0:00:00.000,0:00:04.000 Bell 0:00:04.396,0:00:12.235 Dear community, we are August [br]the 10th in the year 2023, 0:00:12.238,0:00:19.823 and we are celebrating, savoring[br]the last day of our Wake Up retreat, 0:00:19.823,0:00:24.003 "Love in Action", here [br]in the Upper Hamlet, 0:00:24.012,0:00:28.513 in the Still Water meditation hall. 0:00:32.734,0:00:36.734 I'm having an interesting [br]moment sitting here. 0:00:39.943,0:00:46.851 When we first started creating[br]youth retreats, about 15 years ago, 0:00:46.851,0:00:51.750 it was a real challenge to try and[br]find enough young people 0:00:51.765,0:00:54.545 to have a retreat. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And first there was forty, then[br]the next year there was like 65, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and then I remember [br]the year we hit 100, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and we were so excited that[br]we had 100 registrations! 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And we went to report to Thay.[br]This must have been around 2010. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Thay, there's a hundred [br]young people in Europe 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that want to learn about mindfulness. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Can you believe it ? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And he was like - well done! 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And then, we started to [br]create the Wake Up movement. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I said (to Thay) it's a little [br]bit overwhelming! 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And he said, and his eyes lit up with sparkles, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 he's like "excellent, it should feel overwhelming!" 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and then I'm sitting here and I[br]don't know how many hundreds 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 of you there are, but it feels little overwhelming[br]so I guess Thay's smiling with 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 a sparkle in his eyes, and be careful what[br]you wish for, because it may come true. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I hope that's going to make it easier,[br]but hey, I think speaking in front of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 spiritual friends 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 is both challenging and wonderful,[br]because on the one hand 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I feel I want to share my heart[br]with you all, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and on the other, of course, I have the[br]same feeling that we all do. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 of whether I can be enough[br]in this moment. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But I will share from my, my joy[br]my experience and my practice 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and that is my best, so,[br]we will see. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 We had some little flowers here[br]thank you, thank you. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Emotional support flowers,[br]we also have an emotional 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 support cello, that we might, that I might[br]need to call on. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was 21 when I first came [br]to Plum Village 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and I was one of the people[br]who as soon as there was 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 a chance to receive the five[br]mindfulness trainings, I 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 wanted to do it. And I was[br]here for three weeks that summer 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and I was also one of the people[br]who was like I am going to wait 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 until the last week. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So I know some of us have[br]been here through the summer 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and have received the five[br]mindfulness trainings 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 this morning, and some of us[br]are here for the first time 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and we also made that commitment 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and I have to say, [br]getting on the train in Saint-Foy, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 with the five mindfulness trainings, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 kinda in my pockets, in my back pack 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 My life was different. It just was! 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I felt that I had a path. I felt that [br]I knew what was important to me. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I felt that what the experience was that[br]I can't fall that far anymore. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It felt like the mindfulness trainings[br]were a safety net or something. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Like, I'm held in their embrace[br]that has been my experience. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And although I was sharing[br]with my dharma discussion family 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like the path of the five mindfulness[br]trainings is not exactly 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like a straight highway, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 its more like this, and thats[br]definitely been my experience. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 That it has been an adventure,[br]an experiment, a work in progress 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 a challenge and also a training,[br]like really a training. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And as many of us know whatever[br]kind of training we do, we learn 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 by making mistakes. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And by trying things out, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and by realizing ... oops, [br]that was not in alignment or 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I have strayed far off my path[br]at this point 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But it was wonderful and [br]has been wonderful to[br]feel that they are part of my life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and I don't know if your facilitators[br]shared with you 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 but the dharma name we get[br]with our five mindfulness trainings 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 is the dharma name for your life. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So even if you become monastics[br]your monastic name is not as important 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 as your five mindfulness trainings name. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 because we are kind of born into our[br]spiritual path with this practice 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and with this training. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And so this morning, definitely[br]more than a hundred of us, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 maybe more than a hundred and fifty[br]possibly closer to two hundred of us 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 across the different hamlets. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 made apassionate, wholehearted[br]commitment to take the insight 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and practises of the five mindfulness[br]trainings 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 into our lives 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and so when we get on the train [br]tomorrow, car or however we'r getting 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 home. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 these mindfulness trainings[br]will be with 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and even if we didn't make a formal[br]commitment to receive them 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 please take the piece of paper[br]with you. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 They can penetrate our life[br]because in a way they 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 encapsulate everything we[br]have been experiencing 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 together in this retreat. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 these trainings are, I guess, the [br]kind of Plum Village blueprint for 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 changing the world. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 They are nothing less than [br]our full vision for the kind of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 loving action that can transform[br]society and the future. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Someone asked me in the[br]earth retreat earlier in this year 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I find the Plum Village teachings[br]on the earth and climate so 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 fascinating, but do you have[br]some kind of manifesto? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 or something. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I said yeh - we have the[br]five mindfulness trainings. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And the person was like, no I[br]didn't meet that. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I was like, oh I mean that. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Because they are applied, they live[br]they are kind of mult-dimensional. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Each one of them is about bringing[br]the energy of awakening and love 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 directly into the heart of our daily [br]lives, our relationship and our society. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And so, as we take the practice[br]home, maybe you go home and 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 somebody comes up to you and[br]says, how was your retreat? 