Hello everyone, for this Ask Teal episode, I wanted to do it on disabilities
But rather than talk at you for a lengthy amount of time, I wanted to have someone who has an actual disability
on with me
So that it wouldn't just be me teaching you about something which I'm theorizing about
it was somebody who is actually experiencing that perspective who can talk to you also today
So, this is my good friend now, RJ
and what I want to say first is that what many people think that genetic coding and issues associated
with genetics is what's causing disabilities
but that is like saying that light comes from a light bulb. When we know that the story of where light comes from
started way before the light bulb. So what we really need to do is to understand that genetic abnormality
is a symptom as well. It's a byproduct of what was first done with thought, focus, and consciousness.
Now it's really important to understand also. That people who come into this life, we're talking running start
with birth defects and things like that which we would look at call a disability.
That is a choice that that being, the soul within the person, that is projecting the person chose upon
incarnating into this reality. And now, I know that great many people are going to balk when I say that
because it's easy for someone who doesn't have a visible disability to say that somebody might chose
into the experience of being disabled, after all most of us who don't have disabilties would say, why the hell
would someone choose that.
but we have to understand that what source is after is a new perspective and that's exactly what is happening
when you see somebody who has what we call a disability. It's somebody who has a completely
unique perspective. Having a disability is a very specific kind of contrast
and with each different disability that's a different kind of contrast. Which causes a different kind of perspective
which causes a different kind of expansion. And those incredible lessons that are learned through that experience
adds to the expansion of our Universe.
So to start with this conversation that we're going to have. This Ask Teal Episode. I want you to first explain to us what your disability is
and what that means your day to day life is like.
First of all, I want to thank you for having me
Like she said my name is RJ and I have 3 different disabilities
One, is cerebral palsy but some people say ce-rebral palsy
which has a different variation depending on the person
if I say I have it where I have the use of my limbs but I'm unable to walk.
And this originates from a lack of oxygen to the brain either
before or during birth
and then the second disability I have is called cleft lip and palate, which is visible right here
where there is a hole, or there used to be a hole, in the roof of my mouth. And it was open when I was born
and I had a surgery shortly after to put it back together
so the after affects of that was my speech impediment.
My third disability is, I wouldn't say epilepsy but I do have seizures
and they did not appear until 2000 and I have not had one since 2005.
Goodie. Good job on not having seizures since 2005.
Let me guess. That's when you started expressing your emotions?
Oh man
Alright, so what do we wanna talk about?
I think it's really important that in the majority of this Ask Teal episode be about what your overall message is.
Because we're talking to people who want to understand the spiritual reasoning for having a disability
and also you want to talk to people with disabilities.
So what I want to start on, is this idea that absolutely everybody has limitations.
That's something you and I were talking about earlier, right? That there's a difference,
everybody's different, and everybody has certain limitations.
Those limitations cause a certain amount of contrast, right?
But what we're really seeing basically when we're seeing a disability is somebody who
is focused on what is inappropriate or what is wrong and the basic society has that opinion of disability.
A disability means you can't do something, something you "should" do.
So wouldn't you agree that the focus is something has gone wrong when spiritually, that's not the way it is.
It's focus on what has gone right.
Yes, the word to me, the word disability focuses on the negative or has a negative connotation to it.
Whereas with me I believe everyone has a different ability
so we are all unique and different.
Very much so.
So what do you think is it that causes the most amount of pain for people who have disabilities?
I believe that there are two ways of having a disability. You could either be born with it or you can acquire it later on in life
So, to answer your question, it will be easier to answer it for those who acquire it later in life.
I believe they feel that they have lost something
In fact, that's the way I was going to explain it earlier.
That Universally, if somebody is born with a disability... that's a different set of contrast that someone's experiencing
from somebody who say breaks their spine when they're alive because they lost the ability to walk
so part of the contrast that we're experiencing in them is a more extreme version of limitation actually
because they know what the opposite feels like and what's interesting is
most beings, most people, who line up with it after they're here, what they're really experiencing is
because of the limitation, is extreme levels of desire for freedom.
The desire for the ability, that's a sense of freedom, right?
