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Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.15,0:00:16.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(bell)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.24,0:00:29.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, Dear Sangha
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.40,0:00:38.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[SPANISH]\NAt times I control\Na lot of anger coming up.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.70,0:00:43.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I keep it inside, but then\Nit suddenly explodes.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.48,0:00:45.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I let it all out at once,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:45.17,0:00:49.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without knowing why and\Nwithout being able to control it.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:49.56,0:00:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When my anger explodes\NI hurt the other person a lot.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.64,0:01:03.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then I do not have compassion\Nfor the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.70,0:01:13.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,After I have calmed down\Nand I have let all my anger out,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.47,0:01:17.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then I have compassion\Nand I am aware that I made him suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.10,0:01:19.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in the moment itself,\NI cannot do anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:20.48,0:01:22.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How can I do this?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.78,0:01:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Dear Thay, our friend is saying that...
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.60,0:01:30.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is another question about anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.10,0:01:33.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She feels a lot of anger come up sometimes.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.08,0:01:36.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she doesn't want to let it come out.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:36.76,0:01:41.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So she tries to keep it under control,\Nshe's pushing it down.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.18,0:01:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But then, at some point\Nit explodes, it comes out.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.50,0:01:48.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she can hurt the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:48.49,0:01:50.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She feels sorry to hurt the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.88,0:01:54.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She feels compassion for\Nthe suffering she caused him.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.96,0:02:00.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she wants to know how she can\Ntake better care of the situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.67,0:02:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Is she capable of seeing the\Nsuffering of the other person?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.59,0:02:15.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[FRENCH]\NCan she see the suffering\Nin the other person?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.68,0:02:20.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when?\NBefore or after the explosion?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.82,0:02:42.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I do see their suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.68,0:02:46.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I still have the strong emotion\Ncome up.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.82,0:02:48.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What can I do?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.04,0:02:57.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To control is not enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.24,0:03:02.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,To control may be to suppress.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.56,0:03:05.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Suppressing is not good,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.26,0:03:10.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it is always there,\Nyou pin it down
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.20,0:03:12.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it is still there.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.68,0:03:16.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So suppressing is not good.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.92,0:03:20.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have to transform.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.21,0:03:28.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And to transform you need compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.32,0:03:35.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The only antidote for anger, violence\Nis compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.42,0:03:39.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There is no other way.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.37,0:03:44.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But how to fabricate compassion?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.49,0:03:46.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How to generate the energy of compassion?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.60,0:03:49.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the real question.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:49.26,0:03:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And in this retreat we have learnt
Dialogue: 0,0:03:54.38,0:03:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to recognize the suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:59.05,0:04:01.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because the suffering in that person is
Dialogue: 0,0:04:01.87,0:04:07.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the cause of his action\Nor of words that can make you suffer.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.56,0:04:14.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The anger in him waters\Nthe anger in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.84,0:04:22.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The violence in him waters\Nthe violence in you.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.54,0:04:32.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is why...we have\Nto breathe in and out mindfully
Dialogue: 0,0:04:32.12,0:04:40.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to look, to see\Nthat the other person is a victim
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.32,0:04:46.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of his own violence, his own suffering,\Nhis own misunderstanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.29,0:04:48.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is very important.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.77,0:04:52.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the teaching of the Buddha:
Dialogue: 0,0:04:52.68,0:04:54.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,look at suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.73,0:04:58.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and understand suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:58.12,0:05:01.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you understand your own suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.20,0:05:06.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can understand the suffering of \Nthe other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.16,0:05:09.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Understanding suffering always brings \Ncompassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.44,0:05:17.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And only compassion can\Ntransform anger and violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.01,0:05:23.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are those of us who think we can
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.35,0:05:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take the block of anger out of us
Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.24,0:05:34.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like doing surgery.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.93,0:05:40.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you cannot do that with anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.26,0:05:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You cannot take anger out of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:45.39,0:05:48.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can only transform it.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.16,0:05:52.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anger can be transformed\Ninto something else.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:52.24,0:05:55.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anger can be transformed into \Nunderstanding and compassion
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.53,0:06:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is the work of the practitioner:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.00,0:06:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,looking into the suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.12,0:06:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your own suffering\Nand the suffering of the other.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.44,0:06:11.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And try to understand the cause.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.89,0:06:16.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is the way to generate
Dialogue: 0,0:06:16.50,0:06:19.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the energy of compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.40,0:06:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when compassion is there
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.84,0:06:23.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it transforms anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.96,0:06:28.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't need to take it out.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.32,0:06:33.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are those who try to take it out
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.84,0:06:36.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are those who advise you to...
