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Vulture Peak Gathering
Upper Hamlet, Plum Village

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Where is Thay?
June 8. 2016

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A teaching from Lay dharma teacher
Eveline Beumkes

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Yesterday the Dharma teachers

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were invited to come together

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and sit near the Buddha,

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next to the hall.

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And Sister Chan Khong was there.

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And she started our coming together

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with saying to us,

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“Dear Friends, I have,

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I have a riddle for you:

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" Where, where, is Thay?”

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(laughter)

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No one answered.

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But we all smiled.

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And I thought, right away.

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“Wow."

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(Is it working?)

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Wow.

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This is exactly the theme of my talk,

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what I want to speak about tomorrow:

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"Where is Thay?”

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More, a little bit more precisely,

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for me the theme is

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"In what way Thay is with me?"

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And this has been
a burning question to me,

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right from the moment I met Thay.

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I came from a very dark place.

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I had been looking for so long

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and finally I found Thay

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and the practice. So precious.

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And right away I was afraid

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that I might lose Thay.

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I might lose him 
before knowing what I needed to know.

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And I knew that he was the one who could

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teach me.

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He was the only one I knew who really knew

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what I needed to know in order to live.

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Because I felt very closed,

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I felt very fearful, unhappy, hopeless

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and I knew that I needed Thay,

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to get the information from him,

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in order to find the way out.

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So I was afraid that he ...

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he might continue his journey

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before I had received the information

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I needed to be able to swim by myself.

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I’ll give you

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a little bit of background information

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about the place where I came from,

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so you understand better my happiness

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to find Thay.

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When I was 12 years old, or I guess 11,

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the world turned grey. I lost my joy.

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I was very surprised.

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I didn’t understand it.

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I used to enjoy playing,

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going to school, seeing my friends.

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And all of a sudden,

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everything lost its meaning.

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I didn’t care any more, doing this or that.

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I didn’t understand it.

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This mood, state of mind, 
stayed maybe for a year,

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and then it fortunately dissolved.

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But it has been coming back, 
more or less intense.

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And it made me question,

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what am I doing here on earth?

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What is the reason of my life?

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What is the meaning of life?

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When I was 18,

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there was a booklet

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called...

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It was a booklet written about the 
report on the state of the environment,

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a report from the Club of Rome.

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And it was called Dead Spring, and 
on the cover was a dead tree.

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I was 18. I haven’t read the book.

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I understood right away what was in it,
and I felt hopeless.

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Already for some years, when I was 
washing the dishes in the evening,

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when I put soap in the water to 
wash the dishes, I wondered ...

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We were living in Amsterdam 
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with many, many apartments around us.

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When everybody in Amsterdam, 
in Holland, all over the world,

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is putting soap in the dish-washing
water a few times a day,

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how can we drink the water?

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How can we continue to survive? 
And then this is only dish-washing water.

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I was then maybe 15, 16.

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So when I read, when I saw this booklet,
it confirmed my fear.

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And, when I spoke about it with other
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“Eveline, don’t worry. 
Nature is very strong.

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It can heal itself.”

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Nobody understood my fear.

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I felt very alone for a long time, 
and I stopped talking about it.

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But I always had this fear of 
what is going to come.

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I felt a cloud, a black cloud of 
the threat, above my head, always.

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And I didn’t see a way out.

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It felt meaningless to me to do anything.

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There was no sense, 
there was no sense in doing anything.

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So this was not a happy place to be.

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I thought, well, this is it.

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This seems to be it.

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I will have to put up with this 
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I did, not very happy.

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And then when I was 28, I read 
a book about parapsychology.

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Para... well, anyway, miraculous things.

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I didn’t know whether what was 
written in the book was true or not.

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I didn’t say it was not true; 
I didn’t say it was true.

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But when I finished reading, I thought,

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“Well, you never know.

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Maybe there is more between
heaven and earth than I know.”

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Maybe... So there was a small opening.

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And then - I was 28 - I started to look,

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to explore in different 
spiritual traditions,

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starting to read books and going 
to workshops in Holland, retreats.

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And then I found,

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then I found a book of Etty Hillesum, 
the diary of Etty Hillesum.

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She is like Anne Frank.

