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Hello everyone, for this Ask Teal episode, I wanted to do it on disabilities

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But rather than talk at you for a lengthy amount of time, I wanted to have someone who has an actual disability

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on with me

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So that it wouldn't just be me teaching you about something which I'm theorizing about

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it was somebody who is actually experiencing that perspective who can talk to you also today

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So, this is my good friend now, RJ

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and what I want to say first is that what many people think that genetic coding and issues associated

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with genetics is what's causing disabilities

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but that is like saying that light comes from a light bulb. When we know that the story of where light comes from

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started way before the light bulb. So what we really need to do is to understand that genetic abnormality

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is a symptom as well. It's a byproduct of what was first done with thought, focus, and consciousness.

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Now it's really important to understand also. That people who come into this life, we're talking running start

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with birth defects and things like that which we would look at call a disability.

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That is a choice that that being, the soul within the person, that is projecting the person chose upon

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incarnating into this reality. And now, I know that great many people are going to balk when I say that

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because it's easy for someone who doesn't have a visible disability to say that somebody might chose

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into the experience of being disabled, after all most of us who don't have disabilties would say, why the hell

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would someone choose that.

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but we have to understand that what source is after is a new perspective and that's exactly what is happening

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when you see somebody who has what we call a disability. It's somebody who has a completely

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unique perspective. Having a disability is a very specific kind of contrast

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and with each different disability that's a different kind of contrast. Which causes a different kind of perspective

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which causes a different kind of expansion. And those incredible lessons that are learned through that experience

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adds to the expansion of our Universe.

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So to start with this conversation that we're going to have. This Ask Teal Episode. I want you to first explain to us what your disability is

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and what that means your day to day life is like.

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First of all, I want to thank you for having me

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Like she said my name is RJ and I have 3 different disabilities

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One, is cerebral palsy but some people say ce-rebral palsy

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which has a different variation depending on the person

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if I say I have it where I have the use of my limbs but I'm unable to walk.

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And this originates from a lack of oxygen to the brain either

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before or during birth

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and then the second disability I have is called cleft lip and palate, which is visible right here

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where there is a hole, or there used to be a hole, in the roof of my mouth. And it was open when I was born

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and I had a surgery shortly after to put it back together

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so the after affects of that was my speech impediment.

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My third disability is, I wouldn't say epilepsy but I do have seizures

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and they did not appear until 2000 and I have not had one since 2005.

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Goodie. Good job on not having seizures since 2005.

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Let me guess. That's when you started expressing your emotions?

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Oh man

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Alright, so what do we wanna talk about?

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I think it's really important that in the majority of this Ask Teal episode be about what your overall message is.

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Because we're talking to people who want to understand the spiritual reasoning for having a disability

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and also you want to talk to people with disabilities.

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So what I want to start on, is this idea that absolutely everybody has limitations.

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That's something you and I were talking about earlier, right? That there's a difference,

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everybody's different, and everybody has certain limitations.

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Those limitations cause a certain amount of contrast, right?

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But what we're really seeing basically when we're seeing a disability is somebody who

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is focused on what is inappropriate or what is wrong and the basic society has that opinion of disability.

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A disability means you can't do something, something you "should" do.

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So wouldn't you agree that the focus is something has gone wrong when spiritually, that's not the way it is.

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It's focus on what has gone right.

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Yes, the word to me, the word disability focuses on the negative or has a negative connotation to it.

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Whereas with me I believe everyone has a different ability

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so we are all unique and different.

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Very much so.

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So what do you think is it that causes the most amount of pain for people who have disabilities?

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I believe that there are two ways of having a disability. You could either be born with it or you can acquire it later on in life

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So, to answer your question, it will be easier to answer it for those who acquire it later in life.

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I believe they feel that they have lost something

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In fact, that's the way I was going to explain it earlier.

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That Universally, if somebody is born with a disability... that's a different set of contrast that someone's experiencing

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from somebody who say breaks their spine when they're alive because they lost the ability to walk

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so part of the contrast that we're experiencing in them is a more extreme version of limitation actually

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because they know what the opposite feels like and what's interesting is

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most beings, most people, who line up with it after they're here, what they're really experiencing is

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because of the limitation, is extreme levels of desire for freedom.

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The desire for the ability, that's a sense of freedom, right?

