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Dialogue: 0,0:00:06.95,0:00:08.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The chances are
Dialogue: 0,0:00:08.30,0:00:11.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've looked in at least\None mirror today.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:11.39,0:00:14.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You've had a shave,\Nor you combed your hair,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:14.83,0:00:17.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or maybe you checked\Nyour teeth for spinach after lunch,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:17.59,0:00:19.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what you didn't know
Dialogue: 0,0:00:19.15,0:00:21.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that the face looking back at you
Dialogue: 0,0:00:21.43,0:00:23.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,isn't the face that everybody else sees.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:23.55,0:00:26.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a kind of reversed, distorted,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:26.36,0:00:27.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,back-to-front image.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:27.92,0:00:30.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Some years ago,\NI was on a flight to New York,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:30.27,0:00:32.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I read an article in the FT,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:32.24,0:00:36.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was an article about a phenomenon\Ncalled a True Mirror -
Dialogue: 0,0:00:36.31,0:00:39.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and for the Americans listening,\Nthat's a mirror.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:39.39,0:00:42.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The True Mirror was actually invented
Dialogue: 0,0:00:42.42,0:00:44.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by a brother and sister team in New York,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:44.39,0:00:46.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,called John and Catherine Walters.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:46.22,0:00:48.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What they discovered\Nis if you take two mirrors,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:48.66,0:00:50.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you put them together at right angles,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:50.67,0:00:52.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you take the seam away,
Dialogue: 0,0:00:52.35,0:00:54.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the images bounce off each other.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:54.23,0:00:56.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What you see when you look\Nin a True Mirror
Dialogue: 0,0:00:56.43,0:00:59.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is exactly what other people\Nsee when they look at you.
Dialogue: 0,0:00:59.97,0:01:02.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, I land in New York,\Nand I phone John up,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:02.35,0:01:04.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and ask him if I can go and see him,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:04.12,0:01:07.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I end up in his gallery in Brooklyn;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:07.22,0:01:09.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was like being\Nat a sideshow in the circus.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:09.67,0:01:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There were True Mirrors
Dialogue: 0,0:01:11.43,0:01:14.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,full length, face sized,\Nall over this gallery.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:14.73,0:01:17.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I walked over\Nto the True Mirror for the first time,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:17.61,0:01:19.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I looked in the mirror,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:19.11,0:01:24.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was one of the most disorientating\Nexperiences I've ever had in my life.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:24.05,0:01:26.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The first thing you notice\Nwhen you look in a True Mirror
Dialogue: 0,0:01:26.72,0:01:28.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is that your head's not on straight.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:28.84,0:01:30.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yours is kind of going that way,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:30.62,0:01:32.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yours is quite straight actually,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:32.78,0:01:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and yours is going that way a wee bit;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:34.59,0:01:37.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so apparently most of us\Ntilt our heads one way or another.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:37.60,0:01:39.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you approach a True Mirror,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:39.33,0:01:41.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the first thing you try and do\Nis fix your head,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:41.59,0:01:44.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but, of course, because it's reversed\Nyou go the wrong way;
Dialogue: 0,0:01:44.35,0:01:46.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so it's very, very disorientating.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:46.58,0:01:51.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But more importantly, I had a flashback.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:51.19,0:01:53.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I had a flashback\Nto when I was a wee girl.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:53.20,0:01:54.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I grew up in Glasgow -
Dialogue: 0,0:01:54.47,0:01:56.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,in case you haven't noticed,\NI am Scottish.
Dialogue: 0,0:01:56.74,0:01:59.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I grew up in Glasgow, and my mom,
Dialogue: 0,0:01:59.28,0:02:00.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when she was putting her makeup on,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:00.95,0:02:04.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I used to love sitting and watching\Nmy mom putting her makeup on,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:04.53,0:02:06.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, with my chin in my hands.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:06.43,0:02:08.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I would tell her occasionally:
Dialogue: 0,0:02:08.99,0:02:11.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Isn't it funny\Nhow one side of your top lip
Dialogue: 0,0:02:11.99,0:02:14.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is higher than the other side\Nof your top lip?"
Dialogue: 0,0:02:14.71,0:02:17.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd look in the mirror\Nand she'd say, "It is not."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:17.72,0:02:20.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I'd say: "No, it's only\Na couple of millimeters,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:20.19,0:02:22.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but that side of your cupid's bow\Nis definitely higher
Dialogue: 0,0:02:22.72,0:02:24.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than the other side of your cupid's bow."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:24.73,0:02:26.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She'd say, "Caroline, you're havering."
Dialogue: 0,0:02:26.75,0:02:29.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When I looked in the True Mirror,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:29.27,0:02:31.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there was the lip
Dialogue: 0,0:02:31.16,0:02:35.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I had been wearing,\Nat that time, for maybe 45 years,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:35.11,0:02:37.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'd never seen it.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:37.71,0:02:40.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The difference is\Nwhen you look in a regular mirror,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:40.79,0:02:42.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you look for reassurance.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:42.78,0:02:45.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You look for reassurance\Nthat you're beautiful,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:45.51,0:02:47.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you're young, or you're tidy,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:47.26,0:02:49.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or your bum doesn't look big in that.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:49.67,0:02:51.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But when you look in a True Mirror,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:51.95,0:02:53.74,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you don't look at yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:02:53.74,0:02:55.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you look for yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:55.47,0:02:58.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You look for revelation,\Nnot for reassurance.
