[Script Info] Title: [Events] Format: Layer, Start, End, Style, Name, MarginL, MarginR, MarginV, Effect, Text Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.79,0:00:08.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I grew up with two working parents, Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.46,0:00:10.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their schedules didn’t often align– Dialogue: 0,0:00:10.74,0:00:14.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so my brother and I would spend \Nafternoons and long summer days Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.61,0:00:16.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at my grandparents’ house. Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.85,0:00:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This was a place where you were sure to \Nput things back where they belonged Dialogue: 0,0:00:20.87,0:00:23.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and didn't leave objects out on the floor. Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.62,0:00:26.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It wasn't because my grandparents \Nwere strict. Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.60,0:00:29.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My grandmother, Josie, was blind. Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.88,0:00:31.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we messed with that order, Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.92,0:00:34.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and didn't put things back\Nwhere they belonged, Dialogue: 0,0:00:34.52,0:00:38.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it could cause confusion, frustration, Dialogue: 0,0:00:38.14,0:00:40.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or even physical harm. Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.36,0:00:44.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I remember as a kid trying to understand\Nwhat it would be like to navigate spaces Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.92,0:00:47.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without my sense of sight. Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.22,0:00:50.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would close my eyes real tight, Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.14,0:00:53.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I would try to remember the way my\Ngrandparents’ living room looked– Dialogue: 0,0:00:53.66,0:00:57.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I walked with my small hands \Noutstretched in front of me– Dialogue: 0,0:00:57.54,0:01:04.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until I ran into a chair, and then a \Nlamp, and then the wall. Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.16,0:01:08.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was in that moment that \NI was in awe of her. Dialogue: 0,0:01:08.62,0:01:11.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the occasion that my brother and I \Nwould be spending the entire day Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.95,0:01:13.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at my grandparents' house, Dialogue: 0,0:01:13.31,0:01:15.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we would bring along our VHS tapes, Dialogue: 0,0:01:15.59,0:01:19.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know pre-DVD or streaming service? Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.12,0:01:23.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And many, if not all of those tapes were \NDisney movies– Dialogue: 0,0:01:23.24,0:01:27.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we were American children \Nof the late 80s early 90s. Dialogue: 0,0:01:27.10,0:01:31.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We would sit on that bright red \Ncarpet staring up at their large TV Dialogue: 0,0:01:31.21,0:01:33.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,housed in an even larger \Nentertainment center. Dialogue: 0,0:01:33.96,0:01:35.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In between preparing meals, Dialogue: 0,0:01:35.78,0:01:39.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my grandmother would come in and she'd sit\Ndown in her recliner, Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.22,0:01:42.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she'd say, “Tell me about \Nyour stories,” Dialogue: 0,0:01:42.59,0:01:46.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,referencing the action taking place \Non the screen. Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.40,0:01:49.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Aladdin was one of our favorites\Nto enjoy together. Dialogue: 0,0:01:49.61,0:01:51.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I would describe the desert backgrounds, Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.68,0:01:55.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the clothing on the characters, \Nthe expressions on their faces. Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.19,0:01:59.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I can recall her smile as I described a \N“whole new world” Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.24,0:02:02.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that magic carpet ride \Nthrough the clouds. Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.20,0:02:06.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I wanted her to feel included, \Nto be a part of what we were watching. Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.45,0:02:12.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And those thoughts were a \Nresponse to my feelings of empathy. Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.74,0:02:15.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had this unique childhood where I was \Nlearning about empathy Dialogue: 0,0:02:15.73,0:02:17.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through my relationship with my\Ngrandmother… Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.78,0:02:20.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,through our watching of Disney movies. Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.24,0:02:23.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I know not everyone has an\Nexperience like that. Dialogue: 0,0:02:23.94,0:02:27.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I believe that it is important \Nand crucial Dialogue: 0,0:02:27.28,0:02:29.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we provide our children with \Nopportunities Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.91,0:02:34.