So, they deliver the most amount of expansion in terms of freedom in this world.
yes
I believe everybody in this Universe wants a sense of independence
but we are all interdependent
Yes
So wouldn't you say... this is what somebody in my position would say as a spiritual guide:
That one of the biggest blessings that comes along with cerebral palsy is that you have to
learn the lesson of interdependence
Being in the situation you're in, being completely independent, is not an option.
Right? So you have to learn to let people into your heart. You have to let them help.
You have to let them play a role in your life. Independence is really not an option for any of us
but most of us harbor the illusion that it is. For you, you can't harbor the illusion, can you?
Right, but we are at different levels. Some people have that ability to have a greater sense of independence than others.
Like you said, I have to rely on others to help me with whatever I cannot physically do
Did you ever have a problem with that?
You mean mentally?
No, did it ever bother you that people had to help you or that you were in a state where you had to rely on them?
Did that ever bother you?
No, not really because I knew that I needed help and when I needed help, I asked for it or I manifest it.
What would you say to somebody who has a disability that has a big problem with needing help
That has a problem with the fact that they can't be entirely independent
Well, I would tell them that they
are capable of doing anything and everything that they put their minds to
and to not discourage themselves. I would encourage them to do everything to the best of their ability
That sounds very good
Would you agree with me that comparison is really whats causing the most amount of pain when
it comes to disabilities. Because we understand that when you have a disability, What people are calling that
It means that theres a certain level of contrast, stuff like "I can't get up the stairs" or you know, stuff like that
There's a certain amount of contrast there, but what's causing the suffering, the serious amount of suffering is that a person with a disablity is
comparing themselves to other people so their comparing their physical experience to
other peoples physical experience and feeling by virtue of doing that, what they can't do.
Right, so in that scenario I would tell them or encourage them to never focus on what they can't do
but what they can do. We all have a gift or unique power that is beyond our physical realm
and we just need to realize that
And once we do realize that, then we can get a greater sense of what we are capable of and
use that positive energy to move ourselves towards our own personal happiness
Oh, I completely agree
I like to describe to the people this way
If somebody landed on planet earth and they could fly. And it was a person, so this is not another species
it's another person that can fly
right now in our day to day lives we don't feel like it really sucks to not be able to fly, we don't think about it
right, most of us don't anyways, but if somebody could fly we would suddenly feel the pain in our disability to fly
but it's because we are comparing ourselves to other people's physical experience
We're not understanding, which is I think critical for people who suffer from disabilities
We're not understanding that we chose to come into this very specific perspective so instead of looking at everybody
like they should have a similar perspective and a similar experience whether that's walking or whether that's talking
or whether whatever that is. That's not necessarily the way that the Universe looks at it
The Universe wants a very specific and different unique perspective and so by saying
"oh I should be another way than I am", we are creating all of that suffering
Exactly. That just amazed me what you said. And I also beleive that society plays a huge role in defining a regular everyday life
such as disability, whereas, they set aside this group of people have a disability. Why? Because they are
incapable of doing this one thing
Yeah, and I feel like most of us address, most of those of us that are in society that don't have technically a visible disability
I can tell you we have many that aren't on the surface. But when we don't technically have a visible disability
a lot of us are looking at people with disabilities with and attitude of sympathy, we don't understand the difference between empathy and understanding and sympathy
and when we feel emotionally sympathetic when we have sympathy for somebody it doesn't feel good
emotionally it feels bad because we are basically focused on their limitation. And so that's what we are feeding is their limitation
and if we were to look at beings who have incarnated with a physical disability with the eyes of truth
we would look at the value of the choice that they made
thats what we would be doing
Yes, and even before we came into this life, yeah
Here's a good question, do you feel like you chose this. Becuase I can sit here all day long and say
Look, you chose to come in with a disability. And you know what a lot of people with disabilities are thinking
They're thinking, "She's a bitch"... So what is your perspective?