Dialogue: 0,0:02:58.39,0:03:00.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this was deeply interesting to me
Dialogue: 0,0:03:00.59,0:03:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because what I do for a living\Nis I help people be themselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:03.67,0:03:06.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not in any narcissistic\Nor solipsistic way,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:06.71,0:03:10.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but because I believe\Nthat social reformation begins,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:10.11,0:03:13.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,always starts with the individual.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:13.06,0:03:16.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at remarkable individuals -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:16.43,0:03:18.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and when I say remarkable\Nor successful individuals,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:18.94,0:03:21.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't mean monetarily successful;
Dialogue: 0,0:03:21.79,0:03:24.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I mean people that have been successful
Dialogue: 0,0:03:24.03,0:03:26.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at achieving whatever they set out to do -
Dialogue: 0,0:03:26.87,0:03:29.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll find that the thing\Nthey have in common
Dialogue: 0,0:03:29.23,0:03:32.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is they have nothing in common.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:32.11,0:03:34.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are people who, you know,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:34.50,0:03:36.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,work in many of the fields I work in.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:36.39,0:03:38.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I work with people in corporations,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:38.95,0:03:40.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I work with captains of industry,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:40.58,0:03:42.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I work with selected politicians.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:42.42,0:03:44.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've worked with geophysicists.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:44.23,0:03:46.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I've worked with chamber orchestras
Dialogue: 0,0:03:46.23,0:03:50.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and ballet dancers\Nand pop star and opera singers,
Dialogue: 0,0:03:50.42,0:03:53.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I've identified\Nthe thread that links them.
Dialogue: 0,0:03:53.99,0:03:57.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are individuals who've managed\Nto figure out the unique gift
Dialogue: 0,0:03:57.14,0:04:00.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the universe gave them\Nwhen they incarnated,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:00.18,0:04:03.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then put that\Nat the service of their goals.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:03.03,0:04:05.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I think that we all come complete.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:05.79,0:04:09.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We come complete with one true note\Nwe were destined to sing,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:09.15,0:04:11.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and these are people\Nthat have managed to figure that out.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:12.99,0:04:16.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It doesn't dictate your choice of job;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:16.35,0:04:19.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what it dictates is how you do it.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:19.19,0:04:20.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When we see these people
Dialogue: 0,0:04:20.71,0:04:22.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we invariably call them larger than life.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:22.66,0:04:25.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, you'll see\Nsomebody like Roberto Benigni,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:25.04,0:04:26.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you'll say, "Oh my goodness."
Dialogue: 0,0:04:26.71,0:04:28.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Eve Ensler, she's larger than life,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:28.91,0:04:31.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which always makes me smile
Dialogue: 0,0:04:31.35,0:04:33.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because how could you be larger than life?
Dialogue: 0,0:04:34.94,0:04:36.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Life is large.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:36.89,0:04:38.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But most of us don't take up
Dialogue: 0,0:04:38.25,0:04:41.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nearly the space\Nthe universe intended for us.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:41.15,0:04:43.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We take up this wee space around our toes,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:43.62,0:04:46.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which is why when you see somebody\Nin the full flow of their humanity,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:46.99,0:04:48.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's remarkable.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:48.58,0:04:50.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They're at least a foot\Nbigger in every direction
Dialogue: 0,0:04:50.90,0:04:53.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than normal human beings, and they shine,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:53.99,0:04:55.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they gleam,
Dialogue: 0,0:04:55.55,0:04:56.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they glow;
Dialogue: 0,0:04:56.99,0:04:58.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's like they've swallowed the moon.
Dialogue: 0,0:04:59.63,0:05:02.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And all the work I've done\Nhas led me to believe
Dialogue: 0,0:05:02.31,0:05:06.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that individuality really is\Nall it's cracked up to be.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:06.08,0:05:09.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, people who are\Nfrightened to be themselves
Dialogue: 0,0:05:09.03,0:05:10.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,will work for those who aren't afraid.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:11.94,0:05:16.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now your job is not to be\Nanything like any of the people
Dialogue: 0,0:05:16.25,0:05:18.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I put up behind me.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:18.26,0:05:22.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact your job is to be as unlike them\Nas you can possibly be.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:22.31,0:05:25.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your only job while you're\Nhere on the planet
Dialogue: 0,0:05:25.59,0:05:27.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to be as good at being you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:27.35,0:05:29.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as they are at being them.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:29.67,0:05:30.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the deal.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:32.11,0:05:34.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I want to start today by asking you
Dialogue: 0,0:05:34.87,0:05:37.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,an incredibly personal question.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:37.43,0:05:38.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not the one that says,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:38.77,0:05:42.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Why are there so many syllables\Nin the word 'monosyllabic'?". No.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:42.76,0:05:44.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Not even the one that says,
Dialogue: 0,0:05:44.19,0:05:47.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Did you know that Britney Spears\Nis an anagram for Presbyterian?". No.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:47.87,0:05:48.100,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:05:48.100,0:05:50.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Something a wee bit more pivotal.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:50.59,0:05:54.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, this is a question that's been\Nlooking for you your whole life.
Dialogue: 0,0:05:55.15,0:05:56.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's probably the simplest
Dialogue: 0,0:05:56.91,0:05:59.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the most complicated\Nquestion you'll ever ask.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:00.70,0:06:02.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yet how many times in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:06:02.63,0:06:05.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has somebody offered you\Nthat well-meaning piece of advice
Dialogue: 0,0:06:05.34,0:06:07.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you should just be yourself?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:07.40,0:06:09.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,How many times have you\Nsaid it to somebody else?
Dialogue: 0,0:06:09.71,0:06:12.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of your kids comes to you,\Nor one of your team comes to you,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:12.79,0:06:15.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they tell you they're nervous,\Nthey're scared.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:15.30,0:06:17.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They have to go and do something\Nand their bold goes,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:17.92,0:06:20.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you say to them,\N"Darlin', just be yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:20.20,0:06:23.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because when you're\Nyourself, you're fabulous."