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So, they deliver the most amount of expansion in terms of freedom in this world.

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I believe everybody in this Universe wants a sense of independence

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but we are all interdependent

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So wouldn't you say... this is what somebody in my position would say as a spiritual guide:

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That one of the biggest blessings that comes along with cerebral palsy is that you have to

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learn the lesson of interdependence

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Being in the situation you're in, being completely independent, is not an option.

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Right? So you have to learn to let people into your heart. You have to let them help.

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You have to let them play a role in your life. Independence is really not an option for any of us

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but most of us harbor the illusion that it is. For you, you can't harbor the illusion, can you?

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Right, but we are at different levels. Some people have that ability to have a greater sense of independence than others.

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Like you said, I have to rely on others to help me with whatever I cannot physically do

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Did you ever have a problem with that?

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You mean mentally?

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No, did it ever bother you that people had to help you or that you were in a state where you had to rely on them?

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Did that ever bother you?

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No, not really because I knew that I needed help and when I needed help, I asked for it or I manifest it.

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What would you say to somebody who has a disability that has a big problem with needing help

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That has a problem with the fact that they can't be entirely independent

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Well, I would tell them that they

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are capable of doing anything and everything that they put their minds to

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and to not discourage themselves. I would encourage them to do everything to the best of their ability

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That sounds very good

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Would you agree with me that comparison is really whats causing the most amount of pain when

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it comes to disabilities. Because we understand that when you have a disability, What people are calling that

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It means that theres a certain level of contrast, stuff like "I can't get up the stairs" or you know, stuff like that

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There's a certain amount of contrast there, but what's causing the suffering, the serious amount of suffering is that a person with a disablity is

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comparing themselves to other people so their comparing their physical experience to

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other peoples physical experience and feeling by virtue of doing that, what they can't do.

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Right, so in that scenario I would tell them or encourage them to never focus on what they can't do

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but what they can do. We all have a gift or unique power that is beyond our physical realm

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and we just need to realize that

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And once we do realize that, then we can get a greater sense of what we are capable of and

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use that positive energy to move ourselves towards our own personal happiness

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Oh, I completely agree

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I like to describe to the people this way

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If somebody landed on planet earth and they could fly. And it was a person, so this is not another species

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it's another person that can fly

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right now in our day to day lives we don't feel like it really sucks to not be able to fly, we don't think about it

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right, most of us don't anyways, but if somebody could fly we would suddenly feel the pain in our disability to fly

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but it's because we are comparing ourselves to other people's physical experience

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We're not understanding, which is I think critical for people who suffer from disabilities

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We're not understanding that we chose to come into this very specific perspective so instead of looking at everybody

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like they should have a similar perspective and a similar experience whether that's walking or whether that's talking

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or whether whatever that is. That's not necessarily the way that the Universe looks at it

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The Universe wants a very specific and different unique perspective and so by saying

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"oh I should be another way than I am", we are creating all of that suffering

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Exactly. That just amazed me what you said. And I also beleive that society plays a huge role in defining a regular everyday life

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such as disability, whereas, they set aside this group of people have a disability. Why? Because they are

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incapable of doing this one thing

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Yeah, and I feel like most of us address, most of those of us that are in society that don't have technically a visible disability

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I can tell you we have many that aren't on the surface. But when we don't technically have a visible disability

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a lot of us are looking at people with disabilities with and attitude of sympathy, we don't understand the difference between empathy and understanding and sympathy

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and when we feel emotionally sympathetic when we have sympathy for somebody it doesn't feel good

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emotionally it feels bad because we are basically focused on their limitation. And so that's what we are feeding is their limitation

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and if we were to look at beings who have incarnated with a physical disability with the eyes of truth

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we would look at the value of the choice that they made

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thats what we would be doing

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Yes, and even before we came into this life, yeah

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Here's a good question, do you feel like you chose this. Becuase I can sit here all day long and say

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Look, you chose to come in with a disability. And you know what a lot of people with disabilities are thinking

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They're thinking, "She's a bitch"... So what is your perspective?

