I don't realize that what I think is a compliment about your weight
actually makes you feel anxious, insecure, and watched.
(air whipping, creaking noise as "BuzzFeed presents" appears)
(music playing softly)
I'm looking you up and down because I've been socialized
to judge other women and take advantage of that.
I'm worried that if you don't have a perfect body
people are going to think that I'm a bad mom.
Literally everything that I don't like about the way you look
is a projection of what I don't like about myself.
I don't value your personality nearly as much as I value your breasts.
I'm going to tell you your butt looks great in that
even though no one really knows what a good butt looks like.
I've never had a healthy relationship with food.
And that's really going to fuck you up
I make comments about your weight because I make snap judgements about what it means
when really I have no idea what's going on in your life.
I'm uncomfortable with people of different shapes and sizes but I'm not really sure why.
I accept the fact that our beauty standards are based entirely on photoshop.
I'm going to tell you that everything here is really slimming on you so that you shop
here over and over and over again.
I don't lift weights because I've been conditioned to think that looking
beautiful and feminine means not looking strong.
I think your life will be easier if you're thin.
So I'm going to try to encourage that from a very young age.
This dress will look good on literally any body type but the smaller sizes
look better on the rack so we keep everything else in back.
I don't like the fact that you are not conforming to a misogynistic ideal of
female beauty. And I can't think beyond that.
I criticize skinny girls to cover up the fact that I'm actually really concerned
about my own weight.
I'm putting my own issues on you when I'm completely unaware of the damage that
I'm doing.
I'm going to tell you that this covers up your flaws. You don't really have any
but I work on commission so I need you to buy this.
I've been conditioned to be critical of myself and use self-deprecation as a
coverup so people don't think I'm conceited.
But the truth is, I look amazing.
Mannequins are all the same size even though none of us are.