,0:56:37.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also what maybe \Nwould be better not to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:44.42,0:56:53.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, with compassion and understanding\Nhow things come to be,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:54.03,0:56:56.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our love can become inclusive.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:58.42,0:57:00.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Of course, as I said before,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:02.85,0:57:09.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the foundation for that is, \Ncan we include ourselves in this love?
Dialogue: 0,0:57:12.37,0:57:18.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,With all our strengths and weaknesses,\Ncan we do that?
Dialogue: 0,0:57:22.44,0:57:25.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, practising and developing\Nthese four immeasurable minds
Dialogue: 0,0:57:26.26,0:57:29.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the best way to take care of ourselves\Nour loved ones,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:29.92,0:57:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all other beings.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:31.68,0:57:34.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So they're not a kind of tools \Nthat we have, like,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:34.08,0:57:36.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"oh I think we need loving kindness here,"
Dialogue: 0,0:57:36.12,0:57:37.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"oh, I think I need compassion,"
Dialogue: 0,0:57:37.90,0:57:40.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"oh, I think I need joy,\Nor inclusiveness."
Dialogue: 0,0:57:40.97,0:57:41.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:43.42,0:57:50.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is, developing these aspects of love \Nin ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:57:50.83,0:57:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that we can respond to life \Nfrom these aspects.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:03.85,0:58:08.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To bring these four aspects \Nof love to mind, every day,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:10.59,0:58:13.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to water the seeds, to remember
Dialogue: 0,0:58:16.14,0:58:19.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we can respond with loving kindness
Dialogue: 0,0:58:20.98,0:58:24.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can respond with joy \Nto the joy of others
Dialogue: 0,0:58:26.06,0:58:28.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can respond with compassion \Nto the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:30.34,0:58:37.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can respond with inclusiveness \Nto all beings, including Mother Earth.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:47.63,0:58:49.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They become a state of mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:50.06,0:58:53.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we bring them to mind often,\Nthe Buddha said:
Dialogue: 0,0:58:53.41,0:59:00.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Whatever we think about, or ponder upon, \Nbecomes the inclination of our mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:00.84,0:59:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Becomes the way we respond to life."
Dialogue: 0,0:59:05.02,0:59:08.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we may like to look, how do we \Nrespond to life right now?
Dialogue: 0,0:59:08.67,0:59:14.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is it with fear? Is it with worries?
Dialogue: 0,0:59:15.01,0:59:20.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is it with anger?\NIs it with love?
Dialogue: 0,0:59:20.41,0:59:21.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do we respond to life?
Dialogue: 0,0:59:23.51,0:59:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just to know and say: \N"Ok, this is where I stand now.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:28.100,0:59:31.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Practising the Four Immeasurable Minds,
Dialogue: 0,0:59:32.13,0:59:36.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I go in the direction of responding \Nto life with True Love.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:38.79,0:59:45.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not only to life, \Nbut also to individuals,
Dialogue: 0,0:59:45.76,0:59:48.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the person who's right next to me, \Nnext to us,
Dialogue: 0,0:59:48.74,0:59:51.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the person we hope \Nto spend our whole life with,
Dialogue: 0,0:59:52.43,0:59:55.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can we have this mind of love \Ntowards them?
Dialogue: 0,0:59:56.04,1:00:06.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This True Love, that is not centered \Non just ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:11.38,1:00:18.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead of our love being like a cage,\Nrobbing our loved one of their freedom,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:18.54,1:00:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our love is wide \Nand embraces all aspects of them.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:27.42,1:00:30.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe we can think of our loved one as...
Dialogue: 0,1:00:31.40,1:00:34.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a nice breeze that you hopefully \Nwill experience soon
Dialogue: 0,1:00:37.42,1:00:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we want to catch the breeze \Nand consider it our own,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:43.96,1:00:46.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's like putting the little breeze \Nin a little cage,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:46.49,1:00:48.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what happens \Nwhen you put it in a little cage...
Dialogue: 0,1:00:50.58,1:00:51.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it dies.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:52.34,1:00:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, I reflected on this, \Nif we love like that,
Dialogue: 0,1:00:57.20,1:01:02.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then the things we love in the other \Nperson, will no longer be there.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:05.18,1:01:07.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as you will stop loving her \Nvery, very soon.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:07.73,1:01:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We will stop loving them very, very soon.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:12.21,1:01:17.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, let's infuse our minds \Nwith these four aspects of love,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:18.08,1:01:21.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that we can love, and be loved
Dialogue: 0,1:01:22.38,1:01:24.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and offer True Love \Nto ourselves and others.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:25.90,1:01:27.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And now I'm going to offer you
Dialogue: 0,1:01:30.23,1:01:31.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a nice breeze outside.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:31.96,1:01:35.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for being there,\Nfree as the breeze.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:38.06,1:01:40.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Happy continuation on your path,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:41.71,1:01:44.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,may every step bring you \Npeace and happiness,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:46.73,1:01:50.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and remember, smile, \Nbreathe when you look deeply,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:51.56,1:01:53.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and enjoy every step you take.
Dialogue: 0,1:01:54.29,1:01:55.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you very much.
Dialogue: 0,1:02:06.61,1:02:15.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,1:02:36.96,1:02:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,1:03:05.21,1:03:16.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]