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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.94,0:00:03.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the most\Nrewarding experiences for me
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.82,0:00:05.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been to study brain science
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.99,0:00:09.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and apply it\Nto the experience of parenting.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.31,0:00:12.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the hand model of the brain\Nthat I use to teach parents
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.18,0:00:14.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is very useful\Nto understand that.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.60,0:00:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you take your thumb\Nand put it in the middle of your palm,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.74,0:00:19.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,put your fingers over the top.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.10,0:00:21.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is a very useful model\Nof the brain
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.22,0:00:24.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when we can actually see\Nin front of us
Dialogue: 0,0:00:24.60,0:00:26.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's going on in the brain
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.06,0:00:29.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we can change\Nwhat the brain does.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.44,0:00:31.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So let me walk you through\Nvery basically
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.49,0:00:34.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what happens in this brain\Nand the structures in it
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.30,0:00:35.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it goes like this.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.88,0:00:39.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The spinal cord comes up,\Nrepresenting the wrist
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.11,0:00:41.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you have coming up\Ninto the skull
Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.41,0:00:44.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the brain stem and the limbic area\Nwhich work together
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.99,0:00:47.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to regulate arousal\Nand your emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.82,0:00:51.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the way you have\Na fight-flight-freeze response.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.26,0:00:54.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are below the cortex,\Nthe limbic and brain stem areas
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.32,0:00:57.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the cortex\Nis this higher part of the brain
Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.09,0:00:59.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that allows us\Nto perceive the outside world
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.50,0:01:01.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to think and reason.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.32,0:01:04.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this frontmost part of the brain\Nright behind your forehead,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.33,0:01:07.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the person's orientated like this,\Nis actually the part
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.35,0:01:11.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that regulates the subcortical, limbic,\Nand brainstem areas.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.84,0:01:13.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This regulation is very important
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.58,0:01:16.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because sometimes we can have\Nall sorts of things happen
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.60,0:01:18.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our life:\Nwe're tired, we're exhausted,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.64,0:01:21.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone pushes a particular\Nemotional button,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.33,0:01:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we can flip our lids.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.27,0:01:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So rather than being tuned in,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:25.02,0:01:27.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and connected and balanced,\Nand flexible,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.57,0:01:31.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can lose all that flexibility,\Neven lose moral reasoning
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.97,0:01:35.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and act in ways\Nthat are terrifying to others
Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.04,0:01:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,including our children.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.79,0:01:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, you can actually\Nbring yourself back online
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.98,0:01:43.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and come back to the high road\Nand make a repair with your child
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.39,0:01:45.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's important to explain to them
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.13,0:01:47.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can also use\Nthis hand model of the brain
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.98,0:01:51.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to explain to children\Neven as young as five and six
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.15,0:01:54.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to understand when their emotions
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.04,0:01:57.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are rising up from the brainstem\Nand limbic areas here
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.80,0:02:00.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how it's overriding\Nthe prefrontal area
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.80,0:02:03.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and making it so they may be about\Nto flip their lids.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.54,0:02:05.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I've had kids come tell me
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.70,0:02:10.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they're about to go flip their lids\Nand they need a break.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.41,0:02:11.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They need a time out.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.45,0:02:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And by even just naming that,\Nthey can tame it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.65,0:02:19.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that's the power\Nof using the hand model for ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.29,0:02:20.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our children
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.39,0:02:22.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help us all make sense
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.46,0:02:25.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of what goes on\Nin the emotional communication
Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.85,0:02:30.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we have\Nin the course of day-to-day life.