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Dialogue: 0,0:00:05.01,0:00:07.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In case you're thinking\Nabout a career in higher education,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:07.76,0:00:09.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you cannot be afraid of aging,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:09.19,0:00:12.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because students every year\Nare between 18 and 22,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:12.43,0:00:13.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whereas you keep getting older.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:13.91,0:00:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It is actually quite depressing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:15.54,0:00:16.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyhow -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:16.74,0:00:17.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.97,0:00:22.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anyhow, as I watched them cause harm\Nand bringing harm to one another,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:22.62,0:00:25.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it made me want to devote\Nmy professional career
Dialogue: 0,0:00:25.02,0:00:27.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to ending violence\Nand making our world a safer place.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.96,0:00:29.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I spend a lot of time
Dialogue: 0,0:00:29.43,0:00:31.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,teaching people\Nabout bystander intervention.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:31.100,0:00:35.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as I'm teaching them\Nabout bystander intervention,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:35.12,0:00:37.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,something I'm talking about\Nis what a bystander is.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:37.54,0:00:40.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,A bystander is really\Nsomeone who is in a crowd
Dialogue: 0,0:00:40.76,0:00:43.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or they witness something\Nthat's a potentially harmful event,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:43.62,0:00:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they do nothing.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.62,0:00:47.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We're all bystanders at some point\Nto something that's happening.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:47.66,0:00:50.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the reality is that\Nwhen we're seeing something,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.70,0:00:52.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are things\Nthat stop us from intervening.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.89,0:00:56.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Imagine you're driving down the street,\Nyou see someone on the side of the road,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.65,0:00:59.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you recognize they need help,\Nbut you keep going.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.20,0:01:01.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or think about overhearing an argument,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:01.11,0:01:04.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and as you hear that argument,\Nyou don't feel too great about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.15,0:01:06.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you tell yourself\Nthat it's none of your business.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:06.69,0:01:09.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or perhaps you see someone \Nwho's highly intoxicated,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.51,0:01:12.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you think, "Mm, this night\Nisn't going to end too well for them."
Dialogue: 0,0:01:12.75,0:01:17.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But you tell yourself, once again, \Nthis isn't my responsibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.11,0:01:18.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so what happens?
Dialogue: 0,0:01:18.68,0:01:22.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We end up being the bystander\Nbecause we froze, perhaps we panicked,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:22.43,0:01:25.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but ultimately, \Nwe didn't do anything to act.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.22,0:01:28.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are a lot of reasons \Nthat we don't act.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.37,0:01:30.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And bystander effect -\Nsome of you have heard of that -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.97,0:01:32.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is one of those things.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.14,0:01:34.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But a big thing, and there are \Na few of them, ambiguity.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.99,0:01:37.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anytime the situation is unclear\Nand we're not too sure
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.64,0:01:40.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what's going to happen,\Nwe're less likely to intervene.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:40.40,0:01:43.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Diffusion of responsibility\Nis one of the biggest things
Dialogue: 0,0:01:43.08,0:01:44.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that stops us from intervening.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.62,0:01:45.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,All of us are in this room.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:45.91,0:01:47.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If something happens in this room,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:47.54,0:01:50.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whoever it is in need of help\Nis less likely to get help
Dialogue: 0,0:01:50.16,0:01:51.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because what we're thinking
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.45,0:01:53.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is someone else in the room\Nwill do something,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.62,0:01:55.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but they don't, and so\Nthat harm still occurs.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:55.76,0:01:57.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other thing is perceived cost.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:57.40,0:02:00.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We start to think about:\NWhat is this going to cost me?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.47,0:02:02.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Am I going to be in harm's way?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:02.15,0:02:03.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Will my loved ones be at risk?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:03.96,0:02:07.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Am I going to have to invest\Ntoo much time or energy into this?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:07.44,0:02:09.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if so, then we tell ourselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:09.06,0:02:12.41,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well then I can't do anything about this,\NI'm not going to intervene."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:12.41,0:02:14.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so we walk away from the situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.34,0:02:16.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are a lot of reasons \Nthat people don't intervene,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:16.96,0:02:18.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,a ton of obstacles, and they're real.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:18.76,0:02:21.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're legitimate fears and concerns\Nthat we have to face.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.29,0:02:26.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what we have to think about\Nis the fact that sometimes
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.34,0:02:31.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when we're seeing things, \Nwe don't want people to think,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.05,0:02:33.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Oh, you know, that person \Njust didn't want to help."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:33.57,0:02:36.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We want people to recognize\Nthat those obstacles got in the way.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:36.57,0:02:39.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I want you to think \Nabout this for a second.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:39.26,0:02:41.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What does this slide say to you?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:41.02,0:02:42.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[MORALITYISNOWHERE]
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.81,0:02:44.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Shout it out. What do you see?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:44.88,0:02:47.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Audience) Morality is nowhere.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.80,0:02:53.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,OK. So wow, we have a lot \Nof glass-half-full folks in this room.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.15,0:02:54.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:02:54.28,0:02:56.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So some of you see "morality is nowhere";
Dialogue: 0,0:02:56.27,0:02:58.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of you see\N"morality is now here," right?