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You may know her, a Jewish woman
in the Second World War.

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Anne was 12 years, but Etty was 28, 
just like me at that time.

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And Etty became a friend.

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I read every day
a few pages of her diary.

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And Etty showed me a way from her…

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She was 28, and she died finally,
in the war. So she didn’t survive.

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But I read in her book that…

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You could follow her way, 
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and you could see how she was growing, 
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– I would say now,
I wouldn’t say it at that time –

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that compassion and understanding
were growing in her.

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And I saw that the darker 
the situation she was in

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- she went to a camp and the situation 
became, for the Jews in Holland,

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became more difficult and more difficult.

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So it was a squeezing situation.

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But the darker the situation is,
I could read,

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the more intense and faster 
her inner light was growing and shining.

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And her strength was growing 
very fast. And that gave me hope.

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Because with the idea that in my life 
very dark times might come,

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now I had hope that however 
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and even when the world around me 
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then that it may be helpful for me to 
grow in the direction of the light faster.

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So I was less afraid 
for the darkness to come.

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And then I was so lucky 
to find some day

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The Miracle of Mindfulness, 
a very small booklet.

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And, um, no, no, before that, yes, yes, 
I was looking.

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I kept looking in different directions, 
but I didn’t find anywhere a teacher

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or a way, a spiritual path, where 
my heart really resonated and

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where I really said, “Yes, this is it.”

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So, I didn’t want to make a compromise 
and I continued searching.

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And then I found 
The Miracle of Mindfulness.

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And before finishing that book, I knew,

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“Now, this is it. Now I have found what 
I have been looking for all these years.”

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And half way the book, 
there is an exercise,

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“washing the dishes in mindfulness”.

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(laughter)

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I wrote a song about it.

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But ... So I practised that 
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and I clearly remember where it was 
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It proved to me, it was such a different 
experience to wash the dishes

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and really be aware of the movement of my 
hand, of the temperature of the water, and

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the contact with the cup that I picked up.

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And suddenly joy opened, 
I really enjoyed it.

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And this was what I had been looking for. 
You know, I was not in touch.

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I was hopeless, what I missed was the 
connection with things.

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And here I felt a real, direct connection.
I was in touch.

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So I was very happy.

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I knew this is my path.

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But now ... the teacher -

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because the author was a monk
who seemed to be living in Vietnam.

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And who can describe my surprise when two 
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I read somewhere in a newspaper that 
the author, Thich Nhat Hanh,

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was coming to Amsterdam - yes! - and
giving a meditation weekend in Amsterdam.

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So, I was very, very, very curious
to meet him.

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I came from a slightly 
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So Buddhism .... yes, that was something 
to be very carefully explored.

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And then Thay came with Sister Chan Khong.

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And right away I felt, well,

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I was so moved, so moved.

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But. I need not explore,
tell you more about that,

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because I guess that is the experience 
we all know when we see Thay,

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with his gentle energy, his smile. 
How can your heart not melt?

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(laughter)

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And then I heard about Plum Village.

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It was May when Thay and Sister Chan Khong
came to Amsterdam.

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And I decided when I heard about 
Plum Village, to go there.

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And when I arrived, 
I felt when I was in Plum Village...

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Oh, maybe I should tell you what it
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Lower Hamlet ...

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at most 60 people, maybe 40, 
mostly Vietnamese, 6 westerners.

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And I felt so happy, 
I felt so extremely happy.

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I felt really like coming home.

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And I’ve heard so many people 
after me using the same words.

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“It feels like coming home here.”

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I went back to Amsterdam and I thought

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I thought, “Now my life has changed; 
now I will be happy.”

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I really believed that. 
And I was so surprised that within …

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in less than 3 days I was back in my 
old track of … as I used to feel before.

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And so we, here, of course, 
we understand that was because …

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because… there was no Sangha. 
There was no Sangha!

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Next summer I went back to Plum Village,
of course looking forward, very much.

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And the same experience, 
enjoying it so deeply.

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And then I remember one day I was in the
library, a very small room,

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and I read a magazine. And until the 
day of today I remember what I read there.

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It made a very deep impression. It was an
article about

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Rumi, from the twelfth century, 
I think a Sufi mystic.

