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Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.48,0:00:09.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.30,0:00:16.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.23,0:00:47.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.07,0:01:02.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.52,0:01:44.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear respected Thay, \Ndear sisters and brothers
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.43,0:01:50.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,welcome to the Q&A session \Nof the third week of summer retreat
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.16,0:01:57.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel very honored to be here \Nwith my big brother and sisters.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.38,0:02:04.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the panel today \Nwe have Thay Phap Dung,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.51,0:02:09.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he is born in Vietnam
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.57,0:02:13.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but he studied in the United States \Nto become an architect.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.91,0:02:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's one of our elder brothers\Nhere in Plum Village
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.96,0:02:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sister Lang Nghiem is also born in Vietnam\Nbut studied in the United States,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.43,0:02:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sister Lan Nghiem \Nis coming from Holland
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.51,0:02:38.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she spent much of her \Nadult life in France,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.33,0:02:41.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm brother Phap Luu,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.95,0:02:47.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I come from the United States and \NI live here for maybe, 15 years.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.31,0:02:56.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have a chance for you, \Nthe children, the teens, the parents,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.72,0:02:59.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to come up here \Nand ask the question of your heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.59,0:03:04.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We know that when we look \Ndeeply into ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.43,0:03:10.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we see that something's \Nburning inside, some questions,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.67,0:03:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something we need the community \Nand our brothers and sisters to look into,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.27,0:03:23.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we can stand up and come up here \Nand ask that question of our heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.69,0:03:31.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not an intellectual question, \Nsomething we can look up on Wikipedia,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.38,0:03:36.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but something that is really \Nabout our daily life
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.29,0:03:41.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the suffering and happiness \Nof our practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.37,0:03:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And a good question \Ndoesn't have to be long.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.30,0:03:55.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we'll start with the children
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.80,0:03:58.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then invite some questions \Nfrom the teens and the young people
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.73,0:04:03.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then from the adults.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.65,0:04:06.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you feel a little bit shy \Nto come up here,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.70,0:04:09.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can write down \Nyour question on a piece of paper
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.94,0:04:14.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and try to get it to the Bell master \Nand he will bring it to us.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:14.35,0:04:18.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we might take\Nsome written questions as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.18,0:04:22.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we'll start with the children,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.77,0:04:24.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are there any questions from the children?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.15,0:04:28.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes? You want to come up here?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.94,0:04:32.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We'll take maybe three or maximum \Nfour questions from the children.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.15,0:04:35.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Please come up.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.26,0:04:41.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you speak English, or French,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.23,0:04:45.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can ask your question in that \Nlanguage, and we'll try to translate
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.63,0:04:48.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you ask your question\Nin another language
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.03,0:04:51.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you can bring a translator with you, \Nthat would be very helpful.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.86,0:04:55.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we can listen to a sound of the Bell,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.34,0:04:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,come back to our breathing \Nand then we'll have our first question
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.82,0:05:15.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.20,0:05:59.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}Lieve broeders en zusters, \Nmijn vraag is: Wat betekent niets?{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.34,0:06:01.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}Wat is niks?{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.94,0:06:09.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[translation by a person in the room]
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.47,0:06:19.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I'll just repeat the question \Nso that everyone can hear.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.97,0:06:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She asked the question:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.61,0:06:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear brothers and sisters, \Nwhat is nothing?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.34,0:06:29.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does nothing mean?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.87,0:06:48.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I invite Thay Phap Dung,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.28,0:06:55.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think Thay Phap Dung is very good \Nabout talking about nothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.26,0:07:05.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know what happened this summer
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.43,0:07:09.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but more and more children \Nare becoming philosophical.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.11,0:07:15.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I see my brothers and sister \Nlast two weeks up here,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.43,0:07:19.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,meeting young philosophers
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.27,0:07:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We use our language, like the word \N'nothing', to describe many things, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.62,0:07:40.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we practice, we learn to look deeply \Nand not get caught in the word 'nothing'.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.60,0:07:44.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we use the word 'nothing'
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.74,0:07:49.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to describe when something \Nis not seen anymore,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.69,0:07:52.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the food on your plate,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.100,0:07:56.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you finish eating,\Nyou eat everything on your plate
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.70,0:08:02.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you say \Nthere's nothing on the plate, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.44,0:08:07.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we use the word 'nothing' \Nto describe when we don't see something.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.52,0:08:22.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes we have a cup, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.90,0:08:24.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say, there's tea in that cup
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.75,0:08:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's nothing in the cup, right,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:37.28,0:08:39.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but is there something else in the cup?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.23,0:08:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Air, right!
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.85,0:08:51.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you can say there's nothing, \Nbut then you can say there is something,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.44,0:08:53.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.49,0:08:58.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we have to be very careful \Nwhen we use a word,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.20,0:09:00.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nothing,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.64,0:09:02.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and don't let it stop you
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.52,0:09:07.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from questioning the meaning \Nof the word, you understand?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:09.09,0:09:12.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I believe your question is very, \Nyou want to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:09:13.04,0:09:17.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and please continue \Nto ask that question, okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.07,0:09:25.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well your plate is empty \Nand you say there's nothing on the plate,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:27.58,0:09:29.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and where did it go?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.14,0:09:33.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That something, the food.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:36.37,0:09:38.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right, so the food comes \Ninto your stomach,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.55,0:09:42.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it goes, and it doesn't become nothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.31,0:09:48.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So nothing and something \Nhave a relationship, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.69,0:09:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like, there's nothing, \Nbut there's also something.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.45,0:09:55.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you ask, there is nothing
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.52,0:09:59.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to ask,\Nwhat is it, that is nothing of.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.16,0:10:05.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it doesn't really disappear \Nbut maybe we don't see it,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.03,0:10:11.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you understand?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:11.81,0:10:17.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you ask, what is nothing?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.76,0:10:23.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you have to also be open \Nto say, what is something?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.50,0:10:28.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you understand?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.67,0:10:30.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}A little bit yeah!{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:10:34.39,0:10:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just basically sharing with you...
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.96,0:10:41.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't just take the definition of nothing,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.40,0:10:49.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because in the dictionary they probably \Nsay, nothing is when the...
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.44,0:10:52.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does it mean anyway?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.18,0:10:58.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When something is \Nthe opposite of something,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:59.69,0:11:06.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but sometimes you need to look \Nmore carefully so you don't get tricked.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.18,0:11:11.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's kind of like hide and seek, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.98,0:11:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you say something disappears,\Nyou have to go where did it go?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.31,0:11:23.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't become nothing \Nbut maybe becomes something else,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:24.27,0:11:26.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like when you see the cloud up in the sky,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.03,0:11:33.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,did you ever see a cloud disappear?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.60,0:11:37.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you sit in the right place,\Nsomewhere over a hill
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.57,0:11:39.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the cloud go.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.94,0:11:42.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It appeared,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.24,0:11:45.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you wait for a while\Nand you look somewhere else,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.70,0:11:48.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you look up, \Nand then the cloud disappeared.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.55,0:11:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you say, there's nothing there now,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.60,0:11:56.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if you look closely, \Nthe cloud is still there.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.74,0:12:13.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So please remember to not be caught \Nwhen there is no cloud, okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.68,0:12:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can also look and see, \Nwhere did the cloud go?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:17.50,0:12:19.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did it become the moisture?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.84,0:12:21.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes it becomes the rain
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.24,0:12:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes, like right now, \Ndo you think there's a cloud here?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.92,0:12:32.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's nothing here, \Nbut I think if I keep doing this enough
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.93,0:12:39.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can see a very light cloud
Dialogue: 0,0:12:43.14,0:12:43.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I try
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.15,0:12:49.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you see that some time \Nin a chemistry class or something,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.55,0:12:51.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you do certain things
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.98,0:12:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it makes the temperature change \Nand the moisture happen
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.76,0:12:57.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like when you take a shower,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.44,0:12:59.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes you see the mist come up
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.29,0:13:04.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,please know that sometimes,\Njust because you don't see it there,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.16,0:13:07.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't mean there's nothing there, okay?
