What are you doing on this stage

in front of all these people?

(Laughter)

Run --

(Laughter)

Run now.

That's the voice of my anxiety talking.

Even when there's absolutely
nothing wrong,

I sometimes get
this overwhelming sense of doom,

like danger is lurking
just around the corner.

You see, a few years ago

I was diagnosed with generalized anxiety

and depression.

Two conditions that often
go hand in hand.

Now, there was a time
I wouldn't have told anybody,

especially not in front of a big audience.

As a Black woman,

I've had to develop extraordinary
resilience to succeed,

and like most people in my community,

I had the misconception that depression
was a sign of weakness:

a character flaw.

But I wasn't weak;

I was a high achiever.

I'd earned a Master's degree
in Media Studies,

and had a string of high-profile jobs
in the film and television industries.

I'd even won two Emmy awards
for my hard work.

Sure, I was totally spent,

I lacked interested in things
I used to enjoy,

barely ate,

struggled with insomnia

and felt isolated and depleted.

But depressed?

No, not me.

It took weeks before I could admit it,

but the doctor was right;

I was depressed.

Still, I didn't tell anybody
about my diagnosis.

I was too ashamed.

I didn't think I had
the right to be depressed.

I had a privileged life

with a loving family
and a successful career,

and when I thought about
the unspeakable horrors

that my ancestors
had been through in this country

so that I could have it better,

my shame grew even deeper.

I was standing on their shoulders.

How could I let them down?

I would hold my head up,

put a smile on my face,

and never tell a soul.

On July 4, 2013,

my world came crashing in on me.

That was the day I got
a phone call from my mom

telling me that my 22-year-old nephew,
Paul, had ended his life

after years of battling
depression and anxiety.

There are no words that can describe
the devastation I felt.

Paul and I were very close,

but I had no idea he was in so much pain.

Neither one of us had ever talked
to the other about our struggles.

The shame and stigma kept us both silent.

Now, my way of dealing with adversity
is to face it head on,

so I spent the next two years
researching depression and anxiety,

and what I found was mind-blowing.

The World Health Organization reports

that depression is the leading cause
of sickness and disability in the world.

While the exact cause
of depression isn't clear,

research suggests that most
mental disorders develop,

at least in part,

because of a chemical 
imbalance in the brain,

and/or an underlying
genetic predisposition.

So you can't just shake it off.

For Black Americans,

stressors like racism
and socioeconomic disparities

put them at a 20 percent greater risk
of developing a mental disorder,

yet they seek mental health services

at about half the rate of white Americans.

One reason is the stigma,

with 63 percent of Black Americans
mistaking depression for a weakness.

Sadly, the suicide rate
among Black children

has doubled in the past 20 years.

Now, here's the good news.

70 percent of people struggling
with depression will improve

with therapy, treatment and medication.

Armed with this information,

I made a decision:

I wasn't going to be silent anymore.

With my family's blessing,

I would share our story

in hopes of sparking
a national conversation.

A friend, Kelly Pierre-Louis, said,

"Being strong is killing us."

She's right.

We have got to retire
those tired, old narratives

of the strong Black woman

and the super-masculine Black man,

who, no matter how many times
they get knocked down,

just shake it off and soldier on.

Having feelings isn't a sign of weakness.

Feelings mean we're human,

and when we deny our humanity,

it leaves us feeling empty inside,

searching for ways to self-medicate
in order to fill the void.

My drug was high achievement.

These days I share my story openly,

and I ask others to share theirs, too.

I believe that's what it takes

to help people who may
be suffering in silence

to know that they are not alone,

and to know that with help,

they can heal.

I still have my struggles,

particularly with the anxiety,

but I'm able to manage it

through daily mediation,
yoga and a relatively healthy diet.

(Laughter)

If I feel like things
are starting to spiral,

I make an appointment
to see my therapist:

a dynamic Black woman named Dawn Armstrong

who has a great sense of humor

and a familiarity that I find comforting.

I will always regret that I couldn't
be there for my nephew,

but my sincerest hope

is that I can inspire others
with the lesson that I've learned.

Life is beautiful.

Sometimes it's messy,

and it's always unpredictable,

but it will all be OK

when you have your support system
to help you through it.

I hope that if your burden gets too heavy,

you'll ask for a hand, too.

Thank you.

(Applause)