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And in the article it was described 
how much Rumi loved his master.

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He loved him so dearly. And I really 
could connect with that.

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And then, his master died, 
and Rumi was inconsolable.

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And surely I could connect with that.

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And there was a description of how
Rumi kept looking for his master.

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He kept looking and looking 
and looking for years.

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And then, after 5 years, it was written,
he found his master.

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He found him everywhere.

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I thought - and it was a deep intention,
a deep determination, deep in me -

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"This is what I want, 
I want to find Thay everywhere."

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But in the magazine was not a description.

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I had no clue how Rumi had found his 
master. So this was a koan.

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I had to find out for myself.

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(The bell is awoken... )

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(The bell is invited one time...)

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So this was a question that I was holding 
in my heart,

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knowing about Rumi’s example

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. And for me the question was: 
“How can I find Thay everywhere?”

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So it was in my heart. 
I carried it along.

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Then around Christmas that same year, Thay
and Sister Chan Khong offered a retreat

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in Paris, in Fleur de Cactus, 
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I think we were about 20, 25 people then.

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And I had started to think 
about quitting my job.

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I felt very unhappy at my job. And at 
first, I had been thinking that,

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with the practice, I should be able 
to make myself happy there.

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I tried, but I did not succeed. And then, 
one day I heard Thay say that a seedling -

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-- you know, 
a seed that has just sprouted --- 


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a seedling needs protection
in order to grow.

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And then I knew I had 
permission to leave my job.

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(laughter)

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But I was deadly scared to do so.

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And during that winter retreat,
I spoke about my situation and my fear

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with Thay and with Sister Chan Khong.

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And when I left, Thay said to me,
“Eveline, we are with you.”

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Well, those were precious words.

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“We are with you.”

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I don’t know how often I have turned 
these words around in my mind,

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wondering what exactly Thay meant by
“We are with you.”

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In what way?

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And what came up was a story I had read 
in a book a few years ago,

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one of the books 
I read on my quest for a path.

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The book was called 
Living with the Himalayan Masters,

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the masters of the Himalayas, and one of 
the stories in the book described

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a disciple who was walking by night 
on a very small mountain path, alone.

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And all of a sudden, he slipped from the 
road and fell into an abyss.

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And then, miraculously, his master lifted 
him up and put him back on the path.

251
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So that story came up, reflecting on 
the question, “How is Thay with me?”

252
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It didn’t feel like this was the way that 
Thay was with me.

253
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A few months later, I did quit my job, and

254
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I went to America on invitation 
of a monk and a friend,

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who both lived in San Francisco,
and who had invited me to go there.

256
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Again, I was deadly scared to make such a
big trip, with an airplane, all by myself,

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to America. 
But, I wanted the adventure.

258
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No, that’s not true.

259
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I wanted, in fact, to explore the 
different Zen centers that were in America,

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because in Holland by that time, we had 
no Zen centers at all.

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And from coming in Plum Village, I had 
heard from people coming from America

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that there were places in America 
where you could practice.

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And I was curious to go there and 
to see other teachers than Thay.

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Thay was the only teacher that I knew. 
I can tell you, that it just confirmed,

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being in America, that I was on 
the right path being with Thay.

266
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Okay. I went to San Francisco,
invited by Thay Tu Luc.

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And he was living in a temple there, 
in the busy streets.

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And then he said, “Eveline, if you want 
to, I can bring you to the monastery

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in the mountains, in the middle
of the woods, the Kim Son monastery.”

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That seemed a very nice adventure. 
So I went to the Kim Son monastery,

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and I enjoyed it very much,

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with the redwood trees, the woods
- I had never seen so beautiful.

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It was really wild there.

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And after - I was planning to stay in 
America for half a year at least,

275
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maybe a year - and after a few weeks,

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guess who visited, who came to 
the Kim Son monastery?

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(laughter)

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Yes, yes, Thay came. I had no idea. 
For me this was worlds apart.

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And all of a sudden, there he was. 
And he recognized me,

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the woman with the bicycle, because 
I came to Plum Village on my bicycle.

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(laughter)

282
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Not all the way from Amsterdam.

