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Dialogue: 0,0:00:00.00,0:00:03.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stretch and cough as loud as you like now.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.87,0:00:05.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're not going to disturb anybody.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.74,0:00:10.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Scratch knees, move your legs, move your bum.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.92,0:00:17.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Get yourselves comfortable for the next\Npart of this evening's festivities.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.84,0:00:26.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Dhamma talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.61,0:00:56.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Excellent. So for this evening's Dhamma talk\NI had all sorts of ideas what I was
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.98,0:01:00.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,going to speak about,\Nactually not many of them,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.24,0:01:02.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's quite obvious what I should speak about tonight,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.100,0:01:07.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's a problem which is common to so many
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.33,0:01:17.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people and I've just been feeling it and\Novercoming it though this meditation: tiredness.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.65,0:01:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, 3, 4, 5 years ago,\NI cannot remember when,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.53,0:01:27.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's the trouble with living in the\Npresent moment, as a monk we don't get
Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.48,0:01:32.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,dementia, we just get\Nliving-in-the-present-momentness
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.73,0:01:37.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[laughts] so we don't really think too\Nmuch about past and future.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.61,0:01:40.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So other people say - when did that happen?\N"In the past somewhere"
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.80,0:01:44.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we don't exactly remember when,\Nand it's not as if you don't want
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.14,0:01:49.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to remember, it's just the efficiency of\Nthe brain and living in this moment
Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.50,0:01:52.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than always living in that past.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:52.81,0:01:58.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a few years ago when I was teaching overseas as I often do,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.98,0:02:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was invited to spend the day at a\Nyouth seminar in Kuala Lumpur,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.77,0:02:12.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a very interesting occassion,\Nabout 400-500 young people 15-25,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.49,0:02:16.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doing all sorts of interesting stuff,\None of the things they were doing
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.55,0:02:24.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that they asked all the people there,\Nwhat is your most difficult emotion
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.08,0:02:32.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as 15-25 year old, mostly Chinese\NBuddhists over in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.32,0:02:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you find most difficult of all\Nin life?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.82,0:02:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the answer which came up was tiredness.\NI never expected that before,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.78,0:02:47.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but once they said that it was\Nquite obvious why people are tired even
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.68,0:02:55.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they are in the late teen years, 15 to 25.\NYou can remember your time as a
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.32,0:03:00.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,young man, a young woman, the pressure\Nis really on you.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.18,0:03:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to do well at school,\Nyour parents and teachers and
Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.91,0:03:09.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,friends say it's really important,\Nso you have to do really well at homework
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.22,0:03:11.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and get good grades.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.29,0:03:16.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's one of the problems with young people,\Nparents tell me off for this,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.65,0:03:19.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm supporting young people, it doesn't matter so much what
Dialogue: 0,0:03:19.30,0:03:22.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,grades you get at school.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:22.33,0:03:26.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,People have found, Daniel Goldman,\Nemotional intelligence, found out
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.38,0:03:30.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the grades you get at school and\NUniversity, all those certificates,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.55,0:03:35.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they don't really count for much when it\Ncomes to success in life.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.57,0:03:39.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Success is not guaranteed by doing\Nwell at school. Something else is.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:39.42,0:03:44.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's why I was telling people just yesterday,\Nin Singapore, came though there
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.55,0:03:48.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the way back from Thailand,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:48.67,0:03:57.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that if ever your kids get an "F" at school,\Ndid they ever work out what "F" means?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.90,0:04:04.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was a schoolteacher.\N"F" means Fantastic. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:04:04.38,0:04:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If they get an "E" that means Excellent.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.86,0:04:11.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if they get an "A" that means Arrogant.\N[laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.30,0:04:15.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All these people getting so proud of getting\NAs and straight As, they really are
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.04,0:04:19.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a pain in the butt, aren't they.\NSo full on themselves, "I got straight As..."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.98,0:04:26.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I prefer the Fs, the Fantastics.\NThe Excellents.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.59,0:04:35.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it's not so much the pressure on succeeding in that
Dialogue: 0,0:04:35.41,0:04:40.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,competition to get good grades, or to get\Na place in a good university,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.97,0:04:45.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,look at me, I got a place at one of the\Nbest universities, and what happened
Dialogue: 0,0:04:45.36,0:04:50.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to me, didn't do me any good going to\NCambridge, I might as well have
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.06,0:04:54.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,gone to any old college, even no\Ncollege at all.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.23,0:04:58.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Actually, if I hadn't gone to Cambridge,\NI'd probably have become a monk even earlier.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.64,0:05:01.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That would've been good,\Nbut anyway, this is just what happens
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.50,0:05:03.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in life, but you learn something there.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.70,0:05:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On that subject, I like rambling,\None of the important events in my life
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.67,0:05:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a student which turned me more towards\Nbeing a monk rather than being an academic.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.48,0:05:21.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,At the time I didn't realise its\Nimportance but when you look
Dialogue: 0,0:05:21.90,0:05:28.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,back and you find these are the crucial\Nexperiences which direct you in life,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.86,0:05:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that was when, I was a Buddhist at\Nuniversity, I had a few other Buddhists,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.30,0:05:40.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one of my best friends was a Christian,\Na very strong pracitising Christian,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.77,0:05:46.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he became a hippy later in life,\Nbut anyway he was a really strong Christian.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:46.54,0:05:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he told me one day that together with\Na couple of his friends in Bible Study class
Dialogue: 0,0:05:53.03,0:06:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they'd started to volunteer once a week\Nto go to the local hospital for those who had
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.28,0:06:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mental disabilities and volunteer.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.91,0:06:09.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when he told me that I didn't want to go, but I felt
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.52,0:06:15.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if I didn't go I was letting down the team, \NBuddhism. So the only reason I
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.14,0:06:21.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,volunteered to go was just ego, just pride,\N"if the Christians can do it,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.64,0:06:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Buddhists can do it as well!"\NThat's what it was.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.36,0:06:31.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm being quite honest - I just went there\Nbecause he was going there, so I had to go there.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.02,0:06:34.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a strange thing happened!\NLike many things in life,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.34,0:06:39.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you go and do something for one reason,\Nyou find other reasons start to become
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.23,0:06:44.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,predominant and it really changes your life.\NBecause those Christians, they went for
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.31,0:06:49.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,two or three weeks and then dropped out.\NI went there for two years.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:49.29,0:06:55.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every afternoon when I was up in\NCambridge and I would re-arrange
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.32,0:07:02.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tutorials and everything so I could go there.\NI loved it and I wondered why,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.30,0:07:10.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why did I enjoy going there?\NI was helping out in the occupational therapy unit
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.69,0:07:16.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for those people with Down's Syndrome.\NIt was incredible to see the emotional intelligence
Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.45,0:07:20.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those kids had, not kids, young men, young women.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.49,0:07:25.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even though I never knew the words "emotional intelligence"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.63,0:07:30.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this was in 1969-1971 or something, still, they were just so sensitive
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.33,0:07:36.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a world I hadn't really been trained in.\NAnd I always remember, on a couple of occasions,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.83,0:07:43.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was a young man, you'd split up with your girlfriend, you'd go there and they'd pick it up straight away!
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.99,0:07:49.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wouldn't need to tell them, they'd come running out and give me a hug. "Why are you doing that?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.08,0:07:53.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"There is something wrong isn't there?"\N"How the heck do you know that?"
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.65,0:07:57.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they were just so sensitive to my feelings,\Nthey got to know me and love me.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.92,0:08:05.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they had this incredible emotional sensitivity.\NAnd when I was sitting next to Nobel laureates,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.72,0:08:14.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I did in a place like that, they were socially so insensitive, they hadn't got an emotional neuron
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.04,0:08:18.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in their brains. Well they did, I'm exaggerating there.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.58,0:08:21.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when it came to the professors of life,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.58,0:08:29.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I preferred to spend the afternoon with people with Down's Syndrome. I learnt much more from them.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.35,0:08:35.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I grew much more from them. I had to empathise with people. When you're with professors, or lecturers
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.89,0:08:44.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or even your friends, they were all talking, ah...the word is... "gomayan" [?]