Dialogue: 0,0:13:08.75,0:13:10.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thank you for your question
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.29,0:13:17.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and please continue \Nto ask your other friends
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.50,0:13:20.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe they have a very interesting answer
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.94,0:13:22.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thank you
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.00,0:13:26.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}thank you{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.98,0:13:31.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:13:34.56,0:13:38.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:13:57.34,0:14:00.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why can't you cook fish in Plum Village?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.09,0:14:15.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the question is, \Nwhy can't we cook fish in Plum Village?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:18.68,0:14:22.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why can't we cook fish in Plum Village?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.26,0:15:00.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it's because we enjoy the fish \Nalive and swimming in the pond
Dialogue: 0,0:15:00.36,0:15:03.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more, than we do seeing the fish in a pan
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.41,0:15:09.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's not that we cannot
Dialogue: 0,0:15:10.30,0:15:11.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's that we don't want to
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.80,0:15:15.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we choose not to cook the fish
Dialogue: 0,0:15:20.69,0:15:25.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and here we choose to eat \Nwhat we call vegetarian
Dialogue: 0,0:15:25.44,0:15:27.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you know what vegetarian means?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:32.89,0:15:36.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's just we don't eat meat,\Nwe don't eat fish,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.98,0:15:40.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we try to eat in such a way
Dialogue: 0,0:15:41.14,0:15:48.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we minimize the suffering that we \Ncause to animals, plants and minerals
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.34,0:15:49.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even to people
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.52,0:15:54.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's why \Nwhen we are here in Plum Village
Dialogue: 0,0:15:54.99,0:15:56.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we choose not to cook the fish
Dialogue: 0,0:15:56.96,0:16:02.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we also want to prevent the fish \Nfrom suffering a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.77,0:16:06.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you imagine if someone \Nput you in a pan and cooked you?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.51,0:16:12.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yeah not very nice right?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:14.13,0:16:16.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's why we choose \Nnot to cook the fish.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:17.05,0:16:18.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah, thank you
Dialogue: 0,0:16:20.63,0:16:24.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:16:34.94,0:16:39.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}pourquoi les moines et les nonnes \Nne peuvent pas avoir d'amoureux?{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:16:41.89,0:16:43.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, so the question is,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.97,0:16:48.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why can't monks and nuns \Nbe in love with somebody
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.34,0:16:52.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or be in love with each other \Nor another person?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:55.63,0:16:56.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have a lover, okay.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:02.99,0:17:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you brother Dickian
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.90,0:17:15.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So why can't monks and nuns have lovers?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:18.58,0:17:20.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think this is for Sister Lan Nghiem.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.41,0:17:37.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, dear sangha, \Ndear children,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.29,0:17:43.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm always very happy to listen \Nto the questions of children
Dialogue: 0,0:17:43.54,0:17:46.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but now to answer, \Nthat is something different
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.62,0:17:51.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I do like the question and
Dialogue: 0,0:17:51.71,0:17:55.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I think it's not completely true \Nthat we cannot have a lover
Dialogue: 0,0:17:56.24,0:18:03.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember a long time ago,\NI shared something about in a presentation
Dialogue: 0,0:18:03.94,0:18:06.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I shared that I had a secret lover
Dialogue: 0,0:18:07.26,0:18:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was not really a man \Nbut it was a sister
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.64,0:18:12.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was a sister.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.49,0:18:18.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One day I was a little bit upset \Nthings were not going well
Dialogue: 0,0:18:19.80,0:18:24.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was upset and you know,\NI didn't want to talk to anybody
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.43,0:18:27.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I came in the study room
Dialogue: 0,0:18:27.76,0:18:31.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I found \Na beautiful flower on my desk
Dialogue: 0,0:18:32.26,0:18:33.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,beautiful
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.84,0:18:36.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}kaarsjeskruid in het Nederlands{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.25,0:18:41.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was so happy to see this flower
Dialogue: 0,0:18:41.89,0:18:44.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it changed immediately my whole mood
Dialogue: 0,0:18:45.86,0:18:47.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because somebody had thought about me
Dialogue: 0,0:18:48.37,0:18:51.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and knew that I was in a difficult mood
Dialogue: 0,0:18:51.59,0:18:54.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that it was not going well and so on
Dialogue: 0,0:18:54.89,0:18:57.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she put there a flower on my desk
Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.38,0:19:02.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so in this presentation I spoke about, \NI do have a secret lover
Dialogue: 0,0:19:02.41,0:19:03.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that was this sister
Dialogue: 0,0:19:04.54,0:19:06.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a secret lover that is somebody,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.96,0:19:14.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somebody who understands you\Nand keeps an eye on you
Dialogue: 0,0:19:15.12,0:19:17.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you see that you are not doing well
Dialogue: 0,0:19:17.41,0:19:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then she is going \Nto support you a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.49,0:19:23.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for example by putting \Na flower on your desk
Dialogue: 0,0:19:27.89,0:19:29.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this is about the sister
Dialogue: 0,0:19:29.49,0:19:33.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the second part of the question
Dialogue: 0,0:19:36.56,0:19:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why can monistics not have a lover?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:39.32,0:19:44.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it is because we have chosen \Nto spend our time in a different way
Dialogue: 0,0:19:46.24,0:19:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's all about that
Dialogue: 0,0:19:49.05,0:19:52.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we like to be a monastic \Nwe really like to practice
Dialogue: 0,0:19:53.32,0:19:55.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we like to share the practice \Nwith everybody
Dialogue: 0,0:19:56.23,0:20:02.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and maybe as you have seen, \Nit's a lot of work here it's quite busy
Dialogue: 0,0:20:02.41,0:20:04.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have many big retreats during the year
Dialogue: 0,0:20:05.86,0:20:09.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now like the summer retreat,\Nmany people, a lot of work
Dialogue: 0,0:20:10.60,0:20:14.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we have chosen \Nto spend our time in a different way
Dialogue: 0,0:20:15.03,0:20:16.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to share the practice with you
Dialogue: 0,0:20:18.55,0:20:24.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and imagine if I had \Nthis other kind of lover, a romantic lover
Dialogue: 0,0:20:25.24,0:20:28.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I would not have so much time
Dialogue: 0,0:20:28.76,0:20:32.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I would have to share my time \Nwith this man and with the Sangha
Dialogue: 0,0:20:33.47,0:20:36.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's not so much time \Nthat I could be here
Dialogue: 0,0:20:36.68,0:20:39.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and taking care \Nof all the friends and so on
Dialogue: 0,0:20:41.07,0:20:44.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's about this, it's a choice in life \Nthat we have to make
Dialogue: 0,0:20:44.93,0:20:48.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have quite some peace with it
Dialogue: 0,0:20:49.72,0:20:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thank you
Dialogue: 0,0:20:53.23,0:21:00.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:21:30.44,0:21:35.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1} Warum ist mein Leben eigentlich \Nimmer schwerer als das von den Anderen?{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:21:48.22,0:21:51.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So please correct me if I'm wrong, \Nthe question is,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:51.85,0:21:58.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why is my life always more difficult \Nthan the lives of others?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:00.99,0:22:03.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so first, thank you for your question,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:05.60,0:22:07.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and thank you on behalf of everybody here
Dialogue: 0,0:22:08.50,0:22:13.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when you ask a question like that \Nthen we all bring it into our heart
Dialogue: 0,0:22:17.46,0:22:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think we all have gone \Nthrough times in our lives
Dialogue: 0,0:22:24.50,0:22:26.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we feel \Nour life is so much more difficult
Dialogue: 0,0:22:28.01,0:22:29.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the lives of other people
Dialogue: 0,0:22:31.21,0:22:33.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is there anyone who has never felt that?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:41.55,0:22:44.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ok, there's one person \Nwho's never felt that
Dialogue: 0,0:22:54.86,0:23:00.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for myself sometimes I feel \NI'm not good enough
Dialogue: 0,0:23:04.16,0:23:06.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel I'm not smart enough
Dialogue: 0,0:23:10.49,0:23:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I feel like I'm only average \Nor maybe a little bit below average
Dialogue: 0,0:23:18.57,0:23:21.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you imagine, \Nas a monk you feel like that?
Dialogue: 0,0:23:23.30,0:23:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's true yeah
Dialogue: 0,0:23:29.84,0:23:34.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I think in my heart, \Nit's not fair
Dialogue: 0,0:23:39.34,0:23:40.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because look at the kid
Dialogue: 0,0:23:41.07,0:23:43.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,look at him, look at her, \Nthey are so talented
Dialogue: 0,0:23:44.28,0:23:48.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're so intelligent, \Nthey speak so beautifully, they speak so..
Dialogue: 0,0:23:49.39,0:23:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're so kind and compassionate, \NI'm very selfish
Dialogue: 0,0:23:53.45,0:23:56.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes I have that kind of thinking \Neven as a monk
Dialogue: 0,0:23:57.12,0:23:58.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you believe me?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:01.94,0:24:03.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah it's true
Dialogue: 0,0:24:08.95,0:24:15.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so, then I wish, you know, why? \NI wish to know why is it like that?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:27.89,0:24:29.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why is my life so difficult?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:32.61,0:24:37.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I was young in middle school
Dialogue: 0,0:24:38.87,0:24:40.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was about eleven, twelve years old
Dialogue: 0,0:24:43.42,0:24:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there was a boy and he was a
Dialogue: 0,0:24:47.30,0:24:49.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I would walk down the hallway
Dialogue: 0,0:24:49.54,0:24:51.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one day he punched me in the shoulder.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:54.00,0:24:57.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't see him, he's punching,\Now, it's very painful.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:59.48,0:25:03.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then a couple days later, \Nhe did it again
Dialogue: 0,0:25:05.82,0:25:08.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I started \Nto have fear to see that boy
Dialogue: 0,0:25:10.14,0:25:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I was walking in the hallway \Nand I saw that fear
Dialogue: 0,0:25:14.92,0:25:18.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started to arrange my life \Nso I could avoid that boy
Dialogue: 0,0:25:24.32,0:25:27.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I suffered very much \Nand I said why is my life so difficult?
Dialogue: 0,0:25:28.32,0:25:29.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why can't I be...
Dialogue: 0,0:25:29.79,0:25:31.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at that time many of the boys they grew
Dialogue: 0,0:25:31.89,0:25:34.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was very young for my grade
Dialogue: 0,0:25:35.18,0:25:38.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so many of the boys they grew up\Nvery tall and I was still very small
Dialogue: 0,0:25:42.66,0:25:48.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I suffered for many weeks like that
Dialogue: 0,0:25:49.32,0:25:53.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in fear that I would see that boy and \Nhe would punch me in the shoulder again
Dialogue: 0,0:26:03.86,0:26:08.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all I wanted was \Nto be big and strong like the other boys
Dialogue: 0,0:26:10.87,0:26:15.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be really cool and \Ntalk with all the really cool girls
Dialogue: 0,0:26:18.55,0:26:19.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah?
Dialogue: 0,0:26:20.24,0:26:24.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have you ever felt something like that? \NNo,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:25.51,0:26:26.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,okay yeah you
Dialogue: 0,0:26:27.04,0:26:27.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe you want
Dialogue: 0,0:26:29.84,0:26:31.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well anyway, I felt like that
Dialogue: 0,0:26:39.52,0:26:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then, because I continued like that \Nfor a little while
Dialogue: 0,0:26:45.19,0:26:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then eventually \Nwe sat with somebody in the school
Dialogue: 0,0:26:50.51,0:26:52.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we tried to have a communication
Dialogue: 0,0:26:56.01,0:26:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you know what I found out?
Dialogue: 0,0:27:00.70,0:27:02.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he didn't like my haircut
Dialogue: 0,0:27:06.77,0:27:08.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you believe that?
Dialogue: 0,0:27:09.03,0:27:14.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he didn't like my haircut \Nand he thought I was trying to be cool
Dialogue: 0,0:27:16.66,0:27:18.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe I was trying to be cool
Dialogue: 0,0:27:20.09,0:27:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes the boys are like that
Dialogue: 0,0:27:21.84,0:27:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they want to put each other\Nin their place, you know?
Dialogue: 0,0:27:24.74,0:27:27.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, you are not cool, \Nyou have to stay in your place
Dialogue: 0,0:27:28.24,0:27:29.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am cool
Dialogue: 0,0:27:29.80,0:27:31.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anyway something like that
Dialogue: 0,0:27:33.51,0:27:36.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and now when I look back at that, \Nit looks very silly
Dialogue: 0,0:27:38.28,0:27:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but at the time when I was that age \Nit was very real for me everyday
Dialogue: 0,0:27:44.28,0:27:45.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I felt my life is so difficult
Dialogue: 0,0:27:45.94,0:27:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I said where did my happiness go
Dialogue: 0,0:27:49.16,0:27:52.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was a very happy boy and then \Nsuddenly my happiness disappeared
Dialogue: 0,0:27:53.73,0:27:54.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of
Dialogue: 0,0:27:55.02,0:27:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not because of that boy, \Nbut because of my fear
Dialogue: 0,0:27:58.06,0:27:59.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I let my fear take over
Dialogue: 0,0:28:02.30,0:28:03.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what he did was very little
Dialogue: 0,0:28:04.91,0:28:08.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what happened inside of me \Nwas very big, the emotion
Dialogue: 0,0:28:11.41,0:28:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is true most of our life
Dialogue: 0,0:28:14.32,0:28:19.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have a strong emotion and we think \Nit's because of something out there
Dialogue: 0,0:28:20.61,0:28:22.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but actually it's something in here
Dialogue: 0,0:28:23.28,0:28:26.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe there's something inside \Nwe're not taking care of
Dialogue: 0,0:28:28.20,0:28:30.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that's why here in Plum Village, \Nwe learn..