283
00:26:48,091 --> 00:26:57,791
And I was so happy to be with Thay, 
so happy, and I started to wonder,

284
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“Is it a good decision to stay in America? 


285
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Shouldn’t I go back to Europe 
and spend the summer in Plum Village?

286
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It’s so precious to be with Thay. 
Who knows how long he is around?”

287
00:27:13,358 --> 00:27:18,295
(I always was aware of that.) 
“Shouldn’t I go back?”

288
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I was doubting and doubting.

289
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It was a squeezing question
because finally I had come to America.

290
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It had taken me so much courage 
to make this step.

291
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Now I was here, and should I go back?

292
00:27:34,164 --> 00:27:38,164
So, I haven’t asked Thay many 
questions in my life,

293
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but this is one of the questions I asked him.

294
00:27:40,764 --> 00:27:47,724
I went to him and explained the situation 
and asked him, “Thay, what do you think?

295
00:27:47,724 --> 00:27:55,782
Should I stay or should I go 
and be with you in the summer retreat?”

296
00:27:55,782 --> 00:27:59,759
And you may guess what Thay answered...

297
00:28:00,589 --> 00:28:07,309
He said - a very nice answer that I always 
keep with me when I have to make a choice

298
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- “Both are OK.”

299
00:28:09,822 --> 00:28:17,612
(laughter)

300
00:28:17,615 --> 00:28:20,985
I decided to stay.

301
00:28:20,985 --> 00:28:28,675
And then after about ten days, 
the moment came that Thay left us again.

302
00:28:28,675 --> 00:28:34,455
It was a beautiful day, a beautiful evening.

303
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Thay was gone and I had decided to stay,


304
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and I knew I wouldn’t see him 
for a very long time.

305
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I went - I felt sad,
and I went into nature. I sat on a tree.

306
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I sat for hours there in the neighbourhood
of the temple, looking at the trees,

307
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at the sky and the sky was turning dark.

308
00:29:08,118 --> 00:29:18,398
And of course, I was wondering,
"In what way Thay is with me?"

309
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And then as I was looking at the sky, there
were mountains, mountains very far away.

310
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And all of a sudden I noticed there was 
some light above the mountains.

311
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I was surprised. I thought I must not 
have been looking very well before,

312
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because I never noticed 
there was a city over there.

313
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But the light grew intenser, 
more and more light.

314
00:29:55,753 --> 00:30:03,453
And then, all of a sudden, 
there was the moon.

315
00:30:03,453 --> 00:30:07,420
It was not a city. 
It was the light of the moon.

316
00:30:07,420 --> 00:30:13,350
And as the moon was rising, 
it wasn’t just the moon.

317
00:30:13,351 --> 00:30:23,071
It was the most amazing, biggest,
radiant moon I have ever seen.

318
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I could spread my arms to show 
how huge this moon was.

319
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And it moved so gracefully. 
There were no clouds in the sky,

320
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none at all. It was a very silent evening, 
without the wind, very peaceful.

321
00:30:48,763 --> 00:30:57,924
And very, very slowly, without moving, 
the moon was moving and rising and rising.

322
00:30:57,924 --> 00:31:04,354
And all of a sudden there was 
a sound, the sound of the bell:

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the bell inviting us to come to meditation.

324
00:31:10,381 --> 00:31:18,664
I was not happy. 
I was so gazing at the moon.

325
00:31:18,664 --> 00:31:21,361
I was completely connected,

326
00:31:21,361 --> 00:31:28,851
and I was so happy - and unhappy 
at the same time as I was missing Thay.

327
00:31:28,854 --> 00:31:36,034
And after - I don’t understand now 
why I made the decision,

328
00:31:36,050 --> 00:31:38,840
because now I would have
made a different decision,

329
00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:46,210
but in those days I obviously did more
what was expected of me.

330
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So I went in.

331
00:31:49,660 --> 00:31:55,365
And as soon as I was in 
with the other people, I did regret it.

332
00:31:55,365 --> 00:31:59,555
I thought, “What have I done? 
I should have stayed outside!”