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.44,0:08:48.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it takes me a long while to say, it's the Pali word for bullshit.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:48.04,0:08:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know all in their head, no idea\Nof their feelings. The boys and the girls couldn't
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.90,0:09:02.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,understand how to get on with each other, just all fantasies and dreams and ideas and
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.33,0:09:11.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,philosophies. You go with these people with\NDown's Syndrome, and they felt, they knew the emotions.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.86,0:09:18.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They couldn't do well at school, they were terrible at things like maths, but when it came to being able
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.58,0:09:25.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to feel what you're feeling and actually be kind to you, they were geniuses. And it came to the point I'd
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.62,0:09:33.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather spend the afternoon with those people than with professors. I didn't know why at the time but
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.91,0:09:40.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it would actually encourage me in another area of life, this great emotional intelligence.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.22,0:09:45.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's because we're not sensitive to that inner world\Nof emotions, we keep thinking too much,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.59,0:09:51.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doing too much, it's one of the reasons why we're tired.\NBut anyway, these young kids I saw,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:51.22,0:09:56.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that was their biggest problem in life.\NAnd once they told me that, told everybody,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:56.95,0:10:04.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they opened up huge areas of improving\Nour lives both physically and emotionally,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.52,0:10:07.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and with relations as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.71,0:10:14.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you when you come home\Nfrom work are grumpy?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.24,0:10:21.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even angry? So many people keep asking me:\N"My husband is in such a bad mood
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.10,0:10:26.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every time, he's always shouting at the kids,\Nhe's a terrible pain in the neck to live with.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.23,0:10:30.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why? Can you get him some anger management counselling or something?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.98,0:10:35.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I basically say, well teach him how to sleep at night.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.15,0:10:41.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Teach him how to have a good rest.\NSee if he can overcome that {\i1}tiredness{\i0}
Dialogue: 0,0:10:41.39,0:10:45.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is so deeply embedded in our\Nhumanity today.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.85,0:10:52.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm only saying this because this is how I\Nunderstand things, there is no research
Dialogue: 0,0:10:52.51,0:10:57.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to back me up here, but I'm sure that if\Npeople did that research they'd probably
Dialogue: 0,0:10:57.38,0:11:05.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,discover what I know, and that is that\Nit's tiredness that creates so many divorces,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.12,0:11:09.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so many relationships would break up\Nbecause of tiredness.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.96,0:11:14.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And sicknesses such as cancers,\Nheart disease, because of tiredness.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.65,0:11:19.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even other things, an obvious\Nsickness which is very prevalent today
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.48,0:11:27.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is depression - a very deep tiredness.\NIt's such an obvious thing that there's
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.78,0:11:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a big problem in this world.\NMaybe you've had times of tiredness
Dialogue: 0,0:11:33.57,0:11:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's as if the world is too heavy to\Nbear any longer.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.34,0:11:45.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You really have to push so hard just to get by,\Nthe struggle takes so much energy,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.79,0:11:52.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and at times you have no more energy to give,\Nyou go into this hole of depression,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.54,0:11:59.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just absolutely low energy, nothing to give\Nto anything, can't even get out of bed sometimes.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.17,0:12:03.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then you want to get out of bed,\Ndon't want to eat or do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:03.92,0:12:09.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Simply because you've got absolutely no energy at all,\Nyou are deeply tired.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.11,0:12:14.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We now have chronic fatigue syndrome.\NI don't remember that when I was a kid.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:14.82,0:12:21.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why is that? Of course obviously, that\Nis a problem, tiredness, and the reason is
Dialogue: 0,0:12:21.94,0:12:25.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we have so much to do\Nin this world.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.21,0:12:29.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The reason I'm rushing off after this talk is\Nbecause there's a monk
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.41,0:12:35.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bhante Gunaratana, a very famous monk,\Na really nice monk, he's been here before,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.26,0:12:40.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's 88, and he was supposed to come and teach a meditation retreat at Jhana Grove this weekend.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.94,0:12:45.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we heard he was here we moved\NHeaven and Earth to try to get him to come here
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.40,0:12:51.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get the retreat free for that weekend\Nand advertise it, buy him the airline tickets.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.62,0:12:56.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then he got too sick.\NSo his doctor said no, you can't come.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:56.56,0:13:02.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So where does the buck stop?\NAt the top - so I've got to teach
Dialogue: 0,0:13:02.10,0:13:07.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the retreat in his place.\NI should be relaxing this weekend,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:07.66,0:13:11.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've just been on a long trip to Thailand\Nteaching so many hours.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.09,0:13:16.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on Monday morning I'm off again\Nto Korea to teach there.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:16.45,0:13:21.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This should be a rest for me.\NSo I am tired.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:21.46,0:13:26.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I could be exhaused but there\Nis another thing which I know,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.31,0:13:29.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what happens when you've been\Na meditator monk for so many years,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:29.62,0:13:34.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to deal with that tiredness,\Nso it doesn't cause you depression, irritation,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:34.43,0:13:40.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anger, all these other emotional and physical\Nsicknesses.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.00,0:13:47.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do we deal with tiredness in this world?\NWe have to do much more than maybe our ancestors did.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:47.17,0:13:56.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how do we deal with that tiredness?\NOne - if you're tired you can't {\i1}afford{\i0} to worry about the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:56.65,0:14:04.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You haven't got any spare energy to waste.\NSo sometimes when I'm very busy I refuse
Dialogue: 0,0:14:04.38,0:14:11.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to look at my calendar. If I looked at my calendar,\N"whoa" no one could ever do that.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.59,0:14:14.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of the other monks look at it,\N"how do you do that Ajahn Brahm?"
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.62,0:14:16.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Because I don't look at it."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.61,0:14:20.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You do live in the present moment,\Nbecause how much energy do you waste
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.27,0:14:26.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,worrying that you will not be able to cope?
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.07,0:14:31.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I never do that because I know\Njust how that is going to be awful.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.48,0:14:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I told one of the monks today, because I was just\Nreally exhausted, I remember a time when I
Dialogue: 0,0:14:37.95,0:14:43.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was a young monk in Thailand, wondering around from monastery to monastery, having a great sense of freedom
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.31,0:14:51.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but on this occasion I'd been travelling all day\Nfrom just after lunch, our lunch is about 9:00
Dialogue: 0,0:14:51.10,0:14:59.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's it for the day, and then travelling all day\Nin hot weather, I was in a Thai bus, not like the
Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.11,0:15:06.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thai buses these days, Thai buses these days are\Nfantastic - people say what are you talking about.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.01,0:15:16.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've been there, it's not fantastic, this was 40 years ago,\Nand this really hot and cramped small seat for two,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.23,0:15:22.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there's usually three in there plus a chicken\Nor pig or something else, I don't know what else,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:22.40,0:15:27.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cramped up for hours after hours after hours,\Nand finally got to this monastery where I was
Dialogue: 0,0:15:27.89,0:15:35.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,supposed to be going to, I rememer the time, 5:45\Nin the evening and checked-in, there was two monks there,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:35.82,0:15:42.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Welcome, you can stay here but you've got\N15 minutes to take a quick bath because at 6:00
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.24,0:15:48.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we all have to meditate for 4 hours, no moving."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.96,0:15:55.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What?! I've been on the road all day, I'm tired,\NI'm not going to be able to handle that!"
Dialogue: 0,0:15:55.70,0:16:04.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But...the wisdom of my practice kicked in,\NI think I've said this a couple of weeks ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:04.66,0:16:10.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the story of moving the wheelbarrows of earth,\Nif you haven't heard that story it's in
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.27,0:16:14.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Opening the Door of Your Heart,\None of the first books which I wrote,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:14.59,0:16:18.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a story of how as a young monk\NI have to move earth from
Dialogue: 0,0:16:18.89,0:16:22.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,9 o'clock in the morning to 9 o'clock in the evening\Nfor 3 days because my teacher wanted
Dialogue: 0,0:16:22.68,0:16:29.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it to be moved. It's really hard work,\Nreally heavy labour, but you don't mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:29.68,0:16:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was fit and healthy, I'm fit and healthy now.\NIt finished, and that night Ajahn Chah went
Dialogue: 0,0:16:37.15,0:16:43.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to another monastery and the second monk,\Nhe's the head monk now, said,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.02,0:16:49.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You put it in the wrong place, move it."\NAnother 3 days of hard work.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:49.05,0:16:54.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can handle that..but you get very dirty,\Nand just sweaty, and mosquitos,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:54.85,0:16:59.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you got both hands on the wheelbarrow,\Nyou can't keep the
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.32,0:17:01.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,misquitos off you, you're sweating, and oh the
Dialogue: 0,0:17:01.89,0:17:04.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mosquitos they really have a great lunch
Dialogue: 0,0:17:04.70,0:17:07.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're working like that, so after
Dialogue: 0,0:17:07.55,0:17:10.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,6 days, finished at last.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.83,0:17:13.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That night my master Ajahn Chah
Dialogue: 0,0:17:13.69,0:17:16.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,came back and the following morning said,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:16.51,0:17:19.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why have you moved the earth over there?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.80,0:17:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought I told you to move it in that other spot.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:22.72,0:17:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,MOVE IT!" Another 3 days of hard physical labour.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.14,0:17:31.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In the mosquito-ridden sweaty jungles.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:31.70,0:17:33.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those people who worked for the Japanese in
Dialogue: 0,0:17:33.99,0:17:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Second World War, I know what they felt like.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:37.15,0:17:39.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Honesty. Really hard work, actually, they were,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.94,0:17:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we were malnourished as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.28,0:17:44.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You should see photos of me in those days,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.47,0:17:47.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nothing like now, you wouldn't recognise me, honestly
Dialogue: 0,0:17:47.27,0:17:49.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from what I look like today.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:49.14,0:17:52.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being a bit fat today is just balancing what I did
Dialogue: 0,0:17:52.85,0:17:56.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I was young, it's fair. [laughs]
Dialogue: 0,0:17:56.51,0:17:59.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway, really hard work, and when it came to
Dialogue: 0,0:17:59.43,0:18:02.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the next day, 6 days already passed and
Dialogue: 0,0:18:02.29,0:18:05.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,3 more days of hard work were in front of me,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:05.13,0:18:10.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I started complaining. I was exhausted, tired, had enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:10.19,0:18:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I complained, I always say, it was great in those
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.72,0:18:17.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,days because there were hardly any other\NWesterners there.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:17.18,0:18:19.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just working with the Thai monks and the
Dialogue: 0,0:18:19.79,0:18:23.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Laotian monks, so you could swear in English.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:23.85,0:18:26.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought no-one would understand you.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:26.64,0:18:30.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But even though they never understood any English
Dialogue: 0,0:18:30.47,0:18:32.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just they could pick up your body language,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:32.72,0:18:34.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you were really suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:34.66,0:18:36.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that was when one of the monks,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:36.44,0:18:39.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I forget who it was, but whoever you are,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:39.31,0:18:41.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:41.90,0:18:44.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for what you taught me because he said to me,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.74,0:18:48.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"pushing the wheelbarrow is easy,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:48.35,0:18:52.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thinking about it is the hard part."