Well first of all, no, you're not a bitch
Actually, I encourage people to embrace their disability
because that's what I do. I don't even call it a disability. I call it a different ability
because I don't focus on what I can't do, I focus on what I can do and that is spreading love and light
and positive energy to others so that they can expand their minds to see that they are capable
of doing more than what they are
and more than what society tells them, for sure
yes, I am the exact opposite
What I was saying about embracing my disability or different ability
I've run across so many people in my life who have a disability and many are very depressed
or very down on themselves about having a disability and not being able to do everything they want to do
but I just tell them, you are capable of doing it. You just have to find another way to do it.
Each and every moment of our lives, we are given an infinite number of opportunities and it's up to us
to realize and take those opportunites and if you can't go down one path or you don't take one path
that'll work for you, then travel down another path
that's the only way that you will reach your personal happiness
You're so right. Do you think you would have known exactly what you just said unless you had a disability?
No I don't, or at least not for a while, because throughout my whole life I have never been down on myself
about my disability. I've always been the one to go for what I want and do whatever I can to get what I want
Not to sound selfish, but I figure out different ways to do the different things that I would like to do that makes me happy
This would be my major message to people who do not have disabilities.
Is that we really need to take it upon ourselves to focus at those people who do have disabilites
in terms of their capabilities, unique capabilities and not in terms of their disability because
nothing has gone wrong when people opt in with disabilities or create them
it's offering an immense amount of awareness. It's actually rare for me now to meet people who have disabilities
that don't have a certain level of awareness. Because your illusion is stripped from you. You have to face yourself
a lot of times when you have disabilities. Would you agree?
Yeah, I would totally agree, yeah.
So do you find that sometimes people with disabilities defend their limitations?
They sort of argue for their limitations and argue for why they should suffer
This is something which I experienced a lot in the deaf community
I don't know, It's kind of hard for me to answer because I don't do that myself
This is what I experienced, because I spent a lot of time in the deaf communities, that's another disability right
What I noticed is that they developed this sense of entitlement sort of, because they believe that nobody on earth is suffering like they're suffering
They sort of sink into a victim consciousness
and the world feels like the enemy to them, but what I wanted to explain to people is why people argue for their limitations and their suffering
it's because they feel condemned or they feel less than. They are looking for some kind of relief and
The major message here is, They're looking to find relief by giving themselves some kind of permission to be where they are
and how they are in a world that says they're wrong.
That goes back to what we were saying about society and how they label everybody
and that's another quote of mine: "Adjectives are used to describe, not to judge."
Yes. Wow, aren't you just precious?
So what I'm actually interested in, I'm looking at some notes that I had written down
becuase I had some good points to potentially ask you about
What I was going to explain too, is a lot of people....they maybe thinking on a spiritual level I decided this
but I don't know why yet
My major message is that if your in a situation where you have a disability it's really really
crucial for you to start going to the direction of happiness
to do whatever you feel like would make you feel better and feel better and feel better
saying and doing wise and everything and then, once you do that
it will cause you to align with your inner being to a degree that you will finally have access
to the answer to that question. Why did I incarnate with this disability
Well, I would just say that, but people with disablilties and including everyone
should go for their personal happiness
oh yes
But as far as people with disabilities, or should I say people with different abilities, yes
That is a wonderful way of going about it
I beleive that many of the people with different abilities don't quite understand why they are the way they are
Or "I really don't understand why that God made me this way."
I think that's hard for even those of us that are sitting on the outside, because we are looking at something
that we wouldn't want to experience, because we don't understand the value of that choice
that was made, and we are afraid of it happening to us
That's what I feel like happens with people who are on the outside of it
That's also another aspect of another quote I have:
"You reflect what you project." Whatever you think is your life, so you create your own reality
If you believe that you are disabled and you say you can't do anything about it, then you are stuck in that negative closed box.
But once you open that box, you have the whole Universe on your side
So do you feel like you chose this?
Yes, I do
Why?
Because I wanted to, as I said before, spread love and light to people and help people realize what they can do
for themselves not just for people with different abilities but everybody
Everybody deserves to be happy otherwise why would we be here?
We all deserve to do what we want and be happy
It may not go as smoothly as we want it to however
when we take into account that each and every moment we have an infinite number of opportunities
handed to us we have to take a moment and meditate and figure out which one of the opportunities
resonates with our personal happiness the most and take that route.