333
00:31:59,555 --> 00:32:08,072
Fortunately, the Kim Son monastery
has huge glass windows, really

334
00:32:08,072 --> 00:32:11,530
- at least,in my memory,
but then it’s thirty years ago,

335
00:32:11,530 --> 00:32:17,100
but in my memory the windows are 
from the floor to the ceiling.

336
00:32:17,100 --> 00:32:23,046
So, I took a place, I choose a place from 
where I could see the moon.

337
00:32:23,046 --> 00:32:29,837
I continued to look at the moon.
I wasn’t very concentrated.

338
00:32:29,837 --> 00:32:37,344
I felt sad. Thay wasn’t there. I had
come inside. I should have stayed outside.

339
00:32:37,344 --> 00:32:44,724
And as much as possible, 
I tried to stay connected with the moon.

340
00:32:44,744 --> 00:32:54,567
And then something happened. 
I’ve never understood it. Not even today.

341
00:32:54,567 --> 00:32:57,615
But what happened was that

342
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this huge, brilliant, radiant moon
that I saw shining over there,

343
00:33:05,736 --> 00:33:15,506
began shining from my own belly, 
just as big and radiant.

344
00:33:15,506 --> 00:33:22,482
I saw it. It wasn’t something I figured 
with my mind. It happened to me.

345
00:33:22,495 --> 00:33:26,495
And as we say in Dutch, “Ik stond er bij
en ik keek er naar.” Ik zat er bij.

346
00:33:26,495 --> 00:33:31,215
[Translated to English: “I stood there, and
I looked at what was there.” I sat there.]

347
00:33:31,215 --> 00:33:35,905
So I just observed it, in surprise.

348
00:33:35,905 --> 00:33:40,455
Something else happened 
at the same moment.

349
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As this moon was shining

350
00:33:43,135 --> 00:33:48,825
-- now there were two moons, 
the moon outside and the moon inside --

351
00:33:48,825 --> 00:33:57,253
at the same time, I felt that
Thay’s smile was sinking into me.

352
00:33:57,253 --> 00:34:02,927
I really felt it.
I had seen Thay smiling so often.

353
00:34:02,927 --> 00:34:09,664
And his smile, his serenity, 
was just sinking into me,

354
00:34:09,664 --> 00:34:16,148
and I felt it resting
at the bottom of my being. 


355
00:34:16,148 --> 00:34:26,392
And I knew, I would always find Thay there.

356
00:34:26,392 --> 00:34:34,978
I had, from Store Consciousness I think, 
received an answer to my question,

357
00:34:34,978 --> 00:34:43,846
“How is Thay with me?”

358
00:34:43,846 --> 00:34:48,514
And I always can find him there.

359
00:34:48,514 --> 00:34:55,137
Although there have been waves - 
but they have been on the surface -

360
00:34:55,137 --> 00:35:03,034
in the depths of my being, 
I feel Thay’s presence.

361
00:35:03,034 --> 00:35:08,359
Then I stayed one year in America.

362
00:35:08,359 --> 00:35:12,310
When I came back to Europe, Plum Village

363
00:35:12,310 --> 00:35:19,310
opened its doors for the very first time
to residents, permanent residents,

364
00:35:19,310 --> 00:35:24,276

and I didn’t need to think what to do.

365
00:35:24,280 --> 00:35:32,880
Of course, I went to live in Plum Village.
This could be a story in itself.

366
00:35:32,880 --> 00:35:37,978
(laughter)

367
00:35:38,365 --> 00:35:40,755
[Sister Chan Khong asks from off-stage: 
“Can you sing your song?”]

368
00:35:40,755 --> 00:35:43,201
Yes, yes, it’s coming, Sister Chan Khong.

369
00:35:43,201 --> 00:35:46,728
(laughter)

370
00:35:46,728 --> 00:35:49,098
Yes, yes, yes. .

371
00:35:49,098 --> 00:35:57,968
I was given a room from where
I could watch the sunset every evening

372
00:35:57,968 --> 00:36:00,365
It was so beautiful. 


373
00:36:00,365 --> 00:36:06,835
[Looking around.]
No, no, we are in Upper Hamlet.

374
00:36:06,835 --> 00:36:12,965
And there... So that was maybe a 
few months after coming back from America.