Dialogue: 0,0:06:23.23,0:06:26.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now it always resonates\Nbecause it's all we want to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:26.30,0:06:27.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you tell John to be himself,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:27.82,0:06:29.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he doesn't want to be Mary.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:29.71,0:06:31.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's quite happy being himself,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:31.47,0:06:34.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's the use of the word\N"just" that I find interesting
Dialogue: 0,0:06:34.89,0:06:36.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because it would imply two things.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:36.55,0:06:39.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number one, that that was\Nan easy thing to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:39.00,0:06:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number two, that it was\Nan original piece of advice.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:41.47,0:06:44.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, John had never\Nthought about it himself.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:46.52,0:06:48.33,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When it comes to being yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:48.33,0:06:50.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when it comes to being in the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:50.07,0:06:51.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the minute you showed up,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:51.94,0:06:54.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the minute you incarnated,
Dialogue: 0,0:06:54.15,0:06:55.72,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you were given a life sentence.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:56.90,0:06:59.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, you don't know how long you have.
Dialogue: 0,0:06:59.84,0:07:03.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe you have 70 years, and I have 62.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:03.11,0:07:05.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We've no idea how long we have.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:05.58,0:07:07.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Although, where you're born,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:07.79,0:07:10.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're born, to whom you're born,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:10.12,0:07:13.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all these things have a certain influence
Dialogue: 0,0:07:13.50,0:07:15.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or impact on how you\Nbecome who you become.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:15.79,0:07:17.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're born in Switzerland,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:17.39,0:07:20.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,chances are you've got a long time\Nto figure this shit out.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:20.47,0:07:24.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you're born in Zimbabwe\Nor some parts of Glasgow,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:24.92,0:07:29.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm not kidding,\Nyou've got significantly less time.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:29.29,0:07:32.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So what I want you to think about\Nis not what your life expectancy is,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:32.59,0:07:35.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but what do you expect from life?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:35.07,0:07:36.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what does life expect from you?
Dialogue: 0,0:07:36.75,0:07:38.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those are more interesting questions.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:40.31,0:07:45.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And the two places in life\Nwhere you are awesome at being yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:45.18,0:07:48.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're fantastic at being yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:48.27,0:07:50.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,one of them is when you're a kid.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:50.86,0:07:53.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you're a kid,\Nyou're fantastic at being yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:07:53.39,0:07:56.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you don't know how to\Ndisguise your differentness.
Dialogue: 0,0:07:57.19,0:07:59.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's why you see kids on the beach,
Dialogue: 0,0:07:59.07,0:08:01.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, naked up until the age of five,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:01.02,0:08:03.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then suddenly\Nat the age of six or seven
Dialogue: 0,0:08:03.08,0:08:05.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they want a bathing suit,\Nthey want a bikini.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:05.23,0:08:07.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Who's got a four-year-old boy?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:07.03,0:08:09.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Anybody's got a four-year-old boy?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:09.43,0:08:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I'll take a three-year-old.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:10.99,0:08:13.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Jose, you've got a three-year-old boy.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:13.57,0:08:17.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want you to imagine\NI go into Eduardo's class in school,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:17.07,0:08:19.61,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's a class of three-year-old boys,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:19.61,0:08:22.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I say to the boys,\N"Who's the strongest boy in the class?"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:22.60,0:08:24.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What's going to happen?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:24.92,0:08:26.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every hand, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:08:26.06,0:08:28.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Every single hand in the class will go up.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:28.13,0:08:29.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They'll be competitively strong.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:29.91,0:08:31.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If I go into the same class,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:31.62,0:08:35.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's full of seven-year-old boys,\Nand ask the same question,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:35.75,0:08:39.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,they'll say, "Him," because they\Nknow by time they're seven.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:40.15,0:08:41.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,He's the strong one,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:41.59,0:08:43.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's the fastest runner,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:43.03,0:08:44.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's the funny guy,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:44.22,0:08:45.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,he's the bully.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:45.39,0:08:47.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Society archetype emerges
Dialogue: 0,0:08:47.11,0:08:49.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,around about the age\Nof five, six, seven, eight.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:49.42,0:08:50.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's why the Jesuits say,
Dialogue: 0,0:08:50.78,0:08:53.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Give me a boy until the age of seven,\Nand I'll show you the man,"
Dialogue: 0,0:08:53.91,0:08:56.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because that's the birth of consciousness.
Dialogue: 0,0:08:56.24,0:08:58.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And from then on\Nyou become more self-conscious
Dialogue: 0,0:08:58.51,0:09:01.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and by default less good\Nat being yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:02.97,0:09:05.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The other place you're fantastic\Nat being yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:09:05.32,0:09:07.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is when you're a wrinkley,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:07.03,0:09:08.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because you can't be arsed.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:08.87,0:09:10.49,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You get to that stage in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:09:10.49,0:09:12.89,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,where you realize\Nthere are more summers behind you
Dialogue: 0,0:09:12.89,0:09:14.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,than there are in front of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:14.36,0:09:16.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everything intensifies.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:16.07,0:09:17.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You become more honest;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:17.63,0:09:19.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you become less compromising.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:19.52,0:09:21.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you're going to tell people,
Dialogue: 0,0:09:21.01,0:09:24.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"I don't want the spinach,\NI'm not going to eat it, I don't like it.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:24.22,0:09:26.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I don't like jazz,\Nso you can shut that noise off.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:26.83,0:09:28.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And while I'm at it, I don't like you!"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:28.91,0:09:29.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:09:29.91,0:09:32.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We call these people "eccentric."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:32.75,0:09:34.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We call our oldies "eccentric."
Dialogue: 0,0:09:34.95,0:09:37.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, what they're doing\Nis being authentic.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:37.51,0:09:39.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So it's kind of like an hourglass effect:
Dialogue: 0,0:09:39.48,0:09:41.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're young\Nyou're great at being yourself;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:41.82,0:09:44.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're old\Nyou're great at being yourself;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:44.04,0:09:47.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but the bit in the middle\Nis sometimes the most problematic.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:47.16,0:09:49.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the bit\Nwhere you have to socialize;
Dialogue: 0,0:09:49.19,0:09:52.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to accommodate;\Nyou have to adapt.