Dialogue: 0,0:28:31.27,0:28:32.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I love to work with the children
Dialogue: 0,0:28:33.78,0:28:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to teach them how to breathe mindfully
Dialogue: 0,0:28:36.91,0:28:41.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, {\i1}breathing in, breathing out{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:28:41.25,0:28:42.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do you know? We sing that song
Dialogue: 0,0:28:43.45,0:28:46.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even when the kids are very noisy, \Nwhen we start singing that song
Dialogue: 0,0:28:46.92,0:28:51.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after a few bars, they calm down \Nand they all start singing it
Dialogue: 0,0:28:52.02,0:28:54.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I feel so at peace at my heart
Dialogue: 0,0:28:54.65,0:28:57.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when I was that age \NI didn't have that practice
Dialogue: 0,0:28:58.13,0:29:02.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't have anyone who taught me \Nhow to come back to my breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:29:02.53,0:29:04.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be solid like a mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:29:05.01,0:29:07.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I didn't feel I could be solid \Nlike a mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:29:08.94,0:29:11.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just compared myself to other people
Dialogue: 0,0:29:12.14,0:29:18.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I saw Who am I?, \Nbased on what I saw about the other kids.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:21.90,0:29:26.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so that's what here in Plum Village \Nwe learned you know
Dialogue: 0,0:29:26.22,0:29:27.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are solid like a mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:29:27.59,0:29:30.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the mountain doesn't compare itself \Nto the other mountains
Dialogue: 0,0:29:32.82,0:29:34.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you understand?
Dialogue: 0,0:29:34.60,0:29:35.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the mountain is solid,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:35.73,0:29:38.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't say, why is that mountain \Nmore beautiful over there?
Dialogue: 0,0:29:40.87,0:29:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, there's a mountain, \NMont Blanc, in the Alps
Dialogue: 0,0:29:45.08,0:29:47.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you know that mountain, Mont Blanc?
Dialogue: 0,0:29:49.76,0:29:51.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a very beautiful mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:29:51.25,0:29:53.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and lots of people take pictures \Nof that mountain.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:54.86,0:29:57.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you know, \Nthere's a mountain right next to it,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:58.29,0:30:00.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but not many people \Ntake a picture of that mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:30:02.28,0:30:05.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so that mountain can say, \Nwhy is my life so difficult?
Dialogue: 0,0:30:07.89,0:30:12.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do you think the mountain says that? \NYes?
Dialogue: 0,0:30:15.47,0:30:17.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no, of course, \Nit's the mountain next to Mount Blanc
Dialogue: 0,0:30:17.95,0:30:21.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't say, why is everyone \Ntaking a picture of my brother?
Dialogue: 0,0:30:25.76,0:30:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well I never heard it say that
Dialogue: 0,0:30:40.09,0:30:43.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so when we are able \Nto touch the solidity in ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:30:43.95,0:30:46.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and be like the mountain,\Nthen we don't compare,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:47.91,0:30:51.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't compare we're happy, \Nwe're totally happy just who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:30:51.39,0:30:52.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being who we are
Dialogue: 0,0:30:52.57,0:30:54.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even if we have suffering, we have sadness
Dialogue: 0,0:30:55.76,0:30:59.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we see that that is a part of our life
Dialogue: 0,0:31:01.44,0:31:05.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we don't need to look anymore \Nat the others around
Dialogue: 0,0:31:06.90,0:31:09.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can just breathe and we can still smile
Dialogue: 0,0:31:11.74,0:31:13.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can still smile, see?
Dialogue: 0,0:31:15.35,0:31:18.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just be solid like that mountain
Dialogue: 0,0:31:19.31,0:31:22.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then sometimes, \Nsomeone will turn the camera a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:31:22.21,0:31:23.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and will say, wow!
Dialogue: 0,0:31:23.89,0:31:27.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everyone takes a picture of Mount Blanc, \Nbut that mountain is so beautiful
Dialogue: 0,0:31:29.52,0:31:31.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they will take a picture \Nof the other mountain.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:34.29,0:31:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you touch the beauty inside yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:31:36.64,0:31:38.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then people start to pay attention
Dialogue: 0,0:31:39.36,0:31:41.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they start to look and they see wow
Dialogue: 0,0:31:42.28,0:31:45.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are so special
Dialogue: 0,0:31:46.86,0:31:47.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're so beautiful
Dialogue: 0,0:31:49.41,0:31:51.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're so such a kind person
Dialogue: 0,0:31:54.35,0:31:57.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah it's magical, but it works
Dialogue: 0,0:31:58.60,0:32:00.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so please try that, try breathing,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:02.86,0:32:04.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,try just looking at the emotion
Dialogue: 0,0:32:04.92,0:32:07.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when it comes up, \Nwhen you feel your life is so difficult,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:08.18,0:32:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just breathe,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:09.88,0:32:12.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just remember the Bell and your breath
Dialogue: 0,0:32:12.53,0:32:15.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just pay attention \Nto that emotion inside of you
Dialogue: 0,0:32:16.19,0:32:17.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can smile to it
Dialogue: 0,0:32:17.80,0:32:19.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just like you smile to me
Dialogue: 0,0:32:20.39,0:32:22.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,okay? can you try that?
Dialogue: 0,0:32:25.07,0:32:27.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,okay, good luck
Dialogue: 0,0:32:30.02,0:32:32.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:32:35.41,0:32:40.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:33:09.45,0:33:11.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}je voulais vous poser comme question,{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:33:11.59,0:33:18.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}avez-vous des methodes pour gerer \Nmes mauvaises humeurs et mes angoisses?{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:33:34.82,0:33:36.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the question is,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:38.63,0:33:46.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,could you help me with a method \Nto take care of bad moods and anxiety
Dialogue: 0,0:33:49.07,0:33:55.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is the method \Nto help deal with bad moods and anxiety
Dialogue: 0,0:34:14.07,0:34:17.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe... I'm not sure if they \Never have bad moods and anxiety
Dialogue: 0,0:34:22.54,0:34:23.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of course they do
Dialogue: 0,0:34:39.48,0:34:41.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think I'm in a bad mood right now
Dialogue: 0,0:34:48.48,0:34:52.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's possible \Nto smile to your bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:34:54.19,0:35:00.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's possible to learn how to relate \Ndifferently to anxiety or sadness
Dialogue: 0,0:35:01.37,0:35:03.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or when you're feeling down
Dialogue: 0,0:35:03.78,0:35:05.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or when things don't go your way
Dialogue: 0,0:35:08.89,0:35:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think all of us, \Nwe have certain habit energies
Dialogue: 0,0:35:13.68,0:35:14.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the way we react
Dialogue: 0,0:35:16.78,0:35:19.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to for instance when we have a bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:35:25.36,0:35:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm asked to slow down
Dialogue: 0,0:35:28.56,0:35:30.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that makes me even more in a bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:35:38.35,0:35:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so for myself I find
Dialogue: 0,0:35:43.65,0:35:47.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have to learn how to identify \Nwhat triggers my bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:35:49.81,0:35:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very often it's because something happens \Nthat makes me uncomfortable
Dialogue: 0,0:35:56.25,0:35:58.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like I cannot be myself
Dialogue: 0,0:35:59.96,0:36:03.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like right now, I cannot speak \Nat the speed I would like to speak
Dialogue: 0,0:36:06.88,0:36:09.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I feel a bit uncomfortable
Dialogue: 0,0:36:11.65,0:36:12.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but at the same time
Dialogue: 0,0:36:15.60,0:36:18.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've trained myself for many years
Dialogue: 0,0:36:18.95,0:36:22.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't mean that I'm good at it \Nalready, but it's a training
Dialogue: 0,0:36:24.28,0:36:25.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to sit with this bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:36:26.24,0:36:28.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when it comes up I breathe through it
Dialogue: 0,0:36:29.77,0:36:31.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and during those few seconds of breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:36:32.14,0:36:35.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or just stopping and not being \Ncarried away by the bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:36:38.46,0:36:41.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you can see it from a different side
Dialogue: 0,0:36:42.82,0:36:45.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for instance, \NI'm uncomfortable speaking slow
Dialogue: 0,0:36:46.01,0:36:48.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it would help our translators
Dialogue: 0,0:36:51.96,0:36:55.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so then I can speak slow just to help out
Dialogue: 0,0:36:55.73,0:36:59.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then, that kind of lifts my bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:36:59.58,0:37:02.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't have to always be about me, \Nfor instance.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:08.84,0:37:12.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I find, all of us we have a tendency
Dialogue: 0,0:37:13.06,0:37:15.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when there's a bit of suffering \Nthat comes up
Dialogue: 0,0:37:16.53,0:37:18.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we want to get rid of it right away
Dialogue: 0,0:37:19.85,0:37:24.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whether it's the bad mood \Nor the sadness or anxiety
Dialogue: 0,0:37:24.92,0:37:27.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we want to get rid of it right away
Dialogue: 0,0:37:27.63,0:37:30.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this causes us \Na bit more suffering I think
Dialogue: 0,0:37:33.59,0:37:37.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when we learn \Nhow to sit with it for a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:37:37.23,0:37:39.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just allow it to be for a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:37:39.92,0:37:42.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can understand why it's there
Dialogue: 0,0:37:45.48,0:37:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for instance your bad mood \Nmay be something very simple
Dialogue: 0,0:37:48.46,0:37:50.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe you didn't get \Nenough sleep last night
Dialogue: 0,0:37:52.37,0:37:58.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you've been asked to do too many things\Nthat are out of your capacity
Dialogue: 0,0:37:58.82,0:38:00.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like you over stretch yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:38:00.76,0:38:03.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then your body is weary, \Nyour mind is weary,
Dialogue: 0,0:38:03.48,0:38:05.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then your bad mood \Ncomes up very easily.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:06.83,0:38:10.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, just to sit with the bad mood \Nand to look a little bit into it
Dialogue: 0,0:38:10.75,0:38:12.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see where it's come from
Dialogue: 0,0:38:15.68,0:38:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes like I say \Nit's something very simple
Dialogue: 0,0:38:18.99,0:38:21.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we all have to kind of \Ntrain ourselves in this
Dialogue: 0,0:38:22.24,0:38:25.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not just to want to get rid \Nof the bad mood right away
Dialogue: 0,0:38:26.18,0:38:31.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but to identify the reasons why \Nthe bad mood came about in the first place
Dialogue: 0,0:38:32.20,0:38:35.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then it's easier to learn to be
Dialogue: 0,0:38:35.71,0:38:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to shift your mood
Dialogue: 0,0:38:41.58,0:38:43.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah, thank you
Dialogue: 0,0:38:46.95,0:38:48.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:38:51.60,0:38:58.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:39:12.49,0:39:15.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}Est-ce que vous êtes devenus moines \Nou moniales pour combler une vide,{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:39:16.81,0:39:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}ou pour aider les autres?{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:39:48.04,0:39:54.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So did you become a monk or a nun \Nin order to fill a void in yourself?
Dialogue: 0,0:40:05.50,0:40:09.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Did you become a monk or a nun \Nin order to fill a void in yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:40:09.85,0:40:11.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or to help others?
Dialogue: 0,0:40:14.40,0:40:18.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a similar question \Nbut I phrased it differently
Dialogue: 0,0:40:18.50,0:40:20.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I first met the monks and nuns.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:22.11,0:40:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went to a retreat \Nand I saw them smile a lot
Dialogue: 0,0:40:27.28,0:40:32.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was raised in America \Nso I'm very suspicious of everything
Dialogue: 0,0:40:35.93,0:40:36.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not all Americans,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:37.11,0:40:43.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but particularly I was very afraid \Nof things that seemed too happy
Dialogue: 0,0:40:45.36,0:40:46.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, like Plum Village is...