Dialogue: 0,0:18:52.79,0:18:55.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He got me, he nailed me.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:55.32,0:18:57.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was thinking about it, that was the hard part of
Dialogue: 0,0:18:57.98,0:19:01.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pushing a wheelbarrow for another three days.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:01.43,0:19:05.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Doing it is easy, and so, thank you, thank you, thank you,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:05.43,0:19:09.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stopped thinking about it and it became fun again.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.24,0:19:11.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We had races with the other monks, who'd get there first.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:11.71,0:19:15.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, your turn to go on the shovel,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:15.62,0:19:18.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,putting earth into the wheelbarrow,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:18.34,0:19:21.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,oh sorry, did I throw it a bit hard?
Dialogue: 0,0:19:21.47,0:19:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Oh sorry. On purpose of cause.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:24.39,0:19:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just having fun and games, messing around.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:27.20,0:19:33.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But anyway, I am pretty playful.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:33.65,0:19:37.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I went to a conference in Vietnam a couple of years ago,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:37.91,0:19:42.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you go to conferences, big organised conferences,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:42.02,0:19:45.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the organisers want you to see some of the sights.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:45.26,0:19:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't like being a tourist but you had no choice.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:48.27,0:19:52.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I was in the middle of Vietnam somewhere,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:52.60,0:19:56.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to these lakes and underground tunnels and stuff,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:56.62,0:19:58.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you go through in a barge,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:58.42,0:20:02.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fascinating beautiful place but on the way back...
Dialogue: 0,0:20:02.88,0:20:10.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Actually, weird, I was representing Singapore,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:10.15,0:20:13.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not Australia, so I was in the Singapore boat
Dialogue: 0,0:20:13.57,0:20:15.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there was another Singapore boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:15.73,0:20:17.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we had the Theravada monks in our boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:17.90,0:20:20.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the Mahayana monks in the other boat,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:20.74,0:20:22.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so I looked at them and said
Dialogue: 0,0:20:22.43,0:20:25.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Right, a race, who's better, the Mahayana or the
Dialogue: 0,0:20:25.71,0:20:28.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Theravada? [laughter]. Those are the two parts
Dialogue: 0,0:20:28.50,0:20:30.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of Buddhist so we had a race between
Dialogue: 0,0:20:30.14,0:20:32.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mahayana and Theravada. I was in the Theravada
Dialogue: 0,0:20:32.68,0:20:35.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,boat paddling for all I could and the Mahayana
Dialogue: 0,0:20:35.66,0:20:38.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,monks were paddling really hard as well just to
Dialogue: 0,0:20:38.26,0:20:40.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,see who would win, and of course it's obvious,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:40.21,0:20:43.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Theravada would win, it's obvious,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:43.53,0:20:45.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you know anything about Buddhism,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:45.32,0:20:47.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the Mahayana, they are Boddhisatvas,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:47.82,0:20:49.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they even let other people get to Enlightenment
Dialogue: 0,0:20:49.63,0:20:51.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before they do, so they made us get to the
Dialogue: 0,0:20:51.91,0:20:56.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,finishing line before they did, that's their tradition [laughter].
Dialogue: 0,0:20:56.20,0:20:59.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just playing around. Monks have a lot of fun.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:59.98,0:21:03.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We do really stupid things sometimes but it's good fun.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:03.86,0:21:08.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Religion can be far too serious and I just really
Dialogue: 0,0:21:08.03,0:21:10.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rebel against serious religion.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:10.39,0:21:13.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But anyway, this was where I learnt
Dialogue: 0,0:21:13.44,0:21:17.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how to have fun, because I was exhausted
Dialogue: 0,0:21:17.87,0:21:19.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,moving those wheelbarrows but
Dialogue: 0,0:21:19.71,0:21:23.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of thinking about it I just did it.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:23.53,0:21:26.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And all the tiredness vanished.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:26.17,0:21:28.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like this evening,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:28.11,0:21:31.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all the tiredness vanishes when you\Nstop thinking about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:31.04,0:21:33.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thinking about the future, worrying about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:33.42,0:21:38.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because most of your energy gets wasted in thinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:38.71,0:21:41.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you are tired, if you've had a really busy day,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:41.49,0:21:45.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for goodness sake, you can't afford to think!
Dialogue: 0,0:21:45.85,0:21:49.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And complain...and worry... and get afraid..
Dialogue: 0,0:21:49.32,0:21:51.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and plan this..and plan that...
Dialogue: 0,0:21:51.29,0:21:55.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your brain is exhausted, give it a break!
Dialogue: 0,0:21:55.02,0:21:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what do people do when they're tired,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:57.52,0:22:00.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they get grumpy, they don't know how just to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:00.85,0:22:03.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They always tend to think too much
Dialogue: 0,0:22:03.15,0:22:08.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that is the most important reason why people are tired.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:08.13,0:22:12.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thinking way too much rather than just doing it.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:12.64,0:22:15.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know what you're going to do this weekend
Dialogue: 0,0:22:15.42,0:22:18.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so don't just think about it, just do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:18.25,0:22:19.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell that to your husband who has to clean out
Dialogue: 0,0:22:19.80,0:22:21.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the garaga - "I'm busy"
Dialogue: 0,0:22:21.64,0:22:26.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Say, "don't think about it husband, just do it" [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:22:26.82,0:22:29.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got to go and have a biopsy.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:29.66,0:22:32.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't just think about it because you get
Dialogue: 0,0:22:32.79,0:22:36.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really exhausted thinking "oh.....is it cancer? I'm going to die.."
Dialogue: 0,0:22:36.86,0:22:38.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't just think about it, just do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:38.69,0:22:43.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even dying itself, dying is okay, just don't think about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:43.48,0:22:48.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just do it. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:22:48.94,0:22:51.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thinking about it is the problem
Dialogue: 0,0:22:51.60,0:22:56.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but don't actually do it on purpose, just when it happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:56.18,0:23:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's one of the reasons why I learnt that much
Dialogue: 0,0:23:00.28,0:23:04.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of tiredness is the physically exhaustion which
Dialogue: 0,0:23:04.37,0:23:06.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can't do too much about, actually you can do
Dialogue: 0,0:23:06.78,0:23:09.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something about it, but the major part of tiredness
Dialogue: 0,0:23:09.32,0:23:12.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the mental, emotional, tiredness.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:12.46,0:23:17.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Emotional tiredness is because you're trying way too hard.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:17.77,0:23:19.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't know why you're trying.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:19.25,0:23:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes people try because, "oh I have to."\NNo you don't.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:23.68,0:23:27.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But, but, my boss expects me to do some work."
Dialogue: 0,0:23:27.11,0:23:29.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As long as he thinks you're doing some work
Dialogue: 0,0:23:29.10,0:23:32.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's good enough for the boss [laughter].