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.45,0:06:42.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,take it out by the practice of\Nso-called 'ventilation'.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:42.46,0:06:46.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's as if there is smoke in your room
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.12,0:06:50.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you want to ventilate the \Nsmoke to take it out.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.48,0:06:57.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the way is to go to your room \Nand lock your door
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.24,0:07:04.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to try to punch, to hit your pillow.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.93,0:07:10.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for 10 minutes, 15 minutes.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.81,0:07:13.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they believe by doing so
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.20,0:07:20.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you may...take anger out of you
Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.11,0:07:23.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'I am aware that anger is there.'
Dialogue: 0,0:07:23.57,0:07:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'I want to take it out.'
Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.46,0:07:30.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because they think it is safer \Nto hit the pillow
Dialogue: 0,0:07:30.44,0:07:33.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then to hit the other person directly.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:33.88,0:07:37.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they call it\N'take it out of your system'.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:39.57,0:07:41.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it does not work.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:43.05,0:07:45.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It does not work.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.44,0:07:48.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It may make your anger stronger.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.33,0:07:54.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is like rehearsing your anger
Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.61,0:08:02.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they call it 'getting in touch with \Nyour anger'.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.63,0:08:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's good to get in touch with your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.08,0:08:12.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The Buddha also advises us to breathe in
Dialogue: 0,0:08:12.20,0:08:16.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to go home and\Nget in touch with our anger
Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.76,0:08:18.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and embrace it tenderly
Dialogue: 0,0:08:18.93,0:08:23.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and look deeply into your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.96,0:08:31.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But in this practice of... \Npounding... the pillow
Dialogue: 0,0:08:32.43,0:08:37.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't really get\Nin touch with your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:39.12,0:08:41.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are a victim of your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.80,0:08:44.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are not getting in touch.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.76,0:08:47.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You are not even in touch with the pillow...
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.24,0:08:50.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(crowd laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.45,0:08:52.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even though you are hitting it.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.72,0:08:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because if you are really in touch\Nwith your pillow,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.91,0:08:59.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will know that\Nit is only a pillow.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:59.18,0:09:01.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(crowd laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.92,0:09:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's funny to hit a pillow.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:04.12,0:09:05.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The pillow is innocent.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.75,0:09:06.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(crowd laughs)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.96,0:09:08.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you cannot get in touch \Nwith the pillow
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.82,0:09:13.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot get in touch with your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.20,0:09:15.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you continue like that
Dialogue: 0,0:09:15.77,0:09:20.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,maybe one day, meeting him on \Nthe street, you may like to...
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.34,0:09:23.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hit directly and you get in jail.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.24,0:09:29.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this work does not seem\Nto help you to get it out.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:31.83,0:09:34.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So according to this practice
Dialogue: 0,0:09:35.68,0:09:40.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which the Buddha recommends,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:40.13,0:09:44.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to come home and recognize anger
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.04,0:09:47.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and try to hold it with the energy \Nof mindfulness.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.02,0:09:48.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is called mindfulness of anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.78,0:09:53.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mindfulness is always mindfulness of \Nsomething.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:53.05,0:09:59.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I drink my tea and become aware
Dialogue: 0,0:09:59.16,0:10:04.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I am here and now,\Ndrinking my tea
Dialogue: 0,0:10:04.80,0:10:06.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is mindfulness of drinking.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.26,0:10:10.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when I breathe mindfully,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.22,0:10:12.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is mindfulness of breathing.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.77,0:10:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I walk mindfully, that is \N
Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.61,0:10:16.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mindfulness of walking.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.77,0:10:18.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when I come home to myself
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.49,0:10:21.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and recognize my anger,\Nand hold my anger
Dialogue: 0,0:10:21.74,0:10:25.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anger becomes the object \Nof my mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.08,0:10:27.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's called mindfulness of anger
Dialogue: 0,0:10:27.84,0:10:30.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are two energies:
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.30,0:10:33.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,first there is the energy of anger,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:33.20,0:10:37.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then. the second energy is the \Nenergy of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.22,0:10:39.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In order to have this energy
Dialogue: 0,0:10:39.80,0:10:43.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to practice breathing \Nand walking mindfully.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.41,0:10:49.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And with the second energy, you recognize\Nthe first energy and embrace it tenderly,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.00,0:10:52.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not suppressing...