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.78,0:03:01.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Either way, you're right.\NThe slide says both.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:01.57,0:03:06.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the point of this is that what\Nwe're lacking in society is morality.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.55,0:03:10.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've really gotten to a place\Nwhere morality doesn't exist anymore,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.09,0:03:12.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's concerning, it's alarming.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:12.40,0:03:17.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so what we need to start to do\Nis think about how can civility
Dialogue: 0,0:03:17.24,0:03:18.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,help to bring back morality.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.92,0:03:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I know a lot of you\Nare probably thinking,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:20.87,0:03:24.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Well, if her point is to talk\Nabout civility or morality,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.28,0:03:26.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then why did she\Ntitle this 'Reviving Civility'?"
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.75,0:03:29.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, the reason that I did that \Nis because civility is something
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.87,0:03:31.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I believe, and don't get me wrong,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:31.77,0:03:34.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I'm thinking, I recognize\Nin my mind it's questionable,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.60,0:03:37.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I believe that civility\Nis something that can be taught.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:37.46,0:03:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a skill set, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.60,0:03:41.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you think about civility,\Nyou typically think about these things:
Dialogue: 0,0:03:41.95,0:03:46.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being polite, being a reasonable person,\Nengaging in civil dialogue.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.45,0:03:51.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you think about morality, that's\Na much tougher conversation to have.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:51.09,0:03:56.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Morality is a self-driven, internal battle\Nthat plays out in people's consciousness,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:56.34,0:04:00.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,like a rivalry between \NBatman and the Joker, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.80,0:04:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all think about Batman and Joker\Nand how intense that is,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.67,0:04:05.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can visualize that.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.13,0:04:08.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, that's how it feels to talk\Nto someone about right and wrong.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:08.35,0:04:12.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You aren't going to often have people get\Nin a room and reach the same conclusion.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.20,0:04:16.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But civility - we can get people \Nto agree on what civility means.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.19,0:04:17.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, I want you to remember,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:17.58,0:04:19.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I'm talking\Nabout civility and reviving it,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.93,0:04:21.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm not just talking\Nabout these principles.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:21.99,0:04:25.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm talking about really taking civility\Nand thinking about it
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.02,0:04:31.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a place of civility\Nbeing politeness, yes, respect, yeah,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.29,0:04:36.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but caring and compassion, brotherhood,\Nsisterhood, caring about humankind,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.50,0:04:40.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reviving and bringing back\Nthe best qualities of humankind.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:40.06,0:04:42.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what I'm talking about\Nand want you to think about
Dialogue: 0,0:04:42.74,0:04:44.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when talking about reviving civility.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:44.50,0:04:49.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so we have to really start to shift \Nto being more selfless and less selfish.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:49.18,0:04:53.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We have to be willing to put\Npeople's needs as high as our own
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.26,0:04:56.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if we really want to have a chance\Nto reduce the violence
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.86,0:04:59.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's happening at alarming rates\Nin our community.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.43,0:05:03.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We can make our community safer\Nif we start to revive civility.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:04.05,0:05:07.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So how many of you are familiar\Nwith the Golden Rule? Most of you?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:07.43,0:05:10.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,[The Golden Rule "Do unto others\Nas you would have them do unto you"]
Dialogue: 0,0:05:10.90,0:05:12.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or some of us have heard that
Dialogue: 0,0:05:12.28,0:05:14.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as "Treat others the way that you\Nwant to be treated."
