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Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.11,0:00:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is rape culture?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.45,0:00:11.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you haven't heard the term before,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.31,0:00:14.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rape culture is basically acknowledging\Nthat we live in a society
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.48,0:00:19.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that normalizes or diminishes rape\Nthrough the bombardment of images,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.07,0:00:22.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,language, laws and social attitudes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.10,0:00:25.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a culture in which victim blaming\Nis just not present but common -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.92,0:00:29.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and caveats like: \NWhat did she expect going home with him?
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.56,0:00:31.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And: "She was drunk, wasn't she?"
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.56,0:00:34.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And: "She slept with him before,\Nlook at that skirt she was wearing",
Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.88,0:00:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,are routinely invoked\Nto excuse perpetrators
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.62,0:00:40.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as having just done what everyone\Nwould've expected them to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.84,0:00:42.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Done what a red-blooded\NAussie man would do.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.98,0:00:45.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can't say it clearer than that,\Nshe did go home with him
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.77,0:00:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's that kind of language.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.24,0:00:49.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's the language of lawmakers\Nwho use words like:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.63,0:00:53.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,honest rape and forcible rape\Nand legitimate rape.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.56,0:00:55.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To portray the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.50,0:00:58.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they believe there are\Nactually two kinds of rape:
Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.22,0:01:01.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there is the very small\Nincidence of real rape
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.56,0:01:05.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there are all the overwhelming\Nincidents of rape -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:05.89,0:01:08.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where women are actually\Njust lying about it -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.20,0:01:09.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they are so embarrassed
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.85,0:01:12.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by the fact they've allowed something\Nto enter their shame cave –
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.96,0:01:14.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,other than the Holy Spirit.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.46,0:01:16.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So that's rape culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.86,0:01:19.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am just going to talk you through\Na series of examples now
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.78,0:01:21.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of what I think rape culture looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.76,0:01:24.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some of them are local\Nand some of them are international –
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.74,0:01:26.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because rape culture exists everywhere.\N
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.79,0:01:28.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can all share it.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.59,0:01:31.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So rape culture is Peter "Spida" Everitt
Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.28,0:01:34.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,after the 2010 AFL Grand Final\Nresponding to allegations.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.46,0:01:36.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is very important this word\N"allegedly".
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.49,0:01:39.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll speak to people who don't believe\Nthat rape culture exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.72,0:01:43.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You'll speak to people who don't believe\Nthat men can ever be charged with rape
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.48,0:01:45.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because, of course,\Nwomen are always lying.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.60,0:01:48.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Very intend on protecting\Nthe due process of the legal system -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.68,0:01:50.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only in case of sexual assault
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.19,0:01:53.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they remind you consitently\Nthat "this just happened allegedly".
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.44,0:01:54.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, Peter "Spida" Everitt -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.93,0:01:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,responding to the allegations\Nafter the 2010 AFL Grand Final -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:58.54,0:02:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that, sexual assault had occurred\Nin the home of one of Collingwood players.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.29,0:02:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, that has since been resolved -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:05.12,0:02:08.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you do have a chance\Ndo read Anna Krien's "Night games",
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.11,0:02:11.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's a brilliant exploration\Nof sex, power, and culture.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.19,0:02:13.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But him responding to that\Nwith the following tweet:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:13.65,0:02:15.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"GIRLS!!
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.13,0:02:16.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When will you learn
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.60,0:02:19.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that at 3:00 am when you go home\Ndrunk with a guy
Dialogue: 0,0:02:19.48,0:02:21.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is not for a cup of Milo?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.52,0:02:22.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Allegedly".
Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.28,0:02:26.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's Kerrie-Anne Kennerley\Nresponding to that tweet -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.74,0:02:29.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by inviting Peter "Spida" Everitt\Nonto her show
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.41,0:02:32.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sympathizing with him\Nover the poor fate of footballers
Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.52,0:02:35.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who have "strays" throw themselves\Nat them all the time
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.74,0:02:37.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and get them in trouble.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.13,0:02:41.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's Channel 9 responding\Nto the dismay and outrage
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.51,0:02:43.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,- and I'm grateful that it was given -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.38,0:02:46.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because not everyone wants\Nto talk out about rape culture -
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.18,0:02:48.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But Channel 9 responding to that outrage
Dialogue: 0,0:02:48.18,0:02:49.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by issuing a statement that said:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.10,0:02:53.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"In regards to the segment\Non Kerrie-Anne's show this morning,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.28,0:02:55.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what she was talking about
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.15,0:02:58.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when she talked about "strays"\Nwas alcohol-fueled situations
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.20,0:03:01.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in which both, girls and guys,\Nmust take the blame."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.53,0:03:05.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is reducing rape\Nto an "alcohol fueled situation."
Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.49,0:03:09.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape Culture is Channel 9,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.64,0:03:13.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,responding to these things\Nwith such a dismissive tone -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:14.32,0:03:17.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it reinforces to people\Nthat it's an alcohol-fueled situation -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.71,0:03:19.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and not an actual assault on their bodies.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.84,0:03:23.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Looking further abroad,\Nrape culture is Daniel Tosh.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.68,0:03:26.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He is a comedian,\Nstanding in front of a live audience
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.37,0:03:27.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and responding to a woman
Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.84,0:03:30.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who had taken umbrage\Nat one of his jokes about rape,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.52,0:03:31.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by saying:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.47,0:03:35.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Wouldn't it be funny if five guys just\Ncame down and raped this woman right now?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.43,0:03:37.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Wouldn't that be hilarious?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.07,0:03:40.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is also his comedy mates\Nthen defending him.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.91,0:03:44.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because comedy is sacred,\Nand women's bodies aren't.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.40,0:03:49.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is raising boys\Nin an environment and a society
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.70,0:03:52.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that teaches them they have\Nan entitlement to women's bodies.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:52.77,0:03:55.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is how things like\NSteubenville, Ohio happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:55.63,0:03:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is how things like\Nthe Roast Busters in Auckland happens.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:58.64,0:04:03.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Boys think that it's so much their right\Nto treat a woman's body as they please -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.74,0:04:06.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that not only would they do it\Nin front of all of their friends,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:06.87,0:04:09.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rape an unconscious woman repeatedly\Nbut they'll film it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.88,0:04:11.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They'll actually document the evidence
Dialogue: 0,0:04:11.70,0:04:15.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and put it on the Internet for everyone\Nto see what a big man they are.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:15.24,0:04:16.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In Auckland,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.13,0:04:19.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's the police not doing anything\Nabout it for years,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.02,0:04:21.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though they knew about it\Nbecause they said:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.44,0:04:23.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"We couldn't do anything about it".
Dialogue: 0,0:04:23.86,0:04:26.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is reinforcing to young girls
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.74,0:04:29.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they don't have the right\Nto feel safe.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.99,0:04:33.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is people telling women
Dialogue: 0,0:04:33.07,0:04:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that protecting themselves from rape\Nis like property theft.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:37.65,0:04:39.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That, well, you know
Dialogue: 0,0:04:39.48,0:04:41.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not that I believe that rape is ok,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.81,0:04:44.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but if you're going to leave your car\Nparked on the street
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.63,0:04:46.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with the keys in the ignition\Nand walk away,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.80,0:04:50.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can you really expect that someone\Nis not going to come along and steal it?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.58,0:04:54.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I say to that, the two things\Nthat I think when I think, you know -
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.73,0:04:58.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people calling "property theft"\Ninto account for this, is that:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.99,0:05:01.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One, my vagina isn't a car.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.41,0:05:05.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if it was, I would have saved\Na lot more money in taxis over the years,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:05.11,0:05:07.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then I'd be able\Nto fix its break pads.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:08.64,0:05:11.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But secondly, we are not disembodied\Nfrom our bodies.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.26,0:05:14.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our vaginas aren't cars\Nthat we can walk away from and leave.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.31,0:05:16.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The only way that analogy works
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.62,0:05:19.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is if I am sitting in the car \Nand you come and you open the car
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.94,0:05:22.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you drag me out of it \Nand you steal my fucking car!
Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.28,0:05:26.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your vagina is not a vehicle.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.33,0:05:28.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this is what rape culture looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.60,0:05:31.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is pretending\Nrape culture doesn't exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.26,0:05:33.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's people preferring to believe
Dialogue: 0,0:05:33.05,0:05:35.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the women in their lives\Nare potential victims
Dialogue: 0,0:05:35.58,0:05:39.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rather than accepting that the men\Nin their lives are potential predators.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:39.32,0:05:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because people like to talk\Nabout rapists as these evil monsters
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.51,0:05:44.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who lurk in the streets and shadows.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.65,0:05:47.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We, the women, have to protect ourselves\Nagainst them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.42,0:05:49.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I am not saying that rape is good, girls
Dialogue: 0,0:05:49.38,0:05:52.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm just saying, can't you just learn\Nto take care of yourselves?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.44,0:05:56.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Girls, when will you learn\Nthat the world is full of evil monsters
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.27,0:05:58.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you have to protect yourselves?"
Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.88,0:06:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape culture is assuming
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.28,0:06:02.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we haven't been raised\Nprotecting ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:03.15,0:06:06.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,believing in the state of our own\Nvulnerability since the very days
Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.67,0:06:09.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we were first walking out\Naway from our parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.20,0:06:14.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And on that note, actually -\Nand the evil monsters -
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.35,0:06:17.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rape culture denies the reality of rape
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.38,0:06:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that most of it doesn't happen on streets,\Nmost of it happens in the home.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.30,0:06:23.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's done to us by men we know,\Nmen we love,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:24.55,0:06:26.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men we may even be related to.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.72,0:06:28.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what rape culture looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:28.97,0:06:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, that's a very sort of somber\Nview of the world that we live in.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.08,0:06:36.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the world that people don't want\Nto talk about because rape is not nice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.87,0:06:39.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We don't really talk about it,\Nit's not nice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.19,0:06:41.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a hemorrhoid removal\Noperation on the television.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.20,0:06:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Sigh)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:43.36,0:06:45.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was pretty scared coming here\Nto do this talk today
Dialogue: 0,0:06:45.89,0:06:48.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it's quite daunting\Nstanding in a room full of people
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.80,0:06:50.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and sharing your ideas on things.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.60,0:06:52.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Had a couple of nervous poos.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:52.55,0:06:54.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.44,0:06:57.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sorry, I forgot that women\Naren't supposed to shit!
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.92,0:06:59.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.28,0:07:01.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, I'm shaking!
Dialogue: 0,0:07:01.76,0:07:02.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all get nervous.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.84,0:07:04.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.98,0:07:06.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this is the thing.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.20,0:07:08.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's that standing here\Nin front of people,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:08.27,0:07:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in front of an audience,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:09.50,0:07:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anyone doing that, it's scary\Nand it's a good kind of fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:12.49,0:07:14.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I want to be liberated by my fear.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:14.78,0:07:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't want to be imprisoned by it\Nand this is what I think.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.01,0:07:21.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, Paul mentioned a comment\Nbefore talking about terrorism,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.19,0:07:23.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do think it's an act of terrorism
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.00,0:07:25.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to raise girls to believe\Nthat the world is not safe for them.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.100,0:07:29.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because what it does, is that it forces us\Nto diminish ourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.15,0:07:32.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It means that we take up less space\Nthan we're entitled to.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.09,0:07:34.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We live in a world where women are taught
Dialogue: 0,0:07:34.22,0:07:36.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they do not have the right to walk\Ndown the street at night
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.99,0:07:40.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they don't have the access\Nto the same space as men.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.06,0:07:42.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that's an act of terrorism
Dialogue: 0,0:07:42.03,0:07:44.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I will not negotiate with terrorists\Non those terms.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.70,0:07:47.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I do not engage people\Nin conversations about
Dialogue: 0,0:07:47.58,0:07:52.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why women need to protect themselves\Nor why our vaginas are like cars.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.32,0:07:55.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I just don't tolerate it and this is what\Nwe all have to start doing.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.14,0:08:00.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I have a boyfriend,\Nwhich I know is kind of crazy,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:00.39,0:08:03.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because as an obviously\Nradical, separatist, lesbian feminist -