Dialogue: 0,0:40:49.82,0:40:52.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I was a stranger and I came here \NI would go...
Dialogue: 0,0:40:56.72,0:40:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's something very strange \Nhappening here
Dialogue: 0,0:41:01.57,0:41:04.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I came to Plum Village,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:04.70,0:41:07.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I followed the monks and nuns \Nfor three months around America
Dialogue: 0,0:41:07.90,0:41:12.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find out what happened \Nbehind the retreat
Dialogue: 0,0:41:15.15,0:41:17.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I began to understand more
Dialogue: 0,0:41:19.52,0:41:23.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the monks and nuns are humans
Dialogue: 0,0:41:24.18,0:41:26.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they do have suffering, \Nthey do have happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:41:28.01,0:41:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they also have an aspiration \Nto have meaning in their life.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:33.55,0:41:37.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's not like \Nwe are running away from society
Dialogue: 0,0:41:38.69,0:41:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or we are trying \Nto get something for ourselves
Dialogue: 0,0:41:46.20,0:41:51.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's very linked because, \Nif you can take care of yourself...
Dialogue: 0,0:41:51.69,0:41:53.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had anger issues
Dialogue: 0,0:41:53.75,0:41:59.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so if I learn how to take care of my anger\Nand be less angry
Dialogue: 0,0:42:01.50,0:42:02.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of my father
Dialogue: 0,0:42:02.99,0:42:05.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I see that's very linked \Nto my happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:42:07.45,0:42:09.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so sometimes you remove the anger
Dialogue: 0,0:42:09.65,0:42:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what you're left with \Nis a lot of space, to enjoy, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:42:16.06,0:42:20.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,most of my young adult life, \NI was very easily...
Dialogue: 0,0:42:20.86,0:42:25.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it didn't look like it, \Nbut inside I was very frustrated
Dialogue: 0,0:42:26.13,0:42:34.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and very easily anxious, \Nwe call it frustrated
Dialogue: 0,0:42:35.49,0:42:38.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they call it urban {\i1}angst{\i0}, they call it now
Dialogue: 0,0:42:39.15,0:42:40.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's very easily...
Dialogue: 0,0:42:42.12,0:42:44.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but outside I looked very happy.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:45.69,0:42:51.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do my job 9:00 to 5:00,\Nbut inside there was a void
Dialogue: 0,0:42:52.24,0:42:56.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's related to the anger \Nof not having any meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:42:57.98,0:43:02.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the monks and when I follow them \NI see that some of them do have suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:43:03.38,0:43:05.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of them know \Nhow to take care of this,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:05.90,0:43:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of them know how to enjoy life
Dialogue: 0,0:43:09.66,0:43:14.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help to be grateful with their life, \Nwith their parents
Dialogue: 0,0:43:15.02,0:43:19.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I begin to understand more \Non how to handle suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:43:20.73,0:43:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how to also live a life \Nmore meaningful,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:25.76,0:43:29.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than work, spend, \Nwork, spend, work, spend
Dialogue: 0,0:43:30.64,0:43:32.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this for me...
Dialogue: 0,0:43:32.95,0:43:34.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I came to Plum Village
Dialogue: 0,0:43:34.88,0:43:39.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I started to discover \Nmore about their lives
Dialogue: 0,0:43:40.53,0:43:45.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I became a monk \Nto kind of go undercover
Dialogue: 0,0:43:45.80,0:43:49.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to see what they really do \Ninside the residence
Dialogue: 0,0:43:52.68,0:43:55.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I'm still here researching whether...
Dialogue: 0,0:43:58.68,0:44:00.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they haven't kicked me out of here yet
Dialogue: 0,0:44:00.57,0:44:01.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah
Dialogue: 0,0:44:02.45,0:44:04.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I always tried to keep that in mind
Dialogue: 0,0:44:05.66,0:44:09.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I see more and more of my life, \NI became to be more true
Dialogue: 0,0:44:10.87,0:44:14.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's not about empty or \Nyou're fulfilling your life
Dialogue: 0,0:44:15.61,0:44:22.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, what is the meaning of your life? \Nwhat is your life for?
Dialogue: 0,0:44:23.100,0:44:27.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I see more and more \NI'm finding out that when you share
Dialogue: 0,0:44:28.96,0:44:31.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you can make another person happy
Dialogue: 0,0:44:32.82,0:44:35.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you help another person suffer less
Dialogue: 0,0:44:36.19,0:44:37.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somehow their happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:38.21,0:44:43.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their transformation \Nis also your happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:44:43.77,0:44:47.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I don't have to go around \Nto try to fulfill my life
Dialogue: 0,0:44:47.80,0:44:52.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to achieve and then have success \Nand I have a lot of money and have a car
Dialogue: 0,0:44:53.68,0:44:58.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but now my life is, \NI fill it up with other people's happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:44:59.30,0:45:00.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also their suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:45:01.75,0:45:04.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I see a person \Ncan handle their suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:45:05.97,0:45:09.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I saw a young woman \Ncome out to the meditation hall
Dialogue: 0,0:45:09.99,0:45:15.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she cry, at Lower Hamlet, \Nwhen after the Dharma talk
Dialogue: 0,0:45:16.39,0:45:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she ran and her friend tried \Nto grab her and she put her hand away
Dialogue: 0,0:45:22.50,0:45:25.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she told her friend,\NI think, from far away
Dialogue: 0,0:45:25.76,0:45:26.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she say something
Dialogue: 0,0:45:27.26,0:45:29.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so her friend bowed to her \Nand then she went
Dialogue: 0,0:45:30.07,0:45:34.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the young woman that was crying\Nwent to the bush in there
Dialogue: 0,0:45:34.73,0:45:35.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I saw her sit
Dialogue: 0,0:45:37.13,0:45:41.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she put her bag down \Nand she sit there for a while
Dialogue: 0,0:45:41.63,0:45:43.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was eating my orange
Dialogue: 0,0:45:46.60,0:45:48.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she sat there for a while
Dialogue: 0,0:45:48.50,0:45:52.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then she stood up \Npicked her bag turned around
Dialogue: 0,0:45:53.33,0:45:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can tell her face more peaceful
Dialogue: 0,0:45:57.31,0:45:59.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for me that is my happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:46:01.36,0:46:06.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see, so, I also have suffering \Nand I learned how to take care of it
Dialogue: 0,0:46:06.43,0:46:10.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I can recognize when someone does that
Dialogue: 0,0:46:12.24,0:46:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the emptiness we sometimes feel \Nis because we don't have meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:46:18.99,0:46:20.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't know why we go to work
Dialogue: 0,0:46:22.11,0:46:24.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't know why we do what we do
Dialogue: 0,0:46:25.39,0:46:28.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes we don't even know \Nwhy we're going on vacation
Dialogue: 0,0:46:30.46,0:46:31.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you just have to do it
Dialogue: 0,0:46:34.94,0:46:36.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is my life before
Dialogue: 0,0:46:37.54,0:46:38.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's time for vacation
Dialogue: 0,0:46:40.24,0:46:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what should I do now? \Nspend more money right
Dialogue: 0,0:46:44.55,0:46:48.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so this is what, as a young man, \NI became more empty
Dialogue: 0,0:46:48.90,0:46:53.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because my life \Ndidn't have a higher meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:46:54.80,0:46:59.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is why I kind of \Nchose to become a monk
Dialogue: 0,0:47:00.05,0:47:04.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not to run away from society \Nbut to live more meaningfully
Dialogue: 0,0:47:06.29,0:47:11.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes people come here and \Nthey say we here are not really the world
Dialogue: 0,0:47:11.20,0:47:12.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the world is out there
Dialogue: 0,0:47:13.30,0:47:16.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now I have to go back to the world right, \Ntomorrow or the next day
Dialogue: 0,0:47:17.35,0:47:18.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is not the real world
Dialogue: 0,0:47:20.02,0:47:22.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that we have to question that
Dialogue: 0,0:47:23.05,0:47:24.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean if you accept that
Dialogue: 0,0:47:26.74,0:47:31.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's why we have anxiety \Nwe have depression, we have a lot of...
Dialogue: 0,0:47:33.32,0:47:39.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we need to create a way of living \Nthat can help us have fulfillment
Dialogue: 0,0:47:40.97,0:47:46.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not to constantly be, have a void, \Nan emptiness, no meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:47:46.44,0:47:51.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}vide,{\i0} what do you mean with {\i1}vide{\i0}, \Nemptiness, is a life without meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:47:53.25,0:47:55.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's more or less philosophical
Dialogue: 0,0:47:55.68,0:47:58.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's like, \Nwhat is the meaning of your life?
Dialogue: 0,0:47:59.11,0:48:02.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is my purpose \Nevery morning that I wake up
Dialogue: 0,0:48:02.92,0:48:05.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to answer that question every day
Dialogue: 0,0:48:07.43,0:48:09.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you will see that \Nit will link to your happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:48:11.33,0:48:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you'll see that it is not about you \Nand your career and your thing
Dialogue: 0,0:48:15.88,0:48:21.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's actually becoming more connected \Nto other people
Dialogue: 0,0:48:21.46,0:48:25.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,strangers, people in need, \Npeople in other countries
Dialogue: 0,0:48:25.80,0:48:27.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who do not have what we have here
Dialogue: 0,0:48:28.42,0:48:31.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is what the children \Nare needing to learn
Dialogue: 0,0:48:31.54,0:48:36.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's why there's young people \Nasking questions like that
Dialogue: 0,0:48:36.86,0:48:38.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they have not seen suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:48:40.51,0:48:44.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so sometimes as a young person \NI encourage you to travel to India,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:47.22,0:48:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to Laos, to Vietnam, \Nto see where we live in
Dialogue: 0,0:48:52.96,0:48:54.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that's what happened to me in America
Dialogue: 0,0:48:55.30,0:48:56.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I became very closed
Dialogue: 0,0:48:57.95,0:49:04.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so when I traveled, I began to see \Nreally the suffering in the world
Dialogue: 0,0:49:05.34,0:49:08.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then that will open \Na new way of looking
Dialogue: 0,0:49:09.89,0:49:13.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so, our view, \Nwe need to always open more
Dialogue: 0,0:49:15.13,0:49:15.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I hope
Dialogue: 0,0:49:16.55,0:49:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess that's my experience of handling \Nmy emptiness, by more bringing meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:49:24.67,0:49:28.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so please, you're still young \Nso really ask your question
Dialogue: 0,0:49:28.86,0:49:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is it that brings meaning to my life?