Dialogue: 0,0:09:52.03,0:09:54.82,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I've developed the "I complex,"
Dialogue: 0,0:09:54.82,0:09:58.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the "I complex"\Nis a model to help you figure out
Dialogue: 0,0:09:58.19,0:10:01.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,which "I" you mean when you say "I."
Dialogue: 0,0:10:02.58,0:10:05.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're very familiar\Nwith the superiority complex.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:05.26,0:10:07.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have a superiority complex,\Nyou pretty much think
Dialogue: 0,0:10:07.90,0:10:10.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're the most important\Nperson in the room.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:10.70,0:10:13.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you've got an inferiority complex
Dialogue: 0,0:10:13.23,0:10:16.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you suffer from\Nan over-modest self-regard.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:16.87,0:10:20.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,These are both signs of a fragile ego.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:20.51,0:10:22.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of them\Nis about delusions of grandeur,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:22.66,0:10:25.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the other one\Ndelusions of insignificance.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:25.43,0:10:28.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's a third way of being in the world,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:29.15,0:10:30.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I call it "interiority;"
Dialogue: 0,0:10:30.66,0:10:32.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this is one of my made-up words.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:32.31,0:10:35.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The word "interiority"\Ndescribes a particular disposition,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:35.46,0:10:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there are two reasons\Nit might be useful to you.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:37.95,0:10:40.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Number one, it's completely uncomparative.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:40.35,0:10:43.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you have a superiority complex\Nor an inferiority complex
Dialogue: 0,0:10:43.75,0:10:45.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need other people around.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:45.70,0:10:47.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For a superiority complex
Dialogue: 0,0:10:47.10,0:10:48.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you need other people to be smaller.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:48.91,0:10:51.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,For an inferiority complex\Nyou need to suffer
Dialogue: 0,0:10:51.11,0:10:53.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from the I'm-gonna-be-found-out syndrome,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:53.07,0:10:54.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so somebody needs to find you out.
Dialogue: 0,0:10:55.83,0:10:58.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Interiority is entirely unrelative,
Dialogue: 0,0:10:58.47,0:11:01.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so to operate from this\Nposition of interiority,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:01.35,0:11:03.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's like a perceptual vantage point.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:03.67,0:11:05.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's a sensibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:05.19,0:11:06.76,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's an orientation.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:08.50,0:11:10.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it's the only place in your life,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:11.46,0:11:13.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the only place in your life,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:13.38,0:11:15.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have no competition.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:16.09,0:11:18.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Try and find a comparison to yourself,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:18.00,0:11:19.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you'll draw a blank.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:21.45,0:11:25.21,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I could talk to you about interiority\Ntill my tongue bleeds,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:25.21,0:11:27.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or I could just show you\Nwhat it looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:27.43,0:11:30.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So I want to introduce you\Nto a woman called Jill Scott.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:30.08,0:11:32.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You might have her on you iTunes playlist,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:32.23,0:11:35.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but Jill's a singer, and she's just about\Nto go on stage and perform,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:35.55,0:11:37.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in case you missed the question,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:37.47,0:11:39.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's a French filmmaker\Nwho's filming her.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:39.83,0:11:42.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She's going on stage after Erykah Badu,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:42.11,0:11:45.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and he says to her, "Are you nervous,
Dialogue: 0,0:11:45.23,0:11:47.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, going on after Erykah?"
Dialogue: 0,0:11:48.00,0:11:50.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I want you to listen to what she says.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:52.11,0:11:54.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Video) Jill Scott: That chick right there\N
Dialogue: 0,0:11:54.11,0:11:57.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has definitely led the way for me\Nand a lot of other sisters.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:57.01,0:11:58.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, I appreciate it.
Dialogue: 0,0:11:59.91,0:12:02.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Interviewer: Are you nervous\Nyou're going to perform after her?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:02.96,0:12:07.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:12:07.63,0:12:09.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,JS: Have you ever seen me perform?
Dialogue: 0,0:12:10.85,0:12:13.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am the lady Jill Scott.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:13.35,0:12:15.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I am a poet, and a singer,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:15.87,0:12:18.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and a lot of other things.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:18.01,0:12:20.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We all have our own thing,\Nthat's the magic,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:20.87,0:12:23.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and everybody comes\Nwith their own sense of strength,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:23.66,0:12:25.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and their own queendom.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:25.47,0:12:27.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Mine could never compare to hers,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:27.06,0:12:29.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and hers could never compare to mine.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:29.69,0:12:33.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Caroline McHugh: See, you didn't\Neven know you had a queendom.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:33.15,0:12:34.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what it looks like.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:34.71,0:12:36.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you figure out how to be yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:12:36.64,0:12:40.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's an incredibly liberating,\Nuntragic way to go through life.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:40.94,0:12:42.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You don't develop an identity
Dialogue: 0,0:12:42.48,0:12:45.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's predicated on being\Na patchwork personality.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:45.24,0:12:46.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're not a composite, an amalgam,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:46.97,0:12:49.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,of all your experiences and influences.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:49.87,0:12:53.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're not just somebody's boss,\Nor somebody's mom,
Dialogue: 0,0:12:53.55,0:12:55.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or anybody's anything.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:55.83,0:12:56.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:12:57.89,0:13:00.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,However, the chances are,\N
Dialogue: 0,0:13:00.18,0:13:03.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there are at least four of you\Nsitting in each of those chairs,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:03.19,0:13:04.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so let me introduce yourselves.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:05.83,0:13:09.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The most visible "you"\Nthat you represent to the outside world
Dialogue: 0,0:13:10.11,0:13:12.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is what everybody else thinks of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:12.67,0:13:15.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and there are as many opinions of you\Nas there are people.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:15.40,0:13:18.13,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I want you to imagine\Nyou're like a big USB stick
Dialogue: 0,0:13:18.13,0:13:19.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you plug into the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:19.75,0:13:22.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You show up on the desktop of the world.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:22.88,0:13:24.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's the power of context.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:24.40,0:13:26.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you don't understand that bit,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:26.37,0:13:28.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being yourself can be\Nan ill-advised strategy.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:28.55,0:13:32.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So of course it's important\Nthat you understand perception,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:32.07,0:13:35.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one of the things I've noticed,\Nin terms of gender,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:35.07,0:13:37.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'm terribly,\Nuntragically woman by the way.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:37.56,0:13:41.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't find myself tragically woman.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:41.47,0:13:45.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I describe myself as a womanist,\Nrather than a feminist,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:45.83,0:13:48.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but I'm also a card-carrying feminist.