375
00:36:12,965 --> 00:36:19,681
And there Thay invited all of us
– that means eight people - 


376
00:36:19,681 --> 00:36:28,155
to express our experience with 
the practice in a creative way. 


377
00:36:28,155 --> 00:36:33,495
He encouraged us to sing and to write songs.

378
00:36:33,502 --> 00:36:39,602
And so I wrote a song about 
this experience of the moon:

379
00:36:39,602 --> 00:36:44,232
together, the moon in America 
and the sun in Plum Village.

380
00:36:44,232 --> 00:36:49,099
And I’ll give it a try...

381
00:37:11,333 --> 00:37:15,653
The sun is going down,

382
00:37:15,653 --> 00:37:21,396
and the sky is turning grey.

383
00:37:21,396 --> 00:37:25,566
The day has not yet ended

384
00:37:25,566 --> 00:37:31,695
while the night is on its way.

385
00:37:31,695 --> 00:37:36,093
I hear a last bird singing,

386
00:37:36,093 --> 00:37:41,104
and I join it in its song.

387
00:37:41,110 --> 00:37:46,082
And then everything falls silent

388
00:37:46,082 --> 00:37:52,966
while the twilight lingers on.

389
00:37:52,966 --> 00:37:57,774
Now the stars are growing brighter,


390
00:37:57,774 --> 00:38:03,042
we are waiting for the moon.

391
00:38:03,042 --> 00:38:08,659
It is rising from a mountain

392
00:38:08,659 --> 00:38:13,926
like a luminous balloon.


393
00:38:13,926 --> 00:38:19,708
Shining brighter than the sunshine,

394
00:38:19,708 --> 00:38:24,734
smiling limitless serene,


395
00:38:24,734 --> 00:38:30,845
Shining inside, shining outside,

396
00:38:30,845 --> 00:38:36,623
it’s a moon I’ve never seen.

397
00:38:36,623 --> 00:38:42,951
I keep looking in amazement,

398
00:38:42,951 --> 00:38:48,204
I keep looking in delight.


399
00:38:48,204 --> 00:38:53,682
Every leaf has turned transparent;

400
00:38:53,682 --> 00:38:59,701
now it seems no longer night.


401
00:38:59,701 --> 00:39:05,450
I would like to look forever,

402
00:39:05,450 --> 00:39:10,651
and I pray we never part.


403
00:39:10,651 --> 00:39:16,446
Then at once I find it shining

404
00:39:16,446 --> 00:39:22,951
from the bottom from my heart.

405
00:39:22,951 --> 00:39:28,880
Shining brighter than the sunshine,

406
00:39:28,880 --> 00:39:33,914
smiling limitless serene,


407
00:39:33,914 --> 00:39:39,580
Shining inside, shining outside,

408
00:39:39,580 --> 00:39:45,330
it’s a moon I’ve never seen.


409
00:39:45,330 --> 00:39:51,075
I keep looking in amazement,

410
00:39:51,075 --> 00:39:56,165
I keep looking in delight.


411
00:39:56,165 --> 00:40:02,600
And my joy surmounts the mountains,

412
00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:11,012
I have found the moon inside.

413
00:40:27,354 --> 00:40:32,420
I’m aware of time ...

414
00:40:32,420 --> 00:40:41,056
And this is one of the ways I have found Thay.

415
00:40:41,056 --> 00:40:56,377
Very shortly I will share with you other 
ways I’ve found Thay in the course of years.

416
00:40:56,377 --> 00:41:04,981
I’ve discovered that when I am 
concentrated in my practice -

417
00:41:04,981 --> 00:41:10,339
which of course I’m not always, 
which is from time to time -

418
00:41:10,339 --> 00:41:19,263
the more I am concentrated, really 
concentrated, then Thay’s energy is there.

419
00:41:19,263 --> 00:41:23,713
The more I am concentrated, 
the more I feel Thay near.

420
00:41:23,713 --> 00:41:29,076
He is there, in my practice.

421
00:41:29,076 --> 00:41:33,967
My favorite practice is walking meditation.

422
00:41:33,967 --> 00:41:37,853
And a few years, no, I guess many years ago,

423
00:41:39,008 --> 00:41:44,956
Thay taught us what he did 
sometimes during walking meditation.