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.92,0:11:01.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,...but embracing tenderly
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.25,0:11:04.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Like a mother embracing her ... \N
Dialogue: 0,0:11:06.54,0:11:08.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,her suffering...baby.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.86,0:11:14.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when the energy of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:11:14.44,0:11:16.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is embracing the energy of anger,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.31,0:11:18.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:19.93,0:11:25.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like the sunshine\Nembracing the lotus flower.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.38,0:11:28.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The lotus flower gets the warmth, \N
Dialogue: 0,0:11:28.08,0:11:32.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the energy, in order to bloom.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.40,0:11:34.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you use the energy of mindfulness
Dialogue: 0,0:11:34.95,0:11:38.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to embrace your anger
Dialogue: 0,0:11:38.08,0:11:40.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suffer less,\Nyou get a relief.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:40.32,0:11:42.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.64,0:11:44.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you look more deeply
Dialogue: 0,0:11:44.81,0:11:49.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you can identify the cause of your anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:49.56,0:11:51.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That may be a wrong perception.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:51.36,0:11:53.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That may be your lack of capacity to
Dialogue: 0,0:11:53.92,0:11:57.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,see the suffering of the other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.62,0:12:01.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you identify your wrong perception
Dialogue: 0,0:12:01.36,0:12:04.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and if you can see the suffering \Nof the other person
Dialogue: 0,0:12:04.28,0:12:07.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,suddenly that kind of understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.97,0:12:12.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that vision makes compassion arise.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:12.09,0:12:13.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when compassion arises,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.86,0:12:16.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that is a kind of nectar
Dialogue: 0,0:12:16.16,0:12:18.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that makes you suffer less right away.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.15,0:12:19.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You get a relief.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:19.53,0:12:21.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can transform it.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:26.10,0:12:35.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this...practice always works.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.40,0:12:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know that in Plum Village, in the past
Dialogue: 0,0:12:39.10,0:12:45.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we used to sponsor groups of Palestinans\Nand Israelis
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.20,0:12:47.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to come and practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:47.84,0:12:51.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there is a lot of misunderstanding,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:51.68,0:12:54.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,anger and suspicion in each group.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.44,0:13:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if they can stay for two weeks,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:01.02,0:13:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,transformation and healing can be possible
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.58,0:13:11.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We practice calming, releasing tension.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:11.20,0:13:13.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We practice getting in touch with
Dialogue: 0,0:13:13.76,0:13:17.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the wonders of life in order to nourish us.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:17.40,0:13:20.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we also practicing breathing
Dialogue: 0,0:13:20.40,0:13:24.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to recognize our suspicion,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.04,0:13:28.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our fear, our anger.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.54,0:13:32.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then we sit down and try
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.14,0:13:34.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to listen to each other
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.97,0:13:39.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and to tell the other group about
Dialogue: 0,0:13:39.20,0:13:40.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our own suffering,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:40.52,0:13:42.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our own fear
Dialogue: 0,0:13:43.52,0:13:48.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We use the practice of the 4th \Nmindfulness training:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.92,0:13:53.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Loving Speech and Deep Listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:54.44,0:13:58.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can tell them everything in your heart:
Dialogue: 0,0:13:58.80,0:14:02.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your suffering, your fear, your anger
Dialogue: 0,0:14:03.46,0:14:07.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you tell it in such a way that\Nthe other person, the other group
Dialogue: 0,0:14:07.11,0:14:08.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can understand you;
Dialogue: 0,0:14:08.81,0:14:10.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Help them to understand.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:12.04,0:14:16.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So during the time you speak,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.07,0:14:20.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you do not condemn, you do not blame.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:21.31,0:14:23.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just try to help them to understand
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.72,0:14:26.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,how much you suffer,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:26.16,0:14:30.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you and your people and your children.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:30.05,0:14:33.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In that way you help them to\Nunderstand your suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.28,0:14:41.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then it will be your turn to sit
Dialogue: 0,0:14:41.24,0:14:43.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and listen to their suffering.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.91,0:14:46.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They will tell you
Dialogue: 0,0:14:46.37,0:14:49.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their suffering, their fear, their despair.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:49.84,0:14:53.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you have to listen.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:53.73,0:14:56.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And during the time they speak
Dialogue: 0,0:14:56.88,0:14:59.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you may notice they have
Dialogue: 0,0:14:59.48,0:15:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,wrong perceptions of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:05.46,0:15:08.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you want to correct them.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.56,0:15:10.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But according to this practice
Dialogue: 0,0:15:10.14,0:15:12.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you shouldn't correct them.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:12.68,0:15:14.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because if you correct them
Dialogue: 0,0:15:14.29,0:15:15.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,while they speak
Dialogue: 0,0:15:15.61,0:15:16.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you will transform the session
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.82,0:15:19.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,into a debate.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:20.54,0:15:23.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's not the practice of deep listening.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:23.72,0:15:27.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You say: "Oh, they say wrong things because
Dialogue: 0,0:15:27.08,0:15:30.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they have not seen the truth."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.36,0:15:33.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But I have the time to help them
Dialogue: 0,0:15:33.28,0:15:38.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to correct their perceptions in a few days,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:38.04,0:15:42.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because they will be there for another week."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:42.04,0:15:44.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"So in a few days we will have a chance
Dialogue: 0,0:15:44.05,0:15:46.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to tell them, to give them the kind
Dialogue: 0,0:15:46.96,0:15:48.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of information that can help them
Dialogue: 0,0:15:48.89,0:15:50.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to correct their perceptions."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.44,0:15:51.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"But not now."