Dialogue: 0,0:23:32.47,0:23:35.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many of you read, I love reading cartoons,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:35.54,0:23:39.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Dilbert cartoon. I remember that Wally,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:39.84,0:23:44.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the Dilbert cartoons Wally is this guy in the office,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:44.02,0:23:47.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you only ever see him carrying a cup of coffee from the left to
Dialogue: 0,0:23:47.03,0:23:49.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the right, the right to the left, he never does any work,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:49.92,0:23:52.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he just carries the coffee backwards and forwards,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:52.39,0:23:54.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it appears like he's doing some work,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:54.62,0:23:56.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's why he keeps his job.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:56.83,0:24:01.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe that's why I keep my job, appearance. [laugher]
Dialogue: 0,0:24:01.81,0:24:04.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No anyway, so there's another lovely cartoon
Dialogue: 0,0:24:04.78,0:24:08.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I saw the other day, rambling again,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:08.06,0:24:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,somebody sent it to me and it's a wonderful one
Dialogue: 0,0:24:11.31,0:24:15.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to talk about - why people worry about death.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:15.74,0:24:17.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just don't worry, it hasn't happened yet,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:17.66,0:24:21.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't think about it, don't worry about the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:21.14,0:24:25.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this cartoon was of Peanuts, you know
Dialogue: 0,0:24:25.18,0:24:29.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Snoopy and Charlie Brown, those wonderful characters.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:29.20,0:24:32.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And honestly, read those comics, because you get far more
Dialogue: 0,0:24:32.38,0:24:34.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sense out of those comics than you ever do
Dialogue: 0,0:24:34.71,0:24:39.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,out of editorials or other news articles.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:39.11,0:24:42.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're far more insightful.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:42.18,0:24:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this Peanuts, this Charlie Brown and his dog Snoopy,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:46.60,0:24:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,must have been on vacation somewhere,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:48.68,0:24:52.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they were on a pier and they were sitting there
Dialogue: 0,0:24:52.28,0:24:55.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,enjoying the afternoon, this beautiful view,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:55.60,0:24:59.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just mountains and lakes and waters,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:59.11,0:25:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,having a beautiful afternoon there,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:01.42,0:25:04.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Charlie Brown says to his dog Snoopy,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:04.96,0:25:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"You know Snoopy, all of us one day will die."
Dialogue: 0,0:25:13.30,0:25:15.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Snoopy, this great philosopher,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:15.88,0:25:20.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he really is wise dog, much wiser than human beings,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:20.44,0:25:24.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Snoopy says, "True, one day all of us will die,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:24.79,0:25:31.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but most days all of us won't die." [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:25:31.93,0:25:35.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a wise thing to say.\NYeah, one day you'll die but most days
Dialogue: 0,0:25:35.00,0:25:38.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of us won't. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:25:38.34,0:25:41.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So why are you getting so negative?
Dialogue: 0,0:25:41.40,0:25:45.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So don't think about it, because thinking about
Dialogue: 0,0:25:45.05,0:25:49.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,those things, that more than anything else, is what tires us.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:49.22,0:25:54.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you get your kids trying to get good\Nscores in TER, don't think about it!
Dialogue: 0,0:25:54.45,0:25:58.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Doesn't matter that much,\Nif you can do well in that fine...
Dialogue: 0,0:25:58.15,0:26:01.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If it's natural, if you're naturally gifted then
Dialogue: 0,0:26:01.54,0:26:04.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fine but don't push yourself too hard for goodness sake.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:04.77,0:26:08.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some parents get really upset at me for that but I want those kids to have
Dialogue: 0,0:26:08.44,0:26:11.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,emotional intelligence, to feel loved and
Dialogue: 0,0:26:11.44,0:26:16.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,respected even if they don't do well in those examinations.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:16.68,0:26:21.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I keep saying, half of your children,\Nall the people here today, half of
Dialogue: 0,0:26:21.54,0:26:26.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your children will be below average intelligence.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:26.93,0:26:29.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Come on, it's logical, it has to be that way,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:29.60,0:26:32.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,half of your children {\i1}will{\i0} be below
Dialogue: 0,0:26:32.49,0:26:38.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,average intelligence, it has to be, that's what average means!
Dialogue: 0,0:26:38.69,0:26:42.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're all Einsteins, half of the Einsteins
Dialogue: 0,0:26:42.79,0:26:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to be below average. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:26:47.10,0:26:53.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what do you think - "oh not not my kids,\Ntheir kids, okay, but not {\i1}mine{\i0}!"
Dialogue: 0,0:26:53.13,0:26:56.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So look, give your kids a break,
Dialogue: 0,0:26:56.86,0:27:01.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,let them be, because if you take the pressure
Dialogue: 0,0:27:01.88,0:27:05.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,off your kids at at early age,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:05.27,0:27:09.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they won't get so tired and they will develop
Dialogue: 0,0:27:09.09,0:27:12.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the emotional intelligence which I saw
Dialogue: 0,0:27:12.30,0:27:15.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in those Down's Syndrome people.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:15.69,0:27:19.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Beautiful people. They couldn't do sums,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:19.58,0:27:25.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they couldn't be electricians, they could be a monk.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:25.28,0:27:28.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They felt, they were sensitive, and they had
Dialogue: 0,0:27:28.34,0:27:31.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,these beautiful relationships with each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:31.35,0:27:33.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Brothers and sisters, institutionalised,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:33.63,0:27:37.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but really really kind. I saw that.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:37.62,0:27:40.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now what type of person do you want to be?
Dialogue: 0,0:27:40.18,0:27:44.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your kids to be? They weren't tired, they had fun.
Dialogue: 0,0:27:44.13,0:27:49.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we accept ourselves for what we are,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:49.25,0:27:52.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,instead of..going back to your kids,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:52.30,0:27:55.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,don't push them, let them just develop,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:55.30,0:27:59.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nurture them, encourage them, inspire them,
Dialogue: 0,0:27:59.40,0:28:01.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but who knows what they will be in this life?
Dialogue: 0,0:28:01.85,0:28:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're not all going to go to University
Dialogue: 0,0:28:04.02,0:28:05.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's terrible that everyone has to go to
Dialogue: 0,0:28:05.95,0:28:08.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,University - there's so much more to the world
Dialogue: 0,0:28:08.06,0:28:11.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and life! So many people in this world,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:11.63,0:28:15.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,University kills them.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:15.38,0:28:19.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There was a graffiti which I remember outside
Dialogue: 0,0:28:19.23,0:28:21.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the philosophy department,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:21.41,0:28:27.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,no, this was actually outside the physics lab in Cambridge.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:27.22,0:28:30.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Graffiti in those days, you'd actually go looking
Dialogue: 0,0:28:30.09,0:28:33.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for it because it was really profound.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:33.54,0:28:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that was - "exams - kill by degrees".
Dialogue: 0,0:28:39.10,0:28:42.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a wondeful pun - they kill by degrees.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:42.59,0:28:47.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They kill learning, they kill the excitement
Dialogue: 0,0:28:47.12,0:28:49.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of investigating knowledge, we have to be
Dialogue: 0,0:28:49.82,0:28:53.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tested and graded - who gets the best.
Dialogue: 0,0:28:53.47,0:28:57.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It actually kills emotional intelligence,
Dialogue: 0,0:28:57.58,0:29:00.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,academic insitutitions, mostly, maybe they've
Dialogue: 0,0:29:00.73,0:29:03.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,changed somewhere, most of them them they
Dialogue: 0,0:29:03.21,0:29:09.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kill that ability to explore and also to cooperate
Dialogue: 0,0:29:09.88,0:29:12.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with each other, because scores are all personal,
Dialogue: 0,0:29:12.89,0:29:16.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to compete against your best friends.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:16.15,0:29:20.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And of course that causes a lot of tiredness.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:20.32,0:29:24.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of "you have to live up to something\Nyou can't be."
Dialogue: 0,0:29:24.26,0:29:31.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is a stress of life. Me, I don't have any stress\Ngiving public talks.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:31.15,0:29:35.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Years and years and years ago I\Nworked it out, so simple!
Dialogue: 0,0:29:35.19,0:29:39.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That if I give a public talk and you guys like it,\Nwonderful! I get so much joy
Dialogue: 0,0:29:39.84,0:29:44.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,seeing you happy and see I can actually\Nhelp you and change your lives.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:44.79,0:29:49.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm really happy if my talks are really well received.
Dialogue: 0,0:29:49.28,0:29:52.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I'm even more happy if you don't like them!
Dialogue: 0,0:29:52.99,0:29:57.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because then you can live me alone\Nand I can spend more time in my cave
Dialogue: 0,0:29:57.01,0:30:00.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just enjoy my time, retire,\Nbecause you don't like my talks,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:00.20,0:30:03.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've heard all the old jokes before,\Nall the stories before,
Dialogue: 0,0:30:03.73,0:30:07.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so none of you actually come here,\Nbrilliant!
Dialogue: 0,0:30:07.85,0:30:13.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That actually is my trick, is my stratgy.\NIt did not work!