Dialogue: 0,0:13:48.95,0:13:51.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There are very few things\Nthat I think are gender-specific,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:51.83,0:13:55.70,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but one of them is something\NI call "approval addiction."
Dialogue: 0,0:13:55.70,0:13:59.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The need to be liked,\Nthe need for approbation,
Dialogue: 0,0:13:59.20,0:14:02.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or recognition, or for somebody\Nto tell you it's okay.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:02.79,0:14:06.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I find more woman suffer\Nfrom that affliction than men,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:06.39,0:14:09.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I think it's one\Nof the most debilitating things.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:09.11,0:14:11.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When it comes to being yourself
Dialogue: 0,0:14:11.15,0:14:12.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,needing other people's approval,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:12.98,0:14:14.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,loving sombody else's opinion,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:14.83,0:14:16.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and mistaking it for your own
Dialogue: 0,0:14:16.55,0:14:20.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is one of the most debilitating things\Nyou'll do on the road to being yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:20.34,0:14:23.60,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You will never, ever be perception-less,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:23.60,0:14:25.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but it's important to be perception-free.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:27.11,0:14:31.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One of the things that is going\Nto help you to be perception-free
Dialogue: 0,0:14:31.38,0:14:34.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is to tune into the next circle\Nof the "I complex."
Dialogue: 0,0:14:34.63,0:14:36.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is your wish image.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:36.23,0:14:39.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is what you would like\Neverybody else to think of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:39.67,0:14:43.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's not about being fake,\Nor fad, or pretending.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:43.83,0:14:46.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's about moving; it's about possibility;
Dialogue: 0,0:14:46.55,0:14:48.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's about potential;\Nit's about supposition.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:48.95,0:14:52.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So, whilst there's a part of you\Nthat's like your backbone,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:52.79,0:14:55.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,this part of you is like your wishbone.
Dialogue: 0,0:14:55.36,0:14:58.84,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This one is your adaptive personality,\Nyour construct self,
Dialogue: 0,0:14:58.84,0:15:00.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and even that's unique
Dialogue: 0,0:15:00.87,0:15:02.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because nobody in the world
Dialogue: 0,0:15:02.39,0:15:05.92,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has had the same experiences\Nor influences that you have.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:06.49,0:15:08.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But this is the you that keeps moving,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:08.79,0:15:11.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that keeps changing all the time.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:11.44,0:15:13.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it helps you avoid\Nbeing one of those people ...
Dialogue: 0,0:15:13.80,0:15:16.86,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know the people that say to you\Nthey have 15 years experience
Dialogue: 0,0:15:16.86,0:15:19.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when they mean one year, 15 times?
Dialogue: 0,0:15:19.67,0:15:21.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They literally repeat themselves,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:21.58,0:15:24.29,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,year, after year, after year.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:24.29,0:15:27.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What I want you to think about\Nis with every passing year,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:27.19,0:15:30.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your job is to be better and better
Dialogue: 0,0:15:30.02,0:15:32.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at being who you already are.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:32.03,0:15:34.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is not a cosmetic exercise.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:34.37,0:15:36.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're already different.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:36.02,0:15:37.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your job is to figure out how,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:37.95,0:15:40.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then to be more of that.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:41.56,0:15:43.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, there are certain times in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:15:43.71,0:15:45.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that lend themselves to change,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:45.98,0:15:48.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that make change quicker, deeper.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:50.51,0:15:53.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I call them intervals of possibility.
Dialogue: 0,0:15:53.76,0:15:57.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now, they're not always\Nas well sign-posted as this one,
Dialogue: 0,0:15:57.44,0:15:59.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you know those times in your life
Dialogue: 0,0:15:59.28,0:16:01.52,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you come\Nto a bifurcation on the path,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:01.52,0:16:04.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you sense that the potential\Nfor change is heightened.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:04.98,0:16:06.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You meet a stranger in a bar;
Dialogue: 0,0:16:07.91,0:16:10.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you have to decide\Nwhat you're going to do.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:10.63,0:16:12.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your boss comes to you\Nand offers you a new job.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:12.90,0:16:15.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,What do you want, you want\Nto keep doing the same thing,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:15.54,0:16:17.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or do you want this job?
Dialogue: 0,0:16:17.03,0:16:19.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you know that if you make that change,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:19.87,0:16:21.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the speed of your life will change.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:23.47,0:16:25.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Unfortunately,\Nsome of these interventions,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:25.51,0:16:28.77,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,some of these intervals\Nof possibility, are catastrophic.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:28.77,0:16:30.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, most of them are catastrophic
Dialogue: 0,0:16:30.67,0:16:32.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,'cause most of us would rather sleepwalk
Dialogue: 0,0:16:32.67,0:16:35.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,until something happens to wake us up.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:35.19,0:16:38.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And what will happen is\Nsomebody you love will get sick,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:38.90,0:16:40.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you'll get sick,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:40.51,0:16:42.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or you'll get fired.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:42.44,0:16:44.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or maybe it's something impersonal.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:44.23,0:16:46.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Maybe 9/11 happens,\Nor the tsunami happens,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:46.31,0:16:48.08,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or the Kashmiri earthquake happens,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:48.08,0:16:53.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but something happens\Nthat rocks you back into that inner self,
Dialogue: 0,0:16:53.03,0:16:56.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and makes you ask the question\NI asked you at the beginning of this talk.