Dialogue: 0,0:05:14.80,0:05:18.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Well, imagine, if in our classrooms,\N,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.64,0:05:22.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in our homes, our families,\Nour friendships, our workplaces,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.65,0:05:25.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if instead abiding by the golden rule
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.70,0:05:28.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and treating people the way\Nwe want to be treated,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:28.03,0:05:31.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what would happen if we treated them\Nthe way they wanted to be treated?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:31.48,0:05:34.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't seem hard, \Nbut if you think about it,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.17,0:05:37.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all these years, we've been\Npracticing the golden rule,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.17,0:05:40.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and seriously, how narcissistic \Ndo we sound telling people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:40.95,0:05:43.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that we're going to treat them\Nthe way we want to be treated?
Dialogue: 0,0:05:43.80,0:05:44.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we do that,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.98,0:05:48.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're nullifying and negating\Nthe experiences of who they are,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.24,0:05:51.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we're projecting our own needs\Nand desires onto them instead.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:51.70,0:05:54.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when you think about that,\Nit's quite selfish.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.05,0:05:59.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so we have to get back \Nto this place of morality.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:59.59,0:06:02.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Morality is our reach here,\NI want you to remember that.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.44,0:06:04.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Morality is the reach; \Ncivility is the base,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:04.86,0:06:08.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and so More M.I.C.E: \Nthis is really just so if someone says,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:08.94,0:06:12.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"What did Jennifer talk about at TEDx?"\Nyou can go and say "M.I.C.E."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.17,0:06:14.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And they're going to look at you\Nand say "mice"?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:14.48,0:06:17.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But I want you to really be able to\Nremember that that meant:
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.34,0:06:21.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,morality, integrity, civility,\Nand ethicality.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:21.22,0:06:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you're going to say\N"ethicality is not a word,"
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.60,0:06:25.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I found it in \Nthe dictionary - it's a word.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:25.84,0:06:26.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.85,0:06:31.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So my point was to make sure \Nwe were moving from not just using nouns
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.40,0:06:33.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but talking about action.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:33.21,0:06:35.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So really, ethicality\Nis being ethical, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:35.86,0:06:37.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you leave here today,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:37.92,0:06:41.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and each of you commit\Nto the best principles and best things
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.50,0:06:44.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that come along\Nwith being a person of integrity,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:44.71,0:06:47.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being compassionate about civility,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:47.52,0:06:51.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,really doing everything you can\Nto be ethical in your character.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.46,0:06:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Then what we're going to do
Dialogue: 0,0:06:53.07,0:06:55.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is we're going to start\Nto influence others around us.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:55.61,0:06:57.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And as we influence others around us,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:57.69,0:07:00.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they're going to influence\Nthe people around them,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:00.08,0:07:02.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they're going to influence\Nothers around them.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:02.40,0:07:03.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's like a ladder.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.56,0:07:06.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Remember, morality is the reach,\Ncivility is the base.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:06.54,0:07:10.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so if you start to climb that ladder,\Nand you start to influence others,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.50,0:07:13.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we have a real chance \Nat changing our culture
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.69,0:07:17.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and reducing, or maybe even\Neliminating, violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:18.48,0:07:20.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't want you to think\Nthose are families.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.59,0:07:22.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at those people up there,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:22.45,0:07:24.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that doesn't represent a family\Nas much as it shows
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.84,0:07:28.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that it's the responsibility\Nof men, women, and children
Dialogue: 0,0:07:28.17,0:07:30.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to practice civility \Nand bystander intervention.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.07,0:07:35.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So there really is a path \Nthat we have to take.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.100,0:07:41.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what I want to talk you through now\Nis what it takes for a bystander
Dialogue: 0,0:07:41.11,0:07:44.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to move from a place of civility,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:44.00,0:07:47.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in a sense, being a noun,\Nto it being an adjective.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.20,0:07:50.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so what we have to do \Nis we have to care,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:51.72,0:07:55.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we have to start taking in things\Nin a much more meaningful way
Dialogue: 0,0:07:55.26,0:07:57.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and thinking about others\Nin our communities.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.52,0:08:01.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And once we start to care,\Nand we start to think about civility,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.87,0:08:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we will start to notice the things\Nthat are causing harm in our community.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.58,0:08:11.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We are living in a society\Nwhere we witness incivility every day,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:11.48,0:08:17.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the point that we don't even recognize\Nhow much it has messed up our country.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.65,0:08:20.45,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so we have to start\Nto get back to that place