424
00:41:44,956 --> 00:41:52,792
He said, “Sometimes I walk with my 
students, with one of my students. 


425
00:41:52,792 --> 00:42:00,714
On my in-breath as I walk, I say 
the name of that student. 


426
00:42:00,714 --> 00:42:08,970
And on my out-breath, I say, 
‘I am here, I am here, I am here’.”

427
00:42:08,970 --> 00:42:15,662
I thought, “This is a very nice practice.
I’m going to try that for myself.”

428
00:42:15,662 --> 00:42:18,668
I tried it when my father died.

429
00:42:18,668 --> 00:42:31,045
And I said, “Daddy, Daddy, Daddy,
I am here, I am here, I am here.”

430
00:42:31,045 --> 00:42:36,738
And as I continued to walk in this way,

431
00:42:36,738 --> 00:42:39,857
my father became so present

432
00:42:39,857 --> 00:42:49,644
that all by itself - I didn’t think of it -
but the words “I am here” changed into

433
00:42:49,664 --> 00:42:55,102

“We are here, we are here, we are here.”


434
00:42:55,102 --> 00:43:01,464
And the same, when I invite 
Thay to walk with me.

435
00:43:01,464 --> 00:43:09,820
then I always begin with “I am here” 
until I really feel the presence of Thay.

436
00:43:09,830 --> 00:43:14,235
And then I change it
- or it changes itself - into

437
00:43:14,235 --> 00:43:18,485
“We are here, we are here.”

438
00:43:18,495 --> 00:43:23,711
So this is another way I have 
found Thay in my practice.

439
00:43:23,711 --> 00:43:30,882
And then, much to my relief, after coming 
a few years to Plum Village

440
00:43:30,882 --> 00:43:36,432
and making friends here
- dear friends, Dharma friends -

441
00:43:36,432 --> 00:43:43,327
I began to sense that when I was 
with my friends, I began to sense,

442
00:43:43,327 --> 00:43:47,716
"Thay is here, Thay is here."

443
00:43:47,716 --> 00:43:51,981
He is in my friends.

444
00:43:51,981 --> 00:43:59,481
And that was… that took away my fear 
that when Thay is no longer there … 


445
00:43:59,531 --> 00:44:08,238
I knew I have my friends. 
I will find Thay in my Dharma friends.

446
00:44:08,238 --> 00:44:15,410
And when I heard about Thay’s stroke,
I was shocked at first.

447
00:44:15,410 --> 00:44:20,993
And that week, I went to the
Sangha in Amsterdam.

448
00:44:20,993 --> 00:44:30,353
And in the Sangha, though there were people
who not even had been coming very often,

449
00:44:30,353 --> 00:44:36,809
but yet the energy of the Sangha was there
and I experienced Thay’s presence there.

450
00:44:36,809 --> 00:44:42,993
And I was so relieved.
It was such a reassurance to feel

451
00:44:42,993 --> 00:44:48,354
Thay is really here. I can feel him.

452
00:44:48,354 --> 00:44:57,578
And I am also aware that 
Thay is in the way I look.

453
00:44:57,578 --> 00:45:07,771
I have taken in so much of his words, 
of what he has taught, that the way I see,

454
00:45:07,771 --> 00:45:14,831
the way I hear, the way I think,
is so interwoven with what I’ve learned.

455
00:45:14,831 --> 00:45:21,826
So Thay is there in what I see, 
what I hear, what I think,

456
00:45:21,826 --> 00:45:27,886
at least when I’m mindful.

457
00:45:27,886 --> 00:45:34,746
And, now I am in the most lucky place 


458
00:45:34,746 --> 00:45:46,414
to see Thay all around me
-- inside and all around.

459
00:45:46,414 --> 00:45:53,237
Now, thank you for listening so long.
It’s already almost 12:30.

460
00:45:58,200 --> 00:46:02,730
[The bell is woken up.]

461
00:46:03,507 --> 00:46:21,377
[The bell is invited the first of 3 times.]

462
00:46:21,377 --> 00:46:35,289
[The bell second of the bell.]

463
00:46:35,289 --> 00:46:38,299
[And soon, the third sound of the bell.]