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Dear Thay,

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I have a friend of mine.

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She is on drugs.

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Listening to her really helps her.

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At the same time,

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it hurts me to be with her, too.

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It actually overwhelms me.

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And, I was wondering,

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how can I deal [br]with this overwhelming feeling?

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I think we have to learn

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to know our limit.

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We should only spend

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that amount of time with her,

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in order to help preserve yourself.

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If you do not preserve yourself,

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you will not be able [br]to help her in the future.

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So, preserve yourself is very important.

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You know how much time[br]you can give her every day, every week.

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And, you might have friends,

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relatives and others[br]that can help you.

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If you have a Sangha --

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because every practitioner[br]of meditation has a Sangha.

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And, you can call for your brothers [br]and sisters in the Dharma to help you.

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And, with many brothers [br]and sisters behind you,

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you are strong.

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You can do better work to help her.

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And, if she joins the Sangha, [br]joins the practice,

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she has more chance to transform.

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I know that[br]there are many psychotherapists

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who have to spend too much time [br]talking to sick people.

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And, they do not have enough time [br]to take care of themselves.

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And, that is not good.

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You cannot spend all your day

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listening to the suffering[br]of other people.

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You have to have time to

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get in touch with the joyful,

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nourishing and healing elements.

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Because, psychotherapist needs[br]to be nourished also,

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so that she or he can continue[br]for a long time.

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So, to know your limit [br]is very important.

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And, to have a Sangha [br]behind you to help you.

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That is the answer.

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Now, we have time for[br]a few questions in French.

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