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Well first of all, no, you're not a bitch

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Actually, I encourage people to embrace their disability

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because that's what I do. I don't even call it a disability. I call it a different ability

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because I don't focus on what I can't do, I focus on what I can do and that is spreading love and light

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and positive energy to others so that they can expand their minds to see that they are capable

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of doing more than what they are

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and more than what society tells them, for sure

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yes, I am the exact opposite

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What I was saying about embracing my disability or different ability

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I've run across so many people in my life who have a disability and many are very depressed

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or very down on themselves about having a disability and not being able to do everything they want to do

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but I just tell them, you are capable of doing it. You just have to find another way to do it.

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Each and every moment of our lives, we are given an infinite number of opportunities and it's up to us

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to realize and take those opportunites and if you can't go down one path or you don't take one path

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that'll work for you, then travel down another path

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that's the only way that you will reach your personal happiness

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You're so right. Do you think you would have known exactly what you just said unless you had a disability?

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No I don't, or at least not for a while, because throughout my whole life I have never been down on myself

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about my disability. I've always been the one to go for what I want and do whatever I can to get what I want

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Not to sound selfish, but I figure out different ways to do the different things that I would like to do that makes me happy

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This would be my major message to people who do not have disabilities.

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Is that we really need to take it upon ourselves to focus at those people who do have disabilites

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in terms of their capabilities, unique capabilities and not in terms of their disability because

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nothing has gone wrong when people opt in with disabilities or create them

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it's offering an immense amount of awareness. It's actually rare for me now to meet people who have disabilities

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that don't have a certain level of awareness. Because your illusion is stripped from you. You have to face yourself

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a lot of times when you have disabilities. Would you agree?

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Yeah, I would totally agree, yeah.

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So do you find that sometimes people with disabilities defend their limitations?

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They sort of argue for their limitations and argue for why they should suffer

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This is something which I experienced a lot in the deaf community

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I don't know, It's kind of hard for me to answer because I don't do that myself

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This is what I experienced, because I spent a lot of time in the deaf communities, that's another disability right

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What I noticed is that they developed this sense of entitlement sort of, because they believe that nobody on earth is suffering like they're suffering

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They sort of sink into a victim consciousness

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and the world feels like the enemy to them, but what I wanted to explain to people is why people argue for their limitations and their suffering

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it's because they feel condemned or they feel less than. They are looking for some kind of relief and

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The major message here is, They're looking to find relief by giving themselves some kind of permission to be where they are

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and how they are in a world that says they're wrong.

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That goes back to what we were saying about society and how they label everybody

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and that's another quote of mine: "Adjectives are used to describe, not to judge."

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Yes. Wow, aren't you just precious?

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So what I'm actually interested in, I'm looking at some notes that I had written down

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becuase I had some good points to potentially ask you about

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What I was going to explain too, is a lot of people....they maybe thinking on a spiritual level I decided this

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but I don't know why yet

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My major message is that if your in a situation where you have a disability it's really really

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crucial for you to start going to the direction of happiness

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to do whatever you feel like would make you feel better and feel better and feel better

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saying and doing wise and everything and then, once you do that

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it will cause you to align with your inner being to a degree that you will finally have access

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to the answer to that question. Why did I incarnate with this disability

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Well, I would just say that, but people with disablilties and including everyone

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should go for their personal happiness

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oh yes

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But as far as people with disabilities, or should I say people with different abilities, yes

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That is a wonderful way of going about it

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I beleive that many of the people with different abilities don't quite understand why they are the way they are

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Or "I really don't understand why that God made me this way."

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I think that's hard for even those of us that are sitting on the outside, because we are looking at something

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that we wouldn't want to experience, because we don't understand the value of that choice

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that was made, and we are afraid of it happening to us

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That's what I feel like happens with people who are on the outside of it

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That's also another aspect of another quote I have:

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"You reflect what you project." Whatever you think is your life, so you create your own reality

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If you believe that you are disabled and you say you can't do anything about it, then you are stuck in that negative closed box.

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But once you open that box, you have the whole Universe on your side

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So do you feel like you chose this?

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Yes, I do

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Why?

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Because I wanted to, as I said before, spread love and light to people and help people realize what they can do

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for themselves not just for people with different abilities but everybody

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Everybody deserves to be happy otherwise why would we be here?

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We all deserve to do what we want and be happy

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It may not go as smoothly as we want it to however

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when we take into account that each and every moment we have an infinite number of opportunities

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handed to us we have to take a moment and meditate and figure out which one of the opportunities

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resonates with our personal happiness the most and take that route.

