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Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While preparing for my talk
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was reflecting on my life
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and trying to figure out
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where exactly was that moment\Nwhen my journey began.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A long time passed by,\Nand I simple couldn't figure out
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the beginning or the middle\Nor the end of my story.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I always used to think that my beginning
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was one afternoon in my community\Nwhen my mother had told me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I had escaped three\Narranged marriages by the time I was two.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or one evening when electricity had failed\Nfor eight hours in our community,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my dad sat, surrounded by all of us,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,telling us stories of when he was\Na little kid struggling to go to school
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while his father, who was a farmer,\Nwanted him to work in the fields with him.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or the dark night when I was 16\Nwhen three little kids have come to me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they whispered in my ear\Nthat my friend was murdered
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in something called "the honor killings."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then I realized that,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as much as I know that these moments\Nhave contributed on my journey,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have influenced my journey
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they have not been\Nthe beginning of it,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the true beginning of my journey\Nwas in front of a mud house
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in Upper Sindh of Pakistan,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where my father held the hand\Nof my 14-year old mother
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they decided\Nto walk out of the village
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go to a town where they could\Nsend their kids to school.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In a way, I feel like my life
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is kind of a result of some wise choices\Nand decisions they've made.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And just like that,\Nanother of their decisions
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was to keep me and my siblings\Nconnected to our roots.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While we were living in a community\NI fondly remember called [?????],
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which means community of the poor,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my dad made sure that we also\Nhad a house in our rural homeland.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I come from an indigenous tribe\Nin the mountains of Baluchistan
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,called Bravi.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bravi, or Brohi,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,means mountain dweller,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it is also my language.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thanks to my father's very strict rules\Nabout connecting to our customs,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had to live a beautiful life\Nof songs, cultures, traditions,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stories, mountains,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a lot of sheep.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then, living in two extremes
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,between the traditions of my culture,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of my village, and then education,\Nmodern education in my school wasn't easy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was aware that I was the only girl\Nwho got to have such freedom,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I was guilty of it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,While going to school in Karachi
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Hyderabad,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a lot of my cousins and childhood friends\Nwere getting married off,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some to older men, some in exchange,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some even as second wives.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got to see the beautiful tradition
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and its magic fade in front of me
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I saw that the birth of a girl child
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was celebrated with sadness,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when women were told\Nto have patience as their main virtue.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Up until I was 16,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I healed my sadness by crying,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mostly at nights\Nwhen everyone would sleep,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would sob in my pillow,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but until that one night\Nwhen I found out my friend was killed
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the name of honor.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Honor killings is a custom
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where men and women\Nare suspected of having relationships
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,before or outside of the marriage,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're killed by their family for it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Usually the killer is the brother\Nor father or the uncle in the family.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The U.N. reports there are about 1,000\Nhonor murders every year in Pakistan,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these are only the reported cases.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A custom that kills\Ndid not make any sense to me,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I knew I had to do\Nsomething about it this time.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was not going to cry myself to sleep.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was going to do something,\Nanything, to stop it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was 16. I started writing poetry
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and going door to door\Ntelling everybody about honor killings
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and why it happens,\Nwhy it should be stopped,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and raising awareness about it until\NI actually found a much, much better way
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to handle this issue.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In those days, we were\Nliving in a very small,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one roomed house in Karachi.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every year, during the monsoon seasons,\Nour house would flood out with water,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,rainwater, and sewage,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and my mom and dad\Nwould be taking the water out.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In those days, my dad brought home\Na huge machine, a computer.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was so big it looked as if\Nit was going to take the half
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the only room we had,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and had so many pieces and wires\Nthat needed to be connected.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it was still the most exciting thing
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that has ever happened\Nto me and my sisters.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My older brother Ali got to be in charge\Nof taking care of the computer,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all of us were given, like,\N10 to 15 minutes every day to use it.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Being the older of eight kids,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got to use it the last,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that was after\NI had washed the dishes,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,cleaned the house,\Nmade dinner with my mom,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and put blankets on the floor\Nfor everyone to sleep,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and after that,\NI would run to the computer,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,connect it to the Internet,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have pure joy and wonder\Nfor 15 to 10 minutes.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In those days, I had discovered\Na website called Joogle.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[Google] (Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In my frantic wish\Nto do something about this custom,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I made use of Google\Nand discovered Facebook,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a website where people can connect\Nto anyone around the world,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so, from my very tiny,\Ncement-roofed room in Karachi,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I connected with people in U.K.,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,U.S., Australia, and Canada,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and created a campaign
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,called "WAKE UP Campaign\Nagainst Honor Killings."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It became enormous in just a few months.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I got a lot of support\Nfrom all around the world.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Media was connecting to us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of people were reaching out\Ntrying to raise awareness with us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It became so big that it went from online\Nto the streets of my hometown,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we would do rallies and strikes\Ntrying to change the policies in Pakistan
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for women's support.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while I thought\Neverything was perfect,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my team, who was basically\Nmy friends and neighbors at that time,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,thought everything was going so well,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we had no idea\Na big opposition was coming to us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My community stood up against us,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying we were spreading\Nun-Islamic behavior.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were challenging centuries-old\Ncustoms in those communities.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember my father receiving\Nanonymous letters
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,saying, "Your daughter is spreading
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Western culture\Nin the honorable societies."
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our car was stoned at one point.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One day I went to the office\Nand found our metal signboard
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wrinkled and broken as if a lot of people\Nhad been hitting it with something heavy.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Things got so bad that I had\Nto hide myself in many ways.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would put up the windows of the car,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,veil my face, not speak\Nwhile I was in public,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but eventually, situations got worse
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when my life was threatened
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had to leave back to Karachi
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and our actions stopped.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Back in Karachi, as an 18-year old,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I thought this was the biggest\Nfailure of my entire life.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was devastated.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As a teenager, I was blaming\Nmyself for everything that happened.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it turns out,\Nwhen we started reflecting,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we did realize that it was actually\Nme and my team's fault.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There were two big reasons\Nwhy our campaign had failed big time.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of those, the first reason,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is we were standing\Nagainst core values of people.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were saying no to something\Nthat was very important to them,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,challenging their code of honor,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and hurting them deeply in the process.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And number two, which was very\Nimportant for me to learn,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and amazing, and surprising\Nfor me to learn,
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,was that we were not including\Nthe true heroes
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who should be fighting for themselves.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The women in the villages had no idea\Nwe were fighting for them in the streets.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every time I would go back,\NI would find my cousins and friends
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with scarves on their faces,\Nand I would ask, what happened?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they'd be like, our husband beat us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then we are working\Nin the streets for you.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are changing the policies.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How is that not impacting their life?
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So then we found out something\Nwhich was very amazing for us.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The policies of a country
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,do not necessarily always affect\Nthe tribal and rural communities.
Dialogue: 0,9:59:59.99,9:59:59.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was devastain