Dialogue: 0,0:49:32.01,0:49:34.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it doesn't have to be saving the world
Dialogue: 0,0:49:35.10,0:49:39.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it could be meaning, between your father \Nand you, your mother and you
Dialogue: 0,0:49:41.54,0:49:44.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so to reconcile with your father
Dialogue: 0,0:49:45.19,0:49:49.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of a sudden \Nyour life is more fulfilling
Dialogue: 0,0:49:49.88,0:49:52.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so when I succeed in something \Nit's for my father
Dialogue: 0,0:49:54.03,0:49:57.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see when I play with the young boy, \Nthat is my father
Dialogue: 0,0:49:58.65,0:50:00.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you connect with your father
Dialogue: 0,0:50:01.75,0:50:05.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it doesn't have to be a grand meaning
Dialogue: 0,0:50:05.75,0:50:07.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it could be very simple
Dialogue: 0,0:50:08.96,0:50:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,please take care
Dialogue: 0,0:50:14.70,0:50:16.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:50:19.33,0:50:27.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,0:50:47.60,0:50:51.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear respected Thay, \Ndear respected teachers, community
Dialogue: 0,0:50:54.04,0:50:58.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm trying to make my question \Nas clear as possible
Dialogue: 0,0:50:59.38,0:51:03.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I feel I need \Nto explain a bit the situation
Dialogue: 0,0:51:05.51,0:51:13.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my question is about the relationship \Nto my sister, and it's very difficult,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:14.27,0:51:20.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she has been suffering from deep \Ndepression for many, many years now
Dialogue: 0,0:51:21.70,0:51:31.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a long time I put a lot of effort \Ninto being active and helping her
Dialogue: 0,0:51:32.22,0:51:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which only took me energy
Dialogue: 0,0:51:34.88,0:51:40.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there was nothing that could help her
Dialogue: 0,0:51:41.25,0:51:45.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I realized that \Nshe needs to help herself
Dialogue: 0,0:51:45.92,0:51:49.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I could only be there, at her side
Dialogue: 0,0:51:49.81,0:51:52.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but she doesn't let me be there.
Dialogue: 0,0:51:53.40,0:52:00.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she doesn't talk to me there \Nand at the moment there is no contact
Dialogue: 0,0:52:00.52,0:52:06.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I feel I'm not happy \Nwith that situation
Dialogue: 0,0:52:06.36,0:52:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I would like to be there for her
Dialogue: 0,0:52:09.98,0:52:14.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I told her, but she doesn't talk to me
Dialogue: 0,0:52:15.25,0:52:20.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and last winter retreat \NI sent her a letter
Dialogue: 0,0:52:21.84,0:52:24.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I tried to practice beginning anew
Dialogue: 0,0:52:25.48,0:52:32.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I shared with her the relationship \Nfeels for me and that I wish to change it
Dialogue: 0,0:52:32.68,0:52:35.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I have no ideas anymore
Dialogue: 0,0:52:38.06,0:52:44.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I asked her if she has any suggestions\Nhow we could have a relationship
Dialogue: 0,0:52:44.79,0:52:46.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how we could talk to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:52:48.42,0:52:50.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she didn't react
Dialogue: 0,0:52:51.85,0:53:01.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I sent her a message and I said \NI felt sad that she didn't react
Dialogue: 0,0:53:03.26,0:53:07.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then she said I'm sorry, \Nbut I cannot do that
Dialogue: 0,0:53:09.43,0:53:14.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yeah, since then \Nwe didn't talk to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:53:14.69,0:53:17.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I guess we both didn't know how to do it
Dialogue: 0,0:53:18.70,0:53:24.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and, so my question is,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:25.87,0:53:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you could recommend any practice for me\Nthat I could do
Dialogue: 0,0:53:33.37,0:53:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to practice something like \Nloving speech, deep listening, but how,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:40.53,0:53:42.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if there is no contact
Dialogue: 0,0:53:43.00,0:53:50.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what happened, what I did was, \Ntrying to be happy myself with my life
Dialogue: 0,0:53:51.06,0:53:55.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but now I feel like, \Nhow can I be truly happy
Dialogue: 0,0:53:56.04,0:54:00.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if it's only possible \Nthat I exclude that from my life
Dialogue: 0,0:54:00.90,0:54:04.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't feel honest, \Ndoesn't feel right to me
Dialogue: 0,0:54:07.74,0:54:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yeah so I guess there are \Ntwo parts about the question
Dialogue: 0,0:54:11.18,0:54:15.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is there something I can do \NI can practice with my sister
Dialogue: 0,0:54:16.54,0:54:22.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or how could I feel less \Nselfish and guilty,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:23.07,0:54:28.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feeling letting her behind, alone?
Dialogue: 0,0:54:35.88,0:54:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear... I do not know, what is your name? \NAntonia? Sonya
Dialogue: 0,0:54:42.69,0:54:43.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Sonya,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:45.89,0:54:52.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I listen to you and it sounds like \Nyou have tried many, many things already
Dialogue: 0,0:54:53.57,0:54:56.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have a very long breath \Nand you have not given up
Dialogue: 0,0:55:00.50,0:55:04.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not so easy to come \Nwith a ready answer,
Dialogue: 0,0:55:05.44,0:55:08.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think there are \Ntwo aspects in this question.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:09.74,0:55:16.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think you can look into how, in the \Nmeantime, you can take care of yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:55:17.32,0:55:22.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you do not also become like, \Nmaybe in a depression and so on,
Dialogue: 0,0:55:27.53,0:55:32.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would say that it's possible \Nthat we overcome all difficulties
Dialogue: 0,0:55:33.94,0:55:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that there's always an end to that
Dialogue: 0,0:55:37.10,0:55:40.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but of course sometimes \Nit takes much more energy
Dialogue: 0,0:55:40.22,0:55:42.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and much more time than in other cases
Dialogue: 0,0:55:44.87,0:55:48.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes in difficulty, like a problem \Nthat you have with your sister
Dialogue: 0,0:55:48.79,0:55:52.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that looks very difficult \Nand that you have tried everything
Dialogue: 0,0:55:53.65,0:55:55.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you cannot come to a solution
Dialogue: 0,0:55:57.86,0:56:01.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think we can finally overcome \Nall difficulties
Dialogue: 0,0:56:02.60,0:56:05.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is also exactly \Nthe way that we grow
Dialogue: 0,0:56:05.80,0:56:09.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you manage to overcome this difficulty \Nand then we can grow
Dialogue: 0,0:56:12.97,0:56:15.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would like to give an example for myself
Dialogue: 0,0:56:17.09,0:56:21.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a very long time ago, \NI had also a big difficulty I remember
Dialogue: 0,0:56:23.82,0:56:26.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like really big I found that, at the time
Dialogue: 0,0:56:26.88,0:56:33.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just came to France and \NI was doing a course in France, in French
Dialogue: 0,0:56:34.51,0:56:39.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was at a university \Nand we were asked to give a presentation
Dialogue: 0,0:56:41.31,0:56:46.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was like divided in Dutch people \Nand German and French and so on
Dialogue: 0,0:56:47.25,0:56:51.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were only with the two of us,\Nthe only two Dutch women
Dialogue: 0,0:56:52.73,0:56:56.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it was a kind of 'be-in' or {\i1}bonte avond{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:56:57.69,0:57:02.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we had decided to give a presentation\Non how to make Dutch pancakes
Dialogue: 0,0:57:03.60,0:57:06.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a woman with whom I was \Nshe said very quickly
Dialogue: 0,0:57:06.41,0:57:10.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,okay I will bake the pancakes here behind \Nand you are going to stand in front
Dialogue: 0,0:57:11.82,0:57:17.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had to explain in French how we were\Ndoing that in Holland, to bake pancakes
Dialogue: 0,0:57:19.97,0:57:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,well it was for me the very first time
Dialogue: 0,0:57:22.20,0:57:26.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was just after, after college \Nthat I came here in France
Dialogue: 0,0:57:27.36,0:57:32.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I had never given a presentation \Nlike that and not at all in French
Dialogue: 0,0:57:35.57,0:57:37.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will speak a little bit slower
Dialogue: 0,0:57:39.08,0:57:42.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I remember \Nthat I was standing over there
Dialogue: 0,0:57:42.98,0:57:47.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and while explaining, \Nthat my legs came to tremble
Dialogue: 0,0:57:48.25,0:57:52.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not a little bit , \Nbut they started to tremble enormously
Dialogue: 0,0:57:53.30,0:57:57.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was standing there in front \Nand I did not know how to stop this
Dialogue: 0,0:57:59.46,0:58:01.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was really like very badly
Dialogue: 0,0:58:02.13,0:58:03.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I did not manage on that evening
Dialogue: 0,0:58:04.18,0:58:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had a very unpleasant \Nfeeling about it
Dialogue: 0,0:58:07.86,0:58:13.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it has also afforded me \Nto come out again later
Dialogue: 0,0:58:13.76,0:58:16.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I was afraid \Nthat the same thing would happen again
Dialogue: 0,0:58:17.07,0:58:18.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that I could not survive.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:22.16,0:58:25.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,later on I have survived and \Nnow I'm sitting here on this chair
Dialogue: 0,0:58:26.08,0:58:28.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm still, I'm still alive
Dialogue: 0,0:58:29.18,0:58:33.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it is possible \Nto overcome very difficult things
Dialogue: 0,0:58:35.61,0:58:38.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think for yourself, and in this meantime
Dialogue: 0,0:58:39.98,0:58:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to take good care of yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:58:43.09,0:58:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that you will need a lot of joy \Nlike a counterbalance to that
Dialogue: 0,0:58:48.26,0:58:50.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the depression of your sister
Dialogue: 0,0:58:51.52,0:58:58.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so maybe you can do something \Nto have more joy
Dialogue: 0,0:58:59.62,0:59:02.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it can be like going out or
Dialogue: 0,0:59:04.31,0:59:09.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go into the nature, maybe you have to move\Nor do another study
Dialogue: 0,0:59:09.19,0:59:14.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or just you know something like a move, \Nlike a change in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:59:14.48,0:59:16.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can bring you more happiness
Dialogue: 0,0:59:17.47,0:59:18.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what is happening then
Dialogue: 0,0:59:18.90,0:59:24.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you have much more happiness, then\Nsomething's happening here in your head
Dialogue: 0,0:59:25.02,0:59:29.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,now it sounds like it's quite full with \Nthis whole difficulty with your sister
Dialogue: 0,0:59:29.99,0:59:32.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you're going to make \Na little bit of space for this
Dialogue: 0,0:59:34.18,0:59:37.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think it will go away a little bit
Dialogue: 0,0:59:37.100,0:59:41.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will send your energy \Nnot anymore to the difficulty in your head
Dialogue: 0,0:59:42.19,0:59:44.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but more to the things that you plan to do
Dialogue: 0,0:59:45.91,0:59:47.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so please try to focus on that
Dialogue: 0,0:59:47.88,0:59:50.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bring some air, \Nsome freshness into your life
Dialogue: 0,0:59:51.14,0:59:52.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,more joy
Dialogue: 0,0:59:53.20,1:00:04.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think you will be more capable \Nof trying to overcome this difficulty
Dialogue: 0,1:00:05.57,1:00:07.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this is the aspect for yourself
Dialogue: 0,1:00:07.65,1:00:10.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,please nourish your joy \Nand happiness every day
Dialogue: 0,1:00:11.49,1:00:13.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take good care of it.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:19.40,1:00:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The second part is \Nthe relationship with your sister.