Dialogue: 0,0:30:13.11,0:30:18.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I decided to write all my stories in books,\Nso you don't have to come back anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:18.25,0:30:22.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have to keep telling them until you get\Nso bored that you won't come back.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:22.68,0:30:25.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it doesn't work...\NYou keep coming back for more.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:25.21,0:30:29.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You must be all masochists [chuckles].
Dialogue: 0,0:30:29.11,0:30:34.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But no.. the point was, I don't care!\NEither way life is good!
Dialogue: 0,0:30:34.94,0:30:37.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You succeed, you don't succeed.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:37.78,0:30:45.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the trouble is the pressure is on you\Nin this world - you only have one idea of success.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:45.34,0:30:49.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or limited ideas of what being a\Nsuccessful person is.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:49.85,0:30:56.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want to try and make more ideas\Nof success, broaden it.
Dialogue: 0,0:30:56.36,0:31:03.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even if you're living out in the streets,\Nyou're living out in the street happily.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:03.18,0:31:05.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is that success?
Dialogue: 0,0:31:05.37,0:31:08.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sometimes people think,\N"oh that poor person"
Dialogue: 0,0:31:08.54,0:31:13.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You ask the person and they say,\N"No, I'm free, I don't have to worry about.."
Dialogue: 0,0:31:13.49,0:31:16.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a bit cold maybe..\NHave you lived out in the street?
Dialogue: 0,0:31:16.88,0:31:20.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember just in the hippie years,\Ncamping out under bridges.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:20.55,0:31:25.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember as a monk, one of the\Nmost wondeful times I had as a monk
Dialogue: 0,0:31:25.46,0:31:29.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was when we had to leave the monastery in\Nin Thailand after 5 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:29.57,0:31:34.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you had your basic training,\Nout, out, out, go!
Dialogue: 0,0:31:34.05,0:31:40.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we had to just walk and\Neveything I owned I carried with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:31:40.96,0:31:45.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It wasn't that much, you could walk,\Nit was light. All my possessions
Dialogue: 0,0:31:45.68,0:31:51.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,were on my back and it never ached.\NAnd it was a beautiful feeling of freedom,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:51.14,0:31:56.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like being a bird,\Nand you could be a bird as a human being,
Dialogue: 0,0:31:56.02,0:32:02.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and every crossroad I came to you could go\Nany directions you wanted,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:02.12,0:32:07.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you had no pressure on you\Nto get anywhere, to achieve anything,
Dialogue: 0,0:32:07.36,0:32:15.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you had no deadlines, no appointments,\Nyou just "that's a nice direction, I'll go there."\N
Dialogue: 0,0:32:15.29,0:32:20.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You had this wonderful ability to sleep anywhere,\Nin a rice field, in a paddock.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:20.72,0:32:28.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The best place, my teacher said to sleep\Nas a monk at that time was in the
Dialogue: 0,0:32:28.02,0:32:32.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cremation grounds. The reason\Nwas that Thai people were so scared
Dialogue: 0,0:32:32.99,0:32:39.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of ghosts you'd be guaranteed\Na peaceful evening if you went there.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:39.05,0:32:41.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But if you go anywhere else\Nthey'd always come asking you
Dialogue: 0,0:32:41.76,0:32:45.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,questions or whatever, so the\Ncremation grounds were the favourite
Dialogue: 0,0:32:45.53,0:32:48.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,places to go sleep at night.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:48.64,0:32:57.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everyone else was sleeping there\Nas well - all the corpses [chuckles]
Dialogue: 0,0:32:57.44,0:32:59.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a very nice place to have a sleep.
Dialogue: 0,0:32:59.60,0:33:05.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But anyway, there was a beautiful feeling,\Nyou had no pressure on you.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:05.28,0:33:08.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So much freedom wherever you wanted to go.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:08.11,0:33:13.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in the morning you'd go to any\Nvillage and get enough to eat on the alms round.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:13.90,0:33:20.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You didn't need any money,\Njust your alms bowl.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:20.35,0:33:28.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The beautiful feeling of freedom,\Nand even though you walked a long distance
Dialogue: 0,0:33:28.01,0:33:34.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was hot, you never felt tired\Nemotionally because you hardly
Dialogue: 0,0:33:34.72,0:33:39.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thought because there was nothing\Nto think about.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:39.41,0:33:42.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you think about?\NYour worries.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:42.99,0:33:45.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Where you have to be,\Nhow you're going to get there.
Dialogue: 0,0:33:45.73,0:33:52.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We waste so much time and energy\Nworrying about the future which is
Dialogue: 0,0:33:52.37,0:33:58.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why if you are to overcome tiredness\Nand it's a big problem for you,
Dialogue: 0,0:33:58.61,0:34:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of the things is please learn\Nhow to keep your mind efficient.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:04.02,0:34:08.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Doing life is easy, thinking about it\Nis the hard part.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:08.80,0:34:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Living with a partner is easy,\Nif you think about it, it drives you crazy.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:15.61,0:34:19.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Honestly, just in Thailand they were saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:19.24,0:34:24.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, my husband keeps yapping at me,\Nhe's really nasty to me."
Dialogue: 0,0:34:24.31,0:34:29.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say again, if your husband comes home\Nand he's always nasty to you,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:29.83,0:34:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,says all these bad things remember\Nwhy you were born with two ears,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:37.20,0:34:43.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one to go in, one to go out,\Ndon't keep anything!
Dialogue: 0,0:34:43.39,0:34:46.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because when you keep it,\Nthat's called thinking about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:34:46.89,0:34:50.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you let it go immediately.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:50.08,0:34:59.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The ability to let go of stuff which is not\Nnecessary, that's the secret of overcoming tiredness.
Dialogue: 0,0:34:59.86,0:35:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of thinking, just do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:02.96,0:35:09.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let go of the future, you're exhausted\Nworrying about what's going to happen next.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:09.92,0:35:16.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And let go of the past - I don't know if\NI told this a couple of weeks ago but
Dialogue: 0,0:35:16.83,0:35:24.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a very wonderful compliment which\NI got, 2-3 weeks ago I did my annual
Dialogue: 0,0:35:24.39,0:35:30.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,visit to the Cancer Wellness Association,\Nthey started off in this old house in Cottesloe,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:30.97,0:35:36.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the government, good on the Western Australian\Ngovernment, they actually put a
Dialogue: 0,0:35:36.17,0:35:42.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,lot of money into building a huge campus,\Neverything to do with cancer,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:42.04,0:35:47.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so there you will find the Melanoma Society,\Nthe Prostate Cancer Society,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:47.26,0:35:51.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Breast Cancer Society,\Nand the general wellness association,
Dialogue: 0,0:35:51.47,0:35:58.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just all in one area, which is brilliant.\NAnd I go there every year.
Dialogue: 0,0:35:58.20,0:36:03.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when I went there, I was reminded,\Nmy 26th year going there,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:03.23,0:36:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's a long time, 26 years, and they said\Nthe reason we always invite you back,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:08.49,0:36:11.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,usually the first talk of the season,\Nthe first talk of the year,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:11.40,0:36:17.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to get it started in a good way,\Nthey said 26 years ago there was a girl there,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:17.94,0:36:24.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a woman, she had cancer, she got into\Nremission but she always worried
Dialogue: 0,0:36:24.92,0:36:32.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what would happen if it came back,\Nand no counselor could help her,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:32.58,0:36:36.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then this monk comes along,\Nand tells the story of the other
Dialogue: 0,0:36:36.99,0:36:42.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,great philosopher, I told already\Nabout Snoopy, the American philospher,
Dialogue: 0,0:36:42.16,0:36:46.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the greatest philosopher of the last century.\NBut there was even an earlier English philosopher
Dialogue: 0,0:36:46.48,0:36:54.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I really really respect, if you like philosophy\Ncheck out one of the best philosophers
Dialogue: 0,0:36:54.27,0:37:00.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who's ever been written about called\NWinnie the Pooh [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:37:00.31,0:37:04.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now the other philosophers who teach in\Nuniversities there's just full of too many words,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:04.34,0:37:08.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they never get to the heart of it!\NAnd there's Winnie the Pooh,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:08.06,0:37:12.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of my favourite stories, it would've\Nbeen in Opening the Door of Your Heart,
Dialogue: 0,0:37:12.68,0:37:19.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I actually wrote to Disney who has the\Ncopyright for Winnie the Pooh now
Dialogue: 0,0:37:19.41,0:37:22.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they said "absolutely no!"\NBecause Disney is so commercial
Dialogue: 0,0:37:22.94,0:37:26.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they won't allow anybody, even though\Nit's a tiny tiny little bit from that book
Dialogue: 0,0:37:26.88,0:37:33.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Winnie the Pooh, but anyway\Nthe story was which I told 26 years ago
Dialogue: 0,0:37:33.98,0:37:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at the Cancer Wellness Association,\Nthe story was about Winnie the Pooh and
Dialogue: 0,0:37:37.96,0:37:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,little Piglet walking through the forest\Nwhen there was a storm and twigs were
Dialogue: 0,0:37:43.64,0:37:48.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,coming down, branches were coming down,\Nand then trees started getting uprooted.