So do you think it's possible for people with disabilities to be happy?
Yes, everybody can
What would you say to a person with disabilities who says it's not possible for me to be happy?
I would ask them why they think that and breaking it down to the core reason
Kind of like Shadow Work
Kind of like shadow work...I like that
What has been the most difficult part of having a disability for you?
Growing up, there have been many people along the way that would use me and have ulterior motives like
money or they use me for my brains or they don't have the time for me
Like "Oh, he's in a wheelchair, well I want to go to this party but I can't get you in my car, so forget you"
and they go to the party
But, later I have to ask myself, "if they really did that, are they really my friend? No."
So here, I've got a good question for you. This is sort of the creme de la creme. You Ready?
What beneficial things, what capabilities would you never have had unless you had this?
I want you to basically share with us what you think the gift of having a disablitiy or different ability is
Well
Having a disability or different ability gives me- Ah, that's the way to put it.
Having a disability gives me the different ability to see or experience the world
from a different point of view
And what is that point of view?
To see how I would react or do things differently than the norm or the mainstream.
Do you think that there are blessings that came along with having cerebral palsy?
I wouldn't have the friends that I do now who I'm grateful for, who see me for me and not for my disability or anything else
Do you think it gave you the ability to have compassion for people?
Yes
Because, from what I realize from not only myself but other people with different abilities
Many of us have a kinder heart than most people becasue I'm sure you know that in this day in age, we live in a fast paced world that is go go go
For somebody like me, somebody who can't go go go. Takes the time to appreciate the world around us.
We have a kinder heart and we notice everything we appreciate it.
We know what it takes to get around this world and not just go all the time.
We like to slow things down.
Sounds like a beneficial lesson huh?
Oh yeah
I think it'd be interesting for most people to know that a disability is not a life sentence
It is actually possible for people to change their disablities completely regardless of how genetic they are or how non-genetic they are
but here's the catch, ready?
Because everyone wants to know that, when I usually get messages from people with disabilities, that's what they want to know
"How do I get rid of my disability?"
Why would you want to?
Well see that's the fun part
That means you are in a serious level of expansion
So, this is what I was going to say
If you want to change your disability, the only way to really do that is to completely embrace it
and not embrace it becuase you want to change it, embrace it because it feels better to embrace it
than to live in resistance to your disability for the rest of your life
But what you'll notice happening when people start to embrace their disabilities,
and this is the case with one of my favorite colleague teachers
is that, becuase he is paraplegic from the nipple line down, what he found when he embraced his
parapalegic state was that he didn't want to change it. Becuase he realized how it enabled him to teach
Becuase what happens when your big, like before his accident he was 6'5" and really intimidating
I mean he's a very hansome man, striking, but he's got a very intimidating persona
He noticed that when he would start to talk people would start to shut down
but now because he's sitting in chair because people look at him with that attitude of "Oh my gosh, you know...
this person isn't intimidating they're stuck in a wheelchair."
They're instantly more open to him, so he's able to teach to people in a way where they are now open to him
His greatest happiness now is in going around and teaching
and his message I think is your message as well
Look, If I can be happy with all of this, than you can do that in your own life, which is ultimately the number one
reason I wanted you on this Ask Teal episode today
because I can talk all day long but if you're sitting in front of somebody, especially if you have a disability
sitting in front of somebody who also has one, who's saying look
I can be happy,
I've managed to do it, you can do it too.
That they may actually start to believe that what they are struggling with is not as bad as they think that it is
That they can look for the blessing in any sort of circumstance
Yes, and I teach that each and everyday; that
anybody and everybody I come into contact with
You make people happy do you know that?
I'm glad
So, I think it's super crucial that those of us who are dealing with disabilities or those
of us that around people with disabilities need to start switching our focus deliberately
We need to start looking at what has gone right
instead of what has gone wrong
Right
Anything and everything will happen. I believe that whole heartedly
Once you put your focus on it and put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything and everything
So if you had some closing statements... What I want you to do is tell those of us that don't have disabilities
what your view on disabilities is and what you'd want from us
This is your soap box, you get to talk to the rest of the nation
Personally I am not looking for pity. I know we talked about that earlier. I am not looking for pity
I don't want anybody to come up to me and say "Oh, I'm sorry you are in a wheelchair" and all that
I'm not sorry, I embrace it, like I said before. This is who I am and I teach people how to handle it,
what to do in certain scenarios and empower people. That's what I'm all about.