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.94,0:08:05.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.77,0:08:08.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as a lot of my fans in daily life call me,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:08.37,0:08:10.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am not supposed to have a boyfriend.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.49,0:08:14.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I did fashioned him out of\Ngingerbread and bring him to life
Dialogue: 0,0:08:14.09,0:08:18.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a black voodoo magic swirling\Naround in my devil's datsun.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.28,0:08:21.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But he exists, now,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.87,0:08:23.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it still counts.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.05,0:08:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he often says to me:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.44,0:08:27.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Can we just make it through one dinner
Dialogue: 0,0:08:27.59,0:08:29.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you don't talk about rape?"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:30.20,0:08:31.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To which I reply:
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.48,0:08:33.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Can we just make it through
Dialogue: 0,0:08:33.06,0:08:34.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of Earth's rotations around the Sun
Dialogue: 0,0:08:34.92,0:08:38.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where I can walk on the street\Nwith as much right to safety as you
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.19,0:08:40.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just because you have a penis?"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.70,0:08:43.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And actually, statistically speaking,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.74,0:08:45.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,based on what we know on male\Non male violence,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.04,0:08:49.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he is less likely to be safe\Non the streets than me.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.72,0:08:52.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But that is not the way\Nthat we talk about violence and safety.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.76,0:08:55.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is convenient for people\Nto make women afraid,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:55.08,0:08:56.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it keeps us controlled.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.45,0:09:00.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I understand that rape makes\Npeople uncomfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.88,0:09:02.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of things make me uncomfortable,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.83,0:09:04.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For example,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.00,0:09:05.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am uncomfortable with the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.53,0:09:08.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that millions of girls and women\Nare raped around the world each year.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.84,0:09:11.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And only a handful of them\Nwill ever see justice prevail.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:11.68,0:09:15.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am uncomfortable with the fact\Nthat because of the work that I do,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.02,0:09:18.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I stand in front of an audience like this\Nand I automatically think:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.24,0:09:19.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Which third of this audience
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.77,0:09:22.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has experienced sexual assault\Nor violence or rape?"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.58,0:09:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm uncomfortable with the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.40,0:09:26.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that of that proportion of the audience
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.46,0:09:28.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all of them will have been socialized\Nat some point
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.97,0:09:31.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you don't talk about these things\Nin polite society.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.93,0:09:33.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm uncomfortable with the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:09:33.71,0:09:37.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that as a white, middle-class woman\Nis hard for me to talk about rape,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.15,0:09:39.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's even more difficult\Nfor a woman of color,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.50,0:09:40.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a disabled woman,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.65,0:09:42.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a woman who is a sex worker,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.28,0:09:44.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a woman who is living in poverty,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.01,0:09:46.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a woman who doesn't live here.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.06,0:09:48.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's harder for those women\Nto talk about something
Dialogue: 0,0:09:48.57,0:09:50.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is already hard for me to discuss.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.56,0:09:52.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm uncomfortable with those facts.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.72,0:09:53.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I get it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.83,0:09:55.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Rape is uncomfortable.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.83,0:09:57.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this is why
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.13,0:09:58.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we need to keep talking about it
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.67,0:10:00.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we need to keep disrupting
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.30,0:10:02.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people's comfortable lives with it.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.21,0:10:05.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the result of that\Nis that they actually do start to change.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.75,0:10:09.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In all of the time that I've been writing\Nand writing about rape,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.100,0:10:12.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in all the emails that I've gotten from,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.35,0:10:14.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, peeling through\Nthe ones that say to me
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.75,0:10:17.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I am just jealous because\Nno one wants to rape me
Dialogue: 0,0:10:17.42,0:10:18.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I'm too ugly.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.72,0:10:21.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because, of course, the only thing worse\Nthan being raped,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.56,0:10:24.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is being considered not pretty enough\Nto be raped.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.44,0:10:26.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right, Tracy?