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to have relationships that foster \Nempathetic connections. Dialogue: 0,0:02:34.40,0:02:38.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now as a quick aside, I know the word\Nempathy comes with its own baggage. Dialogue: 0,0:02:38.76,0:02:41.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe in your circles it's a word that's\Nthrown around so much Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.91,0:02:43.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you're sick of hearing about it, Dialogue: 0,0:02:43.67,0:02:46.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or it's lost its meaning altogether. Dialogue: 0,0:02:46.31,0:02:49.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or, maybe you've heard it said that\Nempathy is a “soft skill” Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.91,0:02:52.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that needs to be shared with our students. Dialogue: 0,0:02:52.81,0:02:56.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I attest that there is nothing “soft” \Nor mooshy about it. Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.08,0:02:59.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Instead, it is a critical \Nskill to be honed Dialogue: 0,0:02:59.59,0:03:02.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as we learn what it means to be human.\N Dialogue: 0,0:03:02.47,0:03:04.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm an elementary art educator. Dialogue: 0,0:03:04.20,0:03:07.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I teach my students about \Nartists, culture, Dialogue: 0,0:03:07.25,0:03:09.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the purposeful use of art materials. Dialogue: 0,0:03:09.45,0:03:11.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I also see it as my role \Nto engage them Dialogue: 0,0:03:11.97,0:03:15.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in conversations about \Ncharacter education, Dialogue: 0,0:03:15.00,0:03:16.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and specifically empathy. Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.67,0:03:21.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But how do we often define empathy\Nto our youngest children? Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.90,0:03:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Think about it. Dialogue: 0,0:03:23.23,0:03:25.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Often times you might use the... Dialogue: 0,0:03:25.25,0:03:27.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“Walk in someone else’s shoes.” Dialogue: 0,0:03:27.99,0:03:30.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Sure that works as a metaphor, Dialogue: 0,0:03:30.01,0:03:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but now I want you to put yourself in the\Nmind of a kindergartner. Dialogue: 0,0:03:33.21,0:03:35.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A kindergartner that might go, Dialogue: 0,0:03:35.27,0:03:38.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why am I putting on someone else’s\Nshoes!?” Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.52,0:03:40.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That is weird to them, Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.35,0:03:44.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they don’t understand the language we're\Nusing for this really important topic. Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.96,0:03:47.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And even a simplified definition such as Dialogue: 0,0:03:47.40,0:03:51.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“understanding and sharing the feelings of\Nothers” Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.01,0:03:53.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is really hard to internalize \Nas a 5-year-old. Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.99,0:04:00.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So instead, very purposeful conversations\Nabout practical, observable behaviors Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.46,0:04:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is necessary. Dialogue: 0,0:04:02.00,0:04:07.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How do I show empathy in the classroom, \Nat the park with my friends, Dialogue: 0,0:04:07.23,0:04:08.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to my grandmother, Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.70,0:04:10.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to someone that looks\Ndifferently than me, Dialogue: 0,0:04:10.88,0:04:13.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to someone that acts differently than me…? Dialogue: 0,0:04:13.65,0:04:17.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A year ago, I was sitting around with my\Ncolleagues at school, Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.06,0:04:19.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we were talking about \Ncharacter education. Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.25,0:04:22.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were developing a\Nschool-wide curriculum, Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.26,0:04:26.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we went around and around \Nabout definitions and explanations. Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.24,0:04:30.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And then one summer night, \Nit hit those of us in the room– Dialogue: 0,0:04:30.26,0:04:36.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,our eyes were opened to the fact, that the\Nroot of empathy lies in awareness. Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.72,0:04:41.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Awareness: “a noticing of what is \Nhappening in and around you Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.48,0:04:43.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so that you can make a choice.” Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.53,0:04:48.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You can have a response, have \Nan empathetic response. Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.39,0:04:54.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But first, we have to have an \Nawareness of ourselves. Dialogue: 0,0:04:54.27,0:04:56.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm the grocery shopper in our family. Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.81,0:05:01.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I take my list and enjoy the thrill of the\Nhunt as I try to stay below budget, Dialogue: 0,0:05:01.26,0:05:03.