I enjoy each and every moment of my life. I never get down on myself because I know deep down inside
that I am capable of doing anything and everything.
Anybody can ask me anything about my disability
A lot of people ask me, before they ask anything else, "May I ask you a question about your disability without you getting offended?"
Of course, I have nothing to hide. Obviously you can see you my wheelchair so why would I hide that?
If you wanted to know something about it or any disability, I will answer it to the best of my ability
If I don't know the answer and I will see you later on, I will get back to you.
I encourage everyone, with or without a disability, to live their lives out and to embrace each and every
moment of their day, no matter what their problems are or whatever things that they are dealing with
All that doesn't matter. We all have the capability of doing whatever we want and we are here to be happy
So why not go for that?
I like that
That's what very thing that I teach each and everyday
To have people reach for the stars, go for their personal happiness. They deserve it.
So I give you all positive energy, right here and now.
So, because this is a spiritual show, and what I'm trying to demonstrate is that there is from
your soul perspective, there is a major benefit to coming in with a "disability" or "different" ability
Right, so lets say that you come in and you're unable to move your limbs because your body is a challenge for you right.
Than you have to learn who you really are separate from the body
and so from a universal perspective we would consider someone with cerbral palsy to be eventually
if they line up with that expansion, not if they continue to focus on the limitation
but if they line up if the perspective like you have, we consider that person to be a master of mind versus matter
It means that you've seen outside the matrix moreso than most people who are walking the planet earth
and that's exactly why you chose to come down like this
So, then what I want you to do is to tell us what you would want us to think when we saw you.
Because, you know that when most people walk by someone with a disability they go "Oh my gosh, that poor little guy"
What would you have us think
if you had your way?
I would want you to see through my eyes and into my spirit
That is the best answer I've ever received
That is what each and everybody should be doing.
I think that is what everybody wants regardless of whether they have disabilities or not
they want that level of intimacy, where someone's capable of getting beyond the external mask of our physical structure
We have reached a point in our society where everyone has some kind of label
and we need to get past that, and the only way to do that or at least to remove that label
is to look into our soul into our spirit and get to know the person inside
and see people for who they really are
Nothing like a label to force you to have to find the real you, right?
Right, do I want to be labeled as disabled or have a disability? No,
but unfortunately society has done that to me. Do I really care? No
because I make my own label per se. I am outside the box, I'm outside the matrix, as you said, and I make my own persona
I don't fall into one or any set category that society has made or created
So to close what I want you to do is to tell us whatever final message you think is important, relative to the subject of disabilities
This is your major lasting impact. What is it you'd want to say?
My last major impact? Okay.
I'm sure it'll be just the first of many to come from you.
For those who are asking and I hope there are millions of you, I would like to tell you
That you can achieve anything you want, anything and everything
Open your mind, realize that there are an infinite number of opportunities available to you each and every moment
such as now, now, now, now and if you, somewhere down the line make a wrong choice
it's not really wrong because the very next moment you could take a different opportunity
and go, attract your personal happiness and go a different route. So, again I encourage each and every one of you
to go towards your personal happiness, whatever that may be. And that is basically the meaning of life
and we are all here to embrace our lives, embrace what we are capable of and I give you lots of love and
light and energy in order to do that and I wish you well
whether you have a disability or not, it doesn't really matter... whether you are Black, White, Gay, Straight, Man, Woman,
whatever, it doesn't really matter because you are you and you are the only one who can tell what is your happiness
Nobody else can tell you. You have to find it out on your own and once you do
attract it, move towards it, focus, and just be
Well, thank you so much for joining us for this Ask Teal episode
Well I appreciate you having me
Thank you everybody for joining us and you heard it straight from the source. It's time to embrace your own
different abilities because we all have them
Have a good week