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.65,0:10:30.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In all of that, I also get emails\Nfrom young girls that inspire me,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.38,0:10:31.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who tell me
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.51,0:10:33.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the things that I've written,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.25,0:10:36.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and things that other women\Nlike me have written about rape
Dialogue: 0,0:10:36.12,0:10:38.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,bringing this conversation\Ninto the national dialog -
Dialogue: 0,0:10:38.76,0:10:40.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have let them realize
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.08,0:10:42.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that they're not responsible\Nfor what happened to them.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:42.67,0:10:45.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's made them realize,\Nit's not their fault.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.33,0:10:46.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But even better than that,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:46.80,0:10:48.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's the emails that I get from men,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.70,0:10:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who tell me that something about\Nthis conversation we're having now,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.96,0:10:54.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has changed they way\Nthey view the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:54.04,0:10:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's made them realize\Nhow privileged they are.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.34,0:10:58.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's made them realize\Nhow much entitlement
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.58,0:11:00.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men generally have to space and safety
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.20,0:11:03.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's made them want\Nto change things for the better.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.94,0:11:06.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I received an email from a friend of mine\Nthe other day,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.64,0:11:09.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I say friend, but we went\Nto school together,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:09.10,0:11:11.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so, you know, we haven't talked really\Nin 20 years
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.51,0:11:14.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but we're Facebook friends,\Nthat's how people catch up these days.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.73,0:11:16.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And he sent me an email out of nowhere
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.57,0:11:18.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with a link to a meme,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.20,0:11:21.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was just a venn diagram\Nof "this is what causes rape"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:22.12,0:11:27.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's things like: alcohol,\Nclothing, attitudes, rapists.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.92,0:11:31.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the rapists was in red\Nand the whole venn diagram was in red,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:31.42,0:11:35.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the only thing common\Nto all experiences of rape, is a rapist.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.11,0:11:37.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the only thing we can say\Ncauses rape.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.14,0:11:39.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's the rapist.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.48,0:11:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the way we talk about rape,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:41.47,0:11:44.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as if it's some kind of arbitrary\Nthing that just happens to women.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.71,0:11:46.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That we just walk out\Nof the door one day
Dialogue: 0,0:11:46.62,0:11:48.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just accidentally step\Nin a puddle of it,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.77,0:11:50.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because we weren't paying attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:50.76,0:11:53.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's how we remove responsibility\Nfrom the problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.97,0:11:57.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I believe that to fix the problem,\Nyou have to name the problem.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.57,0:12:00.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I was really inspired\Nby that email that he sent me.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:00.28,0:12:02.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because it showed me that this guy,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.39,0:12:04.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who, I would say, is kind of
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.03,0:12:06.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,pretty much your average Australian bloke,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:06.33,0:12:07.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, he likes sports,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.68,0:12:09.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he is a pretty good guy,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:09.50,0:12:12.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he is kind of on the middle\Nof the fence politically.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.08,0:12:15.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He doesn't have to be\Nengaged in these topics
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.42,0:12:17.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because society enables him\Nto not be engaged in them.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.19,0:12:20.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But he has chosen to become engaged
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.57,0:12:22.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because of the things\Nthat he's been reading
Dialogue: 0,0:12:22.67,0:12:25.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and because of the things\Nthat he's been hearing.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.05,0:12:28.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it means that he wants to change\Nthe world around him for the better.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:28.54,0:12:30.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm really inspired by that.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:30.20,0:12:33.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that's why we need to keep\Ntalking about these things.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.32,0:12:35.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even though it makes\Npeople uncomfortable,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:35.34,0:12:37.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even though people\Ndon't like to think about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:37.59,0:12:40.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even though they like to pretend\Nthat it doesn't exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.25,0:12:42.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because I'd rather people\Nbe uncomfortable about rape,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.85,0:12:44.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than be complacent about it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:44.46,0:12:46.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.10,0:12:47.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)