Dialogue: 0,0:37:48.45,0:37:54.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Storms are dangerous. You shouldn't be\Nout in a storm in a forest and so Piglet
Dialogue: 0,0:37:54.97,0:38:01.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was really afraid and his fear got so huge\Nhe turned to Winnie the Pooh and said
Dialogue: 0,0:38:01.47,0:38:05.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I can't go any longer!\NI can't walk any longer! I'm so afraid."
Dialogue: 0,0:38:05.87,0:38:07.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why?" said Winnie the Pooh.
Dialogue: 0,0:38:07.86,0:38:15.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm so afraid that a tree might fall\Nwhen we are underneath it!"
Dialogue: 0,0:38:15.12,0:38:22.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Which was a possibility...\NAnd Winnie the Pooh shot back,
Dialogue: 0,0:38:22.22,0:38:26.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which showed what a great philosopher\Nhe was, if he didn't have so much hair he
Dialogue: 0,0:38:26.65,0:38:31.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,could've been a Buddhist monk [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:38:31.64,0:38:42.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He shot back with, "what would happen if\Na tree fell when we were not underneath it?"
Dialogue: 0,0:38:42.65,0:38:47.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that was the end of the fear.\NBecause all fear is looking into the future
Dialogue: 0,0:38:47.15,0:38:51.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a negative mind, thinking of all\Nthe things which will go wrong
Dialogue: 0,0:38:51.80,0:38:57.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a fault-finding mind, that's called fear.\NThe opposite is hope, looking at the
Dialogue: 0,0:38:57.63,0:39:01.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,future with a positive mind,\Nwhat might go right,
Dialogue: 0,0:39:01.72,0:39:08.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you would have noticed in your life,\Nif you fear something, it's more likely
Dialogue: 0,0:39:08.32,0:39:16.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to happen, with hope, what you hope for\Nis more likely to happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:16.50,0:39:24.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I told that story to this girl\N26 years ago, I answered her question.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:24.21,0:39:26.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What would happen if the cancer came back?
Dialogue: 0,0:39:26.67,0:39:30.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The answer was - what would happen if it\Ndidn't come back?
Dialogue: 0,0:39:30.92,0:39:35.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It never came back, and that's why\Nthey keep inviting me there.
Dialogue: 0,0:39:35.95,0:39:40.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I come back but the cancer doesn't\N[laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:39:40.56,0:39:43.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now you can understand,\Nanalyse that a little deeper,
Dialogue: 0,0:39:43.58,0:39:48.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's obvious, when you look at it a bit\Ndeeper, if you're worried about a cancer,
Dialogue: 0,0:39:48.35,0:39:50.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"what would happen if it came back??\Nwill it come back?"
Dialogue: 0,0:39:50.66,0:39:54.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're getting tense, you're getting worried,\Nthe sort of things, the sort of stress which
Dialogue: 0,0:39:54.53,0:40:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,causes cancer, you are just putting into place.\NBut if you think, what happens if it doesn't,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:01.42,0:40:05.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't worry about it, which means you're\Nmore relaxed, more healthy, and
Dialogue: 0,0:40:05.56,0:40:08.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the chances are the cancer is not\Ngoing to come back.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:08.38,0:40:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You increase the chances of success,\Ngood health, happiness,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:16.92,0:40:25.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and also you don't get so tired,\Nworrying about what will happen.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:25.52,0:40:33.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Deeper, this is meditation teachings\Nbut it's brilliant teachings -
Dialogue: 0,0:40:33.19,0:40:38.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"two parts to the human mind",\Nthis is {\i1}why{\i0} people get tired.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:38.70,0:40:43.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call it the doing and the knowing.\NIf you've been to any of my meditation
Dialogue: 0,0:40:43.11,0:40:49.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,teachings you will know this, it's a very\Npowerful way of looking at the human mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:40:49.55,0:40:52.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The doing mind is what reacts,\Nit's reacting to what I'm saying,
Dialogue: 0,0:40:52.89,0:40:55.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thinking about it, saying,\N"oh that's good" or "that's rubbish",
Dialogue: 0,0:40:55.96,0:41:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that reaction is called doing.\NPlanning, remembering,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:00.80,0:41:05.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,figuring out things, initiating action,\Ndeciding to walk,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:05.23,0:41:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,figuring out what you're going to do when\Nyou leave here, what you're going to do
Dialogue: 0,0:41:09.56,0:41:14.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the weekend, all that is part of the doing mind.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:14.94,0:41:18.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other part of the mind is just\Nwhat knows.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:18.79,0:41:22.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The passive consciousness,\Njust being aware,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:22.69,0:41:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feeling the itch on your arm,\Nfeeling the coolness of this room,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:28.84,0:41:35.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hearing the sound of the traffic\Nin the distance.
Dialogue: 0,0:41:35.34,0:41:39.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just knowing.\NNow, once you know the difference
Dialogue: 0,0:41:39.54,0:41:45.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between those two parts of the human\Nmind it won't take you long to notice
Dialogue: 0,0:41:45.46,0:41:50.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that most of your mental energy,\Nover 90% of it,
Dialogue: 0,0:41:50.33,0:41:57.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,goes into doing stuff, reacting.\NWhich means you've hardly got anything
Dialogue: 0,0:41:57.07,0:42:02.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,left just to know, to be aware, to feel.\NWhich is why so many people,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:02.49,0:42:07.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can't even see the stars at night,\Neven when they're up,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:07.83,0:42:13.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're just doing too much.\NThey can't feel the wind,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:13.26,0:42:18.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they don't know when it rains,\Nthey're too busy doing something else,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:18.03,0:42:24.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're not alive, and they're also\Nvery very tired,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:24.04,0:42:32.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doing far too much,\N{\i1}being{\i0} far too little.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:32.99,0:42:42.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What happens, if instead of actually\Nthinking you just "are", just feeling,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:42.59,0:42:46.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feeling the wind, feeling the cold,\Nfeeling the heat, walking back to the
Dialogue: 0,0:42:46.26,0:42:54.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,car with your shoes off, feeling the stone\Nor the grass under your feet.
Dialogue: 0,0:42:54.79,0:42:58.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You feel alive,\Nbut not just feeling alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:42:58.65,0:43:04.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are feeding energy into knowing,\Ntaking it away from doing so much.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:04.40,0:43:07.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you put energy back into\Npassive awareness -
Dialogue: 0,0:43:07.18,0:43:16.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knowing, mindfulness - tiredness starts to go.\NYou wake up because the
Dialogue: 0,0:43:16.56,0:43:22.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mental tiredness is the knower with\Nvery low energy.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:22.03,0:43:26.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Put energy into the awareness and\Nyou'll feel awake.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:26.30,0:43:31.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A good example of that is having a\Ncup of coffee.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:31.49,0:43:34.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Before you have a cup of coffee\Nyou're miserable.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:34.20,0:43:37.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Have a cup of coffee, you can feel more,\Nyou're awake, you're alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:37.33,0:43:41.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can see things, you can hear things,\Nyou can think.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:41.74,0:43:48.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's unnatural energy, it's still energy,\Nbut imagine that energy was natural.
Dialogue: 0,0:43:48.59,0:43:52.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you wake up {\i1}alive{\i0}.\NWhen the mind is energised,
Dialogue: 0,0:43:52.97,0:43:58.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it energises the body, that's why\Nwhat I was doing 10 minutes after
Dialogue: 0,0:43:58.69,0:44:03.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was teaching you in the meditation\Nsession, that's why usually I give guided
Dialogue: 0,0:44:03.36,0:44:09.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,meditation almost all the way through,\Nbut I was so exhausted, so tired,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:09.04,0:44:12.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you want to know why I'll tell you\Nwhat I've been doing the last two weeks
Dialogue: 0,0:44:12.48,0:44:17.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and today, if you want to know why it was there,\Nthe reason, I should be exhausted,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:17.87,0:44:24.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I taught you for 20 minutes, and then right,\Nno more doing anything,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:24.72,0:44:32.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,kept my mind really still,\Ngetting energy pouring back into awareness,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:32.66,0:44:41.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you wake up {\i1}alive{\i0}.\NWow, that's incredible,
Dialogue: 0,0:44:41.46,0:44:47.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feeling the wind.. Can you hear that?\NFeel it? Wow..
Dialogue: 0,0:44:47.93,0:44:52.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most people wouldn't be able to\Nhear that, but you did.