Dialogue: 0,1:00:23.16,1:00:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It looks like you have done \Nmany things already
Dialogue: 0,1:00:28.66,1:00:32.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have come to her, \Nyou have spoken with her
Dialogue: 0,1:00:33.52,1:00:37.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she did not want to speak with you \Nanymore, you have written a letter
Dialogue: 0,1:00:37.74,1:00:44.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is our practice, we try to write \Na letter, we call it a love letter
Dialogue: 0,1:00:45.75,1:00:48.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if it is difficult \Nto communicate with somebody
Dialogue: 0,1:00:49.93,1:00:54.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we can put in a letter \Nhow we love the other person
Dialogue: 0,1:00:57.91,1:01:06.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe some qualities of her, \Nyou can also put souvenirs in this letter,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:07.98,1:01:09.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,souvenirs from the past
Dialogue: 0,1:01:11.54,1:01:13.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe you have done many things together
Dialogue: 0,1:01:13.69,1:01:15.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do not know about her age,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:15.34,1:01:18.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if there's a big difference in age \Nbetween you and your sister
Dialogue: 0,1:01:19.29,1:01:21.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe you have done many things \Ntogether in the past \N
Dialogue: 0,1:01:22.15,1:01:25.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you had a lot of joy and fun \Nand adventures
Dialogue: 0,1:01:26.15,1:01:28.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you can recall that in the letter
Dialogue: 0,1:01:30.10,1:01:34.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nice things that you've done together \Nand that you have very good memories about
Dialogue: 0,1:01:35.47,1:01:39.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can help her, \Nthat can help her to overcome this...
Dialogue: 0,1:01:40.08,1:01:42.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it sounds like she's very \Nsad and depressed,
Dialogue: 0,1:01:43.03,1:01:45.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to overcome, to lift up her mood
Dialogue: 0,1:01:48.66,1:01:53.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you said you have tried it already \Nbut maybe you have to try a second time
Dialogue: 0,1:01:53.98,1:02:00.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I was you, as long as there is \Nno communication, no oral communication,
Dialogue: 0,1:02:02.78,1:02:07.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to keep writing her \Nand maybe to try with a different letter
Dialogue: 0,1:02:13.27,1:02:21.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,1:02:55.25,1:02:57.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So dear Sonia, I just continue
Dialogue: 0,1:02:57.80,1:03:04.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so I would like to encourage you \Nto keep going on with writing
Dialogue: 0,1:03:04.49,1:03:05.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe an other letter
Dialogue: 0,1:03:06.90,1:03:09.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the style that I just have painted
Dialogue: 0,1:03:10.69,1:03:13.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with her qualities, \Nwith sweet memories and so on
Dialogue: 0,1:03:14.17,1:03:17.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe for yourself in the beginning \Nit's difficult to write this
Dialogue: 0,1:03:17.68,1:03:21.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you have done already \Nand no result up until now
Dialogue: 0,1:03:22.14,1:03:26.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you will see, if you really take time \Nto write a letter like this,
Dialogue: 0,1:03:27.08,1:03:31.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a whole afternoon, you lock yourself \Nin a room with chocolates,
Dialogue: 0,1:03:31.92,1:03:35.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you do not come out of the room \Nbefore you have finished this letter
Dialogue: 0,1:03:36.19,1:03:42.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you go, you will notice \Nby writing down all those good memories
Dialogue: 0,1:03:42.50,1:03:46.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you have of her, you know, \Nthat something will change in you
Dialogue: 0,1:03:46.88,1:03:50.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something will change in you and \Nyou'll feel a lot of compassion for her
Dialogue: 0,1:03:51.10,1:03:56.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this compassion, she will taste \Nfrom the letter she's going to receive
Dialogue: 0,1:03:57.94,1:04:00.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so please do not give up
Dialogue: 0,1:04:00.33,1:04:04.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really would like to you \Nto continue with her, keeping contact
Dialogue: 0,1:04:04.42,1:04:11.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and maybe in this way, \Nand maybe later she's going to respond
Dialogue: 0,1:04:11.93,1:04:17.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think you have to water this, \Nwater this and keeping contact every day
Dialogue: 0,1:04:18.25,1:04:19.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in the meantime,
Dialogue: 0,1:04:19.66,1:04:21.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take good care for yourself
Dialogue: 0,1:04:21.55,1:04:25.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that you do not lose hope \Nor that you become desperate
Dialogue: 0,1:04:28.25,1:04:29.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thank you
Dialogue: 0,1:04:42.32,1:04:45.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just gonna share that, you know,
Dialogue: 0,1:04:45.33,1:04:49.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we, the monks and nuns, are \Nup here for a question-and-answer session
Dialogue: 0,1:04:49.82,1:04:52.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are all human beings \Nand we all have our own experience
Dialogue: 0,1:04:54.05,1:04:57.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we shouldn't mistake \Nwhen we give an answer
Dialogue: 0,1:04:57.33,1:04:59.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it is like the absolute truth
Dialogue: 0,1:05:00.56,1:05:04.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are sharing from our heart, \Nfrom our own experience as human beings
Dialogue: 0,1:05:05.35,1:05:10.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just as we all have the opportunity to do \Nwhile we're here this week
Dialogue: 0,1:05:10.32,1:05:13.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we don't need to think \Nthat one answer is is absolutely
Dialogue: 0,1:05:14.18,1:05:15.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the only one
Dialogue: 0,1:05:15.63,1:05:18.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's all beautiful experiences
Dialogue: 0,1:05:18.59,1:05:23.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,personal experiences that we have here \Nand that's all we're here to offer
Dialogue: 0,1:05:24.52,1:05:26.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so thank you for your question
Dialogue: 0,1:05:35.42,1:05:37.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So there's a few written questions,
Dialogue: 0,1:05:37.76,1:05:41.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I kind of grouped them on similar topic
Dialogue: 0,1:05:42.13,1:05:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so the first one is "dear sister, brother,
Dialogue: 0,1:05:47.51,1:05:51.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,may you please share with us about \Nthe practice of mindfulness at work"
Dialogue: 0,1:05:53.98,1:05:57.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and "please could you talk \Nabout the organization of time"
Dialogue: 0,1:06:01.100,1:06:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"in my life I always live \Nin a quick speed mode.
Dialogue: 0,1:06:10.70,1:06:13.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,although I practice meditation everyday \Nand I breathe consciously
Dialogue: 0,1:06:15.42,1:06:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm still living in a hurry because I have\Ntoo much work in this time of my life
Dialogue: 0,1:06:20.98,1:06:22.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thanks a lot, a lotus for you"
Dialogue: 0,1:06:38.38,1:06:39.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, dear Sangha,
Dialogue: 0,1:06:41.88,1:06:44.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I grew up in America,
Dialogue: 0,1:06:45.06,1:06:51.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,educated and worked as a architect \Nfor four years before meeting Thay
Dialogue: 0,1:06:52.89,1:06:59.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so you know the whole system \Nof having a job and work
Dialogue: 0,1:06:59.82,1:07:02.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the whole education system too,
Dialogue: 0,1:07:03.20,1:07:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and please know this is a very biased \Nanswer so please take it lightly
Dialogue: 0,1:07:11.83,1:07:16.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I chose to leave all that,\Nso it's very biased okay
Dialogue: 0,1:07:17.07,1:07:24.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so, we dream to always run after time\Nas if we don't have enough
Dialogue: 0,1:07:26.47,1:07:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,yesterday was lazy day
Dialogue: 0,1:07:29.03,1:07:32.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lazy days that is one of Thay's...
Dialogue: 0,1:07:34.71,1:07:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was it technics up, was it a shot you take\Nso you don't get sick?
Dialogue: 0,1:07:43.84,1:07:47.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a kind of a lazy day, it's a real...
Dialogue: 0,1:07:48.90,1:07:50.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one time the monks came to Thay
Dialogue: 0,1:07:51.12,1:07:54.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we heard \Na lot of people don't like the word lazy
Dialogue: 0,1:07:55.49,1:07:57.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we asked Thay, Thay can you change,
Dialogue: 0,1:07:59.10,1:08:04.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can we change the word lazy to, maybe,\Nrest day or something more...
Dialogue: 0,1:08:04.94,1:08:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because people feel lazy you know,
Dialogue: 0,1:08:10.67,1:08:13.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Thay said: \N"Don't ever change the world lazy"
Dialogue: 0,1:08:15.10,1:08:17.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've never heard Thay so strong
Dialogue: 0,1:08:17.47,1:08:23.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he said because people feel guilty \Nto be lazy and he said that's good
Dialogue: 0,1:08:23.91,1:08:25.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they should need to look at their guilt
Dialogue: 0,1:08:26.10,1:08:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the society is over developed \Nover, over productive, right?
Dialogue: 0,1:08:32.87,1:08:34.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we think we're advanced,
Dialogue: 0,1:08:34.40,1:08:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our culture is developed right
Dialogue: 0,1:08:39.31,1:08:43.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I think now it's another way \Nof looking we're over developed
Dialogue: 0,1:08:44.18,1:08:48.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're not looking down at those \Nother southern countries and nations
Dialogue: 0,1:08:48.31,1:08:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying they're underdeveloped
Dialogue: 0,1:08:50.14,1:08:51.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in fact they're fine
Dialogue: 0,1:08:52.22,1:08:54.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're going there to develop them
Dialogue: 0,1:08:55.33,1:08:58.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're making them lose \Na lot of their environment
Dialogue: 0,1:08:59.63,1:09:01.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so in a way we have to relook
Dialogue: 0,1:09:02.13,1:09:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are overworked, we're over developed, \Nwe are over timed over schedule
Dialogue: 0,1:09:10.23,1:09:12.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every time I visit my family nowadays
Dialogue: 0,1:09:12.78,1:09:18.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I hardly can squeeze off some time \Nfrom my niece and nephew
Dialogue: 0,1:09:19.09,1:09:26.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they go to soccer and the \NSaturday piano and ballet on Sunday
Dialogue: 0,1:09:26.73,1:09:32.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean even the weekend, \Nthe mother has to run to take them to
Dialogue: 0,1:09:32.26,1:09:36.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I have to go with them because \NI want to be with my niece and nephew
Dialogue: 0,1:09:37.18,1:09:38.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I watch them play soccer
Dialogue: 0,1:09:39.55,1:09:43.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's good you know \Nto have activity for the kids
Dialogue: 0,1:09:44.36,1:09:48.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's a little bit over, over worked,\Nover,
Dialogue: 0,1:09:48.76,1:09:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think you know what I mean
Dialogue: 0,1:09:50.66,1:09:52.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's probably why you're here right?
Dialogue: 0,1:09:54.34,1:09:57.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I don't have to try \Nto convince an orange that it's an orange
Dialogue: 0,1:09:59.67,1:10:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so... for working \Nwe also need to look at the way
Dialogue: 0,1:10:05.50,1:10:11.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we do need to work, we're not all lazy\Nit's only one day of the seven day
Dialogue: 0,1:10:12.62,1:10:16.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so when we work, \Nwe have to reorient ourselves
Dialogue: 0,1:10:17.37,1:10:18.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like washing the dishes
Dialogue: 0,1:10:19.51,1:10:20.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know
Dialogue: 0,1:10:20.26,1:10:25.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one day somebody will propose, why doesn't\NPlum Village buy a big washing machine,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:25.66,1:10:29.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it could get done quickly, right?
Dialogue: 0,1:10:29.28,1:10:32.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no buckets and cleaning \Nand then give it to the kid
Dialogue: 0,1:10:33.07,1:10:36.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to take it, to put it in the thing \Nand it's a lot of work, right?