Dialogue: 0,0:15:51.84,0:15:58.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Now we have to listen,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:58.96,0:16:00.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,listen attentively."
Dialogue: 0,0:16:00.96,0:16:03.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listening like this is called
Dialogue: 0,0:16:03.25,0:16:05.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'compassionate listening'.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:06.75,0:16:08.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you know how to listen with
Dialogue: 0,0:16:08.49,0:16:10.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,compassion for one hour,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.70,0:16:13.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they will suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:13.28,0:16:15.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So we are practicing compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.16,0:16:18.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are giving them a chance to suffer less
Dialogue: 0,0:16:22.12,0:16:23.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And that is the practice of the
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.35,0:16:25.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,fourth mindfulness training.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.36,0:16:27.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Listening with compassion in order
Dialogue: 0,0:16:27.30,0:16:30.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to help other people to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:30.61,0:16:33.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You may do it with your husband, your wife
Dialogue: 0,0:16:33.80,0:16:35.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with your son, with your daughter,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.84,0:16:39.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,with your father or mother.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:39.06,0:16:43.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And listen so that they have a chance
Dialogue: 0,0:16:43.23,0:16:46.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to empty their heart.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.52,0:16:50.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is compassion.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:50.01,0:16:52.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And after a week of practice
Dialogue: 0,0:16:52.84,0:17:00.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we are able to remove many \Nwrong perceptions.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:00.03,0:17:02.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We increase our mutual understanding.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:02.89,0:17:06.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the two groups can sit down,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:06.56,0:17:11.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,can hold hands to do walking meditation,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.72,0:17:14.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and share a meal together.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:15.92,0:17:20.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Brotherhood, sisterhood is born.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:20.85,0:17:24.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So this is a very important practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:29.53,0:17:32.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we believe that politicians
Dialogue: 0,0:17:32.51,0:17:35.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have to learn this practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:35.84,0:17:39.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When they come to a peace negotiation,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:39.28,0:17:41.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they should follow the instructions
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.36,0:17:43.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of calming,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.12,0:17:45.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,releasing,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:46.80,0:17:49.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recognizing suffering inside,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:49.25,0:17:52.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,recognizing the suffering in\Nthe other person.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:52.70,0:17:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if they spent 1 week or 2 weeks
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.36,0:17:57.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,practicing like that,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:57.40,0:18:00.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,their negotiations for peace\Nwill be fruitful.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:03.73,0:18:08.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I think that in schools\Nof political science
Dialogue: 0,0:18:08.64,0:18:11.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,students have to learn this kind \Nof practice.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.93,0:18:14.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They don't need to be a Buddhist
Dialogue: 0,0:18:14.12,0:18:16.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in order to learn.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:16.20,0:18:18.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is applied ethics that can be
Dialogue: 0,0:18:18.38,0:18:21.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,taught in every kind of school,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:21.53,0:18:24.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,including elementary school.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:24.91,0:18:28.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Because children can learn the practice
Dialogue: 0,0:18:28.20,0:18:31.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reconcile with their brothers \Nand sisters
Dialogue: 0,0:18:31.13,0:18:33.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reconcile with their parents
Dialogue: 0,0:18:33.08,0:18:36.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even help their parents.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:36.31,0:18:37.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They are many retreats organized \N
Dialogue: 0,0:18:37.77,0:18:40.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,for young people, children.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:40.06,0:18:42.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the children are transformed
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.19,0:18:44.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they are able to see the suffering
Dialogue: 0,0:18:44.93,0:18:47.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in their father, in their mother.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:47.56,0:18:49.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they come home after the retreat,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:49.85,0:18:51.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,listen to their father and their mother
Dialogue: 0,0:18:51.84,0:18:54.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and help them to suffer less.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:54.71,0:18:56.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a miracle
Dialogue: 0,0:18:56.03,0:19:00.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It always happens in our retreats
Dialogue: 0,0:19:08.03,0:19:22.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(bell)