Dialogue: 0,0:16:56.59,0:16:59.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The problem is when it\Nhappens catastrophically
Dialogue: 0,0:16:59.31,0:17:02.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is you're vulnerable, you're weak.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:03.47,0:17:04.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my question is,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:04.62,0:17:07.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,why wouldn't you ask yourself\Nthese questions when you're strong,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:07.69,0:17:09.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,from a position of health?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:09.27,0:17:10.62,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you're in a job,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:10.62,0:17:11.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you're loved:
Dialogue: 0,0:17:11.87,0:17:14.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's when the questions\Nbecome most useful.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:15.56,0:17:17.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So the question on this one is,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:17.04,0:17:19.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"If you could be the woman\Nof your dreams, who would you be?"
Dialogue: 0,0:17:19.95,0:17:21.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And my tongue's nowhere near my cheek
Dialogue: 0,0:17:21.91,0:17:23.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when I ask you that question.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:24.51,0:17:27.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The thing that might stop you\Nbeing the woman of your dreams
Dialogue: 0,0:17:27.36,0:17:28.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the next circle,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:28.80,0:17:30.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's what you think of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:30.37,0:17:32.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So now you've got\Nwhat others think of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:32.39,0:17:34.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what you would like\Nothers to think of you,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:34.40,0:17:36.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and this is what you think of you.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:36.04,0:17:38.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you have good days\Nand bad days, right?
Dialogue: 0,0:17:38.06,0:17:41.30,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There's days where you wake up\Nand you think you're the bee's knees.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:41.30,0:17:42.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And other days you wake up
Dialogue: 0,0:17:42.69,0:17:44.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you can't even say your name.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:44.75,0:17:47.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even your cellphone feels too heavy.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:47.11,0:17:48.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,On the days when you wake up
Dialogue: 0,0:17:48.59,0:17:50.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you feel like the bee's knees,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:50.34,0:17:52.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it's not even like you've got a reason.
Dialogue: 0,0:17:52.47,0:17:55.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's like free-floating joy in your body
Dialogue: 0,0:17:55.39,0:17:56.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,just looking for a target,
Dialogue: 0,0:17:56.79,0:17:59.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you know how it feels on those days\Nbecause (sizzling sound).
Dialogue: 0,0:17:59.85,0:18:02.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You just think, "Somebody give\Nme an audience; I'm on fire!
Dialogue: 0,0:18:02.79,0:18:04.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Quick, point me somewhere!"
Dialogue: 0,0:18:06.71,0:18:09.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And your hair's fabulous,\Nand everything just works,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:09.31,0:18:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,everything works on those days.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:11.43,0:18:13.50,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But the other days nothing works.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:13.50,0:18:15.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your legs don't work,\Nyour mouth doesn't work.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:15.95,0:18:20.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The word thief comes\Nand steals your entire vocabulary.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:20.15,0:18:22.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Those are two extremes of your ego,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:22.59,0:18:25.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one of them\Nis about self-congratulation,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:25.07,0:18:27.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the other one\Nis about self-castigation.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:27.39,0:18:29.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Now your entire life,\NI don't care who you are,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:29.59,0:18:31.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I don't care how old you are,
Dialogue: 0,0:18:31.19,0:18:34.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,your entire life, from birth up until now
Dialogue: 0,0:18:34.59,0:18:37.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,has been about building\Na stable relationship with your ego.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:38.83,0:18:42.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You need an ego to live\Nin a Western, capitalist world.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:42.39,0:18:44.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,If you didn't have an ego you'd be toast.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:45.55,0:18:49.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But your challenge is to take the ego\Nfrom its dominant position
Dialogue: 0,0:18:49.03,0:18:52.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and pull it back, so that\Nit's in service to yourself.
Dialogue: 0,0:18:52.57,0:18:55.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's when it becomes useful,\Nand in order to do that
Dialogue: 0,0:18:55.69,0:19:00.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you've got to find the still point\Nright in the middle of those two extremes.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:00.07,0:19:02.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what I would call\Nequanimity, or equilibrium,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:02.97,0:19:04.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's the kind of state of mind
Dialogue: 0,0:19:04.95,0:19:07.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that cannot be perfumed in any way
Dialogue: 0,0:19:07.51,0:19:09.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,by anything that happens outside you.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:09.51,0:19:11.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This kind of confidence\Nthat comes from there
Dialogue: 0,0:19:11.99,0:19:14.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is like the confidence of the sky.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:14.26,0:19:16.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Right now it's dark outside,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:16.47,0:19:18.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you know if you went up in a plane,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:18.47,0:19:20.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even in the stormiest of days,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:20.43,0:19:22.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,the sky's brilliant blue underneath.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:23.83,0:19:26.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at the sky,\Nand it's made a rainbow,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:26.51,0:19:28.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it's absolutely gorgeous,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:28.19,0:19:30.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,there's no question\Nthat the sky's up there going,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:30.55,0:19:32.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Ha, did you see my rainbow?"
Dialogue: 0,0:19:32.79,0:19:34.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Or when it's a terrible, bleak,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:34.43,0:19:36.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you know, gray, gloomy day,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:36.38,0:19:38.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that the sky's going to apologize.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:38.03,0:19:39.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,No, the sky just is,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:39.90,0:19:43.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because the sky sees\Nthe impermanence of the clouds,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:43.03,0:19:45.04,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the impermanence of the rainbows,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:45.04,0:19:47.68,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and you have to develop\Nan inner state of mind
Dialogue: 0,0:19:47.68,0:19:51.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's as impervious to all the good shit\Nand bad shit that happens to you
Dialogue: 0,0:19:51.59,0:19:53.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,as the sky is to the weather.