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So do you think it's possible for people with disabilities to be happy?

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Yes, everybody can

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What would you say to a person with disabilities who says it's not possible for me to be happy?

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I would ask them why they think that and breaking it down to the core reason

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Kind of like Shadow Work

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Kind of like shadow work...I like that

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What has been the most difficult part of having a disability for you?

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Growing up, there have been many people along the way that would use me and have ulterior motives like

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money or they use me for my brains or they don't have the time for me

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Like "Oh, he's in a wheelchair, well I want to go to this party but I can't get you in my car, so forget you"

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and they go to the party

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But, later I have to ask myself, "if they really did that, are they really my friend? No."

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So here, I've got a good question for you. This is sort of the creme de la creme. You Ready?

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What beneficial things, what capabilities would you never have had unless you had this?

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I want you to basically share with us what you think the gift of having a disablitiy or different ability is

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Having a disability or different ability gives me- Ah, that's the way to put it.

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Having a disability gives me the different ability to see or experience the world

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from a different point of view

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And what is that point of view?

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To see how I would react or do things differently than the norm or the mainstream.

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Do you think that there are blessings that came along with having cerebral palsy?

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I wouldn't have the friends that I do now who I'm grateful for, who see me for me and not for my disability or anything else

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Do you think it gave you the ability to have compassion for people?

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Yes

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Because, from what I realize from not only myself but other people with different abilities

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Many of us have a kinder heart than most people becasue I'm sure you know that in this day in age, we live in a fast paced world that is go go go

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For somebody like me, somebody who can't go go go. Takes the time to appreciate the world around us.

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We have a kinder heart and we notice everything we appreciate it.

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We know what it takes to get around this world and not just go all the time.

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We like to slow things down.

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Sounds like a beneficial lesson huh?

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Oh yeah

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I think it'd be interesting for most people to know that a disability is not a life sentence

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It is actually possible for people to change their disablities completely regardless of how genetic they are or how non-genetic they are

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but here's the catch, ready?

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Because everyone wants to know that, when I usually get messages from people with disabilities, that's what they want to know

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"How do I get rid of my disability?"

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Why would you want to?

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Well see that's the fun part

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That means you are in a serious level of expansion

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So, this is what I was going to say

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If you want to change your disability, the only way to really do that is to completely embrace it

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and not embrace it becuase you want to change it, embrace it because it feels better to embrace it

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than to live in resistance to your disability for the rest of your life

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But what you'll notice happening when people start to embrace their disabilities,

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and this is the case with one of my favorite colleague teachers

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is that, becuase he is paraplegic from the nipple line down, what he found when he embraced his

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parapalegic state was that he didn't want to change it. Becuase he realized how it enabled him to teach

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Becuase what happens when your big, like before his accident he was 6'5" and really intimidating

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I mean he's a very hansome man, striking, but he's got a very intimidating persona

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He noticed that when he would start to talk people would start to shut down

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but now because he's sitting in chair because people look at him with that attitude of "Oh my gosh, you know...

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this person isn't intimidating they're stuck in a wheelchair."

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They're instantly more open to him, so he's able to teach to people in a way where they are now open to him

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His greatest happiness now is in going around and teaching

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and his message I think is your message as well

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Look, If I can be happy with all of this, than you can do that in your own life, which is ultimately the number one

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reason I wanted you on this Ask Teal episode today

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because I can talk all day long but if you're sitting in front of somebody, especially if you have a disability

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sitting in front of somebody who also has one, who's saying look

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I can be happy,

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I've managed to do it, you can do it too.

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That they may actually start to believe that what they are struggling with is not as bad as they think that it is

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That they can look for the blessing in any sort of circumstance

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Yes, and I teach that each and everyday; that

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anybody and everybody I come into contact with

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You make people happy do you know that?

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I'm glad

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So, I think it's super crucial that those of us who are dealing with disabilities or those

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of us that around people with disabilities need to start switching our focus deliberately

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We need to start looking at what has gone right

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instead of what has gone wrong

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Anything and everything will happen. I believe that whole heartedly

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Once you put your focus on it and put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything and everything

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So if you had some closing statements... What I want you to do is tell those of us that don't have disabilities

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what your view on disabilities is and what you'd want from us

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This is your soap box, you get to talk to the rest of the nation

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Personally I am not looking for pity. I know we talked about that earlier. I am not looking for pity

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I don't want anybody to come up to me and say "Oh, I'm sorry you are in a wheelchair" and all that

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I'm not sorry, I embrace it, like I said before. This is who I am and I teach people how to handle it,

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what to do in certain scenarios and empower people. That's what I'm all about.