Dialogue: 0,0:44:52.73,0:45:01.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Energy starts to come back,\Ntiredness vanishes.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:01.08,0:45:09.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Heard a story at a global conference,\Na psychologist, he's a good psychologist,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:09.32,0:45:15.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but a bit crazy, why you have to pay people\Nto tell you this is absolutely ridiculous.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:15.07,0:45:20.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,His therapy, his method of therapy,\Nwhich is very very popular,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:20.41,0:45:29.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you go to his place and pay a lot of money\Nand he tells you to go have a walk in nature.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:29.72,0:45:34.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it works! People's problems disappear,\Nhe makes a lot of money,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:34.63,0:45:39.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their problems disappear, that's it.\NSmart guy.
Dialogue: 0,0:45:39.47,0:45:44.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But why is it - walking in nature,\Nor being by the ocean by yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:44.17,0:45:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not swimming or surfing, just sitting there.\NWhen you go to a forest and just do nothing,
Dialogue: 0,0:45:49.42,0:45:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why is that therapeutic?\NSimply because energy is going back
Dialogue: 0,0:45:55.55,0:46:01.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into mindfulness, into knowing,\Nyou're not doing so much,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:01.06,0:46:06.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which means that your tiredness is going,\Nit's vanishing, and when that
Dialogue: 0,0:46:06.75,0:46:12.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,tiredness vanishes, your health,\Nmental, emotional, physical,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:12.96,0:46:20.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,increases enormously.\NYou're healing just because in nature you
Dialogue: 0,0:46:20.34,0:46:24.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can't do very much.\NCheck it out this weekend.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:24.22,0:46:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've got a choice - go shopping\Nor go into the forest.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:32.50,0:46:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And check what you feel like afterwards.\NOne is so much doing you come back tired.
Dialogue: 0,0:46:41.50,0:46:45.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You go to a forest, or by a beach,\Na quiet place by yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:45.71,0:46:49.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,go into King's Park or whatever,\Nwalk around the river quietly,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:49.30,0:46:55.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not really doing much, and you find your\Ntiredness vanishes. Please for goodness sake,
Dialogue: 0,0:46:55.88,0:47:01.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,give yourself a break.\NToo many people getting cancers,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:01.06,0:47:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,too many partners breaking up.\NToo many kids just not being able to
Dialogue: 0,0:47:08.46,0:47:12.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,connect with their parents, because their\Nparents can't connect with them,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:12.63,0:47:19.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they're too tired.\NNot being able to listen because they're
Dialogue: 0,0:47:19.12,0:47:25.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,too dull. For goodness sake understand\Ntiredness is one of the biggest scourges
Dialogue: 0,0:47:25.82,0:47:33.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of our modern age, and there's many many\Nways, especially what you're heard tonight,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:33.28,0:47:41.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can overcome that tiredness and I've proved\Nit just by giving a talk, for 50 minutes,
Dialogue: 0,0:47:41.64,0:47:48.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though by all reasonable people\Nit should have been impossible.
Dialogue: 0,0:47:48.12,0:48:02.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you for listening.\NSadhu!! Sadhu!! Sadhu!!
Dialogue: 0,0:48:02.64,0:48:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, that's energy!
Dialogue: 0,0:48:08.24,0:48:13.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very good. What have we got here?\NFrom Ireland, France and London!
Dialogue: 0,0:48:13.36,0:48:17.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wow, Europe.\NHow do we deal with the tiredness with
Dialogue: 0,0:48:17.53,0:48:21.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people telling us we're wrong,\Nor that stuff we believe in is wrong?
Dialogue: 0,0:48:21.52,0:48:29.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Just tell them - yeah you're right,\NI am wrong. When I went to Malaysia
Dialogue: 0,0:48:29.68,0:48:39.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot, this is one of the problems.\NIn Malaysia there are also many Christians,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:39.59,0:48:44.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these are the evangelical ones,\Nthe ones that want to convert everybody..
Dialogue: 0,0:48:44.24,0:48:48.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so there was a problem in Malaysia,\Nalso in Singapore,
Dialogue: 0,0:48:48.71,0:48:54.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's an old Buddhist man, been Buddhist all his life,\Nbut his grandkid or his son had become
Dialogue: 0,0:48:54.90,0:48:58.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an evangelical. Everyone else was Buddhist.\NOr even Hindu, or whatever.
Dialogue: 0,0:48:58.70,0:49:04.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the son would think, "My father will go\Nto hell if he doesn't convert.."
Dialogue: 0,0:49:04.61,0:49:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So he'd go with his friends, and his pastor,\Nby the bedside of this really sick and dying
Dialogue: 0,0:49:11.31,0:49:19.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,person, and keep harassing them until they\Nconverted, and it was such a painful experience
Dialogue: 0,0:49:19.03,0:49:23.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that even I think the Singapore government\Nmade rules against that.
Dialogue: 0,0:49:23.88,0:49:29.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But someone asked me - what was your advice? If that's my son, my grandson,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:29.71,0:49:35.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm {\i1}dying{\i0}, he comes with his pastor,\Nhis friends and they start talking about
Dialogue: 0,0:49:35.17,0:49:39.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the Bible, Hallelujah, and I'm going to go\Nto hell if I don't convert,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:39.60,0:49:43.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Jesus is the only way,\Nwhat do I do?
Dialogue: 0,0:49:43.63,0:49:50.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't try to convince them they're wrong.\NYou can't. Convert!
Dialogue: 0,0:49:50.64,0:49:54.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell them, "oh yeah that makes a lot\Nof sense, grandson, okay I will take
Dialogue: 0,0:49:54.26,0:49:57.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jesus as my saviour."\NAnd they go Hallelujah, Hallelujah,
Dialogue: 0,0:49:57.66,0:50:00.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then they leave you alone.\NAnd as soon as they've walked out
Dialogue: 0,0:50:00.71,0:50:05.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the door, you can convert back again.\N[laughter] Become a Buddhist.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:05.91,0:50:10.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's my practical advice.\NSo if someone says, "you're wrong,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:10.39,0:50:12.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're wrong, you're wrong."\N"Yeah, you're right, I agree with you,"
Dialogue: 0,0:50:12.73,0:50:17.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm wrong, okay". Then they leave you alone.\NAnd as soon as they leave you alone,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:17.87,0:50:22.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"no that's rubbish, I was right all along"\N[laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:50:22.89,0:50:32.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Otherwise it's impossible. I say this even\Nwith partners, whoever you're living with,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:32.41,0:50:36.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you should know by now.\N[Phone rings] There we go, music to
Dialogue: 0,0:50:36.48,0:50:43.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,give an answer to a talk, that's fine,\Nthat happens, anyway it's not your fault,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:43.64,0:50:47.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's your mobile phone's fault,\Nso don't get angry at you,
Dialogue: 0,0:50:47.01,0:50:53.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,spank your mobile phone, or whatever,\Nput your mobile phone in detention.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:53.25,0:50:59.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What was I talking about? Oh yeah,\Nabout being wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:50:59.55,0:51:04.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no way in the world you will\Never be able to convince your partner
Dialogue: 0,0:51:04.70,0:51:09.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that he's wrong, no way.\NAnd you should have found that out
Dialogue: 0,0:51:09.23,0:51:13.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by now, how long have you been\Nliving with that guy?
Dialogue: 0,0:51:13.30,0:51:23.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can't do it. Even if you were, say,\Nthe Prime Minister of Germany,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:23.06,0:51:27.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's her name again?\NAngela Merkel!
Dialogue: 0,0:51:27.09,0:51:30.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Incredibly smart woman, very powerful,\NI'm not sure if she's married,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:30.64,0:51:34.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I bet she always loses arguments\Nwith her husband, there's no way she can
Dialogue: 0,0:51:34.45,0:51:41.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,convince her husband he's wrong.\NAnd Obama cannot convince Michelle,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:41.34,0:51:45.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,his wife, she's wrong, it's impossible.\NDoesn't matter how powerful, intelligent,
Dialogue: 0,0:51:45.61,0:51:52.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are, it cannot be done.\NSo don't try it. Many husbands say
Dialogue: 0,0:51:52.12,0:51:59.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Yes dear, yes dear, I agree with you dear,"\Nand they go off and do whatever they want. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:51:59.96,0:52:06.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's true, so get used to that, wives.\NSo anyway, we developed,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:06.30,0:52:09.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you haven't heard this yet,\NI always tell this story when I do weddings,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:09.54,0:52:14.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,another wedding tomorrow afternoon.\NThere's no way you can convince someone
Dialogue: 0,0:52:14.70,0:52:22.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're wrong, so how can you actually\Nmake a decision and actually get on
Dialogue: 0,0:52:22.75,0:52:29.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in life but not always having to submit.\NThat really sucks doesn't it?
Dialogue: 0,0:52:29.48,0:52:33.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's always right, why do I\Nalways have to agree with him?
