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There are some

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traits that we

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learn from home

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like

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how your father

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dealt with a

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certain situation

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like if in an argument,

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your father

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slapped her.

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Then it may happen

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that the child

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will see it in such

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a way that yes

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if wife does

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something wrong

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then this is the

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right way to

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deal with this.

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So these traits are

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also there that

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children learn.

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They are, but when

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you are mature,

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when you're at a

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marriageable age,

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I'm assuming 20s

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in your late 20s,

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by then you

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have a sense of

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individuality.

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You understand who

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you are as a person

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and who you want

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to become,

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right, so when

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that importance

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and value comes

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then you don't

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need to imitate

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necessarily.

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Sometimes you

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can learn

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from their mistakes

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that if my father

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has done this then

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I won't become

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that person.