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which I mostly do. Dialogue: 0,0:05:03.12,0:05:06.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one week I was notified\Nthat we needed new napkins. Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.48,0:05:09.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I came upon these \Nillustrated beauties. Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.75,0:05:11.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're conversation napkins. Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.34,0:05:14.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And we got a real kick out of them\Nas we went around the table. Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.29,0:05:17.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every night, we would go around\Nat dinner time and answer them, Dialogue: 0,0:05:17.47,0:05:19.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and have fun, and laugh together. Dialogue: 0,0:05:19.84,0:05:24.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it really got me thinking about a very\Npurposeful teaching opportunity Dialogue: 0,0:05:24.02,0:05:26.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had with my own family. Dialogue: 0,0:05:26.74,0:05:30.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I thought, we often times \Ntalk about our feelings Dialogue: 0,0:05:30.79,0:05:32.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I'm happy," "I'm sad," Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.62,0:05:37.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but do we spend time together \Ntalking about why we feel that way? Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.26,0:05:40.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I've gotten into the practice of \Nasking my 5-year-old daughter Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.55,0:05:43.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about her day at school in this way: Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.89,0:05:47.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I say, “Tell me about a part of your\Nday when you were proud. Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.70,0:05:51.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell me about a part of your day \Nwhen you were frustrated. Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.43,0:05:55.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Tell me about a part of your day \Nwhen you were really excited.” Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.28,0:05:58.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Different nights I may ask about a \Ndifferent emotion, a different feeling. Dialogue: 0,0:05:58.80,0:06:00.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My favorite, "Tell me about \Na part of your day Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.99,0:06:04.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you laughed so hard \Nyou fell on the floor." Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.29,0:06:06.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'm also sure as the adult, \Nto tell her Dialogue: 0,0:06:06.87,0:06:11.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I too, in that day, had moments \Nwhere I was scared, Dialogue: 0,0:06:11.87,0:06:14.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and moments that I was proud, Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.11,0:06:19.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and definitely moments where I laughed\Nso hard that I fell on the floor. Dialogue: 0,0:06:19.08,0:06:23.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you see, she's quick. \NShe's real quick. Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.86,0:06:29.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And one day, I said, “Tell me about a \Npart of your day when you were sad." Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.00,0:06:31.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And she said, "Well I wasn't sad, Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.69,0:06:37.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but my friend Ellie was sad when she \Ndidn’t get to play with the magnatiles.” Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.34,0:06:41.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See, the observed behaviors and \Nfeelings of others Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.66,0:06:46.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,have become a part of who she is as\Na person, and as a friend. Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.96,0:06:51.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it all leads us to having \Nan awareness of others. Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.78,0:06:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I was teaching a unit on architecture Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.28,0:06:57.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when Hurricane Harvey hit Houston. Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.27,0:06:58.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it was to my fourth graders, Dialogue: 0,0:06:58.90,0:07:02.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I had several fourth grade \Nstudents come to class asking questions Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.23,0:07:04.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about how this natural disaster Dialogue: 0,0:07:04.02,0:07:06.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would affect the buildings in the city. Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.95,0:07:11.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they were asking these questions,\Nthey led us to other conversations Dialogue: 0,0:07:11.44,0:07:13.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and soon we were talking \Nabout how the elements Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.70,0:07:16.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would affect the lives \Nof the people there. Dialogue: 0,0:07:16.46,0:07:21.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Soon the whole class was in conversation,\Nand I sat back and listened, Dialogue: 0,0:07:21.46,0:07:25.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as I watched them turn the story into \Nabout the art room Dialogue: 0,0:07:25.76,0:07:27.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of the students in Houston, Dialogue: 0,0:07:27.12,0:07:31.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and watching them almost see themselves\Nin that place, Dialogue: 0,0:07:31.67,0:07:36.