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I enjoy each and every moment of my life. I never get down on myself because I know deep down inside

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that I am capable of doing anything and everything.

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Anybody can ask me anything about my disability

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A lot of people ask me, before they ask anything else, "May I ask you a question about your disability without you getting offended?"

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Of course, I have nothing to hide. Obviously you can see you my wheelchair so why would I hide that?

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If you wanted to know something about it or any disability, I will answer it to the best of my ability

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If I don't know the answer and I will see you later on, I will get back to you.

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I encourage everyone, with or without a disability, to live their lives out and to embrace each and every

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moment of their day, no matter what their problems are or whatever things that they are dealing with

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All that doesn't matter. We all have the capability of doing whatever we want and we are here to be happy

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So why not go for that?

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I like that

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That's what very thing that I teach each and everyday

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To have people reach for the stars, go for their personal happiness. They deserve it.

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So I give you all positive energy, right here and now.

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So, because this is a spiritual show, and what I'm trying to demonstrate is that there is from

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your soul perspective, there is a major benefit to coming in with a "disability" or "different" ability

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Right, so lets say that you come in and you're unable to move your limbs because your body is a challenge for you right.

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Than you have to learn who you really are separate from the body

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and so from a universal perspective we would consider someone with cerbral palsy to be eventually

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if they line up with that expansion, not if they continue to focus on the limitation

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but if they line up if the perspective like you have, we consider that person to be a master of mind versus matter

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It means that you've seen outside the matrix moreso than most people who are walking the planet earth

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and that's exactly why you chose to come down like this

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So, then what I want you to do is to tell us what you would want us to think when we saw you.

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Because, you know that when most people walk by someone with a disability they go "Oh my gosh, that poor little guy"

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What would you have us think

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if you had your way?

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I would want you to see through my eyes and into my spirit

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That is the best answer I've ever received

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That is what each and everybody should be doing.

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I think that is what everybody wants regardless of whether they have disabilities or not

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they want that level of intimacy, where someone's capable of getting beyond the external mask of our physical structure

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We have reached a point in our society where everyone has some kind of label

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and we need to get past that, and the only way to do that or at least to remove that label

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is to look into our soul into our spirit and get to know the person inside

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and see people for who they really are

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Nothing like a label to force you to have to find the real you, right?

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Right, do I want to be labeled as disabled or have a disability? No,

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but unfortunately society has done that to me. Do I really care? No

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because I make my own label per se. I am outside the box, I'm outside the matrix, as you said, and I make my own persona

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I don't fall into one or any set category that society has made or created

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So to close what I want you to do is to tell us whatever final message you think is important, relative to the subject of disabilities

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This is your major lasting impact. What is it you'd want to say?

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My last major impact? Okay.

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I'm sure it'll be just the first of many to come from you.

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For those who are asking and I hope there are millions of you, I would like to tell you

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That you can achieve anything you want, anything and everything

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Open your mind, realize that there are an infinite number of opportunities available to you each and every moment

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such as now, now, now, now and if you, somewhere down the line make a wrong choice

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it's not really wrong because the very next moment you could take a different opportunity

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and go, attract your personal happiness and go a different route. So, again I encourage each and every one of you

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to go towards your personal happiness, whatever that may be. And that is basically the meaning of life

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and we are all here to embrace our lives, embrace what we are capable of and I give you lots of love and

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light and energy in order to do that and I wish you well

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whether you have a disability or not, it doesn't really matter... whether you are Black, White, Gay, Straight, Man, Woman,

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whatever, it doesn't really matter because you are you and you are the only one who can tell what is your happiness

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Nobody else can tell you. You have to find it out on your own and once you do

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attract it, move towards it, focus, and just be

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Well, thank you so much for joining us for this Ask Teal episode

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Well I appreciate you having me

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Thank you everybody for joining us and you heard it straight from the source. It's time to embrace your own

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different abilities because we all have them

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Have a good week