Dialogue: 0,1:10:37.36,1:10:39.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need 20 people to wash a few dishes
Dialogue: 0,1:10:41.55,1:10:45.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but there's enjoyment \Nwhile we wash the dishes
Dialogue: 0,1:10:46.60,1:10:49.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's kind of like a waste of time,\NGod, get it over with
Dialogue: 0,1:10:50.76,1:10:53.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so why do we make you wash dishes?
Dialogue: 0,1:10:53.80,1:10:55.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we could buy a machine, right?
Dialogue: 0,1:10:57.91,1:10:58.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,same thing,
Dialogue: 0,1:10:58.66,1:11:05.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,convenience can sometimes actually \Ndiminish your enjoyment, your happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:11:06.08,1:11:07.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this is work,\N
Dialogue: 0,1:11:08.43,1:11:12.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is just like the meditation hall,\Nwe had a discussion yesterday
Dialogue: 0,1:11:12.64,1:11:16.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about working in the meditation hall \Nand not rushing
Dialogue: 0,1:11:17.42,1:11:20.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because maybe there's not enough time \Nand we have to catch the bus,
Dialogue: 0,1:11:22.03,1:11:26.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so sometimes you know reality \Nyou have to do it and you have to rush
Dialogue: 0,1:11:27.06,1:11:31.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but your attitude is...\Nit depends on your mental attitude
Dialogue: 0,1:11:32.61,1:11:37.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you do it and some people do have habits\Nand there are different levels of rushing
Dialogue: 0,1:11:37.98,1:11:40.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's some people who rush \Nit looks like they're rushing
Dialogue: 0,1:11:41.32,1:11:42.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they're not rushing
Dialogue: 0,1:11:44.05,1:11:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some people, it looks like \Nthey're really doing it slow
Dialogue: 0,1:11:47.17,1:11:48.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they are rushing
Dialogue: 0,1:11:48.99,1:11:50.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is a my experience
Dialogue: 0,1:11:51.46,1:11:54.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a lot of, ... \Nhow come you're not doing it right?
Dialogue: 0,1:11:55.68,1:11:58.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how come they're not doing it mindfully?
Dialogue: 0,1:11:58.94,1:12:02.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you look like you're doing mindfully \Nbut that's not really mindful
Dialogue: 0,1:12:03.43,1:12:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you have to be careful
Dialogue: 0,1:12:05.08,1:12:09.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some people can do a lot of work \Nand look like they're rushing
Dialogue: 0,1:12:10.47,1:12:13.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but their mental attitude is enjoyment
Dialogue: 0,1:12:13.43,1:12:16.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're doing it for others so it depends
Dialogue: 0,1:12:16.44,1:12:19.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're washing the dishes \Nyou're doing it for the community
Dialogue: 0,1:12:20.28,1:12:21.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're doing a carrot
Dialogue: 0,1:12:23.40,1:12:27.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're doing it for the community, \Nfor other people to eat
Dialogue: 0,1:12:28.20,1:12:30.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you know you don't have to do it like
Dialogue: 0,1:12:31.63,1:12:33.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,peel the carrot like this, you know
Dialogue: 0,1:12:35.98,1:12:38.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that means you're stuck with an idea
Dialogue: 0,1:12:40.62,1:12:44.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so work doesn't mean...\Nso we have to be very careful
Dialogue: 0,1:12:44.28,1:12:48.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness at work, we have to be careful
Dialogue: 0,1:12:49.38,1:12:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so of course you know \Ntake a break on the computer
Dialogue: 0,1:12:52.67,1:12:53.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so many things
Dialogue: 0,1:12:53.82,1:12:56.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to use your mindfulness, \Nyour intelligence
Dialogue: 0,1:12:58.46,1:13:02.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to find a balance in yourself, \Nto not lose yourself in the work
Dialogue: 0,1:13:03.28,1:13:05.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so how you sit \Non the front of the computer
Dialogue: 0,1:13:05.90,1:13:09.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how you brew brush \Nso look at the way you work
Dialogue: 0,1:13:10.44,1:13:12.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that's just the mechanics of work okay
Dialogue: 0,1:13:13.39,1:13:15.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's also the meaning of work
Dialogue: 0,1:13:16.25,1:13:18.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so also we have to look \Nat why you're working
Dialogue: 0,1:13:19.19,1:13:20.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what are you working for
Dialogue: 0,1:13:21.22,1:13:23.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you want more money, you want more
Dialogue: 0,1:13:23.71,1:13:28.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have an idea, you want a bigger house,\Nyou want a retirement plan,
Dialogue: 0,1:13:28.54,1:13:30.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these ideas you have to look at
Dialogue: 0,1:13:30.44,1:13:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's maybe pushing you \Nto sacrifice the present moment
Dialogue: 0,1:13:36.33,1:13:37.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for the future, you see?
Dialogue: 0,1:13:38.34,1:13:39.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we need to look at this
Dialogue: 0,1:13:39.94,1:13:42.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is what I had to wake up from
Dialogue: 0,1:13:44.10,1:13:46.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,9:00 to 5:00 retirement plan
Dialogue: 0,1:13:47.54,1:13:53.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two garage house a nice family \Nand you know these kind of
Dialogue: 0,1:13:54.51,1:13:57.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what do they call it, American, \NAmerica dream
Dialogue: 0,1:13:58.100,1:14:00.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is this still called the American dream?
Dialogue: 0,1:14:02.55,1:14:05.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so these are things, with the practice,
Dialogue: 0,1:14:05.48,1:14:08.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the deep looking, \Nwe begin to look at work
Dialogue: 0,1:14:09.40,1:14:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I'm sharing is also \Nthe meaning while you work
Dialogue: 0,1:14:13.26,1:14:17.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it is also looking \Nat our relationship with the watch
Dialogue: 0,1:14:18.59,1:14:20.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with your planner, your schedule
Dialogue: 0,1:14:20.59,1:14:22.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these are things that you learn
Dialogue: 0,1:14:22.72,1:14:25.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we become very mechanical
Dialogue: 0,1:14:26.54,1:14:29.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we don't know why we do it
Dialogue: 0,1:14:29.40,1:14:32.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we just wake up, do it, do it, do it
Dialogue: 0,1:14:32.75,1:14:34.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so we need to look at this
Dialogue: 0,1:14:34.63,1:14:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so find time, \Nso I encourage all the families, everyone
Dialogue: 0,1:14:39.29,1:14:40.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to, you know, reduce a little bit
Dialogue: 0,1:14:42.32,1:14:48.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't need to have everything, \Njust enough
Dialogue: 0,1:14:49.52,1:14:53.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you do succeed, \Nuse that to help other people
Dialogue: 0,1:14:55.11,1:14:58.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that will bring \Nmore meaning to your work
Dialogue: 0,1:14:58.69,1:15:02.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see that the cycle \Nit needs to go in circle like this
Dialogue: 0,1:15:03.28,1:15:05.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know the system now \Nis very capitalistic
Dialogue: 0,1:15:06.17,1:15:08.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to save, save, save, hold everything
Dialogue: 0,1:15:08.89,1:15:11.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you see, \Nthere's only a certain amount
Dialogue: 0,1:15:11.54,1:15:14.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and after that, \Nthe happiness don't increase
Dialogue: 0,1:15:15.70,1:15:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think more and more we know that, right?
Dialogue: 0,1:15:18.62,1:15:24.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after 10 shirts that you have, it's become\Nvery hm, another shirt, another shirt
Dialogue: 0,1:15:25.74,1:15:28.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so please know why you're working
Dialogue: 0,1:15:28.69,1:15:33.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and how much you should work \Nto maintain kind of enough for your family
Dialogue: 0,1:15:34.23,1:15:38.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you don't sacrifice \Nyour present moment, happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:15:38.78,1:15:42.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with your family, with your loved one, \Nwith helping other people
Dialogue: 0,1:15:42.91,1:15:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so your time is not just to...,\Nyou should spend meaningfully
Dialogue: 0,1:15:47.22,1:15:50.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help other people, \Nto help your friends,
Dialogue: 0,1:15:50.17,1:15:53.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your relatives, your brothers \Nand sisters, other families
Dialogue: 0,1:15:55.32,1:16:00.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you might have work \Nthat might not be the most meaningful
Dialogue: 0,1:16:00.90,1:16:04.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it pays your thing \Nand then you take the money
Dialogue: 0,1:16:04.40,1:16:06.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you take some of the time \Nand you help, you see
Dialogue: 0,1:16:07.69,1:16:14.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so don't try to always, you have to find \Nthe work that is the most meaningful
Dialogue: 0,1:16:15.21,1:16:17.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in fact the meaning is \Nwhat you put into it
Dialogue: 0,1:16:18.27,1:16:20.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you could be a bus driver
Dialogue: 0,1:16:21.21,1:16:23.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you could be a very good bus driver
Dialogue: 0,1:16:24.24,1:16:28.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you remove the idea that you have \Nto be a successful businessperson
Dialogue: 0,1:16:29.51,1:16:30.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see the work
Dialogue: 0,1:16:31.30,1:16:34.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you enjoy washing your dishes, \Ndriving the bus
Dialogue: 0,1:16:35.24,1:16:40.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's all based \Non the quality of your attitude
Dialogue: 0,1:16:41.15,1:16:42.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can always learn more
Dialogue: 0,1:16:44.05,1:16:44.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thank you
Dialogue: 0,1:16:48.63,1:16:49.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,1:16:51.85,1:17:00.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[gong]
Dialogue: 0,1:17:20.78,1:17:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}(in Japanese){\i0}
Dialogue: 0,1:17:39.82,1:17:42.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dear Thay, dear brothers \Nand sisters, dear friends
Dialogue: 0,1:17:44.59,1:17:45.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he asked the question
Dialogue: 0,1:17:46.67,1:17:52.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is there any condition \Nto make people satisfied
Dialogue: 0,1:17:52.49,1:17:53.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then become happy
Dialogue: 0,1:17:54.36,1:17:59.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is there any conditions \Nthat can make people satisfied
Dialogue: 0,1:17:59.32,1:18:00.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they feel happy
Dialogue: 0,1:18:22.67,1:18:29.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, dear... what's your name? \NRay? dear Ray,
Dialogue: 0,1:18:30.62,1:18:33.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,{\i1}arigato{\i0} for your question
Dialogue: 0,1:18:40.85,1:18:44.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so this question is very important
Dialogue: 0,1:18:46.75,1:18:52.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we know the Buddha \Nsat with this question as well
Dialogue: 0,1:18:55.49,1:19:01.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he asked himself is there any \Ncondition for my fulfillment
Dialogue: 0,1:19:01.92,1:19:03.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for my complete happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:19:05.90,1:19:13.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at that time \Nhe had a wife and he had a child
Dialogue: 0,1:19:15.46,1:19:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he had a pretty good career
Dialogue: 0,1:19:19.68,1:19:23.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe he was gonna be \Nthe chief of his village, like his father
Dialogue: 0,1:19:27.54,1:19:29.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so he seemed to have many good conditions
Dialogue: 0,1:19:31.56,1:19:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that most people spend their whole life \Ntrying to obtain
Dialogue: 0,1:19:37.76,1:19:40.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thinking that that will \Nbring them happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:19:41.26,1:19:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yet he wasn't happy
Dialogue: 0,1:19:44.69,1:19:46.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's why we're all here today
Dialogue: 0,1:19:48.19,1:19:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because he saw that those conditions \Nwere not sufficient for his happiness,
Dialogue: 0,1:19:56.12,1:19:57.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for his true happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:19:59.84,1:20:04.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so he decided \Nto leave behind his family
Dialogue: 0,1:20:05.19,1:20:06.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to cut his hair
Dialogue: 0,1:20:08.16,1:20:10.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to live in the forest
Dialogue: 0,1:20:12.95,1:20:16.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he tried looking \Nfor roots in the ground to eat
Dialogue: 0,1:20:19.36,1:20:22.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he went to live \Nin different spiritual communities
Dialogue: 0,1:20:22.66,1:20:24.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he always sat with that question
Dialogue: 0,1:20:25.28,1:20:26.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how can I find true happiness?