Dialogue: 0,0:52:33.02,0:52:39.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Why does she always have to be right?\NSo the calendar method, the solution,
Dialogue: 0,0:52:39.91,0:52:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which allows people to live harmoniously\Nwith their partners, the calendar method
Dialogue: 0,0:52:45.33,0:52:51.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that when you have an argument,\Ndon't argue who's right and wrong!
Dialogue: 0,0:52:51.02,0:52:57.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Let the calendar decide!\NOn the odd days of the month she is right. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:52:57.78,0:53:04.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The girl is always right on the odd days\Nof the month. On the even days he is right.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:04.06,0:53:11.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's fair. Today is the 19th, so today\Nall the girls are right! Yay!
Dialogue: 0,0:53:11.72,0:53:19.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be careful, tomorrow he is right. [laughter]\NThat way you don't have to argue anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:19.09,0:53:25.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The calendar decides who's right without\Nany arguments and you can make a decision.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:25.98,0:53:33.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's never that bad if the other person makes\Na decision, not you, at least it's fair.
Dialogue: 0,0:53:33.05,0:53:36.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And people have already figured out,\Nyou girls have already figured out,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:36.96,0:53:42.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you get more days right a year than he does.\NOnly about four or five,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:42.19,0:53:47.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but guys, give it to them, it's worth it.\NThe trouble is, people say,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:47.22,0:53:55.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what happens if you're in a gay relationship?\N[laughter] Then you've got me stumped,
Dialogue: 0,0:53:55.93,0:54:06.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it doesn't work. Both of you are right on one\Nday, the next day both of you are wrong. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:54:06.67,0:54:11.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyway, when people tell you you're wrong\NI just forget about it, just let them tell you,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:11.38,0:54:14.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just do it, don't think about it,\Nand afterwards you realise
Dialogue: 0,0:54:14.43,0:54:17.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they can tell you whatever they want,\Nit's just rubbish.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:17.70,0:54:20.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Next Question] Do you think there's a link\Nbetween tiredness, and the oxygen
Dialogue: 0,0:54:20.52,0:54:23.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we breathe, pollution or how you breathe?
Dialogue: 0,0:54:23.20,0:54:25.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is a little bit of a connection\Nthere because oxygen gives you
Dialogue: 0,0:54:25.56,0:54:31.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,physical energy and if it's not much\Noxygen, or it's polluted, or something like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:31.35,0:54:36.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of course that will impact the amount\Nof oxygen you can breathe in but usually
Dialogue: 0,0:54:36.87,0:54:42.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the lungs compensate so if there's not\Nmuch oxygen coming in you breathe in more.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:42.91,0:54:46.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what happened to me when I\Nwent to Bhutan.
Dialogue: 0,0:54:46.48,0:54:52.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was very clear air but there's hardly\Nany oxygen when you go up to Tiger's Nest,
Dialogue: 0,0:54:52.17,0:54:56.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's very very high up.\NAt the bottom of that hill
Dialogue: 0,0:54:56.00,0:55:00.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,someone had an energy bar,\Na little energy bar like you can buy here,
Dialogue: 0,0:55:00.64,0:55:05.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a Mars bar or something, but when\Nthey got to the top it ballooned out.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:05.71,0:55:10.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They showed it to me, it was like a balloon,\Nbecause the air temperature at the top
Dialogue: 0,0:55:10.19,0:55:14.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and bottom was so different that the\Npressure inside at the bottom was just
Dialogue: 0,0:55:14.93,0:55:19.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,ordinary pressure but by the time\Nwe got up to the top it was a balloon.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:19.38,0:55:24.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's how high it was, and there was\Nhardly any oxygen there, but what happens
Dialogue: 0,0:55:24.01,0:55:30.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that the lungs breathe in more.\NSo yeah, there's a little bit between
Dialogue: 0,0:55:30.62,0:55:33.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the tiredness and the oxygen but not\Nthat much because the body usually
Dialogue: 0,0:55:33.12,0:55:36.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,knows how to compensate.\NIt doesn't know how to compensate
Dialogue: 0,0:55:36.48,0:55:39.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you think too much..
Dialogue: 0,0:55:39.29,0:55:43.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Ajahn (from London), what can a person\Ndo when they have lost everything in their life
Dialogue: 0,0:55:43.61,0:55:47.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have torturous anxiety about the future.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:47.77,0:55:51.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Remember me, I have lost everything
Dialogue: 0,0:55:51.56,0:55:57.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in my life. I've lost my degree, it doesn't\Ncount for anything anymore.
Dialogue: 0,0:55:57.27,0:56:01.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've lost all my money, haven't got a cent.\NI had some money when I was young.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:01.91,0:56:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What else did I lose? I lost girlfriends,\Nmoney, possessions, everything.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:12.16,0:56:17.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I lost all my past, all my memories.\NI lost all my fears.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:17.100,0:56:21.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've lost my security. I don't have\Nsuperannuation. I'm not allowed
Dialogue: 0,0:56:21.79,0:56:25.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,according to how monks agree,\Nto take a pension.
Dialogue: 0,0:56:25.82,0:56:30.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I haven't got anything.\NWhat would happen if you didn't
Dialogue: 0,0:56:30.53,0:56:40.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,feed me tomorrow or the day after?\NAh! Now losing everything is not
Dialogue: 0,0:56:40.20,0:56:47.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the problem, sometimes it gives you\Na lot of freedom, you can live simply,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:47.20,0:56:53.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,learn to live simply.\NThe torturous anxiety, now that,
Dialogue: 0,0:56:53.39,0:56:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've lost possessions,\Nbut now you're allowing your peace
Dialogue: 0,0:56:56.23,0:57:02.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be lost as well. Recently we had a\Nbreak-in at Bodhinyana monastery.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:02.75,0:57:07.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They pinched some chainsaws.\NStraightaway, I said they can pinch the
Dialogue: 0,0:57:07.40,0:57:10.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,chainsaws, they can steal that,\Nbut they're not going to steal our
Dialogue: 0,0:57:10.38,0:57:16.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,peace and compassion. We're not going to\Nworry about that. In fact it turned out
Dialogue: 0,0:57:16.32,0:57:20.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to be really good because those\Nchainsaws were quite old and the
Dialogue: 0,0:57:20.06,0:57:24.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,insurance allowed us to get much better\Nones. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:57:24.03,0:57:28.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if ever that thief is around,\Ncome up here and we'll say thankyou.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:28.54,0:57:32.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I shouldn't say that but it actually\Nworked out good in the end.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:32.04,0:57:34.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They can come into your house\Nand they can steal your possessions
Dialogue: 0,0:57:34.47,0:57:38.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but why allow them to steal your\Nhappiness as well?
Dialogue: 0,0:57:38.17,0:57:41.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't need to do that.\NSo you may have lost all your physical
Dialogue: 0,0:57:41.40,0:57:46.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,possessions, maybe lost your wife,\Nor your kids, or something,
Dialogue: 0,0:57:46.08,0:57:56.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you don't need to lose your happiness.\NThat is losing your hope.
Dialogue: 0,0:57:56.95,0:58:01.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what you can do is restore hope.\NSee other people, sometimes when we
Dialogue: 0,0:58:01.100,0:58:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have these little groups,\Npeople in the same situation,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:06.98,0:58:12.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's that called again?\NTherapy groups, peer support groups,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:12.42,0:58:15.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,sometimes when we hear what other\Npeople have gone through, which is similar
Dialogue: 0,0:58:15.34,0:58:23.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to what we've gone through, it gives us hope\Ninstead of fear and anxiety.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:23.52,0:58:28.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's such an important thing to create\Nin your life - hope.
Dialogue: 0,0:58:28.14,0:58:34.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So even if you haven't been able to\Nfind a partner in life, don't give up,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:34.91,0:58:42.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,keep on going. If you fear you won't,\Nthen you will not. You can always have hope,
Dialogue: 0,0:58:42.08,0:58:49.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"yes it's possible", then you're opening the\Ndoors to success. So always look into
Dialogue: 0,0:58:49.18,0:58:56.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the future with a positive mind and then\Nyour last experience will never take
Dialogue: 0,0:58:56.23,0:59:02.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,away your hope and where there's\Nhope there is success.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:02.62,0:59:07.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So thank you to those people. It's 9 o'clock now.\NSo is there any questions from the floor?
Dialogue: 0,0:59:07.77,0:59:11.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Good, great, bye bye. [laughter]
Dialogue: 0,0:59:11.74,0:59:14.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Okay, we're going to bow down to the\NBuddha, Dhamma, Sangha.
Dialogue: 0,0:59:14.03,0:59:19.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm sorry if I can't say hello to you,\Nbecause I have to rush off and go
Dialogue: 0,0:59:19.10,0:59:24.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and teach down in Jhana Grove\Nfor a nice retreat.