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Dear Thay,[br]dear Sangha,

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What should one do when a teacher makes[br]fun of you in front of the whole class

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and your class laughs about you?

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Very difficult.

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(Crowd laughs)

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I think the best way is to laugh along,[br]to laugh with the whole class,

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(Crowd laughs)

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to join the class in laughing.

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That's the most beautiful thing to do[br]in those circumstances,

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because sometimes something is not funny[br]but people believe it to be funny.

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There is a wrong perception.

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You know...

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Maybe you will grow up[br]and become a teacher.

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So we should prepare ourselves[br]not to do like that.

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(Laughter)

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Teachers need time to grow[br]into a good teacher.

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It's not because you have graduated[br]from teacher's college,

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that you can be a good teacher[br]right away.

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So teachers can make mistakes.

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Thay also made mistakes[br]as a young teacher.

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And he still makes mistakes.

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But he learns everyday being a teacher.

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And he has learned so much[br]from his own students.

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Not only teachers, but nobody[br]should make fun of anyone,

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because they will cause suffering.

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Sometimes it is not the intention[br]to make you suffer

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but it's because that person lacks[br]some skillfulness,

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he may talk about the same thing, but[br]will not hurt you with skillful speech

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Even when he wants to teach you, he can[br]teach in a way that does not hurt you.

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That is something we have to learn,[br]teacher or not.

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We say the same thing,[br]but the way we say it will not hurt people.

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Thay has learned about that,[br]he has many students.

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Sometimes he wants to help[br]his students to transform.

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And he has learned to be very careful.

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Sometimes he can[br]tell the disciple directly.

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Sometimes he has to help a big brother[br]or a young sister to tell him,

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instead of telling him directly.

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Sometimes he can say it right away,

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sometimes he has to[br]wait for a few weeks and tell it later.

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You have to choose the time[br]and the place to tell.

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You may tell him in front of a group[br]or privately, you have to select.

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And you learn that through the process[br]of being a teacher.

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So your teacher may not be[br]very skillful now,

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but maybe he does not have[br]the intention to hurt.

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So you should help your teacher.

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After the event you may like to[br]come to your teacher and say:

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"My dear teacher, I hope next time[br]you will not do like that,

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because I suffer when you make fun of me[br]in the class. I get hurt.

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So I hope next time you will not do it[br]to me or to another student of yours."

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And you help your teacher.[br]You do not reproach him. You help him.

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So you use compassion and love[br]in order to respond to something not kind

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that the other person has done to you.

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You are a good practitioner.

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And everyone can make that kind of[br]mistake, also Thay in the past.

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So you yourself and all of us[br]have to learn.

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That is the fourth mindfulness training:

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learning to speak in such a way that[br]you can tell the truth

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and help the other person,[br]and not hurt him or her.

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This is a wonderful practice,[br]the fourth mindfulness training.

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(Bell)