Dialogue: 0,0:19:55.23,0:19:57.55,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We would also call this,\Nin a Western context,
Dialogue: 0,0:19:57.55,0:20:00.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we would call this feeling\Na feeling of humility,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:00.31,0:20:04.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and one day last week\Nwhere I got to work with UK Sport,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:04.55,0:20:08.66,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and particularly, I got to work\Nwith the amazing coaches,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:08.66,0:20:11.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who worked with the amazing\NOlympic athletes,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:11.43,0:20:14.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,who got all those amazing results\Nat the Summer Olympics.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:14.59,0:20:17.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It was incredible to be in the same room\Nas 400 of these people.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:19.24,0:20:22.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,The woman who runs UK Sport\Nis a woman called Baroness Campbell,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:22.24,0:20:24.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and she gave me a definition of humility
Dialogue: 0,0:20:24.18,0:20:26.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that's as good as any I've ever found.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:26.15,0:20:30.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "Humility is not\Nthinking less of yourself;
Dialogue: 0,0:20:30.47,0:20:33.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,humility is thinking about yourself less."
Dialogue: 0,0:20:34.92,0:20:38.02,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And I remembered learning\Nthat lesson when I was a wee girl
Dialogue: 0,0:20:38.02,0:20:39.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and probably no more than seven or eight,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:39.97,0:20:43.06,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,it was the woman with the squinty mouth\Nthat taught me the lesson.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:43.06,0:20:44.37,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She had no idea, my mother,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:44.37,0:20:46.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,what she was doing to me\Nas I was growing up,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:46.67,0:20:49.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but when I grew up in Glasgow,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:49.01,0:20:52.54,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,particularly working-class,\Nsteel-industry Glasgow,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:52.54,0:20:54.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nobody had any money,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:54.09,0:20:57.34,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so nobody could afford\Nto go out and be entertained.
Dialogue: 0,0:20:57.34,0:20:59.97,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Everybody's social life\Nhappened in a house,
Dialogue: 0,0:20:59.97,0:21:02.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,so at the weekends,\Nall the wrinklys and all the kids
Dialogue: 0,0:21:02.47,0:21:04.05,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,would show up at people's houses,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:04.05,0:21:06.81,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and they would drink\N'til their kneecaps were on backwards,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:06.81,0:21:08.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all that kind of stuff,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:08.12,0:21:10.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but everybody at some point\Nin the evening had to perform.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:10.99,0:21:14.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And it was a riot, because these people\Nwere bus conductresses,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:14.01,0:21:17.48,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and welders, and carpenters by daytime,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:17.48,0:21:19.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but then they'd show up at nighttime
Dialogue: 0,0:21:19.27,0:21:21.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and come and be Frank Sinatra,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:21.03,0:21:23.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Dean Martin, and Sarah Vaughan,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:23.11,0:21:24.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and Billy Eckstine.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:24.19,0:21:27.40,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,They were all... in my house\Nit was like a star-studded affair,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:27.40,0:21:28.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,living in my house,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:28.75,0:21:31.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and all the kids\Nwere taught to perform as well.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:31.10,0:21:33.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And so, I'm the oldest of four girls -
Dialogue: 0,0:21:33.35,0:21:35.22,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,my mother had four daughters.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:35.22,0:21:37.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So did my father, interestingly enough.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:37.20,0:21:40.85,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But we were brought up\Nfrom any age to perform,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:40.85,0:21:43.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we'd be wheeled out\Nat these family parties,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:43.15,0:21:45.27,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,me with my guitar\Nand my sisters around me,
Dialogue: 0,0:21:45.27,0:21:46.43,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and we'd have to sing.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:46.43,0:21:49.07,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We'd be literally positioned,\NJose, like the Von Trapps.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:49.07,0:21:51.96,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, my father would say, \N"Beneda there, Louise there,"
Dialogue: 0,0:21:51.96,0:21:54.20,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then we would sing,\Nand we were terrible.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:54.20,0:21:56.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,We were absolutely rubbish.
Dialogue: 0,0:21:57.48,0:22:01.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,One night my mother came up to get us\Nand we were having pillow fights
Dialogue: 0,0:22:01.03,0:22:03.99,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,she showed up and she said,\N"Right lasses, everybody's ready.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:03.99,0:22:05.46,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Go down and give them a song."
Dialogue: 0,0:22:05.46,0:22:07.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And this night I was just overcome.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:07.78,0:22:09.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "I don't want to sing."
Dialogue: 0,0:22:09.71,0:22:11.73,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "Why do you not want to sing?"
Dialogue: 0,0:22:12.52,0:22:13.69,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "I'm shy."
Dialogue: 0,0:22:14.18,0:22:16.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She said, "What're you shy for?"
Dialogue: 0,0:22:16.83,0:22:19.42,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said, "Well, everybody's\Ngoing to be looking at me,"
Dialogue: 0,0:22:19.42,0:22:21.26,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I'll never forget her face.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:21.26,0:22:25.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,She looked at me, she said, "Caroline,\Ndon't flatter yourself, darlin'.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:25.11,0:22:26.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Laughter)
Dialogue: 0,0:22:26.03,0:22:29.01,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You think anybody downstairs\Nis interested in you? They're not.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:29.01,0:22:31.53,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Your job's to go and make\Nthem happy, so go and sing."
Dialogue: 0,0:22:31.53,0:22:33.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I said "okay", and I picked up my guitar
Dialogue: 0,0:22:33.95,0:22:36.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and I picked up my\Nsisters, and you know what?
Dialogue: 0,0:22:36.23,0:22:38.94,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That advice has never left me.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:38.94,0:22:41.03,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But what it has left me with
Dialogue: 0,0:22:41.03,0:22:44.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is spectacular disregard\Nfor where my abilities end,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:44.95,0:22:48.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and spectacular disregard\Nfor being the center of attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:48.63,0:22:52.58,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,In fact, since that day, I have never\Nbeen the center of attention.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:52.58,0:22:54.79,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're the center of mine,
Dialogue: 0,0:22:54.79,0:22:56.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and that's a very different feeling.