Dialogue: 0,0:08:20.45,0:08:21.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we're intervening,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:21.84,0:08:23.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we're doing things\Nfor one another,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:23.76,0:08:25.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where we're caring for one another.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:25.44,0:08:28.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if we do that, then we\Nhave a chance, we really do.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.96,0:08:31.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so what you have to do\Nas a bystander, when you leave here,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.91,0:08:35.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to start to think about\Nwhat it takes to intervene.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.37,0:08:38.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And know your obstacles; \Nthose obstacles are real.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:38.73,0:08:41.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'm someone who talks to people\Nabout bystander intervention,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.60,0:08:44.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I don't always intervene\Nevery time I see something
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.18,0:08:46.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because those obstacles \Ncan get the best of me as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:46.88,0:08:49.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What you do have to do\Nis you have to notice the situation
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.68,0:08:52.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because if you don't notice it,\Nthat ambiguity again,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:52.15,0:08:54.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you don't notice it,\Nyou can't do anything to intervene.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:54.92,0:08:57.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Another thing you have to do\Nis quickly interpret that situation.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:57.96,0:09:00.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Going to that example\Nof you see someone arguing.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:00.36,0:09:01.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You see a couple arguing.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:01.54,0:09:04.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You have to quickly determine\Nif that warrants your response.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.02,0:09:06.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you think that warrants your response,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:06.98,0:09:08.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the next step is assuming responsibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.98,0:09:12.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And once we can all get to that place\Nwhere we assume responsibility,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.80,0:09:17.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then we are truly living out \Nwhat it means to revive civility.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.41,0:09:20.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And assuming responsibility\Ndoes not mean that I want you
Dialogue: 0,0:09:20.58,0:09:22.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to put yourself into harm's way.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:22.79,0:09:25.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't have to do that.\NThat's why 911 exists.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:25.08,0:09:28.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are people who, for a living,\Ngo and save the day.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.26,0:09:30.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But by you taking the step
Dialogue: 0,0:09:30.76,0:09:34.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to either get involved\Nand step in and help someone,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.17,0:09:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or taking the step to get someone else\Ninvolved who is able to intervene,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.15,0:09:42.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,then you will help to make\Nour world a safer place.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:42.72,0:09:43.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the point.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:43.72,0:09:45.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If we can revive civility,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:45.91,0:09:50.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we really will get to a place\Nwhere we can end violence.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:50.14,0:09:55.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I'm not asking you tonight,\Nby choosing civility,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:55.05,0:09:57.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to go out and spend all your free time
Dialogue: 0,0:09:57.35,0:10:00.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,volunteering at your local\Ndomestic violence or rape center,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:00.18,0:10:01.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,though you might.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:01.42,0:10:02.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That would be kind of cool.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.72,0:10:06.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Nor am I asking you to go out\Nand get trained in nonviolence training,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:06.95,0:10:08.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,though again, you might.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:08.24,0:10:09.93,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That may be a thing you want to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:09.93,0:10:12.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what I am saying\Nis that when you leave here,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:12.29,0:10:16.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,hopefully you'll always notice\Nwhen something needs your attention,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.43,0:10:18.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when someone is in harm's way,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:18.55,0:10:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you'll think about the fact
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.15,0:10:23.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you can do something to intervene\Nand change the outcome.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:24.10,0:10:26.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And when we start\Nto change those outcomes,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:26.81,0:10:31.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,other people will see us, it will rub off,\Nand we will have a shift in our culture,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:31.95,0:10:37.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and make our campuses, our workplaces,\Nour society, a better place.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.84,0:10:43.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so my question for you tonight\Nis not if you're different from the rest,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.32,0:10:47.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because regardless of what\Nwe've personally been a bystander to,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.64,0:10:48.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we're not alone.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.86,0:10:50.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've all experienced those things.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:50.68,0:10:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But it's not if you\Nare different from the rest.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.03,0:10:56.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My question for you tonight is,\N"Will you be the difference for the rest?"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:56.66,0:10:59.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And if you're the difference for the rest,\Nhow do you get there?
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.09,0:11:03.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We get there by reviving civility.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.91,0:11:07.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so I ask that as you leave here,\Nthink about the difference you'll make,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:07.87,0:11:10.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that you will bring back \Ncivility with me.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:10.36,0:11:11.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.53,0:11:13.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)