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to then begin having conversations about\Nwhat would happen to the art supplies, Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.01,0:07:40.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the furniture, and all of the art work\Nthat they had spent their time on. Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.95,0:07:44.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As I listened, I wanted\Nto provide them with another opportunity, Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.87,0:07:49.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a way to artistically process the thoughts\Nand the feelings that they had. Dialogue: 0,0:07:49.58,0:07:52.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, what I did is I introduced them to\Ntwo artists Dialogue: 0,0:07:52.66,0:07:58.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that cover items, and rooms, \Nand actual houses with polka dots. Dialogue: 0,0:07:58.89,0:08:03.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What these artists are doing is talking\Nabout our unity, about trauma, Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.16,0:08:04.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,about community. Dialogue: 0,0:08:04.74,0:08:09.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as a result, we created this\N5 foot tall house structure. Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.91,0:08:13.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now there's a lot more here than just \Nplayful polka dots– Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.27,0:08:16.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,each of those dots represents \Nan art supply Dialogue: 0,0:08:16.90,0:08:20.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that a fourth grade student donated\Nto a school in Houston. Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.90,0:08:28.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See it wasn't health supplies, or food, \Nbut it was art supplies. Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.25,0:08:31.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It had become very real to them. Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.19,0:08:35.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The idea that our room, our art room is a\Nsafe place Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.70,0:08:40.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where they learn about themselves, \Nabout community, about the world, Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.54,0:08:42.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all while having fun. Dialogue: 0,0:08:42.06,0:08:44.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the idea that there'd be \Nchildren in Houston Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.83,0:08:47.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that maybe miss out\Non those opportunities Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.77,0:08:50.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really resonated with them. Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.38,0:08:53.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It became real to them. Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.34,0:08:57.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,See these thoughts, these \Nfeelings of empathy, Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.09,0:09:00.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,led to practical practice... Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.96,0:09:05.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Their awareness led to practical practice. Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.52,0:09:10.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I no longer sit on the floor in front my\Ngrandmother watching Disney movies. Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.03,0:09:12.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those days are long gone. Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.37,0:09:18.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But now, I sit on the floor next to my\N5-year-old daughter, also named Josie. Dialogue: 0,0:09:18.40,0:09:22.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We watch as Aladdin and Jasmine take \Nflight on the magic carpet. Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.92,0:09:26.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And there's this moment where the\Ncarpet takes a deep dive Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.07,0:09:34.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Princess Jasmine braces herself in \Nfear by covering her eyes with her hands. Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.48,0:09:38.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,As she does so on the screen, \Nso does my 5-year-old daughter. Dialogue: 0,0:09:38.72,0:09:42.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She is experiencing empathy \Nfor this animated princess, Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.71,0:09:46.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she's experiencing fear along with her. Dialogue: 0,0:09:46.56,0:09:52.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it’s then that Aladdin responds \Nto Jasmine and he says, Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.25,0:09:57.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,“Don’t you dare close your eyes” \Nand he pulls her hands from her face, Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.71,0:10:02.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,opening her eyes to the experiences \Naround her. Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.02,0:10:07.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as he does, so do I with \Nmy 5-year-old daughter. Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.08,0:10:09.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I pull her fingers from her face. Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.42,0:10:14.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,May we open our children’s eyes to the \Nworld around them Dialogue: 0,0:10:14.45,0:10:20.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to engage them in opportunities, thoughts,\Nactions, and relationships, Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.71,0:10:23.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that get them to not only “walk in someone\Nelse’s shoes” Dialogue: 0,0:10:23.73,0:10:28.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but to live lives that consider others\Nmore than themselves. Dialogue: 0,0:10:28.30,0:10:29.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.