Dialogue: 0,0:22:58.03,0:23:00.25,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So last, the last you,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:00.25,0:23:02.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the opposite of least,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:02.31,0:23:04.91,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,is the ever-present unchanging you.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:04.91,0:23:08.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,This is the you that you've been\Nsince you were seven,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:08.10,0:23:12.63,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the you that you'll be\Nwhen you're 107, please God.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:12.63,0:23:15.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,I spend a lot of time in India,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:15.31,0:23:18.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and in India you're raised\Nwith this feeling
Dialogue: 0,0:23:18.95,0:23:22.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that you're a spiritual being\Nwho happens to be in a physical body,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:22.64,0:23:25.80,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,whereas we in the West\Nare much more into our physical bodies,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:25.80,0:23:28.67,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and then if we get old enough\Nand long in the tooth enough,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:28.67,0:23:30.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,we kind of get interested in spirit.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:30.95,0:23:33.65,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,But, if you've ever been\Nto the Gandhi museum in Delhi
Dialogue: 0,0:23:33.65,0:23:36.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you'll know that this is\Nthe line that is above the door,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:36.35,0:23:39.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and it was actually a response by Gandhi
Dialogue: 0,0:23:39.44,0:23:41.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to a question from a journalist.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:41.10,0:23:42.56,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Gandhi was getting on a train
Dialogue: 0,0:23:42.56,0:23:44.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,and the journalist called after him,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:44.32,0:23:48.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"Gandhiji, Gandhiji, what's\Nyour message to the world?"
Dialogue: 0,0:23:48.11,0:23:50.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And Gandhi turned around and said,
Dialogue: 0,0:23:50.19,0:23:51.88,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,"My life.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:51.88,0:23:54.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,My life's my message."
Dialogue: 0,0:23:54.59,0:23:56.90,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And your life is your message, too.
Dialogue: 0,0:23:56.90,0:23:59.09,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It might not be as big\Na message as Gandhi's -
Dialogue: 0,0:23:59.09,0:24:00.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,mine certainly isn't -
Dialogue: 0,0:24:00.47,0:24:02.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but your life has to be your message.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:02.31,0:24:04.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Otherwise, why are you here?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:05.51,0:24:07.17,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It's not like you've got a spare.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:09.07,0:24:11.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So when you think about your identity,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:11.39,0:24:14.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you think about\Nwhat it means to be alive,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:14.00,0:24:17.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,when you think about\Nwhy you deserve to exist,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:17.95,0:24:22.36,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're not your thoughts,\Nbecause you think them.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:22.36,0:24:24.00,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,And you can't be your feelings,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:24.00,0:24:27.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because otherwise,\Nwho's the you that feels them?
Dialogue: 0,0:24:27.35,0:24:30.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You're not what you have;\Nyou're not what you do;
Dialogue: 0,0:24:30.87,0:24:33.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you're not even who you love,\Nor who loves you.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:33.87,0:24:36.64,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,There has to be something\Nunderneath all that.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:38.23,0:24:42.83,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,When you look at people\Nwho have managed to transcend
Dialogue: 0,0:24:42.83,0:24:45.78,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,all these judgments\Nthat we put upon them -
Dialogue: 0,0:24:45.78,0:24:50.71,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You know, this man here,\Nhe couldn't be judged as a man,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:50.71,0:24:53.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or a black man, or young, or old,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:53.59,0:24:55.23,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,or Democrat, or Republican,
Dialogue: 0,0:24:55.23,0:24:56.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,nor a gay, or a straight.
Dialogue: 0,0:24:56.44,0:24:58.75,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,It really, really wouldn't have mattered
Dialogue: 0,0:24:58.75,0:25:01.12,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,because he knew why he was here.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:02.10,0:25:03.24,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Yes, we can.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:04.19,0:25:06.32,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So you see, he seemed to be a verb.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:07.87,0:25:09.31,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Even when you're born
Dialogue: 0,0:25:09.31,0:25:13.44,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,without many of the attributes\Nthat some of your peers may have,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:13.44,0:25:15.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,even when you're born in a way
Dialogue: 0,0:25:15.51,0:25:17.38,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that may lead you to feel impotent,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:17.38,0:25:20.19,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you can tap into that voice,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:20.19,0:25:22.28,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,if you can tap into that inner voice
Dialogue: 0,0:25:22.28,0:25:24.16,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,that I've been talking about,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:24.16,0:25:26.14,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,you might just end up being,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:26.14,0:25:29.59,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,at 12 years old,\Nthe youngest person ever called
Dialogue: 0,0:25:29.59,0:25:33.18,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,to the National World Champion Swim Team.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:33.18,0:25:36.51,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You might even end up at the age of 13
Dialogue: 0,0:25:36.51,0:25:40.87,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being the youngest Olympian\Ngold medal winner, ever.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:40.87,0:25:42.47,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,You might even end up at 14
Dialogue: 0,0:25:42.47,0:25:45.11,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,being the youngest person\Never to get an MBE.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:45.11,0:25:49.39,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,That's what happens when you dial in\Nto the personal pronoun.
Dialogue: 0,0:25:49.39,0:25:50.98,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,So if you can do this,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:50.98,0:25:54.35,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not only will the speed\Nof your life get quicker,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:54.35,0:25:58.15,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,not only will the substance\Nof your life get richer,
Dialogue: 0,0:25:58.15,0:26:01.95,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,but you will never feel superfluous again.
Dialogue: 0,0:26:01.95,0:26:05.10,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,(Applause)
Dialogue: 0,0:26:09.86,0:26:12.57,Default,,0000,0000,0000,,Thank you.