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And you say ... brilliant, great[br]wonderful. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I'm going to practice meditation[br]every day. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And we may have a tendency to[br]think that 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the most easily applicable thing[br]we can take from this retreat 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 is ten minutes sitting every day. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And we may think, that's going to[br]be my aspiration, my intention 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 my volition, I'm going to put [br]it all into that. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and that is good, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 but I feel we can be more ambitious[br]then that, and I say that because 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 if we only do 10 minutes of sitting[br]meditation a day, and then the 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 rest of our life is the same, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the transformation will not be very radical. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But what we can see in each one of[br]these amazingly challenging 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and inspiring trainings in the[br]five mindfulness trainings is 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that they're about far more [br]than sitting meditation. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 In fact, as a relatively active person, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 when I left Plum Village I, found[br]it really hard to do sitting meditation 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I think it was very rare that I made time. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 was able to make time to do sitting[br]meditation in my daily life. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But, my life was utterly transformed. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 by the five mindfulness trainings. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 One thing I learned, I used to[br]sit on public transport and 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 be present for the people[br]around me, and present for 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 my feelings. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And honestly, I think I got[br]more kind of shift in my 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 perspective and way of living[br]in the way I sat on buses in 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 central london then I would[br]have done by sitting on my cushion. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 because I lived like many of us [br]a very 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 active and hyperstimulated life. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was juggling a job in journalism and[br]a masters degree. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Like too much input, so if [br]I sat on a cushion all I 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 heard or saw was just all[br]the inputs 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 but when I was in relation [br]with the world, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 following my breathing and[br]being in contact with my body 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 it's like I opened up a whole[br]new way of experiencing life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and that was really transformative[br]for me. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So as we think about what we[br]might want to take away from 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 this retreat, i'm gonna sort of[br]reflect back to some of the 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 things that we've been experiencing 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and we can see for ourselves[br]which of these elements 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 do I want to incorporate in [br]my daily life. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 One of the things, perhaps[br]the most important thing 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 we've been doing on this[br]retreat is resting. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 relaxing 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and spending time in silence 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 both with people but[br]also with nature 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and so we may ask ourselves 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in my daily life, am I making[br]time to rest 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So resting without screens 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 resting wihtout maybe headphones 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 am I able to rest and listen to [br]my body 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and how might we incorporate[br]a practice of resting in our daily lifes 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So those of us that work from home[br]we have a great chance to do relaxation 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 after lunch. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Because no one can see you. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So, you can find the Plum Village App[br]or your favorite relaxation teachers 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and you can listen to a relaxation 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and make it a part of your working day. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 We can make a commitment to [br]ourselves, a promise to ourselves 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to spend more time in our [br]nearest park, or to use 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 our days off from study or[br]work to actively go out into 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 nature. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And we can also , like, learning from this experience of being 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 with people, in nature, is great. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 How can we invite our friends [br]and organize to have more time 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in nature together. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 That is actively cultivating[br]ourselves, our body and mind 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 our awakening and also our resistance. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 What I mostly want to talk to you today 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 about is, spiritual resistance. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 How the choices we make about[br]how we live our life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 are fundamental, deep form, or resistance. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to collective consciousness and to society. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So choosing to rest in our super busy[br]world is a form of resistance 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 we don't need to consume, we don't [br]need to do, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 we're gonna be in the way[br]that is the future we would 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like to see. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 more simple, more connected[br]and more whole in ourselves, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 not relying on external things. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 like consuming and doing to be happy. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Another thing we've been doing on[br]this retreat has been stopping 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and looking deeply. We have [br]had a chance to step back 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 from our life, to step outside 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the constant 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 pressures that we are under 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to kind of take stock to reflect alittle bit and to listen 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and so the question about how we[br]could take this kind of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 stopping back with us could be 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 is there a practice that you [br]can take in your life where 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 every day has at least [br]one moment of stopping in it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So when I went back from[br]Plum Village, the something 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that I chose was drinking a[br]glass of water from the water 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 cooler at work 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And my work was in a newsroom 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so it was a very overstimulated[br]environment, but I wanted to 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 keep this connection to Plum[br]Village into my spiritual life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and the spiritual dimension of[br]my being because being in a 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was in the politics department[br]of the newsroom 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so its probably like the [br]least, a very no spiritual place. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 But I was determined, I was[br]there for ethical reasons because 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that ethical news was possible 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 thats another story. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So I chose that the moment [br]that I drank water was the moment 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 when I would be deeply into[br]touch with my spiritual life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and I recited the poem that[br]we have here in plum village 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 for drinking water, many of us 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 know this poem, but if we are[br]here for the first time 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 you might have just seen it[br]near a water tap somewhere 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and this poem goes like this 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Now, with the collective [br]consciousness I don't have 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the first word. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Water, thank you. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 My brain is a social brain. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Water comes from high[br]mountain sources, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 water runs deep in the earth 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 miracously water comes to us[br]and sustains all life. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 My gratitude is filled[br]to the brim. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was working in the newsroom[br]in Spring 2003 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was a peace activist and it[br]was at the outbreak of the Iraq war 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And every time I went to the[br]water cooler, I recited this poem. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 There were screens all around me[br]that had a live screen from the war 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 zone. And this was my act of [br]resistance. This was my resolve 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 my heart alive, to keep my hear[br]open and to stay in touch with 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the beauty and wonder of life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so that I could see clearly the destruction[br]and injustice of war. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It is very interesting to practice[br]mindfulness in the workplac 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so I invite you to try it out. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 You could choose drinking water,[br]you could choose maybe if you go 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to a place of work or study, you[br]could choose some part of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the distance when you are transitioning[br]from your home life 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to go into work, you can take [br]200 meteres, and you can say 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to yourself, I will walk as a[br]free person, as my whole 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 self including my spiritual [br]aspect from this lamppost 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to that pedestrian crossing[br]and you make a resolve, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I will do this. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So this was another thing I did. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Across the center of London 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I had my anti-war umbrella.In[br]London it always rains 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 except recently but that's [br]a different story. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Sorry. No diversion. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I had my peace umbrella, in London[br]everywhere, everyone about 15 years 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 ago still wore black in the city[br]and had black umbrellas, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so my umbrellas was white and[br]it had the words peace that I 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 had stencilled on to it. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I got lots of reactions as[br]I would walk through the city 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 on my way to the newsroom, [br]but that was my almost resistance. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And when I can to a certain place[br]near a cathedral, I chose a stretch 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that was quite nice, right in the[br]heart of the city and I said 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I will walk as a free person, free[br]from my anger about the war 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 free from my fear about the days[br]work ahead, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 free from the fights, I will walk[br]as a free human being on this 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 beautiful planet earth and I [br]did this for 200 meters 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and these were delicious 200[br]meters, and now whenever I 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 think of London, my heart goes[br]right back to this particular stretch 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and whenever I have a chance to [br]go there, I like to revisit 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 my corner of these few hundred[br]yards, that become like a 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 deep refuge for me[br]because when we make 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 a commitment to do that[br]what's amazing is 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 our whole body remembers[br]the feeling, our whole 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 body remembers, I feel[br]peaceful and free here 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 so even if my mind is[br]really stressed, about 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 what was happening or [br]about what I need to do 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that step up onto the pavement[br]those two steps through this 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 gate, the step to the right[br]with the two trees, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 all the signals where, you[br]are peaceful, you are fee 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 you are a free person. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 So this is another way that[br]we can take the practice 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 home, that we can, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 take something as simple[br]as walking to be an act of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 resistence and an act of[br]freedom right in the heart 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 of our daily life. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I was walking in the rush hour[br]the people were often 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 overtaking me, because[br]I had a certain pace. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 It wasn't as slow as slow walking[br]but there was a certain pace 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 that I found could taste free[br]to me. And everyone was like 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 overtaking me. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And literally, each step[br]felt like an act of resistance. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I don't agree with the direction[br]that my society is going in and 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I will express my resistance with[br]my body, with each step. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And I reclaimed my freedom. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 from this rat race, from this[br]collective consciousness. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Another thing we have learned[br]to do on this retreat is to be 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 present with discomfort, with[br]discomfort in the body, discomfort 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in our feelings, discomfort in[br]the mind, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I think these things are changing[br]now but at least this was not 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 something that I had a chance [br]to learn at school, it was only 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 something I had a chance to [br]learn at age 21 when I came 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 to Plum Village. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Many of you 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 have a lot of emotional maturity[br]I feel that I'm the kind of 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 I'm a millenial and I[br]know that many of us here 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 are Gen Z so we're possibly [br]slightly different generations 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 but it's wonderful to see that the[br]emotional intelligence is there 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 in the young generation, that we[br]are finding ways to understand 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 the landscape of our emotions. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 And we hope that over the last[br]few days, we've learned some 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 really tangible, felt ways that [br]we can be with a painful feeling 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 when it comes up. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 We've been learning how to[br]name it, or even beyond naming 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 how to feel it, in the body, 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 how it might effect our breathing. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Our breathing become more tense,[br]or shorter or more jagged. 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 Our jaw become tighter, and [br]we've been learning how to encounter 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 and accompanyy and embrace[br]unconditionally, challenging and 9:59:59.000,9:59:59.000 uncomfortable feelings.