Dialogue: 0,1:20:27.89,1:20:31.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or another way to phrase is, \Nwhy is there suffering?
Dialogue: 0,1:20:32.64,1:20:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what is the nature of this suffering?
Dialogue: 0,1:20:38.48,1:20:40.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our teacher Thay,
Dialogue: 0,1:20:41.15,1:20:45.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he often talked about the happiness \Nand suffering like the sides of a coin
Dialogue: 0,1:20:46.34,1:20:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot have happiness \Nwithout suffering
Dialogue: 0,1:20:50.03,1:20:54.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot even imagine suffering \Nwithout happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:20:55.04,1:20:56.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they inter are
Dialogue: 0,1:20:58.48,1:21:03.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it means that, looking into our situation \Nof suffering, we can find happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:21:05.37,1:21:08.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so you could say that suffering \Nis a kind of condition
Dialogue: 0,1:21:09.02,1:21:11.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that can lead us to happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:21:20.32,1:21:24.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,actually as monks and nuns I know myself \Nand many of my brothers and sisters
Dialogue: 0,1:21:24.76,1:21:26.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we also ask this question
Dialogue: 0,1:21:27.100,1:21:31.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because actually we can get quite \Ncomfortable as a monk or nun
Dialogue: 0,1:21:34.14,1:21:39.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see, here in Plum Village we eat \Ndelicious vegetarian food
Dialogue: 0,1:21:40.64,1:21:44.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we live with many people \Nwho are very understanding
Dialogue: 0,1:21:46.00,1:21:47.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,very compassionate very kind
Dialogue: 0,1:21:48.25,1:21:49.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,smiling a lot
Dialogue: 0,1:21:51.43,1:21:54.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we don't have to do too much work
Dialogue: 0,1:21:57.94,1:22:00.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at least we don't get fired \Nif we don't do too much work
Dialogue: 0,1:22:08.64,1:22:12.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so, actually many people come here \Nbecause they think
Dialogue: 0,1:22:12.60,1:22:15.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wow, these are good conditions \Nfor me to be happy
Dialogue: 0,1:22:17.95,1:22:19.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then
Dialogue: 0,1:22:21.61,1:22:24.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then they find out \Nthey have to live together
Dialogue: 0,1:22:25.57,1:22:28.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with other people \Nfor the rest of their life
Dialogue: 0,1:22:38.60,1:22:41.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they start saying why? \Nlook at Thay, Thay teaches this
Dialogue: 0,1:22:41.61,1:22:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but look, look... they look and they say..
Dialogue: 0,1:22:46.61,1:22:50.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so, somehow, even if they have \Nall these good conditions
Dialogue: 0,1:22:51.38,1:22:58.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of good food, place to sleep, \Ngo to the doctor if they're sick
Dialogue: 0,1:22:59.46,1:23:01.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they still are not happy
Dialogue: 0,1:23:02.33,1:23:05.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're not able to live together \Nwith their brothers and sisters
Dialogue: 0,1:23:06.99,1:23:10.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is a pity
Dialogue: 0,1:23:13.32,1:23:15.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so we have to sometimes look and see
Dialogue: 0,1:23:18.09,1:23:21.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is my happiness dependent \Non outside conditions?
Dialogue: 0,1:23:23.00,1:23:24.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even here in Plum Village
Dialogue: 0,1:23:25.22,1:23:27.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we have to ask ourselves because we have..
Dialogue: 0,1:23:27.92,1:23:31.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know monks and nuns, they haven't \Nalways enjoyed such good conditions
Dialogue: 0,1:23:31.88,1:23:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we have in Plum Village to practice
Dialogue: 0,1:23:36.26,1:23:42.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes they lived \Nin a very authoritarian regime
Dialogue: 0,1:23:43.30,1:23:47.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they wanted to destroy \Nthe Buddhist temples
Dialogue: 0,1:23:48.14,1:23:51.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they wanted to make the monks and nuns \Nmarry each other
Dialogue: 0,1:23:51.38,1:23:53.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to give up the celibate life
Dialogue: 0,1:23:55.02,1:23:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that happened many times \Nin history of Buddhism
Dialogue: 0,1:23:58.17,1:24:01.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that continues to happen \Ntoday, in some places
Dialogue: 0,1:24:03.86,1:24:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so even in those conditions,
Dialogue: 0,1:24:07.06,1:24:10.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those monks and nuns were able \Nto touch deep happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:24:11.59,1:24:17.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even like, I remember always a story of \None of Thay's students who was put in jail
Dialogue: 0,1:24:19.10,1:24:26.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She only had a little bit of space, and \Nshe practiced walking meditation every day
Dialogue: 0,1:24:27.30,1:24:29.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just breathing, and being with her step
Dialogue: 0,1:24:31.06,1:24:33.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she was able to generate happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:24:34.74,1:24:37.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even just in that tiny space \Nwith only a little food to eat
Dialogue: 0,1:24:38.90,1:24:42.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she kept her mind clear \Nand she enjoyed every step
Dialogue: 0,1:24:43.54,1:24:46.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so anytime that I feel \Nthat I'm a little bit upset
Dialogue: 0,1:24:46.84,1:24:49.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because my conditions of happiness \Nare not sufficient
Dialogue: 0,1:24:50.23,1:24:53.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I remember that nun, \Npracticing in the jail
Dialogue: 0,1:24:54.05,1:24:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I feel a little bit of shame
Dialogue: 0,1:24:56.56,1:25:00.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how could I be so greedy
Dialogue: 0,1:25:03.11,1:25:09.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that helps me to remove \Nthe external conditions of happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:25:10.98,1:25:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to see that actually I can generate \Na kind of unconditioned happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:25:20.64,1:25:25.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something that's not dependent \Non external or even internal conditions
Dialogue: 0,1:25:27.35,1:25:28.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sometimes we touch that
Dialogue: 0,1:25:28.100,1:25:30.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is a beautiful moment
Dialogue: 0,1:25:30.60,1:25:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you touch that \Nyou need to remember it
Dialogue: 0,1:25:33.60,1:25:35.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe you stop and you take 12 breaths
Dialogue: 0,1:25:38.16,1:25:40.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my happiness has not come from anywhere
Dialogue: 0,1:25:42.22,1:25:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my happiness is not going anywhere
Dialogue: 0,1:25:46.50,1:25:48.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are moments like that in life
Dialogue: 0,1:25:49.72,1:25:54.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in my experience, \Nwhen we practice they become more and more
Dialogue: 0,1:25:54.73,1:25:56.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bigger and longer
Dialogue: 0,1:25:57.34,1:25:59.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's why I love the practice so much
Dialogue: 0,1:26:00.26,1:26:03.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because touching this kind \Nof unconditioned happiness
Dialogue: 0,1:26:05.14,1:26:06.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it takes practice
Dialogue: 0,1:26:06.82,1:26:10.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we are conditioned \Nto like conditioning
Dialogue: 0,1:26:12.54,1:26:15.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are conditioned to like our habits
Dialogue: 0,1:26:15.93,1:26:19.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even people condition themselves \Nto like their own suffering
Dialogue: 0,1:26:20.86,1:26:21.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you imagine that?
Dialogue: 0,1:26:22.93,1:26:25.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they fall in love with their own \Nsituation of suffering
Dialogue: 0,1:26:27.32,1:26:31.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when you want to help them to come \Nout of it, they prefer to stay there
Dialogue: 0,1:26:33.12,1:26:39.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is a funny quality \Nof human beings
Dialogue: 0,1:26:41.66,1:26:45.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so keep that question, \Nit's a beautiful question
Dialogue: 0,1:26:47.12,1:26:48.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like the Buddha
Dialogue: 0,1:26:48.56,1:26:55.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can be a Buddha and ask, \Nwhat is this unconditioned happiness?
Dialogue: 0,1:26:56.39,1:26:58.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,keep asking yourself that question
Dialogue: 0,1:26:58.40,1:26:59.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you look at your suffering
Dialogue: 0,1:27:02.82,1:27:06.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you see it transform and you hold it there
Dialogue: 0,1:27:06.49,1:27:07.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's very beautiful
Dialogue: 0,1:27:08.93,1:27:11.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's the secret of the universe, okay?
Dialogue: 0,1:27:13.28,1:27:14.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,good luck
Dialogue: 0,1:27:21.46,1:27:23.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dear friends it's quarter after 11
Dialogue: 0,1:27:24.91,1:27:29.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we have a beautiful walk \Nfor the community today
Dialogue: 0,1:27:29.39,1:27:33.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go down to Son Ha \Nand enjoy the garden there
Dialogue: 0,1:27:33.57,1:27:34.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and maybe some music
Dialogue: 0,1:27:35.51,1:27:39.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so we know there are other \Nquestions to be asked
Dialogue: 0,1:27:39.32,1:27:43.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we encourage you to bring the \Nquestion up in your Dharma sharing group
Dialogue: 0,1:27:44.52,1:27:47.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you feel courageous enough
Dialogue: 0,1:27:48.42,1:27:52.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are also wonderful other monks \Nand nuns who can share their experience
Dialogue: 0,1:27:52.72,1:27:55.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help with the question
Dialogue: 0,1:27:55.49,1:27:59.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are also a number of written \Nquestions we didn't get to
Dialogue: 0,1:28:00.04,1:28:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I will give them to the brother or sister \Ngiving the Dharma talk tomorrow
Dialogue: 0,1:28:05.16,1:28:06.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so they can keep it in mind
Dialogue: 0,1:28:08.62,1:28:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and hopefully be able to \Nanswer the question in the talk tomorrow
Dialogue: 0,1:28:13.64,1:28:17.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I'd like to thank my elder brothers \Nand sisters for coming up here today
Dialogue: 0,1:28:17.85,1:28:19.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sharing their experience
Dialogue: 0,1:28:19.57,1:28:22.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and thank you all, for we do this together
Dialogue: 0,1:28:22.81,1:28:25.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is a process of deep looking \Nand we continue
Dialogue: 0,1:28:25.40,1:28:31.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we finish the last two days \Nof this third week together
Dialogue: 0,1:28:33.15,1:28:35.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we will finish by listening \Nto three sounds of the Bell