[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.28,0:00:03.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stop crying Dialogue: 0,0:00:03.91,0:00:04.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stop with the tears Dialogue: 0,0:00:04.85,0:00:05.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't cry Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.49,0:00:06.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Pick yourself up Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.23,0:00:07.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Stop with the emotions Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.14,0:00:07.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't be a pussy Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.91,0:00:08.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't let nobody disrespect you Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.86,0:00:09.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be cool Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.66,0:00:10.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And be kind of a dick Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.70,0:00:11.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Always keep your mouth shut Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.27,0:00:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nobody likes a tattle-tale Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.40,0:00:13.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Bros come before hos Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.74,0:00:15.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Don't let your woman run your life. Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.15,0:00:15.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're a bitch. Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.76,0:00:16.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What a fag. Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.64,0:00:17.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Get laid. Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.23,0:00:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Do something. Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.91,0:00:18.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be a man. Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.38,0:00:18.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be a man! Dialogue: 0,0:00:18.87,0:00:20.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grow some balls! Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.26,0:00:27.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The 3 most destructive words Dialogue: 0,0:00:28.34,0:00:31.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that every man receives when he is a boy, Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.62,0:00:32.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is when he's told to be a man. Dialogue: 0,0:00:33.61,0:00:35.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've constructed an idea of masculinity \N Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.45,0:00:36.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in the United States Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.62,0:00:38.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that doesn't give young boys Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.65,0:00:40.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a way to feel secure in their masculinity. Dialogue: 0,0:00:41.24,0:00:42.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, we make 'em go prove it all the time. Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.49,0:00:44.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Within their peer group culture Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.99,0:00:46.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,each of them is posturing Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.42,0:00:48.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,based on how the other boys are posturing, Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.43,0:00:49.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and what they end up missing Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.57,0:00:51.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is what they each really want, Dialogue: 0,0:00:51.68,0:00:52.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is just that closeness. Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.86,0:00:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In good times guys are, Dialogue: 0,0:00:55.42,0:00:56.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like, really close to each other, Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.14,0:00:58.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when things get a little bit worse\N Dialogue: 0,0:00:58.63,0:00:59.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're on your own. Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.12,0:01:00.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,From middle school Dialogue: 0,0:01:00.92,0:01:02.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had four really close friends. Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.87,0:01:03.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Once I went kind of went into high school, Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.23,0:01:05.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I struggled finding people I can talk to Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.23,0:01:08.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because I feel like I'm not supposed to get help. Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.16,0:01:10.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Our kids get up every morning. Dialogue: 0,0:01:10.48,0:01:11.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have to prepare their mask Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.30,0:01:13.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for how they're going to walk to school. Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.15,0:01:15.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A lot of our students don't know how Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.14,0:01:16.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to take the mask off. Dialogue: 0,0:01:16.30,0:01:17.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What is it you don't let people see? Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.21,0:01:21.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Almost 90% of you have pain and anger \N Dialogue: 0,0:01:21.59,0:01:23.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,on the back of that paper. Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.88,0:01:24.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you never cry Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.78,0:01:25.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you have all these feelings Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.11,0:01:27.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,stuffed up inside of you, Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.63,0:01:28.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then you can't get them out. Dialogue: 0,0:01:29.33,0:01:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They really buy into th-a culture Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.90,0:01:32.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that doesn't value what we feminized. Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.10,0:01:34.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we're in a culture that doesn't value caring, Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.30,0:01:36.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't value relationships, Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.84,0:01:37.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,doesn't value empathy, Dialogue: 0,0:01:38.24,0:01:40.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you are going to have boys and girls, Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.86,0:01:41.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,men and women go crazy. Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.28,0:01:44.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had anger issues in high school. Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.20,0:01:45.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like an outcast. Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.54,0:01:48.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've been suspended at least once\N Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.50,0:01:49.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,every year I was here. Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.85,0:01:50.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We would just look for trouble Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.21,0:01:52.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and just like, try to fight. Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.11,0:01:54.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Boys are more likely to act out, Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.92,0:01:56.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're more likely to become aggressive. Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.78,0:01:58.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Most people miss that as depression, Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.31,0:02:00.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or see it as a conduct disorder, Dialogue: 0,0:02:01.48,0:02:02.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or just a bad kid. Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.00,0:02:08.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt like just giving up on life, you know, Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.45,0:02:09.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,see I had suicide thoughts Dialogue: 0,0:02:10.26,0:02:11.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in my head in sixth grade. Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.13,0:02:14.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I felt alone fer-for a long time,\N Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.51,0:02:17.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I actually thought about killing myself. Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.14,0:02:21.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Whether it's homicidal violence, Dialogue: 0,0:02:21.53,0:02:22.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or suicidal violence, Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.80,0:02:25.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,people resort to such desperate behavior, Dialogue: 0,0:02:25.43,0:02:27.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,only when they are feeling shamed and humiliated, Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.91,0:02:29.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or feel they would be Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.30,0:02:31.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if they didn't prove that they were real men. Dialogue: 0,0:02:32.74,0:02:34.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're told from day one Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.28,0:02:35.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'don't let nobody disrespect you', Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.21,0:02:38.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and 'this is the way you handle it as a man', Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.84,0:02:40.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,respect is linked to violence. Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.32,0:02:44.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I can man up, why step down from that, Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.81,0:02:45.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you feel me? Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.66,0:02:46.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like instinct. Dialogue: 0,0:02:50.74,0:02:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So man up! Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.46,0:02:51.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Man up. Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.90,0:02:52.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Man up. Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.36,0:02:52.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Man up. Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.66,0:02:53.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Grow some fucking balls! Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.99,0:02:55.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Act like a man. Be a man. Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.53,0:02:56.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Be a man! Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.96,0:02:57.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For my kids, Dialogue: 0,0:02:57.87,0:02:58.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was gonna end this Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.89,0:03:01.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hyper masculine narrative here.